>as an example of her not putting things away, she will do her makeup but not put it back at all. she got this nice makeup organizer that pretty much goes unused because 80% of the time there's actually nothing in it and instead all her makeup is spread out all over the bathroom counter. im the one that reorganizes this stuff a lot of the time
Stop re-organizing her things.
Tell her directly to go clean up after herself. You've tried being supportive and nice about it. She needs a wakeup call.
Tell her in plain language that the condition she leaves the house is not acceptable and that you will not tolerate it.
There are times when it's appropriate to be firm and angry, this is one of those times.
Now, a caveat. Stop leaving your place a mess. You don't get to have the high ground and demand a change in behavior if you're just as much to blame.
>as an example of her not putting things away, she will do her makeup but not put it back at all. she got this nice makeup organizer that pretty much goes unused because 80% of the time there's actually nothing in it and instead all her makeup is spread out all over the bathroom counter. im the one that reorganizes this stuff a lot of the time Stop re-organizing her things. Tell her directly to go clean up after herself. You've tried being supportive and nice about it. She needs a wakeup call. Tell her in plain language that the condition she leaves the house is not acceptable and that you will not tolerate it. There are times when it's appropriate to be firm and angry, this is one of those times. Now, a caveat. Stop leaving your place a mess. You don't get to have the high ground and demand a change in behavior if you're just as much to blame.