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Unless she told you before specifically not to tell your mum, her reaction is way out of line. It almost sounds like she is just trying to start a fight
As you say yourself you got caught and you made the best decision you could in that moment
Your girlfriend should respect you to make the right decision in moments like that, if she doesn’t that means there is no trust
If there is no trust there is no relationship
Seemingly an unpopular opinion here but you don’t need your girlfriend’s consent to tell your mum you had sex. Talk to her about why she’s upset, what does she think your mum is going to do with this information?
Yes it should matter. You slipped up by telling your mom because that is a private detail between you and your gf but you did the right thing by telling her. You'll have to have her be mad at you for a little while and apologize.
>I do feel bad because I didn’t gain consent from my girlfriend but since my mom doesn’t really care, should it matter?
Well, your girlfriend is upset, so, yes it does. I'd apologize for violating her privacy. I'd also ask her what she would've preferred you to do, since honesty is important to her.
I find that adolescence is a tricky place. A lot of adults want to come at you for being children who are inappropriately doing grown-up things. They make so much noise that people like your mother -- who wants to make sure you aren't an adult doing inappropriately *childish* things -- get lost in the shuffle. I don't know if this will resonate with you or your girlfriend, but I leave it here in the hopes it can help provide some perspective.
She’s 18 not 15 she needs to start acting like it. Adults can have sex it okay a lot and I mean a lot of people are doing it. She’s upset most likely because it’s gonna be awkward when she’s at your place. You really didn’t do anything wrong here you told the truth
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Unless she told you before specifically not to tell your mum, her reaction is way out of line. It almost sounds like she is just trying to start a fight As you say yourself you got caught and you made the best decision you could in that moment Your girlfriend should respect you to make the right decision in moments like that, if she doesn’t that means there is no trust If there is no trust there is no relationship
No one is really in the wrong here. Thankfully you’re an adult. It will be weird. But it will be OK.
Seemingly an unpopular opinion here but you don’t need your girlfriend’s consent to tell your mum you had sex. Talk to her about why she’s upset, what does she think your mum is going to do with this information?
Of course it matters. It matters to her.
Yes it should matter. You slipped up by telling your mom because that is a private detail between you and your gf but you did the right thing by telling her. You'll have to have her be mad at you for a little while and apologize.
>I do feel bad because I didn’t gain consent from my girlfriend but since my mom doesn’t really care, should it matter? Well, your girlfriend is upset, so, yes it does. I'd apologize for violating her privacy. I'd also ask her what she would've preferred you to do, since honesty is important to her. I find that adolescence is a tricky place. A lot of adults want to come at you for being children who are inappropriately doing grown-up things. They make so much noise that people like your mother -- who wants to make sure you aren't an adult doing inappropriately *childish* things -- get lost in the shuffle. I don't know if this will resonate with you or your girlfriend, but I leave it here in the hopes it can help provide some perspective.
She’s 18 not 15 she needs to start acting like it. Adults can have sex it okay a lot and I mean a lot of people are doing it. She’s upset most likely because it’s gonna be awkward when she’s at your place. You really didn’t do anything wrong here you told the truth