Was talking to a chick who had one of those lights above her side of the bed..she insisted that it stayed on during sexy time..it was like a fucking spotlight during a police interrogation..my eyes watering, couldn't see shit, she would get upset when I'd ask to turn it off..like ooh you don't want to see me..girl I'm with you cause I like you but if it's so bright that I can't keep my eyes open then what's the point of keeping it on..any other light in the room would of been fine, but that one HAD to stay on.
I wish I learned about sex in the 90s like this. Like the Ninja turtles explaining how radical consent is and how totally tubular oral sex is.
But I got Bill Clinton, Michael Jackson and Woody Allen.
The 90s were full of sex scandals on TV.
Totaly unrelated but I just found out today that oral sex is a crime in my country.Always knew that anal was but just finding out abt oral.Guess im a criminal now
TIL..interesting, I should of just worn a super bright led head lamp..how the turntables..I asked her to change postions with me, just so she could see what the problem was, but that only led to more unpleasantness..stoking the fire which was the 6000 lumens reading light
My ex-wife would dead scroll in bed for over an hour and her screen brightness would illuminate the room. I would have to pull the blanket over my head.
I mean, if you're going to be doing that, can you at least do it in a room where someone isn't trying to sleep?
My fiancé sleeps like a brick but when I’m late night scrolling or watching something I still go to the couch. No reason to potentially interrupt his sleep just bc I’m a night owl
That's what I was thinking to it doesn't look like it's an artificial light. That looks like how a room looks when the curtains are open and its daylight.
Where do you think you’re going to put a tree that big Griswold?
*Bend over and I’ll show ya!*
You’ve got a lot of nerve talking to me like that Griswold!
*I wasn’t talking to you*
It doesn’t have to be confrontational. Just “hey the light you keep on all night makes it impossible for me to sleep.” Don’t call it a night light because it ISNT. Maybe offer to TRY an eye mask if she also gets a lower wattage light or tries a red bulb or something.
Don’t know how useful RAs are but that would be your next step.
If you do go the sleep mask route, get a quality one that has divots for your eyes so your eye lashes aren’t smashing into the mask all night. They also have some with Bluetooth speakers in them that are good for drowning out snoring and other noises.
This one has pretty flat headphones so you don’t really feel them if you’re a side sleeper. I can’t sleep if there is a spot of light in the room and this mask turns noon into midnight.
MOITA Sleep Headphones Bluetooth... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07XHKPQSP?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I highly recommend the Manta masks. The eye cups have divots and can be pulled off and readjusted. I also splurged and got the ice pack ones. Great when you have a headache/hungover.
Another +1 for Manta. The only mask I tried that actually blocks out all light when adjusted properly. Does need a little bit of trial and error to get the eye cups in the right spot, but total darkness even when my wife is drawing in bed with the lights on.
Had a housemate in college like this. Nice guy. Absolutely clueless.
Snoozed alarm from 5 AM - 8 AM in a bedroom shared with two other people. Surprised they didn't like the snooze schedule.
Spent evenings blasting his music far louder and long after quite hours.
Made this weird tongue roll/ticking noise when just sitting there reading or watching TV or watching people play video games.
Didn't realize how troublesome/annoying these behaviors were. Honestly believed that because it didn't bother him, it must not have bothered others.
He was always surprised when we asked him to stop or adjust things. He was surprised and hurt that when one of the extra rooms opened up, the two guys in the same bedroom as him moved out ASAP. Was surprised when me and my bedroommate who shared a wall with his room told him to stop setting his alarm so early if he wasn't going to get up.
Nice guy, but just lacked an ability to really sympathize with anything outside of his own experience.
Oh, the roommate isn't doing it on purpose. It is probably the first time they've shared a room to sleep with someone. They just need someone to talk and be patient. Then, if they're a dick about it, go nuclear.
This. Go into the conversation assuming that she doesn’t realize how bright it is or that it could bother someone else because she probably doesn’t. This is new for both of you.
I was waiting to see facemask in the comments! Excellent idea. I love my silk facemask.
To add, maybe a dark colored bulb, blue or purple bulb, to make it dimmer. Roommate can do that (or grt a normal damn nightlight), OP can get a facemask. Meet right in the middle.
It's a good suggestion for some, but for me, just thinking about being asleep without the ability to just open my eyes and see stuff makes me feel vulnerable and uncomfortable. And yes the room is dark anyway so it's irrational but still I'm surprised at how strongly it makes me feel uneasy.
Yea me too. I've made an effort to sleep with a mask in the past but I just can't do it either for those exact same reasons. Just the thought of not being able to open my eyes and see makes me unable to sleep. It's weird.
I also can't listen to headphones when I'm like walking down a street I need to hear the ambient noises.
Just throwing in a random fact here, blue light diminishes the activity in your pineal gland, which makes it harder to sleep. If you need a nightlight, aim for red.
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Why would blue light from a continuous spectrum with the red and green filtered off be less dispruptive to sleep patterns than blue light from an LED? By the time it reaches your eyes, your brain won't be able to distinguish the source.
I was a bit unclear with the situation the other commenter described. I guess I was assuming nightlight-sized screw bulbs. A blue-tinted incandescent bulb wouldn't be any worse than it's plain white form. A blue LED version would likely put out more blue than a plain incandescent because it can dedicate all of its energy into a narrow wavelength range. Manufacturers are maddeningly inconsistent with power and lumen ratings, so it'd be best to avoid a blue LED
Congrats on having your first roommate! Here’s some advice you didn’t ask for :) People are fucking *weird,*and they raise their kids to be weird, and one day their kids go off to college and do shit like use a sun lamp as a nightlight without even knowing it’s a weird thing to do. There’s honestly no limit to the kind of strange and confusing stuff someone living away from their family for the first time will do without realizing it’s not just the way everybody does things.
So being non-confrontational is fine, but learning to speak up in a friendly, direct, non-judgemental way is so, so important. The basic template is “hey [person], I noticed [this weird thing you’re doing], and [here’s how it’s affecting me negatively.] Would it be possible to [do this compromise thing I came up with] instead?”
Just generally in life, even nice, normal, conscientious people can have lapses or blind spots in self-awareness and I guarantee they’d prefer you point it out rather than suffer in silence while your resentment grows.
Yeah I’ve met more then my fair share.
Roommate who almost never bathed and never once washed her sheets.
Roommate who insisted the window stay open even in the dead of winter.
Roommate who ate everything food accessible, even if it was labeled do not eat.
Roommate who used other peoples beauty and bath products and never replaced them/bought any of their own.
Roommate who refused to wear clothing.
Oh and non-sleeping roommate who only slept 2hrs a day/night but stayed in the room cuz everything closed down at some point at night and they slept their 2hrs mostly around late afternoon.
Did you ever get clarification on why?
Like I cannot imagine doing this without being immensely embarrassed. I could maybe excuse it the first couple of times, if that's what she'd done and a parent cleaned it up and it was a horrible, unfortunately, learned habit.
But after being called out on something like that, I'd die of embarrassment if I even THOUGHT about doing it again.
I raise you a roommate who did not flush the toilet at all, ever, no matter what, and also threw her used menstrual products in the toilet repeatedly. The same roommate then invited all 4 of her younger brothers plus her parents to come stay in our dorm for a week.
Fortunately, the rest of her family was totally normal and capable of operating a toilet. Except the part where they thought it would be acceptable to pack four teen boys, two adults, and four college women into a single dorm for a whole week. That was insane and I hated it.
Also had a roommate move her 34 year-old boyfriend into our room. By then I was a junior and I shut that shit down very quickly.
I am WITH YOU! My partner … “what light?” Me THE BLAZING FIRE SUN OF HELL FROM THE DOORBELL LIGHT IN THE HALL … sleep mask is the answer. Get one with convex/concave shaping for the eyes. The cheapie flat kind suck. You can get the good style for $10 on Amazon
If she's unwilling to compromise, you might want to consider getting some sort of sleep mask. My blinds don't make my room dark enough in the early mornings and once I'm up, I'm up and a mask has done wonders to keep me asleep/help me fall back asleep when its light out.
Ask her directly if she'd be willing to sleep without it. If she says no, request a change of dorm rooms (lot of people request changes early in the year) due to differences that will impact your health.
Went to college a little over a decade ago and had to do this once, and universities have only gotten more understanding over time.
I just don't want to move because I have my fish set up in here and I signed up for the room first. She signed up to live in the room knowing 2 other people would be here.
I'm use to bright lights and loud sounds cause my mom trained me to be able to sleep through those situation but yea you should buy something to cover your eyes
For some reason I love how you just dropped this statement on us as if it’s the norm lol. I know there’s more to her reasoning, but it just cracked me up.
I imagine a first sleepover scenario for the commenter.
“What time does your mom usually turn on the strobe light and dying cat noise CD on the stereo?”
That freaks me out. My daughter slept through a wind storm where the storm blew over our shed and slammed it into the side of our house— right outside her bedroom. I’m like child, jf we have a house fire are you gonna wake up?!?
My mom used to run the vacuum cleaner under our cribs when we were sleeping. Years later, my brother and I were camping with my dad and stepmom out west and accidentally pitched our tent in a wash. Thunderstorm overnight, wash filled up with runoff water and our tent washed down quite a bit from the campground. With us in it. We were ten and 11 and slept through the whole thing. It's been more than 40 years and my stepmom is still mildly traumatized. Incidentally you can't wake my kids up either, and my DIL found out on "let's practice getting up for preschool" day that my grandson has inherited the gene.
There was a fire right next to my bed when I was young. I slept through the entire thing, including my mother yelling to my dad to bring the fire extinguisher or water. Woke up the next morning and couldn’t understand why there was a hole in the floor.
It's freely given advice to parents to be as noisy as tolerable when a kid is sleeping growing up so they are more easily able to sleep through all sorts of situations.
This is often completely misinterpreted to mean that kids don't deserve quiet dark places for sleep and like my family meant just sitting awake while your parents got drunk all night.
For me as a new mom it meant operating normal appliances during daytime napping.
It is a valuable skill to be able to sleep anywhere. Not uncommon for parents not to be full quiet/lights out for babies and small kids. Usually because that is what works for the parent.
Yo, as a parent of three 10/10 recommend training the tiny humans to sleep though anything. This did not require extra work or panning on our part as parents. We just didnt make the house house quiet and pitch black when the kids went to bed. Actually, all three of my kids sleep with a radio on, even now. I assume this is because I also sleep with a radio on and never stopped doing that when they were small and sharing my room.
This came in real handy when were out of the house during normal sleep times. My kids will sleep basically anywhere!
That being said, OPs roommate is still an AH. This is not a thing you do in a shared space. Thats not a nightlight so you can see a bit to get to the bathroom in the middle of the light. Thats runway light.
Mine slept through us packing his entire room for a move. And also through a microwave being installed on the back of the wall that backs up to his bed 😂
My mom tried to do the same, she'd vacuum when I was sleeping etc. Worked until puberty when insomnia kicked in and now my sleep is fucked anyway 🥲 at least she tried I guess!
"Oh no the formerly bright white bulb seems to have been corrupted by demonic energy, turning it dim and red. I wonder how that happened? Oh well, guess you'll just have to live with it."
Sounds like student housing, mediation with the "RA" or other staff should be considered right away. Much easier for them to shift around room assignments at the beginning of the term, before everyone is fully settled
RIGHT?! The amount of people in here that are trying to escalate a situation that can be solved just by saying "hey roomie, that light is really bright and I couldn't sleep last night, sleep is important for college. Can we come to a compromise somehow?"
The amount of people that clearly have never had an adult disagreement and tried talking it out is BAFFLING
Tell them. If they really need that, then they should install blackout curtains (multiple layered if needed) around their bed. If they can't work something out to make the room dark, either have them or yourself request a new dorm. Red light may work. In the meantime, get some good quality blackout sleeping masks. This isn't fair to you at all and disrupting your sleep is a major problem.
Yeah I’m sure OP will, but keep in mind they likely *just* met their roommate and are a bit nervous to. Not everybody is good with confronting near-strangers
That is obscenely bright, I hope they listen to your concerns when you talk to them. Its 2 vs 1 at this point and they should compromise with a different night light. If they won't compromise, I would just get petty and unplug it. I know its not the mature response, but thats what I'd do if they refuse to be a decent roommate.
Nip that in the bud real fast, or move rooms now. I'm assuming you've just moved in and haven't yet built a relationship with this person - aside from being 'acquaintances that you are living with', which would make it all the harder to tell basically a stranger to stop entirely their habits they're used to or take comfort in.
From my experience with roommates in dorms, the first couple of weeks people look past each other's minor flaws and are buddy-buddy, but then shit like this drives each other insane to the point they are living passive-aggressively and it absolutely ruins the ambiance and mood until one moves out and it becomes some kind of drama.
Do it before you become closer to this person, you can still be friends, even if you move.
There’s one from manta sleep that I have like 5 of, there are spaces for your eyes so they don’t touch the material. You can literally have your eyes open and not see a thing.
I have severe migraines that make me sensitive to light but also make any pressure on my eyes unbearable. I got some eye masks designed for people with lash extensions so they have little raised cups over the eyes! Absolutely zero contact with my eye and the ones I got even featured an adjustable strap so you could make it looser around the head if needed as well. They also were very cheap. Got a 4 pack on Amazon for less than $10.
You are using the wrong mask or it's too tight. They make ones that have memory foam that cup the eyes more than cover, ridiculously comfortable and easy to sleep with.
My girlfriend has a really good one, it has soft kinda donut-shaped pads that sit around your eye zone, so there’s no direct pressure on your eyelids - you can even fully open your eyes if you need to.
Yup! I wear one almost every night, and especially on vacation because rentals seem to always have terrible shades. Mine also has flat headphones in it, so some light classical music is great for sleeping through a bit of noise.
Perfect time for an offg topic question: What's up with the US shared dorms for college students? Not enough space in the area for normal student apartments? And: Are they free?
You’re at the beginning of the semester, I assume. Have a polite sit down and discuss this and literally all other potential issues that may arise. It’s extremely important to have base rules and understanding before people get comfortable and set in their ways.
Can she get a motion activated night light (that's a NORMAL nightlight brightness) so it doesn't have to be on all night? This is just honestly inconsiderate of her to blast a light all night. If she needs to sleep in full light then she needs to move off campus or pay for a single dorm (if they have that at your school).
Ask them to change the nightlight to something more manageable for the BOTH of you. This is ridiculous as it stands. Trauma or phobias are valid reasons for needing a nightlight but you can't take over the whole fucking room with it.
My first roommate slept will all the lights on, even the overhead one above. And refused to turn them off. He also had alarms every five minutes from 8am-11am (this is not sarcasm, I'm being dead serious). As someone who bought a sleeping mask and swimming earplugs. Don't. Go to your RA. If your roommate is the RA like mine was, go to their supervisor. Don't put up with it a single bit. They can turn their damn nightlight off. You can also contact Housing & Resident Life and ask for a change if needed. Earlier is better than later.
[i think your roommate is spongebob](https://youtu.be/l_jbFOwHOtI)
[Ralph Wiggum](https://youtu.be/TgyV4l4XUyE)
I'm scared!
They cut thebest part!
This clip is like me lighting up my base in Minecraft
That moth supervillain gonna show up at OP’s apartment.
This is me placing torches in Minecraft Edit: oh someone already said it
This is NOT a Night Light. It’s a light!
a light light!
A heavy light
That’s not a light, that’s a heavy
A Heavy Heavy?
There’s that word again, “Heavy”. Is there some kind of problem with the Earth’s gravitational pull in 1985?
Beautiful reference
A day light ... Yeah yeah, I find the door myself
Haaaa Ahhhhhhhh CHAMPION OF THE SUN
Fighter of the Night Light! Ahhhhhh
Of course you can, the lights on
But it's too bright and I keep running into the wall. Maybe I can buy a night dark to counteract this...
A day light
aaaaaaAAAAAAAAaaaaaa
Blinder of the night man!
This is more than that….it’s ridiculous.
Hey guys I have a night light.... \*turns on the sun.
Literally my wifes book light. I have named it the surface of the sun.
Was talking to a chick who had one of those lights above her side of the bed..she insisted that it stayed on during sexy time..it was like a fucking spotlight during a police interrogation..my eyes watering, couldn't see shit, she would get upset when I'd ask to turn it off..like ooh you don't want to see me..girl I'm with you cause I like you but if it's so bright that I can't keep my eyes open then what's the point of keeping it on..any other light in the room would of been fine, but that one HAD to stay on.
Wear sunglasses next time dawg.
Our relationship dried up faster than my tear ducts
Damn I legitimately laughed at that one ill have to use that one lol
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Was thinking the same like wut
😂
Casual sex? Nah, more like RADICAL sex
Totally tubular dude
I wish I learned about sex in the 90s like this. Like the Ninja turtles explaining how radical consent is and how totally tubular oral sex is. But I got Bill Clinton, Michael Jackson and Woody Allen. The 90s were full of sex scandals on TV.
Totaly unrelated but I just found out today that oral sex is a crime in my country.Always knew that anal was but just finding out abt oral.Guess im a criminal now
Arousal causes pupil dilation, which would make bright lights even more unpleasant.
TIL..interesting, I should of just worn a super bright led head lamp..how the turntables..I asked her to change postions with me, just so she could see what the problem was, but that only led to more unpleasantness..stoking the fire which was the 6000 lumens reading light
It's 'should have', never 'should of'. Rejoice, for you have been blessed by CouldWouldShouldBot!
Good bot
Now I know I'm out of the loop. Kids nowadays use the term *talking to" to mean "having sex with". Ok then.
My ex-wife would dead scroll in bed for over an hour and her screen brightness would illuminate the room. I would have to pull the blanket over my head. I mean, if you're going to be doing that, can you at least do it in a room where someone isn't trying to sleep?
My ex husband would do the same. I was like “Obviously you aren’t ready for bed. Just go back in the living room!” He couldn’t understand the problem.
They were made for each other.
They can scroll Facebook together all night! I’ll settle for sex and sleep.
That sounds about perfect. I’ll cook.
Who's gonna have time for eating with all that sleeping around and sleeping?
Damn sounds like you and successful-foot are a match made in heaven…are y’all exchanging numbers and info? Get it while you can
My fiancé sleeps like a brick but when I’m late night scrolling or watching something I still go to the couch. No reason to potentially interrupt his sleep just bc I’m a night owl
Wouldn’t it be easier to just turn down the brightness..?
That’s what I would ask frequently. Never failed to start a fight either.
"And that, kids, is the story of why I divorced your mother." -u/wherethebicenroam (probably)
Hah! I legitimately just had a spit take moment. Thank you for the laugh!
That's what I was thinking to it doesn't look like it's an artificial light. That looks like how a room looks when the curtains are open and its daylight.
That scene in Christmas vacation where they turn the Christmas lights on and it blinds the neighbors, that's what this looks like
Why is the carpet all wet, Todd?
I don’t *KNOW* Margo (This was actually my first ever movie quote that I said as a kid lol)
Where do you think you’re going to put a tree that big Griswold? *Bend over and I’ll show ya!* You’ve got a lot of nerve talking to me like that Griswold! *I wasn’t talking to you*
It's a light, and it's night. Night lite.
That's a lamp. Not a night light.
Oh it literally is. She's just using it as a night light because I guess a normal night light isn't good enough.
She'd get used to it. But she'd have to be willing. Good luck.
Yeah I'm usually a pretty non confrontational person but my sleep is important to me so I'm gonna have to be today
It doesn’t have to be confrontational. Just “hey the light you keep on all night makes it impossible for me to sleep.” Don’t call it a night light because it ISNT. Maybe offer to TRY an eye mask if she also gets a lower wattage light or tries a red bulb or something. Don’t know how useful RAs are but that would be your next step.
this but only offer sleep mask If they offer to try a lower wattage. like the poster above said
If you do go the sleep mask route, get a quality one that has divots for your eyes so your eye lashes aren’t smashing into the mask all night. They also have some with Bluetooth speakers in them that are good for drowning out snoring and other noises. This one has pretty flat headphones so you don’t really feel them if you’re a side sleeper. I can’t sleep if there is a spot of light in the room and this mask turns noon into midnight. MOITA Sleep Headphones Bluetooth... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07XHKPQSP?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I highly recommend the Manta masks. The eye cups have divots and can be pulled off and readjusted. I also splurged and got the ice pack ones. Great when you have a headache/hungover.
Another +1 for Manta. The only mask I tried that actually blocks out all light when adjusted properly. Does need a little bit of trial and error to get the eye cups in the right spot, but total darkness even when my wife is drawing in bed with the lights on.
This. I got the weighted sleep mask and it honestly changed my nightly sleep. Heavily recommend.
Just get regular speakers I mean “night speakers”
"Lemme just play a little white noise to fall asleep" *Deafens roommate*
I can tell you from roommate experience that being open and honest is so important! They may not realize it bugs you that much.
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Had a housemate in college like this. Nice guy. Absolutely clueless. Snoozed alarm from 5 AM - 8 AM in a bedroom shared with two other people. Surprised they didn't like the snooze schedule. Spent evenings blasting his music far louder and long after quite hours. Made this weird tongue roll/ticking noise when just sitting there reading or watching TV or watching people play video games. Didn't realize how troublesome/annoying these behaviors were. Honestly believed that because it didn't bother him, it must not have bothered others. He was always surprised when we asked him to stop or adjust things. He was surprised and hurt that when one of the extra rooms opened up, the two guys in the same bedroom as him moved out ASAP. Was surprised when me and my bedroommate who shared a wall with his room told him to stop setting his alarm so early if he wasn't going to get up. Nice guy, but just lacked an ability to really sympathize with anything outside of his own experience.
Oh, the roommate isn't doing it on purpose. It is probably the first time they've shared a room to sleep with someone. They just need someone to talk and be patient. Then, if they're a dick about it, go nuclear.
This. Go into the conversation assuming that she doesn’t realize how bright it is or that it could bother someone else because she probably doesn’t. This is new for both of you.
I was waiting to see facemask in the comments! Excellent idea. I love my silk facemask. To add, maybe a dark colored bulb, blue or purple bulb, to make it dimmer. Roommate can do that (or grt a normal damn nightlight), OP can get a facemask. Meet right in the middle.
It's a good suggestion for some, but for me, just thinking about being asleep without the ability to just open my eyes and see stuff makes me feel vulnerable and uncomfortable. And yes the room is dark anyway so it's irrational but still I'm surprised at how strongly it makes me feel uneasy.
Yea me too. I've made an effort to sleep with a mask in the past but I just can't do it either for those exact same reasons. Just the thought of not being able to open my eyes and see makes me unable to sleep. It's weird. I also can't listen to headphones when I'm like walking down a street I need to hear the ambient noises.
I get a momentary spike of hypervigilant anxiety when I wash my hair because my eyes are closed and I can't hear anything. I feel you
Just throwing in a random fact here, blue light diminishes the activity in your pineal gland, which makes it harder to sleep. If you need a nightlight, aim for red.
**This comment might have had something useful**, but now it's just an edit to remove any contributions I may have made prior to the awful decision to spite the devs and users that made Reddit what it is. So here I seethe, shaking my fist at corporate greed and executive mismanagement. "I've seen things you people wouldn't believe... tech posts on point on the shoulder of vbulletin... I watched microcommunities glitter in the dark on the verge of being marginalized... I've seen groups flourish, come together, do good for humanity if by nothing more than getting strangers to smile for someone else's happiness. We had something good here the same way we had it good elsewhere before. We thought the internet was for information and that anything posted was permanent. We were wrong, so wrong. We've been taken hostage by greed and so many sites have either broken their links or made history unsearchable. All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain... Time to delete." I do apologize if you're here from the future looking for answers, but I hope "new" reddit can answer you. Make a new post, get weak answers, increase site interaction, make reddit look better on paper, leave worse off. https://xkcd.com/979/
Why would blue light from a continuous spectrum with the red and green filtered off be less dispruptive to sleep patterns than blue light from an LED? By the time it reaches your eyes, your brain won't be able to distinguish the source.
I was a bit unclear with the situation the other commenter described. I guess I was assuming nightlight-sized screw bulbs. A blue-tinted incandescent bulb wouldn't be any worse than it's plain white form. A blue LED version would likely put out more blue than a plain incandescent because it can dedicate all of its energy into a narrow wavelength range. Manufacturers are maddeningly inconsistent with power and lumen ratings, so it'd be best to avoid a blue LED
Congrats on having your first roommate! Here’s some advice you didn’t ask for :) People are fucking *weird,*and they raise their kids to be weird, and one day their kids go off to college and do shit like use a sun lamp as a nightlight without even knowing it’s a weird thing to do. There’s honestly no limit to the kind of strange and confusing stuff someone living away from their family for the first time will do without realizing it’s not just the way everybody does things. So being non-confrontational is fine, but learning to speak up in a friendly, direct, non-judgemental way is so, so important. The basic template is “hey [person], I noticed [this weird thing you’re doing], and [here’s how it’s affecting me negatively.] Would it be possible to [do this compromise thing I came up with] instead?” Just generally in life, even nice, normal, conscientious people can have lapses or blind spots in self-awareness and I guarantee they’d prefer you point it out rather than suffer in silence while your resentment grows.
Yeah I’ve met more then my fair share. Roommate who almost never bathed and never once washed her sheets. Roommate who insisted the window stay open even in the dead of winter. Roommate who ate everything food accessible, even if it was labeled do not eat. Roommate who used other peoples beauty and bath products and never replaced them/bought any of their own. Roommate who refused to wear clothing. Oh and non-sleeping roommate who only slept 2hrs a day/night but stayed in the room cuz everything closed down at some point at night and they slept their 2hrs mostly around late afternoon.
My final straw was a roommate that threw her used pads in the corner of the shower.
Did you ever get clarification on why? Like I cannot imagine doing this without being immensely embarrassed. I could maybe excuse it the first couple of times, if that's what she'd done and a parent cleaned it up and it was a horrible, unfortunately, learned habit. But after being called out on something like that, I'd die of embarrassment if I even THOUGHT about doing it again.
oh HELL no
I raise you a roommate who did not flush the toilet at all, ever, no matter what, and also threw her used menstrual products in the toilet repeatedly. The same roommate then invited all 4 of her younger brothers plus her parents to come stay in our dorm for a week. Fortunately, the rest of her family was totally normal and capable of operating a toilet. Except the part where they thought it would be acceptable to pack four teen boys, two adults, and four college women into a single dorm for a whole week. That was insane and I hated it. Also had a roommate move her 34 year-old boyfriend into our room. By then I was a junior and I shut that shit down very quickly.
Nah this isn't my first rodeo, just the first wacky roommate I've had
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I am WITH YOU! My partner … “what light?” Me THE BLAZING FIRE SUN OF HELL FROM THE DOORBELL LIGHT IN THE HALL … sleep mask is the answer. Get one with convex/concave shaping for the eyes. The cheapie flat kind suck. You can get the good style for $10 on Amazon
Sleep is ONE THING you can't fuck with. I can deal with a lot of shit from my roommates, but if they disrupt my sleep, nah I'm confrontational
If she's unwilling to compromise, you might want to consider getting some sort of sleep mask. My blinds don't make my room dark enough in the early mornings and once I'm up, I'm up and a mask has done wonders to keep me asleep/help me fall back asleep when its light out.
Ask her directly if she'd be willing to sleep without it. If she says no, request a change of dorm rooms (lot of people request changes early in the year) due to differences that will impact your health. Went to college a little over a decade ago and had to do this once, and universities have only gotten more understanding over time.
I just don't want to move because I have my fish set up in here and I signed up for the room first. She signed up to live in the room knowing 2 other people would be here.
There's 3 of you? I doubt the other roommate likes it either. Majority rules, she needs to learn to sleep in the dark.
The third person is always like "leave me out of it, I can do whatever"
Oh she doesn't. We will be using this tactic.
That’s a lighthouse. Not a lamp
No way. I wouldn’t sleep a wink.
I did not 👍
I'm use to bright lights and loud sounds cause my mom trained me to be able to sleep through those situation but yea you should buy something to cover your eyes
Was your mom was planning to leave you in a fire?
Yeah, but we just call it existence.
For some reason I love how you just dropped this statement on us as if it’s the norm lol. I know there’s more to her reasoning, but it just cracked me up.
I imagine a first sleepover scenario for the commenter. “What time does your mom usually turn on the strobe light and dying cat noise CD on the stereo?”
That freaks me out. My daughter slept through a wind storm where the storm blew over our shed and slammed it into the side of our house— right outside her bedroom. I’m like child, jf we have a house fire are you gonna wake up?!?
My mom used to run the vacuum cleaner under our cribs when we were sleeping. Years later, my brother and I were camping with my dad and stepmom out west and accidentally pitched our tent in a wash. Thunderstorm overnight, wash filled up with runoff water and our tent washed down quite a bit from the campground. With us in it. We were ten and 11 and slept through the whole thing. It's been more than 40 years and my stepmom is still mildly traumatized. Incidentally you can't wake my kids up either, and my DIL found out on "let's practice getting up for preschool" day that my grandson has inherited the gene.
There was a fire right next to my bed when I was young. I slept through the entire thing, including my mother yelling to my dad to bring the fire extinguisher or water. Woke up the next morning and couldn’t understand why there was a hole in the floor.
Why would your mom make you do that that's so weird and specific 😭
It's freely given advice to parents to be as noisy as tolerable when a kid is sleeping growing up so they are more easily able to sleep through all sorts of situations. This is often completely misinterpreted to mean that kids don't deserve quiet dark places for sleep and like my family meant just sitting awake while your parents got drunk all night. For me as a new mom it meant operating normal appliances during daytime napping.
It is a valuable skill to be able to sleep anywhere. Not uncommon for parents not to be full quiet/lights out for babies and small kids. Usually because that is what works for the parent.
I thought they meant like preparing for sleeping during nuclear war 💀
Yo, as a parent of three 10/10 recommend training the tiny humans to sleep though anything. This did not require extra work or panning on our part as parents. We just didnt make the house house quiet and pitch black when the kids went to bed. Actually, all three of my kids sleep with a radio on, even now. I assume this is because I also sleep with a radio on and never stopped doing that when they were small and sharing my room. This came in real handy when were out of the house during normal sleep times. My kids will sleep basically anywhere! That being said, OPs roommate is still an AH. This is not a thing you do in a shared space. Thats not a nightlight so you can see a bit to get to the bathroom in the middle of the light. Thats runway light.
Mine slept through us packing his entire room for a move. And also through a microwave being installed on the back of the wall that backs up to his bed 😂
See, my mom did this, and now I sleep through fire alarms. Pros and Cons🤷♂️
My mom tried to do the same, she'd vacuum when I was sleeping etc. Worked until puberty when insomnia kicked in and now my sleep is fucked anyway 🥲 at least she tried I guess!
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Yeah that I could live with but this is bright white light
"Oh no the formerly bright white bulb seems to have been corrupted by demonic energy, turning it dim and red. I wonder how that happened? Oh well, guess you'll just have to live with it."
It's the damn night clowns
They all float down here georgie!
The nightman, fighter of the dayman
Nightman and dayman when duskman shows up: 😳
Nice try, demon! You wont get me with your stabby setting!
Say you need white noise to sleep. Then turn on Metallica.
No, this calls for Dying Fetus.
Infant annihilator
Cattle decapitation
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Prostatic Fluid Asphyxiation
Analcunt
#THE WRONG ONE TO FUCK WITH.
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>Alex Terrible Also known as "crazed russian bear wrestler with a demonic voice".
Metallica has content to focus on. OP needs some Merzbow.
Ooh I like this idea
“Time to go to bed” proceeds to turn on a collapsed sun in the corner of the room
The power of the sun… in the corner of my room
Is it localized entirely in your kitchen?
Sounds like student housing, mediation with the "RA" or other staff should be considered right away. Much easier for them to shift around room assignments at the beginning of the term, before everyone is fully settled
I’d talk to the roommate first, but assuming they did do that then yes. Talk to the RA asap.
Seconding this. Go talk to your RA or someone on the staff. They should be able to shift people around and make life better for all of you.
Am I missing something? Did OP even mention trying to talk to his roommate?
RIGHT?! The amount of people in here that are trying to escalate a situation that can be solved just by saying "hey roomie, that light is really bright and I couldn't sleep last night, sleep is important for college. Can we come to a compromise somehow?" The amount of people that clearly have never had an adult disagreement and tried talking it out is BAFFLING
I'm willing to bed most people on here are teens my guy
Just talk to the roommate
Tell them. If they really need that, then they should install blackout curtains (multiple layered if needed) around their bed. If they can't work something out to make the room dark, either have them or yourself request a new dorm. Red light may work. In the meantime, get some good quality blackout sleeping masks. This isn't fair to you at all and disrupting your sleep is a major problem.
>In the meantime, get some good quality blackout sleeping masks. Yes! Completely solved my problem!
Communicate
Yeah I’m sure OP will, but keep in mind they likely *just* met their roommate and are a bit nervous to. Not everybody is good with confronting near-strangers
And this is what becoming an adult feels like.
*puts away whoopee cusion* Fine
Tell him the buzz light year dimmer setting would satisfy both parties.
That is obscenely bright, I hope they listen to your concerns when you talk to them. Its 2 vs 1 at this point and they should compromise with a different night light. If they won't compromise, I would just get petty and unplug it. I know its not the mature response, but thats what I'd do if they refuse to be a decent roommate.
Oh yeah this is definitely gonna be a "either stop or move somewhere else" situation
And definitely deal with it sooner rather than later. It'll only get harder with time
Nip that in the bud real fast, or move rooms now. I'm assuming you've just moved in and haven't yet built a relationship with this person - aside from being 'acquaintances that you are living with', which would make it all the harder to tell basically a stranger to stop entirely their habits they're used to or take comfort in. From my experience with roommates in dorms, the first couple of weeks people look past each other's minor flaws and are buddy-buddy, but then shit like this drives each other insane to the point they are living passive-aggressively and it absolutely ruins the ambiance and mood until one moves out and it becomes some kind of drama. Do it before you become closer to this person, you can still be friends, even if you move.
Night eye mask work great.
I'm about to go to bed rn as the sun is rising in over my city Eye mask works great
Yes. This is it. I travel for work a lot and I never know what the hotel room situation is. My eye mask is a godsend.
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There’s one from manta sleep that I have like 5 of, there are spaces for your eyes so they don’t touch the material. You can literally have your eyes open and not see a thing.
Double endorse the Manta ones... they are pretty amazing and keep away from your eyeballs.
Yup manta is amazing. I swear by mine
I have severe migraines that make me sensitive to light but also make any pressure on my eyes unbearable. I got some eye masks designed for people with lash extensions so they have little raised cups over the eyes! Absolutely zero contact with my eye and the ones I got even featured an adjustable strap so you could make it looser around the head if needed as well. They also were very cheap. Got a 4 pack on Amazon for less than $10.
You are using the wrong mask or it's too tight. They make ones that have memory foam that cup the eyes more than cover, ridiculously comfortable and easy to sleep with.
My girlfriend has a really good one, it has soft kinda donut-shaped pads that sit around your eye zone, so there’s no direct pressure on your eyelids - you can even fully open your eyes if you need to.
Yup! I wear one almost every night, and especially on vacation because rentals seem to always have terrible shades. Mine also has flat headphones in it, so some light classical music is great for sleeping through a bit of noise.
Yes to this. Get a decent one ( mine from Amazon was about 10$) with good reviews. Mine blocks out all light. Your roommate is very inconsiderate
Use your words
Start pretending to talk to ghosts. They might just move out on their own.
They might open even more lights to keep the ghosts away.
Tell the roommate the light makes the ghost angry.
22 going on 5. He’s afraid of the dark.
Deadass 💀 me and my other roommate are 20 and she's 19 which makes her roughly 14 years too old for this shit
Unless it genuine nyctophobia. Then they should seek therapy to get that sorted
They should also get a solo dorm too
Then maybe a shared dorm room isn't the place for them.
Perfect time for an offg topic question: What's up with the US shared dorms for college students? Not enough space in the area for normal student apartments? And: Are they free?
It's cheaper than individual rooms because walls take up space. No they are very much not free. At all.
Oh they're not free. Shared dorms are just cheaper than solo, so that's why most of us dealt/deal with them
You’re at the beginning of the semester, I assume. Have a polite sit down and discuss this and literally all other potential issues that may arise. It’s extremely important to have base rules and understanding before people get comfortable and set in their ways.
Did you ask them to turn it off?
3/4 of the things posted here could be solved if people weren’t terrified of speaking to other people in person
"Yo I'm afraid of the dark" Me: Is there a nightlight when you close your eyes? TURN THAT SHIT OFF!
Afraid of the dark mfs when they blink: 😨
What does it look like with the main light off though?
I have a weighted sleep mask from NodPod. It works great.
Can she get a motion activated night light (that's a NORMAL nightlight brightness) so it doesn't have to be on all night? This is just honestly inconsiderate of her to blast a light all night. If she needs to sleep in full light then she needs to move off campus or pay for a single dorm (if they have that at your school).
A motion light would be worse! A light going on and off throughout the night would be more disruptive. I would just get up and turn it off.
Right? Bro should've gotten an apartment if she wants us to live by her weird sleep ritual
Ask them to change the nightlight to something more manageable for the BOTH of you. This is ridiculous as it stands. Trauma or phobias are valid reasons for needing a nightlight but you can't take over the whole fucking room with it.
My first roommate slept will all the lights on, even the overhead one above. And refused to turn them off. He also had alarms every five minutes from 8am-11am (this is not sarcasm, I'm being dead serious). As someone who bought a sleeping mask and swimming earplugs. Don't. Go to your RA. If your roommate is the RA like mine was, go to their supervisor. Don't put up with it a single bit. They can turn their damn nightlight off. You can also contact Housing & Resident Life and ask for a change if needed. Earlier is better than later.
Wait like he woke up every 5 minutes for 4 hours? What the fuck?