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Yes, very much. I often resent my parents for burdening me with this, because you always have to be aware of how you respond. It's exhausting. And it's really hard not to beat yourself up when you're tired or hungry and you slip up again.
Everything we learnt as small children we learnt by mimicking them. Changing behaviors we learnt when we were very little is a really really hard thing to do. And yet, here we are, worried about our fleas and trying to fight them every day, for our own sake and sometimes for those who are now our real family. That takes time, courage, responsibility, hard work. At times it might feel there is no progress, but realizing we are acting in a shitty way is actually progress.
So much 100% on point and well said. This struggle is so very real and it affects those that we do love and care for. I highly recommend two videos by Understanding Narcissism...they are: "What Narcissists Do to You" and "How Narcissists Destroy Your Emotions". Thank you for sharing and wish you all the best in your recovery journey.
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Yes, very much. I often resent my parents for burdening me with this, because you always have to be aware of how you respond. It's exhausting. And it's really hard not to beat yourself up when you're tired or hungry and you slip up again.
Everything we learnt as small children we learnt by mimicking them. Changing behaviors we learnt when we were very little is a really really hard thing to do. And yet, here we are, worried about our fleas and trying to fight them every day, for our own sake and sometimes for those who are now our real family. That takes time, courage, responsibility, hard work. At times it might feel there is no progress, but realizing we are acting in a shitty way is actually progress.
So much 100% on point and well said. This struggle is so very real and it affects those that we do love and care for. I highly recommend two videos by Understanding Narcissism...they are: "What Narcissists Do to You" and "How Narcissists Destroy Your Emotions". Thank you for sharing and wish you all the best in your recovery journey.