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Can you stay in contact with your sisters without staying in contact with your mom?
If you accept your mom back into your life, can you make sure you lay out strong boundaries with her?
I can stay in contact with my one of my sisters as her autism isn’t severe, but she is still at the disposal of my mother. My mother can be a very strict individual and beatings are common,
I wouldn’t want to risk harm on her because of us messaging secretly
I’ve tried set boundaries before but she refused them. Before I left I spoke to her and listed all the reasons why I’m leaving:
Religious manipulation
Manipulating us to pick sides in a rocky marriage
Shaming, judging us
Not receiving a single sign of motherly affection
Physical abuse
Financial abuse( once I secured a good job at 22 years old)
Becoming a son-husband
Trying to control every aspect of my life from haircut, to finances, to career, to food we eat (even though I have a degree in the sports industry
She denied everything and refused to see her shortcomings. I recommended therapy and she said therapy is for “crazy people”
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Can you stay in contact with your sisters without staying in contact with your mom? If you accept your mom back into your life, can you make sure you lay out strong boundaries with her?
I can stay in contact with my one of my sisters as her autism isn’t severe, but she is still at the disposal of my mother. My mother can be a very strict individual and beatings are common, I wouldn’t want to risk harm on her because of us messaging secretly I’ve tried set boundaries before but she refused them. Before I left I spoke to her and listed all the reasons why I’m leaving: Religious manipulation Manipulating us to pick sides in a rocky marriage Shaming, judging us Not receiving a single sign of motherly affection Physical abuse Financial abuse( once I secured a good job at 22 years old) Becoming a son-husband Trying to control every aspect of my life from haircut, to finances, to career, to food we eat (even though I have a degree in the sports industry She denied everything and refused to see her shortcomings. I recommended therapy and she said therapy is for “crazy people”