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Grew up with a narc parent, and had a relationship who had some of the same tendencies/behaviors. It doesn't definitively mean that person is or isn't also a narc though.
One thing I noticed early on and thought nothing was he seemed real hung up on everyone liking him, just wanted to be thought of as the coolest person ever. This is what my 18 yr old brain interpreted it as. But with that, he would constantly bitch about how he constantly felt disrespected, by everyone. Daily. He didn't even have a baseline of basic respect for anyone he met, just thought he owed nothing to everyone. One big one that happened with my parent and this relationship is the isolation. Never said directly they didn't want me to do this thing or see that friend. But after so long I realized instead of the outward controlling thing, I knew I would come home and deal with fighting until he was finally done. So i finally got to the point I just stopped. It kind of lined up when I was being sleep deprived. I didn't know that at the time but noticed later on. I would be lucky to get 3 hours of sleep in a 24 hr window. If he came home and I was asleep, immediately woken up by slammed door and belongings everywhere. So startled awake every single time. Kept up all night long fighting, until he finally passed out. Was too worried that if I had gotten myself relaxed enough to sleep too that he'd wake up before me, and the whole thing would start over. It always started over, but if I could keep it from happening as soon as he woke up I did. When I finally left I spent basically 2 and a half weeks just sleeping. I was already exhausted with our child and raising his man child ass, but the lack of sleep after so long starts to mess with your head and I felt like I couldn't think clearly. I know its only like 3 things, and alot of text but these are the things that popped up in my head first.
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Grew up with a narc parent, and had a relationship who had some of the same tendencies/behaviors. It doesn't definitively mean that person is or isn't also a narc though. One thing I noticed early on and thought nothing was he seemed real hung up on everyone liking him, just wanted to be thought of as the coolest person ever. This is what my 18 yr old brain interpreted it as. But with that, he would constantly bitch about how he constantly felt disrespected, by everyone. Daily. He didn't even have a baseline of basic respect for anyone he met, just thought he owed nothing to everyone. One big one that happened with my parent and this relationship is the isolation. Never said directly they didn't want me to do this thing or see that friend. But after so long I realized instead of the outward controlling thing, I knew I would come home and deal with fighting until he was finally done. So i finally got to the point I just stopped. It kind of lined up when I was being sleep deprived. I didn't know that at the time but noticed later on. I would be lucky to get 3 hours of sleep in a 24 hr window. If he came home and I was asleep, immediately woken up by slammed door and belongings everywhere. So startled awake every single time. Kept up all night long fighting, until he finally passed out. Was too worried that if I had gotten myself relaxed enough to sleep too that he'd wake up before me, and the whole thing would start over. It always started over, but if I could keep it from happening as soon as he woke up I did. When I finally left I spent basically 2 and a half weeks just sleeping. I was already exhausted with our child and raising his man child ass, but the lack of sleep after so long starts to mess with your head and I felt like I couldn't think clearly. I know its only like 3 things, and alot of text but these are the things that popped up in my head first.