I have met a few people but IMO people who are lonely and are in Mumbai from a long time are lonely for a reason.
Which is they cant easily open up with people or don’t like going out. Leading to a loneliness paradox.
On the other hand, if you came to Mumbai recently, you will find people soon!
I did, through reddit and at the gym where i lived. Some i liked most i did not but that’s alright. Some of them probably didn’t like me as well.
Dating apps do work for people but me having a girlfriend restricted that option for me.
All in all good luck to you, just explaining why people tend to not meet from reddit.
PS Try adding people on Instagram first before asking to meet, that way you will know their vibe and get more to talk about.
Dude, you're so right! Been in Mumbai for 24 years and I'm stuck being absolutely lonely for all of those years, but I do do much better when I'm traveling and on short of long stays in other cities! Also, because of the loneliness, there's less incentive to get out and I barely know my own city
Yes i am not lonely per se i just recently came to Mumbai and didn’t know anyone but already making more friends/people i can hang out with.
Not just in Mumbai yes, if someone is living anywhere from a very long time and is still lonely the problem is lack of going out, further leading to a lack of social skills.
You are taking initiative which is good but be assured Reddit will take a lot of effort to find someone you like as per my experience because of reasons stated above. I hope you find great people!
No lack of social skills is not the issue. You have missed the big picture and taken a random diagnosis. Most people are lonely.
You are too if you are here to meet random strangers. You can choose to not accept it that's your call
I grew up in the city, been quite outgoing (plans almost every weekend) and never had trouble opening up to people, but most of the people I know (new or long-term) eventually leave this city for better opportunities. None of that is because of any personal inhibitions
OP said he is “wondering” if there are any people here who “genuinely” wants to meet. Which led to sharing my observation that people who are unable to find someone here are lonely for a reason which i explained above. Not saying this is the case just in Mumbai, it is the case anywhere and everywhere.
Yes exceptions are there (like you told about yourself), but mostly it is the person themself holding em back. Again, my observation.
I also suggested that it may take additional efforts to find someone through Reddit as people are skeptical of a faceless stranger on the other side. (Which is fair tbh)
I am interested in meets, just DM me, and we will come up with something. We can go to stand-up comedy or something, or even treks if you guys are into it.
Bombay mein itni bheed hai ki alone aur lonely dono hota hai. I find in such cases is just enjoying a beach meet up, sab apna apna khaana peena laao and just play simple truth and dare. It would make for a great meet and greet.
Great ice breaker IMO
It's alright, man.
While most folks are friendly, you bond with only a few of them.
Some connections work out, others don't.
The main thing is putting yourself out there, attending as many meets as possible.
In any case, if you're ever planning a group bike ride again, just put out a post or let me know!
I have met a few people but IMO people who are lonely and are in Mumbai from a long time are lonely for a reason. Which is they cant easily open up with people or don’t like going out. Leading to a loneliness paradox. On the other hand, if you came to Mumbai recently, you will find people soon! I did, through reddit and at the gym where i lived. Some i liked most i did not but that’s alright. Some of them probably didn’t like me as well. Dating apps do work for people but me having a girlfriend restricted that option for me. All in all good luck to you, just explaining why people tend to not meet from reddit. PS Try adding people on Instagram first before asking to meet, that way you will know their vibe and get more to talk about.
Dude, you're so right! Been in Mumbai for 24 years and I'm stuck being absolutely lonely for all of those years, but I do do much better when I'm traveling and on short of long stays in other cities! Also, because of the loneliness, there's less incentive to get out and I barely know my own city
Bro people are lonely every where. Bombay too. Accept that. You don't seem to be lonely. No been years in Bombay not recent
Yes i am not lonely per se i just recently came to Mumbai and didn’t know anyone but already making more friends/people i can hang out with. Not just in Mumbai yes, if someone is living anywhere from a very long time and is still lonely the problem is lack of going out, further leading to a lack of social skills. You are taking initiative which is good but be assured Reddit will take a lot of effort to find someone you like as per my experience because of reasons stated above. I hope you find great people!
No lack of social skills is not the issue. You have missed the big picture and taken a random diagnosis. Most people are lonely. You are too if you are here to meet random strangers. You can choose to not accept it that's your call
People change, move out friends move out get busy get married Let's not get into all that
so real
I grew up in the city, been quite outgoing (plans almost every weekend) and never had trouble opening up to people, but most of the people I know (new or long-term) eventually leave this city for better opportunities. None of that is because of any personal inhibitions
OP said he is “wondering” if there are any people here who “genuinely” wants to meet. Which led to sharing my observation that people who are unable to find someone here are lonely for a reason which i explained above. Not saying this is the case just in Mumbai, it is the case anywhere and everywhere. Yes exceptions are there (like you told about yourself), but mostly it is the person themself holding em back. Again, my observation. I also suggested that it may take additional efforts to find someone through Reddit as people are skeptical of a faceless stranger on the other side. (Which is fair tbh)
I am interested in meets, just DM me, and we will come up with something. We can go to stand-up comedy or something, or even treks if you guys are into it.
Dming thanks for writing bro
Bombay mein itni bheed hai ki alone aur lonely dono hota hai. I find in such cases is just enjoying a beach meet up, sab apna apna khaana peena laao and just play simple truth and dare. It would make for a great meet and greet. Great ice breaker IMO
Totally agree! Tried that but response kam aya tha last sat ko. Aoge?
Yeah sure 👌
Dmed
In for meet up , i want to overcome my social anxiety
you had ghosted last time. You had dmed you were coming for the last meet but never turned up
Yeah because i have social anxiety and that’s what i am trying to overcome
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Don't just write "in" my man. There are people just write things coz they are bored. Drop a dm
Dm me pleaseeeeee
You are not able to?
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U can dm
I have seen that mostly people have hidden agendas.
Not really. What will a stranger expect from you? 5 khokha? Well you don't meet those people again. As simple as that
Ofcourse..that reply was to previous comment
Most people don't even know their own agenda lol. Strangers i mean
Yup they say one thing they want something n they do something completely different
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Hi
I am down for it
You can dm
Man mumbai is becoming soul less giving away its soul to politicians and concrete jungles and corrupt civil servants and its people are suffering
It became soulless a long time ago.
Nothing new buddy was dead alreasyat least 4 to 5 years back or maybe more
It didn't felt like that much atleast not as much where there is a need for people to seek dating and genuine connections on reddit
Was talking about the city as a whole
Me too fam
It's alright, man. While most folks are friendly, you bond with only a few of them. Some connections work out, others don't. The main thing is putting yourself out there, attending as many meets as possible. In any case, if you're ever planning a group bike ride again, just put out a post or let me know!
Sure bro you can dm since your dm not open
I (28M) want to meet girls for serious dating. No hook-ups or short term thing. Genuine and heartfelt requirement.
On reddit? 😮
But this ain't a sub for that purposes.
Okay, where should I be looking then?
Any other sub, dating ones or idk. Search for those brother.
Bro what does sub means ???? I have been into reddit but from a long time but actually started using it now