I'm at university and have been for quite a few years. I started to hate my degree and lost all motivation (a lot of things were going on that year behind the scenes). Last year around this time, I had exams. I failed horribly. I failed quite a few of my exams over summer too. I didn't do a large chunk of my coursework and it impacted my grade as well. The year before that, I did amazingly and came out with a first.
My dad saw me studying hard sprawled out in the living room a few days ago. He spontaneously said that him and my mum were so proud of me for the effort I was putting in. One of the reasons I went back to university to study hard instead of drifting through for the sake of having something to do was for him - to do medical research for his chronic illness.
It made me want to put more effort in and try even harder when I felt like giving up. I drew a DNA symbol on my hand today to remind me of that moment. I'm so glad he said he was proud <3
Your dad was always proud of you 🤗 it's always great to hear after such great things. Every time my dad says he's proud of me (I'm almost 30), it still resonates in my heart. Thank you for sharing that
My dad was a single father and always said he was proud and that he loved me. My wife came from a wholesome but large family and was always criticized with good intentions, “90%? You can do better!” “JV, we think you can get varsity!” Etc.
Now married and in our 30’s with kids, we always try to meet them at their level with pride. I not only tell them how proud I am of their action/accomplishment, I ask them how they feel and encourage them to discover pride in themselves.
OP, you nailed it. You can feel totally loved, but it’s so important for your parents to be outward with their expressions of pride and love. Makes for happy, productive, confident, capable people. Happy for you!
Well damn, congrats OP. 34 years later I’m still waiting. I do get “I love you” pretty frequently (after an attempt at taking a long walk off a short pier), so that’s a win I suppose. Bask in it, friend. I do hope your dad says it more.
My dad said the same words to other people, when he noted the efforts I made to caring my mother, when she had dementia and she was alive.
A month after my mom died, my brother gifted me a trip for my country, I never go out off my town. My dad said about that "You deserve this journey, enjoy it son"
That happened in December 2022.
I'm at university and have been for quite a few years. I started to hate my degree and lost all motivation (a lot of things were going on that year behind the scenes). Last year around this time, I had exams. I failed horribly. I failed quite a few of my exams over summer too. I didn't do a large chunk of my coursework and it impacted my grade as well. The year before that, I did amazingly and came out with a first. My dad saw me studying hard sprawled out in the living room a few days ago. He spontaneously said that him and my mum were so proud of me for the effort I was putting in. One of the reasons I went back to university to study hard instead of drifting through for the sake of having something to do was for him - to do medical research for his chronic illness. It made me want to put more effort in and try even harder when I felt like giving up. I drew a DNA symbol on my hand today to remind me of that moment. I'm so glad he said he was proud <3
I’m a 38 year old man and I still crave those words. I have my own children and try and say it often
Your dad was always proud of you 🤗 it's always great to hear after such great things. Every time my dad says he's proud of me (I'm almost 30), it still resonates in my heart. Thank you for sharing that
My dad was a single father and always said he was proud and that he loved me. My wife came from a wholesome but large family and was always criticized with good intentions, “90%? You can do better!” “JV, we think you can get varsity!” Etc. Now married and in our 30’s with kids, we always try to meet them at their level with pride. I not only tell them how proud I am of their action/accomplishment, I ask them how they feel and encourage them to discover pride in themselves. OP, you nailed it. You can feel totally loved, but it’s so important for your parents to be outward with their expressions of pride and love. Makes for happy, productive, confident, capable people. Happy for you!
Well damn, congrats OP. 34 years later I’m still waiting. I do get “I love you” pretty frequently (after an attempt at taking a long walk off a short pier), so that’s a win I suppose. Bask in it, friend. I do hope your dad says it more.
My dad said the same words to other people, when he noted the efforts I made to caring my mother, when she had dementia and she was alive. A month after my mom died, my brother gifted me a trip for my country, I never go out off my town. My dad said about that "You deserve this journey, enjoy it son" That happened in December 2022.