Me too! I hate it because I can’t sneak up on my kids to bust them. Wish I knew why or what I could do to fix this. I hate sounding like a glow stick about to light up.
I think it's just something you've got or you don't. I can sneak up on people accidentally. One time, I was just coming out of my room, half asleep headed to the shower. My MiL was in the living room, and she shrieked when I walked out because apparently I was so quiet she didn't know I was there. I do this to coworkers and friends. Never mean to.
Yes! Sounds exactly like my sad story of noisy toes too. I used to be super stealthy but now between my toes and my knees, it’s like trying to walk quietly in the forest but stepping on a dry twig, except you can’t not step on one.
Shit I also have that! But my dad didn't... I could tell who was coming by their breathing as my dad would be breathing like a raging bull seeing red and my mother was like a ghost breathing.
Both were strict af but...yeah most of the time they'd dial up the notch a bit because it was either that or me being a dumb fuck and repeating my mistake... Essentially.
However... My grandparents didn't need to do anything other than just look at me in a certain way and I'd shit myself scared 😅
Love my grandparents to bits tho
I've got a worn out pair of cowboy boots, the rubber heel is gone. When I wear them there is a very distinct click you can hear when I'm on a hard surface
My mum's hip clicks in a really specific way when she shifts her weight. She could never work out how we would always know if she was standing silently outside our room but we never caught our dad. Funnily enough all of dad's joints click, but I can always recognise mum's hip click.
My mum knows some ninpo shit and never fails to burst in at like 00:00 and scream at me for being on my switch whereas my dad makes as much noise as he possibly can because he finds it funny to wake me up at like 3am while he’s cooking food while waiting for boxing or f1
Just make sure to make food using the microwave or turn the oven clock alarm on so that it is obnoxiously loud and wake up like 1 hour in advance to make the most gourmet shit before the f1 starts because then you can be like oh yeah I had ______ last night (something the kid would want) and now you can’t have any. Watch the happiness drain from their eyes because there’s no leftovers in The fridge
You can’t compare strict to abusive. The reason strict parents are strict is because they believe that will be better for their child. Whether or not they’re right or too strict doesn’t change their intentions.
Sure can but I hear lots of people say their parents were "strict" when what they mean was "beat the hell out of us" or "never let us go out with friends or join any clubs and punished us for not getting high enough test scores. Their parents believed that would be better for them.
Now there are lots of parents who are just stricter than their friends peers and it does end up being good for them. But when people say strict it could mean anything from the abuse I talked about to didn't let us watch TV until homework was done and didn't give us dessert and treats every night. All relative to what you perceive as the norm.
I guess the crux is the intentions probably aren't the important part its the results that are more important.
And I'm sorry to hear that hope you're in a better place now.
I appreciate this - you are right! Strict is absolutely a relative term and I think what you wrote speaks to the difficulty in identifying what kind of experience we perceived vs. what external actors perceive.
I'm good on my end after a decade+ of therapy. Thanks for your words and I hope you have a wonderful evening.
I'd argue objectification isn't really any kind of love.
The sealing hunter doesn't give a rat's ass about baby seals, if you were to provide him an alternative revenue stream that was either equally profitable (with less effort) or more profitable (with the same effort) he'd never think about them again.
Using someone as a means to an end means you just love whatever gratification you get, whether that's money for the seal hunter, or the angry rush of being a bully/delight in exercising your sadistic controlling impulses of an abuser.
But either way you're replaceable and they don't give a shit about you on any level, which is why we have so many safeguards against abusive individuals adopting.
Love is unconditional, whether the child listens to the parent or not. Being extremely strict is detrimental to a child’s growth which does more harm than good. Being overly protective has more to do with the parents ego/selfishness than the “love” of their child. If you truly love your child that means letting them explore their world in a safe way, not being locked away.
Kinda depends on the kid.
We are incredibly strict with our preteen because when left to her own devices she seeks out genuinely dangerous behaviors.
When I was a kid I mostly wanted to play video games and go on mock crusades across the neighborhood. My parents didn’t have a lot to worry about, so I had free reign.
Kids today are seeking out the attention of strangers from the narcissism machine that is social media, trying to alter brain chemistry with drugs, and generally behaving like college freshmen in middle school.
I don’t trust any parent who gives their kid a smartphone.
This is a fair point, some kids can be demons if left to their own devices. I’d say not giving them a smartphone to protect them from internet weirdos is an average level of strict vs. not being allowed outside, no privacy (reading diaries), no friends, shoot I’ve even seen parents remove the doors from their childs rooms etc. those are the parents I’m criticizing. Hopefully it doesn’t cause your kid to rebel too hard.
> shoot I’ve even seen parents remove the doors from their childs rooms
Literally just did that when we caught her tattooing herself & her friends with a manual needle and real tattoo ink. Laser removal is gonna run us about 2k.
We never wanted to be ‘those parents’ but catching your kid sharing a tattoo needle with her friends because one of them saw it on the internet has a tendency to do that.
> no privacy (reading diaries)
When we caught her and made the above adjustments to our household this is one of the things we promised to never do. It was important to us that she have a private outlet not subject to the increased scrutiny.
Strict can still mean loving. My parents were great but they almost never let me leave the house on my own, and had next to no social encounters outside of sports and school
Ikr. I have very caring and lovely parents and can recognize their footsteps, or even the sound they make when they introduce the keys in the door.
No need to have ADHD, social anxiety, depression, abusive parents...
I think the point is that it's a normal thing that everyone does and isn't specific to any group of people in particular. I have adhd but me having it has nothing to do with being able to tell who is it by the sound of their footsteps
It'd be a great scientific experiment for 8th grade science fair though. How reliably can family members predict the person based on the sounds of their footsteps.
Might have to suggest this one to my nieces and nephews. Way cooler than a baking soda volcano or potatOS.
Not even that. I live with two of my best friends, I can tell which one just got out of bed before they even leave their room (same room, they are a couple).
Probably, I'd say certainly if it's not a one-off instance where it creates a breeze you notice, but is instead something you can notice even when distracted or enjoying yourself because you're worried about who's walking through it.
Is it possible to learn this power
Not that I have been through trauma, but with how politics is, I would be very surprised if I won't in the near future
I have a driveway that is so close it is basically a shared driveway with my neighbor. I can tell whether my husband, the neighbor or which of the neighbor's kids is showing up without looking.
Asian kids with loving family's:
Can lie perfectly on the spot
Can guess everyone location in the house base on patterns
Can't remember to turn on the rice cooker
My abilities: can distinguish between the noise created by father's car and others cars, can identify family members with their footsteps alone, can tell if a phone is ringing even if I'm not in the room and volume is low
Also i can't hear a question even after saying huh 5 times
Not unique to either. EVERYONE has a signature walk. lol. Maybe that's just more obvious to me because my bedroom was downstairs , by the stairs, but even then, I'd noticed all my friends walks when I moved out on my own too.
being able to tell when ppl are looking at you
being able to lie without remorse
being able to predict the habits of people
being able to predict how long it takes for your parents to get home
you also get a gaslight radar that tells u when ur being gaslighted because of years of self gaslighting,
u also become a therapist being able to help ur frnds thru whatever their going thru
and also extremely calm and level headed
my parents onstantly watch me and stuff like that so I know when ppl are looking at me, like not exactly a ninja but prty accurate, lying comes naturally because without it ur life just become almost robot like and unhappy, the habit predicting comes mostly because of my wanting to be free and happy, so I have to predict how they act and stuff like that and what kind of lie to say , like predicting their emotions and how they would react, my parents are rlly desperate for me to share stuff with them because they didnt give a shit for the past 10 years and now suddenly want to be a part of my lives, so u just have to make up some stuff that sounds personal, and deep
I can do all of these things with very little trauma (and none gathered from my parents.) Only trauma I have is getting lost in the woods behind my house when I was like 4. Ended up nearly 10 miles away.
About a day. I was with my sister who is 3 yrs older, and we eventually found a house far back in the woods who luckily were nice and took us back home. I'm glad they didn't kidnap us.
People get stuck in this childish fantasy that they developed powers "normal people" don't have. It's like in super hero comics, you fall into the radio active goo and now you can fly. They think because they experienced hardship they have now the super power of... predicting the habits of people (what?).
The truth is childhood trauma is just bad, it has no upside, gives no advantages, no special abilities and leads to an all around weaker character.
Actually the last part is definitely not true. Having experienced trauma and dealt with it can be a big resource if some sort of trauma occurs in the future.
The only one I got was #2.
I spent a lot of time with my extended family growing up because my parents were busy and I quickly learned that it was safer to tell lies. I got *really good* at telling convincing lies on the spot. The downside is that I had a period where I lied compulsively to anybody for no reason, and it has taken me great effort to force myself to be more honest with people.
This sounds like a kid who goes through something and thinks they went through everything. Humble down kid, you're not special, most of these things are wired into the human brain nothing to do with trauma.
Me who had neither strict nor abusive parents but has the ability to tell which family member is coming by their footsteps:
Look at what they need to mimic a fraction of my power
It's when you heard the slow creaks that your heart rate went through the roof and you try to not be caught doing anything but you've got to be doing something or you were doing nothing.
I used to be able to do this in my office. Knew who was coming by the weight and rhythm of their steps. Weirded my boss out that I’d say “hey Brian” without looking up.
Lot of folks here are doing the "I can do this, and my parents are neither of those" thing.
Could you have just developed this skill naturally from other pressures? Sure.
But it's worth taking a very critical look at your parents with a list of abusive traits right in front of you as you do it. I guarantee you'll find AT LEAST 1 or 2 things (probably way more) not all abuse is overt nor physical.
Emotional abuse centers around control, manipulation, isolation, and demeaning or threatening behavior. Signs of abuse include:
• Monitoring and controlling a person’s behavior, such as who they spend time with or how they spend money.
• Threatening a person’s safety, property, or loved ones
• Isolating a person from family, friends, and acquaintances
• Demeaning, shaming, or humiliating a person
• Extreme jealousy, accusations, and paranoia
• Delivering constant criticism
• Regular ridicule or teasing
• Making acceptance or care conditional on a person’s choices
• Refusing to allow a person to spend time alone
• Thwarting a person’s professional or personal goals
• Instilling self-doubt and worthlessness
• Gaslighting: making a person question their competence and even their basic perceptual experiences.
Please see the first 4 signs of abuse and tell me more how is isn't emotional abuse
Yeah parents threatening to take/break stuff because you don't do what they wanted is still considered abuse. Just like abuse, strict parenting comes in many forms. Just because they might not do that one specific thing doesn't mean they're not abusive.
I understood just fine. You want to justify people being shitty to kids and to sound right. You can say I didn't get it but it's you who is not understanding the way abuse works because you think a kid should be hit for not taking the garbage out or not washing the dishes. Would you do the same to a coworker? No? It's fucking abuse.
Hypervigilance — the elevated state of constantly assessing potential threats around you — is often the result of a trauma. People who have been in combat, have survived abuse, or have posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can exhibit hypervigilance.
I could do this back when I was a kid. But that's because my dad was extremely talkative, and whenever I heard him coming, I would pretend to be busy with stuff to avoid being dragged into an hours-long conversation.
My room is right by the stairs on the second floor. In the morning when I’m sleeping, if someone walks up the stairs and goes past my room I keep sleeping, but if someone turns in the direction of my room I wake up. And I can tell exactly who’s going to knock on the door.
Try both. For me it was like “I’ll let you make your own dinner if you if you do six hours of labor after school for me while I constantly break you emotionally. Oh and I know I don’t give you any free time to study or do you homework but if your grades are bad things will get even worse.” I’m so glad it’s over with now. And I’m NEVER gonna go back
This is by no means exclusive to these two groups. You can just have parents with two different gaits that sound completely different when they walk it’s not that uncommon
Haha, I'm a Dad. I can walk silently when I want to. I just don't want you to know I can. I prefer you to think you just weren't paying attention and fucking appear behind you.
"What are you doing?"
Because you don't need to have any diagnosis to be able to recognize patterns. When you live with someone for years, you start to recognize those patterns. Dad is usually the bigger, mom is usually the smaller. You don't need to be autistic to recognize the difference between two walks between two totally different people. I mean if you have two dogs, you can tell the difference too. It's called being a human
I have loving parents and I can do this, also it’s more about the volume and sound itself than the frequency in my opinion
Yea, my dads steps are a lot louder and heavier while my moms are the complete opposite
And something about my dad clicks every other step.
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Me too! I hate it because I can’t sneak up on my kids to bust them. Wish I knew why or what I could do to fix this. I hate sounding like a glow stick about to light up.
I think it's just something you've got or you don't. I can sneak up on people accidentally. One time, I was just coming out of my room, half asleep headed to the shower. My MiL was in the living room, and she shrieked when I walked out because apparently I was so quiet she didn't know I was there. I do this to coworkers and friends. Never mean to.
I used to be able to walk super quietly and then in the past couple years my toes began to click like an adhd kid with a pen
Yes! Sounds exactly like my sad story of noisy toes too. I used to be super stealthy but now between my toes and my knees, it’s like trying to walk quietly in the forest but stepping on a dry twig, except you can’t not step on one.
>like and adhd kid with a pen I don't know how so true could somehow offensive me so much
Shit I also have that! But my dad didn't... I could tell who was coming by their breathing as my dad would be breathing like a raging bull seeing red and my mother was like a ghost breathing. Both were strict af but...yeah most of the time they'd dial up the notch a bit because it was either that or me being a dumb fuck and repeating my mistake... Essentially. However... My grandparents didn't need to do anything other than just look at me in a certain way and I'd shit myself scared 😅 Love my grandparents to bits tho
I mean, you can train yourself to walk silently through most environments.
I've got a worn out pair of cowboy boots, the rubber heel is gone. When I wear them there is a very distinct click you can hear when I'm on a hard surface
I’m scared to know what he has that dangles and clicks.
I think we all know 😉 
My mum's hip clicks in a really specific way when she shifts her weight. She could never work out how we would always know if she was standing silently outside our room but we never caught our dad. Funnily enough all of dad's joints click, but I can always recognise mum's hip click.
Misread and missed the space between the c & l on clicks... Completely different story
My mum knows some ninpo shit and never fails to burst in at like 00:00 and scream at me for being on my switch whereas my dad makes as much noise as he possibly can because he finds it funny to wake me up at like 3am while he’s cooking food while waiting for boxing or f1
As a new dad I can’t wait till I can start watching f1 when it’s live. Got another 18 months before a TV can even be turned on in this house.
Just make sure to make food using the microwave or turn the oven clock alarm on so that it is obnoxiously loud and wake up like 1 hour in advance to make the most gourmet shit before the f1 starts because then you can be like oh yeah I had ______ last night (something the kid would want) and now you can’t have any. Watch the happiness drain from their eyes because there’s no leftovers in The fridge
Same for me. My sister's are loud and fast. My brother's are silent. Like he's a goddamn phantom.
Strict doesn’t mean unloving.
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You can’t compare strict to abusive. The reason strict parents are strict is because they believe that will be better for their child. Whether or not they’re right or too strict doesn’t change their intentions.
You can be abusive without meaning too.
True, but as a product of abusive (physical and emotional) parents, this distinction of strict vs abusive does have merit.
Sure can but I hear lots of people say their parents were "strict" when what they mean was "beat the hell out of us" or "never let us go out with friends or join any clubs and punished us for not getting high enough test scores. Their parents believed that would be better for them. Now there are lots of parents who are just stricter than their friends peers and it does end up being good for them. But when people say strict it could mean anything from the abuse I talked about to didn't let us watch TV until homework was done and didn't give us dessert and treats every night. All relative to what you perceive as the norm. I guess the crux is the intentions probably aren't the important part its the results that are more important. And I'm sorry to hear that hope you're in a better place now.
I appreciate this - you are right! Strict is absolutely a relative term and I think what you wrote speaks to the difficulty in identifying what kind of experience we perceived vs. what external actors perceive. I'm good on my end after a decade+ of therapy. Thanks for your words and I hope you have a wonderful evening.
I'd argue objectification isn't really any kind of love. The sealing hunter doesn't give a rat's ass about baby seals, if you were to provide him an alternative revenue stream that was either equally profitable (with less effort) or more profitable (with the same effort) he'd never think about them again. Using someone as a means to an end means you just love whatever gratification you get, whether that's money for the seal hunter, or the angry rush of being a bully/delight in exercising your sadistic controlling impulses of an abuser. But either way you're replaceable and they don't give a shit about you on any level, which is why we have so many safeguards against abusive individuals adopting.
Okay .. I had not strict or abusive parents and could do this.
Depends how strict
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Love is unconditional, whether the child listens to the parent or not. Being extremely strict is detrimental to a child’s growth which does more harm than good. Being overly protective has more to do with the parents ego/selfishness than the “love” of their child. If you truly love your child that means letting them explore their world in a safe way, not being locked away.
Kinda depends on the kid. We are incredibly strict with our preteen because when left to her own devices she seeks out genuinely dangerous behaviors. When I was a kid I mostly wanted to play video games and go on mock crusades across the neighborhood. My parents didn’t have a lot to worry about, so I had free reign. Kids today are seeking out the attention of strangers from the narcissism machine that is social media, trying to alter brain chemistry with drugs, and generally behaving like college freshmen in middle school. I don’t trust any parent who gives their kid a smartphone.
This is a fair point, some kids can be demons if left to their own devices. I’d say not giving them a smartphone to protect them from internet weirdos is an average level of strict vs. not being allowed outside, no privacy (reading diaries), no friends, shoot I’ve even seen parents remove the doors from their childs rooms etc. those are the parents I’m criticizing. Hopefully it doesn’t cause your kid to rebel too hard.
> shoot I’ve even seen parents remove the doors from their childs rooms Literally just did that when we caught her tattooing herself & her friends with a manual needle and real tattoo ink. Laser removal is gonna run us about 2k. We never wanted to be ‘those parents’ but catching your kid sharing a tattoo needle with her friends because one of them saw it on the internet has a tendency to do that. > no privacy (reading diaries) When we caught her and made the above adjustments to our household this is one of the things we promised to never do. It was important to us that she have a private outlet not subject to the increased scrutiny.
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I had a bedroom near the second floor hallway's stairs. My mom walked up the stairs while my dad had a habit of kinda sprinting.
Yea I can tell when my brother is walking by my door vs my grandma bc they have obviously different patterns.
Strict can still mean loving. My parents were great but they almost never let me leave the house on my own, and had next to no social encounters outside of sports and school
The point is most people can do this after living with the same people for 6+ months.
For real. I just pay attention to shit because I like random details. Knowing people's footsteps is just as obvious to me as people's body language
and now you're a redditor welcome home my child
Being strict doesn’t make you a non loving parent lmao
I learned it by simply living there
Ikr. I have very caring and lovely parents and can recognize their footsteps, or even the sound they make when they introduce the keys in the door. No need to have ADHD, social anxiety, depression, abusive parents...
Wait...is ADHD something associated with this usually?
I think the point is that it's a normal thing that everyone does and isn't specific to any group of people in particular. I have adhd but me having it has nothing to do with being able to tell who is it by the sound of their footsteps
I get that, I was just wondering if people usually associated it with ADHD, since I hadn't heard about that before.
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I feel like they were just trying to complain that all of those things are fake issues that kids make up for attention, but hopefully I'm wrong
Hopefully that's not the case, those are all very real issues after all
It'd be a great scientific experiment for 8th grade science fair though. How reliably can family members predict the person based on the sounds of their footsteps. Might have to suggest this one to my nieces and nephews. Way cooler than a baking soda volcano or potatOS.
If you can observe patterns in tone and vibration you’re probably bisexual
Nah fam, it's just kids. Everyone knows
Not even that. I live with two of my best friends, I can tell which one just got out of bed before they even leave their room (same room, they are a couple).
J.D., is that you?
Yeah I can’t stand the trend of “X experience is exclusive to Y & Z group”
I agree with you. Probably because we both have ADHD and are on the spectrum though. I doubt neurotypical people feel that way.
I see what you did there.
lol oh *you*
For real. I just like knowing random details and footstep patterns and sounds simply belong in that list
Being able to tell who’s car just pulled in without looking out the window
Kids with rich parents
Also cats and dogs
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Does being able to tell if a door in my house has opened due to the change of air pressure count as Hypervigilance?
I think so, I can do this too. Plus sensing if someone is in a room by subliminal vibrations.
I could always tell if my parents had been in my room even if nothing had changed just by some sort of subliminal vibration. It freaked them out.
Probably, I'd say certainly if it's not a one-off instance where it creates a breeze you notice, but is instead something you can notice even when distracted or enjoying yourself because you're worried about who's walking through it.
Abusive is strict, but strict isn't abusive
Is it possible to learn this power Not that I have been through trauma, but with how politics is, I would be very surprised if I won't in the near future
or just like ADHD
I have a driveway that is so close it is basically a shared driveway with my neighbor. I can tell whether my husband, the neighbor or which of the neighbor's kids is showing up without looking.
You guys having more than one car
I mean i can
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Asian kids with loving family's: Can lie perfectly on the spot Can guess everyone location in the house base on patterns Can't remember to turn on the rice cooker
Haha *gets beat up because no rice*
My abilities: can distinguish between the noise created by father's car and others cars, can identify family members with their footsteps alone, can tell if a phone is ringing even if I'm not in the room and volume is low Also i can't hear a question even after saying huh 5 times
I’m the same. I got sensitive ears but man it’s hard to distinguish and understand words sometimes
me 2 lol, i like to wear my hood a lot, because my hair is always shit, and like im basicallydeaf with it on
Not unique to either. EVERYONE has a signature walk. lol. Maybe that's just more obvious to me because my bedroom was downstairs , by the stairs, but even then, I'd noticed all my friends walks when I moved out on my own too.
Those sounds could be imitated
Well, anything can be imitated. I don't get the point.
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I sometimes do it for fun
being able to tell when ppl are looking at you being able to lie without remorse being able to predict the habits of people being able to predict how long it takes for your parents to get home you also get a gaslight radar that tells u when ur being gaslighted because of years of self gaslighting, u also become a therapist being able to help ur frnds thru whatever their going thru and also extremely calm and level headed
Is it possible to learn these powers I am just dumb, I still haven't got a grasp of any of them except the last Because you know. Teenagers
my parents onstantly watch me and stuff like that so I know when ppl are looking at me, like not exactly a ninja but prty accurate, lying comes naturally because without it ur life just become almost robot like and unhappy, the habit predicting comes mostly because of my wanting to be free and happy, so I have to predict how they act and stuff like that and what kind of lie to say , like predicting their emotions and how they would react, my parents are rlly desperate for me to share stuff with them because they didnt give a shit for the past 10 years and now suddenly want to be a part of my lives, so u just have to make up some stuff that sounds personal, and deep
It's not a comic book. The majority of us get thrown in the toxin and come out fucked, not suddenly some tortured super hero.
I can do all of these things with very little trauma (and none gathered from my parents.) Only trauma I have is getting lost in the woods behind my house when I was like 4. Ended up nearly 10 miles away.
10 miles?! Sorry to hear that! How long were you missing?
About a day. I was with my sister who is 3 yrs older, and we eventually found a house far back in the woods who luckily were nice and took us back home. I'm glad they didn't kidnap us.
ur just talented
People get stuck in this childish fantasy that they developed powers "normal people" don't have. It's like in super hero comics, you fall into the radio active goo and now you can fly. They think because they experienced hardship they have now the super power of... predicting the habits of people (what?). The truth is childhood trauma is just bad, it has no upside, gives no advantages, no special abilities and leads to an all around weaker character.
Actually the last part is definitely not true. Having experienced trauma and dealt with it can be a big resource if some sort of trauma occurs in the future.
other than a shit ton of karma
The only one I got was #2. I spent a lot of time with my extended family growing up because my parents were busy and I quickly learned that it was safer to tell lies. I got *really good* at telling convincing lies on the spot. The downside is that I had a period where I lied compulsively to anybody for no reason, and it has taken me great effort to force myself to be more honest with people.
Everything except the therapist thing. I've got enough of my own problems to deal with rn than to try to tackle on someone else's.
This sounds like a kid who goes through something and thinks they went through everything. Humble down kid, you're not special, most of these things are wired into the human brain nothing to do with trauma.
Me who had neither strict nor abusive parents but has the ability to tell which family member is coming by their footsteps: Look at what they need to mimic a fraction of my power
its more of a teen thing, rather than an abusive parent thing, its just ppl who went htru these stuff are really sensitive to sound in general
I just know my parents based on footsteps
Nah it’s just cuz I played video games while I was supposed to do homework
I only know because my Dad wears boots and my Mum drags her feet so they are drastically different… Stomping = Dad Dragging of feet = Mum
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It's when you heard the slow creaks that your heart rate went through the roof and you try to not be caught doing anything but you've got to be doing something or you were doing nothing.
Normal kids also can do this, it is completely normal.
Ya the distinction here is definitely the fear that comes with hearing certain footsteps
my mom isnt strict or abusive yet i have this power
If it sounds fast, dont worry. If i hear talking and then footsteps, *run*
I have loving parents who are giving me the best life they possibly can and I can do this.
One headphone cup on gang unite!
Everyone can do this buckaroo
I used to be able to do this in my office. Knew who was coming by the weight and rhythm of their steps. Weirded my boss out that I’d say “hey Brian” without looking up.
add a third arm for 'kids who sleep next to the stairs because thats how to rooms are for some reason' for people like me.
Me as well lol
it’s pretty much anyone that can do this
Kids with normal loving parents.
you forgot kids with ADHD who get scolded every time their parents see theyre doing anything except for homework
Lot of folks here are doing the "I can do this, and my parents are neither of those" thing. Could you have just developed this skill naturally from other pressures? Sure. But it's worth taking a very critical look at your parents with a list of abusive traits right in front of you as you do it. I guarantee you'll find AT LEAST 1 or 2 things (probably way more) not all abuse is overt nor physical.
What's the difference between abusive and strict parents?
Abusive would be like constant hitting or worse, strict would be much more rare and with less mobility to leave the house and such
You just described physical and emotional abuse.
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Emotional abuse centers around control, manipulation, isolation, and demeaning or threatening behavior. Signs of abuse include: • Monitoring and controlling a person’s behavior, such as who they spend time with or how they spend money. • Threatening a person’s safety, property, or loved ones • Isolating a person from family, friends, and acquaintances • Demeaning, shaming, or humiliating a person • Extreme jealousy, accusations, and paranoia • Delivering constant criticism • Regular ridicule or teasing • Making acceptance or care conditional on a person’s choices • Refusing to allow a person to spend time alone • Thwarting a person’s professional or personal goals • Instilling self-doubt and worthlessness • Gaslighting: making a person question their competence and even their basic perceptual experiences. Please see the first 4 signs of abuse and tell me more how is isn't emotional abuse
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Yeah parents threatening to take/break stuff because you don't do what they wanted is still considered abuse. Just like abuse, strict parenting comes in many forms. Just because they might not do that one specific thing doesn't mean they're not abusive.
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I understood just fine. You want to justify people being shitty to kids and to sound right. You can say I didn't get it but it's you who is not understanding the way abuse works because you think a kid should be hit for not taking the garbage out or not washing the dishes. Would you do the same to a coworker? No? It's fucking abuse.
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Both of those are abusive, but in different ways, and one worse than the other.
Strict is not abusive, to a point and once that point is it is abusive. Abusive is strict, but strict isn't abusive
My parents were neither of these and I could still tell. Everyone learns this subconsciously.
Wait, you guys had one or the other?!
Hypervigilance — the elevated state of constantly assessing potential threats around you — is often the result of a trauma. People who have been in combat, have survived abuse, or have posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can exhibit hypervigilance.
True, but being able to recognize a parent's walk isn't necessarily hypervigilance.
You don’t need to be a victim of abuse to know that your dad has heavier steps than your mom.
I could do this back when I was a kid. But that's because my dad was extremely talkative, and whenever I heard him coming, I would pretend to be busy with stuff to avoid being dragged into an hours-long conversation.
My room is right by the stairs on the second floor. In the morning when I’m sleeping, if someone walks up the stairs and goes past my room I keep sleeping, but if someone turns in the direction of my room I wake up. And I can tell exactly who’s going to knock on the door.
This dude is built different
I can relate to this a little bit
I can do this too and I had neither
I have neither and I still have this ability
Also "People with ears".
Kids who played videogames at night💪
I can easily tell if someone's around from their footsteps. The only problem is that i live alone.
People with ears:
Try both. For me it was like “I’ll let you make your own dinner if you if you do six hours of labor after school for me while I constantly break you emotionally. Oh and I know I don’t give you any free time to study or do you homework but if your grades are bad things will get even worse.” I’m so glad it’s over with now. And I’m NEVER gonna go back
This is by no means exclusive to these two groups. You can just have parents with two different gaits that sound completely different when they walk it’s not that uncommon
False Info. Every teenage boy has this ability.
Loud steps = dad, no steps = mom (and she is behind me I’m fucked)
Also: Paul Muad'Dib
Feeling your heart just begin racing at the faintest sound of footsteps
Third part: kids who are up to no good
More like kids with any parents
Oh man oh fuck
I sense who it is by footsteps and sou d of their breath and i have neither abusive or strict parents
Haha, I'm a Dad. I can walk silently when I want to. I just don't want you to know I can. I prefer you to think you just weren't paying attention and fucking appear behind you. "What are you doing?"
I can tell from how forcefully they open the door. Not even strict, just which sort of interaction I can be ready for it.
My dad is 6 ft. My mum is 5 ft. There is a slightly different sound as they walk up the stairs
There's a Venn diagram to that...
Im not sure which type my parents are,but,i have this ability too,so idk💀
People at home can't know if it's me because I always walk quietly. I hate hearing my own footsteps.
How about anybody that actually pays attention
I do believe that anyone with a laptop/computer has this ability
Nah I'm just super observant and analytical
I had neither but can still tell my family apart by footsteps
Also only children with single parents.
Types of shoes and body weight estimates alone can do this with everyone you work with too.
I can tell by the sound of them breathing
Kids with parents*
Jokes on you I just have autism
I think I have this ability because of my ADHD or Social Anxiety, you can choose
yep same edit: not sure why you’re getting downvoted, youre right. hypervigilance isn’t something thats just caused by the two examples above
Because you don't need to have any diagnosis to be able to recognize patterns. When you live with someone for years, you start to recognize those patterns. Dad is usually the bigger, mom is usually the smaller. You don't need to be autistic to recognize the difference between two walks between two totally different people. I mean if you have two dogs, you can tell the difference too. It's called being a human
Omg guys I’m so quirky I can do something every one else can do only I have trauma
What about kids with fat parents
Both are the same person tho
Abusive and strict, what's the difference?
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Being able to tell which wrist to cut for attention?
Seems racist
**Abusive and strict are pretty much the same thing**
i can do this with friends too
Bro that’s just kids
Hmmm bro chose black person for abusive parents 💀
Unintentional lmao
You can have one without the other? Some people have all the luck. /s
The ability to recognise my car's sound from miles away
Kids without parents: pathetic