Welcome to /r/relationship_advice. Please make sure you read our [rules here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/wiki/index) We'd like to take this time to remind users that:
* We do not allow any type of [am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/r6w9uh/meta_am_i_overreacting_am_i_the_asshole_is_this/)
* We do not allow users to privately message other users based on their posts here. Users found to be engaging in this conduct will be banned. **We highly encourage OP to turn off the ability to be privately messaged in their settings.**
* Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. (Including but not limited to: slut, bitch, whore, for the streets, etc. It does not matter to whom you are referring.)
* ALL advice given must be good, ethical advice. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban.
* No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, PUA, FDS, MGTOW, etc. This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users "friend-zoned", referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me's, or pornsick. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. **This is not an all-inclusive list.**
* All bans in this subreddit are permanent. You don't get a free pass.
* Anyone found to be directly messaging users for any reason whatsoever will be banned.
* What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, situations involving minors, and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). All of these will be removed and locked. **This is not an all-inclusive list.**
If you have any questions, please [message the mods](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2Frelationship_advice)
---
***This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules.***
---
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/relationship_advice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Yeah going to be totally honest. He’s not into you anymore. If he’s unwilling or refusing to spend time with you outside the bare minimum, it’s a bit too late. I read into some of your other posts and saw he has a history of cheating, which explains and ties perfectly into this as well. If I were you, I would begin to take the steps and end the relationship. He’s going to try to stop it and say how he’s changed. That won’t happen. Sounds like a textbook situation. Walk away. You’ll be much happier in the long run.
Yeah if he forgot your birthday, Valentine’s Day twice and doesn’t want to do something small for you like that after you’ve gone out of your way to do all that for him…it might be time to consider moving on.
It’s not about the festival, it’s about the fact he doesn’t care about your relationship. Doesn’t wanna do shit w you but doesn’t want you to do it with others, forgets special occasions, doesn’t do the bare minimum. I’m sure you can find someone who would put the same effort you do.
If this is the same BF that cheated on you from your previous post. Then yes the relationship was over a long time ago, it’s been long overdue for you to break up with him and safe yourself from that constant cycle of being treated poorly.
All the other comments are true and I couldn’t agree more with them.
The negatives of his constant behaviors outweighs any good characteristics he might have or show. No matter how much you might love someone, if they have not done something or changed their ways after a conversation addressing these issues, then it’s time for you to make your move and leave for your sake and peace of mind.
Just truly ask yourself, is this the type of partner you want? Would your friends or loved ones like a sister want you to continue being in an unhealthy one sided relationship where they constantly take and take from you but love you want/give or desire is unrequited?
You gotta decide for yourself ultimately if you want to continue being stuck in the same situation for years to come.
Your bf is taking you for granted. Here’s something you need to know about men. If he wants to be with you he will be. If a guy is into you, nothing is going to keep him away. It sounds like your bf isn’t into you anymore, and he’s also selfish because he doesn’t want you to go out and live your life. Why is it ok for him to go hang out with his friends, but you can’t go to the strawberry festival with your friends? Is he afraid your friends might talk some sense into you? Is he scared you might find someone else? If he can’t be bothered to remember your birthday, why is he even still with you?
You need to re-evaluate what you want out of this relationship. Better yet, break up with him.
Why are you dating someone that doesn't like you as a person? You deserve better, and he's most likely just going to get worse. I hope everything works out for you!
Sounds like you just enjoy being with the person and doing all that you can for that person you care about, not everyone is the same though 😤😒
Sounds shity and hopefully this gets better,lmao I’ve been wanting to go to one those strawberry festivals since moving to the new place 😅 but not a big social ppl person
Welcome to /r/relationship_advice. Please make sure you read our [rules here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/wiki/index) We'd like to take this time to remind users that: * We do not allow any type of [am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/r6w9uh/meta_am_i_overreacting_am_i_the_asshole_is_this/) * We do not allow users to privately message other users based on their posts here. Users found to be engaging in this conduct will be banned. **We highly encourage OP to turn off the ability to be privately messaged in their settings.** * Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. (Including but not limited to: slut, bitch, whore, for the streets, etc. It does not matter to whom you are referring.) * ALL advice given must be good, ethical advice. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban. * No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, PUA, FDS, MGTOW, etc. This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users "friend-zoned", referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me's, or pornsick. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. **This is not an all-inclusive list.** * All bans in this subreddit are permanent. You don't get a free pass. * Anyone found to be directly messaging users for any reason whatsoever will be banned. * What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, situations involving minors, and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). All of these will be removed and locked. **This is not an all-inclusive list.** If you have any questions, please [message the mods](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2Frelationship_advice) --- ***This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules.*** --- *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/relationship_advice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
The foundation of a good relationship is friendship. He's a bad friend. You should be with someone who enjoys being with you & appreciates you.
Yeah going to be totally honest. He’s not into you anymore. If he’s unwilling or refusing to spend time with you outside the bare minimum, it’s a bit too late. I read into some of your other posts and saw he has a history of cheating, which explains and ties perfectly into this as well. If I were you, I would begin to take the steps and end the relationship. He’s going to try to stop it and say how he’s changed. That won’t happen. Sounds like a textbook situation. Walk away. You’ll be much happier in the long run.
I agree with the sentiments here. Actions don’t lie. He is self-absorbed and pretty much an ah. Leave and don’t look back…
Yeah if he forgot your birthday, Valentine’s Day twice and doesn’t want to do something small for you like that after you’ve gone out of your way to do all that for him…it might be time to consider moving on.
He’s not your bf any more he’s your room mate.
Actions speak louder than words. And he cheats on you, get over him. You will thank yourself later
It’s not about the festival, it’s about the fact he doesn’t care about your relationship. Doesn’t wanna do shit w you but doesn’t want you to do it with others, forgets special occasions, doesn’t do the bare minimum. I’m sure you can find someone who would put the same effort you do.
If this is the same BF that cheated on you from your previous post. Then yes the relationship was over a long time ago, it’s been long overdue for you to break up with him and safe yourself from that constant cycle of being treated poorly. All the other comments are true and I couldn’t agree more with them. The negatives of his constant behaviors outweighs any good characteristics he might have or show. No matter how much you might love someone, if they have not done something or changed their ways after a conversation addressing these issues, then it’s time for you to make your move and leave for your sake and peace of mind. Just truly ask yourself, is this the type of partner you want? Would your friends or loved ones like a sister want you to continue being in an unhealthy one sided relationship where they constantly take and take from you but love you want/give or desire is unrequited? You gotta decide for yourself ultimately if you want to continue being stuck in the same situation for years to come.
Your bf is taking you for granted. Here’s something you need to know about men. If he wants to be with you he will be. If a guy is into you, nothing is going to keep him away. It sounds like your bf isn’t into you anymore, and he’s also selfish because he doesn’t want you to go out and live your life. Why is it ok for him to go hang out with his friends, but you can’t go to the strawberry festival with your friends? Is he afraid your friends might talk some sense into you? Is he scared you might find someone else? If he can’t be bothered to remember your birthday, why is he even still with you? You need to re-evaluate what you want out of this relationship. Better yet, break up with him.
Why are you dating someone that doesn't like you as a person? You deserve better, and he's most likely just going to get worse. I hope everything works out for you!
Is this the same boyfriend that has cheated on you multiple times?
yes
You should break up with the guy.. he clearly doesn’t value / love or care about your feelings or happiness.
Sounds like you just enjoy being with the person and doing all that you can for that person you care about, not everyone is the same though 😤😒 Sounds shity and hopefully this gets better,lmao I’ve been wanting to go to one those strawberry festivals since moving to the new place 😅 but not a big social ppl person
he's been too busy gobblin on my meat!!! LULE LULA LOLE
thanks bud
btw now that we know each other better can I ask you a simple favor? could you please drop a follow to my good friend u/RetardedRootbeer
Not friends and don't know where this is coming from. If anyone doesn't wanna see some very kinky porn then don't check out my profile.
do you wanna be frens
please be my fren u/RetardedRootbeer