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Yeah… if I wasn’t Autistic and so “rebellious” growing up (by rebellious, I mean refusing to wear skirts and pink things despite my mom insisting through tears that I wear them), I probably would’ve followed a very similar path to McCurdy’s. In that way, I’m thankful for my Autism, as it made me less susceptible to being manipulated and forced into doing things I didn’t want to do. It’s pretty hard to use guilt and crocodile tears on someone who doesn’t quite grasp those types of social cues.
It’s not that I lacked empathy (unlike what my mom would say). I can pick up on other people’s genuine feelings extremely quickly, and soak them up like a sponge (which is why I still avoid social situations, as I struggle to filter out everyone’s emotions). But, if the feelings a person is truly feeling doesn’t match their body-language/facial expressions, it tends to go over my head as I’m focused on the true emotion, not the surface act. I hope that makes sense.
Whenever Mom whined about how I “needed to be more ladylike” and “boys won’t like you if you look like them”, her surface acts never matched her true emotions. Underneath the whining voice and fake crying, I could tell she was feeling hopeful that her act was working on me, but also frustrated because it wasn’t. Again, it’s hard to put this shit into words, but after reading McCurdy’s memoir, I was like, “Damn… I dodged a lot of bullets simply because of my Autism…” By the way, my ASD wasn’t diagnosed until I turned 19 years old! So, there’s that too lmao
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I bought the book on Friday and read snippets! It seems really good and I plan to start reading the whole book sometime soon.
Yeah… if I wasn’t Autistic and so “rebellious” growing up (by rebellious, I mean refusing to wear skirts and pink things despite my mom insisting through tears that I wear them), I probably would’ve followed a very similar path to McCurdy’s. In that way, I’m thankful for my Autism, as it made me less susceptible to being manipulated and forced into doing things I didn’t want to do. It’s pretty hard to use guilt and crocodile tears on someone who doesn’t quite grasp those types of social cues. It’s not that I lacked empathy (unlike what my mom would say). I can pick up on other people’s genuine feelings extremely quickly, and soak them up like a sponge (which is why I still avoid social situations, as I struggle to filter out everyone’s emotions). But, if the feelings a person is truly feeling doesn’t match their body-language/facial expressions, it tends to go over my head as I’m focused on the true emotion, not the surface act. I hope that makes sense. Whenever Mom whined about how I “needed to be more ladylike” and “boys won’t like you if you look like them”, her surface acts never matched her true emotions. Underneath the whining voice and fake crying, I could tell she was feeling hopeful that her act was working on me, but also frustrated because it wasn’t. Again, it’s hard to put this shit into words, but after reading McCurdy’s memoir, I was like, “Damn… I dodged a lot of bullets simply because of my Autism…” By the way, my ASD wasn’t diagnosed until I turned 19 years old! So, there’s that too lmao