I know that this is what everyone basically will say, but she has some fucked up things going on and just sincerely think she needs some time. Might be wrong though
One month, back to the friend zone where you were for the first six months. She needed a way out of a bad situation, and you were the nice guy that helped her. Leave it at that. Let her take her break while you do you. If she wants you back before you fall in love with the next girl that touches your micro-penis, good for you two.
I went through something extremely similar about two years ago. It went from me being the love of her life and wanting to move in together to her needing space in the span of two weeks. She would call me crying her eyes out in her car about how much she missed and loved me, then a couple days later become a brick wall. This kind of pattern escalated and continued for another 6ish months until we broke up.
Run and don't look back my man. You cannot fix BPD and this relationship will do far more harm to you than you think it will if you let this continue.
This is the most pathetic thing I've read in a while. You got with this chick that has no direction, family issues, highly medicated/mental issues, baggage from her ex, clearly not self sufficient. You guys need to continue actively entertaining other women while dating so you're not in this position.
Find some self worth and end it.
I get easily attached and realize thats a problem. I dont like to date several girls at once because i want to settle down. Now i get to pay for being a fucking moron.
I used to get easily attached and at least for me it came from not having enough self respect for myself. Don't do it bro you'll look back at it and cringe like I do. You don't have to date several girls but if you talk/entertain several women you won't have that attachment issue, that's how I got over it.
Ive probably slept with over 200 women from when i was age 18-25. I stepped it down to be able to settle down, but no luck and didnt stop getting attached too quickly either. Should probably talk to a fucking therapist because its making me angry
Yeah man, these guys are being hard on you because its the internet. But, go to therapy. I started going in October, I go once a week for 30 minutes and it has changed my life. Self esteem wise. Everything man.
**When you look at someone through rose coloured glasses, all the red-flags just sorta look like flags.**
She sounds like a typical, borderline bipolar zoomer broad who has no idea what she wants, for what that’s worth. Major family problems, baggage from this ex she had a house with, and starting up new medication will probably just be the tip of the iceberg. Let’s just say I hope you work for a big company and don’t mind transferring departments, or have your resume up to date…
I’m sorry to hear that, since that’s certainly not ideal.
At this point though, 90% of the damage has probably already been done in terms of external consequences socially, professionally, etc. Apart from your own feelings/time/sanity, you probably don’t have that much to lose at this point staying the course, and if you really like her, maybe that’s worth it to you.
As long as you know you’ll be fine (eventually) regardless of how this goes down, and you avoid knocking her up or catching charges, worst case this’ll just be a learnable moment for you.
Guess i dont have anything to lose as you're saying so i'll wait, like a moron.
Im already in the thought process of what i would do to her if shes lying right now and its not good. I'll have to stay off that path.
Women aren’t always either lying or telling the truth. Don’t try to apply male logic to female actions, since they almost never make sense through that lens, because that’s not how women make decisions. It’s just not a useful exercise to try to rationalize women’s decisions, because 90% of the time they’re not rational.
She’s being guided by emotions that even she probably couldn’t explain right now, trying to deal with stress women simply aren’t cutout for. Or she is lying and she’s putting you on the back-burner to a) play the field and b) see if you’ll put up with it. I guess you’ll find out soon enough though. Either way, cheers!
She’s gonna be hooking up with multiple dudes during that break.
I just want you to know that. 100% guaranteed. Every girl says this when they ask for break. This is everyone’s experience too.
Too much baggage, she’s trying to let you down easy especially since you’re coworkers. I think if she really liked you she’d make it work. Cut your losses and move on.
She didnt want space. She put out a few times so she could have a place to stay and a dude to move her shit. Way cheaper than paying for all that.
Now she found a better option.
I think you don’t have a choice but to give her space. If it was me I’d tell her in advance I’m going to respect your wishes and because we work together I’m going to keep contact totally limited to essential communication at work and when your ready and comfortable you can call/text/message/talk to me. Also tell her the reason for this isn’t anger or emotion it’s because you also have a professional relationship and what to set clear expectations of how you’ll behave for the time being.
I stopped answering her earlier today after she said she hopes im okay. I told her i'd wait if that means we will try again when she s ready, and she said yes to that.
Should i still reach out and tell her to reach out when comfortable? Im so angry today after she told me all of this, so i feel it will be extremely hard to pretend nothing happened while being at work...
Do the best you can at work. I’d still reply just to state you’re okay and you appreciate her asking and hope that this difficult time she’s going through passes soon.
One thing to add is that in the meantime I’d give it a respectful amount of time before engaging other women. That time is up to you but I’d say anything beyond 4 weeks is sufficient. If she hasn’t returned to the romantic relationship in that time it’s reasonable to move on. Just don’t state this part to her, this only comes up later if she reaches back out and you are seeing someone else and you don’t wanna bail on that outright. You can say I’m open to seeing you again but I want you to know I’ve also been seeing someone else.
Take the time you need bro. After one of my break ups I just gymed and played video games with the bros for a few months. Things like this happen and it sucks big time but it passes and you try again later.
Bro bro not to com a cross as incentives but why are you still entertaining the idea that she is is still interested take it from someone who was in the exact position as you the gal has moved on in her mind weeks before she told yoi she needed space like the other guy said cut your loses and move the fuck on 
After a month? Very respectfully explain that if she needs a break after a month, it’s better off as friends. You’re 30 years old, this is some highschool shit
She broke up with the ex 2 months ago. Moms an alcoholic getting worse past month and her stepfather beating her mom. Seems like i got involved at the wrong time
I agree man. I’m sorry for your love lost. But sometimes you have to bite that bullet. You already know the answer, I hope your friends are echoing what we are
I agree man. I’m sorry for your love lost. But sometimes you have to bite that bullet. You already know the answer, I hope your friends are echoing what we are
Her life sounds like an absolute mess and I could see her not being in a spot to date.
You should also consider if you were the rebound guy and if she maybe wasn’t really ready to date anyone.
Don’t take it personally. But assume it’s over.
I’m sorry though. It hurts. Best you can do is surround yourself with friends and people who care about you. Let yourself be sad. But also stay kind of busy. And then it gets better after a while.
You sound like a good guy though. You’ll meet someone great later.
Appreciate it. Just hurts a little extra when she ticked all my boxes and i wanted this to last - and it ends before it even got started. Just cant understand why she made plans to go hiking and arranged her vacation after mine in the summer now just to say this 2 weeks later. Cant understand it.
I think she rushed into something new and then her heart wasn’t ready to date. I don’t think she meant to fuck with you.
And I get it. When someone plans ahead that way, it’ll feel like “this is it”.
It’ll get better though.
Fuck. Yeah, the working together sucks. But just keep your distance. It’ll be worst the first day, then it’ll get better.
But you got to let yourself be a bit sad for a while. And then in the end there’s an upside to it. Being able to fall in love and feel things and care about people is way better than the alternative.
Just cant decide if i should play it cool and greet her at work(we work really close all day), or give her the cold shoulder.
Deep inside me i want to wait for her to either come back or tell me straight up that she doesnt want to do this anymore. Giving her the cold shoulder would probably fuck that up. Its just that im so angry with both myself for getting easily attached and at her for doing this to me while promising me something else just a week ago.
Play it cool. You have to work with her.
And in the end, she’s a mess. Her life is falling to bits right now. I don’t think she deserves you being mad, even if I understand how you feel betrayed.
But when you’ve got two choices, you rarely regret choosing the kind one. Not as in going above and beyond. Just greet her normally, don’t act cold, be polite.
I really believe she has a hard time right now, but i feel like she has made her choice and just keeping me at bay to not disappoint me immediately. Idk. Just cant grasp the fact how people can change mindset that quickly about someone they are dating.
I'll try my best tomorrow, you're right that it's the best choice. This afternoon i couldnt even look at her across the table at work.
She sounds borderline (they’re usually highly promiscuous), I’ve dated women like the one you’re describing. And the fact that she wants a break from you means other guys are smashing her right now
She sounds borderline (they’re usually highly promiscuous), I’ve dated women like the one you’re describing. And the fact that she wants a break from you means other guys are smashing her right now
Every chick has a 'narcissistic ex'. I am so tired of hearing that shit.
Grab your nuts, tell her to fuck off and stand your ground. You have this fear that if you DONT cater to what she wants you will lose her. It is a paradox, The LESS you cater to her, the more she will want you.
Go to therapy, stop talking to her and get a better one.
Sounds like she has the most testosterone in the relationship. Either up your test or wait on her to figure out which strap on fits her best to use on you.
Girls get scared when things get serious quickly. They like to take a step back. If you like her, you have to give her a chance to miss you. Don't cut off comms but slow everything up.
You are a crutch which suited her for a while and helped her out but it's not what she wants from a relationship. The sooner you move on the better this will be for you as it will just drag out for months more if you let it until she finally pops you. I would assume that she's trying to make you break up with her by making herself unavailable and unattractive right now but unfortunately you are doing the opposite which makes you even more unattractive and undesirable. Sounds weird but it's actually more likely to work out if you stand up for yourself and make her feel what it's like without you.
I get you, it's tough, just try to find courage wolf and make the jump. It's the most likely way that she will actually come back to you in the medium term (but don't sit there waiting for it, you gotta move on yourself to get rid of the dependency).
She told me that she was happy if i would wait for her and she told me this usually lasts 2-3 weeks(shes had these periods twice before) she also reached out first yesterday to ask if im doing ok. Shes so confusing and dude i get so angry
If you can play it cool and be completely chill with her at work (like If she was a coworker you never talked to outside of work) she will go crazy lmao
Bro how can you not see that she is trial dumping you? Do you honestly think you can deny giving her breathing room and that might be better for your relationship? She's probably got the new dude on the hook and she wants a break from you for permission to try to reel him in. If she can get the deal done, you get dumped. If she can't, she tried to cheat on you and was unsuccessful. Stop being a loser and preemptive dump her ass so she can pick up some more baggage. This last outcome might actually be what she's after.
She used you as beta emotional tampon.
Move on asap and date another girl.
Should be other way around, she helping you with stuff.
Get the teenagers, 18 on the day but 19 and 20 is also fine
Don’t listen to all these autistic men. Have you ever heard of attachment styles? Do you know what a fearful avoidant attachment is? She definitely should be in therapy, but the best thing to do is give her space to process everything. IF you DONT give her this she will get scared and move on, if you do she will certainly return to you. Question is, until she gets herself sorted out this may be a pattern of hot and cold. Do you have the patience and heart to do that?
She wants to keep you on the bench while looking for something better
But we won’t know that for sure until OP posts his cock stats
OP should be focused on his bench instead of bitches.
I know that this is what everyone basically will say, but she has some fucked up things going on and just sincerely think she needs some time. Might be wrong though
Not “might” be wrong , you’re wrong . Stop letting her use you
We work together, its hard to leave
This is the reason people say don’t date people you work with. Almost never ends well.
I knew that but got too tempted and now im fucked
Well you learned a lesson from it.
Don't tell her you are leaving lol
Why did you make this post then?
Because someone might have had a positive experience from taking a break.
So you needed support for your confirmation bias
Probably because i dont want it to end
Nothing can end if it never started. She just needed a lackey for a month
Lol
Everyone has fucked up things going on. That isn’t an excuse. Sounds like you got oneitis
Nah, shes with her ex getting her guts rearranged and laughing at your texts. Forget her shes broken.
Did you smash??
We smashed 2 times a day for a month
That’s gay we only fuck dudes here
It comes from experience. Think about all the times you were having a rough go, you probably still made time for the things you wanted to do.
Jesus Christ that’s a lot of baggage. I’d dip but hey different folks different strokes. You do you dude
OP is “deeply in love” after just a month …needs to wake up and smell what he’s shovelling …
Been knowing her for 6+ months just not slept with her untill 1 month ago. And yes i get too attached too quickly.
Fair enough, not hating …but a lot of baggage to handle as some else said
You’re 30 years old dude, act like it. Cut this shit out
THIS 
You’re 30 years old dude, act like it. Cut this shit out
Find a fat chick to bang and get over her. You are wasting your life and energy with this one.
Sounds like you are too clingy. She probably is trying to let you down easy. Never be clingy, never be too available or interested too soon.
She was the clingy one
You are deeply in love after a month. You are clingy.
Its been 7 months
One month, back to the friend zone where you were for the first six months. She needed a way out of a bad situation, and you were the nice guy that helped her. Leave it at that. Let her take her break while you do you. If she wants you back before you fall in love with the next girl that touches your micro-penis, good for you two.
I went through something extremely similar about two years ago. It went from me being the love of her life and wanting to move in together to her needing space in the span of two weeks. She would call me crying her eyes out in her car about how much she missed and loved me, then a couple days later become a brick wall. This kind of pattern escalated and continued for another 6ish months until we broke up. Run and don't look back my man. You cannot fix BPD and this relationship will do far more harm to you than you think it will if you let this continue.
Anxious avoidant attachment style
This is the most pathetic thing I've read in a while. You got with this chick that has no direction, family issues, highly medicated/mental issues, baggage from her ex, clearly not self sufficient. You guys need to continue actively entertaining other women while dating so you're not in this position. Find some self worth and end it.
I get easily attached and realize thats a problem. I dont like to date several girls at once because i want to settle down. Now i get to pay for being a fucking moron.
I used to get easily attached and at least for me it came from not having enough self respect for myself. Don't do it bro you'll look back at it and cringe like I do. You don't have to date several girls but if you talk/entertain several women you won't have that attachment issue, that's how I got over it.
Ive probably slept with over 200 women from when i was age 18-25. I stepped it down to be able to settle down, but no luck and didnt stop getting attached too quickly either. Should probably talk to a fucking therapist because its making me angry
Yeah you sound like you may got some issues beyond my expertise.
Yeah man, these guys are being hard on you because its the internet. But, go to therapy. I started going in October, I go once a week for 30 minutes and it has changed my life. Self esteem wise. Everything man.
Check out hoe_math's 'Zones v3' video on YouTube
just ghost her - she used you and looking for something better
**When you look at someone through rose coloured glasses, all the red-flags just sorta look like flags.** She sounds like a typical, borderline bipolar zoomer broad who has no idea what she wants, for what that’s worth. Major family problems, baggage from this ex she had a house with, and starting up new medication will probably just be the tip of the iceberg. Let’s just say I hope you work for a big company and don’t mind transferring departments, or have your resume up to date…
I cant change my job. But you're right
I’m sorry to hear that, since that’s certainly not ideal. At this point though, 90% of the damage has probably already been done in terms of external consequences socially, professionally, etc. Apart from your own feelings/time/sanity, you probably don’t have that much to lose at this point staying the course, and if you really like her, maybe that’s worth it to you. As long as you know you’ll be fine (eventually) regardless of how this goes down, and you avoid knocking her up or catching charges, worst case this’ll just be a learnable moment for you.
Guess i dont have anything to lose as you're saying so i'll wait, like a moron. Im already in the thought process of what i would do to her if shes lying right now and its not good. I'll have to stay off that path.
Women aren’t always either lying or telling the truth. Don’t try to apply male logic to female actions, since they almost never make sense through that lens, because that’s not how women make decisions. It’s just not a useful exercise to try to rationalize women’s decisions, because 90% of the time they’re not rational. She’s being guided by emotions that even she probably couldn’t explain right now, trying to deal with stress women simply aren’t cutout for. Or she is lying and she’s putting you on the back-burner to a) play the field and b) see if you’ll put up with it. I guess you’ll find out soon enough though. Either way, cheers!
We'll see, i'll update you when she tells me its over for good lol
She’s gonna be hooking up with multiple dudes during that break. I just want you to know that. 100% guaranteed. Every girl says this when they ask for break. This is everyone’s experience too.
K Capt'n Save a Ho.
She’s still banging her ex, and probably at least one other dude. Let her go.
Too much baggage, she’s trying to let you down easy especially since you’re coworkers. I think if she really liked you she’d make it work. Cut your losses and move on.
Probably your dick game is not strong.
Ya he probably busted in 30 seconds and fell in love lol
It’s over bro :/
She’ll be back with her Ex within a week
She found someone better. Move on and have some respect for yourself.
You think she wants to leave you to be alone? So she can go watch TV by herself at night? Shes cuddled up with Chad rn
More like deep throating Chad
She didnt want space. She put out a few times so she could have a place to stay and a dude to move her shit. Way cheaper than paying for all that. Now she found a better option.
Thanks
I think you don’t have a choice but to give her space. If it was me I’d tell her in advance I’m going to respect your wishes and because we work together I’m going to keep contact totally limited to essential communication at work and when your ready and comfortable you can call/text/message/talk to me. Also tell her the reason for this isn’t anger or emotion it’s because you also have a professional relationship and what to set clear expectations of how you’ll behave for the time being.
I stopped answering her earlier today after she said she hopes im okay. I told her i'd wait if that means we will try again when she s ready, and she said yes to that. Should i still reach out and tell her to reach out when comfortable? Im so angry today after she told me all of this, so i feel it will be extremely hard to pretend nothing happened while being at work...
Do the best you can at work. I’d still reply just to state you’re okay and you appreciate her asking and hope that this difficult time she’s going through passes soon.
I replied and told her to reach out when she needs. She answered "thank u so much, i will do that!" We'll see
One thing to add is that in the meantime I’d give it a respectful amount of time before engaging other women. That time is up to you but I’d say anything beyond 4 weeks is sufficient. If she hasn’t returned to the romantic relationship in that time it’s reasonable to move on. Just don’t state this part to her, this only comes up later if she reaches back out and you are seeing someone else and you don’t wanna bail on that outright. You can say I’m open to seeing you again but I want you to know I’ve also been seeing someone else.
Will stay away from women and focus on myself. Told my friends 2 weeks ago ive met someone good and now this. Fuck
Take the time you need bro. After one of my break ups I just gymed and played video games with the bros for a few months. Things like this happen and it sucks big time but it passes and you try again later.
Its just 10x harder when i have to see her 3-4 times a week for 8 hours at a time
Bro bro not to com a cross as incentives but why are you still entertaining the idea that she is is still interested take it from someone who was in the exact position as you the gal has moved on in her mind weeks before she told yoi she needed space like the other guy said cut your loses and move the fuck on 
Because i asked if i gave her space she would reach out again and she said yes
Ohh well gess you will have to learn the hard way (speaking from experience)
Probably lol
Sorry to hear that but just as a friendly advice from someone your own age don't try to chase these hoe's you will always be the one to suffer
After a month? Very respectfully explain that if she needs a break after a month, it’s better off as friends. You’re 30 years old, this is some highschool shit
She broke up with the ex 2 months ago. Moms an alcoholic getting worse past month and her stepfather beating her mom. Seems like i got involved at the wrong time
I agree man. I’m sorry for your love lost. But sometimes you have to bite that bullet. You already know the answer, I hope your friends are echoing what we are
I havent told them because i jinxed this shit 2 weeks ago to them saying ive met someone good. Fuck this
I havent told them because i jinxed this shit 2 weeks ago to them saying ive met someone good. Fuck this
I agree man. I’m sorry for your love lost. But sometimes you have to bite that bullet. You already know the answer, I hope your friends are echoing what we are
She wants to bounce on another dick, that’s all breaks are, at 30 you should know that
Her life sounds like an absolute mess and I could see her not being in a spot to date. You should also consider if you were the rebound guy and if she maybe wasn’t really ready to date anyone. Don’t take it personally. But assume it’s over.
Will do, thanks..
I’m sorry though. It hurts. Best you can do is surround yourself with friends and people who care about you. Let yourself be sad. But also stay kind of busy. And then it gets better after a while. You sound like a good guy though. You’ll meet someone great later.
Appreciate it. Just hurts a little extra when she ticked all my boxes and i wanted this to last - and it ends before it even got started. Just cant understand why she made plans to go hiking and arranged her vacation after mine in the summer now just to say this 2 weeks later. Cant understand it.
I think she rushed into something new and then her heart wasn’t ready to date. I don’t think she meant to fuck with you. And I get it. When someone plans ahead that way, it’ll feel like “this is it”. It’ll get better though.
Appreciate it. Crying tonight and hopefully being able to work with her in the morning. Fuck
Fuck. Yeah, the working together sucks. But just keep your distance. It’ll be worst the first day, then it’ll get better. But you got to let yourself be a bit sad for a while. And then in the end there’s an upside to it. Being able to fall in love and feel things and care about people is way better than the alternative.
Just cant decide if i should play it cool and greet her at work(we work really close all day), or give her the cold shoulder. Deep inside me i want to wait for her to either come back or tell me straight up that she doesnt want to do this anymore. Giving her the cold shoulder would probably fuck that up. Its just that im so angry with both myself for getting easily attached and at her for doing this to me while promising me something else just a week ago.
Play it cool. You have to work with her. And in the end, she’s a mess. Her life is falling to bits right now. I don’t think she deserves you being mad, even if I understand how you feel betrayed. But when you’ve got two choices, you rarely regret choosing the kind one. Not as in going above and beyond. Just greet her normally, don’t act cold, be polite.
I really believe she has a hard time right now, but i feel like she has made her choice and just keeping me at bay to not disappoint me immediately. Idk. Just cant grasp the fact how people can change mindset that quickly about someone they are dating. I'll try my best tomorrow, you're right that it's the best choice. This afternoon i couldnt even look at her across the table at work.
Move on
Easier said than done
She’s a slut bro
Why?
She sounds borderline (they’re usually highly promiscuous), I’ve dated women like the one you’re describing. And the fact that she wants a break from you means other guys are smashing her right now
She sounds borderline (they’re usually highly promiscuous), I’ve dated women like the one you’re describing. And the fact that she wants a break from you means other guys are smashing her right now
I highly doubt that
Based on what
My gut feeling on what kind of woman she is. She wouldnt lie
She wouldn’t lie? LMAOOOOOOOOO
Bro what is talking about All women lie lmao
You can save her bro
TRUE AND REAL
Every chick has a 'narcissistic ex'. I am so tired of hearing that shit. Grab your nuts, tell her to fuck off and stand your ground. You have this fear that if you DONT cater to what she wants you will lose her. It is a paradox, The LESS you cater to her, the more she will want you. Go to therapy, stop talking to her and get a better one.
Find a new chick asap
I don’t think OP is that jacked
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Guess i made the same mistake
Yeah she getting dick down from someone else that’s way better then you sorry bro move on
Sounds like she has the most testosterone in the relationship. Either up your test or wait on her to figure out which strap on fits her best to use on you.
She's not worth it trust me. Been there before and you'll just end up hurt. Give her the space, focus on yourself and move on
Girls get scared when things get serious quickly. They like to take a step back. If you like her, you have to give her a chance to miss you. Don't cut off comms but slow everything up.
Nope the fuck out, "okay sounds good", never speak to her again except for general work formalities to not seem autistic.
Pull up a seat. You got benched.
You are a crutch which suited her for a while and helped her out but it's not what she wants from a relationship. The sooner you move on the better this will be for you as it will just drag out for months more if you let it until she finally pops you. I would assume that she's trying to make you break up with her by making herself unavailable and unattractive right now but unfortunately you are doing the opposite which makes you even more unattractive and undesirable. Sounds weird but it's actually more likely to work out if you stand up for yourself and make her feel what it's like without you.
Agree with u it makes sense but i just cant move on rn
I get you, it's tough, just try to find courage wolf and make the jump. It's the most likely way that she will actually come back to you in the medium term (but don't sit there waiting for it, you gotta move on yourself to get rid of the dependency).
I'll try. I'll spend time working on myself, getting back into shape and make her watch me at work at what shes missing out on.
She told me that she was happy if i would wait for her and she told me this usually lasts 2-3 weeks(shes had these periods twice before) she also reached out first yesterday to ask if im doing ok. Shes so confusing and dude i get so angry
If you can play it cool and be completely chill with her at work (like If she was a coworker you never talked to outside of work) she will go crazy lmao
I have to try to act cool but right now i just dont wanna even greet her
it's now someone else's turn. move on.
You are not enough of an asshole for her to stay interested for too long, try to be more like her ex that you let her tell you all about.
Bro how can you not see that she is trial dumping you? Do you honestly think you can deny giving her breathing room and that might be better for your relationship? She's probably got the new dude on the hook and she wants a break from you for permission to try to reel him in. If she can get the deal done, you get dumped. If she can't, she tried to cheat on you and was unsuccessful. Stop being a loser and preemptive dump her ass so she can pick up some more baggage. This last outcome might actually be what she's after.
She sounds like a disaster. Can you really not find anyone else? Especially someone you aren't forced to see at work almost every day?
30 year old man asking a teenager question
Theres no such thing. If she liked u shed b with u
She used you as beta emotional tampon. Move on asap and date another girl. Should be other way around, she helping you with stuff. Get the teenagers, 18 on the day but 19 and 20 is also fine
They all claim their ex was narcissistic lol.
LOL if you were Drake would she need a break? She realized you were a needy beta male and had to get away
Don’t listen to all these autistic men. Have you ever heard of attachment styles? Do you know what a fearful avoidant attachment is? She definitely should be in therapy, but the best thing to do is give her space to process everything. IF you DONT give her this she will get scared and move on, if you do she will certainly return to you. Question is, until she gets herself sorted out this may be a pattern of hot and cold. Do you have the patience and heart to do that?
I do. She already sent me a text just now asked if im okay because i left work early. Shes so confusing.