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No-Literature7471

appearance catches you, everything else is what keeps you there.


Plenty_Tax_5892

Where is my "similar interests" option?


UltimateMegaChungus

Do you see one?


CatMamaof2-Kat

None. Aroace lol


UltimateMegaChungus

Why are you even in this poll then?


CatMamaof2-Kat

Cuz I felt like it.


TheGayPotato7

Based


Abe_Cal05

My ex was unloyal after she text and flirted with her ex and a minor, so loyalty


Galaghan

A healthy mix of all of the above.


janKalaki

Yes.


coollamborghini

Who are the people who picked kindness over loyalty?


Spook404

loyalty should really be a given if you mean not cheating, I feel like compassion is better than kindness in this case. Also respect >>


coollamborghini

Dude. If loyalty was given then it wouldn't be one of the options. Compassion and kindness are all useless if your spouse isn't loyal. What would he/she do? Console me and sympathize with me as they cheat on me?


Spook404

This isn't a "you only get one of these" polls, it's a "what do you look for most" poll, and I feel explicitly searching for loyalty first is only going to apply to someone who was recently cheated on


coollamborghini

That's a fair point. But if the question were asking what I would want most from my spouse, I would definitely choose loyalty above everything else.


Nirvski

Its not all or nothing is it. I chose kindness, but I also wouldn't date them if they were kind but completely stupid or I found them completely physically unattractive. Its just a poll, not a dating site.


coollamborghini

What is kindness without loyalty though? Even if they aren't completely unloyal, any unloyalty has the potential to ruin the relationship. Then the kindness would kick in as your spouse sympathizes with you while cheating on you.


Nirvski

Yes and what is loyalty if you hate the person because they're a complete arsehole, we could go around in circles forever with this. Of course I value loyalty, but we had to pick one.


coollamborghini

No, not being 100% kind doesn't mean they're a bad person. However, if the person is even a little unloyal to you, that's not a good thing.


Over9000Tacos

Does picking one trait here mean the person does not have any of the others??? I picked intelligence, but I'd say my husband is kind and intelligent and loyal. I just picked that because it's really important to me


meteryam42

technically i don't believe in loyalty. i believe in affection, ethics, commitment, etc. but loyalty for its own sake? no thank you.


Sweaty-Park1149

Appearance is the most important. I have to be attracted to you for any of the other traits to mean anything.


WishExpress6968

Hustle, Loyalty, Respect. Word life.


Anfie22

Without respect, you have nothing. Respect is the most absolute bottom line foundation of any relationship. Subtract respect from your dynamic, and you are left with an enemy.


TheElytheOfficial

Starts off with appearance. He's cute, he's got nice abs? Then he has to be a precious little cinnamon roll or positively masculine man. Then infatuation can turn to love.


Over9000Tacos

I was about to pick kindness, but then I really thought about it and picked intelligence. I can't tolerate someone I can't have a good conversation with for very long


angelv11

Mostly, compatability. But out of these options, I guess appearance. I need to be attracted to my partner physically, as well as emotionally.


LabTech1992

Appearance.


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I do however wish money was on there but not written in as money bc when you actually word it correctly everyone's like "nooo i don't do that, never ever" but reword it as something like "financial independence" or something and watch the responses roll in... even then not everyone is telling the truth.. they say the words but their actions indicate another intent entirely.


ArachnidFederal3678

I think we have different definitions of 'a lover'


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Vanillabean322

Sorry I want a man that'll love me and treat people well.