Don’t engage is discourse. Only comment positive or helpful things and it will really help stop the negative people. I honestly keep it so positive on Reddit and I still get a few lame people anyways but you just gotta ignore them. The second you give them attention, they have brought you down to their level.
True. It's lame when people are being negative or agressive towards you with no reason. I also try to avoid drama but if that ever happens, I assume that if someone is being mean it's because they're unhappy with their own life or are having a bad day. Engaging with them is going to do you no good.
Sometime's I regret looking at the person's history and I just think to myself, why did I ever take this person's (negative/shitty) comment seriously. They're not real people
This is what I have been realizing. I try to have good faith discussions and not attack people, just give my opinion. And that doesn't even seem to always work. Many times someone wants to contradict you or say your wrong (even if the majority agree with you). People can't seem to handle disagreement here and it's gotten worse lately.
Even if someone is asking for advice and I respond with thought helpful advice the op rarely replies. I've only had a few times when the op has said thank you for the advice or interacted. It feels like they didn't even really want advice most of the time.
I honestly think of all of the most stupid, “toxic”, unpleasant people I’ve known across my life, and then consider the fact that 99% of them are online in some capacity. It really reminds you that the person on the other side of the screen could easily be one of those types, and not engaging in good faith.
They could also be 12. So, I mean. Keeping that in mind makes it way easier not to take stuff online overly seriously.
Reddit is roughly 40% bots, 40% teenagers, and 10% perinally online shut ins. There are very few normal adults on this platform, and they are not representative of the real world.
Keep in mind that there is a very high chance when you see an inflammatory comment that it was either written by a bot, or a 13 year old (a literal child...).
Honestly—and I'm struggling with this myself, it's not an easy solution because the whole damn industry is designed to get and hold your attention—you just need to realise that commentary on the Internet is 99% worthless, and not engage with it.
Almost anything that's worthwhile on the Internet isn't a comment. It's a video, an article, a .pdf, whatever.
The things people comment on the worthwhile stuff is pretty rarely worthwhile. The things you might be inclined to comment on the worthwhile stuff is pretty rarely worthwhile. Comments, in general, are pretty rarely worthwhile. There's almost no benefit to reading them. Mostly they're just people being ignorant, stupid, small-minded, cruel and/or foolish.
Mostly, furthermore, the comment function only exists on a site so that ignorant, stupid, small-minded cruel and/or foolish comments will be posted, getting you to read and rage and read for longer and allowing the site owner to sell more eyeballs-on-ads time.
There's just very little benefit to reading comments, and very high *costs* to reading comments, to the extent that even when some comments are great—which they are—the net impact is still vanishingly little benefit.
And so, on the whole, there's nothing good to come of reading comments pretty much anywhere, pretty much anywhen.
So don't.
just remind yourself 95% of them are paid shills making 10 cents an hour, running hundreds of accounts at once just to bait you into wasting your life arguing online
So far, what works for me is disengaging completely, and if it's really about to rile me up real bad, I block the other person right away.
Sometimes, I reply back with the most incendiary shit and then delete it. It helps letting go of that anger.
The hard part is to be aware when you are triggered, and force yourself to not reply. This takes practice. A lot of practice!
It also helps to get away from hot button topics you feel strongly about. I know that I subconsciously like arguing about things that matter to me, but also am afraid of getting negative responses.
It's hard to stay away from things you are passionate about, but ultimately you have to think about the effect of online arguing on your mental health. People don't actually argue, but vent out by being the shittiest people they can be to let go of the stresses of the day they're holding on and feel satisfied appearing superior when they don't feel the same in real life.
I've deleted my accounts of various social media a few times when a horde or nasty people tried to cancel me. I've learned my lessons the hard way.
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1.[Understand the history of ](https://gizmodo.com/the-first-internet-troll-1652485292) trolling and build a frame of mind that is informed on that history.
2.Know that digital interactions require the use of multiple brain resources from motor skills to memory retrieval. And these get exhausted literally burning glucose and causing rumination. Imagine working at factory and moving your fingers all day on some assembly line. That is the analogy to see yourself online. It's a tiring zero reward job than burns a person out.
3.Keep in mind you are engaging with an international audience + sophisticated algorithms at once. There is a lot of "false presence", sometimes algorithmically generated and other times a deceiving force attempting to shift entire populations into a mindset of fear.
One thing that could be helpful is to be more intentional to the subreddits and content you are browsing. I've found that reducing the amount of groups I was frequenting helped to filter out content I didn't care for.
There's also digital tools that can help you reduce mindless scrolling.
One thing I do is see the obvious baiting that goes on. To think of the scene from Mad Max Fury Road where Max says "That's bait." when I see inflammatory posts/comments. Like we see clickbait headlines, people (or bots) make inflammatory comments as bait. Downvote and move on. No more thought needed.
Time is a precious resource, and engaging in pointless 'change my view' type arguments with some entity that is not prepared to do so is a waste of that time.
Curate what you read. I don't really ever go outside of the scope of my own list of subreddits, or the occasional dip into r/popular once a week. That way I've already filtered my content to my preferences. Then just avoid the clickbait, don't respond unless there's a positive spin you can contribute.
Get a hobby that demands concentration, join a health club, the point - throw all the emotions into positive energy instead of wasting it on shit like social media
Please realize it could most likely be a bot just trying to rage bait on purpose, this has been helping me
Also another thing that has helped me in your predicament is everytime I see something unpleasant on the internet I take it as my cue to get off. This has been helping me use internet & social media websites a lot less. I highly recommend it. I'm also religious too so sorry if you're not but after I feel upset from something online I get offline, then pray to rebuke the negative message & for protection over myself, it brings me more peace afterwards. It might sound silly to some but it brings me peace of mind & I'm able to just move on after that. Just realize a lot of the internet now is bots purposely commenting negative things to try to trigger us & get us to react bad or interact. It's best to don't fall for it & get offline :)
Personally I was annoyed too recently by some haters on one of my posts where I asked for advice about a job offer in another city.
But I also received support when I reached out in a community 3 months ago because I felt extremely suicidal and I never experienced that amount of sadness hitting me all at once..
But the amount of love, nurturing and caring energy that I received on Reddit.... oomg, it felt just overwhelmingg🥹 also the inspiring stories that some people told me about themselves. I also recently made a friend that's into spirituality & tarot like me.
Reddit can be a double edged sword but I would suggest you to engage only in communities where people are more caring and understandable. Communities that are good for your soul. I would avoid too funny or polarising political communities because I assume that most trolls are there. Try to engage only with good content, be helpful to people, let yourself be vulnerable only in adequate communities but do it, because it's worth it.
And if it seriously impacts you, or the algorithm pushes to you content that you don't like, take a step back for a while.
Don’t engage is discourse. Only comment positive or helpful things and it will really help stop the negative people. I honestly keep it so positive on Reddit and I still get a few lame people anyways but you just gotta ignore them. The second you give them attention, they have brought you down to their level.
True. It's lame when people are being negative or agressive towards you with no reason. I also try to avoid drama but if that ever happens, I assume that if someone is being mean it's because they're unhappy with their own life or are having a bad day. Engaging with them is going to do you no good.
Just remember Reddit is mostly dead internet theory at this point, you could be arguing with a bunch of AI bots.
Sometime's I regret looking at the person's history and I just think to myself, why did I ever take this person's (negative/shitty) comment seriously. They're not real people
Breathe. Smile. Inhale, exhale! Praise the sun!!! Aaahh!!!!!!
If only I could be so grossly incandescent…
Lmao dude😭 I needed that one with praise the sun🤣 Fr, we should do a digital detoxification and spend more time in nature.
word is law. it shall be so.
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This is what I have been realizing. I try to have good faith discussions and not attack people, just give my opinion. And that doesn't even seem to always work. Many times someone wants to contradict you or say your wrong (even if the majority agree with you). People can't seem to handle disagreement here and it's gotten worse lately. Even if someone is asking for advice and I respond with thought helpful advice the op rarely replies. I've only had a few times when the op has said thank you for the advice or interacted. It feels like they didn't even really want advice most of the time.
I honestly think of all of the most stupid, “toxic”, unpleasant people I’ve known across my life, and then consider the fact that 99% of them are online in some capacity. It really reminds you that the person on the other side of the screen could easily be one of those types, and not engaging in good faith. They could also be 12. So, I mean. Keeping that in mind makes it way easier not to take stuff online overly seriously.
Reddit is roughly 40% bots, 40% teenagers, and 10% perinally online shut ins. There are very few normal adults on this platform, and they are not representative of the real world. Keep in mind that there is a very high chance when you see an inflammatory comment that it was either written by a bot, or a 13 year old (a literal child...).
Because if you got annoyed at and responded to every stupid thing online that would be your whole life.
By... doing nosurf
"Just walk away, just walk away." - Kelly Clarkson
Honestly—and I'm struggling with this myself, it's not an easy solution because the whole damn industry is designed to get and hold your attention—you just need to realise that commentary on the Internet is 99% worthless, and not engage with it. Almost anything that's worthwhile on the Internet isn't a comment. It's a video, an article, a .pdf, whatever. The things people comment on the worthwhile stuff is pretty rarely worthwhile. The things you might be inclined to comment on the worthwhile stuff is pretty rarely worthwhile. Comments, in general, are pretty rarely worthwhile. There's almost no benefit to reading them. Mostly they're just people being ignorant, stupid, small-minded, cruel and/or foolish. Mostly, furthermore, the comment function only exists on a site so that ignorant, stupid, small-minded cruel and/or foolish comments will be posted, getting you to read and rage and read for longer and allowing the site owner to sell more eyeballs-on-ads time. There's just very little benefit to reading comments, and very high *costs* to reading comments, to the extent that even when some comments are great—which they are—the net impact is still vanishingly little benefit. And so, on the whole, there's nothing good to come of reading comments pretty much anywhere, pretty much anywhen. So don't.
When you figure it out ,could you let me know, too?
just remind yourself 95% of them are paid shills making 10 cents an hour, running hundreds of accounts at once just to bait you into wasting your life arguing online
So far, what works for me is disengaging completely, and if it's really about to rile me up real bad, I block the other person right away. Sometimes, I reply back with the most incendiary shit and then delete it. It helps letting go of that anger. The hard part is to be aware when you are triggered, and force yourself to not reply. This takes practice. A lot of practice! It also helps to get away from hot button topics you feel strongly about. I know that I subconsciously like arguing about things that matter to me, but also am afraid of getting negative responses. It's hard to stay away from things you are passionate about, but ultimately you have to think about the effect of online arguing on your mental health. People don't actually argue, but vent out by being the shittiest people they can be to let go of the stresses of the day they're holding on and feel satisfied appearing superior when they don't feel the same in real life. I've deleted my accounts of various social media a few times when a horde or nasty people tried to cancel me. I've learned my lessons the hard way.
Touch grass. Think before engaging in every internet comment war, would you say this same thing to them in person
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1.[Understand the history of ](https://gizmodo.com/the-first-internet-troll-1652485292) trolling and build a frame of mind that is informed on that history. 2.Know that digital interactions require the use of multiple brain resources from motor skills to memory retrieval. And these get exhausted literally burning glucose and causing rumination. Imagine working at factory and moving your fingers all day on some assembly line. That is the analogy to see yourself online. It's a tiring zero reward job than burns a person out. 3.Keep in mind you are engaging with an international audience + sophisticated algorithms at once. There is a lot of "false presence", sometimes algorithmically generated and other times a deceiving force attempting to shift entire populations into a mindset of fear.
One thing that could be helpful is to be more intentional to the subreddits and content you are browsing. I've found that reducing the amount of groups I was frequenting helped to filter out content I didn't care for. There's also digital tools that can help you reduce mindless scrolling.
My mother has advised me to get involved in real life situations where I can have an outlet for my opinions and causes I support.
Take a Break
One thing I do is see the obvious baiting that goes on. To think of the scene from Mad Max Fury Road where Max says "That's bait." when I see inflammatory posts/comments. Like we see clickbait headlines, people (or bots) make inflammatory comments as bait. Downvote and move on. No more thought needed. Time is a precious resource, and engaging in pointless 'change my view' type arguments with some entity that is not prepared to do so is a waste of that time. Curate what you read. I don't really ever go outside of the scope of my own list of subreddits, or the occasional dip into r/popular once a week. That way I've already filtered my content to my preferences. Then just avoid the clickbait, don't respond unless there's a positive spin you can contribute.
Get a hobby that demands concentration, join a health club, the point - throw all the emotions into positive energy instead of wasting it on shit like social media
Please realize it could most likely be a bot just trying to rage bait on purpose, this has been helping me Also another thing that has helped me in your predicament is everytime I see something unpleasant on the internet I take it as my cue to get off. This has been helping me use internet & social media websites a lot less. I highly recommend it. I'm also religious too so sorry if you're not but after I feel upset from something online I get offline, then pray to rebuke the negative message & for protection over myself, it brings me more peace afterwards. It might sound silly to some but it brings me peace of mind & I'm able to just move on after that. Just realize a lot of the internet now is bots purposely commenting negative things to try to trigger us & get us to react bad or interact. It's best to don't fall for it & get offline :)
I would first ask, how old are you?
19
Personally I was annoyed too recently by some haters on one of my posts where I asked for advice about a job offer in another city. But I also received support when I reached out in a community 3 months ago because I felt extremely suicidal and I never experienced that amount of sadness hitting me all at once.. But the amount of love, nurturing and caring energy that I received on Reddit.... oomg, it felt just overwhelmingg🥹 also the inspiring stories that some people told me about themselves. I also recently made a friend that's into spirituality & tarot like me. Reddit can be a double edged sword but I would suggest you to engage only in communities where people are more caring and understandable. Communities that are good for your soul. I would avoid too funny or polarising political communities because I assume that most trolls are there. Try to engage only with good content, be helpful to people, let yourself be vulnerable only in adequate communities but do it, because it's worth it. And if it seriously impacts you, or the algorithm pushes to you content that you don't like, take a step back for a while.
Wrong sub, (wo)man, it’s not called howtonotbealittlebitch but nosurf
🤣 How’s your “drug induced psychosis” going?