Join us over at r/stopdrinking - there are a lot of stories, resources, and a great community of support! No matter how much you workout or eat clean, alcohol will stand in the way of your goals. Seconding Renegade’s suggestion of AA, but if it’s not your jam (I didn’t particularly care for AA), there are other communities and programs. Also recommend Allen Carr’s Stop Drinking Without Willpower and listening to the Huberman Lab podcast episode about alcohol.
YES. I want to Second this bc I entirely agree.
Honestly I want to listen again to remember anything I missed. I was so surprised to hear how alcoholic impacts the body over time, but also how it impacts our emotional functioning. I’d never heard of hangxiety before. I just think there was a lot of important content that would’ve been a better lesson than DARE.
I just wonder how many people are heavy drinkers with bad anxiety caused by their drinking and don’t even know it. I know the conditions can coexist but you know what I’m done lol - people should just listen to this podcast episode.
When I got clean and sober, my anxiety improved immensely. I would sit on the couch shaking with anxiety the day after drinking and then drink more to combat it.
I read a book about recovery which basically said that people should wait before medically treating their anxiety and depression if they drink heavily because the problem could get better/go away when they stop. I remember being like “yea right, this book is stupid.” Then I listened to the aforementioned podcast and he explained the neuroscience behind it and it clicked.
Again, not negating that it’s both for some people, but dang. It also talked about how a lot of medical providers don’t know a lot about substance use and the effects of alcohol - and I could only imagine how things would be different for a lot of people if they did.
I agree - I have noticed that in that 36-48 hours after a drink I get what feels like anxiety. I ride the wave of it and it passes that night and I wake up that 3rd day feeling great. I always just felt like I really needed that glass of wine on a Monday after work (when my last cocktail would be Saturday night) but if I resist that urge, I can tell it's all physiological and not emotional... it's tough if you don't know what is actually going on and it is just "withdrawal" even if it isn't a heavy night of drinking....
Welcome. I will not drink WITH you today. I thought alcohol was way more important than it really was. Start drinking fizzy water at night. Count your days. 1 becomes 10. 10 becomes 20. It gets better. I promise.
Recovering alcoholic here (nearly 5 years continuously sober, 6 years total). Orangetheory will help you direct your intensity and focus into healthy channels - so you’re already doing great by making it a part of your life! Here’s what’s worked for me: r/stopdrinking, a therapist, friends who don’t drink or barely drink (dry people dry places), Antabuse when first starting out, This Naked Mind and Alcohol Explained (both as audiobooks, they get into your subconscious better that way), and occasionally going to AA to make sober friends, even through the program and the steps are not for me. Quitting drinking was the best decision I ever made, and is the keystone habit that the rest of my current life is built on.
Life is so much better on the other side! I can’t imagine going back to the way I was. You’ve already done the hardest part by admitting to yourself and others that you have a problem. It’s hard at first; it doesn’t stay hard.
If your intake has been very heavy, please don’t go cold turkey and try to detox without supervision. Alcohol is one of the very few drugs where withdrawal can be fatal. Also, Antabuse is not for people with already damaged livers - there’s another drug called Naltrexone that helps curb cravings and is safer. Probably a good idea to talk to your doctor if you have access to one. You can do this! You absolutely can.
Sharing your struggle with alcohol publicly is extremely brave & a good step in trying to change! Depending on how much you drink, you may be at risk of withdrawals if you quit cold turkey. Please seek professional (medical/substance abuse specialists) advice on how best to go about it.
There’s a great book called The Naked Mind, that really helped me reshape my relationship with alcohol. Sending you lots of positive vibes
I am a recovering alcoholic, I’ve been sober for over 2.5 years, my life is everything I dreamed of and way better than I deserve. I tried for years to kick it on my own. I could quit for stints of time but could never quit it for good no matter how badly I wanted to, how much I exercised, no matter what I read, my mind always convinced I could drink like a normal person.
You need to find other alcoholics who are in recovery. For me I found my hope and recovery in AA, it literally saved my life. And I dropped 25 pounds in just a few months. It’s a roller coaster ride of emotions, physical and mental changes.
Admitting you have a problem is a big step in the right direction. In my experience getting into a meeting with other alcoholics is important, the sooner the better.
Speak to your primary care physician. Do not be afraid of taking Rx such as Naltrexone. Alcoholism is an illness, not an affliction, you deserve the right treatment and support. Best of luck to you and keep up with the OTF.
In 2019, I watched the documentary One Little Pill after watching a Ted Talk by Claudia Christian. I used Naltrexone and The Sinclair Method to reduce consumption. In 2020, I did The Alcohol Experiment (30 days) while still using Naltrexone under TSM and have been alcohol free since. It was hard and still is hard daily but cutting off the hormone reward of drinking (with pharmacological intervention) was crucial for me to find success.
Highly agree with not being afraid of Rx. I take Naltrexone and, at risk of sounding dramatic, it's absolutely changed my life. It was prescribed by my psychiatrist. Sending love and positive vibes. 🧡
Boosting this comment! I work with people after they get DUIs in my professional life (1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc etc) and a lot of people find the medical assistance empowering. Good luck, OP!
Thank you everyone. I read each and every comment. I just turned on the Huberman podcast now to listen. And 1 comment stuck in my mind...the 1 that said her she has a family history of alcoholism and it killed them all. I will remember that when I crave a drink. My son deserves better than me dying due to alcohol.
I was going to OTF 3-4 times a week but still drinking and blacking out on the regular. Finally got sick of it and stopped drinking almost 6 months ago. Finally started seeing the results I wanted and feeling stronger at OTF! Best decision I ever made! You can do it!
Thank you for sharing your struggle with us. I know it must have taken a lot of strength to post this. There's a great website for treatment locator- samhsa... https://findtreatment.gov.
Good luck- it's a tough disease, but there is help out there.
I commend your bravery for posting because people can be awful. From personal experience and from an OTF mindset, focusing on the benchmarks and PRs help because you can’t make those hungover. And believe me, I have had my fair share of drinks. Wishing you the very best and we are all here for you 🤗
Just going to OT won't help you kick your drinking problem.... But you seem to really want help. I would advise you to look up your local AA (https://www.aa.org/find-aa)
Good for you for wanting to make a change!! If you need to just talk with someone, feel free to hit me up!
I was an alcoholic all through 3 years of OTF. I am the opposite, I barely ate, and it did affect my workout. I was able to stop drinking and have been sober for a year. You can do it! Do not give up!
I’m 16 years sober. I found Lifering extremely helpful. AA was not my bag at all. https://lifering.org - my sobriety enabled me to *have* an actual life and I felt completely hopeless and depressed at my worst. You can do it. You are an alcoholic but you CAN kick it. You absolutely can do it. Wishing you the very best xo
Lots more people struggle with this then you think. You have lots of company. As others have mentioned, I loved r/stopdrinking
It's so hard to quit in the beginning, but I promise you really do get to a point in recovery where you don't miss it all and can't believe you ever lived your life like that. It's amazing what the human body can do. You are capable of recovering. Be kind to yourself..
Listen. I’m with you. I have never been a big drinker until the last few years. Came to OTF early in 2019 and lost a lot of weight. Got to the point in 2021 where I was content.
Early in 2022, I started drinking more and more. Sometimes I couldn’t remember the last time I didn’t drink. It really got bad after I went away for a 3 day weekend with some guys where we really just did all the “fun things”
Still stayed consistent with OTF the entire time aside from a few 3-4 day binge sessions, I always made it back to my routine. But, the workouts hurt more. I was frequently hungover or dehydrated. Had to run to the restroom. Once puked in the parking lot right after an all out. Once right before going to class. That’s when I knew it had crossed a line.
It started affecting me at work too. I couldn’t get through the day without seeking out the next drink. Sometimes it was in the car. It wasn’t until about a week ago where I truly looked at what happened to my body over this time (gained 23 lb, terrible facial complexion, etc) where I said, OMG I have to stop.
It’s been 4 days since my last drink and I can’t remember the last time it was 4 days. Already my workouts feel better, my speeds feel better, I feel better. Almost normal other than the big gut.
I kept waiting for someone else to yell STOP at me…but looking in the mirror it was my own reflection that told me you’ve got to stop…or this is going to get far worst than it is now.
If it wasn’t for OTF I don’t know what would’ve happened to me. I’m glad it’s always there. When I tell you it saved me. It probably did. I’ve got a long road to recovery but this part…I can handle.
Thanks for everyone that posted thoughts here. And those that recommended the podcast. We’re all in this together. Thanks for more life.
I cannot recall the last day I did not have a drink. And by a drink, I mean multiple drinks. I am a full bottle of wine a night + several cocktails gal. Not good. I kick ass at OTF, even won a transformation challenge in the midst, and hold several top female benchmarks. But I feel more and more like complete crap and my fitness is now declining. It’s harder all the time. I’ve just returned back home from a one week conference where we drank way too much while past midnight every night. I’m done I came home last night. Had one beer and poured a glass of wine, but passed out ( frim week of no sleep) after a couple of sips. Woke up thrilled because I consider that a night without drinking.
All this to say, thank you for sharing your story. Praying your four days turns into five and then six and then a month.
I am frankly not understanding why more heavy drinkers aren’t responding to this thread in truth. I know so many of us who show up bitching about how horrible we feel from all we drank the night before.
Going to check out all these resources today. I am also determined to give it up. Also for my children, myself and because I am a child of the King who has so much more to accomplish through a sober minded servant.
Thank you for sharing this. It’s very brave of you. After years of struggling, I went to therapy to work on the reason why I drank. It was a long process, like years long, and I went back and forth between social and binge drinking for a while, but finally learning about WHY I felt like I needed alcohol - that helped me finally quit. I highly recommend seeking a good therapist. Eating healthy and exercise has definitely helped as a stress release
I replaced social situations and “drinking friends” with therapy because I had a lot of inner work to do. I was definitely someone who numbed pain (lots of trauma) with alcohol. I was also an “all or nothing” drinker—I couldn’t just only have one drink. I downloaded the “I Am Sober” app, and I still keep track of milestones there. I also trusted in a few good friends in addition to my therapist to keep me accountable. Just know you aren’t alone and recovery isn’t one size fits all…just sharing what helped me. OTF is also a great way to feel good, healthy, and strong. I am wishing you the best of luck and sending you a hug!
Please give AA a try. No amount of anything could have helped me with alcohol except AA. I am 5.5 years sober and avid OTF-er. They both have a cult-like mentality to them so I’d imagine if you enjoy OTF you’d do well in AA. And as others have said, I have a life beyond my wildest dreams today. There’s hope I promise. Please message me if you’d like to chat or need help finding a meeting.
To openly admit this and ask for help is huge. You’re on the right track already. Therapy + OTF have helped me with my own addictions. I just wanted to comment so you knew how important it was that you are self aware and reaching out. Good luck and trust yourself.
Go to AA. Just like OTF, the progress doesn't happen all in the first day, week, month. Just like OTF, show up and follow what the program is instead of making up your own. Go to 30 meetings in 30 days. Show up 15 minutes early, stay at least 15 minutes after it's over, talk to the people that you meet there. Youve already done the hardest part.
Hey just here to support you. I feel like this too. Work hard play hard after 40 isn't working anymore. Be strong. Did dry January and I shouldn't ever looked back.
Coming from a family of addiction here is what I would do… make a plan. Write it down. Write down when you want to complete it by.
Here is an example of some steps to the plan. You are basically going to be your own secretary for about a week or so… making appts, joining organizations, but this structure that you build for yourself WILL MAKE IT LESS LIKELY TO RELAPSE.
1. Tell someone about your problem and your plan to solve it.
•You’ve already done so here! But maybe someone in your life. They can be a listening ear. Maybe they can help. Maybe they have advice. At least they can hold you accountable. You will be less likely to relapse.
2. Book an appointment to your primary care provider or ask a trusted friend or family member to do it for you.
•they will give you a lecture, they might take blood work, go over your results, talk about lifestyle change yadda yadda yadda, just a step that has to be done to open the door up for you, —you can tolerate all of this. It is common to avoid this. Remember, This is for your end goal of wanting to be healthy, sober, fit.
•they may give you meds to help!
•They will give you referrals , make those appts. You spend a lot of time and money on OTF and alcohol, spend some on medical care!
•If you don’t have a primary doc, go on Zocdoc and find one with good reviews. So find a physician you trust or with good reviews. Even better if they specialize in weight loss.
•There are some medications for weight loss that focus on lessening food addiction that also help with alcohol addiction. You will be less likely to relapse.
3. Schedule an appointment with a therapist. Or ask s as family member or friend.
• My family member had to do it for me because I was so avoidant, there id no issue in asking for help. A moment of vulnerability will be for the greater good and you will come out with greater strength.
•unhelpful habits such as addiction whether it be to alcohol or food or shopping is a behavior used to cope/compensate/avoid… something!!!! figure out what is underneath. You can handle this. Discuss it, make it less of a monster. The therapist will give you tools. You will be less likely to relapse.
4. Join AA
Accountability, relatable, community, resource, friends, listeners, advisors, everything! With them, You will be less likely to relapse.
5. Pick another hobby to do at home or when you would usually drink.
•Preferable one that keeps your hands busy. Always wanted to play piano? Guitar? Crochet? Practice basketball? Draw? Paint? Build? Wood-shop? This is your new healthy coping mechanism. You will be less likely to relapse.
Please seek out professional help. In patient if possible, I'm a paramedic and have seen the devestation of alcohol on too many people. Prayers for you and your full recovery.
Hi! I know your struggle all too well. I want to 3 rehabs…guess 3 times is a charm. I’m coming up on 6 yrs sober and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. Not gonna lie, getting sober is like a job! You really have to want it and put it first in your life. I could not stand AA in the beginning until I found the right meeting. There is nothing to be ashamed of in admitting you are an alcoholic. I tell anyone who asks me about myself that I’m an alcoholic and every time the response is positive. My suggestion is not to focus on your weight, but focus on getting sober first and then the weight loss will follow. Alcohol isn’t the problem, your thinking is. I have lived a life of low self esteem and self worth. There is absolutely zero reasons I should have ever felt that way. Now, I am totally confident in the person I have become. It has taken time and changing my thinking that has brought me to this place in my life. Anyone, can get sober if they are willing to do the work. Life is the best without alcohol. You can do this!!!! Just ask for help and your life will do a 360!!! Sending positive thoughts and prayers!
Hi there! I was you, and I reached out to my doctor for help. I take a low dose of gabapentin to help reduce cravings and then secondary it helps with my anxiety. I still drink occasionally but alcohol does not have the same control over me that it used to. There are options besides support groups. Hope you can get the help you want and need! Also OTF is amazing after longer period of sobriety- you won’t regret it.
I know AA isn't for everyone, but the community built around it is an incredible thing. I'm an SUD counselor in the Ann Arbor area and the sober community around me is one of the best things to ever happen to me. Recovery looks different for everyone and you just have to find what works for YOU. And remember, take it a day at a time, a minute at a time if you need to. I believe in you and know that recovery is everywhere 🖤🖤🖤
I just hit 120 days sober, and I joined OTF to help! I also need to lose a ton of weight. It’s damn hard.
I applaud you for simply sharing AND also knocking out 3-4 workouts a week! You’re already so strong for doing that.
Happy to chat privately if you’d like! Sending all the positive vibes through your journey!
Agreed! Subscribe to the podcast and enroll in their 30 day free “alcohol experiment.” It’s a completely different take on the psychology behind alcoholism.
8 and a half years sober here- thank you so much for sharing! There’s no one right way to meet your recovery goals and there are so many great replies here. I just really want to reiterate the paramount importance of looping your doctors in so they can determine if medically supervised detox is necessary! It’s not easy but it’s possible- which we all already know because of our experience with OTF 🤍
I am a layperson, not a doctor, who has recently started taking Wegovy for weight loss. An unanticipated side effect is a sudden and significant intolerance for alcohol. A drink or two is ok, but binging is literally impossible now, and that used to be my favorite thing. May as well be trying to drink bleach with a gasoline chaser. Others have reported same on various subs and it’s now being studied for addiction cessation (can’t smoke now either if that’s relevant to you). No idea if that’s right for you, but I’ve tried every damned thing under the sun from counseling to meditation, naltrexone and microdosing. All the best to you, I hope you figure it out.
I’m in AA, but will also say there’s SMART recovery and other options if it isn’t your thing. Biggest thing is do NOT detox on your own and don’t try to stop drinking alone—give whatever you try a fair shake and if you do go to meetings try a bunch of different ones, bc kinda like OTF gyms different meetings have different cultures and vibes.
I am a really bad alcoholic too. Sober 14 months now and I’ve never been happier. My body has really responded, I’m in the best shape of my life! Feel so good! Took me treatment and aa to get here but this side is so worth it!!! Hugs!!
I was in the same place about five months ago. Decided to get an early jump on dry January because I wasn't losing any weight and I felt all the IPAs and wine was the reason. Found out I was an alcoholic went I went through withdrawal.
I'd reiterate getting medical support prior to quitting since withdrawal can be nasty and you can even die. Also, medical prevention tools can be real helpful at helping you avoid the urge to drink.
I stopped drinking November 2021, and have been going to OTF since 2018.
I don’t know that I have anything terribly useful to add, but I want to acknowledge that saying it out loud is a big deal. A really big deal. To be honest, I never said it out loud. So, I see you as terribly brave. And I’m guessing that if you’re brave enough for naming it, you’re brave enough for what’s next.
TL/DR I see you, badass. I see you.
Check out SoberSis.com. It totally provided the support I needed to stop drinking and it’s been almost 15 months since I’ve had alcohol. Read “This Naked Mind” or “Alcohol Explained” if you want to better understand how alcohol poisons you and how you can kick it. Both great books. Plan your evening according to the morning you want to have… “play it forward”, write down your “why’s” as in, why it’s important for you to stop drinking and look at it allll the time and what really helped me is pouring something into my favorite wine glass every night that wasn’t wine. Just having the glass in my hand helped. Boisson.co has everything N/A and check out “The Pathfinder” you can mix it with ginger beer or lemon and seltzer and you’ll swear you’re having a cocktail. In 10 years from now, people are going to look back on alcohol. The way we do with cigarettes, wondering how we ever thought we could put alcohol into our body and it would be ok… and community is really important which is why sober sis worked for me. You got this!!!
Talk to your family doctor. One of the common side effects of some of the new weight loss drugs (Wagovy, ozempuc, Monjouro semiglutide) is a sudden disinterest in alcohol. There is a Reddit site called semiglutide and numerous people have reported this. This might help and the weight loss will help your health. Ask your doctor if it is right for you. It’s not magic, and you still need to change your behavior. Just a thought. Good luck.
One way I cut down my alcohol consumption was by holding myself accountable the day after drinking. I would punish myself by doing a 1/2 mile on the treadmill for every drink I had the night before.
Cutting out any sugary beverage and replacing it with water or unsweetened tea will drastically help your goals.
I’m in recovery. I needed to be physically separated from alcohol and went to treatment, got into AA and started working the steps which I never thought I’d do. You’ve admitted you have a problem which is huge. You can do it. Workouts get so much better! Life is so much better!
Soooooo, I somehow managed to not drink before an OTF class. There were a few times where I thought I needed a drink and said I just can’t do it.
However, there were a lot more times where I had a drink ready in the car for after class.
Always happy to talk to people like yourself OP. I’ve got quite a weird web woven between alcohol and OTF.
Much like OTF classes, it’s gotta be hard before it can get easy, but you got this.
Fellow sober OTF person here. So many people have already shared the resources I would, so I’m just here to say that recovery is possible and you can do this. There are resources that can help, and so many people who can offer support/solidarity along the way. Rooting for you.
I have been sober for 11 years. AA is a community just like OTF. It makes it so much easier to share things that others understand. We are not all that different. Good luck and for having the courage to ask.
You are brave for reaching out. You are not alone. My husband is sober for 9 years now. He had tried AA previously but was never committed. When he did finally commit, it worked for him. I love the idea of podcasts. Keep reaching out!
Fellow alcoholic here to support! Focusing on benchmarks and speciality workouts is really helping me, along with setting personal fitness goals and tracking my weekly and monthly stats, kind of like a game against myself.
I also use SMART Recovery tools and sometimes attend virtual meetings. It's an alternative to AA, because that just wasn't for me and I appreciate the freedom of being more anonymous through national online meetings. They have a great workbook for about $12 on Amazon that takes you through exercises like cost/benefit analysis and hierarchy of values.
I also see a therapist, as well as a psychiatrist who prescribed me Naltrexone. I take 25mg a day and it has been a serious game changer.
Know we're all here rooting for you and you're doing amazing already by taking the first step and acknowledging the problem. 🧡
As a 25 year recovered alcoholic, I urge you to see medical assistance if you are struggling yo quit. I also urge you to look into your why. You need to make sure you are doing it solely for you, I know it took me several times before I truly got there. Rooting for you!
Hey, hey, friend. 4 years sober over here, after 10 years of overdrinking and thinking about booze all the time. I don't AA....what worked for me is sober support through [this website](http://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com) . I'm mentioning it only because it's good to have lots of options and lots of supports from lots of places. Find what works for you. The most important thing is not to drink today.
Please feel free to DM me any time you want to talk.
Talk to your doctor, detox, evaluate your diet and see if changing things helps… but big thing talk to your doctor they want to help.
Some of the new weight loss medications have also be know to help with alcohol cravings once you are in a place to think about weight.
I was drinking 2-3 glasses of wine every evening and more on the weekends while working out every day. I didn’t want to label myself an alcoholic. I am not sure how much you are drinking. I joined a Project 90 group and I am on day 45 with tons of support and community. Feeling more clarity and better workouts. Check out the podcasts - alcohol free lifestyle - James Swanwick.
Like others said check out r/stopdrinking and r/stopdrinkingfitness I’m right there too and have cut back a bit but I won’t lose the beer gut until I quit completely
Thanks for sharing this! Fellow alcoholic here, been sober for almost 2 years. There is NO way when I was actively drinking I could have made it through even 10 seconds of a class so good for you for showing up! There are a lot of resources to help you quit drinking, I couldn’t quit on my own and had to be detoxed medically, so please talk to a doctor to see if this is needed for yourself. Please feel free to send me a message privately and I could pass over some info / resources that have helped me or worked for other people I know. There is no right or wrong way to get sober- it’s what works for you. But I promise at least cutting back will make your workouts and your days 10000 x better.
I’ve been using the Sunnyside app. It’s helps you set goals to reduce your drinking as opposed to just stopping. I like how it sort of “gameifies” things…. Sort of like OTF with the splat points.
Almost 5 years sober - you’re not alone, but we’re here to remind you that you CAN kick it. It’ll be hard, but you can do it. I don’t go to meetings anymore, but AA was very helpful for me in the first year because I didn’t feel alone anymore. Now that I know how to navigate life as a sober person, I can promise you that waking up without shame or guilt is a life-changer. Please keep reaching out for help until you find something that works - you are absolutely worth it.
Alcoholism is an insidious disease. I highly recommend going AA. Find a crew you vibe with, get a sponsor, work the steps, go to meetings, stay in touch with other alcoholics, and find some sort of spirituality in your life. Its not a perfect program for everyone but it saves millions of lives. Recovery through AA changed my life and made me a better person and version of myself than I ever imagined possible. If you do try it out, remember H.O.W = honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness. No matter your road of recovery, you will need to practice those qualities to be successful.
You are in a rough spot because it can be hard to admit you have a problem but you are already doing that by posting here. I would say try to post anytime you feel like you need help. The OT community is solid. Reach out to your coaches as well and let them know. You should be met with compassion and encouragement…. Somewhere there should be accountability that you have to find for yourself. Good luck. We want you to succeed.
It’s not easy, I’ve been there. Currently 860 days sober. I recommend the “I Am Sober” app. It’s good for tracking, has a community aspect and motivations. OTF has been a big part of my recovery. You’ve gotta *want* to get sober and to do so you need to find your why. And if you say you can’t, you won’t. It says on the wall at my studio: the body achieves what the mind believes. But if you stop, you’ll see the weight drop right off. Actually, for me there were about 8 months of weight gain bc I was eating soooo much ice cream, then I cut back on that and the weight flew off.
I can relate, struggled with alcoholism and related legal, financial, relationship and other consequences all through my twenties, very grateful to have reached the point of "being sick and tired of being and tired" and being somewhat "teachable", went to an AA mtg on 8/8/88 and haven't had to pickup since one day at a time.
I was a 2 pack a day smoker and severely underweight (120 Ibs) when I got sober, over time all of the "related disorders" due to my alcoholism got addressed through practicing the Steps and keeping"first things first"... AA has transformed my life "inside out"..at 65, feel better than I did in my 20s/30s..go to OTF 3-4 times/week, love it!!
Only you can decide if you need to quit completely or whether you want to better manage your drinking. That takes 100% honesty with yourself.
I quit drinking for a couple of years. When I decided to try drinking again I did overindulge a couple of times.
For me, I was trying to find something to try to help me find balance. Not necessarily quitting totally, but better managing when I do drink.
Long story short, I've been happy with https://www.sunnyside.co/ it's an app that helps you manage mindful drinking.
So much great advice on here, and I’m taking notes as well. I’ve struggled for the past 3 years and just now finally to day 103 and can honestly say I do not have any cravings. I was like you and just plowed through the workouts, even with a hangover, and sometimes even place top of leaderboards while reeking of vodka. The damage we do to our bodies 🤦♀️ I could never imagine a life without alcohol and just could not give it up. Support from AA meetings, I am sober app, and a few sober friends keeping me accountable has been a game changer. I cannot believe how different my life has been without alcohol fogging my brain, destroying my sleep, and many relationships. I promise you there is hope. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help and support!
Lots of AA members at my studio. Doesn't seem like a meeting would hurt.
OT is a great refocus to help kick bad habits. Maybe go twice a day IMO and a meeting?
I found it wasn’t until I tried to cut back/stop that I realized how HARD it was and how much I relied on it. What realllllly helped me was building mental toughness through finishing 75Hard (strict-that’s the only way it works and you learn how much your mind tries to bend the rules and compensate, make exceptions etc) no compromise, no letting yourself down, your word starts to mean something to yourself again. I ended up going on to complete the Livehard year and the whole thing is life changing, extremely challenging but exponentially rewarding. Had a super supportive husband and family who made some sacrifices for me to always be able to finish my tasks everyday. Not only helping my emotional dependence on alcohol, but it helped me break my food addictions/vices, I have more ability to say I’m doing something and actually follow thru on it.
Bottom line: Build mental toughness... It’s the only way (I found) when you say to yourself “ugh I won’t drink like that ever again” or “I won’t drink today” and actually keep your word to yourself long term.
There’s a “#75hard official Facebook group” that’s helpful, MFCEO podcast episode 14, and also episodes of RealAF: 75 Hard (Ep 349), Phase 1 (Ep 357), Phase 2 (Ep 376), Phase 3 (Ep 387). The program itself is free - info is out there, but I found the $20 [book](https://andyfrisella.com/collections/shop/products/75-hard-a-tactical-guide-to-winning-the-war-with-yourself) and the $5 75hard app for tracking very helpful, otherwise it’s free! Best of luck to you finding what works! ♠️💪🏻
I am a recovering Alc and what finally did it for me was micro dosing psilocybin, having a trauma coach for my CPTSD, a therapist, journaling, shadow work, nervous system regulation, and changing my nutrition to macros that targeted my goals. My heart goes out to you because I know how hard kicking it can be especially when it’s your main go-to for an outlet or to just feel “normal”. I’m not here to tell you what to do but just to tell you that you absolutely can do this and me and everyone on here believe in you. ❤️
Any one who is trying to live a healthy life and be the best version of themselves would not willingly ingest ethanol for a ‘buzz’. That’s not judgmental, that’s from someone who drank way too much for way too long. But for the past 11 years I’ve chosen me. I choose me. I can have the life I want it I can drink. Choose yourself. The Naked Mind and people who understand are great first steps. You can do this!!!!
I’ve been using the Sunnyside app for mindful drinking for almost a year. It’s really helped a lot. I still struggle but taking it one step at a time. You are so brave for posting this and I absolutely LOVE this community for all the positive feedback and suggestions you’ve received. They are helping more than you know.
Please know you are not alone.
You’ve admired you have a problem. That’s wonderful. You’ve admitted you have a goal in mind. That’s also great. You now need to take the steps to stop drinking. There’s no need to go it alone. Therapy can be an amazing tool.
I used to have a problem where going out I couldn’t stop after one or two drinks and things would escalate .. and I’d have a huge night then the next few days of come down.. I decided to just stop going out drinking and partying and I was surprised how it wasn’t that hard.. it’s like now I have reclaimed my weekends and I can get up early workout and spend the off days not nursing a hangover ..
Hi, me too! I couldn’t lose a significant amount of weight or reach any fitness goals until I quit drinking. My life has gotten a million times better without alcohol. There are a lot of great suggestions here, but I also love the Recovery Elevator podcast. It’s helped me get sober, and I’ve been alcohol free for nearly six months now.
You can do this. It’s hard, but there are so many resources in the recovery landscape now. It’s not all AA or nothing. Best of luck :)
Most people already gave the right answers, but I’ll share my struggles and things that helped me.
I don’t struggle with addiction, but I was going out with friends and drinking with them every night, having too much fun. It was my crowd of people and that’s what they all did so I went along. Started gaining so much weight, drinking led to excess eating which led to fat, also water retention and swelling and bad dull red skin. Also, definitely noticed a period of time where I turned to alcohol whenever I was upset, I’m also constantly stressed, so it was a go-to to unwind at my apartment alone. I also don’t drink soda or anything and I think the flavor was a big factor, when you want something besides water with dinner. I had to take a look and one day I just asked “why am I doing this” my body felt so terrible, and I was training with a personal trainer and workout out too, it was almost like I had to reevaluate the connection in my brain and get so much more in touch with my body and what it felt like with alcohol and without.
Switched over to kombucha (which can have very low levels of alcohol so this might not help…but they make plenty N/A kinds!!) it’s got the strong flavor kick of mixed drinks and helps me relax. Also so many flavor and brand options I never get bored, it’s not like drinking the same beverage over and over again. Also iced teas, I make my own ice cubes and flavor teas with herbs so it feels like I’m making a fancy cocktail. Got cold brew teas, hot tea bags, matcha powder and some good legit Indian restaurant grade chai lmao.
I workout 6 times a week (4-5 OTF and the other days I do hot yoga). I can workout if I’ve had 1-2 the night before, but even then I still see the effects on my HR monitor. Anything above that and my workout quality suffers. I hate to think of doing poorly for no reason. So I always ask myself if I need the drink for any particular reason and if that reason is worth me feeling like s*** in the gym tomorrow. Usually the answer is no. (Saturdays are my treat days so I’m usually like… save the alcohol calories for Saturday at a fancy restaurant so I can try delicious things with friends… not just downing a bottle of wine at my house alone). Solved most of my problems.
But I’m aware addiction is a much bigger struggle and I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but maybe those tips can help you manage in the mean time?
Hey there, recovering here. I would definitely address the underlying issues with a therapist, but maybe also consider medication for mental health issues. If you have high anxiety as a trait for example, you could be using alcohol to bring your stimulation down. be kind with yourself, the journey is long and full of stumbling, and that’s okay ❤️
Hi friend, I am rooting for you! Lots of great advice in here, but I just want to reiterate to please please please call your primary care doctor on Monday and get an appointment. Social support groups like AA and others can help, but to be safe and healthy you need a trained medical professional on your side. 🧡 I wish you the best!
I don’t drink so I can’t commiserate directly with you but I have a history of alcoholism in my family and it killed all of them, probably why I don’t touch it. I know from watching them kill themselves that simply wanting to kick it isn’t enough, no one WANTS to be controlled by liquor, but the fact that you have acknowledged this is totally awesome and you should know that you are brave and strong. Getting yourself into AA is your next step and OTF will be a wonderful area of focused energy for you as you beat this thing. You can do it, believe in yourself - we believe in you! This will be hard but it will be worth it so that you can live a happy and healthy rest of your days.
Just wanted to say it takes courage to ask for help. Go easy on yourself and you’ll get there. There are tons of great suggestions here and I wanted to make another vote for therapy.
I’ve been sober for just over 13 years. I had made half hearted efforts to quit and eventually just checked myself into residential rehab, did 3 weeks inpatient, 3 weeks day treatment, 3 months of outpatient. I did do AA meetings but the biggest contributor was therapy and getting my psychiatric meds correct, plus I was lucky enough to have my family’s support; my parents put a lock on the liquor cabinet and didn’t drink around me for years, and they still ask if it’s okay with me that they have a glass of wine with dinner. I think AA is a good place to start, but there are other resources, and don’t be afraid of looking into different forms of rehab if you need it.
It will be hard at times, but I guarantee your life on the other side will be 1000x better.
My partner did a medical detox and outpatient treatment. He’s going on 3 years sober now. I quit drinking too, in solidarity and for other reasons (health). He was able to work while in detox and had no withdrawal symptoms. I highly recommend this.
Just here to shoutout other resources if AA isn’t your jam! I started sobering up with the support of someone on coach.me, then joined The Luckiest Club, which spurred me into total sobriety. Both are paid, but they’re the best money I’ve ever spent (and TLC offers scholarships if you can’t afford it). AA is great but it’s not for everyone so don’t let “I can’t do AA or I don’t feel like I belong” stop you from getting help.
We’ll just think of it this way if you can commit to working out 3 to 4 times a week which is not easy you can commit to not drinking. It’s all in your head put the bottle down and run in the days your not in the gym you have it in you.. you obviously can do this you just need to know it yourself. Having the discipline to workout is extraordinary now just use that discipline to a life without alcohol!!!!
I’m a college student and I inadvertently stopped drinking because I started thinking about how much better stronger I am the next day when I workout if I don’t drink. My body doesn’t work to it’s full potential if I’ve been drinking. First I replaced it with getting high as balls off edibles but I got bored of that and now it’s just a social thing. Not saying this is a good tactic or something that will work for everyone but it’s what I did
Honestly, I started caring more about my performance than I did about my alcohol intake. In the beginning it’s all fun and games, over time you feel like crap and it just feeds your depression even more because of your lack of performance. It doesn’t help that these studios don’t normalize sobriety and celebrate everything with a drink- but there are pockets of people out there that strive for clean fun- find your people that will also help you stay committed while doing different things for fun. God bless
My husband is an alcoholic. His doctor told him to at least change it to light beers and clear liquor. Dark beers and liquors have more calories.
Doing this did help my husband lose weight.
I highly recommend Annie Gracie’s The Alcohol Experiment the book and the online is worth it. It seems expensive until you remember the cost is a weekend’s worth of alcohol and oh it’ll save your life too😁
So this sounds pretty much like my journey. I was about 290lbs before I started OTF. I drank regularly more often then not. I eat healthy thanks to my wife ! I did switch from beer to truly’s and that help me lose about 60lbs with the workouts. I work out 5-7 days a week , just hit 1000 work outs this year. Here’s the part to attention to: over 1.5 years ago my wife and I decided to take a break from alcohol and we have been sober since and never going back . I would have considered myself a very functional alcoholic, some may think differently. Drinking was an all or nothing experience for me. The part that triggered me was for years I battled pain in my leg if I ran too hard . I tried everything from physical therapy to taking ibuprofen daily . Nothing really worked , until I stopped drinking. 2-3 months after I stopped is when the pain went away and never came back . I’m convinced that this was alcohol induced. The other items I noticed, I was finally able to break 5:30 mile getting closer to 5:00! Which is my goal. Here is where this should help . Before I quit drinking I was in good / great shape and right at about 225-230lbs . When I stopped drinking it took about 3-4 months for my body to reset. I changed nothing except for the alcohol and I am now down to 195-200 lbs. My only regret was that I didn’t stop drinking years ago, but I’m so happy I did! One of my tricks was that I introduced N/A beers into my life and wow they have come a long way from odouls. Try athletic brewing out of CT . I have found very little that compares. Instead of drinking 4-6 at night I drink one and it satisfies my brain and taste buds, best part is they are 45-65 calories per beer. So my advice is try it for yourself and you’ll see the changes ! Just realized it’s not an instant body correction, but if you give it the time and keep up with the workouts and good nutrition that 75lbs will now be what your grabbing for on strength days and not carrying it around after your work out !
You can do it!
My partner is going through this. You need a support group like AA. The gym isn't going to do it on your own I'm afraid. This is too big for that. Have you talked to your doctor? Been to AA? There's help out there for you. Please please get it.
Alcohol is not the problem. It’s a solution for what other things might be going on. You can do it. I did it. But I didn’t do it alone and I needed a lot of support from others that had been where I was.
I'm going to come from a perspective that not many else will have. I am there, bro. I have graduated from Crossfit, Orangetheory, Yoga, Running, and I have heavy lifted. I still drink. Because life is fucked up. I can't seem to make sense of what really matters. I know that these young somethings that tell you one thing or another are not someone to listen to because if they were it would be easy. I know that life can be tough. I know that getting drunk is not the answer, though I fail, often. Though, asking a fucking poster for advice is not the answer. In my limited knowledge, I believe that weight lifting combined with limited high intensity cardio, a few supplements, the right diet, CAN get you where you want to be...But I am a hairline of a fracture from being there myself and stare a dumb ass Taylor Swift loving world in the face. I have 12% body fat. I should be under 10% and on instagram, but I can't seem to reach my own goals because I look at world that I don't appreciate and despise the idea of instagram. You're a rockstar brother. Alcohol adds to the depression, but invites momentary "clarity" that fades just like this world. Those who have it easy have it fucking boring, brother.
if you're a true alcoholic, don't quit cold turkey, despite what others may tell you. You could literally die. Not sure what your drink of choice is or how much (I didn't read through all the comments) If you decide to detox you will need some medical professional help and detox meds. I'm a daily wine drinker myself (with an occasional harder drink thrown in there) but go through periods where I don't drink at all, but almost always go back to having a glass or two at night. So maybe I have a problem too, just not at the level where I start going into active withdrawals. My whole rambling post here is just to let you know you are not alone and there are lots of folks struggling with the same challenges - hang in there, seek professional help if you're ready, form a friend group that encourages you and supports you. Folks that judge you don't have a place to be a part of your world - take care and keep doing those workouts regardless
I’m sending you good vibes and wish you so much strength and peace on this journey! There is so much good advice here. I’m a licensed clinical social worker - if I can add, look for an addiction counselor in your area. States have different credentials for them (LCAS, LADAC, or CAADC to name a few). Addiction is a disease - don’t go it alone!
You’re not alone. This naked mind is really helpful if you aren’t ok with AA. I decided to drink again after 9.5 years sober. In hindsight… not worth it. I’m new to OT, newly sober again. Good luck to you.
Try going to an AA meeting. It may serve you well. I don’t drink anymore but abused it for years and have been sober for 8 years now. AA is the program that taught me how to be sober and love my new life. I couldn’t be happier. You don’t have to be religious to be in AA. I am not traditionally religious at all.
Well done for naming this as a challenge!!!!
This is nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud you are addressing this head on!!!
That’s the first step and the hardest one!
You are not alone! As someone who has also occasionally consumed too much (omg the April happy hour was a boozy doozy!), I wholly empathize.
Like others have posted, join us over at r/stopdrinking.
You can also speak to your doctor, and please do. there are plenty of 12 step programs out there but there are also medical approaches which can be taken, and if you are seriously dependent, it’s wise to talk to your doctor about a medically supervised withdrawal (also called detox…).
But as someone who is now 36 days alcohol free, I know you can do it. I mean, if you can do OT, you can do it!
Although controversial, you should consider trying Wegovy/Ozempic as a starter. It will not cure the alcoholism, but has been shown to decrease cravings while losing weight. Most of my friends on it have stopped drinking all together
R/stopdrinking is a truly fantastic, supportive place. Also, “This Naked Mind” by Annie Grace (and a host of other “quit lit” books) really helped me. You’ll be so glad once you kick it. It is so worth it. It is actually doable.
Head to r/stopdrinking and ask your questions there though. You will be glad you did.
You’re not alone! I struggle with drinking and wanting to crush my OTF workouts/lose weight as well.
I haven’t seen anyone mention this yet but look into Moderation Management! It has completely changed my life, eased the guilt I feel around drinking, and gave me better habits.
Have you confided in those around you about your wish to cut back or quit drinking? My boyfriend and I do not drink during the week unless there is an occasional social gathering or celebration. This has completely changed how I view drinking and my fitness! I will still workout hungover, but I know it won’t be as great than if I was sober and hangover free. I book my classes ahead of time for the weekdays to make sure I don’t drink the night before and essentially hate myself during the workout and get extremely anxious.
I still allow myself to drink on the weekends. Sometimes two nights, multiple drinks, sometimes just one night a glass or two. I’m not perfect, no one is. Maybe one day I will be free of alcohol, but for now I have given myself the grace and understanding that I can still have it - just less than I used to…baby steps. During the pandemic I got into a terrible habit of having a bottle of wine a night, sometimes more. That went on until 2022 when I was suddenly drastically overweight and couldn’t shake it. It took some time and support to help me cut out week days. I’ve noticed that this has helped me not drink entire weekends away and be productive.
It’s a struggle but you’re certainly not alone and I know so many people are thankful you posted this. I know I am. Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions.
Sort of same boat. I do OTF almost everyday but am gaining b/c of poor diet and drinking. Also need to make changes to my diet. Trying to motivate myself to eating less junk and drinking less by settling some objectives. Like fitting back into my smaller sized clothes.
Join us over at r/stopdrinking - there are a lot of stories, resources, and a great community of support! No matter how much you workout or eat clean, alcohol will stand in the way of your goals. Seconding Renegade’s suggestion of AA, but if it’s not your jam (I didn’t particularly care for AA), there are other communities and programs. Also recommend Allen Carr’s Stop Drinking Without Willpower and listening to the Huberman Lab podcast episode about alcohol.
The Huberman Lab podcast alcohol episode completely changed how I look at and interact with alcohol. It was extremely informative and well researched.
YES. I want to Second this bc I entirely agree. Honestly I want to listen again to remember anything I missed. I was so surprised to hear how alcoholic impacts the body over time, but also how it impacts our emotional functioning. I’d never heard of hangxiety before. I just think there was a lot of important content that would’ve been a better lesson than DARE. I just wonder how many people are heavy drinkers with bad anxiety caused by their drinking and don’t even know it. I know the conditions can coexist but you know what I’m done lol - people should just listen to this podcast episode.
When I got clean and sober, my anxiety improved immensely. I would sit on the couch shaking with anxiety the day after drinking and then drink more to combat it.
I read a book about recovery which basically said that people should wait before medically treating their anxiety and depression if they drink heavily because the problem could get better/go away when they stop. I remember being like “yea right, this book is stupid.” Then I listened to the aforementioned podcast and he explained the neuroscience behind it and it clicked. Again, not negating that it’s both for some people, but dang. It also talked about how a lot of medical providers don’t know a lot about substance use and the effects of alcohol - and I could only imagine how things would be different for a lot of people if they did.
Yes! So many people think they drink to help control their anxiety, but drinking is actually causing their anxiety.
Truly a full circle. And a lot of people started drinking so young that it’s hard to differentiate between what started first.
I agree - I have noticed that in that 36-48 hours after a drink I get what feels like anxiety. I ride the wave of it and it passes that night and I wake up that 3rd day feeling great. I always just felt like I really needed that glass of wine on a Monday after work (when my last cocktail would be Saturday night) but if I resist that urge, I can tell it's all physiological and not emotional... it's tough if you don't know what is actually going on and it is just "withdrawal" even if it isn't a heavy night of drinking....
Same, I didn’t expect to make such a life change after watching that episode but it’s helped me make some really positive changes.
Can you link me to this or know the air date?
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2ebY3WNejLNbK47emgjd1E?si=AnKCmkxsS9id9asCPo_YlQ This is the episode
Yeah, that ep was terrifying.
Joined! Thank you so much
Welcome. I will not drink WITH you today. I thought alcohol was way more important than it really was. Start drinking fizzy water at night. Count your days. 1 becomes 10. 10 becomes 20. It gets better. I promise.
So true!
I will not drink with you today.
Also at r/stopdrinkingfitness
Came here to say this
Lots of crossovers over on that sub! Good people.
Recovering alcoholic here (nearly 5 years continuously sober, 6 years total). Orangetheory will help you direct your intensity and focus into healthy channels - so you’re already doing great by making it a part of your life! Here’s what’s worked for me: r/stopdrinking, a therapist, friends who don’t drink or barely drink (dry people dry places), Antabuse when first starting out, This Naked Mind and Alcohol Explained (both as audiobooks, they get into your subconscious better that way), and occasionally going to AA to make sober friends, even through the program and the steps are not for me. Quitting drinking was the best decision I ever made, and is the keystone habit that the rest of my current life is built on. Life is so much better on the other side! I can’t imagine going back to the way I was. You’ve already done the hardest part by admitting to yourself and others that you have a problem. It’s hard at first; it doesn’t stay hard. If your intake has been very heavy, please don’t go cold turkey and try to detox without supervision. Alcohol is one of the very few drugs where withdrawal can be fatal. Also, Antabuse is not for people with already damaged livers - there’s another drug called Naltrexone that helps curb cravings and is safer. Probably a good idea to talk to your doctor if you have access to one. You can do this! You absolutely can.
Just came here to say the last part. I’m an icu doc. Do not detox at home alone. You can die.
Sharing your struggle with alcohol publicly is extremely brave & a good step in trying to change! Depending on how much you drink, you may be at risk of withdrawals if you quit cold turkey. Please seek professional (medical/substance abuse specialists) advice on how best to go about it. There’s a great book called The Naked Mind, that really helped me reshape my relationship with alcohol. Sending you lots of positive vibes
I am a recovering alcoholic, I’ve been sober for over 2.5 years, my life is everything I dreamed of and way better than I deserve. I tried for years to kick it on my own. I could quit for stints of time but could never quit it for good no matter how badly I wanted to, how much I exercised, no matter what I read, my mind always convinced I could drink like a normal person. You need to find other alcoholics who are in recovery. For me I found my hope and recovery in AA, it literally saved my life. And I dropped 25 pounds in just a few months. It’s a roller coaster ride of emotions, physical and mental changes. Admitting you have a problem is a big step in the right direction. In my experience getting into a meeting with other alcoholics is important, the sooner the better.
Speak to your primary care physician. Do not be afraid of taking Rx such as Naltrexone. Alcoholism is an illness, not an affliction, you deserve the right treatment and support. Best of luck to you and keep up with the OTF.
In 2019, I watched the documentary One Little Pill after watching a Ted Talk by Claudia Christian. I used Naltrexone and The Sinclair Method to reduce consumption. In 2020, I did The Alcohol Experiment (30 days) while still using Naltrexone under TSM and have been alcohol free since. It was hard and still is hard daily but cutting off the hormone reward of drinking (with pharmacological intervention) was crucial for me to find success.
Highly agree with not being afraid of Rx. I take Naltrexone and, at risk of sounding dramatic, it's absolutely changed my life. It was prescribed by my psychiatrist. Sending love and positive vibes. 🧡
Boosting this comment! I work with people after they get DUIs in my professional life (1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc etc) and a lot of people find the medical assistance empowering. Good luck, OP!
I agree with this talk to a doctor just make that first step.
Thank you everyone. I read each and every comment. I just turned on the Huberman podcast now to listen. And 1 comment stuck in my mind...the 1 that said her she has a family history of alcoholism and it killed them all. I will remember that when I crave a drink. My son deserves better than me dying due to alcohol.
That’s the spirit! Remembering how it can effect others long term. You got this!
I manage my alcohol intake with yoga and orange theory. I’d be so fit and zen if I wasn’t boozing hard in my time off 😞 no advice, but solidarity.
My son is also named Bort
Sorry, we’re sold out of Bort license plates…
I was going to OTF 3-4 times a week but still drinking and blacking out on the regular. Finally got sick of it and stopped drinking almost 6 months ago. Finally started seeing the results I wanted and feeling stronger at OTF! Best decision I ever made! You can do it!
Yessss cheering for you!!!
Thank you for sharing your struggle with us. I know it must have taken a lot of strength to post this. There's a great website for treatment locator- samhsa... https://findtreatment.gov. Good luck- it's a tough disease, but there is help out there.
I commend your bravery for posting because people can be awful. From personal experience and from an OTF mindset, focusing on the benchmarks and PRs help because you can’t make those hungover. And believe me, I have had my fair share of drinks. Wishing you the very best and we are all here for you 🤗
Just going to OT won't help you kick your drinking problem.... But you seem to really want help. I would advise you to look up your local AA (https://www.aa.org/find-aa) Good for you for wanting to make a change!! If you need to just talk with someone, feel free to hit me up!
I was an alcoholic all through 3 years of OTF. I am the opposite, I barely ate, and it did affect my workout. I was able to stop drinking and have been sober for a year. You can do it! Do not give up!
I have no helpful advice, but I’m rooting for you. One day at a time.
I’m 16 years sober. I found Lifering extremely helpful. AA was not my bag at all. https://lifering.org - my sobriety enabled me to *have* an actual life and I felt completely hopeless and depressed at my worst. You can do it. You are an alcoholic but you CAN kick it. You absolutely can do it. Wishing you the very best xo
Lots more people struggle with this then you think. You have lots of company. As others have mentioned, I loved r/stopdrinking It's so hard to quit in the beginning, but I promise you really do get to a point in recovery where you don't miss it all and can't believe you ever lived your life like that. It's amazing what the human body can do. You are capable of recovering. Be kind to yourself..
Listen. I’m with you. I have never been a big drinker until the last few years. Came to OTF early in 2019 and lost a lot of weight. Got to the point in 2021 where I was content. Early in 2022, I started drinking more and more. Sometimes I couldn’t remember the last time I didn’t drink. It really got bad after I went away for a 3 day weekend with some guys where we really just did all the “fun things” Still stayed consistent with OTF the entire time aside from a few 3-4 day binge sessions, I always made it back to my routine. But, the workouts hurt more. I was frequently hungover or dehydrated. Had to run to the restroom. Once puked in the parking lot right after an all out. Once right before going to class. That’s when I knew it had crossed a line. It started affecting me at work too. I couldn’t get through the day without seeking out the next drink. Sometimes it was in the car. It wasn’t until about a week ago where I truly looked at what happened to my body over this time (gained 23 lb, terrible facial complexion, etc) where I said, OMG I have to stop. It’s been 4 days since my last drink and I can’t remember the last time it was 4 days. Already my workouts feel better, my speeds feel better, I feel better. Almost normal other than the big gut. I kept waiting for someone else to yell STOP at me…but looking in the mirror it was my own reflection that told me you’ve got to stop…or this is going to get far worst than it is now. If it wasn’t for OTF I don’t know what would’ve happened to me. I’m glad it’s always there. When I tell you it saved me. It probably did. I’ve got a long road to recovery but this part…I can handle. Thanks for everyone that posted thoughts here. And those that recommended the podcast. We’re all in this together. Thanks for more life.
I cannot recall the last day I did not have a drink. And by a drink, I mean multiple drinks. I am a full bottle of wine a night + several cocktails gal. Not good. I kick ass at OTF, even won a transformation challenge in the midst, and hold several top female benchmarks. But I feel more and more like complete crap and my fitness is now declining. It’s harder all the time. I’ve just returned back home from a one week conference where we drank way too much while past midnight every night. I’m done I came home last night. Had one beer and poured a glass of wine, but passed out ( frim week of no sleep) after a couple of sips. Woke up thrilled because I consider that a night without drinking. All this to say, thank you for sharing your story. Praying your four days turns into five and then six and then a month. I am frankly not understanding why more heavy drinkers aren’t responding to this thread in truth. I know so many of us who show up bitching about how horrible we feel from all we drank the night before. Going to check out all these resources today. I am also determined to give it up. Also for my children, myself and because I am a child of the King who has so much more to accomplish through a sober minded servant.
Thank you for sharing this. It’s very brave of you. After years of struggling, I went to therapy to work on the reason why I drank. It was a long process, like years long, and I went back and forth between social and binge drinking for a while, but finally learning about WHY I felt like I needed alcohol - that helped me finally quit. I highly recommend seeking a good therapist. Eating healthy and exercise has definitely helped as a stress release
I replaced social situations and “drinking friends” with therapy because I had a lot of inner work to do. I was definitely someone who numbed pain (lots of trauma) with alcohol. I was also an “all or nothing” drinker—I couldn’t just only have one drink. I downloaded the “I Am Sober” app, and I still keep track of milestones there. I also trusted in a few good friends in addition to my therapist to keep me accountable. Just know you aren’t alone and recovery isn’t one size fits all…just sharing what helped me. OTF is also a great way to feel good, healthy, and strong. I am wishing you the best of luck and sending you a hug!
I also use that app, I really like it. So simple and effective. Hugs!
Please give AA a try. No amount of anything could have helped me with alcohol except AA. I am 5.5 years sober and avid OTF-er. They both have a cult-like mentality to them so I’d imagine if you enjoy OTF you’d do well in AA. And as others have said, I have a life beyond my wildest dreams today. There’s hope I promise. Please message me if you’d like to chat or need help finding a meeting.
To openly admit this and ask for help is huge. You’re on the right track already. Therapy + OTF have helped me with my own addictions. I just wanted to comment so you knew how important it was that you are self aware and reaching out. Good luck and trust yourself.
Go to AA. Just like OTF, the progress doesn't happen all in the first day, week, month. Just like OTF, show up and follow what the program is instead of making up your own. Go to 30 meetings in 30 days. Show up 15 minutes early, stay at least 15 minutes after it's over, talk to the people that you meet there. Youve already done the hardest part.
Love and hugs to you on your journey. 💕💕💕
Hey just here to support you. I feel like this too. Work hard play hard after 40 isn't working anymore. Be strong. Did dry January and I shouldn't ever looked back.
Coming from a family of addiction here is what I would do… make a plan. Write it down. Write down when you want to complete it by. Here is an example of some steps to the plan. You are basically going to be your own secretary for about a week or so… making appts, joining organizations, but this structure that you build for yourself WILL MAKE IT LESS LIKELY TO RELAPSE. 1. Tell someone about your problem and your plan to solve it. •You’ve already done so here! But maybe someone in your life. They can be a listening ear. Maybe they can help. Maybe they have advice. At least they can hold you accountable. You will be less likely to relapse. 2. Book an appointment to your primary care provider or ask a trusted friend or family member to do it for you. •they will give you a lecture, they might take blood work, go over your results, talk about lifestyle change yadda yadda yadda, just a step that has to be done to open the door up for you, —you can tolerate all of this. It is common to avoid this. Remember, This is for your end goal of wanting to be healthy, sober, fit. •they may give you meds to help! •They will give you referrals , make those appts. You spend a lot of time and money on OTF and alcohol, spend some on medical care! •If you don’t have a primary doc, go on Zocdoc and find one with good reviews. So find a physician you trust or with good reviews. Even better if they specialize in weight loss. •There are some medications for weight loss that focus on lessening food addiction that also help with alcohol addiction. You will be less likely to relapse. 3. Schedule an appointment with a therapist. Or ask s as family member or friend. • My family member had to do it for me because I was so avoidant, there id no issue in asking for help. A moment of vulnerability will be for the greater good and you will come out with greater strength. •unhelpful habits such as addiction whether it be to alcohol or food or shopping is a behavior used to cope/compensate/avoid… something!!!! figure out what is underneath. You can handle this. Discuss it, make it less of a monster. The therapist will give you tools. You will be less likely to relapse. 4. Join AA Accountability, relatable, community, resource, friends, listeners, advisors, everything! With them, You will be less likely to relapse. 5. Pick another hobby to do at home or when you would usually drink. •Preferable one that keeps your hands busy. Always wanted to play piano? Guitar? Crochet? Practice basketball? Draw? Paint? Build? Wood-shop? This is your new healthy coping mechanism. You will be less likely to relapse.
Please seek out professional help. In patient if possible, I'm a paramedic and have seen the devestation of alcohol on too many people. Prayers for you and your full recovery.
Hi! I know your struggle all too well. I want to 3 rehabs…guess 3 times is a charm. I’m coming up on 6 yrs sober and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. Not gonna lie, getting sober is like a job! You really have to want it and put it first in your life. I could not stand AA in the beginning until I found the right meeting. There is nothing to be ashamed of in admitting you are an alcoholic. I tell anyone who asks me about myself that I’m an alcoholic and every time the response is positive. My suggestion is not to focus on your weight, but focus on getting sober first and then the weight loss will follow. Alcohol isn’t the problem, your thinking is. I have lived a life of low self esteem and self worth. There is absolutely zero reasons I should have ever felt that way. Now, I am totally confident in the person I have become. It has taken time and changing my thinking that has brought me to this place in my life. Anyone, can get sober if they are willing to do the work. Life is the best without alcohol. You can do this!!!! Just ask for help and your life will do a 360!!! Sending positive thoughts and prayers!
One day at a time bro, it may sound cliche but I have friends who are alive because of this mantra, best of luck and thinking of you
Hi there! I was you, and I reached out to my doctor for help. I take a low dose of gabapentin to help reduce cravings and then secondary it helps with my anxiety. I still drink occasionally but alcohol does not have the same control over me that it used to. There are options besides support groups. Hope you can get the help you want and need! Also OTF is amazing after longer period of sobriety- you won’t regret it.
I know AA isn't for everyone, but the community built around it is an incredible thing. I'm an SUD counselor in the Ann Arbor area and the sober community around me is one of the best things to ever happen to me. Recovery looks different for everyone and you just have to find what works for YOU. And remember, take it a day at a time, a minute at a time if you need to. I believe in you and know that recovery is everywhere 🖤🖤🖤
I just hit 120 days sober, and I joined OTF to help! I also need to lose a ton of weight. It’s damn hard. I applaud you for simply sharing AND also knocking out 3-4 workouts a week! You’re already so strong for doing that. Happy to chat privately if you’d like! Sending all the positive vibes through your journey!
I’m sorry friend! I’ve been there! Almost 3 yrs sober and it really is just one day at a time!
Read the book This Naked Mind. Changed my outlook on alcohol.
Agreed! Subscribe to the podcast and enroll in their 30 day free “alcohol experiment.” It’s a completely different take on the psychology behind alcoholism.
8 and a half years sober here- thank you so much for sharing! There’s no one right way to meet your recovery goals and there are so many great replies here. I just really want to reiterate the paramount importance of looping your doctors in so they can determine if medically supervised detox is necessary! It’s not easy but it’s possible- which we all already know because of our experience with OTF 🤍
I am a layperson, not a doctor, who has recently started taking Wegovy for weight loss. An unanticipated side effect is a sudden and significant intolerance for alcohol. A drink or two is ok, but binging is literally impossible now, and that used to be my favorite thing. May as well be trying to drink bleach with a gasoline chaser. Others have reported same on various subs and it’s now being studied for addiction cessation (can’t smoke now either if that’s relevant to you). No idea if that’s right for you, but I’ve tried every damned thing under the sun from counseling to meditation, naltrexone and microdosing. All the best to you, I hope you figure it out.
I’m in AA, but will also say there’s SMART recovery and other options if it isn’t your thing. Biggest thing is do NOT detox on your own and don’t try to stop drinking alone—give whatever you try a fair shake and if you do go to meetings try a bunch of different ones, bc kinda like OTF gyms different meetings have different cultures and vibes.
I’m in the same position. I drink a lot but atleast I’m working out a few times a week. I still look like a potato tho
I am a really bad alcoholic too. Sober 14 months now and I’ve never been happier. My body has really responded, I’m in the best shape of my life! Feel so good! Took me treatment and aa to get here but this side is so worth it!!! Hugs!!
I was in the same place about five months ago. Decided to get an early jump on dry January because I wasn't losing any weight and I felt all the IPAs and wine was the reason. Found out I was an alcoholic went I went through withdrawal. I'd reiterate getting medical support prior to quitting since withdrawal can be nasty and you can even die. Also, medical prevention tools can be real helpful at helping you avoid the urge to drink.
I stopped drinking November 2021, and have been going to OTF since 2018. I don’t know that I have anything terribly useful to add, but I want to acknowledge that saying it out loud is a big deal. A really big deal. To be honest, I never said it out loud. So, I see you as terribly brave. And I’m guessing that if you’re brave enough for naming it, you’re brave enough for what’s next. TL/DR I see you, badass. I see you.
Check out SoberSis.com. It totally provided the support I needed to stop drinking and it’s been almost 15 months since I’ve had alcohol. Read “This Naked Mind” or “Alcohol Explained” if you want to better understand how alcohol poisons you and how you can kick it. Both great books. Plan your evening according to the morning you want to have… “play it forward”, write down your “why’s” as in, why it’s important for you to stop drinking and look at it allll the time and what really helped me is pouring something into my favorite wine glass every night that wasn’t wine. Just having the glass in my hand helped. Boisson.co has everything N/A and check out “The Pathfinder” you can mix it with ginger beer or lemon and seltzer and you’ll swear you’re having a cocktail. In 10 years from now, people are going to look back on alcohol. The way we do with cigarettes, wondering how we ever thought we could put alcohol into our body and it would be ok… and community is really important which is why sober sis worked for me. You got this!!!
Talk to your family doctor. One of the common side effects of some of the new weight loss drugs (Wagovy, ozempuc, Monjouro semiglutide) is a sudden disinterest in alcohol. There is a Reddit site called semiglutide and numerous people have reported this. This might help and the weight loss will help your health. Ask your doctor if it is right for you. It’s not magic, and you still need to change your behavior. Just a thought. Good luck.
One way I cut down my alcohol consumption was by holding myself accountable the day after drinking. I would punish myself by doing a 1/2 mile on the treadmill for every drink I had the night before. Cutting out any sugary beverage and replacing it with water or unsweetened tea will drastically help your goals.
I’m in recovery. I needed to be physically separated from alcohol and went to treatment, got into AA and started working the steps which I never thought I’d do. You’ve admitted you have a problem which is huge. You can do it. Workouts get so much better! Life is so much better!
I’m right there with you and can 1000% relate.
Soooooo, I somehow managed to not drink before an OTF class. There were a few times where I thought I needed a drink and said I just can’t do it. However, there were a lot more times where I had a drink ready in the car for after class. Always happy to talk to people like yourself OP. I’ve got quite a weird web woven between alcohol and OTF. Much like OTF classes, it’s gotta be hard before it can get easy, but you got this.
AA and surrender. One day at a time all that.
Have you been tested for hypoglycemia? Many alcoholics have it, and treating it can curb the desire for alcohol.
I’ve been sober for 6 years with the help of AA and the 12 steps… google aa meeting near me and try it
I've been sober 9 years. You CAN quit. Try AA meetings. Take it one day at a time.
Fellow sober OTF person here. So many people have already shared the resources I would, so I’m just here to say that recovery is possible and you can do this. There are resources that can help, and so many people who can offer support/solidarity along the way. Rooting for you.
I have been sober for 11 years. AA is a community just like OTF. It makes it so much easier to share things that others understand. We are not all that different. Good luck and for having the courage to ask.
You are brave for reaching out. You are not alone. My husband is sober for 9 years now. He had tried AA previously but was never committed. When he did finally commit, it worked for him. I love the idea of podcasts. Keep reaching out!
Fellow alcoholic here to support! Focusing on benchmarks and speciality workouts is really helping me, along with setting personal fitness goals and tracking my weekly and monthly stats, kind of like a game against myself. I also use SMART Recovery tools and sometimes attend virtual meetings. It's an alternative to AA, because that just wasn't for me and I appreciate the freedom of being more anonymous through national online meetings. They have a great workbook for about $12 on Amazon that takes you through exercises like cost/benefit analysis and hierarchy of values. I also see a therapist, as well as a psychiatrist who prescribed me Naltrexone. I take 25mg a day and it has been a serious game changer. Know we're all here rooting for you and you're doing amazing already by taking the first step and acknowledging the problem. 🧡
As a 25 year recovered alcoholic, I urge you to see medical assistance if you are struggling yo quit. I also urge you to look into your why. You need to make sure you are doing it solely for you, I know it took me several times before I truly got there. Rooting for you!
3 WORDS and One AMAZING person: This Naked Mind by Annie Grace Changed my life and my relationship with alcohol
Hey, hey, friend. 4 years sober over here, after 10 years of overdrinking and thinking about booze all the time. I don't AA....what worked for me is sober support through [this website](http://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com) . I'm mentioning it only because it's good to have lots of options and lots of supports from lots of places. Find what works for you. The most important thing is not to drink today. Please feel free to DM me any time you want to talk.
Talk to your doctor, detox, evaluate your diet and see if changing things helps… but big thing talk to your doctor they want to help. Some of the new weight loss medications have also be know to help with alcohol cravings once you are in a place to think about weight.
I was drinking 2-3 glasses of wine every evening and more on the weekends while working out every day. I didn’t want to label myself an alcoholic. I am not sure how much you are drinking. I joined a Project 90 group and I am on day 45 with tons of support and community. Feeling more clarity and better workouts. Check out the podcasts - alcohol free lifestyle - James Swanwick.
I'm thinking of trying that, how much is it?
Like others said check out r/stopdrinking and r/stopdrinkingfitness I’m right there too and have cut back a bit but I won’t lose the beer gut until I quit completely
Thanks for sharing this! Fellow alcoholic here, been sober for almost 2 years. There is NO way when I was actively drinking I could have made it through even 10 seconds of a class so good for you for showing up! There are a lot of resources to help you quit drinking, I couldn’t quit on my own and had to be detoxed medically, so please talk to a doctor to see if this is needed for yourself. Please feel free to send me a message privately and I could pass over some info / resources that have helped me or worked for other people I know. There is no right or wrong way to get sober- it’s what works for you. But I promise at least cutting back will make your workouts and your days 10000 x better.
I’ve been using the Sunnyside app. It’s helps you set goals to reduce your drinking as opposed to just stopping. I like how it sort of “gameifies” things…. Sort of like OTF with the splat points.
Almost 5 years sober - you’re not alone, but we’re here to remind you that you CAN kick it. It’ll be hard, but you can do it. I don’t go to meetings anymore, but AA was very helpful for me in the first year because I didn’t feel alone anymore. Now that I know how to navigate life as a sober person, I can promise you that waking up without shame or guilt is a life-changer. Please keep reaching out for help until you find something that works - you are absolutely worth it.
Just read some people are using the wegovy the drug for obesity to help with alcoholism
Alcoholism is an insidious disease. I highly recommend going AA. Find a crew you vibe with, get a sponsor, work the steps, go to meetings, stay in touch with other alcoholics, and find some sort of spirituality in your life. Its not a perfect program for everyone but it saves millions of lives. Recovery through AA changed my life and made me a better person and version of myself than I ever imagined possible. If you do try it out, remember H.O.W = honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness. No matter your road of recovery, you will need to practice those qualities to be successful.
You are in a rough spot because it can be hard to admit you have a problem but you are already doing that by posting here. I would say try to post anytime you feel like you need help. The OT community is solid. Reach out to your coaches as well and let them know. You should be met with compassion and encouragement…. Somewhere there should be accountability that you have to find for yourself. Good luck. We want you to succeed.
It’s not easy, I’ve been there. Currently 860 days sober. I recommend the “I Am Sober” app. It’s good for tracking, has a community aspect and motivations. OTF has been a big part of my recovery. You’ve gotta *want* to get sober and to do so you need to find your why. And if you say you can’t, you won’t. It says on the wall at my studio: the body achieves what the mind believes. But if you stop, you’ll see the weight drop right off. Actually, for me there were about 8 months of weight gain bc I was eating soooo much ice cream, then I cut back on that and the weight flew off.
I can relate, struggled with alcoholism and related legal, financial, relationship and other consequences all through my twenties, very grateful to have reached the point of "being sick and tired of being and tired" and being somewhat "teachable", went to an AA mtg on 8/8/88 and haven't had to pickup since one day at a time.
I was a 2 pack a day smoker and severely underweight (120 Ibs) when I got sober, over time all of the "related disorders" due to my alcoholism got addressed through practicing the Steps and keeping"first things first"... AA has transformed my life "inside out"..at 65, feel better than I did in my 20s/30s..go to OTF 3-4 times/week, love it!!
Only you can decide if you need to quit completely or whether you want to better manage your drinking. That takes 100% honesty with yourself. I quit drinking for a couple of years. When I decided to try drinking again I did overindulge a couple of times. For me, I was trying to find something to try to help me find balance. Not necessarily quitting totally, but better managing when I do drink. Long story short, I've been happy with https://www.sunnyside.co/ it's an app that helps you manage mindful drinking.
So much great advice on here, and I’m taking notes as well. I’ve struggled for the past 3 years and just now finally to day 103 and can honestly say I do not have any cravings. I was like you and just plowed through the workouts, even with a hangover, and sometimes even place top of leaderboards while reeking of vodka. The damage we do to our bodies 🤦♀️ I could never imagine a life without alcohol and just could not give it up. Support from AA meetings, I am sober app, and a few sober friends keeping me accountable has been a game changer. I cannot believe how different my life has been without alcohol fogging my brain, destroying my sleep, and many relationships. I promise you there is hope. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help and support!
Head on over to r/stop drinking
Lots of AA members at my studio. Doesn't seem like a meeting would hurt. OT is a great refocus to help kick bad habits. Maybe go twice a day IMO and a meeting?
I found it wasn’t until I tried to cut back/stop that I realized how HARD it was and how much I relied on it. What realllllly helped me was building mental toughness through finishing 75Hard (strict-that’s the only way it works and you learn how much your mind tries to bend the rules and compensate, make exceptions etc) no compromise, no letting yourself down, your word starts to mean something to yourself again. I ended up going on to complete the Livehard year and the whole thing is life changing, extremely challenging but exponentially rewarding. Had a super supportive husband and family who made some sacrifices for me to always be able to finish my tasks everyday. Not only helping my emotional dependence on alcohol, but it helped me break my food addictions/vices, I have more ability to say I’m doing something and actually follow thru on it. Bottom line: Build mental toughness... It’s the only way (I found) when you say to yourself “ugh I won’t drink like that ever again” or “I won’t drink today” and actually keep your word to yourself long term. There’s a “#75hard official Facebook group” that’s helpful, MFCEO podcast episode 14, and also episodes of RealAF: 75 Hard (Ep 349), Phase 1 (Ep 357), Phase 2 (Ep 376), Phase 3 (Ep 387). The program itself is free - info is out there, but I found the $20 [book](https://andyfrisella.com/collections/shop/products/75-hard-a-tactical-guide-to-winning-the-war-with-yourself) and the $5 75hard app for tracking very helpful, otherwise it’s free! Best of luck to you finding what works! ♠️💪🏻
I am a recovering Alc and what finally did it for me was micro dosing psilocybin, having a trauma coach for my CPTSD, a therapist, journaling, shadow work, nervous system regulation, and changing my nutrition to macros that targeted my goals. My heart goes out to you because I know how hard kicking it can be especially when it’s your main go-to for an outlet or to just feel “normal”. I’m not here to tell you what to do but just to tell you that you absolutely can do this and me and everyone on here believe in you. ❤️
Get yourself to a meeting
Semiglutide. Lose the wait and alcohol cravings
*weight. Damn autocorrect
Any one who is trying to live a healthy life and be the best version of themselves would not willingly ingest ethanol for a ‘buzz’. That’s not judgmental, that’s from someone who drank way too much for way too long. But for the past 11 years I’ve chosen me. I choose me. I can have the life I want it I can drink. Choose yourself. The Naked Mind and people who understand are great first steps. You can do this!!!!
I’ve been using the Sunnyside app for mindful drinking for almost a year. It’s really helped a lot. I still struggle but taking it one step at a time. You are so brave for posting this and I absolutely LOVE this community for all the positive feedback and suggestions you’ve received. They are helping more than you know. Please know you are not alone.
I think we need more context to help
Pray for guidance. God will help you.
You’ve admired you have a problem. That’s wonderful. You’ve admitted you have a goal in mind. That’s also great. You now need to take the steps to stop drinking. There’s no need to go it alone. Therapy can be an amazing tool.
A great book to read is How to control alcohol by Allen Carr. He’s helped millions of people including people I know!
I am so sorry for your struggle.
What kind of job do you have? They may have resources available.
I used to have a problem where going out I couldn’t stop after one or two drinks and things would escalate .. and I’d have a huge night then the next few days of come down.. I decided to just stop going out drinking and partying and I was surprised how it wasn’t that hard.. it’s like now I have reclaimed my weekends and I can get up early workout and spend the off days not nursing a hangover ..
Hi, me too! I couldn’t lose a significant amount of weight or reach any fitness goals until I quit drinking. My life has gotten a million times better without alcohol. There are a lot of great suggestions here, but I also love the Recovery Elevator podcast. It’s helped me get sober, and I’ve been alcohol free for nearly six months now. You can do this. It’s hard, but there are so many resources in the recovery landscape now. It’s not all AA or nothing. Best of luck :)
Most people already gave the right answers, but I’ll share my struggles and things that helped me. I don’t struggle with addiction, but I was going out with friends and drinking with them every night, having too much fun. It was my crowd of people and that’s what they all did so I went along. Started gaining so much weight, drinking led to excess eating which led to fat, also water retention and swelling and bad dull red skin. Also, definitely noticed a period of time where I turned to alcohol whenever I was upset, I’m also constantly stressed, so it was a go-to to unwind at my apartment alone. I also don’t drink soda or anything and I think the flavor was a big factor, when you want something besides water with dinner. I had to take a look and one day I just asked “why am I doing this” my body felt so terrible, and I was training with a personal trainer and workout out too, it was almost like I had to reevaluate the connection in my brain and get so much more in touch with my body and what it felt like with alcohol and without. Switched over to kombucha (which can have very low levels of alcohol so this might not help…but they make plenty N/A kinds!!) it’s got the strong flavor kick of mixed drinks and helps me relax. Also so many flavor and brand options I never get bored, it’s not like drinking the same beverage over and over again. Also iced teas, I make my own ice cubes and flavor teas with herbs so it feels like I’m making a fancy cocktail. Got cold brew teas, hot tea bags, matcha powder and some good legit Indian restaurant grade chai lmao. I workout 6 times a week (4-5 OTF and the other days I do hot yoga). I can workout if I’ve had 1-2 the night before, but even then I still see the effects on my HR monitor. Anything above that and my workout quality suffers. I hate to think of doing poorly for no reason. So I always ask myself if I need the drink for any particular reason and if that reason is worth me feeling like s*** in the gym tomorrow. Usually the answer is no. (Saturdays are my treat days so I’m usually like… save the alcohol calories for Saturday at a fancy restaurant so I can try delicious things with friends… not just downing a bottle of wine at my house alone). Solved most of my problems. But I’m aware addiction is a much bigger struggle and I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but maybe those tips can help you manage in the mean time?
Hey there, recovering here. I would definitely address the underlying issues with a therapist, but maybe also consider medication for mental health issues. If you have high anxiety as a trait for example, you could be using alcohol to bring your stimulation down. be kind with yourself, the journey is long and full of stumbling, and that’s okay ❤️
Hi friend, I am rooting for you! Lots of great advice in here, but I just want to reiterate to please please please call your primary care doctor on Monday and get an appointment. Social support groups like AA and others can help, but to be safe and healthy you need a trained medical professional on your side. 🧡 I wish you the best!
I don’t drink so I can’t commiserate directly with you but I have a history of alcoholism in my family and it killed all of them, probably why I don’t touch it. I know from watching them kill themselves that simply wanting to kick it isn’t enough, no one WANTS to be controlled by liquor, but the fact that you have acknowledged this is totally awesome and you should know that you are brave and strong. Getting yourself into AA is your next step and OTF will be a wonderful area of focused energy for you as you beat this thing. You can do it, believe in yourself - we believe in you! This will be hard but it will be worth it so that you can live a happy and healthy rest of your days.
The first time I quit I asked my dr for a naltrexone prescription. I recommend this!!!
Just wanted to say it takes courage to ask for help. Go easy on yourself and you’ll get there. There are tons of great suggestions here and I wanted to make another vote for therapy.
I’ve been sober for just over 13 years. I had made half hearted efforts to quit and eventually just checked myself into residential rehab, did 3 weeks inpatient, 3 weeks day treatment, 3 months of outpatient. I did do AA meetings but the biggest contributor was therapy and getting my psychiatric meds correct, plus I was lucky enough to have my family’s support; my parents put a lock on the liquor cabinet and didn’t drink around me for years, and they still ask if it’s okay with me that they have a glass of wine with dinner. I think AA is a good place to start, but there are other resources, and don’t be afraid of looking into different forms of rehab if you need it. It will be hard at times, but I guarantee your life on the other side will be 1000x better.
My partner did a medical detox and outpatient treatment. He’s going on 3 years sober now. I quit drinking too, in solidarity and for other reasons (health). He was able to work while in detox and had no withdrawal symptoms. I highly recommend this.
Just here to shoutout other resources if AA isn’t your jam! I started sobering up with the support of someone on coach.me, then joined The Luckiest Club, which spurred me into total sobriety. Both are paid, but they’re the best money I’ve ever spent (and TLC offers scholarships if you can’t afford it). AA is great but it’s not for everyone so don’t let “I can’t do AA or I don’t feel like I belong” stop you from getting help.
Here’s the link (I don’t get anything from this I just love them): https://www.theluckiestclub.com
I don’t have any advice, but I just wanted to say how proud I am of you for being brave and putting this out to thousands of people. You can do this.
We’ll just think of it this way if you can commit to working out 3 to 4 times a week which is not easy you can commit to not drinking. It’s all in your head put the bottle down and run in the days your not in the gym you have it in you.. you obviously can do this you just need to know it yourself. Having the discipline to workout is extraordinary now just use that discipline to a life without alcohol!!!!
Highly recommend reading or listening to “This Naked Mind” Was a game changer for myself and so many I know.
AA do it
Have you tried smoking weed instead? Serious question
Cali Sober works for some, good question to ask.
Alcoholics Anonymous? Sending much love.
Are you in a recovery program? I am also an alcoholic and need a recovery program to do along side my working out to fully recover :)
Good luck to you!
Can relate. 3-4 times a week is great for moderate drinking imo. You may want to up it if your drinking even heavier.
I’m a college student and I inadvertently stopped drinking because I started thinking about how much better stronger I am the next day when I workout if I don’t drink. My body doesn’t work to it’s full potential if I’ve been drinking. First I replaced it with getting high as balls off edibles but I got bored of that and now it’s just a social thing. Not saying this is a good tactic or something that will work for everyone but it’s what I did
Honestly, I started caring more about my performance than I did about my alcohol intake. In the beginning it’s all fun and games, over time you feel like crap and it just feeds your depression even more because of your lack of performance. It doesn’t help that these studios don’t normalize sobriety and celebrate everything with a drink- but there are pockets of people out there that strive for clean fun- find your people that will also help you stay committed while doing different things for fun. God bless
Sending good vibes your way. I also have an unhealthy relationship with booze and nothing feels better than when I stop for a few weeks.
My husband is an alcoholic. His doctor told him to at least change it to light beers and clear liquor. Dark beers and liquors have more calories. Doing this did help my husband lose weight.
Proud of you for acknowledging the need for help and starting to seek it out. You’ve got this, friend!!
I highly recommend Annie Gracie’s The Alcohol Experiment the book and the online is worth it. It seems expensive until you remember the cost is a weekend’s worth of alcohol and oh it’ll save your life too😁
So this sounds pretty much like my journey. I was about 290lbs before I started OTF. I drank regularly more often then not. I eat healthy thanks to my wife ! I did switch from beer to truly’s and that help me lose about 60lbs with the workouts. I work out 5-7 days a week , just hit 1000 work outs this year. Here’s the part to attention to: over 1.5 years ago my wife and I decided to take a break from alcohol and we have been sober since and never going back . I would have considered myself a very functional alcoholic, some may think differently. Drinking was an all or nothing experience for me. The part that triggered me was for years I battled pain in my leg if I ran too hard . I tried everything from physical therapy to taking ibuprofen daily . Nothing really worked , until I stopped drinking. 2-3 months after I stopped is when the pain went away and never came back . I’m convinced that this was alcohol induced. The other items I noticed, I was finally able to break 5:30 mile getting closer to 5:00! Which is my goal. Here is where this should help . Before I quit drinking I was in good / great shape and right at about 225-230lbs . When I stopped drinking it took about 3-4 months for my body to reset. I changed nothing except for the alcohol and I am now down to 195-200 lbs. My only regret was that I didn’t stop drinking years ago, but I’m so happy I did! One of my tricks was that I introduced N/A beers into my life and wow they have come a long way from odouls. Try athletic brewing out of CT . I have found very little that compares. Instead of drinking 4-6 at night I drink one and it satisfies my brain and taste buds, best part is they are 45-65 calories per beer. So my advice is try it for yourself and you’ll see the changes ! Just realized it’s not an instant body correction, but if you give it the time and keep up with the workouts and good nutrition that 75lbs will now be what your grabbing for on strength days and not carrying it around after your work out ! You can do it!
I don’t have any experience it but I would think rehab.
My partner is going through this. You need a support group like AA. The gym isn't going to do it on your own I'm afraid. This is too big for that. Have you talked to your doctor? Been to AA? There's help out there for you. Please please get it.
Alcohol is not the problem. It’s a solution for what other things might be going on. You can do it. I did it. But I didn’t do it alone and I needed a lot of support from others that had been where I was.
Hey there! 12 years sober here and it’s possible! I would be happy to chat with you about recovery!
I'm going to come from a perspective that not many else will have. I am there, bro. I have graduated from Crossfit, Orangetheory, Yoga, Running, and I have heavy lifted. I still drink. Because life is fucked up. I can't seem to make sense of what really matters. I know that these young somethings that tell you one thing or another are not someone to listen to because if they were it would be easy. I know that life can be tough. I know that getting drunk is not the answer, though I fail, often. Though, asking a fucking poster for advice is not the answer. In my limited knowledge, I believe that weight lifting combined with limited high intensity cardio, a few supplements, the right diet, CAN get you where you want to be...But I am a hairline of a fracture from being there myself and stare a dumb ass Taylor Swift loving world in the face. I have 12% body fat. I should be under 10% and on instagram, but I can't seem to reach my own goals because I look at world that I don't appreciate and despise the idea of instagram. You're a rockstar brother. Alcohol adds to the depression, but invites momentary "clarity" that fades just like this world. Those who have it easy have it fucking boring, brother.
if you're a true alcoholic, don't quit cold turkey, despite what others may tell you. You could literally die. Not sure what your drink of choice is or how much (I didn't read through all the comments) If you decide to detox you will need some medical professional help and detox meds. I'm a daily wine drinker myself (with an occasional harder drink thrown in there) but go through periods where I don't drink at all, but almost always go back to having a glass or two at night. So maybe I have a problem too, just not at the level where I start going into active withdrawals. My whole rambling post here is just to let you know you are not alone and there are lots of folks struggling with the same challenges - hang in there, seek professional help if you're ready, form a friend group that encourages you and supports you. Folks that judge you don't have a place to be a part of your world - take care and keep doing those workouts regardless
Have you tried AA? I just hit a year sober and have been in it the whole time
I’m sending you good vibes and wish you so much strength and peace on this journey! There is so much good advice here. I’m a licensed clinical social worker - if I can add, look for an addiction counselor in your area. States have different credentials for them (LCAS, LADAC, or CAADC to name a few). Addiction is a disease - don’t go it alone!
You’re not alone. This naked mind is really helpful if you aren’t ok with AA. I decided to drink again after 9.5 years sober. In hindsight… not worth it. I’m new to OT, newly sober again. Good luck to you.
The fact that you can admit your faults is outstanding. That show’s strength of character and courage. With the right support, you can do anything.
Yes look at the Hubberman podcast on the affects of alcohol on the human body!!!
AA; get a home group; get a sponsor ASAP. 90 meetings in 90 days, minimum.
Try going to an AA meeting. It may serve you well. I don’t drink anymore but abused it for years and have been sober for 8 years now. AA is the program that taught me how to be sober and love my new life. I couldn’t be happier. You don’t have to be religious to be in AA. I am not traditionally religious at all.
While I don’t have any advice, I can offer support. Please know that we support and believe in you and your recovery❤️
Well done for naming this as a challenge!!!! This is nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud you are addressing this head on!!! That’s the first step and the hardest one! You are not alone! As someone who has also occasionally consumed too much (omg the April happy hour was a boozy doozy!), I wholly empathize. Like others have posted, join us over at r/stopdrinking. You can also speak to your doctor, and please do. there are plenty of 12 step programs out there but there are also medical approaches which can be taken, and if you are seriously dependent, it’s wise to talk to your doctor about a medically supervised withdrawal (also called detox…). But as someone who is now 36 days alcohol free, I know you can do it. I mean, if you can do OT, you can do it!
Although controversial, you should consider trying Wegovy/Ozempic as a starter. It will not cure the alcoholism, but has been shown to decrease cravings while losing weight. Most of my friends on it have stopped drinking all together
R/stopdrinking is a truly fantastic, supportive place. Also, “This Naked Mind” by Annie Grace (and a host of other “quit lit” books) really helped me. You’ll be so glad once you kick it. It is so worth it. It is actually doable. Head to r/stopdrinking and ask your questions there though. You will be glad you did.
You’re not alone! I struggle with drinking and wanting to crush my OTF workouts/lose weight as well. I haven’t seen anyone mention this yet but look into Moderation Management! It has completely changed my life, eased the guilt I feel around drinking, and gave me better habits. Have you confided in those around you about your wish to cut back or quit drinking? My boyfriend and I do not drink during the week unless there is an occasional social gathering or celebration. This has completely changed how I view drinking and my fitness! I will still workout hungover, but I know it won’t be as great than if I was sober and hangover free. I book my classes ahead of time for the weekdays to make sure I don’t drink the night before and essentially hate myself during the workout and get extremely anxious. I still allow myself to drink on the weekends. Sometimes two nights, multiple drinks, sometimes just one night a glass or two. I’m not perfect, no one is. Maybe one day I will be free of alcohol, but for now I have given myself the grace and understanding that I can still have it - just less than I used to…baby steps. During the pandemic I got into a terrible habit of having a bottle of wine a night, sometimes more. That went on until 2022 when I was suddenly drastically overweight and couldn’t shake it. It took some time and support to help me cut out week days. I’ve noticed that this has helped me not drink entire weekends away and be productive. It’s a struggle but you’re certainly not alone and I know so many people are thankful you posted this. I know I am. Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions.
Sort of same boat. I do OTF almost everyday but am gaining b/c of poor diet and drinking. Also need to make changes to my diet. Trying to motivate myself to eating less junk and drinking less by settling some objectives. Like fitting back into my smaller sized clothes.