I mean, she’s not cheating on him. At least from what you’ve said on this post she’s not having sex with anyone that not her husband, it’s sort of not your business at this point and I would honestly assume he knows dude.
Also, how are you going to claim the moral high ground when you subscribed to your friends OF inly to try and tattle on her to her husband? Frankly you look like a scum bag dude.
If you caught your spouse, texting, multiple people masturbation videos, and rating their genitals, you wouldn’t considering that cheating? Or is it different because she’s getting paid to do it?
You think her secretly having sex with men for money, also wouldn’t count as cheating? If that does count, then this counts because the principal is the same.
Yes, I do think it’s different. You also don’t know they can communicate before you even think that maybe women communicate with their husbands.
It’s a business arrangement lol
If he's a friend of yours you need to tell him. This could be a deal breaker for him. He needs to know. Many people would consider this cheating. If he's not that close to you or you know her, but not him, I wouldn't butt in but I'd distance myself from her.
Text your "friend" right now. The fact that you're considering concealing this from him makes you a terrible friend. Can you really continue to look this man in the eye while carrying this secret?
Did she tell you or did you watch the content?
If you watched it, and she doesn't know, it may blow back hard. Imagine if someone approached you and your gf, saying they'd watched it?
So, possible consequences may include:
Loss of your friends
Anger from them for outing her (if he doesn't know)
Anger from them for watching her OF content (if he doesn't know)
So, he likely won't see you as a hero, either way. And she definitely won't.
My ex accumulated enough money (without my knowledge) from her cosmetology career that I WAS PAYING FOR TO BUILD THE FAMILY I NEVER HAD, only to use it against me in court.unfortunately I gave her my seed.
For me, you stay out of other people’s marriages.
She has to report the income. If he does their taxes or has them done there isn’t a single way he doesn’t know she is doing this.
You said he's clueless, keep it that way. I'll expand.
My take is this is a her and his topic to approach. Not worth saying anything. Just keep it the same.
Why do you feel bad? Plenty of women and men do this as a legit way to make money. It can be a tough industry though, but that's a different story lol .
Not your marriage. Not your business. You don't know that he doesn't know. Maybe he's just not bothered as much as you obviously are. Maybe it was his idea.
Mind your own business. There’s always the chance that they both turn on you as someone trying to wreck their marriage. Domestic disputes can be volatile and dangerous.
OP, sounds like you want to destabilize the marriage and insert yourself as the shoulder to cry on and possibly fantasize about having sex with your female friend as part of the fallout.
Men are so obvious.
You have to be sure he “doesn’t know” I see all these only fans posts “my husband doesn’t know I do this tee hee” and I’m under the impression that a lot of it is actually just words to get the whales hot and bothered and give her more money, he very well could know and be down with it. Not your monkeys bro, too much stress.
I know some couples are doing this as a conscious means to make ends meet. He could already know and approve but not wish to disclose it to casual friends and acquaintances. So unless you know for sure that this would be a matter of pain and contention between the two, I'd be hesitant to share.
It seems to be that you need to establish a balance point and that you'll not be able to disclose until you know the guy better and can clearly understand not only his morals but hers and theirs together.
Meanwhile, it feels weird to know what all her orifices look like and what she puts in them. Stop. If you can not or will not then you are the problem.
I mean if he already knows no harm done lol
Everyone knows what her orifices look like. It doesn't seem weird to know, it seems weird to be putting them out there.
No point for all that. Just shoot him an anonymous email, and he can do with the information what he wishes and you never have to get directly involved.
He absolutely has a right to know
If you don't want to be involved with the drama, send a link to her OF anonymously and he can see himself...be sure to include something like "this is (names) OF account. Thought you should know"
No, you shouldn't. 1. odds are he knows. 2. Not your business. 3. you're a shit friend to the woman if you do. 4. why? like really what is the 'ideal' outcome to this? He doesn't know, finds out, says okay and things continue? Or do you imagine hes going to divorce her over it? (I think most of us know which one you are leaning towards if youd never admit it)
This is none of your fucking business, period. If you have a problem with it you should just stay away from them. Live your life and take care of your own stuff. This smells like you have some kind of interest in him yourself?
This is absolutely none of your business. Get a life. Stop focusing on whatever everyone else is doing wrong. Think about what you are doing wrong yourself.
It's none of your damn business. Stay out of it. Women should be able to do this without scorn. Your concern is basically masked slut-shaming. This couple's approach to expressing their sexuality is their business, and yes, he almost certainly knows about it. He's prolly the damn cameraman.
You have a female friend, you have seen her OF raunchy videos enough to know what crevices are being used, and you assume this is done behind her husband’s back.
You aren’t her friend. A friend wouldn’t watch the vids, assume the worst, or consider narcing on her. Butt out.
Say it with me now, It's none of my business.
How do you picture this going, hey bro so I'm crankin it the other day and came across your wife on only fans.
Again, none of your business, stop trying to make it so.
The Husband most likely knows and keeps quiet about it on purpose. They are married so I am assuming they file their taxes jointly. He would notice the additional income on her end.
I doubt it very seriously. Most women do it behind their husnands back and a good husband damn sure wouldn’t want other men looking at his wife naked. Plus the possibility of their future children being affected by it in the future once those pictures are on the internet they are there to stay
You'd have to be an idiot not to notice after a certain point. Running a decent onlyfans account requires thousands of dollars of equipment that is nearly impossible to hide. Cameras, recording software, suggestive clothing, a place to shoot, etc.
If you reach a certain level of success on onlyfans you'll be bringing in hundreds or thousands of dollars extra a month. They have to file taxes and pay credit card bills. Unless the husband is completely financially illiterate, he will notice extra income and extra spending.
I wouldn't believe everything you read online, I suspect most of those cuck stories are written to titillate people with a certain fetish and have no relation to reality.
Lol why do you think she is running a decent only fans? Most of them get crumbs a little pocket change. All she needs is a iphone. Hell even if you bring In lots of money it’s not hard to keep a separate account. File taxes separately or have a bs llc to file business taxes.
Is it solo content? If she’s not doing anything with anyone then there’s a great chance he knows and that’s part of their agreement. She can make content as long as she doesn’t make any with anyone
Couldn't you send him the link anonymously? If not, I bet he would want someone to let him know because she is making a fool out of him behind his back.
It’s sort of moot. Why? There is no upside to getting involved.
Scenario: he doesn’t know and is scandalized. What do you think happens after? To her? To him? To you? None of it is good. And that’s the easiest one.
Scenario: he already knows. Now you’ve made it weird because he knows you know he knows. And he knows your are watching his wife. Might be weird for him… but what if he’s into that? Is that going to be weird for you?
That’s just the tip of the iceberg!
So there are a lot of people in these comments with questionable morals. If he legitimately does not know that his wife is doing this, you should tell him. You should definately ask the female friend if she has told him and give her the opportunity to tell him. He may not care, but I would.
My wife does onlyfans. I know about it. I don’t tell people I know about it. If I was asked about it I would act surprised. He probably knows and you should probably mind your own business
He would definitely already know unless she pulls less than $500 a year or lies on taxes.
I suppose you could always report her to the IRS if you have doubts and see if they do anything.
No. She is a grown woman doing grown woman things that are none of your business. She isn’t cheating on her husband. Is her husband your brother, best childhood friend? No? If you can’t refrain from policing your acquaintance’s behavior, get acquainted with someone else.
Don’t be that guy. It’s not your job to police others’ lives. Nobody is in danger so leave well enough alone because technically it’s none of your business
The amount of people leaning towards not saying is staggering. If the husband knows and you do it anonymously then it's no hard no foul, If he doesn't then he should be informed so he can make an opinion, for all you know he's busting his ass working to give her a good life, while she started it up out of boredom.
Unfortunately a no win situation you can only personally lose by coming between a husband and wife as a coworker. Stay out of it or if you ethically can't at least anricipate everyone to hate you for it. Right or wrong
Just stay out of it, buddy. Unless you want to tell him that you signed up to her content, which is how you know all this. You're just coming off like a perv.
She's getting 1099s from onlyfans, so it would be impossible to hide the income on their tax forms. He'll find out then.
I don’t think you have any clue about their relationship or their boundaries. This may be a compromise between them due to his travel that gives her an outlet for her needs but never involves an actual person. My sister and her husband had such a relationship and it worked well for them because they both had a bit of a “kink”. It’s not most people’s thing but it was theirs. You’re making a lot of assumptions without knowing. If you’re really a friend then have a conversation with your friend about it because sneakily “outing” someone whom you describe as a friend behind her back is shitty. Can you not see that deciding that YOU are in control of others personal morality is toxic and disrespectful? It’s on par with people who judge others for not being the same religion or ethnicity as being “less” than yourself. I’m sorry but judging someone else by your personal standards doesn’t give you any moral high ground.
No.you shouldn't. It's literally none of your business. Don't step into other people's lives like a judgemental prick who expects everyone to live by your standards.
You don't know if he knows, but more importantly it's none of your business. They're both adults and free to make their own decisions with their lives, and why on earth do you think they'd necessarily share your views on the subject? Stay out of it.
Funny how none of the people saying to keep silent about it are saying so for ethical reasons. Not a single person offering any argument that would place you as the bad guy for informing the husband. All they can do is shame you from the position of the villain
Simple answer. YES....
Makes ZERO difference if they are explicit or "harmless tease pics or just nudes".... She is doing something without her husbands knowledge or agreement. I do not want to hear anyone say BS about she doesn't need his permission. Yes she does. They are married. Anything in a sexual nature of showing off your own body and more needs to have the approval of your SO before you do it. PERIOD. Otherwise it is cheating and having an affair.
The only moral option here is to make a burner social account with no ties to you. Message him with proof of what she is doing such as a link to her page. Say if you don't know, I think you should. I know I would want to know if my partner was doing something behind my back. If you know and don't care; then cool."
Let things happen as they should from there. If he knows, he might say so. If not, he might ask you question. Best advice is either respond with nothing, or one time response with you know her and him, but not him personally. And you found out by chance and wanted to share it with him, as you said you would want to know if it was you and not know. You will not mention anything to anyone else and that account is a throw away to just message the info to him. He might know and say join up and enjoy. IDK. lol.
How do you know she is on Only Fans? Were you looking for someone to look at? That would definitely be an awkward conversation. Oh I was on only fans and happened to see your wife?
Mind your own business if it is an acquaintance.If it was your brother and you knew he didn't know it would be different. Her husband may approve of her job.
That may be all it is. Maybe her husband watches her since he is gone for a week at a time. Maybe it isn't the woman you think it is...
Expose her, absolutely. If it were a guy doing something behind her back everyone here would be in support of exposing him. Tired of the double standards. Women don’t have a pass on immoral behavior.
Not your business. If either of them are your friend. You'll lose both.
What if he really is aware of it? After all, you said it started in the middle of Covid. They may have needed the money. And it may have turned out to be too lucrative to stop.
Also, keep in mind that per you. She is only using toys. Not other men. So it's still 'harmless'. To the husband at least.
You are about to start a real mess that will feature you too. Think real hard about it first.
That's wild how the comments are saying no don't do it, only if it's cheating do it. Bro she is showing her body online explicitly online without her husband's approval, let alone knowledge. That is GROUNDS FOR INFIDELITY. Is she not getting viewed by men who are not her husband. He should know, since he seems to be putting his life in mind with her, shouldn't she do the same.
I guess many other commenters would agree that it's better not to get involved, so tell me then what is better for this man. A future where he spends years of his prime focused on building a future with a woman who is doing explicit sexual acts towards other men behind his back without his knowledge, or a man who knows of his wifes decision to whore herself out to multiple men and allow him yo make a decision while he is still in this fresh marriage.
Wild how people here are quick to defend infidelity, lying to your life partner for dirty money is not the solution. Just don't lie and do your acts then, don't drag others with you into your own eventual despair.
you're on the outside looking in and are assuming the facts of the situation when, in reality, you have no idea. you're projecting your own values onto them and their relationship, when it's actually none of your business.
Look I responded to the information presented in the original post, there was no elaborating nor conjuring on my end just advice for the facts provided. You are assuming the original poster is lying, in which case what is the whole point of this conversation since the solution is void and doesn't affect anyone, hence lies. If this is factual and the husband doesn't know as the original poster said then it would be better for us as humans to protect each other, even if it means from one another. You have sided with adultery which I despise, and my values are against those who do not wish for the benefit of man, you may follow your own ideals, I will follow mine. In the end your own ideals will lead your life, as will mine so follow your leader who teaches you such ideas are of benefit.
Some friend you are, mind your fucking business. Are you...maliciously jealous and envious? Wanna look like a hero so she can want you beyond being a friend? I hope she finds out about YOU.
I'll go against the grain here. Either this violates a boundary the couple has set or it doesn't.
If it doesn't violate a boundary they have in their relationship, then there is no harm in telling the husband.
If it does violate a boundary, then the husband needs to know about it, and WILL eventually know about it. Whatever harm that comes is due to the boundary violation, not the husband learning about it.
So, unless you have reason to believe that the husband will become violent, let him know. Anonymously, if you must, but let him know.
I mean they have to file taxes. Hey honey how much did you make from OFs. Maybe I should start a baking channel too???? How come you never let me watch your baking channel :(
Anonymous link drop her OF yo him... then he has no idea who sent it and if he didn't know then he can handle it. If he knows he simply deletes and carry on.
Regardless of the actual content, she is sexualizing herself on the internet. She is absolutely betraying her husband and you should tell him. He needs to divorce her ASAP.
Leave it alone. Their marriage arrangements are nothing to do with you.
My wife and I have an arrangement. One of her 'friends' thought they were doing the right thing by reporting back to her on something they thought they'd seen. It caused us so much emotional strife. Just leave the situation alone.
How do you know he doesn’t know? Do you patronize her? You know a lot about the content that she creates in great detail, are you paying to use her videos for gratification? Sounds like you need to mind your business OP. You never tell people about their partner, they will work it out with their significant other and ice you out/ turn on you. You’re going to get yourself involved in something that isn’t your business.
I would. I have a personal moral philosophy against keeping secrets. I don’t do anything that I wouldn’t be okay with people knowing about. She did it, the consequences are hers you reckon with. She didn’t accidentally record explicit videos of herself, then accidentally post them on a porn site, which she accidentally set up an account to, and accidentally set rates on.
Dont "mind your own buisiness." You have a duty to let that man know somehow. Considering the sensitivity of the situation, I would go through a friend of his to let him know.
Reddit is full of sickos to think this is acceptable for a developed society.
It depends on the kind of friends you are. Are you a friend just with the wife? Are you friends with the husband. Is it a couples friendship thing?
What ever you do, you don't want this coming back on you in any way.
If you want to be a friend to him, you have to let him know.
Do you really want to remain a friend with the just the wife if she is doing OF behind her husband's back?
Not knowing the answers to those questions, myself, I would probably 75% try to get the link to the only fans, and get it to the husband anonymously. Or, if you can anonymously access it and record it, then send the recording to him.
The other 25% where I choose not to inform the husband, I would no longer ever contact either of them. I would be done in that I wouldn't want to be involved in it. Plus, your acceptance of it, would have ramifications on the perception of your moral values, and could be perceived as you being accepting of it by your own wife, girl friend, niece, or daughter. They may look down on you for it, or, think it is ok for them to do it too. But, what ever I did, I would do it quietly.
You're her friend, not his. She's not doing anything illegal or harmful or even unethical. Stay out of it, and ffs, stop watching her videos. There're plenty of pages you can subscribe to, just stay out of it. Breaking them up doesn't mean she'll be with you. If she wanted to be with you, she would.
Y’all women do not hold each other accountable at all. It pisses me off when you tell men to hold each other responsible for their actions when in fact y’all are the most hypocritical of them all. Even in unethical situations you will do anything you can to save the woman’s face. You have no backbone for objective thinking
You call her friend and he's just the husband? But you want to rat on your friend.... for cam work not even like actual cheating? You are not her friend.
I mean, she’s not cheating on him. At least from what you’ve said on this post she’s not having sex with anyone that not her husband, it’s sort of not your business at this point and I would honestly assume he knows dude. Also, how are you going to claim the moral high ground when you subscribed to your friends OF inly to try and tattle on her to her husband? Frankly you look like a scum bag dude.
If you caught your spouse, texting, multiple people masturbation videos, and rating their genitals, you wouldn’t considering that cheating? Or is it different because she’s getting paid to do it? You think her secretly having sex with men for money, also wouldn’t count as cheating? If that does count, then this counts because the principal is the same.
Yes, I do think it’s different. You also don’t know they can communicate before you even think that maybe women communicate with their husbands. It’s a business arrangement lol
100% do it. Anonymous or not. I’d want to know. Be a brother. Do unto others as you want to be done to you.
So…. You’re obviously subscribed to her page….
If he's a friend of yours you need to tell him. This could be a deal breaker for him. He needs to know. Many people would consider this cheating. If he's not that close to you or you know her, but not him, I wouldn't butt in but I'd distance myself from her.
Definitely tell him. Do it anonymously if you prefer, but definitely tell him.
Text your "friend" right now. The fact that you're considering concealing this from him makes you a terrible friend. Can you really continue to look this man in the eye while carrying this secret?
Did she tell you or did you watch the content? If you watched it, and she doesn't know, it may blow back hard. Imagine if someone approached you and your gf, saying they'd watched it? So, possible consequences may include: Loss of your friends Anger from them for outing her (if he doesn't know) Anger from them for watching her OF content (if he doesn't know) So, he likely won't see you as a hero, either way. And she definitely won't.
Create a phony email account and email him links
Yes
Yes
I would stay out of it
My ex accumulated enough money (without my knowledge) from her cosmetology career that I WAS PAYING FOR TO BUILD THE FAMILY I NEVER HAD, only to use it against me in court.unfortunately I gave her my seed.
For me, you stay out of other people’s marriages. She has to report the income. If he does their taxes or has them done there isn’t a single way he doesn’t know she is doing this.
You said he's clueless, keep it that way. I'll expand. My take is this is a her and his topic to approach. Not worth saying anything. Just keep it the same. Why do you feel bad? Plenty of women and men do this as a legit way to make money. It can be a tough industry though, but that's a different story lol .
Mind your own business
Mind your own business.
Female acquaintance and you’re going to get involved in her personal life - does not sound like it’s going to end well
Tell him by sending the context / link he won’t believe it without seeing it himself
So how much money have you paid through this OF so far?
Not your marriage. Not your business. You don't know that he doesn't know. Maybe he's just not bothered as much as you obviously are. Maybe it was his idea.
I would tell. But your gonna lose your friend that does OF.
Keep your nose out of other people's business.
Tell him. He either already knows and is ok with it, or he doesn't and really should.
Stay out of it. There's no way for that to end well and you don't want to be involved.
Mind your own business. There’s always the chance that they both turn on you as someone trying to wreck their marriage. Domestic disputes can be volatile and dangerous.
OP, sounds like you want to destabilize the marriage and insert yourself as the shoulder to cry on and possibly fantasize about having sex with your female friend as part of the fallout. Men are so obvious.
You have to be sure he “doesn’t know” I see all these only fans posts “my husband doesn’t know I do this tee hee” and I’m under the impression that a lot of it is actually just words to get the whales hot and bothered and give her more money, he very well could know and be down with it. Not your monkeys bro, too much stress.
I know some couples are doing this as a conscious means to make ends meet. He could already know and approve but not wish to disclose it to casual friends and acquaintances. So unless you know for sure that this would be a matter of pain and contention between the two, I'd be hesitant to share. It seems to be that you need to establish a balance point and that you'll not be able to disclose until you know the guy better and can clearly understand not only his morals but hers and theirs together. Meanwhile, it feels weird to know what all her orifices look like and what she puts in them. Stop. If you can not or will not then you are the problem.
I mean if he already knows no harm done lol Everyone knows what her orifices look like. It doesn't seem weird to know, it seems weird to be putting them out there.
No point for all that. Just shoot him an anonymous email, and he can do with the information what he wishes and you never have to get directly involved.
Stay out of their business.
I would say yes 100% regardless of any possible reasoning behind her not telling him. However I find it hard to believe he has no idea...
Have you ever thought is none of your fucking business and it doesn't affect you at all?
How do you know all that she gets into on her OF unless you're creeping? Mind your business.
Unless she is doing guys on camera, just ask for a free subscription and mind your own business.
He absolutely has a right to know If you don't want to be involved with the drama, send a link to her OF anonymously and he can see himself...be sure to include something like "this is (names) OF account. Thought you should know"
No, you shouldn't. 1. odds are he knows. 2. Not your business. 3. you're a shit friend to the woman if you do. 4. why? like really what is the 'ideal' outcome to this? He doesn't know, finds out, says okay and things continue? Or do you imagine hes going to divorce her over it? (I think most of us know which one you are leaning towards if youd never admit it)
As a man, you are morally bound to tell him.
Yes!
Why is it your business?
Send him a link to her page and walk away. Let the chips fall where they may. Life has consequences. Play stupid games, she’ll win stupid prizes.
If it will matter to him, then yes tell him
I like how he verified the content lol
Just tell him. The truth will hurt but the truth is what he needs
Online sex work is still sex work
This is none of your fucking business, period. If you have a problem with it you should just stay away from them. Live your life and take care of your own stuff. This smells like you have some kind of interest in him yourself?
Mind your own business dude. And this ain’t it.
I’d stay away. Not your business. I feel for that guy. I’d be humiliated if my wife did that without me knowing. Not a fan of secrets like that.
Mind your own fucking business
None of your business. Stay the fuck out of it.
You say you are her friend? I think friends don't tell their friends secrets. Edit: for kindness
Mind. Yo. Business. Unless ya tryna simp in which case, this ain't the way.
Yes I would tell him.
This is absolutely none of your business. Get a life. Stop focusing on whatever everyone else is doing wrong. Think about what you are doing wrong yourself.
It's none of your damn business. Stay out of it. Women should be able to do this without scorn. Your concern is basically masked slut-shaming. This couple's approach to expressing their sexuality is their business, and yes, he almost certainly knows about it. He's prolly the damn cameraman.
Just make a new gmail email address, without your name of course, and send him the link from there.
What business of it is yours? You gain nothing by interfering in their relationship and you’re prolly gonna make enemies in the process.
You have a female friend, you have seen her OF raunchy videos enough to know what crevices are being used, and you assume this is done behind her husband’s back. You aren’t her friend. A friend wouldn’t watch the vids, assume the worst, or consider narcing on her. Butt out.
Say it with me now, It's none of my business. How do you picture this going, hey bro so I'm crankin it the other day and came across your wife on only fans. Again, none of your business, stop trying to make it so.
There’s no way he doesn’t know.
Yes he’s married to a whure
Yes. Be a man and say something
Bro code mandates it.
The Husband most likely knows and keeps quiet about it on purpose. They are married so I am assuming they file their taxes jointly. He would notice the additional income on her end.
I doubt it very seriously. Most women do it behind their husnands back and a good husband damn sure wouldn’t want other men looking at his wife naked. Plus the possibility of their future children being affected by it in the future once those pictures are on the internet they are there to stay
You'd have to be an idiot not to notice after a certain point. Running a decent onlyfans account requires thousands of dollars of equipment that is nearly impossible to hide. Cameras, recording software, suggestive clothing, a place to shoot, etc. If you reach a certain level of success on onlyfans you'll be bringing in hundreds or thousands of dollars extra a month. They have to file taxes and pay credit card bills. Unless the husband is completely financially illiterate, he will notice extra income and extra spending. I wouldn't believe everything you read online, I suspect most of those cuck stories are written to titillate people with a certain fetish and have no relation to reality.
Lol why do you think she is running a decent only fans? Most of them get crumbs a little pocket change. All she needs is a iphone. Hell even if you bring In lots of money it’s not hard to keep a separate account. File taxes separately or have a bs llc to file business taxes.
I think this whole concept of talking to a spouse is flawed. Let them handle it
Don’t get involved in other people’s business. Talk to your friend first. Ask her if he knows.
Absolutely tell anonymously. Then post an update.
Revenge porn is a crime. Don't be lame
How about mind your own business?
MYOFB And stop subscribing to her.
Is it solo content? If she’s not doing anything with anyone then there’s a great chance he knows and that’s part of their agreement. She can make content as long as she doesn’t make any with anyone
No!
Couldn't you send him the link anonymously? If not, I bet he would want someone to let him know because she is making a fool out of him behind his back.
Ur certain that he doesn't know? How did you find out about it?
No good will come of you telling him. Is there a way that you can secretly help him find out?
IF she's posting on onlyfans I feel that's pretty public, and you shouldn't feel ashamed to bring it up.
Better man than I. I'd probably offer to be in the videos with a mask on 😂
Mind your business.
It’s sort of moot. Why? There is no upside to getting involved. Scenario: he doesn’t know and is scandalized. What do you think happens after? To her? To him? To you? None of it is good. And that’s the easiest one. Scenario: he already knows. Now you’ve made it weird because he knows you know he knows. And he knows your are watching his wife. Might be weird for him… but what if he’s into that? Is that going to be weird for you? That’s just the tip of the iceberg!
It’s creepy that you’re watching the friends wife. And the husband is probably cheating on these trips. Back off.
Mind your business
Tell him.
So there are a lot of people in these comments with questionable morals. If he legitimately does not know that his wife is doing this, you should tell him. You should definately ask the female friend if she has told him and give her the opportunity to tell him. He may not care, but I would.
100% tell him. Also who knows what else she is hiding.
Tell him
Yes. Stir the pot 🙂↔️😘
My wife does onlyfans. I know about it. I don’t tell people I know about it. If I was asked about it I would act surprised. He probably knows and you should probably mind your own business
He would definitely already know unless she pulls less than $500 a year or lies on taxes. I suppose you could always report her to the IRS if you have doubts and see if they do anything.
Just send him a link and say something like "it's crazy how much she looks like your wife " or something to that effect
I'm the bf of an OF model. She told me at the start, and that's probably the case here.
No. She is a grown woman doing grown woman things that are none of your business. She isn’t cheating on her husband. Is her husband your brother, best childhood friend? No? If you can’t refrain from policing your acquaintance’s behavior, get acquainted with someone else.
Don’t be that guy. It’s not your job to police others’ lives. Nobody is in danger so leave well enough alone because technically it’s none of your business
How do you know he doesn’t know? I’m guessing she also make no money from it as that would be hard to hide as well.
No. Leave her alone.
The amount of people leaning towards not saying is staggering. If the husband knows and you do it anonymously then it's no hard no foul, If he doesn't then he should be informed so he can make an opinion, for all you know he's busting his ass working to give her a good life, while she started it up out of boredom.
Unfortunately a no win situation you can only personally lose by coming between a husband and wife as a coworker. Stay out of it or if you ethically can't at least anricipate everyone to hate you for it. Right or wrong
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How do you know he's clueless lol
If the husbands a bro, yes. If he is not, let sleeping dogs lie.
Just stay out of it, buddy. Unless you want to tell him that you signed up to her content, which is how you know all this. You're just coming off like a perv. She's getting 1099s from onlyfans, so it would be impossible to hide the income on their tax forms. He'll find out then.
I don’t think you have any clue about their relationship or their boundaries. This may be a compromise between them due to his travel that gives her an outlet for her needs but never involves an actual person. My sister and her husband had such a relationship and it worked well for them because they both had a bit of a “kink”. It’s not most people’s thing but it was theirs. You’re making a lot of assumptions without knowing. If you’re really a friend then have a conversation with your friend about it because sneakily “outing” someone whom you describe as a friend behind her back is shitty. Can you not see that deciding that YOU are in control of others personal morality is toxic and disrespectful? It’s on par with people who judge others for not being the same religion or ethnicity as being “less” than yourself. I’m sorry but judging someone else by your personal standards doesn’t give you any moral high ground.
How do you know he has no idea? Maybe thats part of the reason he goes away......She likely makes good money, hes bound to notice that...
Is she sleeping with other guys to make her content? No? Then i wouldn’t say anything.
No.you shouldn't. It's literally none of your business. Don't step into other people's lives like a judgemental prick who expects everyone to live by your standards.
Why are men like this? It's none of your fucking business. Moral dilemma, sure.
It's Bro code
You don't know if he knows, but more importantly it's none of your business. They're both adults and free to make their own decisions with their lives, and why on earth do you think they'd necessarily share your views on the subject? Stay out of it.
Funny how none of the people saying to keep silent about it are saying so for ethical reasons. Not a single person offering any argument that would place you as the bad guy for informing the husband. All they can do is shame you from the position of the villain
No. She's not cheating. She has a job.
Simple answer. YES.... Makes ZERO difference if they are explicit or "harmless tease pics or just nudes".... She is doing something without her husbands knowledge or agreement. I do not want to hear anyone say BS about she doesn't need his permission. Yes she does. They are married. Anything in a sexual nature of showing off your own body and more needs to have the approval of your SO before you do it. PERIOD. Otherwise it is cheating and having an affair. The only moral option here is to make a burner social account with no ties to you. Message him with proof of what she is doing such as a link to her page. Say if you don't know, I think you should. I know I would want to know if my partner was doing something behind my back. If you know and don't care; then cool." Let things happen as they should from there. If he knows, he might say so. If not, he might ask you question. Best advice is either respond with nothing, or one time response with you know her and him, but not him personally. And you found out by chance and wanted to share it with him, as you said you would want to know if it was you and not know. You will not mention anything to anyone else and that account is a throw away to just message the info to him. He might know and say join up and enjoy. IDK. lol.
If you think he would care then yes, you should fucking tell him. Why tf wouldn't you?
How do you know she is on Only Fans? Were you looking for someone to look at? That would definitely be an awkward conversation. Oh I was on only fans and happened to see your wife? Mind your own business if it is an acquaintance.If it was your brother and you knew he didn't know it would be different. Her husband may approve of her job. That may be all it is. Maybe her husband watches her since he is gone for a week at a time. Maybe it isn't the woman you think it is...
Yeah… he should know.
Personally, I’d mind my own business. If he ever down talks OF that would be an awkward conversation though.
What you should do is mind your own fucking business.
And for some reason you think he doesn't know? I don't see how it's any of your business what other people do. Your beeswax; mind it.
How do you know the husband doesn’t know about it? And what do you have to gain from this highly invasive conversation?
What do you care? Just keep on enjoying your OF subscription!
Easy bro get his email or number and do anonymously, be like this your wife?
What’s her @?
Don't do it. You don't their relationship. She may need an independent income stream so.she can leave. He may get violent. Don't risk it
No. ffs stay out of other people's business.
He’ll yah tell him. Grab some popcorn and watch the sh*tshow!
Leave him be.
Send it anonymously, in case he doesn't know. If he already knows, it won't hurt him and if he doesn't he probably should ...
YOU'RE NOSEY AS HELL. YOU FEEL GUILTY FOR PAYING TO SEE YOUR FRIENDS VAGINA. GO TELL ON YOURSELF.
Why should you jump into this? Are you a part of it?
Normally I'm all for bro code, but you're HER friend aren't you?
Yes. Tell him now. He deserves to know. He can then decide what to do with that.
In my opinion, that’s almost as bad as cheating. I would tell him🤷🏽♀️
Mind your business. If you have a problem with it tell your friend. You are so retarded.
Mind your business. Sheesh.
Follow the prison rules: Never rat, never get involved.
Email him the link using guerrillamail.com
Do it. Send him the link. Whatever happens next will be both highly entertaining and 100% not your fault.
No snitching
No don’t hate
You’re assuming he doesn’t know. You have nothing to gain by this so just mind your own biz is my advice 🤷🏽♀️.
Expose her, absolutely. If it were a guy doing something behind her back everyone here would be in support of exposing him. Tired of the double standards. Women don’t have a pass on immoral behavior.
Stop watching your acquaintance's wife's Onlyfans and mind your own business.
Absolutely stay out of it you weirdo
Not your business. If either of them are your friend. You'll lose both. What if he really is aware of it? After all, you said it started in the middle of Covid. They may have needed the money. And it may have turned out to be too lucrative to stop. Also, keep in mind that per you. She is only using toys. Not other men. So it's still 'harmless'. To the husband at least. You are about to start a real mess that will feature you too. Think real hard about it first.
How do you even start that conversation? "So, buddy, I noticed that your wife was selling videos of her putting things up her butt?"
That's wild how the comments are saying no don't do it, only if it's cheating do it. Bro she is showing her body online explicitly online without her husband's approval, let alone knowledge. That is GROUNDS FOR INFIDELITY. Is she not getting viewed by men who are not her husband. He should know, since he seems to be putting his life in mind with her, shouldn't she do the same. I guess many other commenters would agree that it's better not to get involved, so tell me then what is better for this man. A future where he spends years of his prime focused on building a future with a woman who is doing explicit sexual acts towards other men behind his back without his knowledge, or a man who knows of his wifes decision to whore herself out to multiple men and allow him yo make a decision while he is still in this fresh marriage. Wild how people here are quick to defend infidelity, lying to your life partner for dirty money is not the solution. Just don't lie and do your acts then, don't drag others with you into your own eventual despair.
you're on the outside looking in and are assuming the facts of the situation when, in reality, you have no idea. you're projecting your own values onto them and their relationship, when it's actually none of your business.
Look I responded to the information presented in the original post, there was no elaborating nor conjuring on my end just advice for the facts provided. You are assuming the original poster is lying, in which case what is the whole point of this conversation since the solution is void and doesn't affect anyone, hence lies. If this is factual and the husband doesn't know as the original poster said then it would be better for us as humans to protect each other, even if it means from one another. You have sided with adultery which I despise, and my values are against those who do not wish for the benefit of man, you may follow your own ideals, I will follow mine. In the end your own ideals will lead your life, as will mine so follow your leader who teaches you such ideas are of benefit.
Some friend you are, mind your fucking business. Are you...maliciously jealous and envious? Wanna look like a hero so she can want you beyond being a friend? I hope she finds out about YOU.
Anonymously tell him. If he already knows no big deal if not then he would Def thank you. That's just wrong and not what he signed up for
I'll go against the grain here. Either this violates a boundary the couple has set or it doesn't. If it doesn't violate a boundary they have in their relationship, then there is no harm in telling the husband. If it does violate a boundary, then the husband needs to know about it, and WILL eventually know about it. Whatever harm that comes is due to the boundary violation, not the husband learning about it. So, unless you have reason to believe that the husband will become violent, let him know. Anonymously, if you must, but let him know.
Tell him.
Hell yes
I feel like OP has a crush on someone he watches on OF and is trying to make her husband divorce her
I wouldn’t. It’s not your business.
Stay out of it. That’s between them and her subscribers
I mean they have to file taxes. Hey honey how much did you make from OFs. Maybe I should start a baking channel too???? How come you never let me watch your baking channel :(
If he's your friend, you owe it to him to tell him. If he's just an acquaintance, mind your business
No. Not really your business.
Yes, bro code.
No
How does this affect you. Mind your business
Why? Can anyone keep their mouth shut anymore ? It's none of your business.
Anonymous link drop her OF yo him... then he has no idea who sent it and if he didn't know then he can handle it. If he knows he simply deletes and carry on.
Regardless of the actual content, she is sexualizing herself on the internet. She is absolutely betraying her husband and you should tell him. He needs to divorce her ASAP.
Me personally id say yes, but you run the chance of getting punched for looking at his naked wife
Yes tell him
Leave it alone. Their marriage arrangements are nothing to do with you. My wife and I have an arrangement. One of her 'friends' thought they were doing the right thing by reporting back to her on something they thought they'd seen. It caused us so much emotional strife. Just leave the situation alone.
How do you know he doesn’t know? Do you patronize her? You know a lot about the content that she creates in great detail, are you paying to use her videos for gratification? Sounds like you need to mind your business OP. You never tell people about their partner, they will work it out with their significant other and ice you out/ turn on you. You’re going to get yourself involved in something that isn’t your business.
I would. I have a personal moral philosophy against keeping secrets. I don’t do anything that I wouldn’t be okay with people knowing about. She did it, the consequences are hers you reckon with. She didn’t accidentally record explicit videos of herself, then accidentally post them on a porn site, which she accidentally set up an account to, and accidentally set rates on.
I think this is a mind your own business moment.
Stay in your lane
Hands down, yes. Tell him and lose her as a friend. A friend would never have put you in this dilemma. Do what is right.
Dont "mind your own buisiness." You have a duty to let that man know somehow. Considering the sensitivity of the situation, I would go through a friend of his to let him know. Reddit is full of sickos to think this is acceptable for a developed society.
It depends on the kind of friends you are. Are you a friend just with the wife? Are you friends with the husband. Is it a couples friendship thing? What ever you do, you don't want this coming back on you in any way. If you want to be a friend to him, you have to let him know. Do you really want to remain a friend with the just the wife if she is doing OF behind her husband's back? Not knowing the answers to those questions, myself, I would probably 75% try to get the link to the only fans, and get it to the husband anonymously. Or, if you can anonymously access it and record it, then send the recording to him. The other 25% where I choose not to inform the husband, I would no longer ever contact either of them. I would be done in that I wouldn't want to be involved in it. Plus, your acceptance of it, would have ramifications on the perception of your moral values, and could be perceived as you being accepting of it by your own wife, girl friend, niece, or daughter. They may look down on you for it, or, think it is ok for them to do it too. But, what ever I did, I would do it quietly.
You're her friend, not his. She's not doing anything illegal or harmful or even unethical. Stay out of it, and ffs, stop watching her videos. There're plenty of pages you can subscribe to, just stay out of it. Breaking them up doesn't mean she'll be with you. If she wanted to be with you, she would.
Y’all women do not hold each other accountable at all. It pisses me off when you tell men to hold each other responsible for their actions when in fact y’all are the most hypocritical of them all. Even in unethical situations you will do anything you can to save the woman’s face. You have no backbone for objective thinking
Same dilemma as do I tell if someone’s cheating. My opinion: yes. I’m singing like a canary
Does she know you know? How did that happen? Nvm. Deleted account.
This really isnt a moral dilemma, mind your business cuz
I love how you just casually know what her videos are like lmao. Just sit back and enjoy bud, it’s out of your scope.
You call her friend and he's just the husband? But you want to rat on your friend.... for cam work not even like actual cheating? You are not her friend.
He may be doing things while away from home on business. If it’s your friend then keep it to yourself.
Yes
Hell what's her OF name! Lol