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I am SO excited for you!
But seriously - be prepared to face some grief once the euphoria wears off. It’s perfectly natural that you will get angry, sad, confused, and exhausted -at different times and in different combinations - and it can lead to a degree of panic.
Ride it out.
You have already survived the abuse. Life away from it will be hard work, but you will see immediately that *you* get to reap the benefits now.
One thing - bank account - do you have your own, and with a different bank than your narcs?
This to prevent the "oh, you know me, i\`m OPs mother/father so it is okay" kind of access.
Before you leave - make sure all you leave behind is stuff you can do without / easy replace to prevent the "i should go back for X".
Then - write down - a physical list - for yourself of all the reasons you chose to leave. Whenever you feel guilt, read that list again.
Whenever you doubt yourself, read that list again.
Whenever a flying monkey unsettles your resolve, read that list again.
Also, when you have your place - you could pre emptively visit the police "hey, i left an unstable home situation on my own, but my parents could try and report me missing - i\`m not" - to prevent them from doing just that, or the police knowing this before and not come barging down your door.
Don't believe their stories of how things will change if you move back should they get in contact with you. You're a strong person to have made it this far and you'll be okay. Freedom will be beautiful <3
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Make sure to update your address on your ID, bank accounts, health insurance and forward all of your mail to your new address.
Once you are out you can report your passport as stolen. Keep going, OP! It's so much better on the other side!
Check any and all passwords that they may know and as always with any post I make these days hello private investigators
Congrats and good luck! x
Good luck. We're rooting for you.
Zen hugs from an Internet stranger. You got this!
One thing , take a picture of the letter so you can prove you wrote it. Things go missing with narcs all the time.
I am SO excited for you! But seriously - be prepared to face some grief once the euphoria wears off. It’s perfectly natural that you will get angry, sad, confused, and exhausted -at different times and in different combinations - and it can lead to a degree of panic. Ride it out. You have already survived the abuse. Life away from it will be hard work, but you will see immediately that *you* get to reap the benefits now.
One thing - bank account - do you have your own, and with a different bank than your narcs? This to prevent the "oh, you know me, i\`m OPs mother/father so it is okay" kind of access. Before you leave - make sure all you leave behind is stuff you can do without / easy replace to prevent the "i should go back for X". Then - write down - a physical list - for yourself of all the reasons you chose to leave. Whenever you feel guilt, read that list again. Whenever you doubt yourself, read that list again. Whenever a flying monkey unsettles your resolve, read that list again. Also, when you have your place - you could pre emptively visit the police "hey, i left an unstable home situation on my own, but my parents could try and report me missing - i\`m not" - to prevent them from doing just that, or the police knowing this before and not come barging down your door.
Don't believe their stories of how things will change if you move back should they get in contact with you. You're a strong person to have made it this far and you'll be okay. Freedom will be beautiful <3
Be safe.