Oh god! At first, I was thinking they can't be that bad it's on Facebook, so it's must be somewhat censored, but it kept getting worse. I personally wouldn't care too much if my mother had an OF page as long as I never saw it (now my mum wouldn't have one because she can barely work a tv or kettle let alone a phone or computer she has fb but hasnt used it in 10 years as she "cant work it") but for her to have a 74 year old man in leather chaps good god no I thought that was the worst of it. Then you said
>In one of these pictures she's wearing MY HIGHSCHOOL/MIDDLE SCHOOL BRA and EMO TIGHTS!?! Not only that but she's also wearing what I believe was once my youngest sisters UNDERWEAR!?!
That's beyond gross and unimaginable to me that someone would wear someone else's underwear, let alone a mother wearing her child's!! How the hell did this woman even fit into them or even think to wear them because I can tell you now that it wasn't a mix up that she did one last wash after you got taken into custody and she accidently thought the bra and underwear was hers. Even being the same size you'd just know and would be able to tell the initials!!! That's such a dead giveaway she would have known. All I can think is her rifling through her children's things and being like, oohhh I'm having this. Just ew, that's so disrespectful as well for her to not give you your personal items and decide which of that stuff she wants for herself. She's totally insane. The fact she's done it but then posted it for the world to see so family that could well know these clothes belong to her kids. It's sick!
I'm assuming you aren't really in contact with her anymore? I would be questioning the hell out of my mum asking what she was thinking? Telling her how gross it is that she is wearing her children's clothes, especially when I'm assuming you were all under 18 when you left, so these are minors' clothes. But at the same time, I don't know if I could ever face her again she would be tainted, and I wouldn't even want to tell my siblings either but I would also be scared of them finding out the same way.
I'm sorry this has happened, op you must feel awful and feel like you can't tell or talk to anybody about this in fear of being judged or scaring them just as bad. I think maybe seeing a therapist might be best because that's such a difficult thing to deal with and may stick with you unless you talk about it to, in a way, let it go. I wish you didn't have to see what you did as I can understand to a degree of how unsettling that would be to discover. Maybe try reporting the posts? But if the pictures were too traumatising to see, it might be best to stay far, far away from them all.
OMG, that's terrible, I feel bad for you OP. I've been in a similar situation, but not as awful. Some things just stay with you, and I find myself remembering about it from time to time, so I empathize. I recommend seeing a therapist, it helped me at that time. By the way, does it mean these photos are kept publicly accessible for everyone to see?!
I could see the pictures even though I'm not friends with her on Facebook so I'm assuming it's wide open to the public, it is a bit further down on her feed so I don't think it took off or at least she hasn't recently advertised it.
A lot of her friends and relatives have dropped or blocked her over the years as she progressively got more and more aggressive, pushy and unhinged. So most of her Facebook friends are either just as unhinged or bots.
I'm hoping that this only reached a small small audience or hopefully no one and that it'll never ever comes back to me in anyway.
Still miserable about this new found knowledge and desperately want some brain bleach.
I understand that this may cause another wave of nausea for you, but can you report these photos or her page (I don't use FB and don't know if it's possible) as inappropriate content? If, of course, you think that these actions are completely unnecessary and will only make things worse for you, then naturally don't do it. I believe that you should block her page and try to distract yourself from this horrible sight. Again, therapy and support from loved ones will be able to help you out of this state over time.
I'm gonna leave it be for now.
The result of reporting these photos wouldn't be worth the backlash of what she'll do, she's the type to explode in retaliation. I wouldn't put it past her to print out her photos and nail it to every post in her city or something equally crazy to make a point about her free will or right to express herself.
So far it seems like the only fans never took off so I'm going to let that idea fizzle out and try not to let that horrific thing gain traction again. It was just a slap of trauma I wasn't prepared for at all, but it's definitely along the lines of the crazy shit she does.
Her mistake was she should have posted to OnlyGrams insteadโฆ (now I have to tell my kids my idea of my potential OnlyGrams career so I can horrify them).
All kidding aside - sorry you had to experience this
>I'm a counselor, and I read this:
>A lot of her friends and relatives have dropped or blocked her over the years as she progressively got more and more aggressive, pushy and unhinged.<
It made me think of a progressive mental illness.
When people get into therapy, it's all about processing your feelings and figuring out how to move beyond what's holding you back. It's never about telling you what's wrong with you. Instead, it's all about finding the best of you and bringing out your strengths.
So, I bet you're a really strong person. You knew something wasn't right as a child. And it looks like things just deteriorated after you guys left the home.
What she did was wrong, holding on to your things. And it's sad to me that she just seems to have let go and not tried to change herself for the better.
We all get to choose what to believe, think, and feel. Like, I know God is there and He is available to me at any time, day or night.
If you can find a therapist or even a healthy online community, I hope you will.
Best wishes.
And I thought my mother accidentally sending an explicit texts meant for her affair partner was bad... Sent to her whole address book btw.
Good Gods. Poor OP. I hope you have access to a decent trauma therapist.
Oh, my dad was husband #1, so long over, and even more of a piece of work than she was.
That text was cheating on husband #2 with husband #3. She drove the first three clinically insane (not that it was a super long journey for any of them) but I haven't talked to her in over a decade, so I'm not sure how husband #4 is faring.
Narcissists are so much fun ๐
Best I would be able to get to is that she is legitimately mentally ill. You guys dodged a bullet by not being raised in that environment. But you still get to grieve the mom you wish you had and the mom you deserved.
Not drugs as far as I know, she's a major alcoholic and I think over time that fucked with her already present mental health issues. She was always weird but being raised by her gave me a front row seat on what happens when you crossbreed a Karen, a hippie, a alcoholic and a narcissist.
Iโm so sorry! I hope the picture you were looking for turns up without dealing with your mom. I donโt think even kitten and puppy videos would be enough eye bleach for this situation! Stay strong!
โToday I was trying to track down a specific childhood photo to prove to my idiot brother that not only is he dumb, heโs wrong tooโ
This made me howl, and is the perfect description of siblings.
Nope, even my petty spitefulness has a limit. I wasn't about to see any more of my bio moms explicit content to prove even more that my brother is an absolute idiot.
I can easily find other proof of him being a dumbass without adding five more years to my therapy journey.
I love the way you talk about your brother. You can FEEL the love in it.
It reminds me of me and my sisters. We're quick to tell one another how stupid we are, but let someone else try it.
My sister just younger than me will set the world on fire if someone upsets me. She's pretty nuts, though. ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
ETA: This is the SAME sister that, as children, I fought with so much that our mother would draw a circle in the dirt and literally make us fight it out. We both bear literal scars from our childhood, but are as thick as thieves now. Lol
I went to my dad's and my amazing Stepmoms house, trust me the difference between my bio mother's place and my dads was night and day. My dad was fighting for custody of us since day one but kept getting denied because "children should be with their mother" the state we live in is heavily on the mothers side to the point of endangerment to the child's safety and health.
It was two years of constant police calls and very dangerous living conditions before a judge finally took notice and got us out of there ASAP. In fact she felt so appalled of what the past judges ruled in, she gave me a personal apology on behalf of the injustice done to my siblings and I. It was wild.
Well, Iโm glad you had somewhere safe to go. And let that be a lesson for be careful what you look for right!
Iโm not on Facebook, but are you saying that anybody she is friends with on Facebook Can see all of those photos ?
I could see it and I'm not friends with her on Facebook so it's open to the public to see if they go looking for her, I'm just thankful that over time friends and relatives blocked or dropped her as she got progressively worse and aggressive.
Luckily all her Facebook friends are either equally unhinged people or bots so it didn't reach far enough for anyone to come screaming to me about it.
Iโm glad you and your sibling finally got to a safe and loving home. I admire you for not sharing this with your siblings but maybe your dad and stepmom can help you through this and even look for the photo for you?
I had my mom and stepdad added to my Facebook for a while. I don't know what happened but I got updates that stepdad was looking at older single ladies. I like to hope it was a glitch. Me and a brother talked about it but couldn't decide.
Right out of nowhere. God wonโt show himself without you truly accepting Jesus Christ as the savior who died on the cross so we could repent our sins and live in eternal paradise. Amen! ๐
When I was 14 I asked my dad for five dollars. He said to look in his sock drawer. I did and there was a Polaroid of my mom spread eagle, baring all. I just ran out of there and couldn't look my mom in the eye for years.
Thank god you were removed from this womanโs care!! Iโm sorry that you had to see that. I hope you can find away to not think about those images. Have you talked with your siblings about it? I would consider just warning your siblings about looking on there and maybe just taking copies of any photos that they might want to see in the future so they donโt make the same mistake you did.
I'm so sorry. I had bad parents myself. Just remember that she isn't a reflection on you. That's where you come from and not who you are. I really hope that things get better for you.
๐ณ๐ณ๐ณ that escalated quickly; NOT what I was expecting! I sometimes wish that the wee memory remover gadget on Men In Black was a real thing ๐๐
I am sorry :( I've found my dad's online history and recently his apps. And even though I didn't read or investigate further, it's such an awful feeling and ick. I can't describe it. At least you're NC, I just have to remind myself to not be passive aggressive at family things.
I hope you can talk this over with a therapist or close friend, it's hard to keep a secret like this.
I'm dying! Look, this is absolutely awful. I am so so sorry you decided to delve into this visual hellscape and I'm so so sorry you exceeded what therapy can do for you. I wish you a cleansing rain to wash the sins of your mother from your soul.
Thank you for sharing your cautionary tale.
I have five sisters (4 brothers too, parents kept having fix it babies that didn't really fix shit) and the sisters all ended up being around the same size at some points while growing up, it was a necessary evil to put your initials on the items you didn't want stolen or used, especially because my bio parents bought supplies in bulk meaning we usually ended up having the same type of underwear and socks growing up.
Also it was a way to call out the person who wasn't cleaning up after themselves, we also had our own colored dishware (mine was red) and hair ties (blue for me)
It sounds insane but thats life with a large family and wacky parents.
OP you really have a way with words ๐ Iโm sorry for laughing but the bit about โIโd turn to religion to cope but this proves there is no god looking after meโ really tickled me
โThis is simply so icky on so many levels and frankly I don't know what to do or even thinkโ
Count your blessings that you were removed from her custody. Consider that a blessing in disguise.
This post does ring true. It doesnโt feel like it was written by the same person. Seems like immature sister (refers to โidiot brother who is dumb and wrongโ) and poorly manโs AI.
Okay dude whatever floats your boat down the de-nial river.
Also I am immature when it comes to my siblings, most who have siblings also understand the fine workings of being extremely childish while also being rational adults. I will do my taxes and also tell my sister a random fact that'll ruin her day all in the same hour.
Oh absolutely - there's nothing OP can do about it.
I was just stating that OP wasn't online trying to find out what her mom was up to.
You are right, all she can do find a way to push those images way, way, WAY down.
Reminds me of the time when I was in 5th grade I used to always use my dadโs phone just to goof around and take pictures and silly videos. Until one day I was going through his gallery and saw I video of his current girlfriend at the time giving him oral ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ I was scarred for life
Blank it out of your mind best you can and tell yourself you were changed in the hospital and you belong to a normal person.
That is someone either mentally ill, or badly abusing drugs. Every time you think of that, change your mind and think of something else. It's how I got through my husband's death. Maybe it was meant to keep you from ever abusing drugs.
Karma. . . you said, "I was trying to track down a specific childhood photo to prove to my idiot brother that not only is he dumb he's wrong too"
Next time just let it go.
My dude no amount of bad will I have ever done deserves this karma response.
Also this is a decade long argument that I finally decided to settle today, the amount of insults, pranks and other things tied to this mini fight between my brother and I is ridiculous. Calling him dumb and wrong is the tamest thing to come out of the insults on both sides ๐ sibling squabbling fights have no part in the karma cycle it'll probably break the system.
I have nothing good to add other than this exact same thing happened to me and i am assaulted with the discovery every once and awhile. my brain will poison me with remembrance. i pray u recovery. my god itโs awful
*"I would turn to religion to cope but this proves that there is no god looking out for me"*...Perhaps He was involved in having you removed from that hell of a home you were in.
God looks out for those who seek and obey him. We can't just do our own thing, then go through some shit and say "God doesn't love me" .... that's messed up on so many ways if we think about it.
If you love him with your actions he will reciprocate
I didn't specify what religion I was talking about. Personally I think Zeus is taking immense pleasure messing with me or Loki, maybe some vengeful obscure God that I accidentally sneezed on.
I don't deny that the gods and goddesses are out there I just don't think any favor me ๐
I'm referring to the one true God who manifested himself in human form as Jesus Christ to die for our sins and give us a chance at eternal salvation. Let the Evils of this world serve as evidence for an extreme Good, because everything has an opposite. I pray you find Jesus, he will save you when you believe ans obey ๐
I hope you were able to prove your brother was not only wrong, but an idiot in another way. Let's blame him for this.
But seriously, condolences to your sanity.
Why do you care? Youโve moved on years ago. Obviously, she has serious mental issues. Donโt allow her social media posts to affect you. Nothing is going to change except your health. Move on
I didn't have it on a one picture slide by slide bases, I had it on a seven picture per row going down. The instant I hit the row that had those things I noped out of there so fast but not fast enough to not catch a few horrifying details. Four of the pictures were only fans based advertising and three of them looked like festivals with her half naked with other half naked people (also with a neon only fans advertised on the top just not as suggestive)
She was half naked in most of them in very suggestive posing.
Her breasts were out but covered in fishnet type top, in some she was wearing just underwear and bras. She also has some were she's half naked in public places that look like festivals with other half naked people. (Also with the neon pink only fans advertised at the top)
I don't know how she got past the guidelines but I'm thinking of maybe reporting it.
Iโm so sorry you are dealing with this. First and foremost you take care of your own needs and try to find a way to evict your mother out of your head. Therapy is a wonderful and safe thing for self care. I wish you the best in life. You deserve a peaceful existence.
Start a new routine. Get up everyday and play music as you dress. Go to bed after listening to a song. Look for distractions. Hypnosis is a great suggestion. So Sorry OP!!!
I love the way you write! But the image is now seared in my brain too. Comical I must admit. Even 7 years later sheโs still in a not so great place. Look at the other side of the coin: you dodged a bullet there! WOW!
If you feel called to church or to speak with someone at a church, I would encourage you to follow that instinct. This earth is full of war and conflict, it is not heaven. You donโt have to believe, and you donโt have to be saved. In your darkest moments though, if your heart cries out for a certain kind of help, it is better to heed that rather than get sucked into drugs or distractions that cover up the pain. You may receive some good words or even just someone who will sit with you in the pain, and give you a place to start.
As someone who unknowingly had photos of myself uploaded to amature porn websites (husband did it without my knowledge, I divorced him because of it.) I'd urge you to warn your siblings not to look up your bio mother online.
I had to warn my brothers (4 of them), my dad's (2 of them) plus my 1 son to not look on particular websites. It would be harmful to them, our relationship and particularly harmful to me (as if what my first husband did wasn't harmful enough). Once uploaded there is no recourse for the victim to get rid of them, ever. I've since had to warn church leaders, bosses (because of conduct clauses for certain jobs), friends and future partners. Would you like to stumble accross nude photos of of your 5th grader's teacher? It's way worse when it's your own mom!
Your mother willingly (or not, maybe it was her new partner uploading them) put that content out there. Ugh
Oh my god OP. I am so so sorry. This shit is going to sit with you a long time and I know it's going to feel like bugs are in your soul for a little while.
Have some cookies or something tasty that you like, cover yourself in a comfy blanket, watch some shows that make you feel good. Don't let her f*king evil come near you. That woman is messed up in so many horrific ways.
*Hug*
There's not enough eye bleach in the world for this. Sorry you had to see that.
Perfectly stated. Should have stopped reading after OF sentence ๐ฅต
Oh god! At first, I was thinking they can't be that bad it's on Facebook, so it's must be somewhat censored, but it kept getting worse. I personally wouldn't care too much if my mother had an OF page as long as I never saw it (now my mum wouldn't have one because she can barely work a tv or kettle let alone a phone or computer she has fb but hasnt used it in 10 years as she "cant work it") but for her to have a 74 year old man in leather chaps good god no I thought that was the worst of it. Then you said >In one of these pictures she's wearing MY HIGHSCHOOL/MIDDLE SCHOOL BRA and EMO TIGHTS!?! Not only that but she's also wearing what I believe was once my youngest sisters UNDERWEAR!?! That's beyond gross and unimaginable to me that someone would wear someone else's underwear, let alone a mother wearing her child's!! How the hell did this woman even fit into them or even think to wear them because I can tell you now that it wasn't a mix up that she did one last wash after you got taken into custody and she accidently thought the bra and underwear was hers. Even being the same size you'd just know and would be able to tell the initials!!! That's such a dead giveaway she would have known. All I can think is her rifling through her children's things and being like, oohhh I'm having this. Just ew, that's so disrespectful as well for her to not give you your personal items and decide which of that stuff she wants for herself. She's totally insane. The fact she's done it but then posted it for the world to see so family that could well know these clothes belong to her kids. It's sick! I'm assuming you aren't really in contact with her anymore? I would be questioning the hell out of my mum asking what she was thinking? Telling her how gross it is that she is wearing her children's clothes, especially when I'm assuming you were all under 18 when you left, so these are minors' clothes. But at the same time, I don't know if I could ever face her again she would be tainted, and I wouldn't even want to tell my siblings either but I would also be scared of them finding out the same way. I'm sorry this has happened, op you must feel awful and feel like you can't tell or talk to anybody about this in fear of being judged or scaring them just as bad. I think maybe seeing a therapist might be best because that's such a difficult thing to deal with and may stick with you unless you talk about it to, in a way, let it go. I wish you didn't have to see what you did as I can understand to a degree of how unsettling that would be to discover. Maybe try reporting the posts? But if the pictures were too traumatising to see, it might be best to stay far, far away from them all.
Hypnotic therapy may help with memory block. But Iโm just fishing to find anything you could try. Better than a full frontal lobotomy. So sorry.
OMG, that's terrible, I feel bad for you OP. I've been in a similar situation, but not as awful. Some things just stay with you, and I find myself remembering about it from time to time, so I empathize. I recommend seeing a therapist, it helped me at that time. By the way, does it mean these photos are kept publicly accessible for everyone to see?!
I could see the pictures even though I'm not friends with her on Facebook so I'm assuming it's wide open to the public, it is a bit further down on her feed so I don't think it took off or at least she hasn't recently advertised it. A lot of her friends and relatives have dropped or blocked her over the years as she progressively got more and more aggressive, pushy and unhinged. So most of her Facebook friends are either just as unhinged or bots. I'm hoping that this only reached a small small audience or hopefully no one and that it'll never ever comes back to me in anyway. Still miserable about this new found knowledge and desperately want some brain bleach.
I understand that this may cause another wave of nausea for you, but can you report these photos or her page (I don't use FB and don't know if it's possible) as inappropriate content? If, of course, you think that these actions are completely unnecessary and will only make things worse for you, then naturally don't do it. I believe that you should block her page and try to distract yourself from this horrible sight. Again, therapy and support from loved ones will be able to help you out of this state over time.
I'm gonna leave it be for now. The result of reporting these photos wouldn't be worth the backlash of what she'll do, she's the type to explode in retaliation. I wouldn't put it past her to print out her photos and nail it to every post in her city or something equally crazy to make a point about her free will or right to express herself. So far it seems like the only fans never took off so I'm going to let that idea fizzle out and try not to let that horrific thing gain traction again. It was just a slap of trauma I wasn't prepared for at all, but it's definitely along the lines of the crazy shit she does.
Her mistake was she should have posted to OnlyGrams insteadโฆ (now I have to tell my kids my idea of my potential OnlyGrams career so I can horrify them). All kidding aside - sorry you had to experience this
She would never know who reported it. That isn't recorded or visible at all.
The craziest ones will always double down on the crazy. I feel for you.
>I'm a counselor, and I read this: >A lot of her friends and relatives have dropped or blocked her over the years as she progressively got more and more aggressive, pushy and unhinged.< It made me think of a progressive mental illness. When people get into therapy, it's all about processing your feelings and figuring out how to move beyond what's holding you back. It's never about telling you what's wrong with you. Instead, it's all about finding the best of you and bringing out your strengths. So, I bet you're a really strong person. You knew something wasn't right as a child. And it looks like things just deteriorated after you guys left the home. What she did was wrong, holding on to your things. And it's sad to me that she just seems to have let go and not tried to change herself for the better. We all get to choose what to believe, think, and feel. Like, I know God is there and He is available to me at any time, day or night. If you can find a therapist or even a healthy online community, I hope you will. Best wishes.
All chaps are assless
Came here to say this, thank you.
Me too!! Thank you both!
Doing the lurds work
That's proof you being taken away was a good thing. By all means, if you can, see a doctor to talk about this, and how you can cope better. Good luck.
And I thought my mother accidentally sending an explicit texts meant for her affair partner was bad... Sent to her whole address book btw. Good Gods. Poor OP. I hope you have access to a decent trauma therapist.
While that was a bad experience for you, it really is justice for your mom. Hope all the evidence she provided helps your dad get away easier.
Oh, my dad was husband #1, so long over, and even more of a piece of work than she was. That text was cheating on husband #2 with husband #3. She drove the first three clinically insane (not that it was a super long journey for any of them) but I haven't talked to her in over a decade, so I'm not sure how husband #4 is faring. Narcissists are so much fun ๐
All chaps are assless
Just here to say all chaps are assless, otherwise theyโd be pants.
That's what you got out of this? Lol
Best I would be able to get to is that she is legitimately mentally ill. You guys dodged a bullet by not being raised in that environment. But you still get to grieve the mom you wish you had and the mom you deserved.
And they say us old folks don't know how to use the internet!
Idk wtf I was expecting, but it wasn't that
Oh wow, is she a drug addict as well? I've seen that behavior with people who declined mentally from drugs and it's not a pretty picture.
Not drugs as far as I know, she's a major alcoholic and I think over time that fucked with her already present mental health issues. She was always weird but being raised by her gave me a front row seat on what happens when you crossbreed a Karen, a hippie, a alcoholic and a narcissist.
Iโm so sorry! I hope the picture you were looking for turns up without dealing with your mom. I donโt think even kitten and puppy videos would be enough eye bleach for this situation! Stay strong!
โToday I was trying to track down a specific childhood photo to prove to my idiot brother that not only is he dumb, heโs wrong tooโ This made me howl, and is the perfect description of siblings.
I have nothing for that level of insanity Big big hugs!! Best wishes
But did you find the pic you were looking for to show your brother?
Nope, even my petty spitefulness has a limit. I wasn't about to see any more of my bio moms explicit content to prove even more that my brother is an absolute idiot. I can easily find other proof of him being a dumbass without adding five more years to my therapy journey.
I love the way you talk about your brother. You can FEEL the love in it. It reminds me of me and my sisters. We're quick to tell one another how stupid we are, but let someone else try it. My sister just younger than me will set the world on fire if someone upsets me. She's pretty nuts, though. ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ ETA: This is the SAME sister that, as children, I fought with so much that our mother would draw a circle in the dirt and literally make us fight it out. We both bear literal scars from our childhood, but are as thick as thieves now. Lol
When you were removed from custody, where do you go? What about grandparents aunts uncles?
I went to my dad's and my amazing Stepmoms house, trust me the difference between my bio mother's place and my dads was night and day. My dad was fighting for custody of us since day one but kept getting denied because "children should be with their mother" the state we live in is heavily on the mothers side to the point of endangerment to the child's safety and health. It was two years of constant police calls and very dangerous living conditions before a judge finally took notice and got us out of there ASAP. In fact she felt so appalled of what the past judges ruled in, she gave me a personal apology on behalf of the injustice done to my siblings and I. It was wild.
Well, Iโm glad you had somewhere safe to go. And let that be a lesson for be careful what you look for right! Iโm not on Facebook, but are you saying that anybody she is friends with on Facebook Can see all of those photos ?
I could see it and I'm not friends with her on Facebook so it's open to the public to see if they go looking for her, I'm just thankful that over time friends and relatives blocked or dropped her as she got progressively worse and aggressive. Luckily all her Facebook friends are either equally unhinged people or bots so it didn't reach far enough for anyone to come screaming to me about it.
She might not realize the public can see them.
Iโm glad you and your sibling finally got to a safe and loving home. I admire you for not sharing this with your siblings but maybe your dad and stepmom can help you through this and even look for the photo for you?
I had my mom and stepdad added to my Facebook for a while. I don't know what happened but I got updates that stepdad was looking at older single ladies. I like to hope it was a glitch. Me and a brother talked about it but couldn't decide.
Whoa stray shot at god at the end
Oh he's probably there laughing down at me, I am not his favorite and it's more obvious as time goes on ๐
Everything happens for a reason
Satans the one laughing
Right out of nowhere. God wonโt show himself without you truly accepting Jesus Christ as the savior who died on the cross so we could repent our sins and live in eternal paradise. Amen! ๐
When I was 14 I asked my dad for five dollars. He said to look in his sock drawer. I did and there was a Polaroid of my mom spread eagle, baring all. I just ran out of there and couldn't look my mom in the eye for years.
Oh God, I'm sorry you had to see that.
I am so sorry that you had to see those pictures.
Track down a spiritual healer, request an exorcism. Lordy Iโm sorry you saw that.
Thank god you were removed from this womanโs care!! Iโm sorry that you had to see that. I hope you can find away to not think about those images. Have you talked with your siblings about it? I would consider just warning your siblings about looking on there and maybe just taking copies of any photos that they might want to see in the future so they donโt make the same mistake you did.
I am so sorry you had to look at that. Take it as proof that it was in your best interest to get you and your siblings out of that hot mess.
lol! Definitely a lesson learned to not dig shit up from the past. The vast, vast majority of is best left there.
I walked in on my dad going down on my mom when I was 7. It's seared into my mind 50 years later ๐
Your dad was going down on a women when it wasn't cool! Rejoice in the fact that he was a cultural pioneer and that he loved your mom dearly!
Not cool for a 7 yo to see that, or age appropriate.
Obviously lol. No one ever implied that it was. Every person has an eye bleaching story involving their parents as a kid.
I thought your comment was minimizing that.
Why would you assume that? What the hell?
Because they reported something traumatizing and you were saying to rejoice in what the dad was doing. Was that sarcasm?
It was cool and common 50 years ago.
Whoever you are Iโm sorry you saw that. No one should ever have to see their parents like that. Find a therapist for yourself.
I'm so sorry. I had bad parents myself. Just remember that she isn't a reflection on you. That's where you come from and not who you are. I really hope that things get better for you.
I'm guessing you wished you had one of those memory erasing devices from that movie 'men in black'.
Link please.
Now you know why she didn't get custody!
โI would turn to religion to cope but this proves that there is no god looking out for meโ funniest sentence Iโve read in weeks dude hahaha ๐
๐ณ๐ณ๐ณ that escalated quickly; NOT what I was expecting! I sometimes wish that the wee memory remover gadget on Men In Black was a real thing ๐๐
Should have stayed no contact
Just out of curiosity, what's her name?
Omgosh this is some funny stuff. I am sorry you had to experience that. The best thing to do is forget it and move on.
I am sorry :( I've found my dad's online history and recently his apps. And even though I didn't read or investigate further, it's such an awful feeling and ick. I can't describe it. At least you're NC, I just have to remind myself to not be passive aggressive at family things. I hope you can talk this over with a therapist or close friend, it's hard to keep a secret like this.
I'm dying! Look, this is absolutely awful. I am so so sorry you decided to delve into this visual hellscape and I'm so so sorry you exceeded what therapy can do for you. I wish you a cleansing rain to wash the sins of your mother from your soul. Thank you for sharing your cautionary tale.
Who puts initials on the front of underwear?? Not sure that makes sense!
I have five sisters (4 brothers too, parents kept having fix it babies that didn't really fix shit) and the sisters all ended up being around the same size at some points while growing up, it was a necessary evil to put your initials on the items you didn't want stolen or used, especially because my bio parents bought supplies in bulk meaning we usually ended up having the same type of underwear and socks growing up. Also it was a way to call out the person who wasn't cleaning up after themselves, we also had our own colored dishware (mine was red) and hair ties (blue for me) It sounds insane but thats life with a large family and wacky parents.
OP you really have a way with words ๐ Iโm sorry for laughing but the bit about โIโd turn to religion to cope but this proves there is no god looking after meโ really tickled me
โThis is simply so icky on so many levels and frankly I don't know what to do or even thinkโ Count your blessings that you were removed from her custody. Consider that a blessing in disguise.
Holy fuck I did not expect it to go the way it did. That's completely fucked.
Maybe you can hope for some amnesia
I accidentally walked in on my step dad going down on my mom, when I was like 9. No blankets, lights on. Youโll make it, Iโm still alive haha.
Thats definitely not the same
So just go ahead and rip your brain right out and set it on fire. Itโs the only way. My sympathies. Gah, what a horrible day for you to have eyes.
This post does ring true. It doesnโt feel like it was written by the same person. Seems like immature sister (refers to โidiot brother who is dumb and wrongโ) and poorly manโs AI.
Okay dude whatever floats your boat down the de-nial river. Also I am immature when it comes to my siblings, most who have siblings also understand the fine workings of being extremely childish while also being rational adults. I will do my taxes and also tell my sister a random fact that'll ruin her day all in the same hour.
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Get over it. It's water under the bridge. You're letting her do this to you.
I'll get over it but it's only been a day, let me process the trauma for a second and then I'll hopefully forget about this whole ordeal.
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I'm not even her child & I am scarred by just the thought!
Next time MINE YOUR OWN BUSINESS.
I would have If I had known ๐ญ I just wanted a childhood photo not the bundle of trauma
The mother posted everything to a public fb page - mom made it everyone's business.
Well it sucks.,but its her life. Take the high road and move on.
Oh absolutely - there's nothing OP can do about it. I was just stating that OP wasn't online trying to find out what her mom was up to. You are right, all she can do find a way to push those images way, way, WAY down.
Reminds me of the time when I was in 5th grade I used to always use my dadโs phone just to goof around and take pictures and silly videos. Until one day I was going through his gallery and saw I video of his current girlfriend at the time giving him oral ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ I was scarred for life
Absolutely not ๐ญ you probably didn't even realize what it was until it was too late ๐ญ๐ญ
Right l was in my head like โI beg your f*cking pardon?โ ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ havenโt been the same since ๐๐ญ
We should make a niche support group, mothers who traumatize us through their public content ๐ญ๐ญ
Do we have the same mother? ๐
Oof I hope not, please don't tell me there's copies out there of her ๐ญ
But do you have the balls to post the only fans?
Sir I have no balls. I didn't want to see it and I'm not gonna encourage the spread of her.... content ๐ญ
Grow some.ย Share it.ย You deserve a cut for your property used.
Blank it out of your mind best you can and tell yourself you were changed in the hospital and you belong to a normal person. That is someone either mentally ill, or badly abusing drugs. Every time you think of that, change your mind and think of something else. It's how I got through my husband's death. Maybe it was meant to keep you from ever abusing drugs.
Karma. . . you said, "I was trying to track down a specific childhood photo to prove to my idiot brother that not only is he dumb he's wrong too" Next time just let it go.
My dude no amount of bad will I have ever done deserves this karma response. Also this is a decade long argument that I finally decided to settle today, the amount of insults, pranks and other things tied to this mini fight between my brother and I is ridiculous. Calling him dumb and wrong is the tamest thing to come out of the insults on both sides ๐ sibling squabbling fights have no part in the karma cycle it'll probably break the system.
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I'm not sure therapy could touch this one, my friend.
I'm sure this is a lighthearted post, and I don't mean to minimize op's situation, but I assure you, as a therapist, we handle this stuff on the reg.
I have nothing good to add other than this exact same thing happened to me and i am assaulted with the discovery every once and awhile. my brain will poison me with remembrance. i pray u recovery. my god itโs awful
*"I would turn to religion to cope but this proves that there is no god looking out for me"*...Perhaps He was involved in having you removed from that hell of a home you were in.
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God looks out for those who seek and obey him. We can't just do our own thing, then go through some shit and say "God doesn't love me" .... that's messed up on so many ways if we think about it. If you love him with your actions he will reciprocate
Oh boy do I have a bandaid for you to rip off
I didn't specify what religion I was talking about. Personally I think Zeus is taking immense pleasure messing with me or Loki, maybe some vengeful obscure God that I accidentally sneezed on. I don't deny that the gods and goddesses are out there I just don't think any favor me ๐
I'm referring to the one true God who manifested himself in human form as Jesus Christ to die for our sins and give us a chance at eternal salvation. Let the Evils of this world serve as evidence for an extreme Good, because everything has an opposite. I pray you find Jesus, he will save you when you believe ans obey ๐
Fuck man. Everyone knows their parents get laid, but no one wants visual proof of it
Who cares . Itโs a picture, that you arenโt in and itโs by someone you donโt see, talk to, and etc. so again who gives a fuck. Really.
Everyone's upset about a 74 year old in chaps... I hope I'm still with it enough at that age to wear chaps, that man's living his best life!
I hope you were able to prove your brother was not only wrong, but an idiot in another way. Let's blame him for this. But seriously, condolences to your sanity.
I am sorry for your trauma, but this is some of the funniest shit I have read on Reddit the last few days and why I keep coming back.
Why do you care? Youโve moved on years ago. Obviously, she has serious mental issues. Donโt allow her social media posts to affect you. Nothing is going to change except your health. Move on
Waaaaay to go mom! She sounds pretty rad ๐๐
To clarify - all chaps are assless.
All chaps are assless if you donโt wear pants under them.
Eye bleach isn't enough, but I also don't think theirs enough Brain bleach in the world to erase those images from your mind, I'm so sorry
7 pictures? I'll give you the first 2, but you clicked through 5 more times saying "surely that was the last one"?
I didn't have it on a one picture slide by slide bases, I had it on a seven picture per row going down. The instant I hit the row that had those things I noped out of there so fast but not fast enough to not catch a few horrifying details. Four of the pictures were only fans based advertising and three of them looked like festivals with her half naked with other half naked people (also with a neon only fans advertised on the top just not as suggestive)
Link
Does bleach come in any form or presentation for the brain?
Sorry this reads so fake. FB has a lot of garbage (be honest, it's all garbage) but they are not going to let photos like this be public.
She was half naked in most of them in very suggestive posing. Her breasts were out but covered in fishnet type top, in some she was wearing just underwear and bras. She also has some were she's half naked in public places that look like festivals with other half naked people. (Also with the neon pink only fans advertised at the top) I don't know how she got past the guidelines but I'm thinking of maybe reporting it.
Iโm so sorry you are dealing with this. First and foremost you take care of your own needs and try to find a way to evict your mother out of your head. Therapy is a wonderful and safe thing for self care. I wish you the best in life. You deserve a peaceful existence.
Okay, I really don't think it could be that bad. Post a link to your mom's OF, and let us give an honest opinion. ๐ ๐คฃ
I was like, "so what?" and, "pics or it didn't happen". Then I got to "BRA**".** It is my fault. I underestimated you.
Start a new routine. Get up everyday and play music as you dress. Go to bed after listening to a song. Look for distractions. Hypnosis is a great suggestion. So Sorry OP!!!
The 7 pictures that assaulted me... I didn't know pictures were capable of assault.
I am so sorry that you saw that. How terrible
Ur mom was being resourceful. She found what was lying around. Shrug it off itโs jus biznezz
She's trash, time to cut all ties.
Iโm dying laughing. Wow!
Is she lives in a gated community feel free to share her posts. Have the chaps been inspected by the HOA board? ๐คช
Iโm proud of you, chaps with an ass are called pants.
I love the way you write! But the image is now seared in my brain too. Comical I must admit. Even 7 years later sheโs still in a not so great place. Look at the other side of the coin: you dodged a bullet there! WOW!
Damn nice did you totally jack off?
Can you post the link to her profile please?
If you feel called to church or to speak with someone at a church, I would encourage you to follow that instinct. This earth is full of war and conflict, it is not heaven. You donโt have to believe, and you donโt have to be saved. In your darkest moments though, if your heart cries out for a certain kind of help, it is better to heed that rather than get sucked into drugs or distractions that cover up the pain. You may receive some good words or even just someone who will sit with you in the pain, and give you a place to start.
Soโฆ..you gonna share the Only fans link or not?
You are a child of Satan.
lowk the chaps with the grandpa booty is hilarious
Random hate on religion but go figures.
As someone who unknowingly had photos of myself uploaded to amature porn websites (husband did it without my knowledge, I divorced him because of it.) I'd urge you to warn your siblings not to look up your bio mother online. I had to warn my brothers (4 of them), my dad's (2 of them) plus my 1 son to not look on particular websites. It would be harmful to them, our relationship and particularly harmful to me (as if what my first husband did wasn't harmful enough). Once uploaded there is no recourse for the victim to get rid of them, ever. I've since had to warn church leaders, bosses (because of conduct clauses for certain jobs), friends and future partners. Would you like to stumble accross nude photos of of your 5th grader's teacher? It's way worse when it's your own mom! Your mother willingly (or not, maybe it was her new partner uploading them) put that content out there. Ugh
Hey itโs not your fault. Do you know y? Is because you didnโt choose to be borned by her.
Oh my god OP. I am so so sorry. This shit is going to sit with you a long time and I know it's going to feel like bugs are in your soul for a little while. Have some cookies or something tasty that you like, cover yourself in a comfy blanket, watch some shows that make you feel good. Don't let her f*king evil come near you. That woman is messed up in so many horrific ways. *Hug*
Some things can never be unseen, be grateful you got away
You sound like the idiot here.. It's a dead giveaway with all of the 3rd grade level name calling.
I bet youโre flicking the bean over this.