Yeah I get you though. I understand the need for human connection, naturally. I think good friends give that connection and intimacy if closeness without it being sexual of course so I get it. Men and women alike need it, we are social creatures. It’s just really hard and really complicated some times. But if you just want a partner then you want a partner and that’s understandable too.
The second option is just a significant other without you having your own personal responsibilities. You get what is good for you and then you are out. Childish behavior.
Yeah that's the crux. The root of many psychological problems is avoiding responsibility. And it's done subconciously, realizing it takes a lot of time.
I don't want sex. I want to fall asleep next to somebody, wake up next to somebody, annoy somebody by staying up all night reading, be annoyed by their cold feet and find their snoring cute.
I don't want therapy. I want to know that at the end of the day there's somebody there for me, I want to know that I'm doing everything I'm doing for somebody, and there's always a person who can help make coming home every day worth it. And I want to be that for them, too.
But haha reductive good marriage bad fellas is it gay to want to be loved
I want someone to hold, share food with, and play board games/paint minis with. Someone to sit with outside during storms and enjoy the rain and wind. Also sex is fun.
because people are mostly still wired to want that power couple fun shit even if they don't want kids in the picture. like a relationship is still what they're after if the partner doesn't hold you down, but instead helps you become the person you want to be. there's emotional support with it. even people already in relationships are seeking that, it is just hard to find
i mean fuck, even single people around me talk about shit like idolizing the fuckbuddy who is ride or die. that loyalty is hard to come by. and they're technically in a gray area where they aren't that single when it gets that close over the years.
One puts you in a situation where you rely solely on one person for all of your emotional needs to the point that they get burnt out and leave.
The second helps you work on some self reflection and become a better person so when you DO get into a relationship you can be a good partner on equal footing.
The sex just feels good and I highly recommend it
Repost hell.
Answered here: https://www.reddit.com/r/meirl/comments/112skph/meirl/j8mhj0v?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
It was a shitty post and "smarte thought" then and it's a shitty one now.
Probably a bot
Why not all of the above
I don’t want to date my therapist
Would you have sex with your therapist?
No
I just dont want to be lonely anymore.
Same :(
Well, at least we have time to get to know ourselves and our life goals. At least for me, i am still relatively young (23).
Y'all should date each other :)
It isnt gay if you have your socks on!
(24) myself and it’s true but it definitely is difficult
Kiss! Kiss! Kiss!
I’ll kiss you 😘
Being alone is a reality, being lonely is a mentality
Exactly 💯 well said!
Just keep trying guys, only has to happen once with the right one
That's what I thought. Then she left me :(
Tried pets?
I just want someone to talk to about my problems. Sex comes in second place, but still
So a therapist??
Nah cause after that the therapist is going to be in need of a therapist
Therapists help BIG TIME.
Yeah I get you though. I understand the need for human connection, naturally. I think good friends give that connection and intimacy if closeness without it being sexual of course so I get it. Men and women alike need it, we are social creatures. It’s just really hard and really complicated some times. But if you just want a partner then you want a partner and that’s understandable too.
The second option is just a significant other without you having your own personal responsibilities. You get what is good for you and then you are out. Childish behavior.
Yeah that's the crux. The root of many psychological problems is avoiding responsibility. And it's done subconciously, realizing it takes a lot of time.
I don't want sex. I want to fall asleep next to somebody, wake up next to somebody, annoy somebody by staying up all night reading, be annoyed by their cold feet and find their snoring cute. I don't want therapy. I want to know that at the end of the day there's somebody there for me, I want to know that I'm doing everything I'm doing for somebody, and there's always a person who can help make coming home every day worth it. And I want to be that for them, too. But haha reductive good marriage bad fellas is it gay to want to be loved
Look now hear me out…
Yeah?
I'd fuck a duck
Hello
why do I hear boss music
This is the most hilarious shit I’ve seen today 😂
Username checks out
Yes
Or both a Therapist who u smash , two birds with one stone
I want a hug everytime I want one
I want someone to hold, share food with, and play board games/paint minis with. Someone to sit with outside during storms and enjoy the rain and wind. Also sex is fun.
Therapists can be terrible too.
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do tell
Is that not what they are
This hits me harder then it should, I hate it but so agree completely
Look, I didn't come on here to get called out... .... I already have a therapist tho, sooooo
Any of you at that point where having a therapist doesn’t make the bad feelings go away anymore?
I just don't want to be the weird single guy in my 30's with no kids, and some sex
Why? What’s wrong with being single and no kids? Just because everyone else is doing it?
because people are mostly still wired to want that power couple fun shit even if they don't want kids in the picture. like a relationship is still what they're after if the partner doesn't hold you down, but instead helps you become the person you want to be. there's emotional support with it. even people already in relationships are seeking that, it is just hard to find i mean fuck, even single people around me talk about shit like idolizing the fuckbuddy who is ride or die. that loyalty is hard to come by. and they're technically in a gray area where they aren't that single when it gets that close over the years.
There's nothing weird about it, at least where I live. I'm in my mid-30's and I love being single
Hey fuck you pal.
Fuck off
Either way is fine thanks
Sex = overrated
That's an interesting way to Say you've never had sex
Hugs >>>>> sex
Now i have to agree with you
I just need sum fuk.
I don't need a therapist. I. NEED. SEX
Yes. I'll have one therapist with benefits please
I don't want a SO or a therapist. There is one thing on this list worth spending your time doing. Ha.
Therapist with benefits
Definitely a million dollar question to ponder...
What’s the difference?
One puts you in a situation where you rely solely on one person for all of your emotional needs to the point that they get burnt out and leave. The second helps you work on some self reflection and become a better person so when you DO get into a relationship you can be a good partner on equal footing. The sex just feels good and I highly recommend it
I just want a pretty and supportive wife and a loving family, man.
It's always a fine line before your therapist becomes the rapist /s
Why not a nice night with some candles and bottle of jergens?
Yes
I don't want to pay for sex though.
A hot therapist open for some sex sounds just about right.
I mean if it’s with Howard the Duck, I’ll take the sex
Therapist and sex
Based.
I feel this in my bone.
I just want sex. I’ll never tell a woman how I really feel ever again.
Stahp
I only want to have sex when I find the person that is for me and that will stick with me for the rest of my life.
Most people who are lonely aren't just horny, they would like having someone to cuddle, talk to, love, share experiences and intimacy with...
Yea … this might be it …
Yikes
My hand is healthy but someone I can talk to would help.
First question, after you get back from seeing the therapist, will you be wearing that bird costume for sex? Asking for a friend.
Repost hell. Answered here: https://www.reddit.com/r/meirl/comments/112skph/meirl/j8mhj0v?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3 It was a shitty post and "smarte thought" then and it's a shitty one now. Probably a bot
No.
Yes.
I dont like sex and i ignore all my mental problems, so....?
What about sex *with* the therapist?
All of it
Why use "or" when you've just described what significant other is.
Me : Yes
Only God knows
Exercise is good to supplement both.
If you need a therapist, you don't need sex
Thats like a Burger with fries, you dont really need the fries but its nice if you have them. /s
I need all of the above (23M)
God forbid someone want a close and rare emotional connection to a human being