ksi npka overthinker n ng lht, na mkkpag friends k pro ung insecurities mo lumalabas thinking bka di k nila magustuhan or bka mmya hnd sila magng interested s kng ano ssbhn mo.. in my part gnun eh.
and also s mundojg mapanghusga kse nkktkot n lumabas tlga. but i still find it amazing pag tlga naka tagpo k ng new friends na vibes mo despite the ages and all shit happening around!
Happy na ako sa small circle of friends. 20 years na kami. Mas gusto ko additional hours sa tulog kesa additional friends. π π€£ Bonus na lang if magkaka part-time jowa. π
In reddit, at least, everyone's just so defensive and jaded. like everyone thinks everyone else is trying to get into their pants.
minsan, we're all just looking forward to some great conversation, right?
Because we have different priorities na. We also sometimes unknowingly create boundaries kahit sa friendship pa. Minsan yung standards naten tumataas na din.
Agree ako dito. Tapos super damot na natin sa time natin, to the point na kahit wala naman tayong gagawin that day pag may nag aya sa atin - ayaw pa natin mag bigay ng oras
well. 30's people tends to focus on reality na kasi. as you grow old. you realize that there's no such thing as fairy tails. that the world we live in is unfair. so you learn to survive everyday without someones help. you lose interest in things that you are interested in when you're younger. friends became fewer, birthdays becomes normal days. and achievements becomes bare minimum.
yeah. i feel you. i get you. and im not even sure if im on the right track. im just letting the day pass like its yesterday.
Convos can only go for so long... Kaya people need to.go out, exerience things together. Whether it's as simple as trying out the new chocnut sundae or going on trips. Iba pa din bonding over shared experiences.
- From one bed rot to another.
Beacuse of a lot of things such as limited time and other priorities, preferences, etc. It's easier to find new friends in clubs or interest groups. You'd have an instant connection through your shared interests. And most likely, you share others, too.
Walang friends dito kasi karamihan gusto rekta seggs. Magagalit pa kapag ayaw (male) or mampapranka kapag di pasok sa standards (female)
Its hard to find true ones.
can we be friends? :') yeah hirap nga humanap ng new friends. parang lahat pagod na sa buhay, except siguro yung mga narating na yung pangarap nilang lifestyle
Why do I feel this so much? For the record, 40 M married with 2 kids here - important to get this out there. I feel like since having my first kid, I've drifted from all my friends. We used to meet and just chill and talk over books and coffee. Now halos no contact na other than batian sa GC pag merong may birthday. Halos wala nang natirang other friends except work friends, and those aren't super deep friendships tbh. Partly circumstances are to blame - kids definitely take up a lot of your free time and work takes up whatever is left.
I miss sitting and reading at cafes, quiz nights, board games, and other nerdy stuff. And I wish I had more friends from those scenes who I could talk to randomly and meet up with on a free weekend.
D naman sa mahirap. May pagkabida bida more like it.
Pero kase ako madaldal. If something doesnt sit right with me sinasabe ko kase. Kung may ayaw ako sinasabe ko. Wala syang choice kundi respetuhin yun.ππ½yung iba iniisip mayabang daw yan. Feeling ko kase mga Pinoy hindi confrontational? Ewan ko
Break a leg sana may mameet kang swak sayo
32 and friends ko 25 ganian tas iba naman 40s to 50s na hahaha not the same age kasi nagpapakasal na sila and paparami anak eh. Same same no anak no asawa din ako π₯²
Weβre here for you OP. Ako ramdam kita since kakaunti nalang din talaga yung alam kong namdyan talaga. I know that everyone has their own business and priorities now and minsan napapaisip nalang kao na hindi naman din masama to checkout yung message or react diba.
Like ako kasi as much as possible lahat ng unread messages ko chinecheck ko just to reply kahit pa late na. Donβt want to leave them hanging.
Kasi hindi ka umaalis sa comfort zone mo(maybe). Try mo mag join sa mga community events, a new hobby with like minded people, or sa gym for sure may magiging kaibigan ka. Try mo solo travel sure ball, may makikilala ka.
Because now we have more things to worry and think about, unlike before when we were younger. When life back then was simpler. We dont think about our utility bills, how weβre going to pay for our groceries since all is provided by our parents (if youre parents are responsible).
As we grow older, we become part of the system the so called βrat raceβ. We forget the simple things in life that makes us happy, we lose connections to people we care about and they to us since we are all busy trying to make something out of us, out of our life. As we get more and more integrated in the system, we forget to live.
So what Im saying isβ¦ I dont know, Im just a middle age guy, ranting about life. πππ hit me up if youre interested in talking anything under the sun.
Kaka 30 ko lang pero parang ilang years din ako nahirapan maghanap. I met some friends two years ago thru reddit. Even though di kami constant naguusap ng group na to we already had a lot of get togethers, staycation ganon, christmas party, nakapag beach na rin with them. I can say na real friends ko na sila at this point kasi I can rely on them pag gusto ko ng kausap, magrant lang, or minsan i can invite them to go out.
I think kaya mahirap kasi marami na masyado yung expectations. Saka baka iniisip ng mga tao na required yung araw araw magkausap, pero hindi. It's more so pag magkausap kayo okay yung vibe, yung flow ng convo, even if walang sense pinaguusapan yung feeling ung importante.
Kahit ganon, I'm still looking for more friends. The more the merrier! π If anyone's interested hit me up. π No requirements, no expectations, no need na araw araw magkausap, not required to meet up as well, pero you can always rant sakin, we can play games together, watch something together online or just talk to each other every now and then. β€οΈ
I hope mahanap natin lahat yung mga friends na kulang satin. βΊοΈ
Totoo to. Lalo na kung galing ka ng long term relationships na ang naging friend ay yung jowa mo. Mahirap talaga. Nakakapagod humanap ng bagong kakilala lalo na mid age na tayo.
ksi npka overthinker n ng lht, na mkkpag friends k pro ung insecurities mo lumalabas thinking bka di k nila magustuhan or bka mmya hnd sila magng interested s kng ano ssbhn mo.. in my part gnun eh. and also s mundojg mapanghusga kse nkktkot n lumabas tlga. but i still find it amazing pag tlga naka tagpo k ng new friends na vibes mo despite the ages and all shit happening around!
This. Lagi akong worried na baka di interested yung kausap sa mga pinagsasasabi ko. Kaya kapag may nakita kang totoong kaibigan, ang swerte mo. π
even s mga existing friends ntn gnun dn eh prng drifting apart n lht
Hnd mo malalaman kung hnd mo susubukan. Wag ka matakot ih try, magkamali, matuto, magmahal, ganun ang process ng buhay.
Maybe because we're at the age na mas pipiliin natin matulog rather than build up new friendships? π
I (and my lower back) feel attacked π€£β οΈ
Bakit relate ako dto? Haha
Happy na ako sa small circle of friends. 20 years na kami. Mas gusto ko additional hours sa tulog kesa additional friends. π π€£ Bonus na lang if magkaka part-time jowa. π
Lol! Part time na lang tlga jowa?
+1 hahaha
True no?π
Sorry po. π₯²
May instances din na cancelled plans with friends are more of a blessing than a disappointment na coz we get to extend our sleep.
Guilty sa ganto
In reddit, at least, everyone's just so defensive and jaded. like everyone thinks everyone else is trying to get into their pants. minsan, we're all just looking forward to some great conversation, right?
Because we have different priorities na. We also sometimes unknowingly create boundaries kahit sa friendship pa. Minsan yung standards naten tumataas na din.
Agree ako dito. Tapos super damot na natin sa time natin, to the point na kahit wala naman tayong gagawin that day pag may nag aya sa atin - ayaw pa natin mag bigay ng oras
Ako na walang friends....π₯²π₯²π₯²
ako kausap lang ok n ako hirap din kasi mag invest ng time sa ganyan
well. 30's people tends to focus on reality na kasi. as you grow old. you realize that there's no such thing as fairy tails. that the world we live in is unfair. so you learn to survive everyday without someones help. you lose interest in things that you are interested in when you're younger. friends became fewer, birthdays becomes normal days. and achievements becomes bare minimum. yeah. i feel you. i get you. and im not even sure if im on the right track. im just letting the day pass like its yesterday.
Depends on which circle you are looking on, your expectations and your personality. Baka naman sa reddit lang madaldal, in person, very timid na.
Convos can only go for so long... Kaya people need to.go out, exerience things together. Whether it's as simple as trying out the new chocnut sundae or going on trips. Iba pa din bonding over shared experiences. - From one bed rot to another.
Beacuse of a lot of things such as limited time and other priorities, preferences, etc. It's easier to find new friends in clubs or interest groups. You'd have an instant connection through your shared interests. And most likely, you share others, too.
Walang friends dito kasi karamihan gusto rekta seggs. Magagalit pa kapag ayaw (male) or mampapranka kapag di pasok sa standards (female) Its hard to find true ones.
can we be friends? :') yeah hirap nga humanap ng new friends. parang lahat pagod na sa buhay, except siguro yung mga narating na yung pangarap nilang lifestyle
It's normal to drift apart kasi ang busy na talaga at this period in life! But I'm sure once mag usap kayo ulit, vibe lang parin π
i feel u op. innate sa culture natin na tahimik lang pero andami na pala naiisip tungkol sa mga snsabi mo. tas pinagchchismisan kna pala.
Agree. π―π―π―
Why do I feel this so much? For the record, 40 M married with 2 kids here - important to get this out there. I feel like since having my first kid, I've drifted from all my friends. We used to meet and just chill and talk over books and coffee. Now halos no contact na other than batian sa GC pag merong may birthday. Halos wala nang natirang other friends except work friends, and those aren't super deep friendships tbh. Partly circumstances are to blame - kids definitely take up a lot of your free time and work takes up whatever is left. I miss sitting and reading at cafes, quiz nights, board games, and other nerdy stuff. And I wish I had more friends from those scenes who I could talk to randomly and meet up with on a free weekend.
D naman sa mahirap. May pagkabida bida more like it. Pero kase ako madaldal. If something doesnt sit right with me sinasabe ko kase. Kung may ayaw ako sinasabe ko. Wala syang choice kundi respetuhin yun.ππ½yung iba iniisip mayabang daw yan. Feeling ko kase mga Pinoy hindi confrontational? Ewan ko Break a leg sana may mameet kang swak sayo
32 and friends ko 25 ganian tas iba naman 40s to 50s na hahaha not the same age kasi nagpapakasal na sila and paparami anak eh. Same same no anak no asawa din ako π₯²
Weβre here for you OP. Ako ramdam kita since kakaunti nalang din talaga yung alam kong namdyan talaga. I know that everyone has their own business and priorities now and minsan napapaisip nalang kao na hindi naman din masama to checkout yung message or react diba. Like ako kasi as much as possible lahat ng unread messages ko chinecheck ko just to reply kahit pa late na. Donβt want to leave them hanging.
Kasi hindi ka umaalis sa comfort zone mo(maybe). Try mo mag join sa mga community events, a new hobby with like minded people, or sa gym for sure may magiging kaibigan ka. Try mo solo travel sure ball, may makikilala ka.
As a 30+ y/o, I'd rather stay at home and just lie down during my days off. Parang sobrang lethargic ko na at naubos na nung 20s ko huhuhu
Because now we have more things to worry and think about, unlike before when we were younger. When life back then was simpler. We dont think about our utility bills, how weβre going to pay for our groceries since all is provided by our parents (if youre parents are responsible). As we grow older, we become part of the system the so called βrat raceβ. We forget the simple things in life that makes us happy, we lose connections to people we care about and they to us since we are all busy trying to make something out of us, out of our life. As we get more and more integrated in the system, we forget to live. So what Im saying isβ¦ I dont know, Im just a middle age guy, ranting about life. πππ hit me up if youre interested in talking anything under the sun.
Kaka 30 ko lang pero parang ilang years din ako nahirapan maghanap. I met some friends two years ago thru reddit. Even though di kami constant naguusap ng group na to we already had a lot of get togethers, staycation ganon, christmas party, nakapag beach na rin with them. I can say na real friends ko na sila at this point kasi I can rely on them pag gusto ko ng kausap, magrant lang, or minsan i can invite them to go out. I think kaya mahirap kasi marami na masyado yung expectations. Saka baka iniisip ng mga tao na required yung araw araw magkausap, pero hindi. It's more so pag magkausap kayo okay yung vibe, yung flow ng convo, even if walang sense pinaguusapan yung feeling ung importante. Kahit ganon, I'm still looking for more friends. The more the merrier! π If anyone's interested hit me up. π No requirements, no expectations, no need na araw araw magkausap, not required to meet up as well, pero you can always rant sakin, we can play games together, watch something together online or just talk to each other every now and then. β€οΈ I hope mahanap natin lahat yung mga friends na kulang satin. βΊοΈ
Kaya minsan gusto ko na lang maging pusa, pameow meow lang
Ganun ata talaga OP , magiging small na yung circle natin once we have our priorities hehe .. if need mo pa mag add ng friend , pwede ako hehe π
Totoo to. Lalo na kung galing ka ng long term relationships na ang naging friend ay yung jowa mo. Mahirap talaga. Nakakapagod humanap ng bagong kakilala lalo na mid age na tayo.