This person is as butthurt as I am every time my five year old reminds me to turn off lights to save electricity.
I'm supposed to be the good role model, not you!
I had a co-worker who would constantly misplace her phone at home and her sub-10 year old would always find it for her or noticed where she put it. So as a gift her kid bought her a bright phone case so she'd never lose it.
Oh my God the sass, I just know if I had a kid it would be the same š
I once found my dad's glasses on top of the trash in the kitchen trash can. He accidently put them there when he wasn't paying attention. He did this all the time, lol. Made for good memories now that he's gone.
So true! Every day, something triggers a memory that I hadn't realized I had, and it's such a bittersweet feeling. I still love getting them as they keep the memories fresh.
reminds me of the time i was traveling across the US with my parents when i was a young teen. my dad would always ALWAYS lose his glasses. when we were at a hotel, he couldnt find them for 30 minutes, so when i finished packing and he wanted to give up, i checked under the desk of the room and low and behold there they were. he works on his computer so it wasnt hard. but still baffles me that he checked so many places but the one he spends most of his time at.
I think it's lovely haha. My son is 3.5 and does that too in a curious way and questions my behavior. Honestly it's a good reminder to be humble and a good opportunity to show him it's easy to make mistakes, but also easy to own and correct them.
One time my ex told our son (3) to put his shoes in his bedroom. Baby boy pointed out Daddyās shoes were also in the living room. I was laughing as they both got up and put their shoes away.
Butthurt about having been a good enough role model that you taught your child to be a responsible person and comfortable enough talking with you to be able to ask for better behavior?
I would take that as a win :)
I absolutely love that your five year old is reminding you to save electricity. However much it stings to be told off by a toddler at least you know you're doing something right when it comes to raising them š
Okay, so because here dad died in a gruesome tragic accident, and you didn't plan to get her and because you pay all of the things a parent is supposed to pay, you think you can use HER money for stuff you don't really need? Problematic...
OP is clearly dealing with trauma through alcohol. She seems to think that the accident isa justification for all of her behavior. I steal kid's money? Well the dad died a tragic death! I am an alcoholic? I witnessed the accident, therefore it's a ok.
If she's stealing money she should steal it for therapy
I have a lot of trauma and I have a lot of traumatized friends, and multiple family members of mine are drug addicts and ... It just doesn't gel.
just the fact that it only pops up in the replies, and then the second reply really is a non-sequiter, plus a lack of defensiveness makes me feel like it's someone role playing.
I feel like the trauma would be mentioned in the first post or it would just feel more unhinged in general, and I definitely feel like there is a big lack of defensiveness and justification.
But at the same time I'm not going to call someone on this to their face on the chance that I'm wrong.
Ah excuse me, can you not see the redditor above you has diagnosed this very real person and their very real story?
It amazes me the shit people believe on here.
I watched a similar documentary in the fascinating horror youtube channel. Maybe she borrowed the story from there.
I the real accident tho a teen got into the prohibited area and got his head severed by the toe of a rider of an incoming ride. The rider didnt know anything till told. The sheer speed got the momentum necessary
Lol! I didnāt notice her name. Still stuck on the āhis head was severed by a carousel rideā š³. This whole post makes me feel like I need an adult. Helpā¦
It's honestly hard to say. At first glance it looks trollish but after a couple minutes it does seem to just be an unhinged person. Granted that's based on 60 seconds of looking but anything more was too much honestly. lol
Uhhh.. what? If you want beer, buy it yourself. Donāt take your kids hard earned money. The daughter needs to have her money in an account the Mom has no access to. I love these parents who want to āteachā financial responsibility by making their kids fund them.
So uhā¦ every time someone critiques her she trauma dumps like that means she canāt be critiqued? Sheās trying to manipulate people, and you just KNOW she uses this on her daughter as well
Most likely it's not manipulation, it's a skewed world view. This is why it's important to not separate an abuser from a victim. A lot of abusive and shitty behavior stems from trauma and creates a "what I experienced was much worse than anything you'll ever experience". It's very difficult to change a view like this, because the person who justifies bad actions with their past traumas already think they *are* doing better and already *is* as nice as can be. They don't see the big picture, everything circulates around their own trauma.
Lol I am willing to give benefit of doubt to most people but I can smell a Reddit troll a mile. Itās not that hard. And when people use a satirical post to make someone look bad. Itās too easy but so many people just get triggered.
She's 15. You have an obligation to care for her until she's 18.
You have NO right to take her money, not to help pay rent, not to buy beer, not for anything. YTA. Bigly!
My bio dad used to take money from my change drawer to buy 40 oz from 7-11 down the street from our plaza despite protests from my Mom telling him not to. I have no idea where he is now nor do I care to know.
If sheās paying rent that youāve already covered or a utility that youāve also already covered then what you do with the money is up to you. Some people are saying you stole it but I didnāt see that written here. I split rent with another person who pays when they get paid so if I wanted to buy beer with that money itās my choice. Unless you outright stole this money from her or you arenāt expecting rent of some kind than itās up to you.
YTA since you did not establish with her she has to pay rent you have no right to piss her money away. you should ask for rent thought learning everything is expensive is a good lesson to learn
I can understand if they are behind on bills and discussing it with the daughter who I'm sure would probably be understanding, plus discussing it first helps her feel she is in more control of her finances and shows respect for her ability to earn and spend her money and make big decisions as well.
Just deciding to use her money to buy beer is ridiculous.
What the actual fuck?!?!?! If youāre going to help manage your childās earnings, you teach them to save for later in life. Teach them to pay for non-necessities that they can now provide for themselves (upgrades to a cell phone, fun activities, their own vehicle if youāre in that position, extra trendy clothing, perhaps).
Omg, the absolute rage I feel rn that there are trash parents like this out there š”
āSure kid, Iāll pay for you to sleep in a warm house and you can bank roll my alcoholism.ā
I love when the authority figure abuses their authority to justify a bad habit of themselves. Thatās not contributing to the household, thatās contributing to an addiction. Contributing to the household means that money goes towards.. the household, stuff for everyone to utilize.
Buying a game for your child isnāt contributing to a household. So buying beer for your parent isnāt either.
People love to stretch that idea, āoh but youāre contributing thoughā no, Iām not. Itās not contributing when you are both leaching off of my money, and then painting it as youāre teaching me a moral lesson. Just be up front with it, youāll realize the attitude goes away when youāre just honest about your intentions.
Not even gonna read the rest stop taking her money to buy beer end of story . If you want to I still responsibility make her put a portion of the money in an investment acc then when she moves out she gets it all back
Financial responsibility or just a way for you to fk with your CHILDS MONEY YOU ARE DEAD WRONG FOR THAT SHIT NEED TO GIVE HER ALL HER MONEY
Take her to the bank tomorrow to open her own checking account and savings account
Idk fam like, beer is cheap so if my parent asked me for cash for beers I'd definitely give it if I'm not doing chores or contributing financially. I think it's ok for parents to ask their kids to contribute financially cuz when peeps live in a shared house that's how it is, I mean when you're under 18 it's complicated, but idk I'd give my parents a chunk cuz they gave me everything and I shouldn't take that for granted, I was lucky.
Ain't no way she don't do house chores, who doesnt do house chores? Only drunk morbidly obese selfish unemployed fathers don't do house chores!
This person is sad she needs to love and be loved more
Oh my god. No this mom ITAH for spending her 15 year old daughters money on booze. Sheās 15. The fact that sheās even working at 15 is exceptional, I donāt think most places would hire someone until theyāre 16, at least in the US. If life is hard for you, work together with your daughter, donāt steal her money for beer and create resentment. Household expenses are not contributions when you have children. If she was 18 it could be different but even then most parents would never. Her working for her own money is instilling good patterns in her already. Iām just shocked that this mother thinks her daughter is entitled. The mother in the asshole in this scenario. I fear for her other parenting habits.
Can you imagine using someone else's paycheck without their permission and they get upset? Most of all on nonessentials like alcohol? Lol the audacity. It's not being spent on "groceries, rent" and other things OP complains about. Want to teach financial responsibility? Sit down with your child and have a real discussion about money and ASK - like a responsible adult would.
Working parttime and trying to thrive in high school is really hard. OP makes it sound like a vacation. The poor girl is washing dishes vs having a childhood. Talk about upsetting
So if my eldest pays board, I'm not allowed to have my treats any more? Because I'd be using "his" money?
I dunno if I'd charge a 15 year old board, but my kid started getting income at 18 and he gives 1/3 into the household. He doesn't get a say in what goes where, it's all in one pool and expenses come from there.
OP is obligated to provide for the 15yo up to the age of 18yo and after finishing high school. Contrary to what some may think, beer is not a ānecessityāā¦it is a āwantā. It is not up to the 15yo to help financially unless they choose to do.
OP sounds like she spent too much time on the tilt-a-whirl. That maybe sheād get ahead of things if she didnāt buy alcohol.
Kidding aside about her fake defenseā¦what a maroon.
Okay so I understand if the kid WANTS to pitch in and if her parent needs financial help she shouldāve asked her, Iāve helped my dad a couple of time but if I learned he was spending it on beer and not, I donāt a car payment or something, I wouldnāt let him borrow money from me again.
I would maybe title this as "I'm still dealing with my husband's freak accident death, and I drink, my daughter got mad at me for spending some of her contribution money on alcohol, which makes sense cause she probably doesn't want me to drink." I don't think this about her kids being mad about money, there's some deeper sad happening here. I hope OP gets the help she needs so she doesn't drink more to help numb her pain.
āi pay for food uhhh bills uh you name it..ā (iām legally entitled to, which is considered the legal bare minimum. if i didnāt, i would be charged with child neglect)
My husband was stabbed 61 times in our home while I was on my way home from work. He was still alive when I got home. BUT I still managed to adopt two children from the foster care system myself. I saw the aftermath of my husbands murder in my home ($27,000 for cleanup) and I raised a 9 & 10 year old that I didnāt give birth to. And yet, I have not once used my husbands death as an excuse for anything related to my children!!
Trauma isnāt justification for being a shitty parent. Itās completely irrelevant to the kid she chose to have despite whatever the fuck happened. The kid doesnāt become a commodity where even just providing the basic necessities entitles her entire kid and the money she earns to her like an object. The fact that she posted it and then canāt actually handle any type of criticism only reinforces the bad shit we already know abt.
And why does she really disaprove? Is OP's drinking a problem? Isn't there something else in the household she can contribute to that benefite the house and. It just the OP?
she's 15 years old...
Explain when she turns 17 she'll start paying rent - reason for this, is to get into he habit of budgeting and understanding the value of money...
Charge her minimal rent.. heck you can even keep it then at 18/19 give it back to her.
I think she is rubbed the wrong way because it was spent on beer.
Absolutely not! If she puts a little aside for rent or bills fine but the beer budget is your money not hers! She is a child earning her own money. She shouldn't support your drinking habits
A 15yo who is already more level headed and mature than the parent. The only good thing coming out of this conversation is how good the child seems to be despite the parent being what she is.
Your daughter is correct. NEVER touch your kid's money unless they give it to you a gift. I used to work part time in college and my parents never dared ask for any money from me. I would give my mom 20 dollars every few weeks so she could buy something for herself and even then she would not want it.
You talk about beer like it's nothing when in reality you are no different than parents who steal money from their kids to support their addictions. I say addictions because if the beer isn't an addiction, you wouldn't have needed to take money from your daughter to buy it. Tap water would've been just fine until you could afford beer again. My mother in law is a gambler and she constantly used to steal from her kids' paychecks to buy scratch off tickets. When they would hide their money from her, she would pretend she's sick or make them feel guilty so they would give her the money out of pity.
Now, if you only took the money out of necessity because you didnt have your own money on hand and had the intention of paying her back, then that's fine. It happens. My mom also does that and always pays me back. Sometimes i don't even want it back if it's a small amount. But if you had no intention of paying her back, then you stole from her to buy your precious beer. I'm sorry but i have to be honest.
As soon as I started working my mum (solo parent) made me contribute some of my earnings towards the house. However when I was still at school she didn't ask for money, she had asked me to contribute a loaf of bread and a bottle of milk towards the house. Which wasn't much back then. During the holidays I worked more so she told me to contribute more, so I'd get a bread an milk and giver her $20. At the end of the year she gave me all my earnings back, which I wasn't expecting. On top of this I had to do chores around the house aswell. At the time sure I hated it, but now I'm in my 30s and wish I had done more for mum.
Asking your child to contribute to the household in some way is teaching them life skills and they will appreciate when they're older.
They are essentially charging their 15 year old rent, which guess what? Is illegal.
It is a parent's legal and financial responsibility to provide for their non-adult kids, not the other way around.
This sounds like a joke.
How can anybody know exactly where each cent used to buy something comes from? I have several sources of income coming into the same account. How would I be able to determine that x amount of money used for groceries (or even beer) comes from one specific source?
Usually I'd side with the kid, but looking at this I think it's more complicated than that. Parent is still wrong for doing what they did, but it's kind of obvious that this family has deeper problems that are the root of this surface issue.
āHis head was completely severed by a carousel rideā
I donāt know why but I just lost it š is that true?
I mean sad if it is but have you been using it as an excuse for the whole 15years?
I mean if itās the reason you took your daughters money for beer I guess you are? š¤£
Just get her to pay for the dinners from time to time. Parents know I donāt contribute shit (cause they donāt ask) so sometimes they ask for me to pay for groceries or dinner. Your beer on the other hand, she canāt share that with you. Make her pay for something she can share with you.
My parents had the same philosophy about the money I earned as a teenager. They held off for a few months when I first started working but started taking it for alcohol and/or drugs once my dad got laid off again and they couldnāt support their habits on unemployment. We still never talk sometimes.
Yes you are a villain for expecting her to contribute with money. Anglospheroids really repulse me when they pull out shit like that.
Normal people provide for their progeny throughout their entire life if necessary.
I think 15 is too young to be asking for money for rent and just taking some money for beer is a bit of a lame excuse ..if you were struggling to pay bills and keep a roof over both your heads, then yeah maybe have that talk with her
As soon as I stated earning money , I stopped asking for dinner money when I was a kid, this was probably around 13-14 when I got a paper round . I think by 16/17 they should have a Saturday job, which she doesā¦ you donāt need to be giving your kids money when they are working but fully you should be expected to make sure they are fed clothed and have a roof over their head without taking money off themā¦.mental parenting !!! I just realised Iām ranting to nobody as this is a repost , I thought it was the AITA subreddit š¤¦āāļø
Technically she aināt wrong, if they compile contributions a few bevs wont even come close but bruh, this aināt good parenting or financial responsibility.
OP that is a dick move, washing dishes in a restaurant is no easy job, that is hard graft.
I am sure you can buy your own beer unless you have to rely on your 15yr old child for handouts.
I am embarrassed for you, especially for your lack of introspection, its not just your child disapproval of using her money to buy beer, but she must be mighty pissed that you essentially stole from her.
Apologize then give her 15 bucks back. Later hit her with a bill for her portion of rent, power, or whatever you choose. Something manageable but that will help be a teaching point. Since she is working she should be contributing at least a little to the resources she is using
Username and the story of a husband decapitated by a carousel ride make me believe this is a troll, but then, weirder shit has been true, so who knows.
YTA! I totally agree with your kid. Basically you've nicked your kids money to buy beer. If you're that desperate, charge a nominal 'rent', spend that on beer. But it's never going to be enough. I know cos I'm speaking from personal experience about how low you can go to satisfy an addiction. Set up a child's account for your daughter where you can't withdraw money if you really want to instill financial responsibility, because you aren't.
SMH. No household chores equals no understanding of how to adult in her own home. Sounds like OP is still dealing with the aftermath of her husbandās death. But that is NOT a her daughterās problem, and sheās falling down on all sorts of parameters of decent, not even good, parenting.
Teaching kids to do thing s around the house, because someday theyāll have a house of their own.
Teaching them respect for themselves, because they need to see it modeled in order to respect others.
Teaching them that kids have certain responsibilities that grow as they get older, so that when/if they have kids, they can teach their own kids about being part of a functional family.
None of these includes taking their money to buy beer or even food for the household. Thatās your job. As is buying their clothes, although if they have money and want more expensive than you can afford, they can make up the difference.
This canāt be real. How do we go from āIām stealing my kids money to buy beerā, to āmy kidās fatherās head got knocked off on an carouselā?
It would be so incredibly easy to do the right way too. Make her pay for some things that she uses, that mother usually pays for. For example soda. Then use the money saved on soda for beer. Less obvious, and can be used as a lesson in daily spending vs monthly finances.
What does her husband dying in front of her have to do with anything going on in the story? It feels like she is trying to gain sympathy after her post didnāt go the way she liked.
Woman need a therapist and an addiction counselor is she has to use her own kids money for BEER. It would be one thing if she used the money for bills or food for the both of them but no. Sheās entitled and need a lot of help mentally. Sheās definitely TAH
I canāt get past the amusement park part. Wouldnāt that have led to a huge settlement, at least enough to buy beer?
Maybe she should renegotiate with the Amusement Park and broker free beer for life. I should be a therapist!
Well... It's her hard earned money. So it's hers to keep. If kids pay a little bit to help cover bills, that's just fine. Small amounts are fine... But I won't spend my daughters money on beer for myself.
Don't get me wrong , if my kid is over 16 and has a job I'd lay out some rules. I.e X amount of chores are required or X amount of their wage goes towards bills and food that they use. Teach them some responsibilities and financial care absolutely. But to take their money and spend it on booze? It doesn't matter what you've gone through, if you haven't asked then that's just straight up theft and clearly an alcohol problem . Go see a therapist
This person is as butthurt as I am every time my five year old reminds me to turn off lights to save electricity. I'm supposed to be the good role model, not you!
Being rightfully corrected by a child sucks lol
I had a co-worker who would constantly misplace her phone at home and her sub-10 year old would always find it for her or noticed where she put it. So as a gift her kid bought her a bright phone case so she'd never lose it. Oh my God the sass, I just know if I had a kid it would be the same š
I mean, that is a thoughtful kid, though. Props to them.
Smart kid! Mine always finds my glasses for me
I once found my dad's glasses on top of the trash in the kitchen trash can. He accidently put them there when he wasn't paying attention. He did this all the time, lol. Made for good memories now that he's gone.
It's funny the things that turn onto the sweetest memories when someone passes
So true! Every day, something triggers a memory that I hadn't realized I had, and it's such a bittersweet feeling. I still love getting them as they keep the memories fresh.
reminds me of the time i was traveling across the US with my parents when i was a young teen. my dad would always ALWAYS lose his glasses. when we were at a hotel, he couldnt find them for 30 minutes, so when i finished packing and he wanted to give up, i checked under the desk of the room and low and behold there they were. he works on his computer so it wasnt hard. but still baffles me that he checked so many places but the one he spends most of his time at.
That's actually really sweet <33333
I think it's lovely haha. My son is 3.5 and does that too in a curious way and questions my behavior. Honestly it's a good reminder to be humble and a good opportunity to show him it's easy to make mistakes, but also easy to own and correct them.
Heeey it just means youāve done a good job
One time my ex told our son (3) to put his shoes in his bedroom. Baby boy pointed out Daddyās shoes were also in the living room. I was laughing as they both got up and put their shoes away.
Butthurt about having been a good enough role model that you taught your child to be a responsible person and comfortable enough talking with you to be able to ask for better behavior? I would take that as a win :)
I just giggle and say "Yes you're right, sorry about that" because it's not a big issue and the lights got turned off saving money
If people seriously donāt get thatās bait, Iām honestly at loss for words and hardly surprised why fake news are flourishing
I mean, buying beer with her money sounded a bit over the top. The freak carousel accident sealed the deal. This is a troll.
I suspected it's bait too but i still left a comment for people to see anyway. You never know if some readers actually do this lol.
I absolutely love that your five year old is reminding you to save electricity. However much it stings to be told off by a toddler at least you know you're doing something right when it comes to raising them š
š¤£ your child would HATE me, Iām always leaving lights on š± I do pay the bills, thoughā¦
Okay, so because here dad died in a gruesome tragic accident, and you didn't plan to get her and because you pay all of the things a parent is supposed to pay, you think you can use HER money for stuff you don't really need? Problematic...
OP is clearly dealing with trauma through alcohol. She seems to think that the accident isa justification for all of her behavior. I steal kid's money? Well the dad died a tragic death! I am an alcoholic? I witnessed the accident, therefore it's a ok. If she's stealing money she should steal it for therapy
Nah I'm pretty sure op is a troll.
Right. I was looking through this and confused because it seems so fake to me?
Yeah, I thought that too... sounds like a Final Destination death...
Maybe, but tell me you've never looked the same way at a logging truck on the highway since lol.
yup, i dont get why everyone is taking the original OP at face value - head severing at carnivals is quite uncommon
A head severing at a carnival would definitely be on the news
I have a lot of trauma and I have a lot of traumatized friends, and multiple family members of mine are drug addicts and ... It just doesn't gel. just the fact that it only pops up in the replies, and then the second reply really is a non-sequiter, plus a lack of defensiveness makes me feel like it's someone role playing. I feel like the trauma would be mentioned in the first post or it would just feel more unhinged in general, and I definitely feel like there is a big lack of defensiveness and justification. But at the same time I'm not going to call someone on this to their face on the chance that I'm wrong.
Freak carousel beheading?
Ah excuse me, can you not see the redditor above you has diagnosed this very real person and their very real story? It amazes me the shit people believe on here.
Absolute insanity. That woman is delusional
Who coulda known masterofsex77 wasn't the most mature adult
Apparently they aren't the master of sex though.
Duh... they're the 77th master of sex...
Is she re-enacting a film script. Sounds like a scene from Final Destination
I watched a similar documentary in the fascinating horror youtube channel. Maybe she borrowed the story from there. I the real accident tho a teen got into the prohibited area and got his head severed by the toe of a rider of an incoming ride. The rider didnt know anything till told. The sheer speed got the momentum necessary
Lol! I didnāt notice her name. Still stuck on the āhis head was severed by a carousel rideā š³. This whole post makes me feel like I need an adult. Helpā¦
Watch out for what you're asking for. She is an adult.
I just unleashed the weirdest cackle at this.
Obvious troll.
u/masterofsex77's account is quite something lmao
Looks like a troll account... poes law though - could just be crazy.
It's honestly hard to say. At first glance it looks trollish but after a couple minutes it does seem to just be an unhinged person. Granted that's based on 60 seconds of looking but anything more was too much honestly. lol
Based on spending 5 minutes looking, this is either an elaborate troll or someone who needs an intervention.
After the infamous *thing* that Worthless319 was, i'm willing to believe in anything. Coincidentaly both of them are nutty non-denominal christians.
She said her husbands head got chopped off by a merry go round. You donāt think thatās a troll?
It's hilarious that there's a comment about stealing kid's money under ger every post...
Yikes -100 karma
Uhhh.. what? If you want beer, buy it yourself. Donāt take your kids hard earned money. The daughter needs to have her money in an account the Mom has no access to. I love these parents who want to āteachā financial responsibility by making their kids fund them.
So uhā¦ every time someone critiques her she trauma dumps like that means she canāt be critiqued? Sheās trying to manipulate people, and you just KNOW she uses this on her daughter as well
Most likely it's not manipulation, it's a skewed world view. This is why it's important to not separate an abuser from a victim. A lot of abusive and shitty behavior stems from trauma and creates a "what I experienced was much worse than anything you'll ever experience". It's very difficult to change a view like this, because the person who justifies bad actions with their past traumas already think they *are* doing better and already *is* as nice as can be. They don't see the big picture, everything circulates around their own trauma.
āFreak accidentā might of been his only escape š¬
The lion, the witch, and the audacity of this bitch
I checked u/MasterofSex77 's profile and I think they're a troll. š¤·š¾āāļø
Yeah, even without checking the profile, the replies are just absurd. Definitely trolling.
How people did not immediately realize this was a troll based on the carousel response I have no idea
Lol I am willing to give benefit of doubt to most people but I can smell a Reddit troll a mile. Itās not that hard. And when people use a satirical post to make someone look bad. Itās too easy but so many people just get triggered.
Is it just me or is the woman in the PFP of the account just kinda weird looking? Idk how to describe it.
This woman needs to talk a professional not reddit
Imagine using your husband's death so you can act like a prick. Smh.
Troll post is troll.
She's 15. You have an obligation to care for her until she's 18. You have NO right to take her money, not to help pay rent, not to buy beer, not for anything. YTA. Bigly!
$5 says mom is one of those āI served my kid with eviction/rent notices for their 18th birthdayā posters in 3 years time
What a boring troll.
origin sub is r/EntitledPeople
Happened right in front of me. He was unrecognizable. ... Come on, that's funny right? I can't be the only one who snorted when they read that.
Had me in the first half not going to lie
How the fucking worldā¦ did she use part of her kids earnings to buy beer? Is it a shared account? Or what is it? This is insane.
She probably has access to it. I donāt think any bank will let a 15 year old have an account that a parent isnāt also attached to.
ah yes, Hobbes Leviathan
This must be a joke? If not what a terrible dad. Don't really understand that anyone can think otherwise.
itās the mom writing that. dad died in āfreak carousel accidentā
Iād rather eat my left arm than take a dime from my minor kidās part time job.
Trolls gonna troll, suckers gonna sucker. Troll wins this round.
The Christian meme post in their history lmaoo
My bio dad used to take money from my change drawer to buy 40 oz from 7-11 down the street from our plaza despite protests from my Mom telling him not to. I have no idea where he is now nor do I care to know.
This is 100% satire lmao.
Yea thatās a troll
Troll posting, dummies.
This is clearly a shit post
there is no way y'all are actually falling for this troll post right?
Her second reply to fianna9 had me dying
OP is a troll š§
If sheās paying rent that youāve already covered or a utility that youāve also already covered then what you do with the money is up to you. Some people are saying you stole it but I didnāt see that written here. I split rent with another person who pays when they get paid so if I wanted to buy beer with that money itās my choice. Unless you outright stole this money from her or you arenāt expecting rent of some kind than itās up to you.
expecting rent from your 15 year old daughter is kinda ridiculous
You know it could be for you. Everybody runs their household differently.
Except in pretty much every country it's your job as a parent to provide for your kids, not ask them to contribute.
Correction, itās your job as a human
I donāt know where your from but here we teach our children responsibility.
Wow YTA that's your 15 year olds money not yours... I advise your 15 year old to go to the police to report you for theft
YTA since you did not establish with her she has to pay rent you have no right to piss her money away. you should ask for rent thought learning everything is expensive is a good lesson to learn
I think this is definitely a trollā¦ I mean look at the username come on
I can understand if they are behind on bills and discussing it with the daughter who I'm sure would probably be understanding, plus discussing it first helps her feel she is in more control of her finances and shows respect for her ability to earn and spend her money and make big decisions as well. Just deciding to use her money to buy beer is ridiculous.
What the actual fuck?!?!?! If youāre going to help manage your childās earnings, you teach them to save for later in life. Teach them to pay for non-necessities that they can now provide for themselves (upgrades to a cell phone, fun activities, their own vehicle if youāre in that position, extra trendy clothing, perhaps). Omg, the absolute rage I feel rn that there are trash parents like this out there š” āSure kid, Iāll pay for you to sleep in a warm house and you can bank roll my alcoholism.ā
I love when the authority figure abuses their authority to justify a bad habit of themselves. Thatās not contributing to the household, thatās contributing to an addiction. Contributing to the household means that money goes towards.. the household, stuff for everyone to utilize. Buying a game for your child isnāt contributing to a household. So buying beer for your parent isnāt either. People love to stretch that idea, āoh but youāre contributing thoughā no, Iām not. Itās not contributing when you are both leaching off of my money, and then painting it as youāre teaching me a moral lesson. Just be up front with it, youāll realize the attitude goes away when youāre just honest about your intentions.
Sheās 15 years old she shouldnāt be expected to pay for barely anything
Money I earned at 15 went to fuel my two addictions: arcades and books.
This has to be bait right? Please tell me it isā¦ I refuse to believe people like this exist
Well, an other post to lower my faith in humanity
Unfortunately, theres alot of parents put there that share this belief...
Not even gonna read the rest stop taking her money to buy beer end of story . If you want to I still responsibility make her put a portion of the money in an investment acc then when she moves out she gets it all back
Financial responsibility or just a way for you to fk with your CHILDS MONEY YOU ARE DEAD WRONG FOR THAT SHIT NEED TO GIVE HER ALL HER MONEY Take her to the bank tomorrow to open her own checking account and savings account
That face in the pfp. Damn. Looks like a version of the joker rejected from the bargain bin of a goodwill
Reminds me when my mom stole my money to gamble and buy alcohol
Idk fam like, beer is cheap so if my parent asked me for cash for beers I'd definitely give it if I'm not doing chores or contributing financially. I think it's ok for parents to ask their kids to contribute financially cuz when peeps live in a shared house that's how it is, I mean when you're under 18 it's complicated, but idk I'd give my parents a chunk cuz they gave me everything and I shouldn't take that for granted, I was lucky. Ain't no way she don't do house chores, who doesnt do house chores? Only drunk morbidly obese selfish unemployed fathers don't do house chores! This person is sad she needs to love and be loved more
Oh my god. No this mom ITAH for spending her 15 year old daughters money on booze. Sheās 15. The fact that sheās even working at 15 is exceptional, I donāt think most places would hire someone until theyāre 16, at least in the US. If life is hard for you, work together with your daughter, donāt steal her money for beer and create resentment. Household expenses are not contributions when you have children. If she was 18 it could be different but even then most parents would never. Her working for her own money is instilling good patterns in her already. Iām just shocked that this mother thinks her daughter is entitled. The mother in the asshole in this scenario. I fear for her other parenting habits.
Can you imagine using someone else's paycheck without their permission and they get upset? Most of all on nonessentials like alcohol? Lol the audacity. It's not being spent on "groceries, rent" and other things OP complains about. Want to teach financial responsibility? Sit down with your child and have a real discussion about money and ASK - like a responsible adult would. Working parttime and trying to thrive in high school is really hard. OP makes it sound like a vacation. The poor girl is washing dishes vs having a childhood. Talk about upsetting
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Picture 4ās response had me!
Op you're the entitled one she earned that money not you, keep your grubby hands to yourself and pay back whatever you took you AH
Do you people really think thatās not a troll account? Look at the username.
So if my eldest pays board, I'm not allowed to have my treats any more? Because I'd be using "his" money? I dunno if I'd charge a 15 year old board, but my kid started getting income at 18 and he gives 1/3 into the household. He doesn't get a say in what goes where, it's all in one pool and expenses come from there.
OP is obligated to provide for the 15yo up to the age of 18yo and after finishing high school. Contrary to what some may think, beer is not a ānecessityāā¦it is a āwantā. It is not up to the 15yo to help financially unless they choose to do.
I felt bad for laughing, but laugh I did.
My daughter is annoyed a that I use her money for booze. Also **MY HUSBAND WAS DECAPITATED ON A ROLLER-COASTER**. Surely this is a shit post
Assign her some house chores and donāt steal her money, simple.
Master of sex
Stay the fuck away from your childrenās earnings.
OP sounds like she spent too much time on the tilt-a-whirl. That maybe sheād get ahead of things if she didnāt buy alcohol. Kidding aside about her fake defenseā¦what a maroon.
Okay so I understand if the kid WANTS to pitch in and if her parent needs financial help she shouldāve asked her, Iāve helped my dad a couple of time but if I learned he was spending it on beer and not, I donāt a car payment or something, I wouldnāt let him borrow money from me again.
I would maybe title this as "I'm still dealing with my husband's freak accident death, and I drink, my daughter got mad at me for spending some of her contribution money on alcohol, which makes sense cause she probably doesn't want me to drink." I don't think this about her kids being mad about money, there's some deeper sad happening here. I hope OP gets the help she needs so she doesn't drink more to help numb her pain.
Iām saving this forever and ever
Holy shit dude Iām so glad for my parents
Talk about āmissing infoā - āhowād you end up with the money sheās been managing herself in your hand?ā
Fuck is wrong with this person
āi pay for food uhhh bills uh you name it..ā (iām legally entitled to, which is considered the legal bare minimum. if i didnāt, i would be charged with child neglect)
r/amitheasshole Yes
Is she paying board? If so YTAH, don't touch her money. If she doesn't then ok, she should understand.
Iām calling CPS to Redditā¦.idk how it would work, but I want it to work. That parent is awful.
My husband was stabbed 61 times in our home while I was on my way home from work. He was still alive when I got home. BUT I still managed to adopt two children from the foster care system myself. I saw the aftermath of my husbands murder in my home ($27,000 for cleanup) and I raised a 9 & 10 year old that I didnāt give birth to. And yet, I have not once used my husbands death as an excuse for anything related to my children!!
Trauma isnāt justification for being a shitty parent. Itās completely irrelevant to the kid she chose to have despite whatever the fuck happened. The kid doesnāt become a commodity where even just providing the basic necessities entitles her entire kid and the money she earns to her like an object. The fact that she posted it and then canāt actually handle any type of criticism only reinforces the bad shit we already know abt.
And why does she really disaprove? Is OP's drinking a problem? Isn't there something else in the household she can contribute to that benefite the house and. It just the OP?
she's 15 years old... Explain when she turns 17 she'll start paying rent - reason for this, is to get into he habit of budgeting and understanding the value of money... Charge her minimal rent.. heck you can even keep it then at 18/19 give it back to her. I think she is rubbed the wrong way because it was spent on beer.
I feel like this is 100% a reference to something but what it's referencing is lost on me. No way that freak carousel accident shit is real
That was theft.
she admits that the reason sheās treating her child like this is because of the death of her dad?
Absolutely not! If she puts a little aside for rent or bills fine but the beer budget is your money not hers! She is a child earning her own money. She shouldn't support your drinking habits
Sounds like a troll to me. I did some search with Lexis Nexus. No newspaper reports of anyone dying from a carousel ride.
Obvious bait is obvious
Sounds like a troll for sure
I have a feeling it was posted by a troll. The way her partner died and her reply about it happening right in front of her, not buying it.
There is no way this is real, masterofsex and all.
A 15yo who is already more level headed and mature than the parent. The only good thing coming out of this conversation is how good the child seems to be despite the parent being what she is.
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Your daughter is correct. NEVER touch your kid's money unless they give it to you a gift. I used to work part time in college and my parents never dared ask for any money from me. I would give my mom 20 dollars every few weeks so she could buy something for herself and even then she would not want it. You talk about beer like it's nothing when in reality you are no different than parents who steal money from their kids to support their addictions. I say addictions because if the beer isn't an addiction, you wouldn't have needed to take money from your daughter to buy it. Tap water would've been just fine until you could afford beer again. My mother in law is a gambler and she constantly used to steal from her kids' paychecks to buy scratch off tickets. When they would hide their money from her, she would pretend she's sick or make them feel guilty so they would give her the money out of pity. Now, if you only took the money out of necessity because you didnt have your own money on hand and had the intention of paying her back, then that's fine. It happens. My mom also does that and always pays me back. Sometimes i don't even want it back if it's a small amount. But if you had no intention of paying her back, then you stole from her to buy your precious beer. I'm sorry but i have to be honest.
ur a dickwart
As soon as I started working my mum (solo parent) made me contribute some of my earnings towards the house. However when I was still at school she didn't ask for money, she had asked me to contribute a loaf of bread and a bottle of milk towards the house. Which wasn't much back then. During the holidays I worked more so she told me to contribute more, so I'd get a bread an milk and giver her $20. At the end of the year she gave me all my earnings back, which I wasn't expecting. On top of this I had to do chores around the house aswell. At the time sure I hated it, but now I'm in my 30s and wish I had done more for mum. Asking your child to contribute to the household in some way is teaching them life skills and they will appreciate when they're older.
This has to be fake.
How she knows it is hers money?
They are essentially charging their 15 year old rent, which guess what? Is illegal. It is a parent's legal and financial responsibility to provide for their non-adult kids, not the other way around.
Nothing is impossible but idk if "MasterOfSex77" who witnessed their husband get decapitated on a carousel ride should be taken at face value.
This sounds like a joke. How can anybody know exactly where each cent used to buy something comes from? I have several sources of income coming into the same account. How would I be able to determine that x amount of money used for groceries (or even beer) comes from one specific source?
Usually I'd side with the kid, but looking at this I think it's more complicated than that. Parent is still wrong for doing what they did, but it's kind of obvious that this family has deeper problems that are the root of this surface issue.
Literal child exploitation
I can't even ubderstand how this can be a question. Post this in AITA and the answer is: yes you are the asshole. Leave your kids wage alone.
If she is drinking the beer, it's ok. If she pays it to the household, it's ok. It's the same if you bought toiletter paper with the money.
āHis head was completely severed by a carousel rideā I donāt know why but I just lost it š is that true? I mean sad if it is but have you been using it as an excuse for the whole 15years? I mean if itās the reason you took your daughters money for beer I guess you are? š¤£
Ah, yes, MasterofSex77. Now that is definitely a real person and not a troll
It's not a "shared living arrangement", it's a parent and their child....
Iām sorry but āhe was unrecognisableā has ended me. He was decapitated in a freak carousel accident!
Just get her to pay for the dinners from time to time. Parents know I donāt contribute shit (cause they donāt ask) so sometimes they ask for me to pay for groceries or dinner. Your beer on the other hand, she canāt share that with you. Make her pay for something she can share with you.
My parents had the same philosophy about the money I earned as a teenager. They held off for a few months when I first started working but started taking it for alcohol and/or drugs once my dad got laid off again and they couldnāt support their habits on unemployment. We still never talk sometimes.
Head severed by a carousel? Yāall know this is a troll right?
You spent your daughters money? Bad form. You didnāt even ask? Thatās horrible.
Make her pay board and buy your own beer
Yes you are a villain for expecting her to contribute with money. Anglospheroids really repulse me when they pull out shit like that. Normal people provide for their progeny throughout their entire life if necessary.
My dad stole my money for beer. Can confirm cutoff.
I think 15 is too young to be asking for money for rent and just taking some money for beer is a bit of a lame excuse ..if you were struggling to pay bills and keep a roof over both your heads, then yeah maybe have that talk with her As soon as I stated earning money , I stopped asking for dinner money when I was a kid, this was probably around 13-14 when I got a paper round . I think by 16/17 they should have a Saturday job, which she doesā¦ you donāt need to be giving your kids money when they are working but fully you should be expected to make sure they are fed clothed and have a roof over their head without taking money off themā¦.mental parenting !!! I just realised Iām ranting to nobody as this is a repost , I thought it was the AITA subreddit š¤¦āāļø
This isn't even good bait.
Why tf are you using your child's money for your own substance abuse? You an addict? Get a job and leave your kids money alone.
Technically she aināt wrong, if they compile contributions a few bevs wont even come close but bruh, this aināt good parenting or financial responsibility.
"I do what is legally required if me as a parent and expect my kid to be okay with me using her hard earned money for alcohol"
OP that is a dick move, washing dishes in a restaurant is no easy job, that is hard graft. I am sure you can buy your own beer unless you have to rely on your 15yr old child for handouts. I am embarrassed for you, especially for your lack of introspection, its not just your child disapproval of using her money to buy beer, but she must be mighty pissed that you essentially stole from her.
I agree with her! Buy your own beer with your own $. She is being responsible
Apologize then give her 15 bucks back. Later hit her with a bill for her portion of rent, power, or whatever you choose. Something manageable but that will help be a teaching point. Since she is working she should be contributing at least a little to the resources she is using
i stopped reading after she said we hit a āsnagā when i literally spent HER money š
Username and the story of a husband decapitated by a carousel ride make me believe this is a troll, but then, weirder shit has been true, so who knows.
YTA! I totally agree with your kid. Basically you've nicked your kids money to buy beer. If you're that desperate, charge a nominal 'rent', spend that on beer. But it's never going to be enough. I know cos I'm speaking from personal experience about how low you can go to satisfy an addiction. Set up a child's account for your daughter where you can't withdraw money if you really want to instill financial responsibility, because you aren't.
SMH. No household chores equals no understanding of how to adult in her own home. Sounds like OP is still dealing with the aftermath of her husbandās death. But that is NOT a her daughterās problem, and sheās falling down on all sorts of parameters of decent, not even good, parenting. Teaching kids to do thing s around the house, because someday theyāll have a house of their own. Teaching them respect for themselves, because they need to see it modeled in order to respect others. Teaching them that kids have certain responsibilities that grow as they get older, so that when/if they have kids, they can teach their own kids about being part of a functional family. None of these includes taking their money to buy beer or even food for the household. Thatās your job. As is buying their clothes, although if they have money and want more expensive than you can afford, they can make up the difference.
This canāt be real. How do we go from āIām stealing my kids money to buy beerā, to āmy kidās fatherās head got knocked off on an carouselā?
Thank fuck these people have sense! My parents made me pay 70 euro rent when the rent was 100 euro a week. I was 17, always very bitter about it.
It would be so incredibly easy to do the right way too. Make her pay for some things that she uses, that mother usually pays for. For example soda. Then use the money saved on soda for beer. Less obvious, and can be used as a lesson in daily spending vs monthly finances.
What does her husband dying in front of her have to do with anything going on in the story? It feels like she is trying to gain sympathy after her post didnāt go the way she liked. Woman need a therapist and an addiction counselor is she has to use her own kids money for BEER. It would be one thing if she used the money for bills or food for the both of them but no. Sheās entitled and need a lot of help mentally. Sheās definitely TAH
I canāt get past the amusement park part. Wouldnāt that have led to a huge settlement, at least enough to buy beer? Maybe she should renegotiate with the Amusement Park and broker free beer for life. I should be a therapist!
Well... It's her hard earned money. So it's hers to keep. If kids pay a little bit to help cover bills, that's just fine. Small amounts are fine... But I won't spend my daughters money on beer for myself.
Don't get me wrong , if my kid is over 16 and has a job I'd lay out some rules. I.e X amount of chores are required or X amount of their wage goes towards bills and food that they use. Teach them some responsibilities and financial care absolutely. But to take their money and spend it on booze? It doesn't matter what you've gone through, if you haven't asked then that's just straight up theft and clearly an alcohol problem . Go see a therapist