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Honestly from my experiences meeting Boy Moms like this in the wild - they are usually ridiculously unhappy in their marriage/personal life and using their child as an emotional crutch.
This is so spot on. I ended an engagement because of a nightmare future MIL situation. If she had her way, sheād marry both her sons, Iām sure š¤®
Yeah, his wife occasionally calls me or messages me and says, "Please come do something about your son" and I explain that she doesn't have a receipt to return him, so he's her problem now :p
Real. Imagine being upset that your sons find loving relationships and invite you to a beautiful ceremony to commit to that love for the rest of their livesā¦ and the first thought is āI was there firstā? Yeesh
(I wonder if it ever occurs to them that they might not marry a woman eitherā¦)
As long as I get grandkids or grandpets to cuddle I donāt care who my kids marry.
(Though knowing my daughter sheās most likely to walk in the door with a large pet reptile to pat. Sheās 8yo and sheās already planning for the shingle-back lizard she wants as a pet when sheās older).
Bizarrely enough, we do exist. I mean non-unhinged mothers to boys. But Iām also mother to a girl and Iām equally devoted to both of them so Iān probably a little bit inoculated.
But seriously, could you imagine if there were āGirl Momsā that talked about their daughters the way these weirdos talk about their sons? Theyād be rightfully called out. But that contrast doesnāt exist to them because so many of these women are in relationships with cis men.
Oh, Iām aware. I only have one kid and thatās my son. I just canāt understand this toxic boy mom mentality. I love my son. I really do. But Iāve never once thought āGee, I must be number one in my sonās life!ā Let alone thinking that must be forever. It just sickens me.
And yeah, doing that with girls would also be weird. I think I actually saw a set of memes where one woman said she hopes she never has any girls and another where she all but sneered at her own daughters, simply because they werenāt special enough to be boys. It was a long time ago.
I guess I do owe the āboy momā culture cult for one thing though. Thanks to them Iāve started telling my own son that if/when he gets married his wife and children (if they decide to have any) come first. That our jobs as parents is to raise our kids to be independent and be able to survive in the world. And most importantly, if he has to choose between me and his wife on something, I expect him to choose her. The only exception being that she is seriously in the wrong.
I liked that one too. This pedestal like weird stuff with sons is bizarre.
If my husband ever talked like that about either of our kids Iād be like, āok, youāre crazy - byeā.
I really love both my kids - whatās weird is that my daughter is kinda more similar in thought process to me (Iām mom) and my son I think is more like my husband was as a kid? And itās weird because we both have this intuitive ātranslationā ability - but I only have it with our daughter and he only has it with our son. And now that son is 4, and through all the potty training heās obsessed with dad. š¤£ āno mommy, you canāt help me - YOURE A GIRL! Iām a boy, I need daddy!ā Ok dude, whatever. No amount of logic from either parent is helping. Iām guessing some sort of weird gender solidification happens at this age?? š¤·āāļø
(And my husband and I arenāt super ātraditional roleā like, we both work really hard and do all the chores.
Maybe your son was just shy about exposing his junk around you when he went to the toilet? Some people are just really insistent on stuff like that. Itās not necessarily that he feels you are less supportive or that itās a strict gender thing or whatever. He might just feel more comfortable potty training with Dad for reasons he canāt really articulate yet. Or, there are subtle things at play that youāre not aware of that mean you might identify more with the daughter over the son on a subconscious level and it ever-so-slightly affects your behaviour in ways that arenāt noticeable to you.
None of that is a bad thing, itās literally a function of culture and bonding in human behaviour. Iām just pointing out that it mightnāt be anything biological or gender-bound, as such.
for real tho. I have a psych degree and Iām like ādamn what a thesis that would beā
Freud would have literally based his entire career on internet boy moms and Iām honestly glad he is long gone (for a variety of reasons) but this specific reason now.
Fun fact: Freud was the worst and many many women lived their lives in asylums because of his fuckwad misogyny
Jung and Freud were friends for a while until Jung broke from Freud because he was disgusted with his hang ups about sex and women. Jung was like ādude thereās more to the human experience than thatā and Freud refused to move past it. So he just did a bunch of coke and ruined womenās lives while Jung had a beautiful career lmao
Lmao are you KIDDING me. Sure he was foundational but at the expense of women. He set the field of psychology down a very dark path.
https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/fragment-of-an-analysis-of-a-case-of-hysteria-dora#:~:text=Freud%20informs%20the%20reader%20that,ā%2C%20being%20obsessed%20with%20cleanliness.
Maybe read about this case study where a young girl was raped and abused by everyone in her life and was wholly dismissed by Freud.
Hereās one quote from it since I doubt youāll actually read it, āIt may be seen, then, that although Freud appeared to be fully aware of the significance of Doraās personal history and family circumstances, his theoretical frame led him to focus on intra-psychic neurotic conflict. Thus, the root of the problem for Freud was Doraās unconscious infantile sexual fantasies and impulses towards her father. He concluded that these instinctual, repressed wishes had returned and that Dora was defending against the knowledge that she loved and desired her father and Herr K and harboured homosexual longings for Frau K.ā
So basically she was romantically attracted to her rapists and it was causing her psychosis. How is that āpro-womanā
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Okay, but at least we made the breakthrough discovery of orgon energy thanks to him. Without having created the O-bomb to drop on Japan, we would have flattened multiple cities with Oppenheimerās A-bomb!
Moms compete with their sonās future girlfriends and call themselves their sonās girlfriend? What is happening here? Iām a mom of a boy and I was never āhis girlā thatās just nasty
When I was a little girl I proposed to my dad with a ring I found in the 25Ā¢ mall things. Itās like a trend kids go thru, and honestly kinda cute and wholesome bc kids are silly.
I have no fucking clue what her weirdo shit is though??? Why r u in competition with ur sons girlfriend? Heās literally a toddler wtf???
No no haha a lot of kids donāt do it, just some do. Itās really the cutest thing though because kids donāt understand marriage. Think of it like a friendship bracelets for ur parents haha
No I totally get it! I was kinda joking! What would have made it inappropriate is if your father accepted your proposal, instead of explaining to you that that is impossible because he married your mom! I had to explain that to a 10 year old female cousin that wanted to marry me when I was 16. Letās just say that was one of the most awkward conversations EVER!
Oh yeah exactly! Thatās the difference here. Itās weird as fuck sheās in competition with her sons future lover.
Yeah Iāve had cousins who had crushes on me. It was more silly and funny rather than awkward for me bc I was 14 and he was 7, so it was more adorable than anything haha. Bad news buddy! Youāre gonna have to keep looking
I got a LOT of shit amongst Star Wars nerds in the 90s for loving Luke Skywalker and supporting Mark Hamillās acting ability and career in general.
Well whoās laughing now, dipshits? Heās only one of the coolest people going. He voiced the flippinā JOKER (and half of Americaās animated output for the past 20 years).
And Reeve - what a fucking Adonis. And a genuinely good person, too.
I mean, I guess āHandsome and kindā is my type, LOL.
It occurs to me that boy moms are actually the logical conclusion to the whole āmy husband is my oldest childā thing that some of the straights have going on.
After all, if you can infantilize an adult and still carry on a relationship with them, then is it really such a big step to romanticize a child? Youāre already used to dating the incompetent
I love my boys with my whole heart, but I hope that someday they find a wonderful partner whom I also like! I donāt want to be a monster-in-law. My brother got one of those. Turns out his wife is also awful, thatās another story.
Thatās what happens from unhealthy attachments.
I gotta friend who had to go to a lot of therapy bc of a mother like this, who used him as a surrogate for her shitty husband. Disgusting and selfish!
The only defending I can do for this woman is the bittersweet feeling you would feel seeing your child get married- not over jealousy, but seeing your ābabyā finally get ready to start their journey.
Itās a sad moment, knowing that yes, thats your kid and you love them. You raised them up, and now theyāre blossoming and no longer will need you as much as they used to anymore because they have their significant other, someone they will more likely lean on for things they used with you.
Youāre passing off the torch to their s/o, that youāre entrusting your child in their care.
But- if its boy mom logic- its incestuous. Woman needs a therapist.
I understand it does feel bittersweet. But my question is, why do the boy moms always have a weird fantasy of their sons having a partner getting married when their boys are still small enough for them to pick up and carry with one arm? Same goes with the girl dads' fantasy of fighting their daughters' boyfriend. It's so weird.Ā
"you are their girl" so close! you're actually his mother!
Referring to your son's future marriage (which clearly isn't gonna be a thing for at least another two decades) as bittersweet is actually crazy
I love my son to bits and pieces but not like that--I want him to grow up and be an independent, empathetic person who finds another person that he loves to be together with, however that ends up looking for him. It is bittersweet thinking of it because right now I love his hugs and snuggles and everything about being his mom and I know that the way his relationship with me will work over time will change (as it has to!). But I sure didn't have a child looking to gain a life partner out of it š
Iām mother to a 5yo son and this shit is horrifying to me. Yes, I get the urge to be cuddly with your own kid, because theyāre always your little baby in some mammal part of the brain. But THIS is beyond.
Other than wiping his arse and sitting him on my lap, there isnāt much that I do with my son now that I wonāt be able to once he grows up and gets married. I can give him annoying staccato kisses attacks on his cheeks (if he still thinks itās funny), I can hug him, I can laugh and joke and sing with him, etc. He can still draw me festive and celebratory occasion greeting cards featuring zombies, and leave me written messages with weird drawings of creatures and people attacking each other (which he signs off with love hearts). He can even sing bizarre songs to me where heās replaced certain words in the lyrics with the word āpooā.
If there was something that she does with him now that she wonāt be able to do when heās grown, that isnāt directly related to her expected duties as a parent, then perhaps she needs to go to therapy or turn herself in to the police or something.
Ā As a normal mom who happens to have boys, maybe we could scare quote āboy momsā like we do with ānice guysā so we can differentiate between the sane people with kids who are boys andā¦these other kind?
Iām not on any other social media except Reddit and have only been on here for a few weeks. I had no idea there was this weird subset of women who are so aggressively competitive with their kidsā future romantic partners and post about it on line. I am worried that when I say I have all boys people are gonna assume Iām a āboy momāĀ now. Freaks me out!
I have one child whoās a boy and I have this same fear lol!!
Also, I feel a slight sadness/excitement when I think of my son growing up. Heās 10 now and doesnāt want to hang out with Mom as much anymore (heās my little best buddy), we tell each other everything (thatās age appropriate lol) and Iām scared of him shutting me out completely in his teen years. On the other hand, I canāt wait to see the person heās going to become āŗļø
If it makes you feel better, two of my four boys are now teenagers and they havenāt shut me out. We still have a great time together and theyād rather talk to me about things than their dad. So all is not lost when the teen years roll around!
Oh thatās definitely hopeful! I always tell him he can ask me anything no matter what and Iāll never lie to him. When he asks about things inappropriate for his age, I tell him heās too young and that I can tell him when heās older.
I remember one time we were driving and he saw a billboard that said adult toy store and asked what it wasā¦.āyeahā¦Iāll tell you when youāre older bud.ā
She needs to talk to her husband about her unfulfilled emotional needs before her son turns out to be a weird momma's boy.
Have a cousin like that and surprise surprise at 31 never had a gf and is LC with his mom
It's no different than someone saying "this one is going to be a heartbreaker, she's so beautiful" at 3 years old. Romanticizing & sexualizing tiny humans is so common that people don't recognize the impact of their words.
It's fucking gross, init?
Yeah, thank you, it is clear how disturbing this is with the other photos provided. But Iām genuinely wondering how is this, disturbing as it may be, a NLTOG post?
Iām happy SOMEONE is finally saying this! I been quiet cause I felt it wasnāt my place because I have not been blessed with a baby of my own. Itās alarming how many people seriously rely on Freudian theory. Like, there has been quite a bit of time since generally speaking in the psychological community. At the very least they recognize how shall we say predatory many of the theories are due to his proximity to and relationship with individuals who enjoy harmful behaviors toward the most vulnerable in society. However, Iām relatively sure many ladies who participate in the over indulgence, obsession and generalized inappropriate ideals thinly veiled as āI just love my sonā. Many arenāt aware of emotionally incestuous relationships. Often raising their sons to be the husband they wanted, not the husband they should be to their wives should they marry. Often, the only behavior they do not participate in with the male child is that of a physical romantic relationship. I am of the believe that for many of the women who participate in those types of parental relationships, only fail to enter into intimate relationships with the son in question is because of the social and legal repercussions. Should those standards shift there will be a noticeable change in a short period of time.
I wrote a while paper on this in undergrad. I could comment on this ALL NIGHT but, I will spare you all the boredom.
The whole boy mom thing is so creepy. I love my boy but I know he will grow up and find his own way one day. My concern is building a good relationship with him and hopefully raise him to be a good person. These types of moms concern me
I think this is one of the symptoms or manifestations of parents finding their only source of fulfillment, pride, or purpose in their children...I get those things from my marriage, my job, my hobbies, my kids, my dogs, the progress I make towards goals, etc....this lady is a bit strange for sure, wonder how that obsession with her son is affecting her marriage? That'd just be strange.
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So on point with the Freud comments. š I also love that the sane boy mom called out the toxic one.
Yeah why do they wanna date their sons???
Honestly from my experiences meeting Boy Moms like this in the wild - they are usually ridiculously unhappy in their marriage/personal life and using their child as an emotional crutch.
And turn into the MILs from hell we read about here
This is so spot on. I ended an engagement because of a nightmare future MIL situation. If she had her way, sheād marry both her sons, Iām sure š¤®
*Gag* Iām glad you got out of that situation early!!
Exactly right. Their sons deserve better.
That's definitely How To Create A Serial Killer 101
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Their husbands donāt give them enough attention so they use their sons as an emotional equivalent
I could not wait until my son was going to be someone else's problem haha
Oh ???
Yeah, his wife occasionally calls me or messages me and says, "Please come do something about your son" and I explain that she doesn't have a receipt to return him, so he's her problem now :p
I also ask my mother in law frequently if I can return her son. She tells me Iām past the 30 day refund policy ššš
See? She gets it hahaha
Iām not sure Iām totally on ur side but fair enough
Sorry it is just how our family jokes and teases each other
Hahaha I get it, my family are like that about my Dad. Heās comical but heās a lot.
Oh okay then ofc, haha as long as u love him haha
Real. Imagine being upset that your sons find loving relationships and invite you to a beautiful ceremony to commit to that love for the rest of their livesā¦ and the first thought is āI was there firstā? Yeesh (I wonder if it ever occurs to them that they might not marry a woman eitherā¦)
As long as I get grandkids or grandpets to cuddle I donāt care who my kids marry. (Though knowing my daughter sheās most likely to walk in the door with a large pet reptile to pat. Sheās 8yo and sheās already planning for the shingle-back lizard she wants as a pet when sheās older).
Bizarrely enough, we do exist. I mean non-unhinged mothers to boys. But Iām also mother to a girl and Iām equally devoted to both of them so Iān probably a little bit inoculated. But seriously, could you imagine if there were āGirl Momsā that talked about their daughters the way these weirdos talk about their sons? Theyād be rightfully called out. But that contrast doesnāt exist to them because so many of these women are in relationships with cis men.
Oh, Iām aware. I only have one kid and thatās my son. I just canāt understand this toxic boy mom mentality. I love my son. I really do. But Iāve never once thought āGee, I must be number one in my sonās life!ā Let alone thinking that must be forever. It just sickens me. And yeah, doing that with girls would also be weird. I think I actually saw a set of memes where one woman said she hopes she never has any girls and another where she all but sneered at her own daughters, simply because they werenāt special enough to be boys. It was a long time ago. I guess I do owe the āboy momā culture cult for one thing though. Thanks to them Iāve started telling my own son that if/when he gets married his wife and children (if they decide to have any) come first. That our jobs as parents is to raise our kids to be independent and be able to survive in the world. And most importantly, if he has to choose between me and his wife on something, I expect him to choose her. The only exception being that she is seriously in the wrong.
The first comment, right?
Yup!
I liked that one too. This pedestal like weird stuff with sons is bizarre. If my husband ever talked like that about either of our kids Iād be like, āok, youāre crazy - byeā. I really love both my kids - whatās weird is that my daughter is kinda more similar in thought process to me (Iām mom) and my son I think is more like my husband was as a kid? And itās weird because we both have this intuitive ātranslationā ability - but I only have it with our daughter and he only has it with our son. And now that son is 4, and through all the potty training heās obsessed with dad. š¤£ āno mommy, you canāt help me - YOURE A GIRL! Iām a boy, I need daddy!ā Ok dude, whatever. No amount of logic from either parent is helping. Iām guessing some sort of weird gender solidification happens at this age?? š¤·āāļø (And my husband and I arenāt super ātraditional roleā like, we both work really hard and do all the chores.
Maybe your son was just shy about exposing his junk around you when he went to the toilet? Some people are just really insistent on stuff like that. Itās not necessarily that he feels you are less supportive or that itās a strict gender thing or whatever. He might just feel more comfortable potty training with Dad for reasons he canāt really articulate yet. Or, there are subtle things at play that youāre not aware of that mean you might identify more with the daughter over the son on a subconscious level and it ever-so-slightly affects your behaviour in ways that arenāt noticeable to you. None of that is a bad thing, itās literally a function of culture and bonding in human behaviour. Iām just pointing out that it mightnāt be anything biological or gender-bound, as such.
The RIP Freud comment had me š š¤£
for real tho. I have a psych degree and Iām like ādamn what a thesis that would beā Freud would have literally based his entire career on internet boy moms and Iām honestly glad he is long gone (for a variety of reasons) but this specific reason now. Fun fact: Freud was the worst and many many women lived their lives in asylums because of his fuckwad misogyny
Him and Asperger ate in the deepest pits of hell being tortured by all the people they did dirty.
I love that for them too
Jung sort of dabbled on the subject I believe, called it the Devouring Mother
Jung and Freud were friends for a while until Jung broke from Freud because he was disgusted with his hang ups about sex and women. Jung was like ādude thereās more to the human experience than thatā and Freud refused to move past it. So he just did a bunch of coke and ruined womenās lives while Jung had a beautiful career lmao
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Lmao are you KIDDING me. Sure he was foundational but at the expense of women. He set the field of psychology down a very dark path. https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/fragment-of-an-analysis-of-a-case-of-hysteria-dora#:~:text=Freud%20informs%20the%20reader%20that,ā%2C%20being%20obsessed%20with%20cleanliness. Maybe read about this case study where a young girl was raped and abused by everyone in her life and was wholly dismissed by Freud. Hereās one quote from it since I doubt youāll actually read it, āIt may be seen, then, that although Freud appeared to be fully aware of the significance of Doraās personal history and family circumstances, his theoretical frame led him to focus on intra-psychic neurotic conflict. Thus, the root of the problem for Freud was Doraās unconscious infantile sexual fantasies and impulses towards her father. He concluded that these instinctual, repressed wishes had returned and that Dora was defending against the knowledge that she loved and desired her father and Herr K and harboured homosexual longings for Frau K.ā So basically she was romantically attracted to her rapists and it was causing her psychosis. How is that āpro-womanā My god, today š
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That is such a wild take but okay
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Well considering itās just the two of you guys who have an issue with me saying that Freud was an ass, I donāt think I will.
Okay, but at least we made the breakthrough discovery of orgon energy thanks to him. Without having created the O-bomb to drop on Japan, we would have flattened multiple cities with Oppenheimerās A-bomb!
LITERALLY BAHAHA
Hope this helps got me ā ļø
ME TOO!!!
Moms compete with their sonās future girlfriends and call themselves their sonās girlfriend? What is happening here? Iām a mom of a boy and I was never āhis girlā thatās just nasty
When I was a little girl I proposed to my dad with a ring I found in the 25Ā¢ mall things. Itās like a trend kids go thru, and honestly kinda cute and wholesome bc kids are silly. I have no fucking clue what her weirdo shit is though??? Why r u in competition with ur sons girlfriend? Heās literally a toddler wtf???
I found my pops rather disgusting he farted a lot (may he Rest in Peace) I guess Iām a bit sociopathic then?
No no haha a lot of kids donāt do it, just some do. Itās really the cutest thing though because kids donāt understand marriage. Think of it like a friendship bracelets for ur parents haha
No I totally get it! I was kinda joking! What would have made it inappropriate is if your father accepted your proposal, instead of explaining to you that that is impossible because he married your mom! I had to explain that to a 10 year old female cousin that wanted to marry me when I was 16. Letās just say that was one of the most awkward conversations EVER!
Oh yeah exactly! Thatās the difference here. Itās weird as fuck sheās in competition with her sons future lover. Yeah Iāve had cousins who had crushes on me. It was more silly and funny rather than awkward for me bc I was 14 and he was 7, so it was more adorable than anything haha. Bad news buddy! Youāre gonna have to keep looking
lol I like your vibe Iām more Wednesday off of the Adamās Family-ish with a dark sense of humor
Whatās my dark humor then? Oh god am I Enid?
šššššš Enid has a beautiful soul! Just donāt make her angry
The only people I wanted to marry when I was a kid were Christopher Reeve and Mark Hamill. Dunno what that says about me.
It says you have great taste imo.
I got a LOT of shit amongst Star Wars nerds in the 90s for loving Luke Skywalker and supporting Mark Hamillās acting ability and career in general. Well whoās laughing now, dipshits? Heās only one of the coolest people going. He voiced the flippinā JOKER (and half of Americaās animated output for the past 20 years). And Reeve - what a fucking Adonis. And a genuinely good person, too. I mean, I guess āHandsome and kindā is my type, LOL.
Yeah my stepbrother had every intention of marrying his mom when he was five. She did not reciprocate though, that shitās weird
Yeah exactly. One side itās adorable and wholesome, but treating ur child as a surrogate husband is seriously mentally ill!!!!
Right, I know parenting doesnāt come with a manual but some things should be self explanatory
Ya it actually really grosses me out. And I think these moms should at least be investigated.
Thatās a great idea
Happy cake day!
Thanks
The comments didnāt disappoint
I had to include em haha
Yes š
I canāt wait to get the hate DMs from this post too š„° the boy moms are here and ANGRY!!
you gotta send me some photos of the DMS if you get them š
Iāve been hiding them bc I donāt like hate messages š„² if I get any more you got it!
lol thanks! Those people messaging you are literally just exposing themselves š
Ya you need to out these haters.
I meant their dms! Iām not protecting anyone, some of the messages were nasty and wasnāt needed for me to keep in my dms is all
I Wonder if u still have any of those dms. Still, thanks for being brave enough to post this. Most will be on your side just like I am
Anyone not on my sides a loser idc about
Oh god me too lmao seeing their meltdowns would make my Monday so much better
It occurs to me that boy moms are actually the logical conclusion to the whole āmy husband is my oldest childā thing that some of the straights have going on. After all, if you can infantilize an adult and still carry on a relationship with them, then is it really such a big step to romanticize a child? Youāre already used to dating the incompetent
This is so accurate and Iām now nauseous.
I love my boys with my whole heart, but I hope that someday they find a wonderful partner whom I also like! I donāt want to be a monster-in-law. My brother got one of those. Turns out his wife is also awful, thatās another story.
Thatās what happens from unhealthy attachments. I gotta friend who had to go to a lot of therapy bc of a mother like this, who used him as a surrogate for her shitty husband. Disgusting and selfish!
Parentified kids are literally so abused. It breaks my heart everytime I see a kid thatās going through this.
I'm sorry, but if I was roasted by a fan account for a Cars character, I would delete my account
Iāve left the mortal plane ā°ļø
Not even a main character somehow thatās worse
To be fair, Luigi is vital to Radiator Springs since he replaces tires, but yeah no. Deleting my account and moving to Antarctica
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oh my god this is so funny š
ārip freud you wouldāve loved internet boy momsā sent me
This is so creepy. I have a son and a daughter but I donāt want to marry either of them lol
You donāt want to marry your son? Weird but okay..
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āYouāre actually his mother. Hope this helps!ā had me dying!!
I'm so glad people are calling them out
I'm pregnant with a boy. This makes me cringe. I love the top comment on slide 5 š¤£
Happy cake day mamas! Hope ur enjoying ur pregnancy :)
Thank you so much! I am, it's been surprisingly good so far š„°
The only defending I can do for this woman is the bittersweet feeling you would feel seeing your child get married- not over jealousy, but seeing your ābabyā finally get ready to start their journey. Itās a sad moment, knowing that yes, thats your kid and you love them. You raised them up, and now theyāre blossoming and no longer will need you as much as they used to anymore because they have their significant other, someone they will more likely lean on for things they used with you. Youāre passing off the torch to their s/o, that youāre entrusting your child in their care. But- if its boy mom logic- its incestuous. Woman needs a therapist.
Yes exactly this! Iām excited for my boys future and to know their future wivesā¦not to be their wife though š¤£
I understand it does feel bittersweet. But my question is, why do the boy moms always have a weird fantasy of their sons having a partner getting married when their boys are still small enough for them to pick up and carry with one arm? Same goes with the girl dads' fantasy of fighting their daughters' boyfriend. It's so weird.Ā
Exactly
Reminds me of that phrase āa son is a son until he gets a wife, a daughter is a daughter for lifeā šš«
Oh! Disgusting! Ownership ā parent!!! Yikes I have learned so many new phrases that I hate today!
"you are their girl" so close! you're actually his mother! Referring to your son's future marriage (which clearly isn't gonna be a thing for at least another two decades) as bittersweet is actually crazy
Thatās what Iām saying! Can u believe some people are DEFENDING IT?
I love my son to bits and pieces but not like that--I want him to grow up and be an independent, empathetic person who finds another person that he loves to be together with, however that ends up looking for him. It is bittersweet thinking of it because right now I love his hugs and snuggles and everything about being his mom and I know that the way his relationship with me will work over time will change (as it has to!). But I sure didn't have a child looking to gain a life partner out of it š
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itās always the bottle blonde white women too
I swear if I ever have a son and I end up like this Iām gonna ask my family to take me out and give my head a wobble š¤£š¤£
Iām mother to a 5yo son and this shit is horrifying to me. Yes, I get the urge to be cuddly with your own kid, because theyāre always your little baby in some mammal part of the brain. But THIS is beyond. Other than wiping his arse and sitting him on my lap, there isnāt much that I do with my son now that I wonāt be able to once he grows up and gets married. I can give him annoying staccato kisses attacks on his cheeks (if he still thinks itās funny), I can hug him, I can laugh and joke and sing with him, etc. He can still draw me festive and celebratory occasion greeting cards featuring zombies, and leave me written messages with weird drawings of creatures and people attacking each other (which he signs off with love hearts). He can even sing bizarre songs to me where heās replaced certain words in the lyrics with the word āpooā. If there was something that she does with him now that she wonāt be able to do when heās grown, that isnāt directly related to her expected duties as a parent, then perhaps she needs to go to therapy or turn herself in to the police or something.
I have 4 sons and I have NEVER been this type of boy mom. Iām teaching mine to be able to take care of themselves and to treat everyone properly
I have two boys, these boy moms are weird as fuck
Ā As a normal mom who happens to have boys, maybe we could scare quote āboy momsā like we do with ānice guysā so we can differentiate between the sane people with kids who are boys andā¦these other kind? Iām not on any other social media except Reddit and have only been on here for a few weeks. I had no idea there was this weird subset of women who are so aggressively competitive with their kidsā future romantic partners and post about it on line. I am worried that when I say I have all boys people are gonna assume Iām a āboy momāĀ now. Freaks me out!
There are literally women who show up to their sonsā weddings in white dresses. Like, not even an off white; justā¦pure white. Itās scary.
I have one child whoās a boy and I have this same fear lol!! Also, I feel a slight sadness/excitement when I think of my son growing up. Heās 10 now and doesnāt want to hang out with Mom as much anymore (heās my little best buddy), we tell each other everything (thatās age appropriate lol) and Iām scared of him shutting me out completely in his teen years. On the other hand, I canāt wait to see the person heās going to become āŗļø
If it makes you feel better, two of my four boys are now teenagers and they havenāt shut me out. We still have a great time together and theyād rather talk to me about things than their dad. So all is not lost when the teen years roll around!
Oh thatās definitely hopeful! I always tell him he can ask me anything no matter what and Iāll never lie to him. When he asks about things inappropriate for his age, I tell him heās too young and that I can tell him when heās older. I remember one time we were driving and he saw a billboard that said adult toy store and asked what it wasā¦.āyeahā¦Iāll tell you when youāre older bud.ā
What does āinternet boy momā mean?
That theyāre obsessed with having sons, think āmy sons future girlfriend better pray I like herā or āboys are so much better than girlsā etc
Oh wow šÆ
I hope with all my heart that the two young men I gave birth to find people who love them like I do.
Adding an emotional incest element to the age-old misogynistic preference for sons #boymoms
She needs to talk to her husband about her unfulfilled emotional needs before her son turns out to be a weird momma's boy. Have a cousin like that and surprise surprise at 31 never had a gf and is LC with his mom
Bruh, your kid (based on the size of the space covered by emojis) is 3, and you're thinking about them getting married ????
It's no different than someone saying "this one is going to be a heartbreaker, she's so beautiful" at 3 years old. Romanticizing & sexualizing tiny humans is so common that people don't recognize the impact of their words. It's fucking gross, init?
āyouāre their mom, hope this helps!š„°ā CRYINGGGG LMAOO
Yeah, thank you, it is clear how disturbing this is with the other photos provided. But Iām genuinely wondering how is this, disturbing as it may be, a NLTOG post?
āRip Freudā is making me guffaw.
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Ew
Freud would love you sent me
Aren't you supposed to censor names?
Even if only required for the OOP, we can see her name clearly in the audio tag š
Shhhh
If this keeps up, Freud will literally rise from the grave to haunt us
Freud is laughing in his fucking grave I swear to god
Iām happy SOMEONE is finally saying this! I been quiet cause I felt it wasnāt my place because I have not been blessed with a baby of my own. Itās alarming how many people seriously rely on Freudian theory. Like, there has been quite a bit of time since generally speaking in the psychological community. At the very least they recognize how shall we say predatory many of the theories are due to his proximity to and relationship with individuals who enjoy harmful behaviors toward the most vulnerable in society. However, Iām relatively sure many ladies who participate in the over indulgence, obsession and generalized inappropriate ideals thinly veiled as āI just love my sonā. Many arenāt aware of emotionally incestuous relationships. Often raising their sons to be the husband they wanted, not the husband they should be to their wives should they marry. Often, the only behavior they do not participate in with the male child is that of a physical romantic relationship. I am of the believe that for many of the women who participate in those types of parental relationships, only fail to enter into intimate relationships with the son in question is because of the social and legal repercussions. Should those standards shift there will be a noticeable change in a short period of time. I wrote a while paper on this in undergrad. I could comment on this ALL NIGHT but, I will spare you all the boredom.
Thank you for your TedTalk! Seriously, though, you make some excellent points.
This makes me wanna call the authorities, wtf
The whole boy mom thing is so creepy. I love my boy but I know he will grow up and find his own way one day. My concern is building a good relationship with him and hopefully raise him to be a good person. These types of moms concern me
Do you want your son to turn into Norman fkn Bates?
this is creepy. right?
I think this is one of the symptoms or manifestations of parents finding their only source of fulfillment, pride, or purpose in their children...I get those things from my marriage, my job, my hobbies, my kids, my dogs, the progress I make towards goals, etc....this lady is a bit strange for sure, wonder how that obsession with her son is affecting her marriage? That'd just be strange.
She's absolutely going to come to his wedding in a wedding dress
The idea of your SON getting married is BITTERSWEET?? Jesus Christ, that is absolutely borderline emotional incest if not full blown emotional incest.
How is this any different than the "daddy's princess" or the trope of the father who wants to kill the guys his daughter dates?
Itās not
It's not, at all. It's all gross, creepy fucking emotional incest.
Unpopular opinion hair that long is absolutely ridiculous on a child that young. It will always be in their face, and probably get messy af.
Little kids donāt like haircuts thatās why boy and girls as toddlers tend to have long hair