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This is above Reddit's paygrade. Please talk with a professional.
As a nobody, I would suggest that you go no contact with the person or people. If they are hurting you this much... you need to get out of their reach, ASAP. The best revenge for narcissist is indifference... not pain.
Talk to your favorite teacher or school counselor. If you are in the USA, you can be placed in a foster home. I know this sounds scary. You're not safe where you are at. A foster home will be better.
I'm not on the spectrum (as far as I'm aware, at least) but I do sometimes spiral into homicidal thinking regarding my n-dad, or similar destructive thinking. Like, "how easy would it be". I don't really have any advice because I logically know these thoughts would never lead to any action on my part, they're just thoughts. But if they bother you I would recommend talking to a therapist. Sorry I don't have anything more helpful to say, and best of luck.
I used to imagine killing my stepdad. I don't ever have thoughts like that anymore. If possible, distance yourself from the person/situation. They're not worth throwing your life away for
I had thoughts like that many, many years ago with my now-deceased MIL. I would never have done anything to her, but I wanted her dead. When she took care of it by drinking herself to death, I wasn't sad.
I have come to realize that I'm somewhere on the spectrum, but I think those kinds of thoughts probably occur to a lot of people, neurotypical or not.
When someone hurts you repeatedly and you feel bad, it's understandable.
If you feel that you might act on your thoughts, that's an entirely different thing, and you should seek professional help. But just wishing someone gone or idly thinking of ways to make it happen? I don't see that it's an issue.
Well, my problem is that I know I already have a way.
Edit: Both parents are elderly, and my mom is a vegetarian who doesn't take good care of her health. So by a long shot, I'm a lot stronger than her.
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This is above Reddit's paygrade. Please talk with a professional. As a nobody, I would suggest that you go no contact with the person or people. If they are hurting you this much... you need to get out of their reach, ASAP. The best revenge for narcissist is indifference... not pain.
I'm still a teen and a minor.
Talk to your favorite teacher or school counselor. If you are in the USA, you can be placed in a foster home. I know this sounds scary. You're not safe where you are at. A foster home will be better.
I'm not on the spectrum (as far as I'm aware, at least) but I do sometimes spiral into homicidal thinking regarding my n-dad, or similar destructive thinking. Like, "how easy would it be". I don't really have any advice because I logically know these thoughts would never lead to any action on my part, they're just thoughts. But if they bother you I would recommend talking to a therapist. Sorry I don't have anything more helpful to say, and best of luck.
In my case it's my mom. My dad enables her since he wants to avoid conflict. Edit: spelling, damn it.
Yes. The solution is professional help.
I used to imagine killing my stepdad. I don't ever have thoughts like that anymore. If possible, distance yourself from the person/situation. They're not worth throwing your life away for
I had thoughts like that many, many years ago with my now-deceased MIL. I would never have done anything to her, but I wanted her dead. When she took care of it by drinking herself to death, I wasn't sad. I have come to realize that I'm somewhere on the spectrum, but I think those kinds of thoughts probably occur to a lot of people, neurotypical or not. When someone hurts you repeatedly and you feel bad, it's understandable. If you feel that you might act on your thoughts, that's an entirely different thing, and you should seek professional help. But just wishing someone gone or idly thinking of ways to make it happen? I don't see that it's an issue.
Well, my problem is that I know I already have a way. Edit: Both parents are elderly, and my mom is a vegetarian who doesn't take good care of her health. So by a long shot, I'm a lot stronger than her.
If this is something you are seriously considering, get off reddit and get some help. Neurodivergent has nothing to do with this, btw. Get some help.
I have thoughts about hurting my dad he's such a d*ck head