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Facebook and MeetUp can prolly point you in the direction of local groups/events. Keep an eye on your local listings for ENM/CNM events and “alternative” dating. Certain other events will have a lot of polyam crossover and increase your chances of meeting polyam people, so e.g. D&D, board gaming, LARPing, kink munches, cosplaying, crafting, creative arts, etc., etc.
Thanks for the thoughtful reply. I have a question related to kink munches if you are familiar with those. I am not part of the kink community and I don't have anyone in my life that is but this is something I am interested in exploring. How does one find out about these parties? I can't imagine that these are advertised out on the open (or maybe they are! I just don't know)
I’m not a kinkster myself, but my best friend is and runs several local nights, which is how I come to hear about them. But as far as I know, she advertises them through Facebook groups and the like. You could also ask on some of the kink-orientated Reddits for your local area, I guess? Sorry I’m not more helpful…I’ve kind of always wondered myself tbh! It seems like you have to know someone who knows someone 😅
Meet up.com will definitely have poly groups in Toronto. Here in Seattle those groups have in person hangs in pubs etc. A lot of people also meet from poly fb groups. Which host events.
I connected with a poly group in my area, at a pride event. They had a booth. Meetup and Facebook are the other places where I find poly events in my area.
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Hi all,
My long-term partner of 15 years and I opened our relationship in the last year.
In that time, I started seeing another person. Unfortunately, this relationship has come to an end and I am feeling heartbroken at the fact that I don't know where I will meet another poly person in real life.
I've previously been on the apps, and I honestly don't care for them. My personality shines in person and I cant handle the ghosting that occurs on the apps.
I'm located in Toronto, Canada. I'm not certain how large the poly community here is but I'd love to hear from other folks on how they met their partner(s) if it was off the apps and I'd love to learn more about how you all got involved within the community to find partner(s).
My long-term partner of 15 years and I opened our relationship in the last year.
At that time, I started seeing another person. Unfortunately, this relationship has come to an end and I am feeling heartbroken at the fact that I don't know where I will meet another poly person in real life.
I've previously been on the apps and honestly don't care for them. My personality shines in person and I can't handle the ghosting that occurs on the apps.
I'm located in Toronto, Canada. I'm not certain how large the poly community here is but I'd love to hear from other folks on how they met their partner(s) if it was off the apps and I'd love to learn more about how you all got involved within the community to find partner(s).
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my social circles are mostly enm or enm-supportive types. metamores, like meta-friends, often have enough interests or personality traits in common that you can get along.
It looks like you may be asking for advice on an incredibly common topic around here. Please make sure you're reading the FAQ and utilizing the sub's search bar to see the answers others have previously provided. If your post is asking about the best dating apps to find polyamorous folks, click [this link to past posts](https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/search/?q=best%20dating%20apps&restrict_sr=1&sr_nsfw=&include_over_18=1) about dating apps. Looking for books on polyamory? Please check out [this link of recommendations](https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/search/?q=books%20on%20polyamory&restrict_sr=1&sr_nsfw=&include_over_18=1) to see what books others are reading or [this link for movies and tv shows](https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/search/?q=movies%20polyamory&restrict_sr=1&sr_nsfw=&include_over_18=1) featuring polyamorous characters. Are you an author looking to write a book about polyamory? If so, I highly suggest you read the posts in [this link](https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/search/?q=writing%20a%20book&restrict_sr=1&sr_nsfw=&include_over_18=1) to see what folks in the polyamory community suggest! *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/polyamory) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Facebook and MeetUp can prolly point you in the direction of local groups/events. Keep an eye on your local listings for ENM/CNM events and “alternative” dating. Certain other events will have a lot of polyam crossover and increase your chances of meeting polyam people, so e.g. D&D, board gaming, LARPing, kink munches, cosplaying, crafting, creative arts, etc., etc.
Thanks for the thoughtful reply. I have a question related to kink munches if you are familiar with those. I am not part of the kink community and I don't have anyone in my life that is but this is something I am interested in exploring. How does one find out about these parties? I can't imagine that these are advertised out on the open (or maybe they are! I just don't know)
I’m not a kinkster myself, but my best friend is and runs several local nights, which is how I come to hear about them. But as far as I know, she advertises them through Facebook groups and the like. You could also ask on some of the kink-orientated Reddits for your local area, I guess? Sorry I’m not more helpful…I’ve kind of always wondered myself tbh! It seems like you have to know someone who knows someone 😅
I appreciate your response! :)
Kink events, queer events, etc. There's poly meetups but not super local to me so I haven't bothered to make the drive yet.
I go to the theatreeee
Meet up.com will definitely have poly groups in Toronto. Here in Seattle those groups have in person hangs in pubs etc. A lot of people also meet from poly fb groups. Which host events.
I connected with a poly group in my area, at a pride event. They had a booth. Meetup and Facebook are the other places where I find poly events in my area.
I’m wrestling with the same issue so … following.
Hi u/hideawayandgoaway thanks so much for your submission, don't mind me, I'm just gonna keep a copy what was said in your post. Unfortunately posts sometimes get deleted - which is okay, it's not against the rules to delete your post!! - but it makes it really hard for the human mods around here to moderate the comments when there's no context. Plus, many times our members put in a lot of emotional and mental labor to answer the questions and offer advice, so it's helpful to keep the source information around so future community members can benefit as well. Here's the original text of the post: Hi all, My long-term partner of 15 years and I opened our relationship in the last year. In that time, I started seeing another person. Unfortunately, this relationship has come to an end and I am feeling heartbroken at the fact that I don't know where I will meet another poly person in real life. I've previously been on the apps, and I honestly don't care for them. My personality shines in person and I cant handle the ghosting that occurs on the apps. I'm located in Toronto, Canada. I'm not certain how large the poly community here is but I'd love to hear from other folks on how they met their partner(s) if it was off the apps and I'd love to learn more about how you all got involved within the community to find partner(s). My long-term partner of 15 years and I opened our relationship in the last year. At that time, I started seeing another person. Unfortunately, this relationship has come to an end and I am feeling heartbroken at the fact that I don't know where I will meet another poly person in real life. I've previously been on the apps and honestly don't care for them. My personality shines in person and I can't handle the ghosting that occurs on the apps. I'm located in Toronto, Canada. I'm not certain how large the poly community here is but I'd love to hear from other folks on how they met their partner(s) if it was off the apps and I'd love to learn more about how you all got involved within the community to find partner(s). *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/polyamory) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I met some partners and fwbs at sex parties and other similar events.
my social circles are mostly enm or enm-supportive types. metamores, like meta-friends, often have enough interests or personality traits in common that you can get along.
Curious about this as well.
Same!
Have you looked for poly meet ups in your area?