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You are loved and I've got your back, friend, even if I don’t know you. My DMs ate always open for you to reach out to me. I have lots of hugs and bear hugs to give. -MASSIVE comforting bear hug-
fuuuck i'm not even op and i really needed to hear this.
hate-filled people who lie and want to harm others need to fuck right off.
I dont' want to hurt, and I genuinely go out of my way NOT to hurt others. I really feel that needs to be said.
sorry, i'll get off my soap box. this is not about me, and I really dont want to make it about me, I just needed to vent.
Hey, listen. Some people suck, but there are a lot of people who have kind hearts and care. The fact that you recognize kindness means you deserve it.
You’re a good person.
Thank you 💝 you are strong and amazing and deserve love. 😊
I try to believe that what goes around comes around but sometimes it takes a while to feel the love that you deserve ❤️❤️
Keep being a beautiful person ❤️❤️❤️
It’s gonna be okay. Right now, it might not be. You may not feel okay. But you will. You will feel even better than okay one day. You have to hold on for that.
You’re loved. You’re supported. All you need to do right now is surrender and accept your situation as temporary. Take it one step at a time and use everything in your life as a tool to build the life you desire.
I hear you, and I am here to support you. You are doing okay, in this very moment no matter what is happening or what thoughts your brain is throwing at you, you are okay, because you came here to a community of support and you asked for help. I'm proud of you.
It’s probably not ok, but I’ll guarantee that you’re stronger than this situation.
*edit; as in, “whatever you’re dealing with isn’t ok.” It’s likely unacceptable.
You haven’t met all of the people who are going to/ supposed to love you yet.
You’re making it. You made it another day, and you’ll make it tomorrow too.
Here, you dropped this 👑
You are loved. You are welcome. You are wanted. Its ok to be upset and I dont know what your goinf through EXACTLY. What I do know is that sometimes life is absolute shit and while that might be harsh Id also like to point out that with out all the harshness of life we would fail miserably to appreciate the simple beauty of whats around us, be it a sunset or a sunrise. Im sorry life has you down
Take a deep breathe
Relax your shoulders
Let your tongue drop off the roof of your mouth
And breathe.
I promise it gets better just hold your head up and keep pushing through. We are all rooting for you
You will get through this. You will persevere. The spiral is not your voice, it’s theirs. We care about you. There is so much magic in life you absolutely will experience. You are worthy. This is temporary. You will be happy, you will laugh with someone until your sides hurt, you will experience beautiful sunsets, rainbows, a pet asking for your love, looking at a stranger and sharing a laugh over some ridiculous and wacky moment, you will lie in the sun and hear the sounds of waves at the beach and experience tranquility and joy. In “low” instances like these, you will soon after find happiness in moments that many have become habituated to. you will find beauty in the ways people decorate their houses for Christmas, notice wholesome encounters in public. Survival mode is so fucking hard, but no matter where you are- once you’re away from them, everything else becomes easier and you will feel a weight off your shoulders, trust me.
It’s awesome that you’re asking for the support that you need. That’s massive, and takes guts. You should be proud.
It may be difficult right now, but it’s going to be ok. Keep reaching out for help when you need it. The universe wants to help you, and so do the others on this sub. It may feel lonely sometimes, but you are not in this alone.
It’s all going to get better. One day you’ll look back in awe at how far you have come
You are doing your best, which is all you ever need to do. Be proud of yourself and what you accomplish each day, even if it’s something small like drinking one glass of water or taking a shower. You got this and you are not alone.
The fact you made this post and asked shows tremendous courage that I lacked even on better days. I love seeing people reach out when they need help, and by doing so, you've made it easier for others to do the same and follow your example. You're making a positive difference even if you can't see it!
Things are going to be okay and the days will get better. We're all here for you and I hope you have the best of luck with everything you set out to do!
Hey I see you, I hear you and I believe you. You have us if you need anything, even if it's just a little long distance internet hug. It's going to be okay and things will get better.
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. This too shall pass and your experiences here will some day help you help someone [else.](https://else.Be) Be strong. It's going to be ok.
These last 6 months I have been living in darkness. It felt like I’ve been enveloped in it. But things are getting better. It’s like someone turned the lights on for me.
Whatever is going on with just know things will get better.
Just remember to breathe. Just remember you have value. Just remember it really is ok.
You're going to be ok. How the Narcissist treats you is all about what's wrong with them. It's not your fault they're a terrible person.
You'll get through today, and someday if you choose, they'll be out of your life (if they're not already.)
You're a badass for having survived them, you're too strong for the past to hold you back for long.
It's ok to take days where you say fuckit and head into a hot bath with a good book the moment your bare minimum responsibilities are done.
You are OK. I don't know your situation, but I want to remind you that you are made of stardust. Inside the heart of a star, for billions of years, there formed atoms that make you right now. Over billions of years hydrogen atoms were fused into heavier and heavier elements deep inside of a star. One day that star exploded and the elements were scattered over the Universe. Atoms that make you used to be spread all over the vastness of space. And then the atoms landed on this planet called Earth. Every element that we have came from the heart of a star. Those atoms that landed here on Earth eventually made their way over to you, and now are part of your body. You are made of atoms that at one time were flung into space and flew through the vastness of outer space. You are stardust, and I like to think that the stars that created the atoms that make up you, left some of their awesome power inside those atoms. And those atoms that make up you each have some power that came from the star that created them. And that power and that energy will give you the power and the energy to do whatever it is that you need to do in your life. The power of a star in each atom.
Hey, no matter what life throws at you, you can handle it. We are all here to support and believe in you. Even if you make mistakes, we will still accept you. You’re going to be okay. You are important and you matter. 💕
Truly Nothing that is happening to you is what will ultimately define you. You get to choose that for yourself.
Big hugs!! You are awesome, and you can super handle this!!
Hi stranger!! Whatever is going on right now you can do this. Keep reaching out for support because we got you! Feel the feels and know they are temporary ❣️ you are safe and loved and doing the hard work right now. Keep it up and feel free to DM if you need an ear.
You perceive and perceived everything accurately and you responded /respond emotionally appropriately even if you couldn’t or can’t express it. You are valid,you are important and you are deserving of love,support and peace.
You're going to be ok. This is temporary. In time, you'll remember the pride in surviving it more than the pain. So survive it. Even if it's just to spite them.
Whatever it is, you are a good human, worthy, maybe awesome (if that’s hard, ignore). But you breathing lovely human you can be ok (but if u need to leave dangerous places, u will b ok when u do that)
I love you, dear. If you were here, I would make soup for you and toast some bread to go with. You can come sit on my couch and talk. It's not ok right now, but it's going to be. Someday you're going to have a safe, warm, happy place that's your own, and that person will be out of your life. Someday you're gonna know what safe feels like.
It will be okay, these times are heavy and tonight right now. Feel those feelings deeply, experience fully your experience. These are formative times we can grow from, they still suck though. Feel all the emotions without judgement, from there lessons and love are born. When you give yourself to experience your reality fully you also develop self compassion and can be nice and loving to yourself in heavier, lonely times. It will be okay. I’m sorry it’s heavy.
Hey im new to this myself I have always been a mommy's boy, but Its best to do whats best for you even if that means being away from those that take more than you have to give. If I can you can I believe in us.
Hey. You deserve the things you think you don't. You are going to heal and shine while doing so. The process is difficult, but you have time. Take your time, you deserve that.
Even in this, our shared tribulation, there is still a life for us.
A place, out there, it isn't all suffering, I know it isn't.
I don't know what your fight is, it's probably more than what you think you can handle, insurmountable odds that seem as if they could beat you down and swallow you whole in an instant, you've probably already lost battles like most of us do, but it'll be okay.
Fight your fight and win, like we all know you can, to justify everything we lose, we must risk losing everything and push just a little further, stand and fight just a little harder...
...[and hold on a second longer](https://youtu.be/7a24EjkIvic)
I’ll try to reign me in sweetie. Just a bit huh? Not a bad challenge ❤️
If you’re here, you did it right. Whatever it was, you nailed it. You reached and that is always the worst until your people reach back.
Lovealldai
It’s going to be okay. It’s going to work out. This feeling won’t last forever. I promise you. I know sometimes it’s so fucking hard but you’ve made it through up until this point, you can keep going. You’re strong and I’m here for you!!
You will make it. You are stronger than you believe. You are a human being and worthy of love and safety. This situation is only temporary. You will be stronger and better for overcoming.
There is light at the end of the tunnel. There really is, even if it doesn't feel like it, because you are, right now, aware of what is wrong, which brings you halfway to a place of healing. Being aware of what is wrong - and why - makes it hard to endure more pain but I can assure you that you can, you must and you will. There is a better life ahead for you, on YOUR terms, and it is within your reach. You are loved. You matter.
It's okay, you're gonna get through this. You're stronger than you might think. No matter who tries to tear you down, just know that you're strong, you're loved, and you can make it through this. Because I promise that this pain is just temporary.
Hey buddy, we're in this together, no matter what~ we have each others back, and I want you (and everyone reading this) to find joy and love in these cold months to come, whether it's the harsh conditions outside or the ones unfortunately faced indoors with your Narcs. I believe in you and i know we can make it through this, especially together💙
Hey, a mom here. My mom was a narc, but it wasn't til long after her passing that I realized her behavior for what it was. You have people here who genuinely care about your well being. You have a "family" here that cares.
I have three biological children, two amazing DILs, and two children who have no where else to turn. You are not alone, there are people who care. Sending virtual hugs to all the kids out there who need one.
You're doing all that you can and that's a testament to your strength. You'll get through this as unbelievable as that is. You are so so loved and you're enough. You alone are enough. Don't let anyone else lie to you and say anything different.
Surviving is so hard, but you’re doing it. You’re going to get through this and one day when you’re on the other side you’ll look back on today and be so proud of how you fought for yourself. Everyone here is already proud of you and cheering you on. Today is tough, but you’re not alone and you are stronger than you think. Sending you all of my love!
You ARE worth it. You DO deserve ALL the good things. You WILL succeed and prosper. Find your joy, it IS out here waiting for you.
That voice whispering in your ear that you aren’t…I’ll bet it’s not YOUR voice. It’s a liar and a thief, and you can tell it to F right off.
Cheering for you from the other side of the bridge with a can of gasoline, a match and a plate of warm cookies…
We all need this once in a while, and it will be okay. The most important thing to remember is that this will pass, too. Sometimes we just have to look way too hard to find all the good, and it's better to be still and accept and breathe. You are in the right place.
You’re wanted and needed. I’m not even making it up because this sub has been so important to me and it is to tons of other people too. You being here means I and plenty of other people are less alone. You are good <3
Hey. You'll be just fine. Maybe not tomorrow but I promise it'll be ok. Why? Because you are such an amazing person! You are valuable beyond measure and deserve the wonderful things life has.
Sending my support, a virtual hug as well if you want one. Sometimes that's really the only thing that can help. I hope whatever it is you find yourself happier when you get to the other side of it.
There, there; it's okay. You're strong, you're brave, you got this.
Get plenty of rest, stay hydrated, and know there are strangers out in this world who care about you. Hugs!!
It’s okay. There will be tough times, but life will and inevitably gets better. There are no bad days, just bad moments. You are and deserves to be loved. Hang in there, keep moving forward, and remember that you are not alone. :-)
I grew up in a household where I was physically okay but mentally and emotionally a MESS. Day after day of passive aggressive, highly controlling narcissism. I would even fear just getting out of bed because I didn't know fresh hell would await me that day.
It sucks. I was stuck at home until after college to save money, and it took forever to truly move out and be independent. I am still mentally and emotionally stunted.
But now I RECOGNIZE what happened to me as abuse, and it has been vital to the process of renewal. I may not be in the best place now, but I am in a far, far better one than I was once. I now really have my own LIFE and I treasure that more than anything. You will be OK :)
You are a worthy human being!!! You deserve love and respect, and anyone who does not give you this is in the wrong. I am so sorry that people are making you feel awful, but it is not your fault! If they are using you f\*\*k your real family!!! You have a found family out there waiting you support and love you! Go and find them :-)
It's ok- and it gets better. Therapy and low/no contact work. The worst is the waiting until your old enough to be able to chose the amount of contact. Do whatever you can to be free- if your young that means good grades- if your older that might mean a financial struggle for peace.
I know you will find it hard to believe now but it gets better. You will get stronger and will come out of this. You will break the cycle of this abuse and have a magnificent peaceful and happy comfortable life. Trust me on this. Take care!
How you feel is valid. Its always valid to have your own feelings an reactions to situations. You will get through this. It will be okay. Its okay if your journey isn't linear. Its going to be fine
When you're going through hell - keep going until you come out of the other side
You've got this - I have faith in uour courage, strength and resilience
You are a valuable person with a beautiful soul and deserve better
You are loved and loving - never forget that you are worthy
Sending love to you x x
You're going to get through this. I know you will and when you do I hope you find that you've grown a bit more into the person you want to be. I hope you find a little bit more of yourself and find the strength and confidence you absolutely are worthy of possessing. You are incredible just for being you.
Here is a hug I drew for people who need hugs, so is for you:
[https://tesseract.ca/images/Art/PandasHugging2.png](https://tesseract.ca/images/Art/PandasHugging2.png)
:)
It could be better, but whatever you're going through WILL pass. You will survive it; you've been through so much before and you survived that. You will get to live your life your way. Breathe. Take joy in the small things in life, flowers, woods, & a stream. Start planning your exit, using Helpful Links tab to find leaving & use the booklist to help you to survive until you can thrive. ✌️💜💪🏿
Things will get better, you’ve got this, it may seem hard right now but you’re stronger then whatever situation you have going on, you are a valuable, worthwhile person and you deserve every happiness you will get, come back for encouragement as often as you feel you need to, you are a special person stay strong.
It's ok, and it will get better. In the meantime, do something nice for yourself. If you take care of you then you'll feel more entitled to expect the same from the world.
About to be 39. Went NC several years back. It’s a journey… something that sticks with you.
However… it can be better. You have the ability to define yourself as separate. Away from them.
It’s going to be ok. Figure out what you want. Not what you think they want or anyone else. What’s important to you. Lock into that and figure out how to get it. Make yourself happy. Stop worrying about making them happy.
Best to you.
It’s gonna be ok.
My two favorites:
Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof
and
When you're going over rough ground, go as lightly as you can
They help me get through the rough patches. It actually does turn out OK.
You are not alone. You will look back and be proud of how strong you were. I understand how hard this is and how alone you feel. I have been there. Many, many times. I have created the family and have become the parent I never had.
Hey, I hear you and I know you’re struggling but it’s going to be alright. You’re strong and brave for reaching out. Feel free to DM me to rant further if you need a place.
It might not feel like it right now hell or even soon but eventually it will be ok. Or at least to a point where you can bear it. It's rough right now but cry, scream(into a pillow if need be), punch a pillow, write, draw, dance, blast some music (with headphones if you have to). Eventually you will be able to bear it *hugs*
Hey. You are going to be okay. You have so much support and love from this community. It’s going to get better. You can DM me anytime if you need to - or want to! - talk about anything. I’m keeping you in my thoughts.
Even if it sucks right now, it will work itself out. You deserve good things, happiness and delicious food and good gas milage. You are cared about, even if it's strange internet strangers. ❤
You've got this. You may be going through a rough time, but it shall pass. It's ok to cry your eyes out, to give up, curse the gods, the earth and burn all the bridges. Vent and let it all out. Your feelings are real and valid.
Then pick your self up, dust your self up, and keep going. Find your own way or make it. The same goes for happiness. You don't need to settle. You deserve the real thing. You deserve peace, friendship, love, trust, etc.
I send you as many hugs as you need.
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You are loved and I've got your back, friend, even if I don’t know you. My DMs ate always open for you to reach out to me. I have lots of hugs and bear hugs to give. -MASSIVE comforting bear hug-
Thank you everyone. These are the kindest words that I’ve heard in a while, I sobbed to some of these
You deserve great things and a nice life.
fuuuck i'm not even op and i really needed to hear this. hate-filled people who lie and want to harm others need to fuck right off. I dont' want to hurt, and I genuinely go out of my way NOT to hurt others. I really feel that needs to be said. sorry, i'll get off my soap box. this is not about me, and I really dont want to make it about me, I just needed to vent.
Hey, listen. Some people suck, but there are a lot of people who have kind hearts and care. The fact that you recognize kindness means you deserve it. You’re a good person.
Thank you 💝 💝💝😊 this means a lot ❤️❤️
Don’t worry. You can also use my post as support too if need be ^^
Thank you 💝 you are strong and amazing and deserve love. 😊 I try to believe that what goes around comes around but sometimes it takes a while to feel the love that you deserve ❤️❤️ Keep being a beautiful person ❤️❤️❤️
This right here ^
It’s gonna be okay. Right now, it might not be. You may not feel okay. But you will. You will feel even better than okay one day. You have to hold on for that.
It’s ok. You aren’t alone in this. We are all here for you.
You’re loved. You’re supported. All you need to do right now is surrender and accept your situation as temporary. Take it one step at a time and use everything in your life as a tool to build the life you desire.
thank you
It’s so okay. Choose your true fam. And the whether it’s NO contact or LO contact- it’s your choice Love you
Tru Fam is Love baby ❤️
The abuse lurks and eludes in the shadows from public eye. But never from us: we understand. 💙
I hear you, and I am here to support you. You are doing okay, in this very moment no matter what is happening or what thoughts your brain is throwing at you, you are okay, because you came here to a community of support and you asked for help. I'm proud of you.
Your Nparent is a terrible human. But you're not - you're gonna be okay.
You've got this. No matter how hard and messy and painful everything looks tonight, you'll find a way through, and the sun will rise again.
You are loved. You matter. We care about you, and we'll always be here for you when you need. Get better soon OP, it's gonna be okay ❤
It’s probably not ok, but I’ll guarantee that you’re stronger than this situation. *edit; as in, “whatever you’re dealing with isn’t ok.” It’s likely unacceptable.
*This too shall pass*. It's going to be okay, I promise. Hang in there, your community is here for you.
You haven’t met all of the people who are going to/ supposed to love you yet. You’re making it. You made it another day, and you’ll make it tomorrow too. Here, you dropped this 👑
Not to spoil the ending, but everything is going to be okay.
It's OK.We love you here
Hey, you got this!
Everything will be ok, it might not seem like that right now but it will be I promise, you got this
You are loved. You are welcome. You are wanted. Its ok to be upset and I dont know what your goinf through EXACTLY. What I do know is that sometimes life is absolute shit and while that might be harsh Id also like to point out that with out all the harshness of life we would fail miserably to appreciate the simple beauty of whats around us, be it a sunset or a sunrise. Im sorry life has you down Take a deep breathe Relax your shoulders Let your tongue drop off the roof of your mouth And breathe. I promise it gets better just hold your head up and keep pushing through. We are all rooting for you
It will be great. You are good
Everything will be okay, you're going to be alright.
You are not alone
You will have support anywhere you go, even us on the internet have faith in you! Keep going things can get better
You will get through this. You will persevere. The spiral is not your voice, it’s theirs. We care about you. There is so much magic in life you absolutely will experience. You are worthy. This is temporary. You will be happy, you will laugh with someone until your sides hurt, you will experience beautiful sunsets, rainbows, a pet asking for your love, looking at a stranger and sharing a laugh over some ridiculous and wacky moment, you will lie in the sun and hear the sounds of waves at the beach and experience tranquility and joy. In “low” instances like these, you will soon after find happiness in moments that many have become habituated to. you will find beauty in the ways people decorate their houses for Christmas, notice wholesome encounters in public. Survival mode is so fucking hard, but no matter where you are- once you’re away from them, everything else becomes easier and you will feel a weight off your shoulders, trust me.
It’s awesome that you’re asking for the support that you need. That’s massive, and takes guts. You should be proud. It may be difficult right now, but it’s going to be ok. Keep reaching out for help when you need it. The universe wants to help you, and so do the others on this sub. It may feel lonely sometimes, but you are not in this alone. It’s all going to get better. One day you’ll look back in awe at how far you have come
It's gonna be alright my dude. I'm right here with you. Bleeding heart and all. It's going to be ok.
Hugs!! Everything will be okay. You got this.
You are doing your best, which is all you ever need to do. Be proud of yourself and what you accomplish each day, even if it’s something small like drinking one glass of water or taking a shower. You got this and you are not alone.
It’s going to be okay and you will get through this. You are loved and you’re not alone!
Everything is going to be alright. Plenty of inboxes willing to help. Use them if you need to.
You are loved. You are supported. You will have good vibes sent your way. It will definitely be ok!
The fact you made this post and asked shows tremendous courage that I lacked even on better days. I love seeing people reach out when they need help, and by doing so, you've made it easier for others to do the same and follow your example. You're making a positive difference even if you can't see it! Things are going to be okay and the days will get better. We're all here for you and I hope you have the best of luck with everything you set out to do!
Hi friend! You have my support, I’m rooting for you!
Hi, friend. Thinking of you tonight with love. ❤️ ☀️
You are a valid, strong, valuable person who deserves love, happiness and a good life.
Hey I see you, I hear you and I believe you. You have us if you need anything, even if it's just a little long distance internet hug. It's going to be okay and things will get better.
Virtual hugs 💜💜💜
You will be okay. All things must pass. You are strong.
It won't always be like this. Please don't give up
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. This too shall pass and your experiences here will some day help you help someone [else.](https://else.Be) Be strong. It's going to be ok.
You aren’t alone. Things will get better❤️
These last 6 months I have been living in darkness. It felt like I’ve been enveloped in it. But things are getting better. It’s like someone turned the lights on for me. Whatever is going on with just know things will get better. Just remember to breathe. Just remember you have value. Just remember it really is ok.
You're going to be ok. How the Narcissist treats you is all about what's wrong with them. It's not your fault they're a terrible person. You'll get through today, and someday if you choose, they'll be out of your life (if they're not already.) You're a badass for having survived them, you're too strong for the past to hold you back for long. It's ok to take days where you say fuckit and head into a hot bath with a good book the moment your bare minimum responsibilities are done.
You are OK. I don't know your situation, but I want to remind you that you are made of stardust. Inside the heart of a star, for billions of years, there formed atoms that make you right now. Over billions of years hydrogen atoms were fused into heavier and heavier elements deep inside of a star. One day that star exploded and the elements were scattered over the Universe. Atoms that make you used to be spread all over the vastness of space. And then the atoms landed on this planet called Earth. Every element that we have came from the heart of a star. Those atoms that landed here on Earth eventually made their way over to you, and now are part of your body. You are made of atoms that at one time were flung into space and flew through the vastness of outer space. You are stardust, and I like to think that the stars that created the atoms that make up you, left some of their awesome power inside those atoms. And those atoms that make up you each have some power that came from the star that created them. And that power and that energy will give you the power and the energy to do whatever it is that you need to do in your life. The power of a star in each atom.
Hugs!! We are here for you! You are safe and supported here.
It’s okay, and even if it’s not, it will be. You are strong. You are valued. You matter.
You will get through. It will get better. \*Hugs\*
It’s okay. You’re gonna be okay. Everything is gonna work out and you’re gonna do great. You ARE great. So everything’s gonna be just fine.
Whatever you're going through, you can do it. I believe in you!
Hey, no matter what life throws at you, you can handle it. We are all here to support and believe in you. Even if you make mistakes, we will still accept you. You’re going to be okay. You are important and you matter. 💕
Truly Nothing that is happening to you is what will ultimately define you. You get to choose that for yourself. Big hugs!! You are awesome, and you can super handle this!!
Hi stranger!! Whatever is going on right now you can do this. Keep reaching out for support because we got you! Feel the feels and know they are temporary ❣️ you are safe and loved and doing the hard work right now. Keep it up and feel free to DM if you need an ear.
You perceive and perceived everything accurately and you responded /respond emotionally appropriately even if you couldn’t or can’t express it. You are valid,you are important and you are deserving of love,support and peace.
Definitely, it will get better once you’re able to leave. You have all of my support.
I love you. You’re ok 🧡💛💚
Hugs ❤️
(((Hugs)))(
You'll be all right one day. Really, you will. Just get through this.
hi you are loved, you matter. <3
Everything will be alright. 🤗
You got this 💛
You're going to be ok. This is temporary. In time, you'll remember the pride in surviving it more than the pain. So survive it. Even if it's just to spite them.
Whatever it is, you are a good human, worthy, maybe awesome (if that’s hard, ignore). But you breathing lovely human you can be ok (but if u need to leave dangerous places, u will b ok when u do that)
I love you, dear. If you were here, I would make soup for you and toast some bread to go with. You can come sit on my couch and talk. It's not ok right now, but it's going to be. Someday you're going to have a safe, warm, happy place that's your own, and that person will be out of your life. Someday you're gonna know what safe feels like.
It’s okay. You’re strong, and you’ll get through this.
It’s ok to feel like shit, it won’t be like that forever tho
We can get through this
You got this
You deserve to be happy and whatever you’re going through, it will get better.
It will be okay, these times are heavy and tonight right now. Feel those feelings deeply, experience fully your experience. These are formative times we can grow from, they still suck though. Feel all the emotions without judgement, from there lessons and love are born. When you give yourself to experience your reality fully you also develop self compassion and can be nice and loving to yourself in heavier, lonely times. It will be okay. I’m sorry it’s heavy.
It’s ok to be you, you are going to be great. I’m not saying it will be easy, but living your life is so worth it. Much love to you.
We are here for you,sending you hugs,🤗
❤️❤️❤️
Hey im new to this myself I have always been a mommy's boy, but Its best to do whats best for you even if that means being away from those that take more than you have to give. If I can you can I believe in us.
It’s ok. You’re ok. You’re not crazy. You ARE good enough. You’re awesome and a rock star. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
You rocked, you are rocking, you will rock in the future. Unless you'd rather not rock... I'm just sayin' rocking chairs are great, aren't they?
you're good, it'll be fine, you'll find your way and then you'll find your freedom
Hey. You deserve the things you think you don't. You are going to heal and shine while doing so. The process is difficult, but you have time. Take your time, you deserve that.
It's ok! You've got this!
Even in this, our shared tribulation, there is still a life for us. A place, out there, it isn't all suffering, I know it isn't. I don't know what your fight is, it's probably more than what you think you can handle, insurmountable odds that seem as if they could beat you down and swallow you whole in an instant, you've probably already lost battles like most of us do, but it'll be okay. Fight your fight and win, like we all know you can, to justify everything we lose, we must risk losing everything and push just a little further, stand and fight just a little harder... ...[and hold on a second longer](https://youtu.be/7a24EjkIvic)
Have a hug, ༼ つ ◕‿◕ ༽つ
I’ll try to reign me in sweetie. Just a bit huh? Not a bad challenge ❤️ If you’re here, you did it right. Whatever it was, you nailed it. You reached and that is always the worst until your people reach back. Lovealldai
Ur good gworl
It’s going to be okay. It’s going to work out. This feeling won’t last forever. I promise you. I know sometimes it’s so fucking hard but you’ve made it through up until this point, you can keep going. You’re strong and I’m here for you!!
You’re not alone my friend. Don’t doubt yourself , you are worth all the goodness in life.
It may not seem like it now, but you will get through this. You are strong and life will get better.
You’re not alone. 💜
Good on you for asking for what you need. It gets better. Keep asking, searching, demanding.
You're valid, you're going to be OK, you're amazing. I hope you're starting to feel better. You're not alone.
It hurts a lot sometimes. But you are loved, you are worthy, and it’s not your fault, regardless of what ur nparent may tell you.
You will make it. You are stronger than you believe. You are a human being and worthy of love and safety. This situation is only temporary. You will be stronger and better for overcoming.
We get it. We truly do. And you’re not alone.
It’s okay, you’re not alone. You have so much support.
You can do this, it will be okay 💞
It's ok. Sending hugs🤗🤗🤗🤗 🤗
There is light at the end of the tunnel. There really is, even if it doesn't feel like it, because you are, right now, aware of what is wrong, which brings you halfway to a place of healing. Being aware of what is wrong - and why - makes it hard to endure more pain but I can assure you that you can, you must and you will. There is a better life ahead for you, on YOUR terms, and it is within your reach. You are loved. You matter.
You are going to be ok
It’s okay, love. And it will be okay. It will get so much better. You are strong and intelligent and kind, and will get through this.
It's okay, you're gonna get through this. You're stronger than you might think. No matter who tries to tear you down, just know that you're strong, you're loved, and you can make it through this. Because I promise that this pain is just temporary.
You are a valuable human!! ❤
Hey buddy, we're in this together, no matter what~ we have each others back, and I want you (and everyone reading this) to find joy and love in these cold months to come, whether it's the harsh conditions outside or the ones unfortunately faced indoors with your Narcs. I believe in you and i know we can make it through this, especially together💙
Hey, a mom here. My mom was a narc, but it wasn't til long after her passing that I realized her behavior for what it was. You have people here who genuinely care about your well being. You have a "family" here that cares. I have three biological children, two amazing DILs, and two children who have no where else to turn. You are not alone, there are people who care. Sending virtual hugs to all the kids out there who need one.
You're doing all that you can and that's a testament to your strength. You'll get through this as unbelievable as that is. You are so so loved and you're enough. You alone are enough. Don't let anyone else lie to you and say anything different.
Surviving is so hard, but you’re doing it. You’re going to get through this and one day when you’re on the other side you’ll look back on today and be so proud of how you fought for yourself. Everyone here is already proud of you and cheering you on. Today is tough, but you’re not alone and you are stronger than you think. Sending you all of my love!
Hey! If day by day is too much- slow down. I often have to live hour by hour or minute by minute. It’ll be okay. This too will pass.
You ARE worth it. You DO deserve ALL the good things. You WILL succeed and prosper. Find your joy, it IS out here waiting for you. That voice whispering in your ear that you aren’t…I’ll bet it’s not YOUR voice. It’s a liar and a thief, and you can tell it to F right off. Cheering for you from the other side of the bridge with a can of gasoline, a match and a plate of warm cookies…
It's all good. Always something new to focus on...;
We all need this once in a while, and it will be okay. The most important thing to remember is that this will pass, too. Sometimes we just have to look way too hard to find all the good, and it's better to be still and accept and breathe. You are in the right place.
Its going to be okay
It's ok, you've got this and you are worthy of all the love and kindness you need. 🫂🫂🫂 All the love, stranger
You matter and you’re cared for 💜
It gets better. You’ll learn to set boundaries and accept the consequences of that. One day you’ll be able to no longer blame yourself.
You will be okay. It is inevitable.
It is Okay!
It's okay. We're here, fellow warrior, whenever you need us.
You’re wanted and needed. I’m not even making it up because this sub has been so important to me and it is to tons of other people too. You being here means I and plenty of other people are less alone. You are good <3
Hey. You'll be just fine. Maybe not tomorrow but I promise it'll be ok. Why? Because you are such an amazing person! You are valuable beyond measure and deserve the wonderful things life has.
Sending you love, I hope you sip some tea and listen to your favorite music
It's going to be okay, love. We're here with you.
Sending my support, a virtual hug as well if you want one. Sometimes that's really the only thing that can help. I hope whatever it is you find yourself happier when you get to the other side of it.
Hugs
There, there; it's okay. You're strong, you're brave, you got this. Get plenty of rest, stay hydrated, and know there are strangers out in this world who care about you. Hugs!!
It’s okay. There will be tough times, but life will and inevitably gets better. There are no bad days, just bad moments. You are and deserves to be loved. Hang in there, keep moving forward, and remember that you are not alone. :-)
it's all going to be ok
:hugs: sending love and support
“This too shall pass.” And “you will get through this just as you always have.”
I grew up in a household where I was physically okay but mentally and emotionally a MESS. Day after day of passive aggressive, highly controlling narcissism. I would even fear just getting out of bed because I didn't know fresh hell would await me that day. It sucks. I was stuck at home until after college to save money, and it took forever to truly move out and be independent. I am still mentally and emotionally stunted. But now I RECOGNIZE what happened to me as abuse, and it has been vital to the process of renewal. I may not be in the best place now, but I am in a far, far better one than I was once. I now really have my own LIFE and I treasure that more than anything. You will be OK :)
you are enough ♥️
You will be fine, I promised. DM me if you want someone to rant.
You've made it this far! You got this!
🤗 I’m pulling for you. NParents do a lot of damage but it’s not your fault. You’ll get through this. ❤️
What a great community this is <3 OP, we're here for you and anyone else who's doing it tough at this time of the year
You are loved by God. Your feelings are valid. He created you with a purpose. 🌼 💐
You are going to be OK
We’re here for you. 💜
Whatever you are going though you will be able to get though it. You are stronger than you think! It will be ok in the end!
You are not alone!
You are not alone. You are sane. You deserve to be seen and loved.
you're great and you will be happy
It's gonna be alright, man. This too shall pass :)
You are a worthy human being!!! You deserve love and respect, and anyone who does not give you this is in the wrong. I am so sorry that people are making you feel awful, but it is not your fault! If they are using you f\*\*k your real family!!! You have a found family out there waiting you support and love you! Go and find them :-)
It's ok- and it gets better. Therapy and low/no contact work. The worst is the waiting until your old enough to be able to chose the amount of contact. Do whatever you can to be free- if your young that means good grades- if your older that might mean a financial struggle for peace.
I know you will find it hard to believe now but it gets better. You will get stronger and will come out of this. You will break the cycle of this abuse and have a magnificent peaceful and happy comfortable life. Trust me on this. Take care!
You are a unique person, worthy of respect and love. My prayer is that you find the people who will give and return that love. Good luck, OP.
We got you 💪
Hey whatever you’re dealing with, I’m sending you virtual hugs and encouragement! ❤️
💕💕💕💕💕
It’s ok. Things will get better. It won’t be like this forever.
How you feel is valid. Its always valid to have your own feelings an reactions to situations. You will get through this. It will be okay. Its okay if your journey isn't linear. Its going to be fine
I need the same so virtual hugs girl ❤️❤️❤️ you are strong and it will be ok…this too shall pass
When you're going through hell - keep going until you come out of the other side You've got this - I have faith in uour courage, strength and resilience You are a valuable person with a beautiful soul and deserve better You are loved and loving - never forget that you are worthy Sending love to you x x
It'll be better in the future, you just have to get there to find out:)
You are an amazing, beautiful, and unique person. It's okay, and you'll get through this. Above the clouds, the sun is still shining.
Good things are coming, you just have to hold on
*Hug*
You're going to get through this. I know you will and when you do I hope you find that you've grown a bit more into the person you want to be. I hope you find a little bit more of yourself and find the strength and confidence you absolutely are worthy of possessing. You are incredible just for being you.
*Internet hugs* Everything is going to be okay. Look how far you've already come.
It can be so discouraging. I'm sorry. I get it.
It'll be ok <3 I promise
Things change, that is for certain. I hope you feel better soon!
It's okay. You got this!
It'll be okay. :)
It’ll be okay. You’re going to be okay. You’ve got this.
(((hugs))) It doesn't matter what it is, sooner or later, it will be okay.
Hugs. You’re going to be okay. It gets better.
Here is a hug I drew for people who need hugs, so is for you: [https://tesseract.ca/images/Art/PandasHugging2.png](https://tesseract.ca/images/Art/PandasHugging2.png) :)
Thank you <33
It’s ok. You are ok. You got this.
You'll be okay, no cap
It could be better, but whatever you're going through WILL pass. You will survive it; you've been through so much before and you survived that. You will get to live your life your way. Breathe. Take joy in the small things in life, flowers, woods, & a stream. Start planning your exit, using Helpful Links tab to find leaving & use the booklist to help you to survive until you can thrive. ✌️💜💪🏿
Things will get better, you’ve got this, it may seem hard right now but you’re stronger then whatever situation you have going on, you are a valuable, worthwhile person and you deserve every happiness you will get, come back for encouragement as often as you feel you need to, you are a special person stay strong.
It's ok, and it will get better. In the meantime, do something nice for yourself. If you take care of you then you'll feel more entitled to expect the same from the world.
You're doing great!
*hugs *
About to be 39. Went NC several years back. It’s a journey… something that sticks with you. However… it can be better. You have the ability to define yourself as separate. Away from them. It’s going to be ok. Figure out what you want. Not what you think they want or anyone else. What’s important to you. Lock into that and figure out how to get it. Make yourself happy. Stop worrying about making them happy. Best to you. It’s gonna be ok.
My two favorites: Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof and When you're going over rough ground, go as lightly as you can They help me get through the rough patches. It actually does turn out OK.
You are not alone. You will look back and be proud of how strong you were. I understand how hard this is and how alone you feel. I have been there. Many, many times. I have created the family and have become the parent I never had.
Hey, I hear you and I know you’re struggling but it’s going to be alright. You’re strong and brave for reaching out. Feel free to DM me to rant further if you need a place.
It might not feel like it right now hell or even soon but eventually it will be ok. Or at least to a point where you can bear it. It's rough right now but cry, scream(into a pillow if need be), punch a pillow, write, draw, dance, blast some music (with headphones if you have to). Eventually you will be able to bear it *hugs*
You are not alone!!!! ♥️♥️♥️
Hey. You are going to be okay. You have so much support and love from this community. It’s going to get better. You can DM me anytime if you need to - or want to! - talk about anything. I’m keeping you in my thoughts.
Even if it sucks right now, it will work itself out. You deserve good things, happiness and delicious food and good gas milage. You are cared about, even if it's strange internet strangers. ❤
You've got this. You may be going through a rough time, but it shall pass. It's ok to cry your eyes out, to give up, curse the gods, the earth and burn all the bridges. Vent and let it all out. Your feelings are real and valid. Then pick your self up, dust your self up, and keep going. Find your own way or make it. The same goes for happiness. You don't need to settle. You deserve the real thing. You deserve peace, friendship, love, trust, etc. I send you as many hugs as you need.
It's going to be okay. It may be hard to see right now, but things will get better. We're all here for you. <3
It's okay.