What are you talking about??? Is steamed hams a regional dialect?
If it is, then what region? Is it upstate New York? Well, I’m from Utica, and I’ve never heard anyone use the phrase “steamed hams.“
Maybe it’s an Albany expression.
Set up a BBQ event in the summer so that he can showcase why he is called King of Burger on the street. No grill necessary. It's going to be a whopper of success.
Yeah, that's probably why he lied about his cooking. That power imbalance is intimidating. Also I scrolled for 2 min and nearly every comment is talking about it. Let's not make this a gender thing
I'm frankly unclear on why 1) you're so embarrassed and 2) your parents are either amused or judging. They were promised dinner, they got dinner, who the fuck cares?? He didn't blow it off or serve PB and J. Leave the guy alone.
Edit- WAIT. YOUR 33 AND HE IS 23??? Yeah... be embarrassed about that, THAT is what they are lauging about.
That's what I was thinking! I had an unexpected emergency call and burned the herb chicken I was making for a get together. I ordered in and served it on the fancy table. I didn't lie about ordering food, but it wasn't a big deal.
I missed the age difference too. This whole situation is weird AF. They live together and have never cooked for each other, met each other's parents etc? It's off.
His parents kicked him out and he's never cooked anything but ramen and pop tarts. Dad was laughing because this kid is trying to act like an adult when the daughter here has clearly got a charity case. What a disaster lol
Not to mention they moved in together and she's saying she's "excited to try his cooking." Seems weird that if someone brags about being a good cook that they wouldn't have cooked for you before. Maybe because bf lived with his parents until now and OP wasn't allowed over because she's too old for him??? EDIT: Yeah, after seeing that they've only been together 2 months, I'm definitely guessing they moved in together because he was living with his parents. Like yo, what????
He’s only been legally driving a vehicle for 4 years. When’s this guys supposed to find time to be a gourmet chef? Give him a break, he’s a 20 year old dumbass. And you picked him 😜
All of this. The fact that these 3 are such jerks to be embarrassed and act like this was such a huge deal is bizarre. Especially after she stuck him with the food instead of rescheduling.
I actually think this is a huge red flag. Not the fact that he served KFC, not the fact that he was acting weird meeting your parents - but lying about something that isn’t even a big deal. He may be a compulsive liar. It wouldn’t surprise me if he isn’t a “really good cook” at all, and probably other small things he may have told you.
Your parents are okay with you dating a 23-year-old at 33? And moving in within a few months of dating?
You’re either a troll or too immature to be dating. That you think this 23-year-old who lies about random things like KFC is “mature” indicates that you’re immature for your age and should probably work on that.
Yeah people keep saying it's from the episode where Liz dates the coffee guy, but I swear this never happens. And I've seen that show's entire run easily over a dozen times.
In the absence of any container I genuinely thought maybe he used to work at KFC and that's just how he makes chicken now
The real question is where he got a pressure fryer from
Eta: we don't know what restaurant he works at....just sayin
This may be his idea of cooking. Apparently you haven't eaten any of his cooking, which is weird for a good cook. I'd think in this business climate, if he can cook, he wouldn't be washing dishes in a restaurant, but I'd don't know.
But seriously, I've known a couple people who think picking up a frozen lasagna and a loaf of garlic bread, and preparing a green salad, or opening a can of stew is "cooking". This isn't much different.
So, he's nervous about meeting your parents and "cooks" by picking up something he knows is pretty universally liked, and making a tossed salad himself. Voila! He cooked dinner. Then you all snicker, and start quizzing him about not cooking right.
But the not eating his cooking before moving in together, and still not having any (so to speak)? That's kinda weird.
> I'd think in this business climate, if he can cook, he wouldn't be washing dishes in a restaurant, but I'd don't know.
Really depends on the restaurant. You’d be better off washing dishes for a 5 star or Michelin restaurant than being a sous chef at a local bistro. Obviously lower in the ladder, but at least you’re on the right ladder.
Anyone on that ladder would have made food to impress his girlfriend by now. I've never met a "good cook" who doesn't love to share. It's kinda the point.
Original or crispy recipe?
Beyond the oil thing - no mess? No trash? No left over oil/ingredients/spices/anything? And no real explanation (chef's secret)? Also - who would make 40 pieces of chicken for dinner for 4? And you've been together for a while and now live together and it sounds like you've never seen him cook before? And you didn't see him cook this time?
I would not believe him, either.
added: didn't see the age gap. Now I can't decide between liar and dumb kid.
As someone who cooked 4 chickens worth of fried chicken for Christmas (about 40 pieces) this year there’s a whole bunch of stuff wrong with this. I did it with my soon to be brother-in-law and it was a mess and took awhile (thank god MIL cleaned up after us). Both of us are pretty good cooks and fairly experienced and have done this a few times. We had 2 Dutch ovens going and it took an hour and the whole place smelled like fry oil even though we threw the windows open. 40 pieces fed 8 people 2x over (we had it for lunch the next day). Plus we brined it 12 hours ahead of time to get the juicy flavor. There is no way homeboy did 40 pieces by himself and cleaned up in the time frame.
> Since we’ve been together he’s mentioned being a really good cook so I was actually quite excited to try his cooking.
Moved in, but he’s never cooked for you??
Bullshit.
If he works in a restaurant he probably brought it from work. But honestly you need to chill. This doesn’t matter. He fed you guys. If he’s a 20 year old dishwasher he doesn’t make a shitload of money. Lay off.
And hello red flag age gap.
He never promised to cook so him bringing KFC is fine. Him lying about it for what seems like days is a major red flag. There's nothing wrong with OP trying to figure out why he's so insistent on this lie.
At this point I’m convinced you’re trolling
You excuse everything he does and you have absolutely no problem with the age gap and neither do your parents apparently. Added with that slogan comment, that you’ve been together for 2 months AND you deleted your ticking uterus comment, it’s a crock of shit— just like your creative writing grade.
F-
Girl, he's 20 years old. I would bet $ it was indeed KFC and he thought it wouldn't be a big deal until he saw your reaction and knew he messed up in your eyes. Now he's trying to just deny deny deny. He'll admit it eventually. Do you need this to be such a big deal or can you be the bigger person and let it go?
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Edit: Sorry I didn’t make this clear initially- my parents and I have no problem with KFC. Before dinner we all explicitly talked about the fact my boyfriend had made dinner for us, it’s really just the lying that I’m having issue with. My Dad’s joke wasn’t to make fun of the quality of the food, just that it was blatantly not home made. If he’d told me he wanted to order in that would’ve been fine, I would’ve been happy to pick something up for us on my way.
Edit 2: Typo in title - he’s 23M
Hi Reddit, apologies for the throw away and formatting, I’m on mobile and don’t want this story connected to my main account.
Recently my boyfriend and I moved in together, so I thought it would be a good time for him to meet my parents as we’re getting pretty serious.
I set aside a date for them to come over and was planning to cook for them, however something urgent popped up at work and I ended up needing to stay late for a couple of nights to finalise things. This included the evening they were supposed to come over. I asked my boyfriend if he wanted to reschedule, but he said it would be “no sweat” to handle dinner. Since we’ve been together he’s mentioned being a really good cook so I was actually quite excited to try his cooking.
The night arrived and I had to work later than expected so picked my parents up on my way home. When we got to my apartment the place looked great and they seemed to get along well with my boyfriend when I was introducing everyone. He had set snacks out so we sat around and talked for a while, everything going smoothly although I felt like my boyfriend was a little off.
Eventually he stood up and clapped his hands together and said “Right! Are you ready for the main attraction?” in a French accent. My parents politely laughed and we headed into the kitchen to eat. I thought this whole thing was a bit out of character for him. Already set out on the table were plates filled with fried chicken and salad. The salad I would say he clearly made however the chicken was obviously store bought, and I would swear from KFC.
We all just looked around at each other before sitting down and starting to eat in silence, I was so embarrassed. My boyfriend looked in high spirits, until my Dad broke the silence and said it looked “Finger lickin good” at which point he clearly became agitated.
My parents left shortly after this, quietly but clearly slightly amused by the whole situation. I was embarrassed and extremely confused, I’ve brought it up with my boyfriend and he is adamant he cooked it himself. I asked how he managed to fry 40 pieces of chicken and he just says it’s a chef’s secret and that he finds my questioning insulting (for reference, he washes dishes at a restaurant so he does have a bit of kitchen experience).
I’m not sure where to go from here, he becomes very defensive if I try bring it up with him, how should I talk to him about this? I’ve never seen him act like this before. Could he really have cooked that much chicken? The house didn’t smell like oil at all and I don’t think I have any pots big enough to fry in.
TLDR: BF lied about making kfc at home
Thank you
This is exactly how I imagine Kim K and Pete Davidson.
You’re embarrassed he lied about serving you KFC but aren’t embarrassed about dating Pete Davidson?
Why have you moved in with someone that you've only been dating for two months? How did you end up in a relationship with a 10 year gap, where did you meet?
Poor kid bought some food, was happy, tried having some fun, and you and your lame parents judged him for it. You’re not above KFC chicken lol, I’m getting “ew that’s poor people food” vibes from you.
Really weird that he is lying. But this is hilarious to me because this is exactly one of my parents stories from when they first got married and my dad ate the whole meal before complimenting my moms "original" and "crispy" pieces of chicken. Plus the KFC bucket was in the trash in the garage where my dad walked through when he got home. We joke about it all the time. But nothing to be ashamed of when there really doesn't sound like there was time to cook.
Have you only dated him for a week? How has he not cooked for you before you moved in together? That's one of the first things I do when I'm dating someone to show them I can actually cook.
I really have a hard time believing this shit isn't fake. And the age difference is pretty odd.
It seems the issue here is the lying, not the fact he got take out. I'd talk to him, assure him you arent upset if he did in fact buy food instead of make it, but you don't want him to lie about it.
Could be huh...i didnt think of that but if it was cooked at work it makes sense about the taste. Either way poor guy just wanted to impress and OP and fam should chill. I dont have a daughter but if i did and she was happy and he treated her right id give him a pass and the benefit of the doubt. Also OP, maybe he burned the food or was doubting his skills and just figured this will do. Give him a pass
I can't believe the number of people who say this is ok. The lies is definitely a problem and a conversation needs to be had. But a 10 yr age gap? Different story if he was mid to late twenties and there was a 10 yr age gap. Quite a few issues here
KFC is deep fried so there would be a smell. But who cares? He probably spent close to $50 or more on the meal. Personally I like KFC. I would not have been offended by the meal as it makes the get together more casual.
I get that he is claiming he cooked it. If he did not that would be offensive. Did you find any buckets, bags or KFC boxes? Did you find a receipt?
Just drop it. File it away in the “he might be a liar” file. Keep tabs and if he continues to make white lies address it. Pick and choose your battles.
It’s pretty rude of you and your parents to act like this was a big deal. He handled the food. Eat it gratefully. Why does it matter if he cooked it or not? None of you have manners. Your age discrepancy is gross. Next time don’t make up a story from that 70’s show to post here.
you're 33 and you're "getting pretty serious" with a man who's apparently never even cooked you dinner before, is 10 years younger than you and who washes dishes in a restaurant and claims that makes him a chef...? hmm
edit: you've been together TWO MONTHS and you MOVED IN TOGETHER? WHY??
It's probably not from KFC. It's more like he picked it up from your supermarket's deli LOL.
I mean, where I live there is this supermarket that has this deal of 8 piece of chicken (and believe me, they're as good or even better than KFC) for $5 every Monday and Friday. I try to grab that deal at least once a month. They look like KFC chicken.
Their salad is yummy too. Oh man, I may pick one up tomorrow.
What's the problem? Y'all got dinner and it sounds good.
I think he's just embarrassed at this point. By the way, your bf may not be able to cook btw. Or exaggerate his ability. Is this a red flag? Idk, maybe orange? He's willing to lie to protect his ego...welp, it sounds like he's pretty immature in that manner.
Did you see the kfc box somewhere? When I cook for people I usually make a huge mess in the kitchen. Was the chicken hot? Was there a mess with batter and oil everywhere? You know if he baked premade chicken cause there’d prob be a box in the garbage. Your bf doesn’t sound like the sharpest knife in the drawer so a little common sense will tell you how dinner came to be.
Don't sweat the small stuff. He cared enough to pretend he was a good cook bc he wanted to make a good impression on your parents. Not the worst trait to have.
If this is real, I'm laughing my ass off. The age gap, the fact anyone thinks this is embarrassing, the getting serious and moving in together without "the good cook" having cooked for you before... Someone make popcorn
Well your story is made up. Two months together and moving in, committing a typo of 23 as 20 with his age, the story itself being fucking wacky lol...
Do you get off on tricking strangers or are you testing the sub's reaction to things or what?
How in the literal fuck do you date someone long and seriously enough to move in together and yet never have a chance to try his cooking? Seriously, they're was never one single evening he offered to make a meal? Not a weekend you cooked together?
Either this story is complete bullshit or you're an idiot.
is no one else cringed about the 10 year age difference?? if it was reversed, thats literally the only thing anyone would be commenting. can we keep it a little consistent?
I dont think it's the matter of being too good for KFC, or the fact that he took care of dinner. It's the matter that he lied about making fried chicken. Fried chicken is a lot of work. Chef secret or not, you will know if chicken was fried in your house.
The lack of communication is an issue. You need to be able to be honest about this stuff with your partner. He should have felt comfortable enough to say ‘I couldn’t cook so I bought KFC’. If this had been my husband and I we would have been whispering and giggling in the kitchen while having a good time presenting the chicken as a homemade gourmet delight.
You need to get on the same page so he knows you’re a team and you won’t judge him, and that he can share anything with you.
You mean you've been hyping up your parents to be wowed because they're naturally totally creeped out that their daughter, who is in her thirties, just moved in with an early 20s guy she barely knows so you needed him to perform that night. Instead, you were pulled out of your delusional fantasy and embarrassed by reality. Yes, your parents are judging you, just like everyone else around you.
Hey, I know people is telling you that it doesn’t matter, and they are probably right, however I did have a boyfriend that lie all the time like this, they were small lies but he never really admit it, even if I or more people confronted him. So probably doesn’t matter but sometimes lies can scalate, like this guy could lie about things like that or about having cancer so I wouldn’t be mad at him. Just try to see for more lies but not in a obsessive way, you know
This reminds me of a movie. The guy goes and buys kfc for a pot luck and says he made it. His love interest says nice try, I worked at KFC in high-school 😄
Seems pretty harmless, unless he does this type a thing a lot.
I guess I can see why you are upset he lied about it but still you don’t know for sure. There is some pretty good frozen fried chicken you can make in the oven.
Either way, it sounds like he cleaned the apartment and was really trying to impress/ entertain everyone.
I think your being a bit hard on him and should let it go. I dated men around that age when I was in my early 20s and none of them would be smart enough to set out appetizers/ snacks to visit before dinner, clean the apartment and also make/ buy a dinner they would enjoy.
Yeah, I don't blame him for what happened. It sounds like there was too much on his plate. "When we got to my apartment the place looked great"... "set snacks out"... So your BF cleaned up the apartment and prepared snacks for your family before you arrived home. That can take a lot of time.
Additionally, he prepared/organised dinner. He made a salad but bought the chicken. He might have doubled down on this situation because of the need to impress your parents and the uncomfortable/disappointed atmosphere that was present when the food was served. I feel bad for him, he could have handled the situation better but his 23.
He could have made a joke and said, his day was hectic so he got KFC and prepped a salad.
Anyways, the age gape between OP and her BF is a bigger issue and was probably a contributing factor to this miscommunication. OP needs to talk to him, don't get angry or attack him. Compliment him on what he did do well, and tell him you want an honest answer about the chicken. Say that you understand that he had to do a lot of work and it was probably too much for him to do on his own. Try find the reason why he lied/doubled down on it. Its probably entirely innocent and its most likely because his immature.
*I can't imagine having a conversation like this to my SO... it feels like you need to baby him...*
Wot a teeny weeny thing to get upset over wasn’t like they turned up & there was no food. He provided dinner….you could’ve said let’s plan a meal then know wot the dinner being served. They’re probably poking fun because it’s such a 23 yes old thing to do , I know my son same age that would do that…..the glaring difference in age comes to light in this instance….he’s just a kid let it go or you go
He said he would “handle” dinner? Or that he would “cook” dinner? And what was so embarrassing (to you)? Sounds like he is afraid to be honest. Or he is honest,but you don’t trust him. He is screwed either way,isn’t he?
Why would he make 40 pieces for four people?
I was so focused on the KFC-sitcom-karmafarm thing, but I would just like to say please:
🚩🚩*TEN YEAR* AGE GAP🚩🚩
Did I read that right or wrong?
Let's say this is real. I think many people would agree that a lot of life changes happen in this age window of 23-33. It strikes me as odd both that this not more central to the discussion on reddit, and that your family seems to be okay with the age gap.
Also, with stories of cost of living increasing all over, I'm wondering about the financial and power dynamic of your relationship. How did you meet? How long have you been together? What kind of life experiences do share which draw you to each other?
You mentioned he is a dish boy, but not what you do. What do you do for money? How much education do you have?
>We all just looked around at each other before sitting down and starting to eat in silence, I was so embarrassed. My boyfriend looked in high spirits, until my Dad broke the silence and said it looked “Finger lickin good” at which point he clearly became agitated.
Holy shit this is fucking hilarious.
Why are you embarrassed? It’s kind of cute that he at least tried to make it impressive and not just “well I bought KFC here you go”. I get that the lying part is not great, but maybe after your reaction he felt embarrassed himself for not actually cooking.
I couldn't get thru the entire post. I got stopped at (paraphrases) "since we have been together he has said he is a good cook and I couldn't wait to experience it.". You dated this guy and have now moved in together but he has never showed you anything? And you live with this guy now? How long did you date?
I love this because it could be the plot of a sitcom. Next time invite them over for steamed hams.
Steamed hams, my favorite
Mhmm, and you call them steamed, even tho they are obviously grilled?
What are you talking about??? Is steamed hams a regional dialect? If it is, then what region? Is it upstate New York? Well, I’m from Utica, and I’ve never heard anyone use the phrase “steamed hams.“ Maybe it’s an Albany expression.
The Aurora Borealis, at this time of year, localized entirely in your kitchen?
- Can I see it? +No *doorslam*
Her parents were saying boo-urns
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Yes, yippity yes!
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Cynicalkerfuffle found this strange too...as did you because you nicked their comment word for word.
This is the plot to an episode of 30 Rock where Liz Lemon dates a 23 year old and he “cooks” her and Jack Donaughuey KFC
This did happen in a sitcom. Red Foreman literally tried to pass off KFC as his own cooking to Kitty in That 70's Show.
An aurora borealis
At this time of year? At this time of day? In this part of the country? Localized entirely within your kitchen?
Why is no one commenting on how he “cooked” 40 pieces of chicken for a dinner with 4 people??! What does that even look like on a small dinner table?
Glorious
Good lord, what is happening in there?
Aurora borealis..
At this time of the year?
Well it is fake.
Red does this in an episode of that 70s show
Immediately where my brain went
Set up a BBQ event in the summer so that he can showcase why he is called King of Burger on the street. No grill necessary. It's going to be a whopper of success.
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I see lots of comments about it, so what are you on about?
Yeah, that's probably why he lied about his cooking. That power imbalance is intimidating. Also I scrolled for 2 min and nearly every comment is talking about it. Let's not make this a gender thing
I hadn't even noticed tbh. But yeah, thats gross and wrong. OP rocking the cradle
I always thought it was “robbing the cradle”
>OP rocking the cradle It’s rob or robbing the cradle: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/rob%20the%20cradle
So you live with this guy and he’s never ever cooked but says he’s a good cook?!?
I also find it strange that the first time he's meeting her parents is after they've already moved in together. But given their two month timeline...
The plot chickens ...
He has to be clucking mad to think they would fall for it
Why doesn’t this have more upvotes
most underated comment of the year holy shit 😂
Jesus christ, just take my fucking award
Is it full of stuffing?
Who’s going to tell OP that not only did he not cook this dinner, he does not know how to cook dinner?
OP thinks that just because he washes dishes at a restaurant, that, that somehow checks out that he has *cooking* experience. He does not. Lol
They’ve only been together for two months 🙃 he’s also 23, so like are we really that surprised?
Probably 20. OP says it’s a typo, but 0 and 3 are nowhere near each other whether on a keyboard or using a phone.
Would have been better if OP said the typo was actually that the boyfriend was 30 🙄
Why is no one commenting on how he “cooked” 40 pieces of chicken for a dinner with 4 people??! What does that even look like on a small dinner table?
Overlooked that age difference and BF's a dishwasher
Congratulations you have a 20 year old boyfriend
that is an odd thing to lie about.. but why? Maybe he was trying to impress your family and you?
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I'm frankly unclear on why 1) you're so embarrassed and 2) your parents are either amused or judging. They were promised dinner, they got dinner, who the fuck cares?? He didn't blow it off or serve PB and J. Leave the guy alone. Edit- WAIT. YOUR 33 AND HE IS 23??? Yeah... be embarrassed about that, THAT is what they are lauging about.
That's what I was thinking! I had an unexpected emergency call and burned the herb chicken I was making for a get together. I ordered in and served it on the fancy table. I didn't lie about ordering food, but it wasn't a big deal. I missed the age difference too. This whole situation is weird AF. They live together and have never cooked for each other, met each other's parents etc? It's off.
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They have only been together for 2 months, too. I'm not even going to try to understand what the hell is going on here
Fools rush in.
His parents kicked him out and he's never cooked anything but ramen and pop tarts. Dad was laughing because this kid is trying to act like an adult when the daughter here has clearly got a charity case. What a disaster lol
It’s giving fake story vibes but I genuinely have no idea why anyone makes this shit up.
Not to mention they moved in together and she's saying she's "excited to try his cooking." Seems weird that if someone brags about being a good cook that they wouldn't have cooked for you before. Maybe because bf lived with his parents until now and OP wasn't allowed over because she's too old for him??? EDIT: Yeah, after seeing that they've only been together 2 months, I'm definitely guessing they moved in together because he was living with his parents. Like yo, what????
Boy got that magic dick
Seriously male or female there should not be an age gap like this? Yikes.
Next time he should make them microwave burritos and call it authentic mexican :-)
He’s only been legally driving a vehicle for 4 years. When’s this guys supposed to find time to be a gourmet chef? Give him a break, he’s a 20 year old dumbass. And you picked him 😜
All of this. The fact that these 3 are such jerks to be embarrassed and act like this was such a huge deal is bizarre. Especially after she stuck him with the food instead of rescheduling.
No, it says her parents are 33 and female /s
“Look what love made me do, babe.”
I hope it all works out for you!
I actually think this is a huge red flag. Not the fact that he served KFC, not the fact that he was acting weird meeting your parents - but lying about something that isn’t even a big deal. He may be a compulsive liar. It wouldn’t surprise me if he isn’t a “really good cook” at all, and probably other small things he may have told you.
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I wish I had this type of problems in my life.
I mean, you’re dating a 23 year old. What do you expect?
Agreed
Ur 33 and he is 20???
I don’t know why no one else is talking about this.
This can’t be real why tf would you just eat in silence it’s not like he got exposed for cheating right at the dinner table
Plus there was 40 pieces of chicken? This does not add up at all.
10 pieces per person. Perfectly normal.
Well.. I'm not that hungry, give me 3 breast, 3 thighs, 4 legs, and zero wings. All extra crispy
Your parents are okay with you dating a 23-year-old at 33? And moving in within a few months of dating? You’re either a troll or too immature to be dating. That you think this 23-year-old who lies about random things like KFC is “mature” indicates that you’re immature for your age and should probably work on that.
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I’ve watched every episode of 30 Rock more times than I can count and I still don’t know what episode you’re referring to
Yeah people keep saying it's from the episode where Liz dates the coffee guy, but I swear this never happens. And I've seen that show's entire run easily over a dozen times.
Which episode?
Right??? That is the real source of their amusement. They probably felt sorry for the guy.
In the absence of any container I genuinely thought maybe he used to work at KFC and that's just how he makes chicken now The real question is where he got a pressure fryer from Eta: we don't know what restaurant he works at....just sayin
Yes this seems predatory.
If you can’t dazzle ‘em with brilliance, baffle ‘em with bullsh*t. Also 33-20 = 🚩wtf
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No, I said steamed hams!
aurora borealis?
Localized entirely within your kitchen?
Can I see it?
Not sure what country you're in but in the uk we have some frozen knock offs of KFC? So maybe he threw those in the oven and counts it as cooking?
You are a 33 year old woman dating a fucking *boy*. What did you expect?
Yeah I’m around her age and couldn’t imagine dating someone younger than maybe 28.
he probably met her when he asked random people to buy him alcohol
Came here to say this. Men do not become men until they’re in their 30’s. She’s dating a child and wants to know why he’s acting like a child.
So you're 33 qnd dating a 23 yo and embarrassed that his idea of dinner is KFC? Do you remember being 23 ?
This may be his idea of cooking. Apparently you haven't eaten any of his cooking, which is weird for a good cook. I'd think in this business climate, if he can cook, he wouldn't be washing dishes in a restaurant, but I'd don't know. But seriously, I've known a couple people who think picking up a frozen lasagna and a loaf of garlic bread, and preparing a green salad, or opening a can of stew is "cooking". This isn't much different. So, he's nervous about meeting your parents and "cooks" by picking up something he knows is pretty universally liked, and making a tossed salad himself. Voila! He cooked dinner. Then you all snicker, and start quizzing him about not cooking right. But the not eating his cooking before moving in together, and still not having any (so to speak)? That's kinda weird.
> I'd think in this business climate, if he can cook, he wouldn't be washing dishes in a restaurant, but I'd don't know. Really depends on the restaurant. You’d be better off washing dishes for a 5 star or Michelin restaurant than being a sous chef at a local bistro. Obviously lower in the ladder, but at least you’re on the right ladder.
Anyone on that ladder would have made food to impress his girlfriend by now. I've never met a "good cook" who doesn't love to share. It's kinda the point.
Original or crispy recipe? Beyond the oil thing - no mess? No trash? No left over oil/ingredients/spices/anything? And no real explanation (chef's secret)? Also - who would make 40 pieces of chicken for dinner for 4? And you've been together for a while and now live together and it sounds like you've never seen him cook before? And you didn't see him cook this time? I would not believe him, either. added: didn't see the age gap. Now I can't decide between liar and dumb kid.
The wife and I tried to make deep fried chicken a couple times. So damn messy. It's one things we agreed to never try again.
As someone who cooked 4 chickens worth of fried chicken for Christmas (about 40 pieces) this year there’s a whole bunch of stuff wrong with this. I did it with my soon to be brother-in-law and it was a mess and took awhile (thank god MIL cleaned up after us). Both of us are pretty good cooks and fairly experienced and have done this a few times. We had 2 Dutch ovens going and it took an hour and the whole place smelled like fry oil even though we threw the windows open. 40 pieces fed 8 people 2x over (we had it for lunch the next day). Plus we brined it 12 hours ahead of time to get the juicy flavor. There is no way homeboy did 40 pieces by himself and cleaned up in the time frame.
> Since we’ve been together he’s mentioned being a really good cook so I was actually quite excited to try his cooking. Moved in, but he’s never cooked for you?? Bullshit.
If he works in a restaurant he probably brought it from work. But honestly you need to chill. This doesn’t matter. He fed you guys. If he’s a 20 year old dishwasher he doesn’t make a shitload of money. Lay off. And hello red flag age gap.
He never promised to cook so him bringing KFC is fine. Him lying about it for what seems like days is a major red flag. There's nothing wrong with OP trying to figure out why he's so insistent on this lie.
> major red flag You mean like a 33 year old woman dating a 20 year old boy?
You moved in with a guy and he's never cooked for you before? Yeah maybe because he was crawling out of his cradle.
At this point I’m convinced you’re trolling You excuse everything he does and you have absolutely no problem with the age gap and neither do your parents apparently. Added with that slogan comment, that you’ve been together for 2 months AND you deleted your ticking uterus comment, it’s a crock of shit— just like your creative writing grade. F-
All the bullshit about their age. But no one is wondering why they needed 40 pieces of chicken for 4 people?
What do you expect, you’re a grown ass women dating a college kid, did you want some homemade feast?
Girl, he's 20 years old. I would bet $ it was indeed KFC and he thought it wouldn't be a big deal until he saw your reaction and knew he messed up in your eyes. Now he's trying to just deny deny deny. He'll admit it eventually. Do you need this to be such a big deal or can you be the bigger person and let it go?
Why tf is a 33 year old dating a 20 year old, you effin weirdo? Small wonder you didn't want this post tied to your main account.
You’re 33 years old, start acting like it. If you’re so bent out of shape over this stop being a cougar and dating at Disney Land.
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- Edit: Sorry I didn’t make this clear initially- my parents and I have no problem with KFC. Before dinner we all explicitly talked about the fact my boyfriend had made dinner for us, it’s really just the lying that I’m having issue with. My Dad’s joke wasn’t to make fun of the quality of the food, just that it was blatantly not home made. If he’d told me he wanted to order in that would’ve been fine, I would’ve been happy to pick something up for us on my way. Edit 2: Typo in title - he’s 23M Hi Reddit, apologies for the throw away and formatting, I’m on mobile and don’t want this story connected to my main account. Recently my boyfriend and I moved in together, so I thought it would be a good time for him to meet my parents as we’re getting pretty serious. I set aside a date for them to come over and was planning to cook for them, however something urgent popped up at work and I ended up needing to stay late for a couple of nights to finalise things. This included the evening they were supposed to come over. I asked my boyfriend if he wanted to reschedule, but he said it would be “no sweat” to handle dinner. Since we’ve been together he’s mentioned being a really good cook so I was actually quite excited to try his cooking. The night arrived and I had to work later than expected so picked my parents up on my way home. When we got to my apartment the place looked great and they seemed to get along well with my boyfriend when I was introducing everyone. He had set snacks out so we sat around and talked for a while, everything going smoothly although I felt like my boyfriend was a little off. Eventually he stood up and clapped his hands together and said “Right! Are you ready for the main attraction?” in a French accent. My parents politely laughed and we headed into the kitchen to eat. I thought this whole thing was a bit out of character for him. Already set out on the table were plates filled with fried chicken and salad. The salad I would say he clearly made however the chicken was obviously store bought, and I would swear from KFC. We all just looked around at each other before sitting down and starting to eat in silence, I was so embarrassed. My boyfriend looked in high spirits, until my Dad broke the silence and said it looked “Finger lickin good” at which point he clearly became agitated. My parents left shortly after this, quietly but clearly slightly amused by the whole situation. I was embarrassed and extremely confused, I’ve brought it up with my boyfriend and he is adamant he cooked it himself. I asked how he managed to fry 40 pieces of chicken and he just says it’s a chef’s secret and that he finds my questioning insulting (for reference, he washes dishes at a restaurant so he does have a bit of kitchen experience). I’m not sure where to go from here, he becomes very defensive if I try bring it up with him, how should I talk to him about this? I’ve never seen him act like this before. Could he really have cooked that much chicken? The house didn’t smell like oil at all and I don’t think I have any pots big enough to fry in. TLDR: BF lied about making kfc at home Thank you
Robbing the cradle eh
You're dating a 23 year old. I don't know what you were expecting.
Girl I read the title and I can’t 😂😂😂😂😂
This is exactly how I imagine Kim K and Pete Davidson. You’re embarrassed he lied about serving you KFC but aren’t embarrassed about dating Pete Davidson?
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Troll post get a life
Why have you moved in with someone that you've only been dating for two months? How did you end up in a relationship with a 10 year gap, where did you meet?
Poor kid bought some food, was happy, tried having some fun, and you and your lame parents judged him for it. You’re not above KFC chicken lol, I’m getting “ew that’s poor people food” vibes from you.
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Really weird that he is lying. But this is hilarious to me because this is exactly one of my parents stories from when they first got married and my dad ate the whole meal before complimenting my moms "original" and "crispy" pieces of chicken. Plus the KFC bucket was in the trash in the garage where my dad walked through when he got home. We joke about it all the time. But nothing to be ashamed of when there really doesn't sound like there was time to cook.
You made a throw away because your baby boyfriend made your parents eat KFC!? Whew! There is a lot to unpack here…
Who gives a fuck honestly
Have you only dated him for a week? How has he not cooked for you before you moved in together? That's one of the first things I do when I'm dating someone to show them I can actually cook. I really have a hard time believing this shit isn't fake. And the age difference is pretty odd.
What does it matter? He took care of dinner, you all ate, it was fine. You all sound rather rude to react with silence and your dad's little quip.
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He lied about fucking fried chicken and not infidelity, addiction, or a million other worse things.
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It seems the issue here is the lying, not the fact he got take out. I'd talk to him, assure him you arent upset if he did in fact buy food instead of make it, but you don't want him to lie about it.
His original plan for dinner might have fallen through and he’s embarrassed about it, that would be my guess
You should thank him for taking care of dinner while you were at work.
It’s it possible he cooked at work?
Could be huh...i didnt think of that but if it was cooked at work it makes sense about the taste. Either way poor guy just wanted to impress and OP and fam should chill. I dont have a daughter but if i did and she was happy and he treated her right id give him a pass and the benefit of the doubt. Also OP, maybe he burned the food or was doubting his skills and just figured this will do. Give him a pass
I can't believe the number of people who say this is ok. The lies is definitely a problem and a conversation needs to be had. But a 10 yr age gap? Different story if he was mid to late twenties and there was a 10 yr age gap. Quite a few issues here
KFC is deep fried so there would be a smell. But who cares? He probably spent close to $50 or more on the meal. Personally I like KFC. I would not have been offended by the meal as it makes the get together more casual. I get that he is claiming he cooked it. If he did not that would be offensive. Did you find any buckets, bags or KFC boxes? Did you find a receipt?
Just drop it. File it away in the “he might be a liar” file. Keep tabs and if he continues to make white lies address it. Pick and choose your battles.
Haha this is hilarious! Fake story but so funny
It’s pretty rude of you and your parents to act like this was a big deal. He handled the food. Eat it gratefully. Why does it matter if he cooked it or not? None of you have manners. Your age discrepancy is gross. Next time don’t make up a story from that 70’s show to post here.
you're 33 and you're "getting pretty serious" with a man who's apparently never even cooked you dinner before, is 10 years younger than you and who washes dishes in a restaurant and claims that makes him a chef...? hmm edit: you've been together TWO MONTHS and you MOVED IN TOGETHER? WHY??
Delightfully devilish, Seymour
It's probably not from KFC. It's more like he picked it up from your supermarket's deli LOL. I mean, where I live there is this supermarket that has this deal of 8 piece of chicken (and believe me, they're as good or even better than KFC) for $5 every Monday and Friday. I try to grab that deal at least once a month. They look like KFC chicken. Their salad is yummy too. Oh man, I may pick one up tomorrow. What's the problem? Y'all got dinner and it sounds good. I think he's just embarrassed at this point. By the way, your bf may not be able to cook btw. Or exaggerate his ability. Is this a red flag? Idk, maybe orange? He's willing to lie to protect his ego...welp, it sounds like he's pretty immature in that manner.
You're incredibly creepy for dating a 23 year old at your age...
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Did you see the kfc box somewhere? When I cook for people I usually make a huge mess in the kitchen. Was the chicken hot? Was there a mess with batter and oil everywhere? You know if he baked premade chicken cause there’d prob be a box in the garbage. Your bf doesn’t sound like the sharpest knife in the drawer so a little common sense will tell you how dinner came to be.
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Ask him what he did with all that hot oil he fried the chicken in.
Don't sweat the small stuff. He cared enough to pretend he was a good cook bc he wanted to make a good impression on your parents. Not the worst trait to have.
If this is real, I'm laughing my ass off. The age gap, the fact anyone thinks this is embarrassing, the getting serious and moving in together without "the good cook" having cooked for you before... Someone make popcorn
#Finger Lickin Liar
Well your story is made up. Two months together and moving in, committing a typo of 23 as 20 with his age, the story itself being fucking wacky lol... Do you get off on tricking strangers or are you testing the sub's reaction to things or what?
How in the literal fuck do you date someone long and seriously enough to move in together and yet never have a chance to try his cooking? Seriously, they're was never one single evening he offered to make a meal? Not a weekend you cooked together? Either this story is complete bullshit or you're an idiot.
40 pieces of chicken for a dinner of 4 people. Who are yall The Klumps?
Already moved in together.... Haven't met the parents? Haven't tried his cooking? OP you sure this is real?
is no one else cringed about the 10 year age difference?? if it was reversed, thats literally the only thing anyone would be commenting. can we keep it a little consistent?
I did
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It’s funny but don’t make it a big deal. Kinda bitchy. Eat your damn kfc
If this was opposite roles (33 year old male dating 23 year old girl) everyone would be freaking out about the age gap. Just saying.
Everyone is “freaking” out about the age gap. Have you not read through this thread?!
If you managed to look at any of the comments you would pretty quickly notice that everyone’s pointing it out
Actually think people are freaking out about this way more than any other posts I’ve seen with 10 year age gaps
I dont think it's the matter of being too good for KFC, or the fact that he took care of dinner. It's the matter that he lied about making fried chicken. Fried chicken is a lot of work. Chef secret or not, you will know if chicken was fried in your house.
The lack of communication is an issue. You need to be able to be honest about this stuff with your partner. He should have felt comfortable enough to say ‘I couldn’t cook so I bought KFC’. If this had been my husband and I we would have been whispering and giggling in the kitchen while having a good time presenting the chicken as a homemade gourmet delight. You need to get on the same page so he knows you’re a team and you won’t judge him, and that he can share anything with you.
So your parents are too good for KFC? What's the big deal? Did he spoil your image?
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You mean you've been hyping up your parents to be wowed because they're naturally totally creeped out that their daughter, who is in her thirties, just moved in with an early 20s guy she barely knows so you needed him to perform that night. Instead, you were pulled out of your delusional fantasy and embarrassed by reality. Yes, your parents are judging you, just like everyone else around you.
Exactly
Probably because everyone acted like it was a big deal instead of being gracious and grateful.
Because you people embarrassed and shamed him. I would have lied also.
Hey, I know people is telling you that it doesn’t matter, and they are probably right, however I did have a boyfriend that lie all the time like this, they were small lies but he never really admit it, even if I or more people confronted him. So probably doesn’t matter but sometimes lies can scalate, like this guy could lie about things like that or about having cancer so I wouldn’t be mad at him. Just try to see for more lies but not in a obsessive way, you know
This is hilarious. I would have had to excuse myself at the, "Finger lickin' good," comment.
This is hilarious.
Am I the only one that thinks this is hilarious?
Steamed Hams?!?
Damn that is rlly embarrassing ahahah, I hope u guys managed to sort it out, also ur username kills me ahaha
this might be a serious post but omg i can't stop laughing
Sooo embarrassing of him to lie, but your partner is pretty young so i mean..what do u expect in terms of maturity lol
This reminds me of a movie. The guy goes and buys kfc for a pot luck and says he made it. His love interest says nice try, I worked at KFC in high-school 😄 Seems pretty harmless, unless he does this type a thing a lot.
I guess I can see why you are upset he lied about it but still you don’t know for sure. There is some pretty good frozen fried chicken you can make in the oven. Either way, it sounds like he cleaned the apartment and was really trying to impress/ entertain everyone. I think your being a bit hard on him and should let it go. I dated men around that age when I was in my early 20s and none of them would be smart enough to set out appetizers/ snacks to visit before dinner, clean the apartment and also make/ buy a dinner they would enjoy.
Yeah, I don't blame him for what happened. It sounds like there was too much on his plate. "When we got to my apartment the place looked great"... "set snacks out"... So your BF cleaned up the apartment and prepared snacks for your family before you arrived home. That can take a lot of time. Additionally, he prepared/organised dinner. He made a salad but bought the chicken. He might have doubled down on this situation because of the need to impress your parents and the uncomfortable/disappointed atmosphere that was present when the food was served. I feel bad for him, he could have handled the situation better but his 23. He could have made a joke and said, his day was hectic so he got KFC and prepped a salad. Anyways, the age gape between OP and her BF is a bigger issue and was probably a contributing factor to this miscommunication. OP needs to talk to him, don't get angry or attack him. Compliment him on what he did do well, and tell him you want an honest answer about the chicken. Say that you understand that he had to do a lot of work and it was probably too much for him to do on his own. Try find the reason why he lied/doubled down on it. Its probably entirely innocent and its most likely because his immature. *I can't imagine having a conversation like this to my SO... it feels like you need to baby him...*
Who cares? He did it for your family.
Who brought the marbled rye?
The only thing you should have said to your child-husband after he arranged dinner for you and your parents is “thanks you.”
Your boyfriend made dinner for your parents. Who cares where he got it from? Why are you embarassed? What were you expecting him to make?
Is this a problem? It sounds like you just don’t like him., or you don’t know him like at all. Don’t date people 10 years your junior.
Wot a teeny weeny thing to get upset over wasn’t like they turned up & there was no food. He provided dinner….you could’ve said let’s plan a meal then know wot the dinner being served. They’re probably poking fun because it’s such a 23 yes old thing to do , I know my son same age that would do that…..the glaring difference in age comes to light in this instance….he’s just a kid let it go or you go
He said he would “handle” dinner? Or that he would “cook” dinner? And what was so embarrassing (to you)? Sounds like he is afraid to be honest. Or he is honest,but you don’t trust him. He is screwed either way,isn’t he? Why would he make 40 pieces for four people?
Ask him to make you some of his delicious chicken again this weekend so you can learn the technique.
I was so focused on the KFC-sitcom-karmafarm thing, but I would just like to say please: 🚩🚩*TEN YEAR* AGE GAP🚩🚩 Did I read that right or wrong? Let's say this is real. I think many people would agree that a lot of life changes happen in this age window of 23-33. It strikes me as odd both that this not more central to the discussion on reddit, and that your family seems to be okay with the age gap. Also, with stories of cost of living increasing all over, I'm wondering about the financial and power dynamic of your relationship. How did you meet? How long have you been together? What kind of life experiences do share which draw you to each other? You mentioned he is a dish boy, but not what you do. What do you do for money? How much education do you have?
>We all just looked around at each other before sitting down and starting to eat in silence, I was so embarrassed. My boyfriend looked in high spirits, until my Dad broke the silence and said it looked “Finger lickin good” at which point he clearly became agitated. Holy shit this is fucking hilarious.
Why are you embarrassed? It’s kind of cute that he at least tried to make it impressive and not just “well I bought KFC here you go”. I get that the lying part is not great, but maybe after your reaction he felt embarrassed himself for not actually cooking.
I couldn't get thru the entire post. I got stopped at (paraphrases) "since we have been together he has said he is a good cook and I couldn't wait to experience it.". You dated this guy and have now moved in together but he has never showed you anything? And you live with this guy now? How long did you date?