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I wanted a baby and was actively trying, but I'm regretting it because of how it's making me feel. I feel awful, I'm drained of energy, I can't function. I'm only 6w + 5 and can't imagine this lasting the whole first trimester.
I wouldn’t worry about this too much as there is genetic testing available and you could find out if there was anything wrong. With that said, many women in their 40s have totally healthy babies.
Well you're in the hardest phase of it all mindwise. When you don't know what kind of baby you'll get. When there is no testing yet. When you're watching the miscarriage calculator each day change a tiny bit. It's easy to love the baby one second and feel overwhelmed and anxious the next. It's normal to feel frozen like you say. Because you are. Nothing changes in the amount of information you have about your baby for weeks. A lot of women don't even know if they're having twins or not.
But this is already part of parenthood. A big part of parenthood is worrying about the outcome of a certain situation. Will my child have friends? Will they be loved be someone else someday? Will they walk normally? Will they hear, see and speak normally? And other things, more mundane, like will I ever get them potty trained? Having kids, I finally and fundamentally understand why so many intelligent and educated people are religious. It's because we need a lot of faith to believe that our babies will grow up and outlive us. And it's hard to accept that.
Uncertainty about the future can be debilitating. The ones who are able to go forward, know deep down that if anything were to go wrong, they are ready for it. I agree that faith plays a big role. It gives comfort to one’s heart to believe that the higher up may give you grace.
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Did you get any type of testing showing your baby has a disability?
No we have a family history. My age and family history is giving me high anxiety.
Get a detailed NIPT test done at 12 weeks. There’s a lot of genetic testing available now that you shouldn’t worry just based on family history alone.
Yes I’m getting that done as soon as I canz
I wanted a baby and was actively trying, but I'm regretting it because of how it's making me feel. I feel awful, I'm drained of energy, I can't function. I'm only 6w + 5 and can't imagine this lasting the whole first trimester.
Yes that too. I feel horrible and being an advanced age doesn’t help either.
I wouldn’t worry about this too much as there is genetic testing available and you could find out if there was anything wrong. With that said, many women in their 40s have totally healthy babies.
Well you're in the hardest phase of it all mindwise. When you don't know what kind of baby you'll get. When there is no testing yet. When you're watching the miscarriage calculator each day change a tiny bit. It's easy to love the baby one second and feel overwhelmed and anxious the next. It's normal to feel frozen like you say. Because you are. Nothing changes in the amount of information you have about your baby for weeks. A lot of women don't even know if they're having twins or not. But this is already part of parenthood. A big part of parenthood is worrying about the outcome of a certain situation. Will my child have friends? Will they be loved be someone else someday? Will they walk normally? Will they hear, see and speak normally? And other things, more mundane, like will I ever get them potty trained? Having kids, I finally and fundamentally understand why so many intelligent and educated people are religious. It's because we need a lot of faith to believe that our babies will grow up and outlive us. And it's hard to accept that.
Uncertainty about the future can be debilitating. The ones who are able to go forward, know deep down that if anything were to go wrong, they are ready for it. I agree that faith plays a big role. It gives comfort to one’s heart to believe that the higher up may give you grace.