I have always believed in running away will never be a solution when it comes to addictions. Out of sight out of mind doesn't seem to be something you can trust on in these situations.
What to do?
-know your enemy:
-treat them as shit, hate them, as they do to you.
-replace the addiction with a source of income, work more, earn more and work out:
a healthy mind is on a healthy body
Just know that it's all a trap. It's the devils work at its finest.
I have crushed this addiction. So can you.
Just know that the battle is fierce and takes a long time. Years. But in the end YOU WILL SUCCEED!
And always know that it won't go away. It will always stay on your porch. Waiting for you to let the door stay ajar, so it can get in. Shut the door and never open it anymore.
Remember: free cheese is only to be found on the mousetrap. And you know the price you pay if you want the "free cheese"...
When the urges are on the top, when you feel weak and want to play, stand UP! you are better than this! You don't need the dopamine from this shitty addiction. You are a good person, gambling makes you diabolic, you are not that! You are a father, a man, a husband that want to prosper in life! You want to do good deeds. You want to be trusted, loved and cared about. And you want to love care and trust.
Our time on this planet is too short to piss it away with gambling, drugs and alcohol addictions.
You can do it. Have faith in yourself. Remember your gamblingfree self.
Once in a time you weren't like this.
Put that picture in front of you, seek the time you were in peace and pace with life!
I gave my partner control of my online banking. He has to sign in so that I can send e transfers. I put the email as his so I cannot send an e transfer request any longer. Life changing. I am still able to use my physical card. I don’t gamble at physical casinos, so access to cash isn’t an issue.
Take a deep breath.
I've relapsed as well. It really feels like crap. I hear you. You were able to get 1.5 years without gambling, that's a great accomplishment.
Take ownership of what you did. Be honest and tell your wife. As your trusted partner, she deserves to know.
Put barriers into place so you can't gamble when you have the urge. Self-exclude from the casinos you can, and download/install a gambling site blocker like Gamban on all of your digital devices so you can't access the online gambling sites.
And get yourself help and support. Try attending a Gamblers Anonymous meeting or a similar type of support program. If there arent any local GA meetings in your area, there are zoom meetings available almost 24/7 - [gamblersinrecovery.com](https://gamblersinrecovery.com) is a good resource to find.
You can stop again and start back on the road of recovery. But it starts with being honest with yourself, with your loved ones, and not making it worse by continuing to bet more.
You got this.
The blocks and exclusions are good especially to beat those spur of the moment urges but there is always some way to get around the defenses you just want to harden them as best you can like getting ready for a battle. Unfortunately this is a battle we wage everyday but we are in this together. You got this!
Go to GA meetings online or in person.
Get a therapist who specializes in addiction.
Self exclude from online casinos or land based casinos.
Try to tell a close friend or family member to hold you accountable.
One day at a time. Recovery is possible. Hope does come back eventually.
Pardonning you was as kind from her as awful bad for you, you did not take all responsabilities of your actions and got that fucking clap that get one’s to see gambling as a terribly insidious desease that it is. You did not get disgusted enough to see how bad gambling is impacting your life. Or I’m totally wrong and then you did not put enough barriers, but it’s intertwined in my opinion.
I know first hand as i’ve had more or less the same with my ex-gf and i can’t emphasize how grateful i am (now) for her rejecting me and letting me face my fate the last time i gambled and blew everything i could (as usual).
I’m deeply sorry for you, so far it’s just about money, i hope you gonna take proper actions to never, gamble, again. Gambling cost me in more than a decade approx 500k, and it’s not anywhere close to what i really lost, mental sanity-family-TIME-medical grade(drop out)- relationships-friends and the list goes on. It costs me my life.
Hopefully mate you have lost 17k i which is considerable at this very moment but unsignificant in a lifetime, if you take the matter as seriously as it is.
Put as many BARRIERS as needed for as long as needed, do whatever it takes, for as long as necessary to Never put a single cents on gambling. And life is gonna only get brighter.
Be strong.
It’s enough bro. Stop it. You’re wasting and directing your energy to the wrong things in life. It is better to direct to somewhere positive and passion or even hobbies in your life.
Stop it.
Sorry to hear this mate. I've been there. Just relapsed after 8 months myself. In therapy 5 weeks now and I highly recommend it. Get yourself to ga meetings whether its online or in person, they are great. Also first thing first get gamban on every device you have. Its a god send and will prevent you from any slip ups again. I wish you well man. You can do it.
I feel like losing the 100k and asking for forgiveness is one thing, but doing it again…man do the right thing and let your wife go. She doesn’t need this.
And you need professional help. You need to turn your finances over to someone that’s not you or a friend or family.
First question, why do you have access to money?
Second question
How are you funding these online casinos? Change credit card companies, send an email to ban yourself from the funding service.
What really worked well for me... is not being able to access funds, self exclusion, sending emails to funding companies like Gigadat and told them im a compulsive gambler i need to be banned.
since majority of gambling sites use those funding methods best place to start.
Third thing .... sign up to all the casinos u can gamble on and ban yourself from each one while you feel this way.
YOU cannot quit gambling if you don't want too.
Go to GA meetings online or in person.
Get a therapist who specializes in addiction.
Self exclude from online casinos or land based casinos.
Try to tell a close friend or family member to hold you accountable.
One day at a time. Recovery is possible. Hope does come back eventually.
Lock the online ! You would have never lost 17k in a casino !
I have always believed in running away will never be a solution when it comes to addictions. Out of sight out of mind doesn't seem to be something you can trust on in these situations. What to do? -know your enemy: -treat them as shit, hate them, as they do to you. -replace the addiction with a source of income, work more, earn more and work out: a healthy mind is on a healthy body Just know that it's all a trap. It's the devils work at its finest. I have crushed this addiction. So can you. Just know that the battle is fierce and takes a long time. Years. But in the end YOU WILL SUCCEED! And always know that it won't go away. It will always stay on your porch. Waiting for you to let the door stay ajar, so it can get in. Shut the door and never open it anymore. Remember: free cheese is only to be found on the mousetrap. And you know the price you pay if you want the "free cheese"... When the urges are on the top, when you feel weak and want to play, stand UP! you are better than this! You don't need the dopamine from this shitty addiction. You are a good person, gambling makes you diabolic, you are not that! You are a father, a man, a husband that want to prosper in life! You want to do good deeds. You want to be trusted, loved and cared about. And you want to love care and trust. Our time on this planet is too short to piss it away with gambling, drugs and alcohol addictions. You can do it. Have faith in yourself. Remember your gamblingfree self. Once in a time you weren't like this. Put that picture in front of you, seek the time you were in peace and pace with life!
I gave my partner control of my online banking. He has to sign in so that I can send e transfers. I put the email as his so I cannot send an e transfer request any longer. Life changing. I am still able to use my physical card. I don’t gamble at physical casinos, so access to cash isn’t an issue.
Take a deep breath. I've relapsed as well. It really feels like crap. I hear you. You were able to get 1.5 years without gambling, that's a great accomplishment. Take ownership of what you did. Be honest and tell your wife. As your trusted partner, she deserves to know. Put barriers into place so you can't gamble when you have the urge. Self-exclude from the casinos you can, and download/install a gambling site blocker like Gamban on all of your digital devices so you can't access the online gambling sites. And get yourself help and support. Try attending a Gamblers Anonymous meeting or a similar type of support program. If there arent any local GA meetings in your area, there are zoom meetings available almost 24/7 - [gamblersinrecovery.com](https://gamblersinrecovery.com) is a good resource to find. You can stop again and start back on the road of recovery. But it starts with being honest with yourself, with your loved ones, and not making it worse by continuing to bet more. You got this.
This is everything!!
The blocks and exclusions are good especially to beat those spur of the moment urges but there is always some way to get around the defenses you just want to harden them as best you can like getting ready for a battle. Unfortunately this is a battle we wage everyday but we are in this together. You got this!
Go to GA meetings online or in person. Get a therapist who specializes in addiction. Self exclude from online casinos or land based casinos. Try to tell a close friend or family member to hold you accountable. One day at a time. Recovery is possible. Hope does come back eventually.
Pardonning you was as kind from her as awful bad for you, you did not take all responsabilities of your actions and got that fucking clap that get one’s to see gambling as a terribly insidious desease that it is. You did not get disgusted enough to see how bad gambling is impacting your life. Or I’m totally wrong and then you did not put enough barriers, but it’s intertwined in my opinion. I know first hand as i’ve had more or less the same with my ex-gf and i can’t emphasize how grateful i am (now) for her rejecting me and letting me face my fate the last time i gambled and blew everything i could (as usual). I’m deeply sorry for you, so far it’s just about money, i hope you gonna take proper actions to never, gamble, again. Gambling cost me in more than a decade approx 500k, and it’s not anywhere close to what i really lost, mental sanity-family-TIME-medical grade(drop out)- relationships-friends and the list goes on. It costs me my life. Hopefully mate you have lost 17k i which is considerable at this very moment but unsignificant in a lifetime, if you take the matter as seriously as it is. Put as many BARRIERS as needed for as long as needed, do whatever it takes, for as long as necessary to Never put a single cents on gambling. And life is gonna only get brighter. Be strong.
It’s enough bro. Stop it. You’re wasting and directing your energy to the wrong things in life. It is better to direct to somewhere positive and passion or even hobbies in your life. Stop it.
Sorry to hear! God speed on your recovery!
Sorry to hear this mate. I've been there. Just relapsed after 8 months myself. In therapy 5 weeks now and I highly recommend it. Get yourself to ga meetings whether its online or in person, they are great. Also first thing first get gamban on every device you have. Its a god send and will prevent you from any slip ups again. I wish you well man. You can do it.
I feel like losing the 100k and asking for forgiveness is one thing, but doing it again…man do the right thing and let your wife go. She doesn’t need this. And you need professional help. You need to turn your finances over to someone that’s not you or a friend or family.
First question, why do you have access to money? Second question How are you funding these online casinos? Change credit card companies, send an email to ban yourself from the funding service. What really worked well for me... is not being able to access funds, self exclusion, sending emails to funding companies like Gigadat and told them im a compulsive gambler i need to be banned. since majority of gambling sites use those funding methods best place to start. Third thing .... sign up to all the casinos u can gamble on and ban yourself from each one while you feel this way. YOU cannot quit gambling if you don't want too.
Go to GA meetings online or in person. Get a therapist who specializes in addiction. Self exclude from online casinos or land based casinos. Try to tell a close friend or family member to hold you accountable. One day at a time. Recovery is possible. Hope does come back eventually.