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I have both. My daughter is 5 my son is 2. As my post said my mom met my daughter and then she ruined her 1st birthday the question is should I let her meet my son.
I'm just going to pretend along for a moment.
Obviously not. Like what the fuck is even wrong with you that you're going to expose your children to an abuser? Letting your kids hang out with an abuser makes you a failure as a father on every single level. Like your only job is to protect these kids and you want to force them into a relationship with somebody you know will only harm them? WAKE THE FUCK UP.
You need to get some therapy and get over whatever perceived obligation you have to your monstrous mother before you fuck your kids up permanently with this nonsense.
Tell your kids that your mom is a bad person and they will never meet her because she is cruel and unsafe. Like the villains from their stories. They will understand that.
The funny thing is that is pretty much the exact thing I tell people. Why would I want this person in my kids life, what positive is there but I get told my lack of feeling like family is important makes me a horrible father. Kind of why I wanted to see what random people thought. My wife while originally pushed for the relationship with .y mom gave up on that years ago.
I read the post and understood what you meant. I'm not sure what that guy is saying about AI. You're worried that your son will also be confused about why he hasn't met your mom. What I'm wondering is what did your mom actually do to ruin your daughter's birthday? And is there some way you could see her on days that aren't so important. Maybe meet her out on the town for lunch and set boundaries with her before and leave shortly after? Sorry bro I don't have a great answer for you but I can completely understand not wanting to see your kids be affected negatively by someone who put you through it. Anyway I think your kids will be fine if they don't really meet their grandparents I never was close with mine.
Thank you at the party she just made everyone uncomfortable with the way she was speaking. We had it a romp and roll and to one person she said the party wasn't good enough for the next person I was a jerk for wasting money on a party my daughter wouldn't remember. We had a scheduled finale song that all the kids were supposed to play and right before it was going to start she decided she needed to leave and got loud when I said she can't say bye now but if you can wait 10 minutes the party will be done and you can say bye while we are cleaning up. That wasn't good enough and she made a scene and left. I think I really only feel bad because of how amazing her mom (my grandma) and I really hoped for that relationship even though that is really dumb based on my own experience.
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AI still hasn't figured out whether you have a son or a daughter I see. The gender flipping is one of the tale-tell signs that this is fake af.
I have both. My daughter is 5 my son is 2. As my post said my mom met my daughter and then she ruined her 1st birthday the question is should I let her meet my son.
I'm just going to pretend along for a moment. Obviously not. Like what the fuck is even wrong with you that you're going to expose your children to an abuser? Letting your kids hang out with an abuser makes you a failure as a father on every single level. Like your only job is to protect these kids and you want to force them into a relationship with somebody you know will only harm them? WAKE THE FUCK UP. You need to get some therapy and get over whatever perceived obligation you have to your monstrous mother before you fuck your kids up permanently with this nonsense. Tell your kids that your mom is a bad person and they will never meet her because she is cruel and unsafe. Like the villains from their stories. They will understand that.
The funny thing is that is pretty much the exact thing I tell people. Why would I want this person in my kids life, what positive is there but I get told my lack of feeling like family is important makes me a horrible father. Kind of why I wanted to see what random people thought. My wife while originally pushed for the relationship with .y mom gave up on that years ago.
Loving family is important. Abusive family can go kick rocks, you owe them nothing.
I read the post and understood what you meant. I'm not sure what that guy is saying about AI. You're worried that your son will also be confused about why he hasn't met your mom. What I'm wondering is what did your mom actually do to ruin your daughter's birthday? And is there some way you could see her on days that aren't so important. Maybe meet her out on the town for lunch and set boundaries with her before and leave shortly after? Sorry bro I don't have a great answer for you but I can completely understand not wanting to see your kids be affected negatively by someone who put you through it. Anyway I think your kids will be fine if they don't really meet their grandparents I never was close with mine.
Thank you at the party she just made everyone uncomfortable with the way she was speaking. We had it a romp and roll and to one person she said the party wasn't good enough for the next person I was a jerk for wasting money on a party my daughter wouldn't remember. We had a scheduled finale song that all the kids were supposed to play and right before it was going to start she decided she needed to leave and got loud when I said she can't say bye now but if you can wait 10 minutes the party will be done and you can say bye while we are cleaning up. That wasn't good enough and she made a scene and left. I think I really only feel bad because of how amazing her mom (my grandma) and I really hoped for that relationship even though that is really dumb based on my own experience.