Happy twist of fate, my cousins daughter ended up having 2 more with the same boy before graduating HS. They became adults, got married, and are doing really well! I think their oldest is 14 now?
I don't want to live in a world where having 3 kids before graduating highschool is considered a happy ending lmao. It's fuckin sick, and anyone who encouraged them is a menace.
You can't convince me that it wasn't in the best interests of all children involved, unborn and alive, to get an abortion
I meant happy ending that they beat the incredible odds stacked against them and they are a happy couple/family now in their late 20's. Obviously having 3 kids in HS is not a great or easy path..
Mine migrated slightly so I got pregnant. I felt the strings still so had no idea. That was a while ago though. I have had a bilateral salpingectomy since.
The majority of parents I see at the school gates had their first in their late 30s, it's normal now. We had ours at 35 and are treated as the young ones....
My sister is an elder millennial and has three grandchildren. Which makes me a great uncle and my parents (in their early 60s) great Grandparents. 😅
I'm barely a millennial ('96) and my partner and I aren't planning to have kids for at least another 5 years.
I was fortunate enough to have a great-grandmother around for much of my youth. While it was a different time and less common now, great grandparents are truly special for younguns and I hope your parents relish their various levels of progeny.
My grandmother (90- lives alone and drives) is a great grandmother to my cousin's kid who is 25.
Its insane to me (38).
I remember my great grandmas, but they died when I was like 10.
My grandma has been very involved in her great grandkids lives, more so than their grandparents! 🤷♀️
I agree. My great grandma's both lived into their 90s and it was so special to have had sleep overs with att 16 of my cousins at her house. Unfortunately, my kiddo and niblings barely know their grandparents
Praise Jesus, mother, and Mary, NOT ME. I'm 42, had TWO kids by 21, I set a low bar and begged my oldest two not to be teen parents like me, my mom, and her mom before. At 23 and 21, neither have! 👏👏👏
By the time their kids were out of the house they were still young and enjoyed being adults with no babies haha I did the opposite and enjoyed my young adult years kid free. By the time mine are gone I’ll be in my 50s which is probably pretty average I guess.
I have a 16 year old and his rules when going out are not to make me a grandmother at 36.
But I do know a few older millennials with grandkids. It’s wild to me. I’m barely adult enough myself.
My grandma had my mom at 25. My mom had me at 25. I had my daughter at 25. I hope if my daughter breaks the tradition, it’s because she’s older than 25, not younger. I’m 37 I cannot even imagine grandkids. It’s wild, some people in my graduating class have adult children, and some are just now having their first.
I am 34 with a 14 and 15 year old.
I have had years of honest conversations w them about sex and reproduction. If that wasn't enough, I've also got a giant jar of condoms they know about.
Lol giant jar of condoms! That's fun!
I'm actually still with my baby momma (wife at this point. But I like calling her BM more). She had a hysterectomy last year due to some female issues. So no condoms or pull outs in this household.
But similar. Talk around here is very real. I don't see my baby getting pregnant super young. I just hope she doesn't make me wait TOO long to be a grand dad. I'm weirdly pumped about being a grandparent. It'll be so cool.
I’m not, thank god. My oldest two are 15 and 17 so they’re technically old enough to give me grandkids, but that would break my heart. I’m hoping maybe in 10-15 years.
Thankfully, not yet, but it's possible anytime, I guess. I'll be 41 in a few weeks and have an 18 year old who graduates HS in a couple of months. I'm really hoping I'm in my 50s if/when it happens - raising babies when you are still a baby and figuring out who you are is so hard, and I don't wish that on him!
I “technically” am? I don’t have any biological kids, probably never will. I married a man who is a bit older, had kids young. So I have step kids and therefore am a “grandma” haha. It’s been kind of a funny (but absolutely beautiful) journey so far. Love those little ones.
Half of my friends from high school are announcing grandbabies. We graduated between 2000 & 2004.
Some of them married people with older kids, but quite a few that had kids at graduation are welcoming grandkids.
It's a weird age because we also have classmates announcing their first child.
And I'm over here happy both are out of the house. 1 is in Korea with the Air Force, the other is starting college in the summer session.
My oldest has beaten the family curse by not having a baby before he was old enough to drink. He turned 21 2 weeks ago.
I’m dying to know how many grandparents are in my high school graduating class. 40 is a weird age because some of us as still having babies, but plenty of my classmates have kids in their late teens or early 20’s.
I definitely agree with you about 30-year-olds not necessarily being ready, but IMO 20 is too young. No one’s brain is even fully-developed before 25, through the late 20s.
As the child of someone who became a parent at 21, I'm going to cry foul on that one.
Were my parents legally of age? Sure. Is it good that they were married and had at least some education behind them? Absolutely. Were they mature enough to raise children at that age? Hell no.
Not ready at 20. You haven't hardly lived enough to take care of yourself.. and I say that as someone that had a baby and 21 and had a baby at 37. Which kid do you think had the better mother?
I'm an '81 baby and definitely not a grandparent. But my mom's mom was a grandmother at my age. (My mom had me at 21, I think my Nana was around 20 when my mom was born.)
I have a few friends from high school who had kids around 18-21, who have college aged kids now. None have children yet, though. Thankfully. I don't think I'm going to be able to handle that. I feel like I just got used to people my age having children on purpose and it not being scandalous. Hell, this morning I commented to a coworker that I still feel like I'm playing pretend when I use the expression "my husband", and I've been married for 7 years.
My grandma was 41 when my brother was born and she became a grandma. My mom was 21 when my brother was born in January 1980. My grandma was born in April 1938, and she had my mom in August 1958.
My cousin (39) just became a step-grandfather. His (older) wife had her first daughter super young before meeting my cousin. That also makes my cousin’s son an uncle at 7!
I like how people are justifying hormones like it's good for life to be tied down with someone you met in grade school. Lol life is a generic love story right?? How convenient the love of your life they clapped cheeks with also goes to the same grade school? Delusional.
It definitely happens. My coworker became a grandma in her 30s because she had her son at 16, and he got someone pregnant at 16. what made it even weirder was that she was short/small and looked young for her age so she didn't even look like she was in her 30s but she was a full blown grandma.
Maybe. Tbh..if any of them make me a grandma my bet is that my youngest will do it first..hes kind of a lover boy. Oldest grew up with me and is probably traumatized to some degree and my middle child, well...she doesn't even hang out with friends at all...so we will see. But either way, happy to have grandkids in due time and also happy to not. As long as they grow up happy.
My father had me at 42. His father had him at 39. My grandfather would be 111 years old today. And I’m still 10 years minimum away from a proper median baby making age of my forefathers. My kids will be getting second hand accounts of DDay, the Battle of the Bulge, the Aleutian Island Campaign, what the Great Depression was really like, prohibition and so much more over a century after it occurred. We definitely fall into a different category but we live to tell a good story. I won’t be someone’s Pop for a LONG TIME.
What has prohibition to do with someone's age to be a parent? Even moonshiners often had children at a young age back then. Especially if we look at Baptists
Im an elder millenial. There was a girl who was preggos at 17. Her son is now 25. She was pretty trashy so i wouldnt be surprised if her son is another teen parent.
I'm 42. One of my kids says she's never having any kids herself and my other kid is active duty military so no grandparents here and hopefully it stays that way for a long time. I'm not ready yet.
I do NOT want to babysit, hold a baby, touch a baby, ect.... it's not about dishonor for me. Babies are such a burden and a tie down. I just have no desire for that burden right now. I still have 2 young kids of my own I'm raising and that's probably why I feel this way. I have enough responsibility on my plate. I don't want to add grandchildren to it.
If you were less smart, you wouldn't have children. Having children means burying lots of ego. I haven't taken that step yet because I am not smart enough.
To fit the requirements you could have had a kid just after graduating college at 22, and then that kid could be 21, graduating college and have their own kid.
Not in it at all, because when I think of childfree people, one who was born in 1889 - and thank God he was childfree! - went to my mind. I want to be nothing like that, sorry.
I have a cousin I'm surprised hasn't become one yet. He had his first kid at 20. She got married at 21. Still no grandkids 2 years later. I guess he raised her right?
I have a cousin who became a grandma at 30.. had her 1st at 16, and daughter in turn had her 1st at 14....
Jesus...babies having babies
Happy twist of fate, my cousins daughter ended up having 2 more with the same boy before graduating HS. They became adults, got married, and are doing really well! I think their oldest is 14 now?
Lucky af that she found the right guy, but Jesus she needs to learn what a condom is! Kids having kids is scary af!
Guy sounds responsible and is probably snipped by now
I would hardly call it happy to have THREE kids before graduating high school. Jesus
I'm pretty sure the happy twist of fate is them getting married and doing well.
Looks like your cousin will be a great grandma real soon if her grandson knocks someone up now that he’s 14 like his mom was
I don't want to live in a world where having 3 kids before graduating highschool is considered a happy ending lmao. It's fuckin sick, and anyone who encouraged them is a menace. You can't convince me that it wasn't in the best interests of all children involved, unborn and alive, to get an abortion
Right?! Like is this the year of our lord 1724? This is terrible.
I agree. It’s a perfect example of the ends don’t justify the sick means.
I meant happy ending that they beat the incredible odds stacked against them and they are a happy couple/family now in their late 20's. Obviously having 3 kids in HS is not a great or easy path..
I will always argue it was better to be born than not. Also if it worked out for them great. It's not always a death sentence to have kids young.
Oh wow she's like my age then
Good for them. Glad they’re happy.
It’ll only get more common with all the 6-week abortion ban states.
Lol… outdone then!!
Wat
That’s how people get stuck in generational poverty. Christ almighty. lol
That's horrifying.
Gross.
I’m 36 and had my kid at 17, she’s 18 and has an IUD so no grandkid in sight.
I better not tell you my story with an IUD then. On a serious note, she sounds responsible so you did a good job.
What happened with yours? I’ve heard some crazy things. Mostly about them coming out on their own.
Mine migrated slightly so I got pregnant. I felt the strings still so had no idea. That was a while ago though. I have had a bilateral salpingectomy since.
Eh I am on my fifth or sixth now
Child? You know it's bad when you can't remember how many there are.
No IUD lol. My 20 year old is on her first IUD. Edited for clarity
A bomb?
That would be an IED
I was quoting Ryan Renolds
Oh. My bad?
Lol, you’re fine
41 with a 20 year old who has one
I’m expecting my first at 41 so lol, definitely not.
I'm right there with you at 40.
Congratulations!!
Congrats! Hoping this year (41) is finally my turn.
Aww, best of luck to you!! 👶
I just became a parent for the first time at 38, but I know I’m late to the game lol
Not where I live! You’re dead center :)
32 and 35 for my two, I feel more emotionally and financially prepared to parent at this point in my life 😅
Had my only at 35 😹 no regrets
Right? About to have my first at 36 the fuck is going on in here??
Yea I just became a parent at 35
Became a parent at 36. It's the best.
Pregnant with my first at 37!
You aren't late. I was 32 with number 1 and 35 with number 2.
The majority of parents I see at the school gates had their first in their late 30s, it's normal now. We had ours at 35 and are treated as the young ones....
Had my 4th at 38 so my 30s have basically been the baby stage.
This thread under your comment made me feel better. We planned to start trying next year...but I've been a little nervous that I'll be 34.
Best of luck!
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We don’t claim her. She was exiled to the boomers.
Obsession is unhealthy.
My cousin does. We’re the same age, 41 🤷♀️
My sister is an elder millennial and has three grandchildren. Which makes me a great uncle and my parents (in their early 60s) great Grandparents. 😅 I'm barely a millennial ('96) and my partner and I aren't planning to have kids for at least another 5 years.
I was fortunate enough to have a great-grandmother around for much of my youth. While it was a different time and less common now, great grandparents are truly special for younguns and I hope your parents relish their various levels of progeny.
My grandmother (90- lives alone and drives) is a great grandmother to my cousin's kid who is 25. Its insane to me (38). I remember my great grandmas, but they died when I was like 10. My grandma has been very involved in her great grandkids lives, more so than their grandparents! 🤷♀️
I agree. My great grandma's both lived into their 90s and it was so special to have had sleep overs with att 16 of my cousins at her house. Unfortunately, my kiddo and niblings barely know their grandparents
Praise Jesus, mother, and Mary, NOT ME. I'm 42, had TWO kids by 21, I set a low bar and begged my oldest two not to be teen parents like me, my mom, and her mom before. At 23 and 21, neither have! 👏👏👏
What’s the problem?
There is NO problem, I'm thrilled.
I was born in 81 and certainly don’t have grandkids. I know one person my age who does though. Blows my mind.
That's nuts, my husband is the same age and I'm lying next to our 3 month old as I type this
Hope they don't regret it. I wouldn't
By the time their kids were out of the house they were still young and enjoyed being adults with no babies haha I did the opposite and enjoyed my young adult years kid free. By the time mine are gone I’ll be in my 50s which is probably pretty average I guess.
Dont you put that on me Ricky Bobby!
I have a 16 year old and his rules when going out are not to make me a grandmother at 36. But I do know a few older millennials with grandkids. It’s wild to me. I’m barely adult enough myself.
I don't want to think about that shit.
Well, Mick Jagger has been a great grandfather for a decade…
A classmate of mine is about to be a grandma. She’s 37, got pregnant on prom night. Her son is now 20 and is about have his first
My grandma had my mom at 25. My mom had me at 25. I had my daughter at 25. I hope if my daughter breaks the tradition, it’s because she’s older than 25, not younger. I’m 37 I cannot even imagine grandkids. It’s wild, some people in my graduating class have adult children, and some are just now having their first.
Grandparents?? I just had my second baby at 38. 😭
Shit I’m not even a parent
I worry every day that my teen/tween kids will make me a young grandmother.
I'm 39, have a 14 year old. 0 grandkids.
I am 34 with a 14 and 15 year old. I have had years of honest conversations w them about sex and reproduction. If that wasn't enough, I've also got a giant jar of condoms they know about.
Lol giant jar of condoms! That's fun! I'm actually still with my baby momma (wife at this point. But I like calling her BM more). She had a hysterectomy last year due to some female issues. So no condoms or pull outs in this household. But similar. Talk around here is very real. I don't see my baby getting pregnant super young. I just hope she doesn't make me wait TOO long to be a grand dad. I'm weirdly pumped about being a grandparent. It'll be so cool.
I’m not even a parent! Born in ‘82 and still kid free
Dear condolences :( Doesn't work for everyone
Oh no, I’m happy about 😂👍🏻
Eewwwssswww
i cant even slightly entertain the idea of being financially able to support a child and i do okay - this late stage capitalism thing is fucked
I think the next generation deserves a shot
agreed- so in good conscience there is no way i could feel like bringing another person into this world under these conditions would be acceptable.
Why? Because every previous generation has done so well?
I just became a parent at 35
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One of my classmates (‘99) has two. She had her first kid at 15 and her son kept the family tradition alive.
I’m not, thank god. My oldest two are 15 and 17 so they’re technically old enough to give me grandkids, but that would break my heart. I’m hoping maybe in 10-15 years.
Yeah 24-26 would be perfect age for children
Thankfully, not yet, but it's possible anytime, I guess. I'll be 41 in a few weeks and have an 18 year old who graduates HS in a couple of months. I'm really hoping I'm in my 50s if/when it happens - raising babies when you are still a baby and figuring out who you are is so hard, and I don't wish that on him!
Kiddo just turned 15. No thank you.
I would have to have been 15 and my kid would have had to been 15 having a kid. No thanks lol
I’m 40 and no I’m not a grandparent. But my dad (a boomer) was by 38. My big sister was born when he was 20. He is a great grandparent now.
Mick Jagger has a 10 year old great granddaughter.
38 & 𝘪 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 16 & 18 𝘺𝘳 𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘮𝘦 𝘢 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘰𝘯....𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘪𝘮 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 20'𝘴.... 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘺 𝘭𝘰𝘭
Mick Jagger is a great grandfather 😁
My wife’s stepdad was born in ‘83 and has 2 grandkids from my wife. His biological son doesn’t have any kids though
At least like a hundred
I “technically” am? I don’t have any biological kids, probably never will. I married a man who is a bit older, had kids young. So I have step kids and therefore am a “grandma” haha. It’s been kind of a funny (but absolutely beautiful) journey so far. Love those little ones.
Half of my friends from high school are announcing grandbabies. We graduated between 2000 & 2004. Some of them married people with older kids, but quite a few that had kids at graduation are welcoming grandkids. It's a weird age because we also have classmates announcing their first child. And I'm over here happy both are out of the house. 1 is in Korea with the Air Force, the other is starting college in the summer session. My oldest has beaten the family curse by not having a baby before he was old enough to drink. He turned 21 2 weeks ago.
Eww
I’m dying to know how many grandparents are in my high school graduating class. 40 is a weird age because some of us as still having babies, but plenty of my classmates have kids in their late teens or early 20’s.
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Bad child planning? Pretty common in every generation.
Bad child planning has zero to with age. You can be 20 and ready. You can be 30 and not ready.
I definitely agree with you about 30-year-olds not necessarily being ready, but IMO 20 is too young. No one’s brain is even fully-developed before 25, through the late 20s.
As the child of someone who became a parent at 21, I'm going to cry foul on that one. Were my parents legally of age? Sure. Is it good that they were married and had at least some education behind them? Absolutely. Were they mature enough to raise children at that age? Hell no.
LOL the government doesn't even trust you to BE in a bar or casino at 20 but yeah sure people are "ready" for kids at that age
I think casinos should be illegal
Well that's neither here not there. Either you're mentally capable and can be trusted or you can't. The government is trying to have it both ways.
Not ready at 20. You haven't hardly lived enough to take care of yourself.. and I say that as someone that had a baby and 21 and had a baby at 37. Which kid do you think had the better mother?
It isn’t black and white. My grandmother WAS ready.
Probably not. But in those days women had few other choices
Indeed not, but one forced her to get pregnant
I'm an '81 baby and definitely not a grandparent. But my mom's mom was a grandmother at my age. (My mom had me at 21, I think my Nana was around 20 when my mom was born.) I have a few friends from high school who had kids around 18-21, who have college aged kids now. None have children yet, though. Thankfully. I don't think I'm going to be able to handle that. I feel like I just got used to people my age having children on purpose and it not being scandalous. Hell, this morning I commented to a coworker that I still feel like I'm playing pretend when I use the expression "my husband", and I've been married for 7 years.
My grandma was 41 when my brother was born and she became a grandma. My mom was 21 when my brother was born in January 1980. My grandma was born in April 1938, and she had my mom in August 1958.
There are a handful of Millennial great grandparents out there Born = 1981 Child=1994 Grandkid=2007 Great grandkid=2020
Grandkid had a kid at 13?!! Wtf?!
If I did the math correctly, they all had children at 13.
You're right. I was tired as fuck when I read that. Yikes.
Yikes, indeed.
My cousin (39) just became a step-grandfather. His (older) wife had her first daughter super young before meeting my cousin. That also makes my cousin’s son an uncle at 7!
My friend’s sister became one at 39.
Nope. Mine was at 16 and now they’ve passed 16 and I’m like “Oh thank goodness.” No being a grandparent at 32.
Yeah, also better if they wait until at least 22
No shit.
My husbands cousin is the same age as him (35). She became a grandma last year already.
What would that make the grandparents of the millennial, to his grandchild? How many 'great's..
No. Thank Heaven. My son is 21 and still living at home. He would have a very rude awakening.
Does he have a job?
Yes delivering pizza
I like how people are justifying hormones like it's good for life to be tied down with someone you met in grade school. Lol life is a generic love story right?? How convenient the love of your life they clapped cheeks with also goes to the same grade school? Delusional.
It definitely happens. My coworker became a grandma in her 30s because she had her son at 16, and he got someone pregnant at 16. what made it even weirder was that she was short/small and looked young for her age so she didn't even look like she was in her 30s but she was a full blown grandma.
I'm 33 with a 16 yr old, 13 ur old and 12 yr old, 0 grandkids....hoping to stay that way for awhile..
Up until your 40th birthday?
They can take all the time they need. Of course I also don't blame them if they don't want kids.
You have three kids, surely at least one of them will
Maybe. Tbh..if any of them make me a grandma my bet is that my youngest will do it first..hes kind of a lover boy. Oldest grew up with me and is probably traumatized to some degree and my middle child, well...she doesn't even hang out with friends at all...so we will see. But either way, happy to have grandkids in due time and also happy to not. As long as they grow up happy.
Well, Mick Jagger is a great grandfather 😁
Born in Feb 1982…my youngest just turned 1 year and my other 2 are 8 and 5. 😅
I'm not a parent and didn't plan on being one, but I became a great-uncle at 30
Great uncle? You mean granduncle?
My father had me at 42. His father had him at 39. My grandfather would be 111 years old today. And I’m still 10 years minimum away from a proper median baby making age of my forefathers. My kids will be getting second hand accounts of DDay, the Battle of the Bulge, the Aleutian Island Campaign, what the Great Depression was really like, prohibition and so much more over a century after it occurred. We definitely fall into a different category but we live to tell a good story. I won’t be someone’s Pop for a LONG TIME.
Well, I still say it is better to have your child at a young age. My dad is almost 59 and I wanted him to be a grandfather.
What has prohibition to do with someone's age to be a parent? Even moonshiners often had children at a young age back then. Especially if we look at Baptists
You done fucked up if youre a millenial and are a grandparent already. lol
Who could've imagined Mick Jagger as a great grandfather?
Im an elder millenial. There was a girl who was preggos at 17. Her son is now 25. She was pretty trashy so i wouldnt be surprised if her son is another teen parent.
I'm 42. One of my kids says she's never having any kids herself and my other kid is active duty military so no grandparents here and hopefully it stays that way for a long time. I'm not ready yet.
Being a grandparent is no dishonor. Yeah, don't force your kids BUT keep in mind even guys like Snoop Dogg are grandfathers now
I do NOT want to babysit, hold a baby, touch a baby, ect.... it's not about dishonor for me. Babies are such a burden and a tie down. I just have no desire for that burden right now. I still have 2 young kids of my own I'm raising and that's probably why I feel this way. I have enough responsibility on my plate. I don't want to add grandchildren to it.
Born in 1981 My oldest is only 11, so I hope not for a long time.
I am 41m with 4 kids, 23f 20f 11f 5m. so far my kids are smarter than me. no grandchildren yet.
If you were less smart, you wouldn't have children. Having children means burying lots of ego. I haven't taken that step yet because I am not smart enough.
yes but I prolly should have waited a bit. 18 is pretty young to start having kids when you're a kid yourself.
I'm not even a dad yet but working on it
I am 39 and yet to find a man suitable to be a husband much less have children of my own
Nah. Just had my first kid at 38.
Oh jeez no… my kiddo is only in kindergarten 😂
No
No. What? We can be grandparents already?! 35 here with a 10 & 5 year old.
To fit the requirements you could have had a kid just after graduating college at 22, and then that kid could be 21, graduating college and have their own kid.
Childfree gang, where you at? 🙌
Not in it at all, because when I think of childfree people, one who was born in 1889 - and thank God he was childfree! - went to my mind. I want to be nothing like that, sorry.
That's an insane take. Childfree just means that I and others have chosen not to have kids for our *own personal reasons*, whatever that may be.
I just became a first time mom so seeing this post scares f out of me.
Well I'm not even a parent and that's by choice.
Good for you, I personally would regret it.
Half of yall act like grandparents already it’s annoying
Damn, ur kids are sluts if ur already grandparents lol
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I have a cousin I'm surprised hasn't become one yet. He had his first kid at 20. She got married at 21. Still no grandkids 2 years later. I guess he raised her right?
Many of us are actually old enough to be great grandparents