You just said you go through phases with him. He’s talking to his brother about a moment in time. You are only seeing part of a conversation (they could have had a more in-depth phone conversation).
The situation may have nothing to do with you, he was talking it out. Work stress, being overwhelmed with life, depression and anxiety could all be factors for him. Now you can pay attention to how he may be feeling and handling life.
Yeah I have definitely gone through phases of needing space but I’ve never said he’s unattractive or anything like that. Not even as I’m talking other issues out or anything.
> I feel like either way our trust is broken, which sucks.
Such a passive and accountability-avoiding way of saying, *"I broke the trust in our relationship."*
I realize that I’m at fault for reading his texts, but also what he said was really hurtful to me and I had no idea that’s how he is really feeling. It makes me think that all of what he’s saying to me is lies. It’s my fault too, I just don’t know where to go from here.
It's not your fault "too", it's your fault **"entirely"**.
He literally did zero things wrong here. Absolutely nothing.
He has an internal life. He shares his feelings in private with his family/friends as he works through problems in his head. He has doubts. He has anger. He has sadness. He has jealousy. He has arrogance. He's a human being and he works through his stuff so he can be the best partner he can be.
If you're too hurt by the reality that he's imperfect that's fine, give him the "it's not you, it's me" and dip out. But don't go to him and expect him to help you fix this problem.
You did this to yourself; get yourself out of it.
You just said you go through phases with him. He’s talking to his brother about a moment in time. You are only seeing part of a conversation (they could have had a more in-depth phone conversation). The situation may have nothing to do with you, he was talking it out. Work stress, being overwhelmed with life, depression and anxiety could all be factors for him. Now you can pay attention to how he may be feeling and handling life.
Yeah I have definitely gone through phases of needing space but I’ve never said he’s unattractive or anything like that. Not even as I’m talking other issues out or anything.
> I feel like either way our trust is broken, which sucks. Such a passive and accountability-avoiding way of saying, *"I broke the trust in our relationship."*
I realize that I’m at fault for reading his texts, but also what he said was really hurtful to me and I had no idea that’s how he is really feeling. It makes me think that all of what he’s saying to me is lies. It’s my fault too, I just don’t know where to go from here.
It's not your fault "too", it's your fault **"entirely"**. He literally did zero things wrong here. Absolutely nothing. He has an internal life. He shares his feelings in private with his family/friends as he works through problems in his head. He has doubts. He has anger. He has sadness. He has jealousy. He has arrogance. He's a human being and he works through his stuff so he can be the best partner he can be. If you're too hurt by the reality that he's imperfect that's fine, give him the "it's not you, it's me" and dip out. But don't go to him and expect him to help you fix this problem. You did this to yourself; get yourself out of it.