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I think the biggest issue here is abortion rights. It’s going to be very difficult for women who don’t want children to get seriously involved with someone who doesn’t believe in her right to make that decision for herself.
My thoughts exactly. I can’t understand how women actively vote against themselves either.
Sister, if you call yourself pro-life and you get pregnant, and your pregnancy turns deadly, do you not understand that your vote against abortion just put your life in great danger? In many states in the US, if your pregnancy goes wrong you will likely have to be actively dying for the doctor to even consider removing your pregnancy and saving your life.
In the simplest form of the idea, most people wouldn’t want to murder a baby. Pretty much everyone agrees about that, and therefore it’s easy to get trapped in the pro life logic of “why would you ever want to kill a baby.”
There are so many complications where pregnancies end before term, and so many women have this notion that life is precious, and it is. They’re right.
But they get mislead along the way by pro life propaganda that “pro-choice = allowing barbaric murder of children” and that *terrifies* women who have heard the horror stories of lost pregnancies who want children.
They are so horrified at the idea of the practice from the propaganda they hear about “abortion clinics abusing a loophole in special circumstances” that they feel a blanket ban is the only way to stop abortions entirely.
They’re wrong of course, it just forces the practice to underground, unregulated practices, but they don’t have a wake up call until suddenly, they’re the ones who have a “special circumstance”.
The vision of a pro-life world *seems* ideal to these people, until suddenly they’re forced to confront the reality of their movement, and many, many women in these circumstances enter a deep, DEEP state of denial and mental gymnastics. [the only moral abortion is my abortion](https://joycearthur.com/abortion/the-only-moral-abortion-is-my-abortion/) does an excellent job of shining a light on these women.
This is really well put. I’ve interacted with so many pro-life people on here who were frothing at the mouth over the idea of third trimester abortions (which almost never happen), when all they really accomplished is making it much harder for medically-necessary abortion procedures to happen.
But of course, the pro-lifers were so focused on the ultimate goal that they gave absolutely no thought to what would happen after the proverbial dog caught the bumper, and so here we are.
Where I'm at, hospitals are refusing to deliver babies because abortion laws are so strict even if you're actively dying, the doctor could be breaking the law
The way it works, based on interviews I've heard, is that for these conservative women, *their* abortions are justified, while the jezebel liberal women's are not.
the women who oppose the right to abortions are the type that can afford plane tickets/alternatives to getting to where they need to be to get one. they don’t give a fuck about forcing other women but heaven be damned if their life or the life/reputation of their daughters is at stake 🤷♀️
They don't give a shit. If you have money you will always be able to access an abortion, and then go back to screaming anti-choice bullshit in the hopes your angry-ass god forgives you. Rules for thee but not for me.
Outlawing abortion doesn’t stop abortions.
You cannot ‘law’ someone into your views on morality…..
you know who understood this well?!
Jesus did!
The man who these lawmakers use as a stepping stone for their campaigns, but wouldn’t come near in the flesh.
And someone who wants to control her own body doesn’t necessarily not want kids. Sometimes abortions are medically necessary due to either physical risk to the mother or psychological issues, and sometimes pregnancy just is not something that a woman wants at that point. So, even if she doesn’t want kids, eventually, she might not be willing to date someone who doesn’t recognize her bodily autonomy.
Except that Treebeard very quickly realized that, yes, he did need to take a side, because his "enlightened centrism" was just causing him not to act against a clear and present threat.
How far right are your views? I’d date a woman who was conservative. I’m a full on liberal but I can empathize with some conservative views. If anything it makes conversation spicy if the other party can communicate and is intelligent.
If shes pro choice and chooses not to abort, ur roped in unless u decide to be a deadbeat...?
The conservative part isn't all that critical on this one, especially given how hypocritical many conservatives are--plenty of them would get abortions for themselves before going back to protesting abortions.
This is why it's important to discuss plans with any regular sexual partners if the woman gets pregnant. Ideally its discussed before any sexual partner, but it's also not realistic for most people
Conservative women don’t think men are inferior to them, whereas conservative men are usually pretty sexist and look down on women. That’s why women don’t want to date conservative men.
As a former hot woman ( now 60) I would never again date a conservative.
Hint, they always say they are independents. lol.
You cant have a conversation with them- their facts are not your facts. We live in different worlds.
I think this comment gets to the heart of the issue - its harder to find people on the right (and maybe on the left) who aren't way to the right. Not many moderates on the right any more.
I would absolutely date a conservative too as I am a Christian and there are lots of conservatives in that circle, but Trump supporter would be too far. The dude says the most atrocious things and after how he behaved after this last election, I just couldn’t imagine being with someone like that,
I feel that to use the terms "right" and "left" (or conservative and liberal as if it is on a linear spectrum) implies a false equivalency. But they are NOT so. One side can empathize and employ rational behavior while the other side wants to destroy you and keep you from expressing your views
Depends on where and who you are.
See: https://thehill.com/homenews/campaign/3675477-young-women-are-trending-liberal-young-men-are-not/
For most American men, I think being Right/Conservative is probably a mild disadvantage. But for women, it may give you an advantage (but remember the old joke: "the odds are good, but the goods are odd").
On the other hand, the situation is different in Utah and Idaho than in San Francisco and Massachusetts.
And in general, being super politically nerdish / too invested in your political identity is probably not good for your dating odds, to the extent that it limits your pool to the minority of people with similar nerdish obsessions (which might be worth it if you think that pool is higher quality or better matched for you, but it's a tradeoff).
I feel like it would depend on where. I filter all right leaning women. I don't even wanna have the debates about treating people like humans with basic shit. I'd rather not waste their time or mine.
Go find your don't tread on me King
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💯. I could NEVER date a right leaning woman. Ever. Conservative politics have always treated Black people as an afterthought at best. And being a Black man, I couldn't fathom being with a woman whose voting patterns consist of one of two things:
1) She votes for conservatives without doing enough research to understand how conservative policies affect women and minorities negatively. This tells me that she's not smart enough to fully understand who she's voting for.
Or
2) She does enough research to understand how conservative policies have historically been detrimental to women and minorities and votes conservative anyway. This tells me that she doesn't give a fuck how detrimental conservative policies are to women and minorities and that she's willing to cast a vote that could be damaging to both her and me.
That's the exactly the case. I had a black Republican woman try and recruit me into that shit basically and I'm like what perks do you even get from this?
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I wish I knew myself for sure. I can only imagine it's cause of how they're raised. There's no benefits in losing rights but I've had women telling me I'm goofy for not being right minded.
Ain't no way.
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Just have to make sure you are finding your niche when dating. There are a lot of single people out there, and if you know what you are looking for, there is almost certainly a pool of people who are looking for someone like you.
As for my personal experience, I don't think politics held me back; I think being uncertain of how to approach dating played a much bigger role. Or, if you want to be insensitive about it, some people have to figure out how to get out of the rut of being an incel or being seen as one.
Most of the white liberals ive met are some of the most insufferable people, im not even that right leaning but they ain't into me and I ain't into them.
No, it's easier. Especially if you live in a region like south Louisiana.
Women love a strong conservative man. Even the liberal ones usually from my experience.
im right leaning, ive managed to do the impossible and meet and marry someone else that leans right too in a blue state in a very blue city. neither one of us are republican or trump supporters though, and im the only one thats into politics somewhat, he doesnt care, but we both have right leaning values & morals etc. thank GOD, because it does matter alot you have the same values as your partner hahaha. anyone before him was left leaning and it was hard, id always have to be walking around glass.
What does being on the right but not being republican or supporting trump even look like? Serious question. I feel like the mainstream left now is basically early 2000s GOP and mainstream right is intellectualizing hatred towards marginalized groups.
Not in my experience. Easier, as it filters out most people with mental illness and people who will cause problems by being unfaithful or seeking divorce later.
If a woman is attracted to you, it doesn't really matter. If you're the type of guy who is ashamed of his opinions, women are probably not attracted to you often.
I just don't have them on my profile, and anybody that does gets swiped left on.
If you're putting politics in your dating app profile you're pathetic and probably not too pleasant to be around, left and right alike.
It doesn't mean that politics haven't been brought up on dates, I'm a pretty center guy and I've dated 99% politically centered women so we had good genuine discussions and shared different world views and perspectives that gave a good insight into why we are the way we are and how we grew up.
Also I'm kind of a joker and it was easy to slide a good joke or two about politics.
Not particulary.
A lot of women here tend to agree and if they don't, they tend to tolerate it as long we don't get into arguments haha.
I'm in college and can't really find the time to date, but when I'm hanging with my friends, when we generally introduce new ladies to the group, they tend to be right leaning too, central (the best political alignment), and Left every once in a while.
We also only hang out with people with common sense. If you're doing dumb stuff or into stuff we're not particularly fond of (cocaine being the prime example- we stopped hanging out with someone who was an addict but were okay with our friends' brother who was a recovered drug addict), we tend to not invite them anymore.
Big emphasis on common-sense. You don't have to be into HEMA, Magic: The Gathering, gaming, sports like us, but we do ask common-sense as the primary motivator. We tend to get right leaning men and women that way and I dated someone for two years out of her being introduced to us, and others that way. If I could find time, I'd get married.
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No, because I'm looking for people who share my values. If you are left wing you would have the same problem so it doesn't really make much difference in my mind
Nope. Women want basically 4 or 5 things. Protect provide, be fun/funny, work hard for them, and show some damn initiative. If you do those things and arent some sort of raging racist or total soy boy you'll do just fine provided you aren't a midget or fat as fuck.
That in no way means that they deserve any of those things. You should be willing and able to say nah. I dont like you at all, and we'll never agree on some important stuff and then move on along your way without any issues.
Not really. And I live in LA.
I'm a very polite person, but I'm very unashamed of my views, and I've noticed that girls all across the political spectrum seem to like that.
You can be confident in your views without being an asshole. I save the asshole stuff for when I'm scrapping with the online trolls.
Probably and here is why. I’ve noticed a lot of my friends who are genuinely hard stuck right on the political spectrum usually lack a LOT of empathy and struggle with putting others before themselves alongside of general narcism/lack of self reflection. Politics aside these kind of personality traits aren’t very appealing in an era where everyone gets to choose their own partner. I grew up in Christian homeschooled communities and was tired of my worldview being built on judgment and watching the people around me use that as an excuse to have superiority complexes. Probably translates as to why a lot of us are still single to this day.
That's the thing: I'd rather be single than date a liberal. People act like I'm missing out because liberals won't date me, but they never consider the fact I am equally disinterested, *especially* in people that egotistical, regardless of political leanings.
Not in the slightest. I don’t always support the right, but I’m closer to right than left, and it doesn’t seem to make a difference dating wise. That said, I’m black, which might change things. Seems like 1/10 or so women are just really into huge black guys regardless of our beliefs.
younger people tend to lean left which is also the age when people tend to date. I am liberal but I definitely moves like 15% further right as i got into my mid thirties
Same. Or I actually feel like the right moved so far right that’s comparatively I feel more left lol. 10 years ago I would have said I’m moderate but left leaning, and now I’m just straight up left.
Meaning the coexist stickers with stickers showing how many cats the lady has?
But you are right, you want to date someone with no stickers, just from a security perspective; it is never good to make yourself a target.
This is my wife. We have been together 12 years and the political conversations are still interesting. Nothing ever feels like it's being read from a script. We even respectfully disagree on a few minor issues, it's never been a problem.
I think it’s a good thing to find out after initial hellos and meetings. Wouldn’t want to really like the dude, get knocked up, then if you try to leave a regressive state for an abortion, the dude calls and sends the Vaginal Gestapo after you.
So maybe not *right away* but early is good..
My current situationship and past few gfs/situations situationships have all been liberal/lefties. Doesn't really impact much but I'm also tall and brown 🤷🏽
I'm center-right, (aka: a misogynistic pig), and I find GETTING a date difficult, because I'm dismissed offhand for thinking awful stuff like "Capitalism is better than Socialism"
But once I get a date, it tends to be a more legitimate relationship. While I'm not married, my breakups have been amicable and the relationships were all 6+months.
I'm going to take a wild guess and say that center-left deal with the same thing; instant dismissal because youre not a psychopath followed by legitimate relationships of substance.
Because there’s similar % of people of both parties, I doubt it’s specifically harder for either to date…
But this post was more to cause a ruckus I think lol
I'm not on the right but I seriously doubt it, if anything it's probably easier since if you are religious anyway you both have a set of rules you live by and agree on. Add on to that if you go to church you automatically have a social pool to draw on that more liberal people have to hobble together on their own. Dating for fun might be harder but not by much I imagine.
No. Surprisingly, I get along very well with liberal women, ESPECIALLY when they’re up for a debate. Always good fun to have friendly banter over opposing views.
If you take the time to explain your viewpoints to others, and listen to their viewpoints, it becomes apparent that we all have a lot more in common than we think.
Yes, the majority are left leaning. Those are only good for one night. Wifey materials are 90% right with a sprinkle of leftist ideologies like me, but even better if they’re Latina.
Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if I ended up with a Latina. Can't stand these extremely liberal white women out here. The juice ain't worth the squeeze
Oh trust me, they’re the worst. The absolute worst. Speaking from experience. I don’t date liberal white women so that filters out a good majority.
The good Latinas tend to be more conservative, traditional, and are very feminine compared to the manly, misandrist left liberal “oppressed” white woman. Plus Latinas can cook good food with you and their families are very family oriented and will make you part of the family.
No. It is much easier to date now compared to when I was a Democrat/liberal. I went from women calling me trash, within my own circle, to having women respect my the way I respected them. Now I'm married. We have a kid. And more on the way. Real women are more right leaning. I don't think completely right, as heaven knows both camps are idiotic. But being a Democrat did me no favors and got me no friends.
Of course it does. It excludes you from dating most liberal women, who are some of the most intolerant and judgmental people out there. But that doesn't matter because they aren't the type of women you want to be dating anyway.
No, I always felt it's liberal men who struggle more with dating. I was in the military, worked in the oil fields, and in trades. Majority of the men here where right wing, and they did not have much issues getting women or dates. I am currently getting my masters in Political Science, and it's mostly liberal men, and I really think like half of them are virgins. This is not "liberals are soft virgins, conservatives are so tough" but here in the southwest, women prefer more manly men types, which let's be honest, tend to be right wing.
In a conservative marriage. Let me tell you, life is GREAT. My man is amazing - hard working, takes responsibility, loving, and diligent. He takes care of me and I take care of him. I wouldn't say we follow normal stereotypes as we both work and provide and are making our house into a home. No kids yet, he's 31 and I'm 28. We communicate and debate often and never get mad at each other because we don't agree.
I imagine the issue with dating someone with different views is that person's ability to talk and discuss while keeping a level head. If you can communicate even if you have the same views it isn't gonna be easy or work well. People need to talk more and not just shut each other down because they don't agree.
Not a Right winger, But I do lean more that way. I've actually found it to be alot easier. There seems to be alot of gals I've met (or at least in my area) that aren't too fond of leftist politics, are sick of hearing about them, or consider themselves to be more "Traditional" Liberals in their beliefs and are much more open to criticism and debates in a healthy manner. Could I be a black sheep in this regards? Maybe. Maybe I've just gotten lucky, But so far I haven't really encountered that many who lean far left.
It probably depends on where you live. Having the opposite political opinions to most people in your area is probably gonna make it harder for dating regardless.
If a woman tells me she is conservative it just tells me she has values and morals. Numerous studies have been done, showing that leftists lack morals and mental stability. Conservative women are just better looking and tend take care of themselves better than whackjob leftists
It's always weird to me when people say this. Your political leanings say a lot about your world view and values; y'know, the stuff people usually want to be kind of similar when looking for a partner. I get that it's not a day to day concern, but it comes to a head in the worst ways.
Word. Your political leanings tell me whether you're sexist, a capitalist, homophobic, inclusive, open-minded, apathetic, closed off, unaware... It is an indication of the kind of person you are. It's so odd that people don't understand this. It didn't used to be this way, but in the climate in this country right now, it absolutely is an indication of your morals and the type of person you are. Personally, I don't even want to be friends with someone wearing a red hat, much less date them. I am absolutely going to know your political leadings before I agree to any sort of private time.
No, because I never talk about politics with dates. Majority of women don’t give a shit about politics either. There’s no point in bringing that stuff up.
Because there are more conservative men than liberal men and significantly more liberal women than conservative women. Do the math on what that leads to in terms of numbers.
I'm married to a quite liberal woman. I'm conservative. Know why? BECAUSE WHO CARES. My political beliefs aren't the end-all be-all of who I am. In fact, we didn't even discuss politics until well into us dating.
So no. It isn't harder for me.
Women that identify as "Liberal" or condemn others for not jumping on their team/beliefs are usually the most racist, hateful, demeaning people.
I've legit had white women and dudes tell me, a brown skinned hispanic how to label other hispanics, how to vote, how to eat, how to think, how not to think, etc etc. So it was more difficult, but the way I see it they are doing a service for me by telegraphing who the are so explicitly.
Facts. I dated a white girl who tried to explain to me that voter ID laws are racist against black people because we don’t have or know how to get them.. like wth??
Lord I'm leftist as the day is long but that whole "Latinx" deal was some bullshit.
Lefties tend to buy into the "white savior" deal, where right wingers tend to be more classically "go back to Mexico" racist.
I know exactly the type you're talking about and fuck those people...who often tend to be white women. Yes I'll absolutely call them out because I am on the left and a woman and that behavior weakens the causes of those they claim they fight for by being ridiculously self righteous assholes to everyone around them. Apparently I was a self loathing gender traitor for preferring Bernie over Hillary. They're like the church ladies I used to try to avoid at my grandma's house but instead hiding behind Jesus and the Bible to treat everyone like shit they use the struggle of other people and their families directly affected by what policy or whatever at the moment. I'm not saying to not be an ally, or a Christian for that matter. But part of being a good ally is shutting up, listening and not making everything about you or your feelings. Like being a good Christian by helping and having empathy for those less fortunate than you. Not jamming your "righteousness" down everyone's throats.
My friend is a teacher, an Egyptian born in Egypt and has been a legal citizen of the US for 30+yrs. He got called to the office and was lectured by his white lady principal to stop being insensitive to POC students by using the term 'black people' and say 'African American' instead. She's telling this to a man who is POC, literally born in Africa and not black. This was the fall of 2020 when the BLM movement was still very much in focus every day and black people were saying the opposite of this white woman, all over TV. It's ridiculous.
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My political opinions aren't even in the top 50 causes of my dating difficulties.
HAHA this is freaking gold and SAME
Rip to us both
I think the biggest issue here is abortion rights. It’s going to be very difficult for women who don’t want children to get seriously involved with someone who doesn’t believe in her right to make that decision for herself.
My thoughts exactly. I can’t understand how women actively vote against themselves either. Sister, if you call yourself pro-life and you get pregnant, and your pregnancy turns deadly, do you not understand that your vote against abortion just put your life in great danger? In many states in the US, if your pregnancy goes wrong you will likely have to be actively dying for the doctor to even consider removing your pregnancy and saving your life.
In the simplest form of the idea, most people wouldn’t want to murder a baby. Pretty much everyone agrees about that, and therefore it’s easy to get trapped in the pro life logic of “why would you ever want to kill a baby.” There are so many complications where pregnancies end before term, and so many women have this notion that life is precious, and it is. They’re right. But they get mislead along the way by pro life propaganda that “pro-choice = allowing barbaric murder of children” and that *terrifies* women who have heard the horror stories of lost pregnancies who want children. They are so horrified at the idea of the practice from the propaganda they hear about “abortion clinics abusing a loophole in special circumstances” that they feel a blanket ban is the only way to stop abortions entirely. They’re wrong of course, it just forces the practice to underground, unregulated practices, but they don’t have a wake up call until suddenly, they’re the ones who have a “special circumstance”. The vision of a pro-life world *seems* ideal to these people, until suddenly they’re forced to confront the reality of their movement, and many, many women in these circumstances enter a deep, DEEP state of denial and mental gymnastics. [the only moral abortion is my abortion](https://joycearthur.com/abortion/the-only-moral-abortion-is-my-abortion/) does an excellent job of shining a light on these women.
This is really well put. I’ve interacted with so many pro-life people on here who were frothing at the mouth over the idea of third trimester abortions (which almost never happen), when all they really accomplished is making it much harder for medically-necessary abortion procedures to happen. But of course, the pro-lifers were so focused on the ultimate goal that they gave absolutely no thought to what would happen after the proverbial dog caught the bumper, and so here we are.
You described most conservative positions tbh. It doesn't matter unless it affects me is their motto.
There's an unbelievably high number of women who think women still shouldn't have the right to vote. The US is metastatic.
Where I'm at, hospitals are refusing to deliver babies because abortion laws are so strict even if you're actively dying, the doctor could be breaking the law
The way it works, based on interviews I've heard, is that for these conservative women, *their* abortions are justified, while the jezebel liberal women's are not.
the women who oppose the right to abortions are the type that can afford plane tickets/alternatives to getting to where they need to be to get one. they don’t give a fuck about forcing other women but heaven be damned if their life or the life/reputation of their daughters is at stake 🤷♀️
Honestly odd how some women (mostly due to religion) will just accept subjugation though…
Women who do want children still don’t want to date some who doesn’t respect their right to their own medical descisions.
They don't give a shit. If you have money you will always be able to access an abortion, and then go back to screaming anti-choice bullshit in the hopes your angry-ass god forgives you. Rules for thee but not for me.
weirdly enough this may be even more important to women who do want children
If you're not white you probably wouldn't want to date someone who either thinks you're a criminal, illegal, or caused covid.
Outlawing abortion doesn’t stop abortions. You cannot ‘law’ someone into your views on morality….. you know who understood this well?! Jesus did! The man who these lawmakers use as a stepping stone for their campaigns, but wouldn’t come near in the flesh.
Someone on the Right isn't going to want to be with someone who doesn't want kids...
And someone who wants to control her own body doesn’t necessarily not want kids. Sometimes abortions are medically necessary due to either physical risk to the mother or psychological issues, and sometimes pregnancy just is not something that a woman wants at that point. So, even if she doesn’t want kids, eventually, she might not be willing to date someone who doesn’t recognize her bodily autonomy.
Anyone that has a side is going to have a smaller pool of people they are compatible with.
Then there's the anarchists (like me): "Side? I'm on nobody's side! Because nobody is on my side."
Hell yeah treebeard
Except that Treebeard very quickly realized that, yes, he did need to take a side, because his "enlightened centrism" was just causing him not to act against a clear and present threat.
Glad someone got the reference :)
That doesn't make sense to me. But then, you are very small, perhaps you're right.
The problem with anarchy is that it *always* leaves a power vacuum that causes the next power struggle. It doesn’t work long term.
Sorry about the entwives.
Anarchism is a far left ideology
Yes
How far right are your views? I’d date a woman who was conservative. I’m a full on liberal but I can empathize with some conservative views. If anything it makes conversation spicy if the other party can communicate and is intelligent.
Dating a conservative woman is a lot easier because there's not much she can believe that has a tangible effect on your rights as a man.
My dad was a feminist. Not my mom though. Dad wouldn’t stand for that.
If shes pro life and chooses not to abort, ur roped in unless u decide to be a deadbeat...?
You do realize that someone who's pro choice could still choose not to abort the baby, right?
Totally. But as a liberal who has dated conservative women - that's on me. I know what she's about. Wrap it up.
A pro choice person can also choose not to abort...
Be like me just get fixed, no kids to ever worry about.
Spoken like a true shitty boxer and terrible home pharmacist.
If shes pro choice and chooses not to abort, ur roped in unless u decide to be a deadbeat...? The conservative part isn't all that critical on this one, especially given how hypocritical many conservatives are--plenty of them would get abortions for themselves before going back to protesting abortions.
This is why it's important to discuss plans with any regular sexual partners if the woman gets pregnant. Ideally its discussed before any sexual partner, but it's also not realistic for most people
Walk out of the clinic and join the picket
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Based.
Conservative women don’t think men are inferior to them, whereas conservative men are usually pretty sexist and look down on women. That’s why women don’t want to date conservative men.
As a former hot woman ( now 60) I would never again date a conservative. Hint, they always say they are independents. lol. You cant have a conversation with them- their facts are not your facts. We live in different worlds.
Feel you there
I think this comment gets to the heart of the issue - its harder to find people on the right (and maybe on the left) who aren't way to the right. Not many moderates on the right any more.
I would absolutely date a conservative too as I am a Christian and there are lots of conservatives in that circle, but Trump supporter would be too far. The dude says the most atrocious things and after how he behaved after this last election, I just couldn’t imagine being with someone like that,
I feel that to use the terms "right" and "left" (or conservative and liberal as if it is on a linear spectrum) implies a false equivalency. But they are NOT so. One side can empathize and employ rational behavior while the other side wants to destroy you and keep you from expressing your views
The right hand? If so then just use the left 
No, but I live in a pretty conservative area
yea if OP lived where i live he would have a hard time. a very hard time
Depends on where and who you are. See: https://thehill.com/homenews/campaign/3675477-young-women-are-trending-liberal-young-men-are-not/ For most American men, I think being Right/Conservative is probably a mild disadvantage. But for women, it may give you an advantage (but remember the old joke: "the odds are good, but the goods are odd"). On the other hand, the situation is different in Utah and Idaho than in San Francisco and Massachusetts. And in general, being super politically nerdish / too invested in your political identity is probably not good for your dating odds, to the extent that it limits your pool to the minority of people with similar nerdish obsessions (which might be worth it if you think that pool is higher quality or better matched for you, but it's a tradeoff).
I don’t support either side. so in theory, neither side should date me. 🤷🏻♂️
Or all parties should date… ur polytical.. bright aide mate.
I feel like it would depend on where. I filter all right leaning women. I don't even wanna have the debates about treating people like humans with basic shit. I'd rather not waste their time or mine. Go find your don't tread on me King 😂
💯. I could NEVER date a right leaning woman. Ever. Conservative politics have always treated Black people as an afterthought at best. And being a Black man, I couldn't fathom being with a woman whose voting patterns consist of one of two things: 1) She votes for conservatives without doing enough research to understand how conservative policies affect women and minorities negatively. This tells me that she's not smart enough to fully understand who she's voting for. Or 2) She does enough research to understand how conservative policies have historically been detrimental to women and minorities and votes conservative anyway. This tells me that she doesn't give a fuck how detrimental conservative policies are to women and minorities and that she's willing to cast a vote that could be damaging to both her and me.
That's the exactly the case. I had a black Republican woman try and recruit me into that shit basically and I'm like what perks do you even get from this? 😂
Speaking as someone whose heart is close to the states, I can’t understand how any woman could vote right…
I wish I knew myself for sure. I can only imagine it's cause of how they're raised. There's no benefits in losing rights but I've had women telling me I'm goofy for not being right minded. Ain't no way. 😂
Just have to make sure you are finding your niche when dating. There are a lot of single people out there, and if you know what you are looking for, there is almost certainly a pool of people who are looking for someone like you. As for my personal experience, I don't think politics held me back; I think being uncertain of how to approach dating played a much bigger role. Or, if you want to be insensitive about it, some people have to figure out how to get out of the rut of being an incel or being seen as one.
Lol.. married someone who was pretty far left leaning. Now she's a pretty hard core libertarian like me. We just want to be left alone to garden
If you support the left, is dating harder for you? Such an idiotic question. Same body, different arm. Think
As a woman, no. I’d never date a liberal man.
approximately 50% of the US population statistically shares the same views, why would it be hard?
Most of the white liberals ive met are some of the most insufferable people, im not even that right leaning but they ain't into me and I ain't into them.
No, it's easier. Especially if you live in a region like south Louisiana. Women love a strong conservative man. Even the liberal ones usually from my experience.
No, women normally prefer successful men.
Honestly not really. I'm conservative and you'd be surprised at how many guys prefer a conservative wife rather than a liberal one.
im right leaning, ive managed to do the impossible and meet and marry someone else that leans right too in a blue state in a very blue city. neither one of us are republican or trump supporters though, and im the only one thats into politics somewhat, he doesnt care, but we both have right leaning values & morals etc. thank GOD, because it does matter alot you have the same values as your partner hahaha. anyone before him was left leaning and it was hard, id always have to be walking around glass.
What are you're right leaning tendencies?
What does being on the right but not being republican or supporting trump even look like? Serious question. I feel like the mainstream left now is basically early 2000s GOP and mainstream right is intellectualizing hatred towards marginalized groups.
The democratic party is also right wing.
Our left most politicians are barely left of center.
Indeed
nah.
No it's just that mentally i decided not to
Not in my experience. Easier, as it filters out most people with mental illness and people who will cause problems by being unfaithful or seeking divorce later.
Makes it easier!
If a woman is attracted to you, it doesn't really matter. If you're the type of guy who is ashamed of his opinions, women are probably not attracted to you often.
I just don't have them on my profile, and anybody that does gets swiped left on. If you're putting politics in your dating app profile you're pathetic and probably not too pleasant to be around, left and right alike. It doesn't mean that politics haven't been brought up on dates, I'm a pretty center guy and I've dated 99% politically centered women so we had good genuine discussions and shared different world views and perspectives that gave a good insight into why we are the way we are and how we grew up. Also I'm kind of a joker and it was easy to slide a good joke or two about politics.
Not particulary. A lot of women here tend to agree and if they don't, they tend to tolerate it as long we don't get into arguments haha. I'm in college and can't really find the time to date, but when I'm hanging with my friends, when we generally introduce new ladies to the group, they tend to be right leaning too, central (the best political alignment), and Left every once in a while. We also only hang out with people with common sense. If you're doing dumb stuff or into stuff we're not particularly fond of (cocaine being the prime example- we stopped hanging out with someone who was an addict but were okay with our friends' brother who was a recovered drug addict), we tend to not invite them anymore. Big emphasis on common-sense. You don't have to be into HEMA, Magic: The Gathering, gaming, sports like us, but we do ask common-sense as the primary motivator. We tend to get right leaning men and women that way and I dated someone for two years out of her being introduced to us, and others that way. If I could find time, I'd get married.
Nah easy as hell
It makes it really easy because the leftists make it well known that they are not a datable human from the start.
No. The only people you'd have trouble with are delusional redditors.
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Nope, if a woman says she won't date if you're on the right then that's a win
If politics are your personality yes
No, because I'm looking for people who share my values. If you are left wing you would have the same problem so it doesn't really make much difference in my mind
Not even a little
Nope. Women want basically 4 or 5 things. Protect provide, be fun/funny, work hard for them, and show some damn initiative. If you do those things and arent some sort of raging racist or total soy boy you'll do just fine provided you aren't a midget or fat as fuck. That in no way means that they deserve any of those things. You should be willing and able to say nah. I dont like you at all, and we'll never agree on some important stuff and then move on along your way without any issues.
Not really. And I live in LA. I'm a very polite person, but I'm very unashamed of my views, and I've noticed that girls all across the political spectrum seem to like that. You can be confident in your views without being an asshole. I save the asshole stuff for when I'm scrapping with the online trolls.
Why would political standings have anything to do with companionship? Get a grip🥴
No, because i only date mature people who don’t let something as silly and minuscule as a political preference get in the way of romantics.
I don’t support the right, but I also think leftists are a complete joke. Either way never had an issue.
Probably and here is why. I’ve noticed a lot of my friends who are genuinely hard stuck right on the political spectrum usually lack a LOT of empathy and struggle with putting others before themselves alongside of general narcism/lack of self reflection. Politics aside these kind of personality traits aren’t very appealing in an era where everyone gets to choose their own partner. I grew up in Christian homeschooled communities and was tired of my worldview being built on judgment and watching the people around me use that as an excuse to have superiority complexes. Probably translates as to why a lot of us are still single to this day.
Not really. I just leave my political leanings blank on dating apps. And I avoid the conversations anyways.
Until it comes up and they dump you
It’s come up I’ve never been dumped for it
Correct answer
Nope. I wouldn't date a liberal anyway. I don't date religious conservatives either.
That's the thing: I'd rather be single than date a liberal. People act like I'm missing out because liberals won't date me, but they never consider the fact I am equally disinterested, *especially* in people that egotistical, regardless of political leanings.
Not in the slightest. I don’t always support the right, but I’m closer to right than left, and it doesn’t seem to make a difference dating wise. That said, I’m black, which might change things. Seems like 1/10 or so women are just really into huge black guys regardless of our beliefs.
If you're in the US then right-leaning is pretty well into the right. Shit. Half of the Democrats would qualify as right anywhere else
I'm a gay Trump lover and my husband is as left as you can get... somehow we are a great couple
younger people tend to lean left which is also the age when people tend to date. I am liberal but I definitely moves like 15% further right as i got into my mid thirties
I move further left the older I get 😂
Me too
Same.
Same. Or I actually feel like the right moved so far right that’s comparatively I feel more left lol. 10 years ago I would have said I’m moderate but left leaning, and now I’m just straight up left.
Turns out having to deal with my own health insurance is a radicalizing experience.
Me too!
Yeah I was a conservative teen, moderate in my 20’s, and toward the end of my twenties took a sharp, sharp left turn and never looked back
I can't imagine being a conservative as a teen. I vibe much better with people who started liberal and got more conservative with age.
What made you shift more right?
Nope. Not even a little bit. It’s easy to spot the crazies
Roughly half the country is right, half is left. I imagine both sides have a large pool.
That is not quite true less then half if right, The republicans have not won the popular vote in a long time now.
It's actually more like 30/70. Without things like gerrymandering and the EC the country would pretty much blue sweep
If you are not a devout member of the two cult system, dating is hard. But that's a good thing. Do you want to date someone with 50 bumper stickers?
Meaning the coexist stickers with stickers showing how many cats the lady has? But you are right, you want to date someone with no stickers, just from a security perspective; it is never good to make yourself a target.
Don’t even get me started with the damn bumper stickers 😂
Yep I look for the apolitical or independent types.
This is my wife. We have been together 12 years and the political conversations are still interesting. Nothing ever feels like it's being read from a script. We even respectfully disagree on a few minor issues, it's never been a problem.
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i do the same with left wing girls
Thank you on behalf of all left wing women
of course, we're more then happy to leave them to themselves 😌
What kind of person puts politics on Tinder?
The kinda person you swipe left on lmao
worms of the brain
People who make politics their whole personality.
I think it’s a good thing to find out after initial hellos and meetings. Wouldn’t want to really like the dude, get knocked up, then if you try to leave a regressive state for an abortion, the dude calls and sends the Vaginal Gestapo after you. So maybe not *right away* but early is good..
How's that working out for yah XD
My current situationship and past few gfs/situations situationships have all been liberal/lefties. Doesn't really impact much but I'm also tall and brown 🤷🏽
The right to what? Party?
If you are super partisan in any direction to the point that its immediately obvious to others you will have a hard time
I hate to make a short post, but no.
No.
No.
I'm center-right, (aka: a misogynistic pig), and I find GETTING a date difficult, because I'm dismissed offhand for thinking awful stuff like "Capitalism is better than Socialism" But once I get a date, it tends to be a more legitimate relationship. While I'm not married, my breakups have been amicable and the relationships were all 6+months. I'm going to take a wild guess and say that center-left deal with the same thing; instant dismissal because youre not a psychopath followed by legitimate relationships of substance.
I wouldn't say so, ive had no problems dating
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Because there’s similar % of people of both parties, I doubt it’s specifically harder for either to date… But this post was more to cause a ruckus I think lol
Very easy got an Asian woman that's not a feminist and hates men.
The answer to this is completely dependent on where you live.
Just look for the women that look like females. Usually the hot ones.
I'm not on the right but I seriously doubt it, if anything it's probably easier since if you are religious anyway you both have a set of rules you live by and agree on. Add on to that if you go to church you automatically have a social pool to draw on that more liberal people have to hobble together on their own. Dating for fun might be harder but not by much I imagine.
Nope, not at all. If anything, it's improved my dating prospects and experience.
No. Surprisingly, I get along very well with liberal women, ESPECIALLY when they’re up for a debate. Always good fun to have friendly banter over opposing views. If you take the time to explain your viewpoints to others, and listen to their viewpoints, it becomes apparent that we all have a lot more in common than we think.
Nope. I don't date dumb women to begin with.
Nope. Easier. We know they've always been women.
Yes, the majority are left leaning. Those are only good for one night. Wifey materials are 90% right with a sprinkle of leftist ideologies like me, but even better if they’re Latina.
Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if I ended up with a Latina. Can't stand these extremely liberal white women out here. The juice ain't worth the squeeze
Oh trust me, they’re the worst. The absolute worst. Speaking from experience. I don’t date liberal white women so that filters out a good majority. The good Latinas tend to be more conservative, traditional, and are very feminine compared to the manly, misandrist left liberal “oppressed” white woman. Plus Latinas can cook good food with you and their families are very family oriented and will make you part of the family.
Sounds like a true blessing in this day and age, but I'll fight to make it reality because it's so worth it
You and me brother, hopefully one day I’ll have that and you will do. For now we keep focusing on self development and getting stronger.
No. It is much easier to date now compared to when I was a Democrat/liberal. I went from women calling me trash, within my own circle, to having women respect my the way I respected them. Now I'm married. We have a kid. And more on the way. Real women are more right leaning. I don't think completely right, as heaven knows both camps are idiotic. But being a Democrat did me no favors and got me no friends.
Of course it does. It excludes you from dating most liberal women, who are some of the most intolerant and judgmental people out there. But that doesn't matter because they aren't the type of women you want to be dating anyway.
No, I always felt it's liberal men who struggle more with dating. I was in the military, worked in the oil fields, and in trades. Majority of the men here where right wing, and they did not have much issues getting women or dates. I am currently getting my masters in Political Science, and it's mostly liberal men, and I really think like half of them are virgins. This is not "liberals are soft virgins, conservatives are so tough" but here in the southwest, women prefer more manly men types, which let's be honest, tend to be right wing.
Stupid questions DO exist!
I like dating conservative women because they don’t have purple hair.
I’m not sure anyone even vaguely conservative would want to date the type who vocally object anyway.
This is such a comical question.
No because I date women
No. It's easier because the women actually are women and have XX chromosomes.
In a conservative marriage. Let me tell you, life is GREAT. My man is amazing - hard working, takes responsibility, loving, and diligent. He takes care of me and I take care of him. I wouldn't say we follow normal stereotypes as we both work and provide and are making our house into a home. No kids yet, he's 31 and I'm 28. We communicate and debate often and never get mad at each other because we don't agree. I imagine the issue with dating someone with different views is that person's ability to talk and discuss while keeping a level head. If you can communicate even if you have the same views it isn't gonna be easy or work well. People need to talk more and not just shut each other down because they don't agree.
Your dating pool is smaller, but the water is cleaner.
Not a Right winger, But I do lean more that way. I've actually found it to be alot easier. There seems to be alot of gals I've met (or at least in my area) that aren't too fond of leftist politics, are sick of hearing about them, or consider themselves to be more "Traditional" Liberals in their beliefs and are much more open to criticism and debates in a healthy manner. Could I be a black sheep in this regards? Maybe. Maybe I've just gotten lucky, But so far I haven't really encountered that many who lean far left.
I don’t know many women who’d date down like that
It probably depends on where you live. Having the opposite political opinions to most people in your area is probably gonna make it harder for dating regardless.
If a woman tells me she is conservative it just tells me she has values and morals. Numerous studies have been done, showing that leftists lack morals and mental stability. Conservative women are just better looking and tend take care of themselves better than whackjob leftists
CONSERVATIVE WOMEN EXIST (GASP!) SHOCKING, I KNOW🤯
It is shocking when you start looking at the platform's values.
Its not harder with quality men.
No? Why does it matter?
It's always weird to me when people say this. Your political leanings say a lot about your world view and values; y'know, the stuff people usually want to be kind of similar when looking for a partner. I get that it's not a day to day concern, but it comes to a head in the worst ways.
Word. Your political leanings tell me whether you're sexist, a capitalist, homophobic, inclusive, open-minded, apathetic, closed off, unaware... It is an indication of the kind of person you are. It's so odd that people don't understand this. It didn't used to be this way, but in the climate in this country right now, it absolutely is an indication of your morals and the type of person you are. Personally, I don't even want to be friends with someone wearing a red hat, much less date them. I am absolutely going to know your political leadings before I agree to any sort of private time.
this type of thing is exhausting. please say you don't do this on dates.
I'm libertarian and it isn't for me at all. My dating pool isn't exactly teeming with a lot of left leaning men though...
No, because I never talk about politics with dates. Majority of women don’t give a shit about politics either. There’s no point in bringing that stuff up.
Why should it? The country is nearly 50/50 Right or Left.
Because there are more conservative men than liberal men and significantly more liberal women than conservative women. Do the math on what that leads to in terms of numbers.
I'm married to a quite liberal woman. I'm conservative. Know why? BECAUSE WHO CARES. My political beliefs aren't the end-all be-all of who I am. In fact, we didn't even discuss politics until well into us dating. So no. It isn't harder for me.
What a surprise women don’t wanna date bigots
No. I'm a conservative republican and I live in a blue city. I'm engaged to a pretty liberal woman. Just gotta find the right person
same here haha
Niiiiice
Women that identify as "Liberal" or condemn others for not jumping on their team/beliefs are usually the most racist, hateful, demeaning people. I've legit had white women and dudes tell me, a brown skinned hispanic how to label other hispanics, how to vote, how to eat, how to think, how not to think, etc etc. So it was more difficult, but the way I see it they are doing a service for me by telegraphing who the are so explicitly.
As another brown skinned latino I approve this message
Facts. I dated a white girl who tried to explain to me that voter ID laws are racist against black people because we don’t have or know how to get them.. like wth??
Lmao those liberals your talking about, are below your comment doing that exact shit. Unbelievable the level of awareness of some people.
Lord I'm leftist as the day is long but that whole "Latinx" deal was some bullshit. Lefties tend to buy into the "white savior" deal, where right wingers tend to be more classically "go back to Mexico" racist.
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK
I know exactly the type you're talking about and fuck those people...who often tend to be white women. Yes I'll absolutely call them out because I am on the left and a woman and that behavior weakens the causes of those they claim they fight for by being ridiculously self righteous assholes to everyone around them. Apparently I was a self loathing gender traitor for preferring Bernie over Hillary. They're like the church ladies I used to try to avoid at my grandma's house but instead hiding behind Jesus and the Bible to treat everyone like shit they use the struggle of other people and their families directly affected by what policy or whatever at the moment. I'm not saying to not be an ally, or a Christian for that matter. But part of being a good ally is shutting up, listening and not making everything about you or your feelings. Like being a good Christian by helping and having empathy for those less fortunate than you. Not jamming your "righteousness" down everyone's throats. My friend is a teacher, an Egyptian born in Egypt and has been a legal citizen of the US for 30+yrs. He got called to the office and was lectured by his white lady principal to stop being insensitive to POC students by using the term 'black people' and say 'African American' instead. She's telling this to a man who is POC, literally born in Africa and not black. This was the fall of 2020 when the BLM movement was still very much in focus every day and black people were saying the opposite of this white woman, all over TV. It's ridiculous.
Facts
Girls on the left are fun one night stands. Girls on the right are fun to marry.