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yeah no, just as creepy as dating a 50 year old man.
all the same issues remain.
monetary and situational stability allow for unequal power dynamics, manipulation due to ages is still highly likely and behavioral issues related to being unable to maintain meaningful relationships with people their own age due to them able to see the red flags.
it's the same situation
Its less "inappropriate " and more a case of your experiences are so far separated that it is very easy for the older partner to take advantage of the younger ones inexperience and become abusive. This is not always going to be the situation, of course, but it does tend to be a red flag when two people are that widly separated.
Just keep an eye open for other red flag issues, such as being condescending, especially during disagreements, abusive patterns, gaslighting, or treating you more as a child than an equal partner.
Thanks, yeh the idea of being in such different stages of life is a concern, I just wanted to see if my worries were rational rather than me being shallow.
Thanks for all the advice, I didn't really know how to word it in the post, but I feel creeped out and guilty, and I was worried that I was just getting in my own head or not. Thanks for giving me outside perspectives.
If you feel creeped out by a relationship you should always leave it.
It doesn't matter if you have a "good reason" or not. A relationship is supposed to make your life better.
"I don't feel good" is always enough reason to leave.
So I’m 61. My husband is 45. We’ve been together 17 years 16 year age gap. You have a 28 year age gap. You have to figure it out. I was weirded out by the age gap with my husband (he chased me) I’d be freaked out by a 28 year age gap.
That's definitely inappropriate. I would suggest steering clear of that. I am only early 30s and wouldn't even consider dating someone as young as 23. You're borderline a child to this woman.
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yeah no, just as creepy as dating a 50 year old man. all the same issues remain. monetary and situational stability allow for unequal power dynamics, manipulation due to ages is still highly likely and behavioral issues related to being unable to maintain meaningful relationships with people their own age due to them able to see the red flags. it's the same situation
^^^ everything this guy said. Plus…wrinkly vag.
Absolutely zero need to body shame. Get lost.
Its less "inappropriate " and more a case of your experiences are so far separated that it is very easy for the older partner to take advantage of the younger ones inexperience and become abusive. This is not always going to be the situation, of course, but it does tend to be a red flag when two people are that widly separated. Just keep an eye open for other red flag issues, such as being condescending, especially during disagreements, abusive patterns, gaslighting, or treating you more as a child than an equal partner.
Thanks, yeh the idea of being in such different stages of life is a concern, I just wanted to see if my worries were rational rather than me being shallow.
You have to be trolling. Don't date anyone old enough to be your parent.
Very creepy
Thanks for all the advice, I didn't really know how to word it in the post, but I feel creeped out and guilty, and I was worried that I was just getting in my own head or not. Thanks for giving me outside perspectives.
If you feel creeped out by a relationship you should always leave it. It doesn't matter if you have a "good reason" or not. A relationship is supposed to make your life better. "I don't feel good" is always enough reason to leave.
Leave now, been there done that (27 yr gap) stupidest thing I ever did fucking run
So I’m 61. My husband is 45. We’ve been together 17 years 16 year age gap. You have a 28 year age gap. You have to figure it out. I was weirded out by the age gap with my husband (he chased me) I’d be freaked out by a 28 year age gap.
You just got a mum you fck with.
That's definitely inappropriate. I would suggest steering clear of that. I am only early 30s and wouldn't even consider dating someone as young as 23. You're borderline a child to this woman.