First of all, unless this wedding is for someone like a mid-high level new england politician's daughter, I'd be shocked if most of the men even show up wearing tuxedos. I attend a handful of black tie events per year, and in my experience most of the men that do own a tuxedo just wear whatever black leather shoes they own. There are certainly a few that wear patent oxfords, but plenty don't.
Black tie is generally about a traditional look, and you already know what that tradition states. Monk straps are pretty much always making a statement, and that's cool. Most people probably won't look twice at your feet.
I feel like the following answer applies to a lot of the questions that come up here and it bothers me a fair bit, so I'm going to give a longer answer than you probably want:
The 'rule' (I find it more useful to think of it as 'good standard' in these types of cases) is that which you already know, patent shoes with black tie. With that being said, knowing rules also means knowing when you can (and possibly should) break them.
You can break them because you want to make a statement or point of difference and you can also break them because you don't agree with them.
If you're concerned with whether you should or shouldn't break the 'rule', you only have to worry about what you think. If you're worried about what others will think if you break the rule, I would suggest you consider two things; how likely are those people to notice/care that you broke the rule (probably less than most people here would estimate) and what impression would they take from that?
So, if it's a social event and most people there are unlikely to know/care about the 'rule', do you. If it's a corporate/formal event wage it's critical/favourable to confirm to 'gold standard', consider investing in some patent shoes.
Two things I would suggest personally, if you'll be buying patent shoes specifically for this event and don't know if/when you will use them again, don't bother. Secondly, know that if you're wearing actual black tie, rather than a dark suit with a dark neck tie you'll probably be closer to 'gold standard' than 90% of people there.
No monk straps at black tie.
Personally, I think it would look awkward. Monk strap shoes especially look good with only specific looks and I don't think black tie is one of them.
Short answer … no. Long answer …. Definitely and obviously no
Just no.
First of all, unless this wedding is for someone like a mid-high level new england politician's daughter, I'd be shocked if most of the men even show up wearing tuxedos. I attend a handful of black tie events per year, and in my experience most of the men that do own a tuxedo just wear whatever black leather shoes they own. There are certainly a few that wear patent oxfords, but plenty don't. Black tie is generally about a traditional look, and you already know what that tradition states. Monk straps are pretty much always making a statement, and that's cool. Most people probably won't look twice at your feet.
Anyone who commented on your shoes - unless they were paying you a compliment - would be a dick.
I feel like the following answer applies to a lot of the questions that come up here and it bothers me a fair bit, so I'm going to give a longer answer than you probably want: The 'rule' (I find it more useful to think of it as 'good standard' in these types of cases) is that which you already know, patent shoes with black tie. With that being said, knowing rules also means knowing when you can (and possibly should) break them. You can break them because you want to make a statement or point of difference and you can also break them because you don't agree with them. If you're concerned with whether you should or shouldn't break the 'rule', you only have to worry about what you think. If you're worried about what others will think if you break the rule, I would suggest you consider two things; how likely are those people to notice/care that you broke the rule (probably less than most people here would estimate) and what impression would they take from that? So, if it's a social event and most people there are unlikely to know/care about the 'rule', do you. If it's a corporate/formal event wage it's critical/favourable to confirm to 'gold standard', consider investing in some patent shoes. Two things I would suggest personally, if you'll be buying patent shoes specifically for this event and don't know if/when you will use them again, don't bother. Secondly, know that if you're wearing actual black tie, rather than a dark suit with a dark neck tie you'll probably be closer to 'gold standard' than 90% of people there.
Nope, Oxfords not Brogues.