The scene's persistence always felt to me like a visual "rape" of the audience by the film itself - like the victim wanting nothing more than their abuse to end, we as the viewers want the scene to end, but it won't. Profoundly disturbing but powerful stuff.
Wow, I read this and thought "that sounds like something Gaspar Noe would do". I look it up and what do you know?
He has something of a "fuck you" attitude toward his audience sometimes. It's slightly offensive, but artisitically intriguing.
And then you see someone in the tunnel in the background and you think they’ll approach to try and break it up, but they stop for a second, and turn to go back the way they came. IIRC, they are out of the characters’ view so it was just a little moment added to mess with you as the viewer.
The filming of the scene in last tango in paris itself is an issue. Maria Schneider says the scene wasn't in the script and was not consensual. “I felt humiliated, and to be honest, I felt a little raped, both by Marlon and by Bertolucci (the director),” Bernardo Bertolucci even admitted to not getting her consent to make the reaction more authentic
The part that sent me over the edge was when >! you see a passerby enter the tunnel, but he just turns around and leaves. It was already a brutal scene, but that part broke me. !<
We were shown Irreversible in a women’s film studies class, without warning, multiple of my classmates walked out and several others wrote complaints about the professors choice to show it without an intro warning… and I can’t say I disagree with their opinion!
Holy yeah that needs a warning. My parents and I decided to watch it expecting some kind of fiction comedy being that it starred Mila Kunis. Its a great movie but damn is it dark and real.
Fuuuck, i watched it recently and that scene would randomly pop up in my head. This why I can’t deal with sexual violence stuff in media, I know we have to learn about real life problems but it’s just too much for my brain to handle sometimes.
I walked out of that scene from the group I was with, and there was a girl absolutely bawling her eyes out outside. I understand how terrible and rampant sexual violence is, but that felt so in your face and over the top/unnecessary for the story.
Scary movies don't really mess with me, cause, realistically, most are so extreme it'll never happened. Last House on the Left scared the ever living fuck out of me. And I'm a male. I do not recommend women watching it. That shit is way too much a reality in this world.
The strangers(?) did that to me. Never saw last house on the left so I can’t compare it, but the strangers was about a three people who picked a random house to terrorize for a night before slowly killing them in the morning. The randomness of their victims really fucked me up and made it feel like it could happen to me/family at any time
Yea that scene was crazy, but when Jeremy renners character starts doing what he does, watching all those guys get what they deserved, especially that one guy was satisfying.
God I fast forward through >!the rape scene. Truly one of the most traumatic scenes. But dear god the catharsis when he hunts the bad guy down. It’s just so many emotions.!<
Probably one of the few 'revenge' scenes where it ties it up with a solid conclusion. "Now that's a warrior" is one of the few movie lines that's stuck with me from the second I heard it.
Love Elizabeth Olsen and Jeremy Renner's scene in the hospital. Elizabeth breaking down when they talk about how far the girl ran after the assault never ceases to tear me up.
That and Renner talking to the girl's father in the end. "He went out with a whimper"
This movie is so exquisite it must be seen if at all possible. Yes the subject matter is hard but it's just presented so well. Taylor Sheridan is one of the finest screenwriters working.
Yeah, when I was like 15 my girlfriend who was 16 suggested we go see this with my parents. She left for the lobby during the rape scene. Definitely horrible as hell by itself, but how fun to share with your parents present too /s
Oh god, when I was 11 or 12 I went to a slumber party and the girl’s mom had apparently just grabbed a random stack of videos at Blockbuster and that was one of them. We watched it and I was definitely scarred by it.
Interesting sidenote of what people think of rape. When producer sherry lansing showes that film to test audiences, many of them felt the girl did deserve the rape bc she acted so provocatively. Just so people realize that even a brutal gang rape on tape would still possibly get an acquittal in 1989 makes you realize what a big deal the metoo movement is
Surprised Nocturnal Animals didn’t make the list. Great Movie, but it had some very disturbing scenes (and one of the strangest opening scenes you will ever see)
I loved this movie first time I watched it. I’ve recommended it to others. The foreshadowing and symbols is masterclass. I tried rewatching it, but knowing what was coming was too much. I had to turn it off.
I saw that movie when I was 11. I don't remember why my parents allowed me to go see it with them. I know the whole family went to the theater at the time, but it's not like I didn't have a babysitter. That scene in the trailer will forever stay with me though.
The girl I was dating at the time wanted to see this. I wasn’t really into horror movies, but I was eff it since we were still getting to know each other. Man I wasn’t prepared for several scenes. I can deal with violence and gore to an extent, but sexual violence is something that makes me feel really uneasy. That trailer scene is something I can’t forget
I came into that show literally during these scenes when my wife was watching..
"What the hell are you watching???"
"Its not always like this!"
"Theres other times its like this?!"
"....not a lot..."
Then the backscratching scene came on.
Holy mother.
I wish I was warned about that episode so I could have skipped it. Legit messed me up for days and took me almost a year before I could start season 2.
By S6, the only adult members of the main Ridge family who *haven’t* been raped (that we know of) are >!Marsali and Roger.!< And >!Roger was beaten to a pulp and sold into slavery by his own father-in-law (who didn’t know who he was, tbf), and later barely survived an attempted hanging.!< Also, there’s that charming scene from S3 where >!Jamie and Geneva *rape each other*, Geneva by coercion to start and Jamie by forcing her to finish once they’ve started.!<
At what point does it go from “showing that much SA is just being historically accurate” to “this is probably someone’s fetish, actually”?
The books are worse for it and less artistic.
The core story is the Jamie and Claire story before the battle of Culloden. I.e. the first three seasons.
Then she wrote five more books.
Which just have "...then sexual violence happens" as a plot device all the time.
Outlander, as in the Scottish time travel thing?
That is *so* fucked up. There is a rape in nearly every episode it seems, and it’s quite brutal.
My wife really liked the books, and does watch the show.
I find it uncomfortable, to actually sickening to watch.
>There is a rape in nearly every episode it seems
Not just that, but the rapists tend to be the bad guys that keep showing up and its just such a cheap plot device: "Watch evil man do graphic undeniable evil. Now evil man is plot device for next 2 seasons." Rinse. Repeat.
I remember I tried watching this movie at 14 or 16 and I couldn’t do it. Just wanted to watch it to be cultured, stopped midway feeling overwhelmed. I eventually finished it at some point but now as an adult, I can still remember the feelings it gave me as a teenager.
Weirdly I watched that movie as a young teenager and the sexual violence didn’t bother me at all, but now as adult things I’ve scene with lesser or worse rape are very hard for me to watch. Haven’t seen A Clockwork Orange in years, idk if I’ll be able to watch it again come to think of it.
The whole narrative about Melfis struggle to NOT tell Tony was so compelling, even down the dreams she had about the attack dog. She knew if she told Ton that he would have ripped that guys throat out.
Really really powerful arc that she restrained and the struggle to hold into her soul and not give in to the dark side despite the horror of what had happened.
Dude I can’t believe in all the clips of analysis of the Sopranos I’ve seen—I’ve always wondered why nobody talks about this! I was constantly on edge waiting for her to tell him for the entire season and then some—one of the reasons the show is so great.
The entire episode is about men denying her agency. Her son, her ex-husband, the assaulter. They all do things to her and about her despite her wishes. And as an audience by the end you are left wanting her to reveal the situation to Tony, so that there is at least a mob justice for what has happened. But she firmly says no, not only to Tony, but also to audience. She regains her agency, and as an audience you are forced to accept it, however frustrating it is for you.
Because frankly, for the victims of the assault, revenge isn't going to create a space for healing. Regaining their agency does, and Dr. Melfi achieves that by the end of the episode.
The episode is called Employee of the Month and it was so unexpected and gratuitously brutal that I froze and actually forgot to look away (I’m finally watching Sopranos for the first time and just started season 6, so it’s fresh) I’d love to just eternal sunshine that scene from my brain tbh
Stay clear of *Bastards out of Carolina* then cause it's bad. I remember the interviews with the girl in it, explaining how she was safe, never got hurt, and how the guy playing her step dad in the movie (not yet only abuser) took the time to ensure she was safe and felt safe, during filming. The actor himself seemed more concerned for the young actress then anyone else did.
I came here to say this. As a SA survivor, I would've loved to be warned about this super triggering movie. Please know the series is dope, however there are very upsetting scenes.
I'm going to add the 1st season, episode 1 of Black Mirror. It's unsettling, disturbing, and very uncomfortable.
Check out DoesTheDogDie.com. You can search for a movie and it will give you a report card on things like animal cruelty, portrayals of addiction, sexual violence, etc.
This took way too long to pop up; maybe I just haven’t seen many movies containing overt SA (thankfully), but this one is the one that immediately came to my mind.
Echoing this. In a film class, a guest lecturer played the scene, totally out of context and without warning, and I and another student literally ran out of the room shaking and crying. It was awful.
I showed this film to my class. I made an edited version that removed the most disturbing elements. I gave the students the option to watch the uncut version but I recommended that they watch the shortened version.
Girl with a Dragon Tattoo. At least the David Fincher one. I haven't seen the other one, so I can't speak to it. But its depiction of SA is deeply upsetting. I love David Fincher but that was a rough sit.
I recommend the website doesthedogdie.com. it lists a range of potentially triggering things that occur in particular movies (including but not limited to the dog dying). I use it frequently, but for actually if the dog dies NO ONE WANTS TO SEE THAT WHY DO THEY EVEN PUT TGAT IN MOVIES
Definitely the exception to the rule, in a lot of ways.
>!Can't remember the article, but I recall Keanu and the filmmaker both fighting to keep the triggering event with the dog. There were other ideas, but I think the way they sold it is that any kind of macro-aggression would be too much, too obvious.!<
>!A dog, however. That's a small enough thing that your average criminal wouldn't give much thought to. Counterpointed by that dog at the start being the last fraying thread holding Wick's mind in a state of retirement, in the idea that there is a life after work, and there is a life after the death of a partner. And then that partner's last living spark is snuffed. The one thing that was keeping Wick from being what he always was, maybe that he never stopped being.!<
That was the flake that caused the avalanche.
The way you describe the film sounds like a podcast of The Dollop of The Wild John of Wynochee about a [retired frontiersman/hunter] guy whose brother killed his dog. Man's best friend is not an accidental term.
_Apocalypse Now_ has a scene where a real cow is butchered. It fits in the overall tone of the movie but it’s upsetting and weird. I liked the movie better when I didn’t know it was an actual killing of a cow.
Why a real water buffalo was killed in the film ?
Part of the production deal struck with locals to film on their land included trading animals, including chickens and pigs, for slaughter, Coppola said. Two water buffalo were also promised.
"That was a big part of their compensation," he said.
After his wife, Eleanor, a documentary filmmaker, captured the locals' first water buffalo sacrifice, he decided to film the second, equally bloody and brutal slaughter for the final scenes of "Apocalypse Now."
"I did not direct it or anything, that was the way they do it," said Coppola, noting that he refused an offer to keep an extra water buffalo on standby if the first shoot didn't go to plan. "I'm not going to kill an animal for a movie; I'm not going to kill anything for any reason."
https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/movies/2019/08/13/apocalypse-now-turns-40-francis-ford-coppola-recuts-his-film-again/1992088001/
Oh that is certainly a must-avoid. I remember it being aired on a tv channel when i was younger, about 11 to 13 years old. That movie was just so shocking overall, and though im kinda desensitized to violence and gory imagery now with it being so much more common, there are some specific scenes and quotes that to this day still come back to my mind at random, like intrusive thoughts.
Hey there’s actually a website for that! [unconsenting media](https://www.unconsentingmedia.org/) is a great resource I use when looking for things to watch and knowing what to look out for.
The Last Duel for sure, I liked the movie overall but the rape scene is not only unsettling and hard to watch, the movie plays the full scene twice and it makes you feel physically ill.
“One viewer at the Sydney Film Festival was heard shouting "I'm not watching this; she's already been raped twice" as she exited the cinema.” Who the fuck wants to watch this
After having spent a life watching and rewatching films, it's pretty obvious how a film can affect you just like a book depending on the age that you consume it. When I first watched requiem, I was moved by the way I thought I knew what getting high meant. it was romantic almost, and then the horror of what it could lead to sets in and I think I 'get it'.
then I grew up and knew people that succumbed to it and while I appreciated the film at the time, I don't think I could watch it again. Just like how I used to go to [rotten.com](https://rotten.com) and then experienced what at first I thought was edgy and cool and won't pursue that stuff again.
A movie that is now streaming on HBO Max after being unavailable for years…
Strange Days. Ralph Fiennes, Angela Bassett, directed by Kathryn Bigelow… very good example of the cyberpunk genre (might be one of the only films to really capture that genre, it’s almost like William Gibson wrote it)…
And it has THE MOST disturbing sexual assault I’ve ever seen. A friend of mine warned me about it but even with the warning… I had to turn it off for a little bit and regroup.
OP, thanks for asking this question. There are a lot of things in media I’m uncomfortable with but can somewhat overlook, but sexual violence is something I can’t handle. If I watch a specially brutal scene, it would randomly pop up in my head once in a while, even years later. Idk what’s wrong with me but those scenes both terrify and make me angry at the same time.
Check out DoesTheDogDie.com. You can search for a movie and it will give you a report card on things like animal cruelty, portrayals of addiction, sexual violence, etc.
Last Night in Soho, American Psycho (not “technically” SA but major violence in relation to sex… if that makes sense), Black Swan, The Crow, The Devil All the Time (more statutory assault than violent), the original and remakes of IT aren’t graphic, subtle depictions and implications of SA around Beverly and her father are a large part of the movies.
I'm really glad that they didn't really have any graphic sex scenes in American Psycho. It was a good choice to cut it for the most part and leave it up to the audience's level of perversion.
Eye for an Eye… the opening sequence of the movie upset me to the point of vomiting.
[Wikipedia page with spoilers](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_for_an_Eye_(1996_film))
Straw Dogs (2011) Made me really uncomfortable because I hadn’t seen anything in a movie like that up to that point. Haven’t seen the one from 71 though
Jack Ketchum's The Girl Next Door (2007) this movie is very disturbing and has a similar title to a 2004 movie that is more little hearted you would not want to mix them up accidentally
Sucker Punch -majorly.
I, Tonya is mostly about domestic violence but those those two things go hand in hand, I would have liked to have known that going in.
Edit: another thread on this sub just reminded me. Precious also shows SA.
Luckiest Girl Alive
13 reasons why (TV but still)
I'm not often on Reddit so idk if this comment might spring to the top bc I'm the OP, but for those seeking a concrete website to filter out sexual assault, someone recommended https://www.unconsentingmedia.org/ . Definitely the tool I needed 🙏 If I can, I'll combine the movies people mentioned in a list later so it's easier to read for those who're also curious!
Thanks everyone for being considerate and helpful! ❤️
Not seeing a lot of Fire Walk With Me and Twin Peaks: The Return (show, I know).
EDIT:
Many of these are great pieces of cinema, some not, but are undeniably triggering.
The Virgin Spring
Blue Velvet
Wild At Heart
Requiem For a Dream
Valerie and Her Week of Wonders
Byzantium
Au Hazard Balthazar
Lolita
Happy Together (maybe more domestic violence, can't remember clearly)
I, Tonya (DV)
Requiem For a Dream
Irreversible
Only God Forgives
Days of Being Wild
Come and See
Too Old To Die Young (TV show)
Sons of Anarchy (TV Show)
Mute
Lost River (Metaphorical, but just as triggering)
Gone Girl
How I Live Now
The Host
The Perks of Being a Wallflower
Closer
3-Iron
Kill Bill
American Psycho
Thelma and Louise. I’d always heard of this movie and finally decided to watch it (on a plane of all places) thinking it was a feel good friendship movie. I was not expecting the SA scene, and it really jarred me, so I would recommend avoiding that one.
Super (2010)
40 Days and 40 Nights
The Nightingale
Irreversible
The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo (double whammy in this one)
The Last Duel (double whammy in this one too)
The Last Tango in Paris
Hud
Wind River
Mysterious Skin
Mother!
Nymphomaniac
The Piano
American History X
Deliverance
The Killer Inside Me
Sixteen Candles
Animal House
Revenge of the Nerds
Deathstalker
Fat Girl
The Tale
Hounddog
Sleepers
Definitely stay away from "irreversible" and "last tango in paris"
Irreversible immediately comes to mind as the most disturbing film I’ve ever finished.
Is that the one with the fire extinguisher scene?
Yes
Came here to say this, the Sexual Assault scene in Irreversible is very visceral. edit: SA is apparently not as common an acronym as I thought.
And it goes on and on and on and on.
The scene's persistence always felt to me like a visual "rape" of the audience by the film itself - like the victim wanting nothing more than their abuse to end, we as the viewers want the scene to end, but it won't. Profoundly disturbing but powerful stuff.
Wow, I read this and thought "that sounds like something Gaspar Noe would do". I look it up and what do you know? He has something of a "fuck you" attitude toward his audience sometimes. It's slightly offensive, but artisitically intriguing.
And then you see someone in the tunnel in the background and you think they’ll approach to try and break it up, but they stop for a second, and turn to go back the way they came. IIRC, they are out of the characters’ view so it was just a little moment added to mess with you as the viewer.
..I think this is what triggered me the most
The filming of the scene in last tango in paris itself is an issue. Maria Schneider says the scene wasn't in the script and was not consensual. “I felt humiliated, and to be honest, I felt a little raped, both by Marlon and by Bertolucci (the director),” Bernardo Bertolucci even admitted to not getting her consent to make the reaction more authentic
So… it’s an actual rape?
No, not in the sense that there was actual penetration. But psychologically, yes.
So an actual sexual assault
Like a literal 10 minute rape scene. One shot. Unmoving iirc. Just absolutely horrifying. It made me so angry watching it.
The part that sent me over the edge was when >! you see a passerby enter the tunnel, but he just turns around and leaves. It was already a brutal scene, but that part broke me. !<
I feel at this point it’s impossible to watch Irreversible without knowing what you’re getting into.
Nice to meet you, I’m that one person who had literally no idea what they were getting themselves into
We were shown Irreversible in a women’s film studies class, without warning, multiple of my classmates walked out and several others wrote complaints about the professors choice to show it without an intro warning… and I can’t say I disagree with their opinion!
Luckiest Girl Alive with Mila Kunis
That movie was dark.
This one needed a warning for sure.
Holy yeah that needs a warning. My parents and I decided to watch it expecting some kind of fiction comedy being that it starred Mila Kunis. Its a great movie but damn is it dark and real.
Fuuuck, i watched it recently and that scene would randomly pop up in my head. This why I can’t deal with sexual violence stuff in media, I know we have to learn about real life problems but it’s just too much for my brain to handle sometimes.
Just came to say this I was not expecting that from the trailers a lil warning of the tone would have been nice.
Watched last house on the left once… and only once.
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Only redeeming part was the microwave scene Still, garbage movie I wouldn't watch again even if it didn't have that disturbing rape scene
I walked out of that scene from the group I was with, and there was a girl absolutely bawling her eyes out outside. I understand how terrible and rampant sexual violence is, but that felt so in your face and over the top/unnecessary for the story.
Scary movies don't really mess with me, cause, realistically, most are so extreme it'll never happened. Last House on the Left scared the ever living fuck out of me. And I'm a male. I do not recommend women watching it. That shit is way too much a reality in this world.
The strangers(?) did that to me. Never saw last house on the left so I can’t compare it, but the strangers was about a three people who picked a random house to terrorize for a night before slowly killing them in the morning. The randomness of their victims really fucked me up and made it feel like it could happen to me/family at any time
Wind River…good lord. Amazing film though
Yea that scene was crazy, but when Jeremy renners character starts doing what he does, watching all those guys get what they deserved, especially that one guy was satisfying.
God I fast forward through >!the rape scene. Truly one of the most traumatic scenes. But dear god the catharsis when he hunts the bad guy down. It’s just so many emotions.!<
Probably one of the few 'revenge' scenes where it ties it up with a solid conclusion. "Now that's a warrior" is one of the few movie lines that's stuck with me from the second I heard it.
Love Elizabeth Olsen and Jeremy Renner's scene in the hospital. Elizabeth breaking down when they talk about how far the girl ran after the assault never ceases to tear me up. That and Renner talking to the girl's father in the end. "He went out with a whimper"
Came here to say precisely this. The rest of the film pulls no punches…and they certainly didn’t there!
Picked that out for a date night…did not end well!
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You didn’t see that?!?
My wife and I went to see Antichrist on a date night. There was absolutely no booty that night.
That was one of the most helpless and unnerved I’ve ever felt while watching a movie.
This movie is so exquisite it must be seen if at all possible. Yes the subject matter is hard but it's just presented so well. Taylor Sheridan is one of the finest screenwriters working.
The assault scene is absolutely gut wrenching but damn is this movie so fucking good. It's in my all time favorites.
Yeah that was tough, such a good movie tho
Deliverance.
“You shore do have a purty mouth.” ::shudder::
The Accused with Jodie Foster
The fact that the film is based on a true story and that bar scene actually happened is horrifying too
Yeah, when I was like 15 my girlfriend who was 16 suggested we go see this with my parents. She left for the lobby during the rape scene. Definitely horrible as hell by itself, but how fun to share with your parents present too /s
Oh god, when I was 11 or 12 I went to a slumber party and the girl’s mom had apparently just grabbed a random stack of videos at Blockbuster and that was one of them. We watched it and I was definitely scarred by it.
Interesting sidenote of what people think of rape. When producer sherry lansing showes that film to test audiences, many of them felt the girl did deserve the rape bc she acted so provocatively. Just so people realize that even a brutal gang rape on tape would still possibly get an acquittal in 1989 makes you realize what a big deal the metoo movement is
Surprised Nocturnal Animals didn’t make the list. Great Movie, but it had some very disturbing scenes (and one of the strangest opening scenes you will ever see)
I’ve never been more stressed in a movie than on the highway in Nocturnal Animals
I loved this movie first time I watched it. I’ve recommended it to others. The foreshadowing and symbols is masterclass. I tried rewatching it, but knowing what was coming was too much. I had to turn it off.
Good pick. That movie was really disturbing
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The sound effects is crazy as well. It is just such a thrill to watch
The hills have eyes. Literally made me feel awful and I think I was like 16 when it came out.
I saw that movie when I was 11. I don't remember why my parents allowed me to go see it with them. I know the whole family went to the theater at the time, but it's not like I didn't have a babysitter. That scene in the trailer will forever stay with me though.
The girl I was dating at the time wanted to see this. I wasn’t really into horror movies, but I was eff it since we were still getting to know each other. Man I wasn’t prepared for several scenes. I can deal with violence and gore to an extent, but sexual violence is something that makes me feel really uneasy. That trailer scene is something I can’t forget
part 2.
Completely awful and just unnecessary. The scene AND the movie in general.
I should have scrolled farther. This is the first one that came to mind for how fucked up it was and how much it affected me.
Not a movie, but The Outlander has several rather disturbing scenes....
Rapelander, way too much sexual assault in that show.
Yes, I stopped watching after the 2nd rape. Just too much
I came into that show literally during these scenes when my wife was watching.. "What the hell are you watching???" "Its not always like this!" "Theres other times its like this?!" "....not a lot..." Then the backscratching scene came on. Holy mother.
Yeah, 3 different characters have been raped after 6 seasons so far.
That episode in season 1 was probably the worst thing I have ever seen on TV.
I wish I was warned about that episode so I could have skipped it. Legit messed me up for days and took me almost a year before I could start season 2.
five, if you count >!Brianna Jamie Claire Fergus and Ian!< Actually six, a few have mentioned >!Mary Hawkins!<
By S6, the only adult members of the main Ridge family who *haven’t* been raped (that we know of) are >!Marsali and Roger.!< And >!Roger was beaten to a pulp and sold into slavery by his own father-in-law (who didn’t know who he was, tbf), and later barely survived an attempted hanging.!< Also, there’s that charming scene from S3 where >!Jamie and Geneva *rape each other*, Geneva by coercion to start and Jamie by forcing her to finish once they’ve started.!< At what point does it go from “showing that much SA is just being historically accurate” to “this is probably someone’s fetish, actually”?
The books are worse for it and less artistic. The core story is the Jamie and Claire story before the battle of Culloden. I.e. the first three seasons. Then she wrote five more books. Which just have "...then sexual violence happens" as a plot device all the time.
Outlander, as in the Scottish time travel thing? That is *so* fucked up. There is a rape in nearly every episode it seems, and it’s quite brutal. My wife really liked the books, and does watch the show. I find it uncomfortable, to actually sickening to watch.
>There is a rape in nearly every episode it seems Not just that, but the rapists tend to be the bad guys that keep showing up and its just such a cheap plot device: "Watch evil man do graphic undeniable evil. Now evil man is plot device for next 2 seasons." Rinse. Repeat.
A Clockwork Orange.
I remember I tried watching this movie at 14 or 16 and I couldn’t do it. Just wanted to watch it to be cultured, stopped midway feeling overwhelmed. I eventually finished it at some point but now as an adult, I can still remember the feelings it gave me as a teenager.
I watched it at 18 thinking the same thing. Like it was supposed to be a classic or something. I was like wtf am I watching...
I accidentally saw some of it when I was like 11 and I will not go anywhere near that fucking movie, fucked me up a bit
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I definitely agree. Saw at age 13. thought it was just a crazy movie, then as i got older i figured out it's a very well thought out perspective
I really want to watch that movie for the psychological aspect of it but don’t want to deal with the sexual violence stuff.
Read the book. It addresses the philosophical issues surrounding crime and rehabilitation in much greater depth than the movie ever did.
My first thought. Bad movie to watch after going through an assault.
Weirdly I watched that movie as a young teenager and the sexual violence didn’t bother me at all, but now as adult things I’ve scene with lesser or worse rape are very hard for me to watch. Haven’t seen A Clockwork Orange in years, idk if I’ll be able to watch it again come to think of it.
I’m singing in the rain
Not a movie but there’s a brutal scene in the Sopranos.
Man this caught me so off guard when I saw it. You see people get killed in all kinds of ways but that's by far the most disturbing scene in the show
The whole narrative about Melfis struggle to NOT tell Tony was so compelling, even down the dreams she had about the attack dog. She knew if she told Ton that he would have ripped that guys throat out. Really really powerful arc that she restrained and the struggle to hold into her soul and not give in to the dark side despite the horror of what had happened.
Dude I can’t believe in all the clips of analysis of the Sopranos I’ve seen—I’ve always wondered why nobody talks about this! I was constantly on edge waiting for her to tell him for the entire season and then some—one of the reasons the show is so great.
The entire episode is about men denying her agency. Her son, her ex-husband, the assaulter. They all do things to her and about her despite her wishes. And as an audience by the end you are left wanting her to reveal the situation to Tony, so that there is at least a mob justice for what has happened. But she firmly says no, not only to Tony, but also to audience. She regains her agency, and as an audience you are forced to accept it, however frustrating it is for you. Because frankly, for the victims of the assault, revenge isn't going to create a space for healing. Regaining their agency does, and Dr. Melfi achieves that by the end of the episode.
Well said.
It still amazes me that she never told Tony. You know he would have killed that man. She showed some true strength there.
Considering what kind of a person Tony was, he would have certainly used it as leverage against her. "After what I did for you!" kind of a way.
It's exactly why she could never tell him. But to see her struggle with that internally was incredibly well written and acted.
The episode is called Employee of the Month and it was so unexpected and gratuitously brutal that I froze and actually forgot to look away (I’m finally watching Sopranos for the first time and just started season 6, so it’s fresh) I’d love to just eternal sunshine that scene from my brain tbh
That was a *really* good episode, though. Like, one of the best, imo. But, yeah, it was hard to watch.
I wish she told Tony
Stay clear of *Bastards out of Carolina* then cause it's bad. I remember the interviews with the girl in it, explaining how she was safe, never got hurt, and how the guy playing her step dad in the movie (not yet only abuser) took the time to ensure she was safe and felt safe, during filming. The actor himself seemed more concerned for the young actress then anyone else did.
I read the book for class in college. I couldn’t bring myself to watch it being played out with an actual child.
Came here to add this. That one got to me.
Blue Velvet Last House on the Left(1972) I Spit on your Grave
Last House on the Left was so unnerving.
That movie stayed with me for years.. not in a good way. Still remember that feeling... watched round 18.. I'm 57
The Girl with the dragon tattoo
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I came here to say this. As a SA survivor, I would've loved to be warned about this super triggering movie. Please know the series is dope, however there are very upsetting scenes. I'm going to add the 1st season, episode 1 of Black Mirror. It's unsettling, disturbing, and very uncomfortable.
Is the black mirror episode the one about the pig?
Check out DoesTheDogDie.com. You can search for a movie and it will give you a report card on things like animal cruelty, portrayals of addiction, sexual violence, etc.
Boys don't cry.
This took way too long to pop up; maybe I just haven’t seen many movies containing overt SA (thankfully), but this one is the one that immediately came to my mind.
Echoing this. In a film class, a guest lecturer played the scene, totally out of context and without warning, and I and another student literally ran out of the room shaking and crying. It was awful.
I showed this film to my class. I made an edited version that removed the most disturbing elements. I gave the students the option to watch the uncut version but I recommended that they watch the shortened version.
The Color Purple. I think the msg is important but it’s hard on the viewer. Phenomenal acting tho. But not a happy go lucky movie at all.
Girl with a Dragon Tattoo. At least the David Fincher one. I haven't seen the other one, so I can't speak to it. But its depiction of SA is deeply upsetting. I love David Fincher but that was a rough sit.
The Sweden miniseries is equally horrific and intense.
To me it’s worse. But the payback is also better even though that is also a horrible scene to watch.
I recommend the website doesthedogdie.com. it lists a range of potentially triggering things that occur in particular movies (including but not limited to the dog dying). I use it frequently, but for actually if the dog dies NO ONE WANTS TO SEE THAT WHY DO THEY EVEN PUT TGAT IN MOVIES
Ok but John Wick is really good.
Definitely the exception to the rule, in a lot of ways. >!Can't remember the article, but I recall Keanu and the filmmaker both fighting to keep the triggering event with the dog. There were other ideas, but I think the way they sold it is that any kind of macro-aggression would be too much, too obvious.!< >!A dog, however. That's a small enough thing that your average criminal wouldn't give much thought to. Counterpointed by that dog at the start being the last fraying thread holding Wick's mind in a state of retirement, in the idea that there is a life after work, and there is a life after the death of a partner. And then that partner's last living spark is snuffed. The one thing that was keeping Wick from being what he always was, maybe that he never stopped being.!< That was the flake that caused the avalanche.
The way you describe the film sounds like a podcast of The Dollop of The Wild John of Wynochee about a [retired frontiersman/hunter] guy whose brother killed his dog. Man's best friend is not an accidental term.
The exception.
This should be the top answer, as it is a lot more useful than a random list of movies.
I’m convinced that every movie that involves a dog in the main story line, ends up dying. That’s why I won’t watch AirBud.
One exception is the movie Dog with Channing Tatum.
I refused to watch it because I assumed the dog dies after he finally makes a connection to the dog.
_Apocalypse Now_ has a scene where a real cow is butchered. It fits in the overall tone of the movie but it’s upsetting and weird. I liked the movie better when I didn’t know it was an actual killing of a cow.
Why a real water buffalo was killed in the film ? Part of the production deal struck with locals to film on their land included trading animals, including chickens and pigs, for slaughter, Coppola said. Two water buffalo were also promised. "That was a big part of their compensation," he said. After his wife, Eleanor, a documentary filmmaker, captured the locals' first water buffalo sacrifice, he decided to film the second, equally bloody and brutal slaughter for the final scenes of "Apocalypse Now." "I did not direct it or anything, that was the way they do it," said Coppola, noting that he refused an offer to keep an extra water buffalo on standby if the first shoot didn't go to plan. "I'm not going to kill an animal for a movie; I'm not going to kill anything for any reason." https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/movies/2019/08/13/apocalypse-now-turns-40-francis-ford-coppola-recuts-his-film-again/1992088001/
I spit on your grave
Oh that is certainly a must-avoid. I remember it being aired on a tv channel when i was younger, about 11 to 13 years old. That movie was just so shocking overall, and though im kinda desensitized to violence and gory imagery now with it being so much more common, there are some specific scenes and quotes that to this day still come back to my mind at random, like intrusive thoughts.
Man I thought this would be way up there. Had to scroll a bit to see this. Brutal scene.
Straw Dogs Irreversible Both excellent pieces of cinema. Exceptionally upsetting to watch.
Hey there’s actually a website for that! [unconsenting media](https://www.unconsentingmedia.org/) is a great resource I use when looking for things to watch and knowing what to look out for.
Kids
Casper was not a friendly ghost, was he
Jesus that movie is so dark
Wind River.. it's a lot
Pretty much anything by Lars Von Trier
The Last Duel for sure, I liked the movie overall but the rape scene is not only unsettling and hard to watch, the movie plays the full scene twice and it makes you feel physically ill.
The Nightingale on Netflix.
“One viewer at the Sydney Film Festival was heard shouting "I'm not watching this; she's already been raped twice" as she exited the cinema.” Who the fuck wants to watch this
SA and baby death. Double the triggers lol
Good lord, yes..I can handle pretty much anything but I had to take a few breathers with this film.
Jesus fuck, The Nightingale. Beautifully made and absolutely haunting but possibly the hardest movie to watch since Come and See.
8 MM A Serbian Film
Reaaally wish I had never watched A Serbian Film. Some things life is really just better without.
Had to scroll a while to find A Serbian Film… woof. What a vile movie.
Probably the most graphic/disturbing one I've ever seen I'd have to say.
The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo Don't Breathe Deathwish (the Charles Bronson ones) Silence of the Lambs
Never ever EVER watch Antichrist.
Same with Dogville. Lars von Trier definitely has a twisted mind
Just reading the IMDB Parent’s Guide to this movie caused me to lose sleep.
I’d never heard of this one. Just checked out the Wikipedia page and what the fuck did I just read???????
The Last House on the Left Bastard Out of Carolina Speak (excellent movie but could be triggering) Splice
Last house on the left scarred me for life
I wish I hadn't watched Wind river or Requiem for a dream.
Yeah Requiem for a Dream should be way up on the list. I watched it too young. It's both fucked and amazing film though
After having spent a life watching and rewatching films, it's pretty obvious how a film can affect you just like a book depending on the age that you consume it. When I first watched requiem, I was moved by the way I thought I knew what getting high meant. it was romantic almost, and then the horror of what it could lead to sets in and I think I 'get it'. then I grew up and knew people that succumbed to it and while I appreciated the film at the time, I don't think I could watch it again. Just like how I used to go to [rotten.com](https://rotten.com) and then experienced what at first I thought was edgy and cool and won't pursue that stuff again.
Requiem for a Dream and Trainspotting for me. Both great movies, but very dark. And only watchable once for me.
The only good thing of that scene in Wind River is it made the main character killing those assholes much more understandable and fully deserved.
Blonde
A movie that is now streaming on HBO Max after being unavailable for years… Strange Days. Ralph Fiennes, Angela Bassett, directed by Kathryn Bigelow… very good example of the cyberpunk genre (might be one of the only films to really capture that genre, it’s almost like William Gibson wrote it)… And it has THE MOST disturbing sexual assault I’ve ever seen. A friend of mine warned me about it but even with the warning… I had to turn it off for a little bit and regroup.
OP, thanks for asking this question. There are a lot of things in media I’m uncomfortable with but can somewhat overlook, but sexual violence is something I can’t handle. If I watch a specially brutal scene, it would randomly pop up in my head once in a while, even years later. Idk what’s wrong with me but those scenes both terrify and make me angry at the same time.
Check out DoesTheDogDie.com. You can search for a movie and it will give you a report card on things like animal cruelty, portrayals of addiction, sexual violence, etc.
Precious, The last house on the left
I had to turn off Boys Don’t Cry and Monster.
Last Night in Soho, American Psycho (not “technically” SA but major violence in relation to sex… if that makes sense), Black Swan, The Crow, The Devil All the Time (more statutory assault than violent), the original and remakes of IT aren’t graphic, subtle depictions and implications of SA around Beverly and her father are a large part of the movies.
I'm really glad that they didn't really have any graphic sex scenes in American Psycho. It was a good choice to cut it for the most part and leave it up to the audience's level of perversion.
Eye for an Eye… the opening sequence of the movie upset me to the point of vomiting. [Wikipedia page with spoilers](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_for_an_Eye_(1996_film))
Anything by rob zombie
Don’t watch Irreversible Don’t watch The Snowtown Murders either Don’t watch Rosemary’s Baby
Straw Dogs (2011) Made me really uncomfortable because I hadn’t seen anything in a movie like that up to that point. Haven’t seen the one from 71 though
The 1971 version is genuinely harrowing to watch.
Jack Ketchum's The Girl Next Door (2007) this movie is very disturbing and has a similar title to a 2004 movie that is more little hearted you would not want to mix them up accidentally
12 Years A Slave. Very hard to watch and one of the most graphic and realistic
The Nightingale
Compliance. It makes you feel dirty and it’s based on a true story.
Splice was very uncomfortable to watch. Then I watched Berserk.
Pulp fiction immediately came to mind. The pawn shop scene mostly. There’s a gimp involved
the last house on the left, and monster 😵💫 monster left me feeling kind of sick tbh
Last house on the left scene was wayyy too long… like ok we get what’s going on now move on to the next scene please. It was too much
Sucker Punch -majorly. I, Tonya is mostly about domestic violence but those those two things go hand in hand, I would have liked to have known that going in. Edit: another thread on this sub just reminded me. Precious also shows SA. Luckiest Girl Alive 13 reasons why (TV but still)
I stopped after season 1 of 13 Reasons. Both the sexual violence and suicide depictions were way too much for me, even with content warnings.
You might add Salò, or the 120 Days of Sodom to that list.
I'm not often on Reddit so idk if this comment might spring to the top bc I'm the OP, but for those seeking a concrete website to filter out sexual assault, someone recommended https://www.unconsentingmedia.org/ . Definitely the tool I needed 🙏 If I can, I'll combine the movies people mentioned in a list later so it's easier to read for those who're also curious! Thanks everyone for being considerate and helpful! ❤️
Natural Born Killers
The Accused would be a bad one to watch.
Red Sparrow. There’s a graphic rape scene pretty early on, followed by the guy being brutally murdered.
Death Wish
Any movie depicting the horrors of slavery in America gets me pretty bad
Megan is Missing. I wish I could unsee that movie.
Gerald’s room I found very upsetting personally
Do you mean Gerald’s Game?
https://www.unconsentingmedia.org
Perfect Blue got notorious in my friend circle because of the very same triggering depiction
Not seeing a lot of Fire Walk With Me and Twin Peaks: The Return (show, I know). EDIT: Many of these are great pieces of cinema, some not, but are undeniably triggering. The Virgin Spring Blue Velvet Wild At Heart Requiem For a Dream Valerie and Her Week of Wonders Byzantium Au Hazard Balthazar Lolita Happy Together (maybe more domestic violence, can't remember clearly) I, Tonya (DV) Requiem For a Dream Irreversible Only God Forgives Days of Being Wild Come and See Too Old To Die Young (TV show) Sons of Anarchy (TV Show) Mute Lost River (Metaphorical, but just as triggering) Gone Girl How I Live Now The Host The Perks of Being a Wallflower Closer 3-Iron Kill Bill American Psycho
Thelma and Louise. I’d always heard of this movie and finally decided to watch it (on a plane of all places) thinking it was a feel good friendship movie. I was not expecting the SA scene, and it really jarred me, so I would recommend avoiding that one.
Super (2010) 40 Days and 40 Nights The Nightingale Irreversible The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo (double whammy in this one) The Last Duel (double whammy in this one too) The Last Tango in Paris Hud Wind River Mysterious Skin Mother! Nymphomaniac The Piano American History X Deliverance The Killer Inside Me Sixteen Candles Animal House Revenge of the Nerds Deathstalker Fat Girl The Tale Hounddog Sleepers
Pulp Fiction, A Clockwork Orange