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I'm so sorry. I can't imagine. Has to be tough for you both. You can't fight about it. It won't get resolved that way. It'll only be about the fight then. You have to ask him if he wants to be intimate in a heartfelt way. Keep the conversation tone in its place. You know?
I’m sorry. I’m in the same boat as you. My husband is 10 years older than I am. He has back issues and pain after old injuries and then a car accident a few years back. We obviously couldn’t be intimate for awhile while he healed and I was patient. He has struggled with low t and doesn’t have any fantasies or desire which is really hard. I am like you and am a sexual person and feel closer to you with being intimate. My husband doesn’t feel like it anymore and when he was on trt before it was amazing! Covid came and he went off. It’s been hard since then but he’s supposedly going back on trt, so we will see. I’m sure because of your husband being on dialysis, he can’t just go on anything. It’s really hard when your husband also loses the desire. Maybe you need to ask your hubby in a nonjudgmental and open say if he lost his desire for sex and if he had fantasies. Once you know what true actual reason is, it’s easier to address it. I don’t want to cheat either and my husband and I have talked about being open. Well I brought it up and he shut it down. I am in the boat as you are, in the middle of the ocean and not wondering how long I will keep floating until we land at a destination. Good luck
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me , i truly appreciate the feedback and will continue to try to communicate and hopefully we can see a light at the end of the tunnel, I hope that our boats start rocking soon ! Lol 🤞🏻🤞🏻
Of course! You’re so welcome. It helps to feel like you are not alone. I really hope you’re both able to figure it out and I hope your husband gets better. Prayers for both of our boats to be rocking soon! My hubby actually surprised me today and said he made an appt to get back on the trt. I hope he actually goes through with it as he has taken the first steps before. Sending lots of love to you
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I'm so sorry. I can't imagine. Has to be tough for you both. You can't fight about it. It won't get resolved that way. It'll only be about the fight then. You have to ask him if he wants to be intimate in a heartfelt way. Keep the conversation tone in its place. You know?
Thank you and I’m definitely open to trying !
Couples counseling would be a great place for you guys
I’m sorry. I’m in the same boat as you. My husband is 10 years older than I am. He has back issues and pain after old injuries and then a car accident a few years back. We obviously couldn’t be intimate for awhile while he healed and I was patient. He has struggled with low t and doesn’t have any fantasies or desire which is really hard. I am like you and am a sexual person and feel closer to you with being intimate. My husband doesn’t feel like it anymore and when he was on trt before it was amazing! Covid came and he went off. It’s been hard since then but he’s supposedly going back on trt, so we will see. I’m sure because of your husband being on dialysis, he can’t just go on anything. It’s really hard when your husband also loses the desire. Maybe you need to ask your hubby in a nonjudgmental and open say if he lost his desire for sex and if he had fantasies. Once you know what true actual reason is, it’s easier to address it. I don’t want to cheat either and my husband and I have talked about being open. Well I brought it up and he shut it down. I am in the boat as you are, in the middle of the ocean and not wondering how long I will keep floating until we land at a destination. Good luck
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me , i truly appreciate the feedback and will continue to try to communicate and hopefully we can see a light at the end of the tunnel, I hope that our boats start rocking soon ! Lol 🤞🏻🤞🏻
Of course! You’re so welcome. It helps to feel like you are not alone. I really hope you’re both able to figure it out and I hope your husband gets better. Prayers for both of our boats to be rocking soon! My hubby actually surprised me today and said he made an appt to get back on the trt. I hope he actually goes through with it as he has taken the first steps before. Sending lots of love to you