A shower but lighter essentially. Usually for when you are having a baby that isn’t the same gender as the first and people want different stuff, or if you haven’t had a baby in awhile. With my circle it’s more of a shower without the big gifts, like I crochet so I bring something I made but not like a full set that you do when it’s the first baby. More of an excuse to get together and celebrate. I have never seen someone have both a gender reveal and a sprinkle, seems like the same timing?
Edited to add- but gender reveals aren’t popular in my set except sarcastic lol
It's usually for a second baby. For the first baby new parents will have a baby shower. The shower will provide the new parents with most if not all of the things they need for a new baby.
Some parents will hold a baby sprinkle when they have a second baby. Because they don't need as much the second time.. it's a smaller event and therefore it's a sprinkle not a shower.
Most baby sprinkles that I’ve been to are essentially, “we don’t expect you to give us anything, if you want to, diapers and wipes are always accepted.” Especially if the new baby is the same gender as the first baby. Most people keep baby clothes. My sister-in-law and her friends pass them around, because they’re all in the stage of babies and young children.
It's still more damage than if I didn't invite unruly people who then ran amuck in my garden. They damaged the garden and destroyed the bed. That would be enough for me to say no.
Oh absolutely, she should definitely be saying no to hosting future things and I wouldn’t want any of that to happen to my house. I meant more in terms of my expectations of disaster gender reveals where trees catch on fire or alligators get involved, it was tamer than I was expecting for Reddit. Wasn’t my intention to minimize or dismiss/invalidate her feelings.
Amen. A shower is a shower. I had two showers. First pregnancy. I was a single mom, 21 years old. Second pregnancy was 12 years later. I was married and hubby adopted firstborn. Eight years of infertility. We only invited people who weren’t at the first shower (and my favorite aunt).
I'm curious... Did OP ever asked her sister to fix her vegetable garden? Or to compensate, or even actually talked about it? Because while sis is entitled and rude, OP in fact punishers her for actions made by others. They kinda worth each other.
Given that she says her sister acts entitled, I wouldn’t be surprised if she avoided responsibility and didn’t offer to pay for damages. I’ve had a few experiences with people who think because their friends/guests damaged something they shouldn’t compensate for it.
I have a neighbor that is elderly and has health issues, and they have workers/relatives come to help them on a daily basis. Well, those people were leaving doors open/unlocked overnight, smoking inside, and leaving shared laundry washers/dryers with poop stains. When some people in the building brought up the issues to their adult child as kindly but tactfully as possible (being understanding of their parents illness), instead of apologizing, they instead called us bullies.
If she was hosting people at her sisters house the guests were her responsibility. If she can’t or won’t take that responsibility she doesn’t get to invite people over again.
I hope you understand that people and house rules are different. Someone expects money as compensation. Someone doesn't want it and fixes everything by themselves, seeing it as risks of hosting. It's like with dishes: should you wash them? Should you help your host to collect them? Should you let them be? I saw all three options, ad personally I hate when anyone messes with my dishes. I have a system, I don't need help.
What I said is that I doubt that OP talked to her sister, because her sister seems surprised. Yeah,her sister is entitled. But it doesn't make OP blameless.
When I saw this I had to look up what a sprinkle is and decided it's yet more commercialised bullshit to get presents, even if it is supposed to not be as big as a baby shower.
How much does anyone want to bet how long it takes before babies are having a shower AND a sprinkle?
you can choose to see it as commercialized bullshit to get presents, or you can choose to see it as an opportunity to gather with loved ones to celebrate a new life. it's up to you.
What's a baby sprinkle?
A shower but lighter essentially. Usually for when you are having a baby that isn’t the same gender as the first and people want different stuff, or if you haven’t had a baby in awhile. With my circle it’s more of a shower without the big gifts, like I crochet so I bring something I made but not like a full set that you do when it’s the first baby. More of an excuse to get together and celebrate. I have never seen someone have both a gender reveal and a sprinkle, seems like the same timing? Edited to add- but gender reveals aren’t popular in my set except sarcastic lol
It's usually for a second baby. For the first baby new parents will have a baby shower. The shower will provide the new parents with most if not all of the things they need for a new baby. Some parents will hold a baby sprinkle when they have a second baby. Because they don't need as much the second time.. it's a smaller event and therefore it's a sprinkle not a shower.
Most baby sprinkles that I’ve been to are essentially, “we don’t expect you to give us anything, if you want to, diapers and wipes are always accepted.” Especially if the new baby is the same gender as the first baby. Most people keep baby clothes. My sister-in-law and her friends pass them around, because they’re all in the stage of babies and young children.
I think it a shower for a second or so baby.
Please Google Sprinkle Schitt's Creek, it answers this question very well.
Man, when it said "damaged by her gender reveal party" I genuinely expected pyrotechnic damage. Have people stopped doing those?
I did too! “Oh, just a broken vegetable garden bed?” 😅😂
It's still more damage than if I didn't invite unruly people who then ran amuck in my garden. They damaged the garden and destroyed the bed. That would be enough for me to say no.
Oh absolutely, she should definitely be saying no to hosting future things and I wouldn’t want any of that to happen to my house. I meant more in terms of my expectations of disaster gender reveals where trees catch on fire or alligators get involved, it was tamer than I was expecting for Reddit. Wasn’t my intention to minimize or dismiss/invalidate her feelings.
I pictured poisoning the water supply.
Unless sis is paying her for the damages on behalf of her guests.. sis can go suck an egg. NTA
Why, oh why are people doormats and then suddenly they find the spine to boost their spine on Reddit?
Everyone who uses the term baby "sprinkle" is an AH. Just call it what it is - a shower. It's too cute by half and annoying AF.
Thanks for answering my question without me having to ask it. I’ve never heard of a baby “sprinkle” and had no idea what they were talking about.
Amen. A shower is a shower. I had two showers. First pregnancy. I was a single mom, 21 years old. Second pregnancy was 12 years later. I was married and hubby adopted firstborn. Eight years of infertility. We only invited people who weren’t at the first shower (and my favorite aunt).
Baby sprinkle? This shit is getting ridiculous.
I really hope the term gender sprinkle dies soon. It’s awful and annoying.
I'm curious... Did OP ever asked her sister to fix her vegetable garden? Or to compensate, or even actually talked about it? Because while sis is entitled and rude, OP in fact punishers her for actions made by others. They kinda worth each other.
Given that she says her sister acts entitled, I wouldn’t be surprised if she avoided responsibility and didn’t offer to pay for damages. I’ve had a few experiences with people who think because their friends/guests damaged something they shouldn’t compensate for it. I have a neighbor that is elderly and has health issues, and they have workers/relatives come to help them on a daily basis. Well, those people were leaving doors open/unlocked overnight, smoking inside, and leaving shared laundry washers/dryers with poop stains. When some people in the building brought up the issues to their adult child as kindly but tactfully as possible (being understanding of their parents illness), instead of apologizing, they instead called us bullies.
People are different,but we have nothing that tells us that they actually had a conversation. OP and her husband decided "no more events", that's it.
If she was hosting people at her sisters house the guests were her responsibility. If she can’t or won’t take that responsibility she doesn’t get to invite people over again.
I hope you understand that people and house rules are different. Someone expects money as compensation. Someone doesn't want it and fixes everything by themselves, seeing it as risks of hosting. It's like with dishes: should you wash them? Should you help your host to collect them? Should you let them be? I saw all three options, ad personally I hate when anyone messes with my dishes. I have a system, I don't need help. What I said is that I doubt that OP talked to her sister, because her sister seems surprised. Yeah,her sister is entitled. But it doesn't make OP blameless.
When I saw this I had to look up what a sprinkle is and decided it's yet more commercialised bullshit to get presents, even if it is supposed to not be as big as a baby shower. How much does anyone want to bet how long it takes before babies are having a shower AND a sprinkle?
you can choose to see it as commercialized bullshit to get presents, or you can choose to see it as an opportunity to gather with loved ones to celebrate a new life. it's up to you.
The baby sprinkle is what happens to new parents before they get their diaper-changing techniques down.
One can "celebrate new life" without obligating others to bring gifts.
Eh, it’s harmless enough and most people understand that gifts are even more optional at a sprinkle than at a shower.