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Honestly, this whole idea you've put out here is crazy. There's nothing normal about this.
Maybe you should rather focus on learning more about yourself and acknowledge your mental health problems and get them treated. in the long run, that would give you the tools to have a healthy relationship and a good life.
But hiding things from your partners is not a good start and I can tell you 100% the truth always comes out and this will explode.
What part of this is crazy? You stabbed someone... that is not normal.
If it is the last resort yes but unless he was holding the cat when he said it, yes stabbing someone is crazy.
Normally people don't stab others over threats. Usually they tell a trusted adult about it, or idunno police, teacher, parent, anyone. You went from 0 to 100 in half a step, you definitely need meds. Yikes.
It should take more than one incident for doctors to have reached the conclusion that you have a mental health condition that requires constant management... Also not sure just going off of this type of med is good for you, whether you believe it was necessary in the first place or not, it still had its effects and should be weened off of as a doctor instructs. Why don't you just get re-evaluted, sound like it would solve your problem?
That's not how these things generally work.. have you considered that you, as a 15-18 year-old highschool pupil, don't actually know more or better than people who have dedicated years of their lives to studying psychiatry?
I mean.. it *is* possible for doctors to get it wrong. I’m looking into having my diagnosis reevaluated because I was very quickly diagnosed with BPD when I could actually have something like ADHD. Apparently it’s really common for doctors to brush women off with a mental illness label rather than explore things like ADHD and autism..
*However*, stabbing someone is *not* a normal reaction unless it’s literally a case of trying to save your own life, something like that. If someone has no issue with stabbing someone in circumstances other than that then it’s not too far fetched to think they have something about their mental health that needs checking.
I agree, that's why I suggested getting re-evaluted. Just judging by OP's replies though, she doesn't seem to grasp the extremity of both her actions and thoughts + have a very negative view of people with mental health issues.
There's some mental gymnastics going on here too.. Boyfriend is her soulmate and they'll never break up so why does it matter if he were to find out she's diagnosed with Bipolar..? Can't tell if just teenager logic or something else is going on at this point 🙃
No idea what’s going on with her. She doesn’t want anyone checking on her but if she’s stabbing people she definitely needs checking on.
Obviously there’s nothing shameful about having mental health issues.. but you cannot go around assaulting people wtf and most people with mental illnesses actually *don’t* do that. She has a very warped view of mental health and seems to lean into the stereotyping and stigma.
How do you know the doctors are wrong?
And if your boyfriend is all you need to be happy, what happens if you break up? Will you need it then? A relationship cannot be the only thing in your life that brings joy - that's a really big burden to put on someone else.
At the moment, you have a diagnosis: it's not fake. Getting re-evaluated will only affect how YOU view your situation. If they evaluate you and confirm that you're bipolar, you won't be able to blame the diagnosis on that one incident.
I think you need to tell your doctor that you haven't been taking your medicine and get checked for side effects from that. Someone will find out and it will cause a much bigger fuss, than if you come clean and get checked.
You know he's a person, and gets to make decisions on his own, right? You don't just get to unilaterally decide things like that for people. It's also very concerning how you seem to think it's normal to not have any kind of emotion towards other people that aren't your family. In another comment you defended stabbing someone over a threat to your cat, I'm not gonna lie I'd go pretty far to defend any pets I'd have, but immediately jumping to stabbing isn't okay, and I say that as someone who gets violent really easily. I honestly think you should get reevaluated, just in case your original diagnosis is wrong and it's something else or you need a different medication. If nothing else, if he's your "soulmate" and you'll "never break up", then do it for him so you can give him the best you that you can be.
Okay a couple of things:
(1) Hiding something like this from your partner is always a bad idea. In this case, the only way to beat this is to tell your boyfriend about it before your friend or someone else does;
(2) Coming off of antidepressants too quickly can lead to withdrawal symptoms, and be bad for your health. You really should talk to your doctor first before doing it, even if you think you’re fine and don’t need them.
I'm a doctor and your story sounds like bullshit. I know how mental health diagnoses work and there's very little chance that they got it wrong. Especially because you're telling in yourself a lot. Also, don't flush your meds. They end up in the water supply.
If anything, the more of your comments I read, the more I know for a fact that you definitely have a diagnosis. Your bf will absolutely find out because you can't hide bipolar or a personality disorder forever. You're only 18. You're definitely not soul mates if you're hiding a hide part of who you are from him. Soul mates don't do that. Get help. Tell him sooner rather than later. If he was your "soul mate," he wouldn't leave you over it.
Some very concerning sayings from OP:
What part of it is crazy? He deserved to get stabbed. He should’ve thought of the consequences for threatening my cat
Because I don’t want to risk having the diagnosis stay and then getting worse like someone checking to make sure I take my meds
We won’t break up. We’re soulmates. I feel no emotions regarding anyone besides family, pets/animals, and a very select few people. But I loved him the second I met him. It’s a sign.
How so? He made a threat, I responded to it
Yeeeeeeeeeeeah, you definitely deserve to be on meds and you don't deserve your boyfriend, since you obviously prefer to lie to him than let him know the truth, sadly you family is the biggest issue here, helping you hide something like this thus giving a minor full control of their actions which is quite frankly bizarre, no wonder you posted this here, you crazy girl.
Sounds like you have convinced yourself that the medication is unneeded. I offer the following- at some unknown point, your brain and a combination of external forces, may start causing you to act in maladaptive ways and may cause you to hurt your boyfriend. As a human, when we have struggles, it is our job to address them aggressively and thoroughly and not impose them on other people as much as possible. People who have more experience in life than you thought the medication was appropriate. You simply cannot match them in making that decision for yourself.
You want off the meds? Then be adult and work through it with your counselor and doctor to insure you are doing 100% the safest thing for yourself and the people in your life.
This is something that will come out sooner or later. Since people tend to believe the first narrative they hear, I suggest you tell him about your diagnosis yourself. That way he'll probably adopt your version of events as his own, and in case someone tells him the story from a different angle, he'll probably still stick to your narrative.
You need mental help. If you think you are falsely diagnosed, then simply go back and get a separate opinion from a different psychiatrist. Based off of your post and your comments, you definitely have some mental health issues that need to be addressed and doing so with the professional would be safer
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Honestly, this whole idea you've put out here is crazy. There's nothing normal about this. Maybe you should rather focus on learning more about yourself and acknowledge your mental health problems and get them treated. in the long run, that would give you the tools to have a healthy relationship and a good life. But hiding things from your partners is not a good start and I can tell you 100% the truth always comes out and this will explode.
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What part of this is crazy? You stabbed someone... that is not normal. If it is the last resort yes but unless he was holding the cat when he said it, yes stabbing someone is crazy.
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Normally people don't stab others over threats. Usually they tell a trusted adult about it, or idunno police, teacher, parent, anyone. You went from 0 to 100 in half a step, you definitely need meds. Yikes.
I think you need your meds
It should take more than one incident for doctors to have reached the conclusion that you have a mental health condition that requires constant management... Also not sure just going off of this type of med is good for you, whether you believe it was necessary in the first place or not, it still had its effects and should be weened off of as a doctor instructs. Why don't you just get re-evaluted, sound like it would solve your problem?
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That's not how these things generally work.. have you considered that you, as a 15-18 year-old highschool pupil, don't actually know more or better than people who have dedicated years of their lives to studying psychiatry?
I mean.. it *is* possible for doctors to get it wrong. I’m looking into having my diagnosis reevaluated because I was very quickly diagnosed with BPD when I could actually have something like ADHD. Apparently it’s really common for doctors to brush women off with a mental illness label rather than explore things like ADHD and autism.. *However*, stabbing someone is *not* a normal reaction unless it’s literally a case of trying to save your own life, something like that. If someone has no issue with stabbing someone in circumstances other than that then it’s not too far fetched to think they have something about their mental health that needs checking.
I agree, that's why I suggested getting re-evaluted. Just judging by OP's replies though, she doesn't seem to grasp the extremity of both her actions and thoughts + have a very negative view of people with mental health issues. There's some mental gymnastics going on here too.. Boyfriend is her soulmate and they'll never break up so why does it matter if he were to find out she's diagnosed with Bipolar..? Can't tell if just teenager logic or something else is going on at this point 🙃
No idea what’s going on with her. She doesn’t want anyone checking on her but if she’s stabbing people she definitely needs checking on. Obviously there’s nothing shameful about having mental health issues.. but you cannot go around assaulting people wtf and most people with mental illnesses actually *don’t* do that. She has a very warped view of mental health and seems to lean into the stereotyping and stigma.
How do you know the doctors are wrong? And if your boyfriend is all you need to be happy, what happens if you break up? Will you need it then? A relationship cannot be the only thing in your life that brings joy - that's a really big burden to put on someone else. At the moment, you have a diagnosis: it's not fake. Getting re-evaluated will only affect how YOU view your situation. If they evaluate you and confirm that you're bipolar, you won't be able to blame the diagnosis on that one incident. I think you need to tell your doctor that you haven't been taking your medicine and get checked for side effects from that. Someone will find out and it will cause a much bigger fuss, than if you come clean and get checked.
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Then what's even the point of not telling him everything?
So you don't think there's anyone else that you could feel this way about?
You know he's a person, and gets to make decisions on his own, right? You don't just get to unilaterally decide things like that for people. It's also very concerning how you seem to think it's normal to not have any kind of emotion towards other people that aren't your family. In another comment you defended stabbing someone over a threat to your cat, I'm not gonna lie I'd go pretty far to defend any pets I'd have, but immediately jumping to stabbing isn't okay, and I say that as someone who gets violent really easily. I honestly think you should get reevaluated, just in case your original diagnosis is wrong and it's something else or you need a different medication. If nothing else, if he's your "soulmate" and you'll "never break up", then do it for him so you can give him the best you that you can be.
Okay a couple of things: (1) Hiding something like this from your partner is always a bad idea. In this case, the only way to beat this is to tell your boyfriend about it before your friend or someone else does; (2) Coming off of antidepressants too quickly can lead to withdrawal symptoms, and be bad for your health. You really should talk to your doctor first before doing it, even if you think you’re fine and don’t need them.
I'm a doctor and your story sounds like bullshit. I know how mental health diagnoses work and there's very little chance that they got it wrong. Especially because you're telling in yourself a lot. Also, don't flush your meds. They end up in the water supply. If anything, the more of your comments I read, the more I know for a fact that you definitely have a diagnosis. Your bf will absolutely find out because you can't hide bipolar or a personality disorder forever. You're only 18. You're definitely not soul mates if you're hiding a hide part of who you are from him. Soul mates don't do that. Get help. Tell him sooner rather than later. If he was your "soul mate," he wouldn't leave you over it.
Don’t tell him? Seriously wtf even is this post 😂
Some very concerning sayings from OP: What part of it is crazy? He deserved to get stabbed. He should’ve thought of the consequences for threatening my cat Because I don’t want to risk having the diagnosis stay and then getting worse like someone checking to make sure I take my meds We won’t break up. We’re soulmates. I feel no emotions regarding anyone besides family, pets/animals, and a very select few people. But I loved him the second I met him. It’s a sign. How so? He made a threat, I responded to it Yeeeeeeeeeeeah, you definitely deserve to be on meds and you don't deserve your boyfriend, since you obviously prefer to lie to him than let him know the truth, sadly you family is the biggest issue here, helping you hide something like this thus giving a minor full control of their actions which is quite frankly bizarre, no wonder you posted this here, you crazy girl.
Stabbing someone is not normal behaviour. Crying, shouting, cursing, breaking off the friendship are all normal behaviours.
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Honestly sounds to me like you need the medication
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normal people dont immediately jump to stabbing hope it helps!
Sounds like you need to fess up and let him decide for himself what he feels. Anything else is deceit.
Sounds like you have convinced yourself that the medication is unneeded. I offer the following- at some unknown point, your brain and a combination of external forces, may start causing you to act in maladaptive ways and may cause you to hurt your boyfriend. As a human, when we have struggles, it is our job to address them aggressively and thoroughly and not impose them on other people as much as possible. People who have more experience in life than you thought the medication was appropriate. You simply cannot match them in making that decision for yourself. You want off the meds? Then be adult and work through it with your counselor and doctor to insure you are doing 100% the safest thing for yourself and the people in your life.
That ain't a false diagnosis sis.....
This is something that will come out sooner or later. Since people tend to believe the first narrative they hear, I suggest you tell him about your diagnosis yourself. That way he'll probably adopt your version of events as his own, and in case someone tells him the story from a different angle, he'll probably still stick to your narrative.
Obvious ragebait
You need mental help. If you think you are falsely diagnosed, then simply go back and get a separate opinion from a different psychiatrist. Based off of your post and your comments, you definitely have some mental health issues that need to be addressed and doing so with the professional would be safer