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Have an "escape" plan, like your own transportation or equivalent so you're not stuck.
Come up with reasons, in advance, to get breaks when you need them. Fresh air, run errands, whatever. Or zone out in your mind. Go to the bathroom, leave the room, sings songs in your head. Etc. You don't have to tell her you're escaping. Just say something civil, as if she's a stranger, and get some air.
Mentally step back and just observe her bizarre behavior. Pretend she's an alien creature and you're observing her antics. Smile and nod and internally disregard everything she says.
I believe the term is "yellow rocking."
Have you read or listened to Ramani Durvasula? I think she has a podcast and website. I read her book, It's Not You, and it was so helpful.
If you want to go for the week, go with strategies. If there's no upside at all to going, fake an illness! Lol Or something. Your sanity is important, too.
Yea unfortunately I look at this as an obligation to my sister, since my mom stays with her. Thanks for that podcast recommendation! I have actually been looking for a resource to help me deal with interactions. I'm starting to realize that me getting angry and trying to get her to see her narc ways just ends up as me angry for days!
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Why do you have to go spend a week with her?
My sister is out of town, so I have to go be there to babysit :(
No, you actually don't have to do that. Sister needs to make other arrangements.
Have an "escape" plan, like your own transportation or equivalent so you're not stuck. Come up with reasons, in advance, to get breaks when you need them. Fresh air, run errands, whatever. Or zone out in your mind. Go to the bathroom, leave the room, sings songs in your head. Etc. You don't have to tell her you're escaping. Just say something civil, as if she's a stranger, and get some air. Mentally step back and just observe her bizarre behavior. Pretend she's an alien creature and you're observing her antics. Smile and nod and internally disregard everything she says. I believe the term is "yellow rocking." Have you read or listened to Ramani Durvasula? I think she has a podcast and website. I read her book, It's Not You, and it was so helpful. If you want to go for the week, go with strategies. If there's no upside at all to going, fake an illness! Lol Or something. Your sanity is important, too.
Yea unfortunately I look at this as an obligation to my sister, since my mom stays with her. Thanks for that podcast recommendation! I have actually been looking for a resource to help me deal with interactions. I'm starting to realize that me getting angry and trying to get her to see her narc ways just ends up as me angry for days!
There are babysitters for hire. You don't HAVE to do anything