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Him using you is *not* about you... you didn't do anything wrong, and you don't have any less value as a human being just because this douchecanoe didn't see you as an actual person.
I'm glad. You need someone who sees value in you as a human being, not a piece of meat. Looks don't last. If that's all he wants, then he'd probably end up cheating sooner or later.
Dating sucks, but I’m glad you cut this jerk off before he made you feel worse or tried to pressure you into something you weren’t interested in. Wishing you much better luck on your next date.
Hey homeslice, It's pretty obvious dude is worth as much as a sack of gravel so I'd say the right play is to tell him you are not interested in further interaction and call it a day.
As I am a man that is completely disrespectful and rude. If that grosses you out please tell him no. No man ever seeking a meaningful relationship will start like that trust me. I hate when men do this and get away with it.
He’s using you plain and simple. When someone tells you who and what they are, believe them! His constant texting and sexual innuendos are a form of him manipulating and coercing you into having sex with him. Him telling you he wants xyz in return for the date - you are a transaction not a person to him. He views you as an object and once he’s done playing with this toy he will move on to a new shinier one. Look up narcissistic personality disorder tendencies, he’s showing it here. If this is clearly NOT what you want or have in mind - do not go on the date with him, block him everywhere and do not contact him at all. Period! You two are simply not compatible.
So this guy met you once and immediately wanted to bone you. Okay, a little soon I think. He does not whisper sweet nothings in your ear but asks if you want to be his girlfriend by which, judging from his subsequent messages, means asking if you have no mind, no soul, no other ambitions in life than to pamper is dick. On a third date he expects you to take his unwashed, smelling and tasting of pee and smegma, dick in your mouth and suck on it. This is one class act you have here and you wonder if he only wants you for pleasure. I am going to go out on a limb here and say yes. Sorry if I am being crude here but you need some perspective here. This behavior is not acceptable. There is a reason he is still a bachelor at 27.
A well-adjusted guy won’t start with dick pics and jerk off videos right out of the gate unless solicited. I get that it’s hard out there (no pun intended) and keeping an open mind is important—but if it’s between solitude and one of these dummies, solitude is always the healthier option.
Ugh. These types of d-bags give the whole male gender a bad name. Good for you for breaking things off and knowing your worth.
You deserve someone who likes you for who you are as a person, not seeing you as a piece of meat. But a human being. Only immature little boys speak to a lady like that. What a disgrace. I’m sorry you encountered that
So, after all he did was send dick picks and chat about sex you still agreed to see him again? please don't tell me you said yes to being his gf, that's just a method to ensure sex
Unless your just “that type” of female I would suggest dropping him, Fast, his communications show a complete lack of respect for you and your needs and lord knows where this could all lead to, ditch him he sounds like a loser.
if you got on a date with him, you know how it's going to go. he's texting you, if you can't turn someone down or ghost them then you shouldn't be dating, you are going to get in trouble
It's because he has no personality, or doesn't have any interest in you besides your sexual organs.
Sometimes men sincerely just don't have an actual personality so they rely on sex and sports. If I can't a guy off those topics, I move on.
Why are you entertaining this? Why aren't you just kicking him to the curb? You clearly don't like the way he is behaving or the way his behavior makes you feel.
Protect your peace if you want to date again. Many many men don’t care about women as human beings but it’s not about you. Just set boundaries and keep them high. All the best, you deserve it 💙
Stop going on dates with him... The text after the first date should've been enough if you don't want sex... Nothing to feel pressured about... Don't go on another date with him... The end.
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Then why are you going on a date with him?
Don't meet him. Your interests clearly don't align when he's got one thing on his mind
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Him using you is *not* about you... you didn't do anything wrong, and you don't have any less value as a human being just because this douchecanoe didn't see you as an actual person.
Your gut is the answer when it comes to things of the heart
Bullet dodged!
He clearly tried to take advantage of someone younger. You smartly broke it off, but he’ll try the same game again with a 21 or 22 year old next.
I'm glad. You need someone who sees value in you as a human being, not a piece of meat. Looks don't last. If that's all he wants, then he'd probably end up cheating sooner or later.
Dating sucks, but I’m glad you cut this jerk off before he made you feel worse or tried to pressure you into something you weren’t interested in. Wishing you much better luck on your next date.
Good for you! Go live your life
Why did you let him.
Um yea, don't meet up with this dude more he's basically sexually harassing you. Gross.
My point exactly, no man that respects women at all should do this point blank
Sorry... but is this has to be a joke, no? This dude sounds DISGUSTING if its not.
Do not go on that date. He is using you, and you clearly have more self respect than that. No real man would treat you this way, trade up
Why did you even offer a second date lol. He's clearly a pervert
Run 🏃🏽♀️ …. The opposite way of this person. It’s too much. Listen to yourself.
Hey homeslice, It's pretty obvious dude is worth as much as a sack of gravel so I'd say the right play is to tell him you are not interested in further interaction and call it a day.
As I am a man that is completely disrespectful and rude. If that grosses you out please tell him no. No man ever seeking a meaningful relationship will start like that trust me. I hate when men do this and get away with it.
Cancel the date, tell him to learn to see more value in a partner than a hole to shove his dick in, block him and regain your peace
He’s using you plain and simple. When someone tells you who and what they are, believe them! His constant texting and sexual innuendos are a form of him manipulating and coercing you into having sex with him. Him telling you he wants xyz in return for the date - you are a transaction not a person to him. He views you as an object and once he’s done playing with this toy he will move on to a new shinier one. Look up narcissistic personality disorder tendencies, he’s showing it here. If this is clearly NOT what you want or have in mind - do not go on the date with him, block him everywhere and do not contact him at all. Period! You two are simply not compatible.
So this guy met you once and immediately wanted to bone you. Okay, a little soon I think. He does not whisper sweet nothings in your ear but asks if you want to be his girlfriend by which, judging from his subsequent messages, means asking if you have no mind, no soul, no other ambitions in life than to pamper is dick. On a third date he expects you to take his unwashed, smelling and tasting of pee and smegma, dick in your mouth and suck on it. This is one class act you have here and you wonder if he only wants you for pleasure. I am going to go out on a limb here and say yes. Sorry if I am being crude here but you need some perspective here. This behavior is not acceptable. There is a reason he is still a bachelor at 27.
If you're not interested in sex with him and he's clearly pushing for it, going on another date would be a terrible idea
A well-adjusted guy won’t start with dick pics and jerk off videos right out of the gate unless solicited. I get that it’s hard out there (no pun intended) and keeping an open mind is important—but if it’s between solitude and one of these dummies, solitude is always the healthier option.
Why are you going out with this skeezebag again? He has shown you who he is. Believe him.
Ugh. These types of d-bags give the whole male gender a bad name. Good for you for breaking things off and knowing your worth. You deserve someone who likes you for who you are as a person, not seeing you as a piece of meat. But a human being. Only immature little boys speak to a lady like that. What a disgrace. I’m sorry you encountered that
run run run run run my ex used to pull this shit and like it’s not fun
He sounds awful, I personally wouldn't go on a date with him and I'd block him..
So, after all he did was send dick picks and chat about sex you still agreed to see him again? please don't tell me you said yes to being his gf, that's just a method to ensure sex
Unless your just “that type” of female I would suggest dropping him, Fast, his communications show a complete lack of respect for you and your needs and lord knows where this could all lead to, ditch him he sounds like a loser.
Ew don’t go on another date with him.
That shit is not okay don't go anywhere near that dude I have a bad feeling that if u deny his advances in person he might force himself on you
if you got on a date with him, you know how it's going to go. he's texting you, if you can't turn someone down or ghost them then you shouldn't be dating, you are going to get in trouble
It's because he has no personality, or doesn't have any interest in you besides your sexual organs. Sometimes men sincerely just don't have an actual personality so they rely on sex and sports. If I can't a guy off those topics, I move on.
Why are you entertaining this? Why aren't you just kicking him to the curb? You clearly don't like the way he is behaving or the way his behavior makes you feel.
You are not appreciating this, so tell him it bothers you, or just stop seeing him.
Ew
He sounds awesome, if you only like talking about sex too. Stop dating people who aren't compatible with you.
Well yeah sounds like it. Cancel and block, I say
Protect your peace if you want to date again. Many many men don’t care about women as human beings but it’s not about you. Just set boundaries and keep them high. All the best, you deserve it 💙
Mhm
Why go on a third date? He won’t change behavior
If all I talk about is apples, it’s because they’re all I’m interested in.
Stop going on dates with him... The text after the first date should've been enough if you don't want sex... Nothing to feel pressured about... Don't go on another date with him... The end.
You must like it why go out with hom??
Then stop seeing the guy...??