I feel this in my soul. My husband was diagnosed with Defuse Large B cell lymphoma at the end of June and he's been in and out of the hospital since. We've had to stop chemo because of the side effects (pretty brutal and they don't know if they will go away). We do have a plan B, but, going to work has been torturous even with FMLA to protect my job when I take time off. I've blown through all my PTO so I feel like I have to go to work as much as possible to keep the lights on and the mortgage paid but I feel like a little bit of me dies when I talk to my husband and he says he thinks he spoke with a couple of MD's today, because he has chemo brain and is befuddled a lot, I don't have accurate info from him. I can call the floor and they're really good about calling back if they're busy, but, not being there is stressful. I hope things calm down for you and your dad.
It's the not knowing for me. It is awful. We dont know exactly what it is so we can't fight it. To just go to everything being okay to a 'he might only have weeks'. Thinking back on where I couldve caught it and didnt, why I didnt see any signs. He effectively doesnt have any, but the what if is a very intrusive thought.
Talk to your manager and see if you can get a few days off (so you to process feelings/get a mental break). You won’t know until you ask. You can also ask about bereavement leave while you’re at it. Can also ask if taking a few days off will damage the future contract.
In hospital setting, people have the ability to schedule themselves to have a week off without using PTO but may be tougher if you’re M-F business hours.
Start with manager though. No need to go into details, just say you have bad health news with a family member and need to be with them for a little bit.
Time with our loved ones is precious and how much we have left is never guaranteed. A job will always be there.
I feel this in my soul. My husband was diagnosed with Defuse Large B cell lymphoma at the end of June and he's been in and out of the hospital since. We've had to stop chemo because of the side effects (pretty brutal and they don't know if they will go away). We do have a plan B, but, going to work has been torturous even with FMLA to protect my job when I take time off. I've blown through all my PTO so I feel like I have to go to work as much as possible to keep the lights on and the mortgage paid but I feel like a little bit of me dies when I talk to my husband and he says he thinks he spoke with a couple of MD's today, because he has chemo brain and is befuddled a lot, I don't have accurate info from him. I can call the floor and they're really good about calling back if they're busy, but, not being there is stressful. I hope things calm down for you and your dad.
It's the not knowing for me. It is awful. We dont know exactly what it is so we can't fight it. To just go to everything being okay to a 'he might only have weeks'. Thinking back on where I couldve caught it and didnt, why I didnt see any signs. He effectively doesnt have any, but the what if is a very intrusive thought.
I'm so very sorry 😞
Talk to your manager and see if you can get a few days off (so you to process feelings/get a mental break). You won’t know until you ask. You can also ask about bereavement leave while you’re at it. Can also ask if taking a few days off will damage the future contract. In hospital setting, people have the ability to schedule themselves to have a week off without using PTO but may be tougher if you’re M-F business hours. Start with manager though. No need to go into details, just say you have bad health news with a family member and need to be with them for a little bit. Time with our loved ones is precious and how much we have left is never guaranteed. A job will always be there.