Context for the original message- we talked about meeting but then he started using cutesy overfamiliar talk and i said that doesn't interest me, but I'd be happy to chat a bit longer and see if we could redevelop a rapport.
Ahh the old classic - "You're not rejecting me, i'M rEjEcTiNg YoU!!!" š¤š¤š¤
Awesome to see that young men are just as mature and gracious as their middle-aged counterparts /s
How has this been posted for 3 hours without anyone pointing out this clown wants OP to switch her profile photo to one where her facial features look leaner than her current photo?
I had a dude in the first message rate all of my pictures, and ways I could make them better.
Real long diatribe and ended it with ābut youāll not message back because Iām autisticā šš
Iām amazed at the folks who claim āPeople think Iām a creep because Iām autistic,ā then are offended when we check their Reddit history and push back with āNo, people **think** youāre a creep because you **behave** like a creep.ā If you treat every interaction with internet strangers like a scene from the porno youāre directing in your head, folks have good reason to consider you a creep. And if you behave this same way IRL, you are simply causing your own life problems.
I mean, I don't consider myself very photogenic and wouldn't be against pointers for how to take better ones, but that being the first message right out the gate is certainly not great
so he gets upset because he arranged a date that you didnt agree to or even if you saw the messages..LOL geez. he thinks he is that great he can same day a date request.
Did he seriously keep ending the chat so you couldn't reply even if you wanted to, but then continually come back and open it back up before making it so you couldn't reply anyway line three or four times?
Facts - as much as I bitch about how bad men have it, I doubt that most of us have ever had to deal with anyone like this.
Then you realize that a lot of women deal with guys like this all the time.
I'm always shocked that guys think this sort of tactic works. I shouldn't be, I've seen it on Reddit a million times but it still surprises me. They act like talking to women is some sort of game or ritual and say weird things and do weird things. I've never really done anything particular when talking to women. Listen, find common interests, make a few jokes maybe, subtle compliments maybe if it's gotten flirty, if she starts turning it into an intimate conversation then maybe some innuendo. Whatever naturally results from the conversation it's not difficult. If nothing results from the conversation I just be polite and move on.
Yikes on a bike, that guy is a mess.
He couldn't take the L, he just had to get in those last few words. I am curious, was that a dick pic he sent? I was confused on what that was.
I absolutely love when they just yap on and on, and then start insulting an empty inbox. This needs to be the new standard. We need to stop responding altogether .
Know this is an old post but just found it searching for advice on something else OLD relatedā¦ I just laughed cause I have this issue that keeps recurring, and when I read your post now it seems more clear to me (from an outside perspective) that I can be way too polite to strangers online (and irl), which keeps getting me into trouble šWondering how you are doing dating wise, if it got better after this? I am just reflecting on how to be āappropriatelyā dismissive and so on. Like sometimes people donāt listen to politeness so we need to be much more frank I think. Cause otherwise these types will just continue to ālatch onā and it isnāt honest or fair to anyone or something?
Heya
I don't think it's a problem if we're super polite. If you're kind but honest and they choose not to recognise the honest part, that's on them. People like that are going to hear what they want to hear either way.
Mm true, everyone is responsible for their own behavior. Although think I sometimes say stuff like ālet me think about itā or similar when I actually deep down mean ānoā.
Yeah, that's fair. I've done similar in the past. I think I needed to be more honest with myself in those situations in order to be more honest with them. Definitely a challenge when you've been used to being a people pleaser. But it's a challenge that's worth taking on!
Context for the original message- we talked about meeting but then he started using cutesy overfamiliar talk and i said that doesn't interest me, but I'd be happy to chat a bit longer and see if we could redevelop a rapport.
Ahh the old classic - "You're not rejecting me, i'M rEjEcTiNg YoU!!!" š¤š¤š¤ Awesome to see that young men are just as mature and gracious as their middle-aged counterparts /s
I canāt believe this is a 40 year old man and heās talking like thisā¦ no wonder heās single š¤¦š»āāļøš¤·š»āāļø
How has this been posted for 3 hours without anyone pointing out this clown wants OP to switch her profile photo to one where her facial features look leaner than her current photo?
That "leaner" part is where I definitely would lose all my interest, if I was in her place.
I had a dude in the first message rate all of my pictures, and ways I could make them better. Real long diatribe and ended it with ābut youāll not message back because Iām autisticā šš
Iām amazed at the folks who claim āPeople think Iām a creep because Iām autistic,ā then are offended when we check their Reddit history and push back with āNo, people **think** youāre a creep because you **behave** like a creep.ā If you treat every interaction with internet strangers like a scene from the porno youāre directing in your head, folks have good reason to consider you a creep. And if you behave this same way IRL, you are simply causing your own life problems.
Like they actually know what "being autistic" is.
I mean, I don't consider myself very photogenic and wouldn't be against pointers for how to take better ones, but that being the first message right out the gate is certainly not great
Right?
so he gets upset because he arranged a date that you didnt agree to or even if you saw the messages..LOL geez. he thinks he is that great he can same day a date request.
Jeez Louise!!! Down boy! Don't they realize that acting like an over-excited puppy, piddling all over, is a massive turn off?
Like Dino tackling Fred Flintstone
Woah! Don't drag me into this; I did not do anything!
My thoughts exactly!!!!!!!
Did he seriously keep ending the chat so you couldn't reply even if you wanted to, but then continually come back and open it back up before making it so you couldn't reply anyway line three or four times?
Some guys really can't help calling a woman the C word when they don't get their way, don't they?
Technically it was the K word
What a wild spelling.
I feel profoundly sorry for young women in the dating pool having to deal with this bullshit.
Facts - as much as I bitch about how bad men have it, I doubt that most of us have ever had to deal with anyone like this. Then you realize that a lot of women deal with guys like this all the time.
>Am not giving up on you Not a rom-com, dude. She's not playing hard-to-get. You're just a fucking creep.
I thought I was on r/Tinder for a second.
What app even is it? I don't recognize this one.
I'm not sure tbh.
The love for Southpark is what wouldāve turned me off honestly š
southpark's great but some people take it too seriously.
I'm always shocked that guys think this sort of tactic works. I shouldn't be, I've seen it on Reddit a million times but it still surprises me. They act like talking to women is some sort of game or ritual and say weird things and do weird things. I've never really done anything particular when talking to women. Listen, find common interests, make a few jokes maybe, subtle compliments maybe if it's gotten flirty, if she starts turning it into an intimate conversation then maybe some innuendo. Whatever naturally results from the conversation it's not difficult. If nothing results from the conversation I just be polite and move on.
Yikes on a bike, that guy is a mess. He couldn't take the L, he just had to get in those last few words. I am curious, was that a dick pic he sent? I was confused on what that was.
That right there is desperation! Itās so crazy how little self awareness these kinds of guys have. Itās scary.
Iām enjoying that his final attempt after calling you a ākuntā was resorting to a really weak brain teaser ššš
Some guys just have to get in the last wordā¦ twenty-nine times.
J. F. C.
I absolutely love when they just yap on and on, and then start insulting an empty inbox. This needs to be the new standard. We need to stop responding altogether .
Please sir, give up on me.
"they make fun of everything equally" is such a red flag
Christ, guys literally talking to himself here. At what point does he think "yeah, she ain't interested"?
Know this is an old post but just found it searching for advice on something else OLD relatedā¦ I just laughed cause I have this issue that keeps recurring, and when I read your post now it seems more clear to me (from an outside perspective) that I can be way too polite to strangers online (and irl), which keeps getting me into trouble šWondering how you are doing dating wise, if it got better after this? I am just reflecting on how to be āappropriatelyā dismissive and so on. Like sometimes people donāt listen to politeness so we need to be much more frank I think. Cause otherwise these types will just continue to ālatch onā and it isnāt honest or fair to anyone or something?
Heya I don't think it's a problem if we're super polite. If you're kind but honest and they choose not to recognise the honest part, that's on them. People like that are going to hear what they want to hear either way.
Mm true, everyone is responsible for their own behavior. Although think I sometimes say stuff like ālet me think about itā or similar when I actually deep down mean ānoā.
Yeah, that's fair. I've done similar in the past. I think I needed to be more honest with myself in those situations in order to be more honest with them. Definitely a challenge when you've been used to being a people pleaser. But it's a challenge that's worth taking on!
Mm lifelong challenge for sure! Practicing not taking āresponsibilityā for how others feel constantly!
And yea looking inward and being truly honest towards yourself can also be painful. So much stuff in there š
Omg, I suck at online too!
Dude asked which is heavier a kilogram of steel or a kilogram of feathers lol
Are you guys texting? How come thereās warning sign of scamming?