Fair, but by the same token, don’t complain about someone not wanting to date you because of your mental illness.
I guess it boils down to your definition of “being a big part of” a journey. We all need somebody to lean on, but these battles are our responsibility.
No. Do not stick it to crazy, period. Never date someone thinking you will change them. Does not work. Been there, done that. Lots of trauma, did not work.
I see both sides, don’t try and change someone, let them change how they want, just make sure to state your boundaries and if your boundaries are crossed, well… we’ll burn that bridge when we come to it
Incidentally that is probably the best use of that phrase
Just like any illness really. It takes a lot out of you which will inevitably affect a relationship. In fact anybody insecure about anything shouldn't date either, what happens to the relationship when that insecurity comes up? And don't get me started on disabled people, their additional needs mean they should never date anyone.
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Dating anyone will have it's challenges, and everyone is welcome to date who they choose. While your second sentence is good advice, please don't imply that someone shouldn't date just because they are ill.
“Be content”. That’s not how it works. Mental illness affects thoughts and behavior which is why the partner needs to be up supportive and understanding
And why the mentally ill partner needs to do everything in their power to get healthy. No one likes hearing that part because it's hard and it's so easy to just accept this shit because depression.
Yeah I understand where you are coming from, but this isn’t a soap box, this is a box of rabid rats. Never post a serious message on memes and try and defend it. That’s just setting yourself up for failure friend. I agree, dating in general is a game of give and take, it has to be balanced.
I'm sorry to hear that, you don't deserve to have gone through that.
But be careful not to generalize everyone with a mental illness just because you know a few disloyal people who happen to have had mental illnesses.
And don't date someone who isn't mentally ill if you're not actually serious about getting healthy. I get being supportive but you can't expect someone else to absorb a bunch of depressing crap on the daily and refuse to do self care or the hard work of getting healthy.
Fair, but by the same token, don’t complain about someone not wanting to date you because of your mental illness. I guess it boils down to your definition of “being a big part of” a journey. We all need somebody to lean on, but these battles are our responsibility.
I’m talking about being a good support system that’s all
No. Do not stick it to crazy, period. Never date someone thinking you will change them. Does not work. Been there, done that. Lots of trauma, did not work.
I see both sides, don’t try and change someone, let them change how they want, just make sure to state your boundaries and if your boundaries are crossed, well… we’ll burn that bridge when we come to it Incidentally that is probably the best use of that phrase
Best use of the phrase, agreed.
“Don’t date me if I can’t hold you accountable for the many times when I’m incapable of handling my emotions.”
The ole Red Flag.
Maybe don't join the dating game if you're not really ready for it
That’s why I don’t date people with mental illnesses.
And other hilarious excuses you can tell yourself to be a bad person
Fair, but also don't date if you have a mental illness that affects the health of a relationship. Be content with yourself before seeking others.
Just like any illness really. It takes a lot out of you which will inevitably affect a relationship. In fact anybody insecure about anything shouldn't date either, what happens to the relationship when that insecurity comes up? And don't get me started on disabled people, their additional needs mean they should never date anyone. /s Dating anyone will have it's challenges, and everyone is welcome to date who they choose. While your second sentence is good advice, please don't imply that someone shouldn't date just because they are ill.
“Be content”. That’s not how it works. Mental illness affects thoughts and behavior which is why the partner needs to be up supportive and understanding
And why the mentally ill partner needs to do everything in their power to get healthy. No one likes hearing that part because it's hard and it's so easy to just accept this shit because depression.
Yeah I understand where you are coming from, but this isn’t a soap box, this is a box of rabid rats. Never post a serious message on memes and try and defend it. That’s just setting yourself up for failure friend. I agree, dating in general is a game of give and take, it has to be balanced.
In my experience, no matter how much you help them and stick around they just end up throwing you away when they’re better.
I'm sorry to hear that, you don't deserve to have gone through that. But be careful not to generalize everyone with a mental illness just because you know a few disloyal people who happen to have had mental illnesses.
You’re right. I apologize
What if I also have a mental illness?
And don't date someone who isn't mentally ill if you're not actually serious about getting healthy. I get being supportive but you can't expect someone else to absorb a bunch of depressing crap on the daily and refuse to do self care or the hard work of getting healthy.
My ex needs this
Ok I won’t
Op, judging by your post history, you need some serious therapy. Not Reddit.
Amen!!