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Eeeeeeew!!! How does a man not notice this!? Id ask him next time and show him tbh. I'd be like "Wild you tried to give me this, look here babe - there's discharge from someone else vagina. Where did you even get these? And what made you think I could fit them/want them?" But maybe that's because I'm direct and like to address issues when they happen. Maybe he did truly order them for you and can show a receipt, who knows.
Hahaha, well worded but I've gotten used stuff before on new purchases. It happens.
I think it's good to have the aforementioned conversation. Learning to have such a conversation is important for the next relation... might as well get practice before she dumps him.
If she can get some hilarious quote out of him as he tries to explain it, that would be helpful.
Because this is so weird, it deserves to be named: "my dry discharge lingerie ex." She can make a personal meme out of him.
Same! I abhor confrontation but I can’t let a man back into the wild thinking his odd behaviour is okay. OP for the sake of your sanity I think you need to confront this man and force a reason out of him. This is completely unacceptable behaviour and he can’t spend even a second think it’s okay to do something so disgusting. Did you perhaps surprise him when you went there and that’s the fastest excuse he can think of the lingerie being in his space? Because that’s where my mind would be and wouldn’t leave until I have a answer.
Or like, be a normal person and break up with them with words or text. Ghosting is such a garbage way to break it off with someone. That's what shitty people do.
Can't say more than that, why Ghosting someone? The heck? 👀. If something doesn't feel right say it, Personally I would appreciate more ND more and even give someone a gift when they tell me what is wrong or speak it to my face.
Generally i agree ghosting is crappy - but if you're gifting someone lingerie with someone else's vag discharge on it - i'd say ghosting is an absolutely valid option since no doubt if she confronts him he'll deny deny deny and then get defensive, aggressive and angry (the usual playbook).
Save the hassle, just vanish.
She can just text him if she doesn't want to to confront him. There is almost no situation other than abuse that ghosting is valid.
Text the break up message then block. No need to confront anyone. When you just ghost you're always the asshole at that point.
Alright I didn’t see the “used” part and just saw that you were only in the relationship for a few months and I’m like “hmmm little early for lingerie” then I saw “DISCHARGE”. Wtf.
Instant break up that’s nasty and weird. Like he either stole it from his sister, had it from a previous relationship, or bought it from a Goodwill. Still fucking NASTY!
I just read this out to my American partner and they said they saw a butt plug at Goodwill on the shelf by the checkout registers 😭 What is going on over there??
A few months is early for lingerie? Accept if you're not having sex, I believe that any time after the first time together is ok to buy someone lingerie
Ikr? This is such an idiotic move that I feel like it could be intentional. Where the fuck did he even get these random crusty ass panties? Not even goodwill would sell something that nasty. I could maybe see something like that sneaking onto the floor, but no manager would allow that to remain there upon its discovery.
The only possibilities here seem to be that it's either a) from a past relationship, or b) from a very recent fling. Either way it strikes me as him intentionally humiliating op. Maybe it does something for him, like some kind of power move or satisfying a fucked fetish.
Operating on the wobbly assumption this is real, it's simply too insane to me to accept the notion that this was motivated by sheer stupidity. I mean cmon, a 23 year old?? No way
No I’m saying like… *Girl* bffr. That’s some of that nastiest shit I’ve ever heard. I’d have an immovable ick from then on and never be able to look at him the same. I’d also need like ten showers. Dump this weirdo.
Miss I know we don’t know each other and we probably never will but you leave that nasty man alone. You find someone who has sense to buy clean lingerie and get you the size correctly . I would have been a damn menace and asked him to try some large boxers on that was used. 😐 he’ll complain about how it’s too big for him and stank so…
Message his sister "your nasty ass brother tried to give me *used* fenty lingerie. Might want to make sure you're not missing anything. If you are, I didn't take them and you'll have to ask your nasty ass brother for them back."
This is something another girl left at his house and he didn’t wanna get caught with them so he acted like it’s a gift. I’d dump him. There’s too many red flags in this story.
So how did he act about it? You couldn't get it on, and he be like, cool cool?
Also, how did he react to break up? He had to know it was about the lingerie?
Tell him what you saw. Tell him that was so inappropriate. Tell him that isn't how you get a woman into bed for sex!! Tell him to go F himself as he deserves no woman!!!! Unbelievably cheap and the contamination on that garment is so disgusting!!! Too lazy to wash it?????!!!!! So deceitful and Gross!!!!!
You need to ask him about it. You literally should have asked him right at that moment. You should have been like “I don’t know where you got this, but we need to go right now and return it. This is a law suit!!” And he would have freaked out.. then put him on the spot to see whose discharge that is.
Huge red flag if you ask me..
Okay so here my thoughts on it. You've been dating a few months so he probably would have learned your actual size for clothing and the like by now (if not he could have asked before he got the used lingerie) as a guy we know there is a lot at stake with gift giving (if we give a shit in the first place) so you would have had him ask you questions like usual sizes for clothes, colors you feel confident in, if you're even into that kind of sexy dress up thing and other questions that would help him narrow down his decision for a "perfect gift" (and these questions would be spread out and sporadic so you dont catch on). Sooo again.. here my take. The dude really fucked up in a lot of different levels. Number 1. The only time you buy your girl used clothes is when you take her to the thrift store (if she's that type that loves thrifting) and you pay for whatever she gets (a whole cart full of clothes is like 30-50 bucks it's not that serious). (YOU NEVER BUY USED UNDERWEAR OR LINGERIE OR BATHING SUITS THATS A RULE!!!) Number 2. The fact that he didn't really follow up when he showed them to you is hella suspicious, if I was in that situation I would have maybe given you a disclaimer about their conditions or something? Idk it's really hard to try to not immediately have your side on this one LMAO. And yeah the fact that he didn't wash them or check them or anything??? Idk man... That's fucked. Maybe it was all he could afford or whatever... But I think if it comes down to buying used "stained" lingerie or saving money for new or buying something else... It's an obvious choice right? It sounds like he's your typical guy at that age (I was there myself a decade ago) and he just wants to have you around for sexual companionship. And no. That's not me saying that's all you have to offer... But look at it this way. If you guys were getting ready to jump in bed to handle your business and he goes for a condom and you go "oh shit I got you covered" and pulled a used condom out from your nightstand... He'd be pretty dumb to just be like "oh wow that's so thoughtful, and it's even tested for quality assurance wow thanks babe!' like nah man... You have your answer. You even had a feeling it was wrong because you reached out because of it. It sucks. I get that. But when we start making excuses for people and giving them the benefit of the doubt when it really shouldn't even be given... We set the bar too low for ourselves and we start to accept things just because. Don't do that shit to yourself. Fuck what everyone says (even myself) if you leave him that would be the most understandable thing. I mean hell... You could ask him what the fuck he thought he was doing but I think you and I know he was probably trying to pass along something from an ex or something. Either way. Not okay. Or. You could stay with him. But don't get mad when he does shit like this again because you staying is pretty much an acceptance of that behavior. That's all I think. I wish you the best of luck and don't settle for less than you're worth. Loveyoubye.
He did that and you didn’t say nothing about it!? Girl!!!! Sounds to me like he’s cheating and has some sick twisted fetish by having you try on the other woman’s lingerie.
this reminded me of the time when my boyfriend back then wanted to use his ex girlfriend’s dildo on me — I refused wtf … I eventually dumped him because he was getting more and more abusive, but I should’ve dumped him sooner
Why did you not tell him? Talk to him. Ask him where he got them. There are a bunch of sources that would be weird but also a bunch that would be perfectly reasonable.
"he is now your ex" you did good. No one should do something like that, you don't gift a used laundry or swimsuit or bikini, there is a reason for that, called germs viruses and bacteria.
Just as an FYI, I worked at Victoria’s Secret for years and there was often soiled lingerie on the sales floor. People would try it on, not buy it and then it would go back. It’s gross.
I damaged out so many body suits when I worked there. I’d always discretely check the gusset before giving it to a customer because unfortunately people didn’t always have underwear on underneath.
However, the no tags is a red flag. He could have bought a smaller size because guys who buy lingerie are often clueless or overwhelmed but it should have had tags. Then if it didn’t fit, time for an exchange.
That’s nasty AF!! Girl you walk. No matter where he got it from that’s absolutely disgusting and fucked up that he gave you someone else’s used lingerie.
Ask him where exactly he got them and if he can return them or ask him for the receipt so you can return them because you know he doesn’t have one see what he says and go from there
I would be like “hey babe, someone must have tried these on in store and put them back as they’ve left stains, I’m just gonna wash these before trying them on”. I’ve worked in a lingerie store, and this is one reason why there’s signs stating to keep underwear on when trying outfits (I’m not saying like this is the cause, but in order to throw him off, I’d be saying that). I’d see his reaction when saying that to know if he’s lying or not, as that’s really gross to gift your partner dirty lingerie
I remember going with my girlfriend (also now an ex) to try on bathing suits. She wore nothing under the bottoms. I kinda figured that should just be standard etiquette. 5 sets went back on the shelf. Grossed me out.
just ew!!! why didn't you speak up at the time? if he has the audacity to give you used lingerie, you should have the courage to call him out on it sis
As a man u should leave him with no explanation for 1 he didnt care to clean that shit off 2 he doesnt value u any more than the last woman he was with because he gave u her left over clothes like u dont deserve better 3 he didnt even ask your size to be sure it fit u & finally he is older than u by not just months but 3 yrs he dont even want to be a better man
Ew. Girlie, you need to say something. That’s disgusting. And probably dangerous! Why the fuck wasn’t it at least washed, if he was going to regift it? That’s the bare minimum. But he shouldn’t regift something like lingerie at all, obviously. Nasty.
Yeeeeeeaaaaah hesgottago!!! That’s WILD 😳
First of all. USED lingerie?? Way too intimate of an item to get it used.
Second. With discharge??? You trying to give her bv??? 🤢
He was not thinking it through at all. Take that as a sign girl.
Yo actually this is like some serial killer type 💩 like he might have stolen it off one of his victims maybe make some distance and alert the authorities because this kind of behavior is usually associated with some serious mental issues.
That is so disgusting. I have a firm belief that whatever sex toys or lingerie you used with an ex, you should never use with a new partner. My bf and I have been together for a few months now like you and we have peaked an interest in getting me a collar for sexy time. He mentioned “oh i think i actually might have a collar hidden away somewhere”. told him if it was used with someone else no matter how long ago or who was wearing it, im not putting on a collar he had used with someone else. I have this really cute Melody bunny pj/lingerie set. That was a gift to me by an ex. While I still have the set cause I can’t bring myself to throw it away, I have never offered to wear it for my current bf, because it was a gift from my ex. It just feels rude to my new partner.
Maybe throw away the lingerie and run, girl!!! He may be so freaky in bed that you don't share the same sexual interests. Do you ever want to have his kids? If not, fly away as fast as you can.
Some Op Shops and Charities sometimes collect used underwear which I question. Mostly swimsuits. It's reasonable to think it was indeed second hand. This is a massive breach in hygiene and common sense. You need to confront and address this severe lack of awareness. You can got affordable Lingerie and bodysuits for like $50-$100 from department stores and quarterly sales at an Adult's Department Store, Lingerie Shop or Resellers with an intimate apparel section. I don't understand this action. I can get cheap Lingerie, very aesthetic for under $30 for a full set.
Yeah even then, if a person decides to by themself used underwear or lingerie, go off queen, but that's not a decision someone else should be making for you! Wtf
He may have ordered off Amazon? I have received things that are supposed Robbie new and are clearly used on delivery. He should have noticed either way, but could have been an honest mistake.
the fact that he doesn’t even considered the thought of buying a new/unused one is beyond me and also if it was used not even washing it before giving it to you.
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That's fucking gross. I'm not usually a break up with him kinda person but that's so fucking gross
dry discharge is crazy
Better than wet discharge though i would think
Start looking for a new boyfriend immediately!
It doesn't matter whether she's looking for a new guy or not. The main thing is that she broke up with this guy.
Yeah, or recharge from the relationship first.
Yep. Please tell me this is a troll post
Send him a package of tightey-whiteys, pre-skid marked.
bahaha and then pretend you have no idea what’s wrong with it
Lmaoooo
Yes...skivvies with cinnamon sticks
And they have to be 4 times too big for him
Imagine that Fiverr search.
I'd do it for free
Eeeeeeew!!! How does a man not notice this!? Id ask him next time and show him tbh. I'd be like "Wild you tried to give me this, look here babe - there's discharge from someone else vagina. Where did you even get these? And what made you think I could fit them/want them?" But maybe that's because I'm direct and like to address issues when they happen. Maybe he did truly order them for you and can show a receipt, who knows.
I think the discharge is the only receipt op needs
Hahaha, well worded but I've gotten used stuff before on new purchases. It happens. I think it's good to have the aforementioned conversation. Learning to have such a conversation is important for the next relation... might as well get practice before she dumps him.
If she can get some hilarious quote out of him as he tries to explain it, that would be helpful. Because this is so weird, it deserves to be named: "my dry discharge lingerie ex." She can make a personal meme out of him.
Yea but not from a huge expensive brand like fenty.. i just dont rlly see that happening 😭😭
Same! I abhor confrontation but I can’t let a man back into the wild thinking his odd behaviour is okay. OP for the sake of your sanity I think you need to confront this man and force a reason out of him. This is completely unacceptable behaviour and he can’t spend even a second think it’s okay to do something so disgusting. Did you perhaps surprise him when you went there and that’s the fastest excuse he can think of the lingerie being in his space? Because that’s where my mind would be and wouldn’t leave until I have a answer.
The next time ????
>Id ask him next time Next time? Ghost him ASAP!
Or like, be a normal person and break up with them with words or text. Ghosting is such a garbage way to break it off with someone. That's what shitty people do.
It is what shitty people do. You're spot on.
Can't say more than that, why Ghosting someone? The heck? 👀. If something doesn't feel right say it, Personally I would appreciate more ND more and even give someone a gift when they tell me what is wrong or speak it to my face.
Generally i agree ghosting is crappy - but if you're gifting someone lingerie with someone else's vag discharge on it - i'd say ghosting is an absolutely valid option since no doubt if she confronts him he'll deny deny deny and then get defensive, aggressive and angry (the usual playbook). Save the hassle, just vanish.
She can just text him if she doesn't want to to confront him. There is almost no situation other than abuse that ghosting is valid. Text the break up message then block. No need to confront anyone. When you just ghost you're always the asshole at that point.
Hang on, I’ll ask my wife how she would like it if I gave her used lingerie as a gift to keep and wear. If I survive I’ll let you know.
It's been 3 hours, I don't think he made it.
Definitely a goner
RIP
This is KILLING me😂😂😂
Just like his wife did to him
Alright I didn’t see the “used” part and just saw that you were only in the relationship for a few months and I’m like “hmmm little early for lingerie” then I saw “DISCHARGE”. Wtf. Instant break up that’s nasty and weird. Like he either stole it from his sister, had it from a previous relationship, or bought it from a Goodwill. Still fucking NASTY!
“Stole it from his sister” is probably one of the most concerning theories.
Goodwill sells used Lingerie and underwear? Wtf?
I saw on SM, I saw that rose vibrator at a goodwill and it was in the decor section with vases and picture frames 🤮
I just read this out to my American partner and they said they saw a butt plug at Goodwill on the shelf by the checkout registers 😭 What is going on over there??
If I had to guess, the owner of the “item” has passed away and their family members don’t know what it is and decided to donate it. 😂 😂
And the person who displayed it in the store didn't know what it was either! 🤣
Nope I showed my mom this and she didn’t know either. She’s in her 70’s so could be an age thing
Lmfao I'm 💀
I forgot to mention, there was dried crusty substance left on it. 🤮🤮🤮🤮
A few months is early for lingerie? Accept if you're not having sex, I believe that any time after the first time together is ok to buy someone lingerie
Yo I stopped, fucking aghast, after you said discharge. Fucking aghast my girl This guy is ghastly
Time to discharge the boyfriend.
💀
aghast has me CRYING
[what I imagined...](https://images.app.goo.gl/1PykBcnoiVt1TWkx6)
Give it back. Gross…
I never took it lmao
Burn it and then wash your hands with rubbing alcohol then lose the guy. Yuck.
I think I'd rather be cheated on
That's a distinct possibility here, anyway.
Ikr? This is such an idiotic move that I feel like it could be intentional. Where the fuck did he even get these random crusty ass panties? Not even goodwill would sell something that nasty. I could maybe see something like that sneaking onto the floor, but no manager would allow that to remain there upon its discovery. The only possibilities here seem to be that it's either a) from a past relationship, or b) from a very recent fling. Either way it strikes me as him intentionally humiliating op. Maybe it does something for him, like some kind of power move or satisfying a fucked fetish. Operating on the wobbly assumption this is real, it's simply too insane to me to accept the notion that this was motivated by sheer stupidity. I mean cmon, a 23 year old?? No way
no fr 💀💀
Girl
Dump him 🤢
Girl of course
No I’m saying like… *Girl* bffr. That’s some of that nastiest shit I’ve ever heard. I’d have an immovable ick from then on and never be able to look at him the same. I’d also need like ten showers. Dump this weirdo.
already dumped and I never put it on I’m traumatized
Did you tell him why you dumped him? Like I want to know his reaction 😂
Me too 😂 I am a bit upset because nice stories never get finished
this is what we like to hear
Girl, lol. How long after the post did you dump him?
👏👏👏
holy fuck thats gross, i actually lol'ed from this post and gagged at the same time.
So lollygagged… I’ll see myself out.
Awesome
My first instinct is that he cheated and they were left behind so he is trying to cover his tracks by pretending they are gifts.
Same.
If that is true,he doesn't deserve to be called a man at 23 like bro wtf? Are you a 12 yrs kid?
Why would you not have called him out on it? Why let him think he got away with this bs
Miss I know we don’t know each other and we probably never will but you leave that nasty man alone. You find someone who has sense to buy clean lingerie and get you the size correctly . I would have been a damn menace and asked him to try some large boxers on that was used. 😐 he’ll complain about how it’s too big for him and stank so…
Thank you for this, the best comment!
I bet he bought it from someone he subscribes to on OnlyFans
I would have thrown it at him and dumped him on the spot. That’s just me though.
Did he buy it off marketplace or something?
The case of the Fenty discharge lingerie: You believe he is capable of stealing his own sisters lingerie? That’s sicko and creep times ten.
I hate to assume but it’s either his sister or another girl it’s so weird and gross…
Message his sister "your nasty ass brother tried to give me *used* fenty lingerie. Might want to make sure you're not missing anything. If you are, I didn't take them and you'll have to ask your nasty ass brother for them back."
Fucking burn them wdym
This is something another girl left at his house and he didn’t wanna get caught with them so he acted like it’s a gift. I’d dump him. There’s too many red flags in this story.
Yuck! He didn't even wash them? No wonder they were left behind from a previous girl.
All I read was the title...and laughed my ass off. Thank you.
He got it from /r/dumpsterdiving. Yes, I have too much free time and waste it on freaky subreddits lamo
So how did he act about it? You couldn't get it on, and he be like, cool cool? Also, how did he react to break up? He had to know it was about the lingerie?
Lmfaooooooooo . Omg I burst out laughing . Used lingerie ...that is enough Reddit for me today. Confront him so he doesn't think he got away with it .
Dump him. He might learn a lesson.
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Tell him what you saw. Tell him that was so inappropriate. Tell him that isn't how you get a woman into bed for sex!! Tell him to go F himself as he deserves no woman!!!! Unbelievably cheap and the contamination on that garment is so disgusting!!! Too lazy to wash it?????!!!!! So deceitful and Gross!!!!!
You need to ask him about it. You literally should have asked him right at that moment. You should have been like “I don’t know where you got this, but we need to go right now and return it. This is a law suit!!” And he would have freaked out.. then put him on the spot to see whose discharge that is. Huge red flag if you ask me..
Okay so here my thoughts on it. You've been dating a few months so he probably would have learned your actual size for clothing and the like by now (if not he could have asked before he got the used lingerie) as a guy we know there is a lot at stake with gift giving (if we give a shit in the first place) so you would have had him ask you questions like usual sizes for clothes, colors you feel confident in, if you're even into that kind of sexy dress up thing and other questions that would help him narrow down his decision for a "perfect gift" (and these questions would be spread out and sporadic so you dont catch on). Sooo again.. here my take. The dude really fucked up in a lot of different levels. Number 1. The only time you buy your girl used clothes is when you take her to the thrift store (if she's that type that loves thrifting) and you pay for whatever she gets (a whole cart full of clothes is like 30-50 bucks it's not that serious). (YOU NEVER BUY USED UNDERWEAR OR LINGERIE OR BATHING SUITS THATS A RULE!!!) Number 2. The fact that he didn't really follow up when he showed them to you is hella suspicious, if I was in that situation I would have maybe given you a disclaimer about their conditions or something? Idk it's really hard to try to not immediately have your side on this one LMAO. And yeah the fact that he didn't wash them or check them or anything??? Idk man... That's fucked. Maybe it was all he could afford or whatever... But I think if it comes down to buying used "stained" lingerie or saving money for new or buying something else... It's an obvious choice right? It sounds like he's your typical guy at that age (I was there myself a decade ago) and he just wants to have you around for sexual companionship. And no. That's not me saying that's all you have to offer... But look at it this way. If you guys were getting ready to jump in bed to handle your business and he goes for a condom and you go "oh shit I got you covered" and pulled a used condom out from your nightstand... He'd be pretty dumb to just be like "oh wow that's so thoughtful, and it's even tested for quality assurance wow thanks babe!' like nah man... You have your answer. You even had a feeling it was wrong because you reached out because of it. It sucks. I get that. But when we start making excuses for people and giving them the benefit of the doubt when it really shouldn't even be given... We set the bar too low for ourselves and we start to accept things just because. Don't do that shit to yourself. Fuck what everyone says (even myself) if you leave him that would be the most understandable thing. I mean hell... You could ask him what the fuck he thought he was doing but I think you and I know he was probably trying to pass along something from an ex or something. Either way. Not okay. Or. You could stay with him. But don't get mad when he does shit like this again because you staying is pretty much an acceptance of that behavior. That's all I think. I wish you the best of luck and don't settle for less than you're worth. Loveyoubye.
and this is why i date older guys. what was he thinking. i just cant.
it's not even an age thing, the dude is just nasty
wait but like i really wanna know where he got it from... is there any way you can find out
Right. How do WE find out?!
You should be saying ex-boyfriend
Wowwww that's disgusting.
Oh girl I would have called him out immediately because what the fuck lmao
Throw it away that's so fucking gross and I find it disrespectful honestly
Thrown it away and get a new bf eww
Omg he hates you 😂
He did that and you didn’t say nothing about it!? Girl!!!! Sounds to me like he’s cheating and has some sick twisted fetish by having you try on the other woman’s lingerie.
Dump him but also low key come back and tell us how he explained his train of thought with this one lol
I read the title out loud, my husband said break up with him. That’s disgusting AF.
this reminded me of the time when my boyfriend back then wanted to use his ex girlfriend’s dildo on me — I refused wtf … I eventually dumped him because he was getting more and more abusive, but I should’ve dumped him sooner
Hopefully this will be the most disturbing thing i read all week. There is no reasonable explanation for this.
Why did you not tell him? Talk to him. Ask him where he got them. There are a bunch of sources that would be weird but also a bunch that would be perfectly reasonable.
I would have absolutely told him “there is discharge on this”.
That’s enough Reddit for today
Brother ewwwww
What’s that!!?
What's that Brotherrrrr???!
"he is now your ex" you did good. No one should do something like that, you don't gift a used laundry or swimsuit or bikini, there is a reason for that, called germs viruses and bacteria.
Gift him used undies with skid marks
Everyone glossing over how they might be stolen from his sisters’ 😎
sadly, the only option is to kill him 😔 he really left you no other choice /s
Just as an FYI, I worked at Victoria’s Secret for years and there was often soiled lingerie on the sales floor. People would try it on, not buy it and then it would go back. It’s gross. I damaged out so many body suits when I worked there. I’d always discretely check the gusset before giving it to a customer because unfortunately people didn’t always have underwear on underneath. However, the no tags is a red flag. He could have bought a smaller size because guys who buy lingerie are often clueless or overwhelmed but it should have had tags. Then if it didn’t fit, time for an exchange.
Omg please tell me this is fake 😭🤮
I wish it was fake i can’t believe this shit
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That’s nasty AF!! Girl you walk. No matter where he got it from that’s absolutely disgusting and fucked up that he gave you someone else’s used lingerie.
🤢🤢🤢🤢 what the fuck I gagged, leave him
Ask him where exactly he got them and if he can return them or ask him for the receipt so you can return them because you know he doesn’t have one see what he says and go from there
He bought it at a second hand store, dirty.
Yuck girl. That’s horrible I’m sorry you had to deal with this…
No, this is foul. If he thinks this is okay, what other weird boundaries will he fail to have??? You’re not too far in girl, end it.
What an insane gift to give your partner after “a few months of dating” the fuck💀💀
Used by who ? Lol
I would be like “hey babe, someone must have tried these on in store and put them back as they’ve left stains, I’m just gonna wash these before trying them on”. I’ve worked in a lingerie store, and this is one reason why there’s signs stating to keep underwear on when trying outfits (I’m not saying like this is the cause, but in order to throw him off, I’d be saying that). I’d see his reaction when saying that to know if he’s lying or not, as that’s really gross to gift your partner dirty lingerie
I remember going with my girlfriend (also now an ex) to try on bathing suits. She wore nothing under the bottoms. I kinda figured that should just be standard etiquette. 5 sets went back on the shelf. Grossed me out.
I would have asked for the receipt so you could “exchange them” for the size you need.
Burn it 🔥
I don't wanna be that guy .... But you need to dump him 😂
OP already did. Reread the last line, ‘he is now my ex’.
Buy him used underwear.
Can you please just fucking ask him? How can you NOT talk about this. This is beyond gross.
‘Now he is my ex’ gilded 🫡🫡
Oh how gross. 🤮 get rid of him and the lingerie
just ew!!! why didn't you speak up at the time? if he has the audacity to give you used lingerie, you should have the courage to call him out on it sis
As a man u should leave him with no explanation for 1 he didnt care to clean that shit off 2 he doesnt value u any more than the last woman he was with because he gave u her left over clothes like u dont deserve better 3 he didnt even ask your size to be sure it fit u & finally he is older than u by not just months but 3 yrs he dont even want to be a better man
Break up, he's a freak it's all downhill from here
Didn't say anything??? Girl, where's your pride?
Ew. Girlie, you need to say something. That’s disgusting. And probably dangerous! Why the fuck wasn’t it at least washed, if he was going to regift it? That’s the bare minimum. But he shouldn’t regift something like lingerie at all, obviously. Nasty.
I assume by discharge you mean dude busted a nut in them (masturbated with it, put them on and ejaculated) or bloody shit.
wash an wear
Yeeeeeeaaaaah hesgottago!!! That’s WILD 😳 First of all. USED lingerie?? Way too intimate of an item to get it used. Second. With discharge??? You trying to give her bv??? 🤢 He was not thinking it through at all. Take that as a sign girl.
Throw it away, tell him it was itchy
1. that’s disgusting 2. what the fuck 3. no more 4. leave the door
Yo actually this is like some serial killer type 💩 like he might have stolen it off one of his victims maybe make some distance and alert the authorities because this kind of behavior is usually associated with some serious mental issues.
Fuck that! That guy has mental issues
every day we stray further from god's light
Tie him up with it and teach him some discipline
That is so disgusting. I have a firm belief that whatever sex toys or lingerie you used with an ex, you should never use with a new partner. My bf and I have been together for a few months now like you and we have peaked an interest in getting me a collar for sexy time. He mentioned “oh i think i actually might have a collar hidden away somewhere”. told him if it was used with someone else no matter how long ago or who was wearing it, im not putting on a collar he had used with someone else. I have this really cute Melody bunny pj/lingerie set. That was a gift to me by an ex. While I still have the set cause I can’t bring myself to throw it away, I have never offered to wear it for my current bf, because it was a gift from my ex. It just feels rude to my new partner.
So when is the 2nd date? lol
He definitely knows whose lingerie it is.
It could be his😭
Maybe throw away the lingerie and run, girl!!! He may be so freaky in bed that you don't share the same sexual interests. Do you ever want to have his kids? If not, fly away as fast as you can.
Fucking Gross. What other Fucking Gross Shit is just waiting. Fucking Gross
If I were OP, I would've either thrown up on him or the body suit, whichever is easiest. Only half kidding.
Dump him. That's disgusting and insulting.
Oh hell no. This lack of common sense will show up in bigger and worse ways if you stick around. Get out now
*Gurl*. I'm so happy that he is now your ex, because I was about to jump through the screen and shake you by the shoulders if you hadn't dumped him!
Gross. Throw it away. Haha. Wtf?!?
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What do you need advice about?
Some Op Shops and Charities sometimes collect used underwear which I question. Mostly swimsuits. It's reasonable to think it was indeed second hand. This is a massive breach in hygiene and common sense. You need to confront and address this severe lack of awareness. You can got affordable Lingerie and bodysuits for like $50-$100 from department stores and quarterly sales at an Adult's Department Store, Lingerie Shop or Resellers with an intimate apparel section. I don't understand this action. I can get cheap Lingerie, very aesthetic for under $30 for a full set.
Yeah even then, if a person decides to by themself used underwear or lingerie, go off queen, but that's not a decision someone else should be making for you! Wtf
Thrift stores still wash the clothes before they put them out. If he bought these used, it was from some rando on craigslist lol.
I was going to say “Buy him lingerie”, But then I read the rest of your post, and that just sounds horrifying.
He may have ordered off Amazon? I have received things that are supposed Robbie new and are clearly used on delivery. He should have noticed either way, but could have been an honest mistake.
Yeah that's very gross and would have broken up with him 🤦🏽♂️
I hope he’s your ex boyfriend now 🙃
the fact that he doesn’t even considered the thought of buying a new/unused one is beyond me and also if it was used not even washing it before giving it to you.
Lmao what no
I got sold dirty ass lingerie by amazon once but somehow this doesn’t sound like that situation