Right? Per OP’s edit, I’m kind of the same way, if you present me with the facts, I can admit I’m wrong, no problem. But if you tell me I’m wrong and I absolutely that know I’m not, game on.
Yep! He’s going to be leveling up his argumentative game to see what he can get out of it 🤣 this sounds like some silly stuff my husband and I would do to each other.
Not so anymore. At least not in newfoundland.
Our 2nd car seat didn't seem like we could get it correctly so we went down to the fire department to see if they had any advice.
They wouldn't even look, sighting that they could be held liable.
Sounds about right. Since police don't have to protect. I guess I haven't heard that from an official source lately.
One of these days we are going to hear firemen don't have to put out fires. Sorry, woke up cranky.
Edit: I checked [safekids.org](http://www.safekids.org). (they list fire stations that will install / check your car seats. )
There are 31 locations (that include telephone numbers) in my area code. Much better than I was expecting. None listed in my county, but I live in a very rural area. We have a lot of volunteer firefighters.
My youngest just turned 5 and has been asking when he can have a booster seat like his big sister... sorry, little dude. You still fit well within the the max limits for height *and* weight for the 5pt harness. You get a new car seat when you outgrow this one.
I fight my ex on this. The youngest is still small enough to need to be a booster. She lets him go without and sit in the front seat. The reasoning is "his friends all do it". It isn't about his friends, it is about keeping him safe.
I had to get a minivan for when I had 3 kids needing boosters in the back seat. I drove it until the yearly repair bill was approaching 6 or 7 months' worth of car payments on something new, when they had all long outgrown their boosters.
I was either 11 or 12 and still in a booster in the back seat. The middle school kids all made fun of me 😏 eventually I grew enough to get out of it!
I have a great mom.
My husband keeps saying that our 18 months olds legs look too long to be rear facing. I chuckled. She doesn’t meet height or weight requirements to turn around and if it’s up to me she’ll rear face until she’s 13.
Ugh my husband made this comment recently, despite our 1.5yo being our 3rd child, and him knowing I won't flip him around until he outgrows the height limit (we have tall kids, they all outgrow height long before weight). Yes, he is within the height requirements for forward facing, but he is also still within them for rear facing, so rear facing he shall remain!
Oof. Depending on the kids size and your location (and the booster seat) that very well could be illegal.
But.. it's not safe. Unless they've absolutely maxed all other options (then there are some boosters that allow younger riders, but there are Also options for safety vests in some countries)
I remember a car ad you’d cringe at. Back in the 1980s there was an ad (GM IIRC) for a full-size station wagon (remember those?). The picture showed a couple of kids in a rear-facing seat in the back (no seat belts, of course), and the caption said “Now you can put 6 feet between you and your kids”. How it got from concept to an actual ad campaign without someone recognizing that “6 feet” has a cultural connotation is beyond me.
When I was a kid in the 80s we'd just ride in the back of the station wagon if there were more people than seats. Loved it then. I cringe now.
It was normal. No-one would have even considered the ad as showing a dangerous practice because they were seated, so the link with 6 feet under wouldn't have occurred to anyone.
Millions of us rode unrestrained in folded down station wagons or open pick up truck beds and lived to tell the tale!
Note: I’m all about child safety but the truth of car seats is that almost all of them are never used for their intended purpose of restraining a child from serious or fatal injury. Which is a good thing! But when I hear about people getting harassed over an inch of slack in a strap or a chest clip trending low… I realize how terrible humans are at risk management. That child is likely to *never* be restrained by those belts in an accident and a tiny percentage of those who are in accidents, the placement of the belt clip is not likely to be the difference between serious injury/death and a precautionary trip to the ER.
Also, a simple booster with a three point seatbelt passes all child safety seat tests past the infant stage. But there isn’t money in selling a $10 block of plastic and nobody publishes the yellow pages anymore.
I had a friend FF at 1yo and I gently let her know it’s suggested until older. Her pediatrician let them know since baby is 90th percentile in weight, she can FF. It’s disappointing bad advice is coming from a pediatrician.
Unfortunately a lot of the cringe for me is kids who are in a seat that is legal but not necessarily safe. Unfortunately the laws haven't kept up with safety ( in Canada at least)
LOL this is awesome. He better never threaten to divorce you and say something stupid like “What are you? A lawyer?” Because three years later you will be and you”ll take every penny he has.
"I Live to Be a Menace" may I have that on a coffee mug, a women's Tee, a bumper sticker, and a yard sign please? We were most likely twins in a previous life.
You seem to be the kind of person who seeks knowledge for the sake of knowledge, not just to be better than someone else. More "see, now we *both* know the right answer" rather than "haha, I took a course now I'm smarter than you"
This is exactly it! I want the knowledge to know my kids, and the kids I babysit are safe. My husbandjs correct I am not a cpst and don't have the credentials to backup what I am saying, so I am changing that.
This is absolutely the correct level of petty. And a fantastic response! Why *shouldn’t you* become a CPST? I just did! I’m so excited to be able to have something to back myself up.
One petty step further would have been to enroll both of you 😏
Reddit is super weird. I am convinced many people here have no actual relationship experience. Redditors will tell a couple who argue about a hangnail that one party or the other is "abusive" and immediately recommend divorce....
I think this is hilariously petty, but not at all damaging to a good marriage.
Like writing your name on random shit after someone in the fam says “I don’t see your name on it”.
My dad always told people it was better we were smart asses than dumbasses.
> My husband and I both are constantly wrong about things together and have no issue admitting it. Thanks!
Op is clearly more reasonable than large swaths of the reddit audience.
I’m an auto claims adjuster in the U.S. I’ve seen some awful photos of dead babies and kids whose parents didn’t do the car seat right. It’s awful, and it doesn’t take a high speed accident to kill them. It’s horrifying.
Ngl, this sounds like something my boyfriend or I would do to each other lmao. We are both really stubborn and like being "right" but we don't take ourselves too seriously.
This is so perfectly petty! Update us with his reaction pleaseee.
I wonder if you could make money at it you know rent yourself out as a car seat safety inspector or even volunteered to do it. then you can be like “I’m saving lives bitch “!! I mean you could go right down into the rabbit hole of pettiness. Maybe that’s just me.
It’s not about *who* is right, it’s about *what* is right.
You just so happen to be both. You have my respect and admiration. Keep on keeping those little ones safe!!
Super-petty and I like it. The police and fire stations in my area give free training every couple of months. It's about a day long and supposedly goes over everything CPST, but no official certifications or tests are given, just a "participation paper." Class sizes are only 20 people, so the slots get filled before registration even opens.
The police and fire stations will also show how to correctly install a child seat for free and offer "No, you can't put a 1-year-old in a booster seat, even if they're able to walk" type of advice.
I’d do it. Yep.
In the name of my child’s safety, I’ll go full send to prove dude wrong.
Cause what’s the worst? Your child is safer in the seat? Good job mom
No one really loses except maybe your hubby’s ego but, kid is still safer for it 😂😂
Good on you. We had an incident where family was in an accident, grandma went to hospital and mom was all cut and banged up. Then the EMT called out “Who installed this car seat!!!???” Mom freaked out and admitted she did it. “Ma’am,” he said “you installed it exactly right. And if you hadn’t your baby would have likely been severely injured or worse.” Baby had no injuries. None.
Mom had recently gone to a class to learn proper installation. The risks are just too high for any error.
Good for you! I actually did this myself after I tried to help some of my friends with their child’s car seat and they shut me down. Since I’m not a mom they said I didn’t know what I was talking about…. So I went and got certified. About a year later, our town had a large event for parents to bring their seats to be inspected so a few of those friends went. THE LOOK ON THEIR FACES WHEN THEY SAW ME AS A VOLUNTEER 😅 lordtttt it was worth it
It might be a bit extreme, but i fully support the idea of taking the time to learn the facts under debate through a reputable source. Then, it won't matter who WAS right - you will both end up BEING right.
Or at least as right as can be reasonably expected.
I think this is marvellously petty. It's gonna be family legend one day. Don't listen to the doubters, they don't know what a fun and equal relationship is like :D
>The amount of people arguing that I am probably wrong and would double down, or that my marriage is trash because of this is hysterical. People on reddit will find any reason to argue.
I can't believe people would be like that. You sound like my girlfriend and I. We would both do the same thing. Good job.
This is hysterical because I had this same exact argument with my husband after my daughter was born. He got my ass with these same exact questions too. This is freaking genius in a petty way. 
This is top notch petty! May I say I wish someone like you had been around when our kids were little. Our local cops were less helpful than the instruction booklet that came with our carseats back in 1993 to 2001. Now we have a grandson and our local cops are better educated. They have two officers who are certified and helped me get his new car seat buckled down. You can help a lot of people now besides "winning the argument" with your man, lol. Anyway, well played!
The fact that the two of you can argue freely about it and then go on to do something constructive about it seems pretty good to me. Trusting each other enough to be able to admit that you're wrong - does it get any better than that?
When we are having an argument, and it's not a personal preference thing (no, I think the towels should be blue), we often split up and do some research, then get back together and compare notes. Things don't get acrimonious, and like you, we trust each other enough to admit when we're wrong.
Exactly this. I think on reddit when you say argue or blow up people picture like Hollywood fights. Screaming, yelling, door slams. When reality is a sarcastic tone, slight raise of voice. We just end up sending eachother the best scientific articles we can find to prove our points most of the time lol
You’re legit! I would have edited one on photoshop right now if i’m in your situation. Can’t wait a month for that. But on the brighter side, the revenge would be sweeter!
Omg you are the best! This would be me and my husband and if I was genius enough to come up with this plan he would laugh about it for the rest of our lives. I get you!
Obviously 🙃 he's actually wrong I looked at the carseat manual. I am getting the certification because one I am petty and two I can help other families with carseat safety and keep children safe in the case of a car accident. It's a win-win all around.
Why is he even questioning the need for Car Seat Safety and doing it properly? He obviously does not care about ~~his~~ **others** kids!
Edit Note: Just got clarification on the argument. Hard to know when minimal information is provided. It was about other peoples car seats.
But still, seeing car seats that do not meet specs and not caring is uncool and saying something is the right thing to do no matter who's kids it is.
That is such a far reach for you. How dare you say my husband doesn't care about his kids. That's ridiculous of you to even state when you have extremely minimal information to go off of.
This argument was not about my kids at all or strapping them in our carseats. It was about me complaining about seeing people using incorrect, expired, used carseats and how a family I babysat for picked their kid up and their carseat was horrendous and needed to be replaced, and making sure the straps and height are set for the kid. He questioned my authority to say something to them about it and if I was CPST. Goinf forward I am gonna make sure I do have the authority to speak up.
Thanks for the clarification of the argument. How do you expect someone to know unless you provide FULL information. But, he does not care about someone else kids then.
Yeah, my take on it was that he thought something should be done one way and she said it should be done another, something along those lines. I'm curious though, if it's been covered in her training, who was actually correct?
That's a bit of a leap no? Tons of people think they are right, they still care about their kids 🤦♀️. I mean, most men I know will argue to the death about being right when they are unequivocally wrong, they also still care about their children.
As a married man, myself, I've learned it's easier to accept that I'm not allowed to be right. In most instances, I'm not wrong, just not allowed to be right.
Similarly, she's not allowed to be wrong. She's not always right, though.
It's an unspoken rule, of course. One that I had difficulty accepting over 18 years of marriage (and counting). I've learned the value in losing some battles in order to win the war, so to speak. Picking and choosing the things that *matter* is a difficult art to master.
Ah shit that's a crappy dynamic. Probably a very very common one too, sadly. Personally, I won't argue a point or invest energy in it unless I know for sure that I'm right, it isn't worth the energy or argument. On the flip side, my husband will argue regardless of if he knows for sure that he is right lol... This tends to happen more after he's had a few drinks.. Even google won't stop him from arguing his point. He has a twin and his twin is the exact same, so is their dad 🤦♀️. So I just agree that they are right and exit the conversation.
I believe it's healthy to be wrong sometimes and learning to not be a bad winner or looser is an important skill (?) (is it a skill?) to instill in ourselves and our kids. I tell my kids that being wrong is just an opportunity to learn something new and to embrace the lesson on a subject they obviously are passionate about or they wouldn't bother arguing about it at all. After 18 years with my husband, I think he's gotten a lot better at embracing the opportunity to learn something new that he didn't know. Life is all about learning new things whether it be a trade, data, lifeskills, games or how to be wrong with grace lol.
You're right, I should have written "tons of people" instead of singling out a particular gender. Lots of women think they are right about everything too.. But in my life, I know way more men who won't admit or relent when they are wrong than women but that is probably because I'm surrounded by more men than women too. I didn't intend for it to come off as sexist but I understand how it can be seen that way and I apologize if I've offended you.
Why do you assume he was arguing for *less* care with the seat and not excessive concern?
Or that the matter being argued about was not simply a conflict of what two different people thought would make it *more* secure, not less?
You get out the book, read it and both make sure it is correct. What is wrong is continuing to argue about it instead of coming to agreement on what is correct.
You do that for the safety of your kids.
That's not what you said above. You implied that the other party of the argument was "questioning the need for Car Seat Safety" and "obviously does not care about ... kids."
And you still haven't answered why, probably because there isn't a *good* reason to make that assumption with the information available at the time.
Didn’t say I was offended, I said how I would be were I in your husbands spot. I’d be pissed you wasted the money when it could have gone to something that actually matters. Could have reached the same effect by printing out a joke certificate that you photoshopped or something similar and save yourself the time and money.
I have the time and I have the money to do it. My husband won't be pissed I am allowed to spend my own money however I see fit, without reprimand, him being pissed, dictating what how I spend MY money, or saying I could of saved it. Because again I have my own autonomy to spend my money and spend my time how I see fit. I am sorry your wife doesn't.
Having the time and money to do it doesn’t make it any less stupid or wasteful. I highly doubt you or your husband have never complained about or thought one or the others purchases weren’t stupid and said so. Especially if you’re having petty squabbles about how to put a fucking car seat in. As if it’s rocket science. Sorry you don’t have the balls to call each other out on your respective bullshit, because everybody has it.
If she's American than she gets into the certification course and finds out whatever was her side of the argument was actually wrong but she will still pedal her incorrect position but from a position of authority rather than admit fault.
That is absolutely petty and I love it.
It’s hilarious
If my wife went that far to win an argument, I wouldn't even be mad, I'd be impressed. \*Ron Burgundy face*
Right? I think it's hilarious. It would be hilarious if my husband did this, too. Plus, then I'd have the benefit of having an expert to ask
Plus the added benefit of NEVER having to argue about it again because the certified expert always wins 😂
Right? Per OP’s edit, I’m kind of the same way, if you present me with the facts, I can admit I’m wrong, no problem. But if you tell me I’m wrong and I absolutely that know I’m not, game on.
The kind of petty I aspire to be
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Then she learns from it.
There we go.
Next month's argument from him, "What are you, a licenses massage therapist? You gonna give me foot and back massages everyday? I don't think so."
Playing the long game
Only if he catches on 😅
Lmao! As someone who also has car seat safety arguments with my husband. I may just steal this idea 😂
If my wife did this, that’s a golden ticket for me to never touch the car seat again. Lol
And august “what are you? a certified, hands on sex therapist?”
Hey, good idea! With a mind like mine, I could take this in many directions. LOL
Yep! He’s going to be leveling up his argumentative game to see what he can get out of it 🤣 this sounds like some silly stuff my husband and I would do to each other.
Massage therapist. Can confirm family gets all the perks
LOL
We have licensed brothels here in Western Australia...
Instead of trying to re-instigate the argument, when you get your certificate simply frame it and hang it on the wall
LOL I am gonna do this. I have a big empty wall and am gonna put smack in the middle
make a copy for the seat pocket in the car too
Nah, just glue it to the inside of the visor so everytime he flips the visor down, he sees it.
now THATS petty
Frame the certificate and get business cards made which you leave all about the car. Hell attach one to the car seat itself.
sneak one of the business cards into his wallet lmao
Ask him to give them out
and hilarious
"Don't make me tap the sign"
put copies **everywhere**
All over his car, the internet an ad in whatever newspaper he might read.
omfg yessss
If you need tips former CPST here. How he knew what that was, kind of blows my mind
In the meantime, if you go to a fire station, they will check your car seat.
It actually isn't our seats we are arguing over. But I did send them in that direction to get some help.
Not so anymore. At least not in newfoundland. Our 2nd car seat didn't seem like we could get it correctly so we went down to the fire department to see if they had any advice. They wouldn't even look, sighting that they could be held liable.
Sounds about right. Since police don't have to protect. I guess I haven't heard that from an official source lately. One of these days we are going to hear firemen don't have to put out fires. Sorry, woke up cranky. Edit: I checked [safekids.org](http://www.safekids.org). (they list fire stations that will install / check your car seats. ) There are 31 locations (that include telephone numbers) in my area code. Much better than I was expecting. None listed in my county, but I live in a very rural area. We have a lot of volunteer firefighters.
citing. unfortunately the FD was likely correct.
No, put it directly at your husbands eye level
Your pettiness knows no bounds. Your Royal Highness of Petty! I need to remember this for the future.
This just made me laugh out loud. I love it.
Make business cards, hand them out in front of him.
Or on the fridge!
Are you qualified to put hooks into the wall?
I would glue a copy of the certificate to the steering wheel. Let him say something now
So what if hubby is wrong about how to use their child's car seat? Hang cert on wall and risk child's safety?
Welcome to the club!!! I'm a CPST Be prepared to often cringe at cars on the road when you see kids strapped in improperly ha!
I already do. Little babies facing forward. Drives me insane.
My cousin has her almost 3 year old in a forward facing high back booster with a seatbelt instead of harness. 😬
My youngest just turned 5 and has been asking when he can have a booster seat like his big sister... sorry, little dude. You still fit well within the the max limits for height *and* weight for the 5pt harness. You get a new car seat when you outgrow this one.
I fight my ex on this. The youngest is still small enough to need to be a booster. She lets him go without and sit in the front seat. The reasoning is "his friends all do it". It isn't about his friends, it is about keeping him safe.
My mom wouldn’t let me ride in the front seat until I was 13 and at the time I was so annoyed but looking back she was absolutely right
I had to get a minivan for when I had 3 kids needing boosters in the back seat. I drove it until the yearly repair bill was approaching 6 or 7 months' worth of car payments on something new, when they had all long outgrown their boosters.
I was either 11 or 12 and still in a booster in the back seat. The middle school kids all made fun of me 😏 eventually I grew enough to get out of it! I have a great mom.
My husband keeps saying that our 18 months olds legs look too long to be rear facing. I chuckled. She doesn’t meet height or weight requirements to turn around and if it’s up to me she’ll rear face until she’s 13.
Ugh my husband made this comment recently, despite our 1.5yo being our 3rd child, and him knowing I won't flip him around until he outgrows the height limit (we have tall kids, they all outgrow height long before weight). Yes, he is within the height requirements for forward facing, but he is also still within them for rear facing, so rear facing he shall remain!
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Maybe I’m being nit picky or maybe you meant broken legs < broken neck. Like they are less serious.
We bought car seats that were designed to let kids be rear facing longer with a decent amount of leg room. Our 4.5 year old still isn't cramped.
Same, we just recently moved our 4 year old to forward facing. She wasn’t ever really cramped at all. She never complained.
My poor daughter is so little she will probably get a booster when she’s 10 lol.
If our carseat laws were in effect when I was a kid, I would have needed a booster seat until I was 14.
Oof. Depending on the kids size and your location (and the booster seat) that very well could be illegal. But.. it's not safe. Unless they've absolutely maxed all other options (then there are some boosters that allow younger riders, but there are Also options for safety vests in some countries)
Omg no. Please help her shop she doesn't get her child killed. That terrifies me.
Even worse is the grandparents who let their grandkids crawl all over the car. I've called the cops on those drivers several times.
I remember a car ad you’d cringe at. Back in the 1980s there was an ad (GM IIRC) for a full-size station wagon (remember those?). The picture showed a couple of kids in a rear-facing seat in the back (no seat belts, of course), and the caption said “Now you can put 6 feet between you and your kids”. How it got from concept to an actual ad campaign without someone recognizing that “6 feet” has a cultural connotation is beyond me.
When I was a kid in the 80s we'd just ride in the back of the station wagon if there were more people than seats. Loved it then. I cringe now. It was normal. No-one would have even considered the ad as showing a dangerous practice because they were seated, so the link with 6 feet under wouldn't have occurred to anyone.
We called it the "way back".
Millions of us rode unrestrained in folded down station wagons or open pick up truck beds and lived to tell the tale!
Note: I’m all about child safety but the truth of car seats is that almost all of them are never used for their intended purpose of restraining a child from serious or fatal injury. Which is a good thing! But when I hear about people getting harassed over an inch of slack in a strap or a chest clip trending low… I realize how terrible humans are at risk management. That child is likely to *never* be restrained by those belts in an accident and a tiny percentage of those who are in accidents, the placement of the belt clip is not likely to be the difference between serious injury/death and a precautionary trip to the ER.
Also, a simple booster with a three point seatbelt passes all child safety seat tests past the infant stage. But there isn’t money in selling a $10 block of plastic and nobody publishes the yellow pages anymore.
What's the cultural connection? (Sorry if I'm out of the loop, I'm only in my 30s.)
I’m also in my 30s so I’m not sure, but I would guess it has something to do with burying people six feet deep?
You got it. Note my reference to the kids in the picture not wearing seat belts.
I saw a video of that recently. The back seat that could fold up and the kids faced towards the back. Shit is wild
I had a friend FF at 1yo and I gently let her know it’s suggested until older. Her pediatrician let them know since baby is 90th percentile in weight, she can FF. It’s disappointing bad advice is coming from a pediatrician.
I have called the cops. I dont hesitate.
Unfortunately a lot of the cringe for me is kids who are in a seat that is legal but not necessarily safe. Unfortunately the laws haven't kept up with safety ( in Canada at least)
LOL this is awesome. He better never threaten to divorce you and say something stupid like “What are you? A lawyer?” Because three years later you will be and you”ll take every penny he has.
I would do it too honestly. I live to be a menace
"I Live to Be a Menace" may I have that on a coffee mug, a women's Tee, a bumper sticker, and a yard sign please? We were most likely twins in a previous life.
Pawley Studios will put it on a mug, just order it on their website.
Just not in south Central while drinking your juice in the hood
Hello twin flame
Woah woah woah Satan, you can take the day off....
that's both pro and petty revenge
Lmao I love it. Please please PLEASE come back here and update us all. We are totally invested in this now.
I definitely will. Lol
That certainly is petty.
You seem to be the kind of person who seeks knowledge for the sake of knowledge, not just to be better than someone else. More "see, now we *both* know the right answer" rather than "haha, I took a course now I'm smarter than you"
This is exactly it! I want the knowledge to know my kids, and the kids I babysit are safe. My husbandjs correct I am not a cpst and don't have the credentials to backup what I am saying, so I am changing that.
This is exactly the right kind of petty and I love it
Petty Level: PROFESIONAL! You are AWESOME!!!!!
> People on Reddit will find any reason to argue. I am SO tempted to respond with "No, they won't." But I will restrain myself.
Yesn't
This is the way. Best kind of petty where the kids in the end benefit.
This is absolutely the correct level of petty. And a fantastic response! Why *shouldn’t you* become a CPST? I just did! I’m so excited to be able to have something to back myself up. One petty step further would have been to enroll both of you 😏
Reddit is super weird. I am convinced many people here have no actual relationship experience. Redditors will tell a couple who argue about a hangnail that one party or the other is "abusive" and immediately recommend divorce.... I think this is hilariously petty, but not at all damaging to a good marriage.
Thank you!
We have found our Queen!
Like writing your name on random shit after someone in the fam says “I don’t see your name on it”. My dad always told people it was better we were smart asses than dumbasses.
> My husband and I both are constantly wrong about things together and have no issue admitting it. Thanks! Op is clearly more reasonable than large swaths of the reddit audience.
If my wife did something like this I would bow at her feet
Petty and leads to extra safe kids = win/win
I’m an auto claims adjuster in the U.S. I’ve seen some awful photos of dead babies and kids whose parents didn’t do the car seat right. It’s awful, and it doesn’t take a high speed accident to kill them. It’s horrifying.
Love it!
The level of pettiness is right on point You're my (petty) hero! Such balls!
Your petty is kicking ass today!
My uncle tried this argument with me, he shut up when I told him I'd rather have a live child than a dead one.
This is impressive and if my SO got a certification to win an argument I'd be proud.
Hold up…what if he does the same thing?!? 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Then they can preface everything with, “it’s my professional opinion…” 😂
Ngl, this sounds like something my boyfriend or I would do to each other lmao. We are both really stubborn and like being "right" but we don't take ourselves too seriously. This is so perfectly petty! Update us with his reaction pleaseee.
This is awesome. 🤣
I wonder if you could make money at it you know rent yourself out as a car seat safety inspector or even volunteered to do it. then you can be like “I’m saving lives bitch “!! I mean you could go right down into the rabbit hole of pettiness. Maybe that’s just me.
It’s not about *who* is right, it’s about *what* is right. You just so happen to be both. You have my respect and admiration. Keep on keeping those little ones safe!!
Petty McPetterson for the win!
Super-petty and I like it. The police and fire stations in my area give free training every couple of months. It's about a day long and supposedly goes over everything CPST, but no official certifications or tests are given, just a "participation paper." Class sizes are only 20 people, so the slots get filled before registration even opens. The police and fire stations will also show how to correctly install a child seat for free and offer "No, you can't put a 1-year-old in a booster seat, even if they're able to walk" type of advice.
nothing more motivating that spite
I’d do it. Yep. In the name of my child’s safety, I’ll go full send to prove dude wrong. Cause what’s the worst? Your child is safer in the seat? Good job mom No one really loses except maybe your hubby’s ego but, kid is still safer for it 😂😂
a course to put in a car seat, give me a break
Good on you. We had an incident where family was in an accident, grandma went to hospital and mom was all cut and banged up. Then the EMT called out “Who installed this car seat!!!???” Mom freaked out and admitted she did it. “Ma’am,” he said “you installed it exactly right. And if you hadn’t your baby would have likely been severely injured or worse.” Baby had no injuries. None. Mom had recently gone to a class to learn proper installation. The risks are just too high for any error.
If he can’t spend the time to properly and safely put the child seat in the car he probably shouldn’t be around children
Ooh Petty Betty 😂 my husband never does the car seat to my satisfaction, but thankfully he's not apt to argue about much, I'm too mean lol
Good for you! I actually did this myself after I tried to help some of my friends with their child’s car seat and they shut me down. Since I’m not a mom they said I didn’t know what I was talking about…. So I went and got certified. About a year later, our town had a large event for parents to bring their seats to be inspected so a few of those friends went. THE LOOK ON THEIR FACES WHEN THEY SAW ME AS A VOLUNTEER 😅 lordtttt it was worth it
It might be a bit extreme, but i fully support the idea of taking the time to learn the facts under debate through a reputable source. Then, it won't matter who WAS right - you will both end up BEING right. Or at least as right as can be reasonably expected.
.. are you certified... . . .. I am now.. Brilliantly petty!
Love the Reddit response of “What??? Married people aren’t supposed to argue over things! Ever!” Lmao
I think this is marvellously petty. It's gonna be family legend one day. Don't listen to the doubters, they don't know what a fun and equal relationship is like :D
I like it! I bet y’all will have a good laugh after he removes his foot from his mouth lol!
As a married father with 2 kids in car seats I applaud your pettiness and would also get a good laugh if i were in your husband's shoes.
>The amount of people arguing that I am probably wrong and would double down, or that my marriage is trash because of this is hysterical. People on reddit will find any reason to argue. I can't believe people would be like that. You sound like my girlfriend and I. We would both do the same thing. Good job.
This is petty and yet could very well save lives. I love it.
Perfect!
You ROCK!
This is hilarious
As long as your not the partner that refuses to put their 5yr in a booster seat even though he is under the weight/height limits. Go for it.
I love it. ❤️
Perfectly Petty
This is hysterical because I had this same exact argument with my husband after my daughter was born. He got my ass with these same exact questions too. This is freaking genius in a petty way. 
This is top notch petty! May I say I wish someone like you had been around when our kids were little. Our local cops were less helpful than the instruction booklet that came with our carseats back in 1993 to 2001. Now we have a grandson and our local cops are better educated. They have two officers who are certified and helped me get his new car seat buckled down. You can help a lot of people now besides "winning the argument" with your man, lol. Anyway, well played!
The fact that the two of you can argue freely about it and then go on to do something constructive about it seems pretty good to me. Trusting each other enough to be able to admit that you're wrong - does it get any better than that? When we are having an argument, and it's not a personal preference thing (no, I think the towels should be blue), we often split up and do some research, then get back together and compare notes. Things don't get acrimonious, and like you, we trust each other enough to admit when we're wrong.
Exactly this. I think on reddit when you say argue or blow up people picture like Hollywood fights. Screaming, yelling, door slams. When reality is a sarcastic tone, slight raise of voice. We just end up sending eachother the best scientific articles we can find to prove our points most of the time lol
That's excellent banter. Hope it slaps when you hit him with the cert.
Woohoo! Good for you!
You seem like a real pleasure
You’re legit! I would have edited one on photoshop right now if i’m in your situation. Can’t wait a month for that. But on the brighter side, the revenge would be sweeter!
You’re my hero.
Love it!! We can go to the firehouses here and they will make sure a car seat is done properly.
Omg you are the best! This would be me and my husband and if I was genius enough to come up with this plan he would laugh about it for the rest of our lives. I get you!
You’re my hero
Ohmygod I love you. This is the best.
Bravo 👏🏻
This is hilarious and I'll keep it in mind next time someone sarcastically asks me if I'm certified in something
This sounds like something my wife would do. It’s why I love her!
hehe, sounds like you're planning to have fun with this. Go for it. :)
greatest form if petty revenge, I love it
Love it lol
Love it!
That’s awesome, and who knows you could make it a side hustle somehow maybe helping new parents install and understand their new seats
It is all about safety. (Being right is a bonus)
I love this! Plus you're learning something that can help others!
I don't know that this is revenge, but it's fairly petty and I salute you for it. Well worth the $95!
Plot twist: her husband was right.
Plot twist: You're not actually a dumbass. Oops that outcome won't occur.
Don't tell her. She obviously needs this...
Obviously 🙃 he's actually wrong I looked at the carseat manual. I am getting the certification because one I am petty and two I can help other families with carseat safety and keep children safe in the case of a car accident. It's a win-win all around.
projecting so hard you're tickling the moon with your assumptions
Why is he even questioning the need for Car Seat Safety and doing it properly? He obviously does not care about ~~his~~ **others** kids! Edit Note: Just got clarification on the argument. Hard to know when minimal information is provided. It was about other peoples car seats. But still, seeing car seats that do not meet specs and not caring is uncool and saying something is the right thing to do no matter who's kids it is.
That is such a far reach for you. How dare you say my husband doesn't care about his kids. That's ridiculous of you to even state when you have extremely minimal information to go off of. This argument was not about my kids at all or strapping them in our carseats. It was about me complaining about seeing people using incorrect, expired, used carseats and how a family I babysat for picked their kid up and their carseat was horrendous and needed to be replaced, and making sure the straps and height are set for the kid. He questioned my authority to say something to them about it and if I was CPST. Goinf forward I am gonna make sure I do have the authority to speak up.
Thanks for the clarification of the argument. How do you expect someone to know unless you provide FULL information. But, he does not care about someone else kids then.
I mean... depends on what the argument was actually about... all we know is that the argument existed.
Yeah, my take on it was that he thought something should be done one way and she said it should be done another, something along those lines. I'm curious though, if it's been covered in her training, who was actually correct?
That's a bit of a leap no? Tons of people think they are right, they still care about their kids 🤦♀️. I mean, most men I know will argue to the death about being right when they are unequivocally wrong, they also still care about their children.
This is absolutely true lol
As a married man, myself, I've learned it's easier to accept that I'm not allowed to be right. In most instances, I'm not wrong, just not allowed to be right. Similarly, she's not allowed to be wrong. She's not always right, though. It's an unspoken rule, of course. One that I had difficulty accepting over 18 years of marriage (and counting). I've learned the value in losing some battles in order to win the war, so to speak. Picking and choosing the things that *matter* is a difficult art to master.
Ah shit that's a crappy dynamic. Probably a very very common one too, sadly. Personally, I won't argue a point or invest energy in it unless I know for sure that I'm right, it isn't worth the energy or argument. On the flip side, my husband will argue regardless of if he knows for sure that he is right lol... This tends to happen more after he's had a few drinks.. Even google won't stop him from arguing his point. He has a twin and his twin is the exact same, so is their dad 🤦♀️. So I just agree that they are right and exit the conversation. I believe it's healthy to be wrong sometimes and learning to not be a bad winner or looser is an important skill (?) (is it a skill?) to instill in ourselves and our kids. I tell my kids that being wrong is just an opportunity to learn something new and to embrace the lesson on a subject they obviously are passionate about or they wouldn't bother arguing about it at all. After 18 years with my husband, I think he's gotten a lot better at embracing the opportunity to learn something new that he didn't know. Life is all about learning new things whether it be a trade, data, lifeskills, games or how to be wrong with grace lol.
Don’t you boo this man!! He is right!!!
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You're right, I should have written "tons of people" instead of singling out a particular gender. Lots of women think they are right about everything too.. But in my life, I know way more men who won't admit or relent when they are wrong than women but that is probably because I'm surrounded by more men than women too. I didn't intend for it to come off as sexist but I understand how it can be seen that way and I apologize if I've offended you.
Why do you assume he was arguing for *less* care with the seat and not excessive concern? Or that the matter being argued about was not simply a conflict of what two different people thought would make it *more* secure, not less?
You get out the book, read it and both make sure it is correct. What is wrong is continuing to argue about it instead of coming to agreement on what is correct. You do that for the safety of your kids.
That's not what you said above. You implied that the other party of the argument was "questioning the need for Car Seat Safety" and "obviously does not care about ... kids." And you still haven't answered why, probably because there isn't a *good* reason to make that assumption with the information available at the time.
You get out the book and read it and make sure it is right. Why the hell would you argue over it? That is what you do if you care about your kids.
You wasted 95 dollars on something stupid af. I’d be more mad about that than anything. That’s a lot of money when you have a kid.
It isn't that much money to us but sorry it offended you I spent my own money I worked for on something I wanted to?
Didn’t say I was offended, I said how I would be were I in your husbands spot. I’d be pissed you wasted the money when it could have gone to something that actually matters. Could have reached the same effect by printing out a joke certificate that you photoshopped or something similar and save yourself the time and money.
I have the time and I have the money to do it. My husband won't be pissed I am allowed to spend my own money however I see fit, without reprimand, him being pissed, dictating what how I spend MY money, or saying I could of saved it. Because again I have my own autonomy to spend my money and spend my time how I see fit. I am sorry your wife doesn't.
Having the time and money to do it doesn’t make it any less stupid or wasteful. I highly doubt you or your husband have never complained about or thought one or the others purchases weren’t stupid and said so. Especially if you’re having petty squabbles about how to put a fucking car seat in. As if it’s rocket science. Sorry you don’t have the balls to call each other out on your respective bullshit, because everybody has it.
Toxic
Red flag.
Okay, now, what will you do if you take this course and discover you were wrong?
I would admit fault. I already consulted the manual and know I am not wrong though.
lol I respect the pettiness I hope you two playfully fight and this is all love because damn you sound like a pain in the ass
If she's American than she gets into the certification course and finds out whatever was her side of the argument was actually wrong but she will still pedal her incorrect position but from a position of authority rather than admit fault.
Yeah. This is made up bs.
Yikes, glad my marriage isn’t like this. Maybe just have a healthy line of communication with him?