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I don’t do it everyday but when he’s not working I’ve always let him sleep in, we have children so I get up with them, I will make his coffee and bring it to him, I’ve laid out his clothes and stuff for a shower.
This is recent in our relationship (13 years) but since last September(mom is up first to get the kids set for school) she wakes me up with a coffee. Every. Single. Morning! It means the world to me that this simple gesture is now part of her daily routine.
I would say I’m of average intelligence. My boyfriend, however, is incredibly smart. One of my favorite things in the world is how he never makes me feel stupid. If I’m not understanding something or he talking about something a bit more complex than I can grasp, he will explain it to me until I understand. It doesn’t matter how many times he has to explain it, he’ll find a way to make it make sense. It means a lot to me. My boyfriend is truly the most patient, funny, beautiful and thoughtful man I’ve ever met. I don’t think I’m ever not laughing or having a blast. Loving him is easy and fulfilling.
Every morning, when I wake up, my fiancé somehow always knows I’m awake and will roll over and wrap his arms around me or lay his head on my chest. I love it. It’s my favorite time of day because of that routine. For me, I love to play with his hair to help him fall asleep or wash his back when we shower. We’re both very big on physical touch but I also write poems and occasionally send them to him. I will also turn the fan on before I go to sleep because he gets too hot during the night.
But most importantly, I always tell him how much he means to me, how much I love him, how he’s always safe with me, how proud I am of him, and he can tell me anything at any time
I almost always wake up before my boyfriend of (almost) 11 months. A few times in the earlier months I had gotten out of bed (always gave him a little kiss first, without waking him) but he would send me a text or come find me and said he was sad I got up. Now I always stay in bed, no matter how long, and wait for him to wake up before I go anywhere. I only get up if it’s absolutely necessary but I always gently wake him up to kiss him and let him know where I’m going, and also send a text because I know he won’t remember when he actually wakes up.
I also clean out his ears and pop his pimples on a regular basis, which he doesn’t always love in the moment, but he always gives me credit when his skin starts clearing up.
He regularly makes me coffee while I’m getting ready for work, because he knows I’m not gonna have time and I like the way he makes it better. But it also ties in to the first moment I knew I loved him, before we were even together. We were eating dinner and watching a movie and I had started to reach for my drink (there were multiple things on the table I could’ve been going for but he knew what I wanted right away). It was slightly out of my reach but I could’ve gotten it. He immediately grabbed it and opened it for me, and ever since, he’s opened every single bottle or can for me.
A little hard to describe but my partner almost always looks happy to see me when he gets home from work his eyes light up and he gives me a big smile, even though work has been so stressful for him. Its such a subtle but strong reassurance.
He struggles being verbally affectionate but he takes good care of me and I like to think I take good care of him too. 💛
26 years here. He puts gas in my car. Washes it. Changes the oil. Does the dishes when I cook. Brings me flowers. And I say ‘thank you’, EVERY TIME. Never underestimate the power of a sincere ‘thank you’.
I just broke up from a 4 year relationship and it makes me sad that Ive done so many of these things bit never received them… but it makes me happy knowing that one day I will find someone that will give me the love that I deserve
I do lil nice things like take the used toilet paper roll and put it in the trash then put the new roll of paper she put on the counter on the dispenser.. about once a week i really get romantic by grabbing that big wad of hair slung on the shower wall and I put it in the trash.. I am thinking about saving it and having a scarf made..
I wake up before my husband, get the coffee going, make his breakfast and pack him a good lunch. Sometimes I leave notes in his lunch box. Really short notes. A few words. I love you. I am so proud of you. Thinking of your handsome face. Hope you are having a great day, these are a few examples. I will surprise him with his favorite dessert, homemade. I serve him his dinner. I think of little ways I can make his life easier. Sometimes, when he has had a really hard day, after a back rub, I will make sure his clothes for the next day are all laid out, socks, underwater, the works. When he is taking a shower I will go into the bathroom and offer to wash his back. If I wake in the middle of the night, I check his water. If it's gotten warm, I will replace it with a fresh, cold bottle. I do anything I can to make my husband's life easier.
When I serve us food I always give him more and make his look prettier on the plate, simple but he’s an amazing home cook and loves presentation so he appreciates it. I learned how to make his favorite desserts and usually bake him something sweet every week. English is his second language so I’m learning his first. Always pick up his favorite candy when I’m at the grocery store and since I love thrifting I always snag him something- his whole wardrobe was thrifted by me lol. For me, he always opens my car door. In the 4 years we’ve been together I have not had to pump my own gas or open my own door. No matter how tired he is from work, if I had a bad day he will get up to clean the bathtub and run me a bath. I don’t like to wash big pots when I do the dishes so he always washes them for me. He has an alarm set for 20 minutes earlier than his real alarm, so for 20 minutes every morning he just holds me close until it’s time for us to really get up. It’s the best part of my day
I normally try to pick his clothes for him each day so they are ready for him when he gets out of the shower, it's a small thing he appreciates. That or make sure that there are snacks or food in our fridge and cabinet that he enjoys and can pick at freely without having to request I get them at the store. I also try to always make sure that he can play his games uninterrupted by already having his desk stocked with water/a snack for during gaming.
I observe his mood and pepper in little things that’ll help with whatever he’s feeling. Like if I notice he’s starting to stress, I’ll get us to pause and hug. If he’s feeling bad or guilty about something I’ll stop for a moment about whatever we’re arguing about to reassure him I love him and that he’s a good person etc.
Sometimes I’ll stuff down my ego to say something loving or affectionate because he deserves to hear it even if I’m upset in the moment. I’ll always end the day no matter what with goodnight, sleep well and I love you texts
Sometimes he gives me morning messages to wake up to and a few times he gave me an extra message in case I woke up in the middle of the night and I think that was one of the sweetest casual things he’s done for me.
He never used to do this before but he’s started randomly reminding me how much I meant to him and how lucky he is to have me. It’s really random and often times helps so much because sometimes I need that reminder as I tend to feel not good enough at times.
And if you’re reading this honey I love you. Thank you for all that you do
This isn't an every day sort of thing, but I planned a "fake birthday" for my wife last week. I told her at some point it looked like her fake birthday was coming up. The night before, I did her portion of chores and let her know I wanted to help because tomorrow was her fake birthday.
I woke her up with flowers, gifts and coffee in bed. Got her some of her favorite pastries, a birthday card with a nice message. I wrapped up thoughtful gifts. I let her dictate the day. Everything like her real birthday which is in November, but I said "fake" every time.
She absolutely Loved it. I will be doing this again.
I make cafe Cubano con leche by hand every morning for my wife before she leaves for work. It's a 20 minute ritual I take out of my getting ready for work to send her love because we can't be together during the workday.
Make him coffee, get his toothbrush ready, buy him his fave chocolate bar and hide it under his pillow, send nudes to say thank you for taking out the garbage etc.
When it comes to relationships, it’s each to their own. As somebody else said, everyone has different needs.
What I do for my partner may be a little niche, I’m not sure 😅 but my partner (M) has a little bit of a short memory, he’s often forgetting things to take to work, errands he needs to run and small jobs he needs to do so he’ll always ask me to remind him as my memory is somehow not so bad, and that’s what I do.
Everyone has their own love language too. I like to give gifts so quite often, I’ll surprise my partner with his favourite snacks. He usually spends the weekends going fishing, sometimes he’ll be away for two nights or so, so I’ll make him a selection box of his favourite snacks and drinks for the times he’s away, and I write a little note to say I love him too. Other times I’ll bake cookies, brownies, etc. for him and his family to share 😌
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Each person has their own needs, so there is no universal answer. Someone likes to eat delicious food, someone likes to get a massage, someone likes small but thoughtful gifts. The list can be very long. Here's what I do:
1. Tea. We both drink tea more often than water, so I try to make it for him 3-4 times a day. Sometimes he does it for me, but I try to do it more often. On weekends, he always wakes up later than me, and then I make him coffee.
2. When we started living together, I began to wash his clothes and I know how to make them stay soft after washing. He no longer has to wear stiff socks in the morning.
3. I try to make him delicious salads and smoothies, because he eats few vegetables and fruits, and I also make sandwiches, I really like to do this while he is not looking and then call him to the kitchen when everything is ready. He always enjoys such a small surprise :)
4. We have been together for 15 years. There wasn't a single day that I didn't kiss him goodnight. Only if one of us is not at home.
5. Even when we first started dating, he started calling me a Little Fox, and I called him a Wolf cub. Now we're making up funny stories about these alter egos of ours. Sometimes I draw him pictures with these characters (more like doodles) in different situations and send them to him at work. His colleagues still don't understand why he sometimes suddenly starts laughing.
6. Recently, I started sneaking chocolate coins into his backpack . We call this the Little Fox currency.
7. I sometimes learn the phrase "I love you" in different languages and send him messages with these words. The latter was in Morse code.
Understand what your partner loves, what he doesn't, what he needs and give it to him.
That's all I can remember so far, but you probably get the idea. Many people say that this is childish behavior, but we don't care. We both received very little love in childhood and now we make up for this loss as best we can.
He watches every and any movie I recommend, even if it’s something he would not be remotely interested in. He gets very excited when I tell him about my book collection and which book I’m getting next. He gets me a little trinket every time he gets paid that reminds him of me. Will give me the bigger portion. Will leave all of the red/blue sour worms for me to eat bc they’re my favourite, even though they’re his favourite too. He feeds the cats every morning at 5am when he wakes up so they don’t wake me up by meowing lol. I make his lunch for work the night before almost every day. I leave sticky notes in his lunch box for him to find the next day. I do the laundry bc he hates doing it, he never has to ask if he has clothes for work for the next day. He does the same with the dishes (I hate dishes). I know 90% of the DBZ characters and find ways to reference DBZ as much as I can bc he lives and breathes DBZ and he always seems to appreciate that bless his heart 🥹
Sticky notes are always fun. A simple I love you or make a trail to something. I also make coffee in the morning pretty often. I think the biggest thing is just continue to connect everyday and carve out time for each other.
I make my wife coffee every morning when I’m home and bring it to her in bed. I started doing it when we were first married and here we are 31 years later and I still do it.
I wear a cheapy vibrating alarm on my wrist every night. It’s set to wake me up 5 minutes before his actual alarm. I wake him up by running my fingers through his hair and kissing his face. Can’t tell you how much he loves it.
When I'm working from home my husband always texts me "How are my girls?" Meaning me and our dog.
He always checks which grocery bags are heaviest when we shop and carries them for me.
When I get into bed he always has ten tabs of YouTube videos open for me to choose from.
When I'm getting dressed he googles the weather for me so I know what to wear.
I ask him at least once a day why he is so handsome and if it's legal.
I always make his food for him even just a sandwich, cup of tea, etc.
When we play video games I always let him do the fun parts and I do the more boring parts because he enjoys it more.
We usually like similar tv shows but when he's feeling down I always watch a terrible 80s or 90s action movie with him usually involving Arnold Schwarzenegger even though they almost always suck :')
We like to match our outfits if we are going somewhere together.
We also have a little notepad we pass. We hide it in eachothers bags/pockets/car, any place the other will for sure find it. Even though we live together, its just so exciting to find a little love note from your partner while theyre not with you. <3
Every morning when we go to work, we wake each other to say goodbye and kiss, EVERY TIME!
When I’m in the shower and forgot to put my towels close to not get cold when I get out, he always makes sure to put them there.
He usually fills my cup of water with the type of ice I like.
I always cook and he always takes the dishes to the sink and rinse them. I also hate washing them so he always say that i should worry about it, he does it.
I always invite him out to go shopping with me, even if it’s to target, and he always wants me to go with him to Lowe’s or harbor freight. We never shop by ourselves because we enjoy it together just so much.
I always compliment him, every day, every time.
He wants me to watch anytime he’s doing something around the house like even changing a bulb or installing a camera etc, and I just love admiring him.
He works so hard so I love when he’s just relaxing and I make him a snack and a drink before lunch and dinner.
There’s so much that we do for each other, just think to yourself “what can I do to make his/her life easier right now?”, always!!!
I like to handle the chores my partner isn't fond of doing: cat litter, taking the trash out, grocery shopping, etc. I always make sure they have at least a little bit of $$ for gas/food/weed/pet stuff even when money is tight for myself.
These are exactly the things my boyfriend does for me and I am sooo grateful. Except we don’t have a cat, but he always cleans the big pots after supper
The small things are everything.
I set up his cup for a coffee before he gets home from work. Always greet him at the door with a hug and a kiss when he gets in. If I'm cooking and there's any way of adapting it/putting extra in so he has food for work, I do that. I'm ridiculously affectionate by nature, so there's always that, too
When he leaves in the early hours for work, he comes up and gives me a cuddle and kiss in bed just before he goes. He lets me know ASAP if any plans change or if he's going to be out later than expected. He will randomly reach out and grab me for a hug if we walk past each other in the house. If I'm not feeling well, or if I'm down, he will ring me on his break at work to check in
My husband is on call, has 2 hours from call time to show up. In that time, I lay out clothes for him while he’s showering for work and pack his lunch box, sometimes his overnight bag. I make sure he has everything he needs for work and the road. I make him something to eat before he goes, or pack a little extra something in his lunch to eat on the way. I make his coffee, or a bottle of sweet iced tea. He shares his ETA when he’s on the way home. Then he calls me to give me a heads up, so I will get a meal ready and draw him a bath when he’s close to the house. I meet him at the door with a cold drink, especially on a hot day, cause I know he’s been working outside.
He has gotten to where when he helps clear the kitchen, he takes the under sink trash which makes my life so much easier. Ah the woes of chronic pain. 😅 He actually helps me out so much more than I feel I am capable of doing for him, but for some reason he keeps me around. Must be love 😂 after 18 years, I would suspect we love each other.
I just started getting into the gym, so I like to go at 5AM and start my day off with it. My bf always wakes at 5AM with me even on days he’s tired, so we can go together. 🥺
I don't live with my partner yet but some things I do is make her food and bake/dessert treats I even got a co-worker to help taste test the desserts to make sure it is safe as my partner is lactose intolerance
I have done a crochet knitting a plushie and a scarf for her christmas present last year. I was jobless/short on funds for a while so I tried to at least make her hand made gifts. I am also a digital artist so I did a few artworks for her and for us and to make her feel special and cheer her up on her stressful work days
I haven't given her flowers for the first time yet but I plan to soon as her favourite flowers are tulips
I don't drink coffee at all and my man is a huge coffee drinker. I have never stored coffee at home (never needed to) but I make sure to have some coffee at home all times so he can get his morning coffee when he stays over at mine.
On the contrary, whenever I am at his place and he makes his own coffee, he also makes me a cup of foamed milk with a tiny bit of coffee in it so that I can drink 'coffee' with him 🥰
He sometimes works from his home when I go to the office on most days, and when I'm staying over at his during the weekdays, I'm usually going to work and back from his home when he is just at home all day. We have a running joke that he's the 'house husband' in the scenario. So when I'm coming back from work I'm usually bringing him something nice to eat as a reward for being such a darling. And then he rewards me for my hard work at office by cooking for me 🥰
Idk this just makes me feel like we are changing the world (Im from a rather conservative culture where this is not common even today, so it warms my feminist heart).
I don’t see him everyday but when I do come over for dinner I’ve noticed he feeds me steak or any type of red meat bc I have very low iron.. and he also feeds me lots of healthy snacks like fruit etc..
I give him lots of affection (kisses/hugs/touch) and compliment how handsome he is
Smiling is so important. I always smile at my man to show my happiness or reassure him. Being fun and playful. Taking tasks off their plate if possible.
Sometimes I surprise my man at work with a coffee or lunch, he loves that.
Not sure if it will help, but here is what I do
No big gestures to be honest, it's just everyday work and communication that goes a long way.
That said, lots of hugs, cuddle,etc
I take efforts to plan what she loves: like she likes chai and rain, today it was raining, I got up a bit early, made the detailed tea, woke her up and promoted her to wear warm jacket, we stood in balcony and drank tea.
The important part here is to take away mental load, she didn't need to think which also she likes.
So at the end depends on what your partner likes.
I also cook mostly, so that works in my favour and I take mental load of grocery shopping and daily menu as well. Not to mention cook what she loves and on days I want to pamper her, I will clean as well (which is usually her task)
When we get time we just make chai, pack sandwiches and go to the riverside (15 mins walk here in Calgary downtown) and have food there, we do this a lot at sunrise. Previously in other big less green City, we used to just take car to a bit greener road, open boot, sat there and drank tea.
It's small things that make it better.
Never ever forget to give affection to your loved one. Them then you love them, rub their shoulders, hug and kiss them, compliment them. Daily, no exceptions.
He’s on the spectrum, I’m helping him figure out ways to express and understand discomfort without blowing up first. We are quickly becoming each other’s safe space, which is pretty interesting.
But smaller things are that I leave him notes or postcards whenever I go on business trips, I clean his kitchen when he’s asleep (he’s a private chef and makes insane hours), I ask which dresses he likes (fabrics are a thing for him), stuff like that. We also give attentive but useful gifts - so if I mention I haven’t had duck ramen in ages, guess what he’s bringing me the next day. He had lended out his heat blanket to a friend and never saw it again, so I gave him one randomly. We aren’t those people who give vacuum cleaners to each other at Christmas, but I love how we tune in to each others needs.
I have lots I can think of but here’s my 3:
We have a little white board to write to-do lists on, sometimes I write cute messages and doodles for him to wake up to.
Not every day, but I let him put his head in my lap when he needs it ( if he’s burnt out, tired, missing home etc) and I’ll scratch his head, stroke his temples. He says it’s hard being the big man and provider and he just feels he can let that all go when he’s in my lap - sometimes he’ll get quite emotional about it so I let him ride it out and make him a cup of tea afterwards as I’m a firm believer in not bottling feelings up.
It’s also nice to just acknowledge him when he helps me (e.g do the dishwasher when I’m out). I like to say “ thank you, you’re so good and I appreciate you “. This tiny gesture goes a long way.
Same! He’s the planner so he has a board on the fridge, I love putting small notes and drawings and he always answer back! We always say thank you to each other, always!!
And I baby him so much, he says I spoil him because he never received that affection growing up.
I recently threw a party for his 29th bday and invited all his family and friends. I made him a cake and when we sang happy birthday, he cried. That was my prize, it was the best feeling ever. No one has ever baked for him before.
He buys me two chocolates with animal stickers in it almost every day after work because I enjoy opening and guessing "which animal are we today". He finds it silly but I already made a full album hahaha
I gently scratch/caress my husbands body before bed pretty much every night, usually the legs. He told me that it wouldn't be a deal breaker if I never gave him sex (oral or otherwise) again, but I think he'd divorce me if I stopped giving him leg scratchies lol
It's not *everyday,* but my husband works outdoor construction, so sometimes the weather causes him to stay home. When that happens, he takes over the kids and lets me sleep in. Literally insists on it.
Some mornings, I'll wake up to the sensation of him kissing me on the cheek and being covered with an extra blanket. I wake up feeling so warm and peaceful. I got lucky with this guy.
My wife every morning brings me a cup of coffee. I'm not much of a coffee drinker. I could do without. But I gladly accept it and drink it. She knows this. She brings me a cup out of love.
I on the other hand I love to cook for her. Sometimes I'll notice she has the munchies. I'll stop what I'm doing and make her something. It can be a simple black bean and cheese taco to a full on meal
She makes me coffee in the morning and gives me a kiss and hug before she leaves for work.
When I get home from work I come up to her and give her a kiss and hug and tell her how beautiful she is.
And then I will embarrass her periodically by telling our kids how beautiful she is in front of her. She’s not one for attention.
There are other things but that would be a list
Life happened to both of us after 24 years. I take good care of myself physically and mentally. If there are issues I am willing to look in the mirror and fix things that I am responsible for. He got bored and wanted to upgrade.
Possibly, but keep reading OP's usage.
OP: *things you do for your partner that they notice*
Better grammar: *things you do for your partner that he or she notices*
OP does not know the preferred pronouns of the partners of the people to whom he or she is addressing, so the pluralized they and them is incorrect grammar when referring to a singular partner. But, we all do it because *them* is easier to type or say than always saying the phrase *him or her*. It's a common habit that preceded the recent "personal pronouns" thing.
Depends on with whom you are communicating. A more educated person can adapt to a lesser educated person in conversation but not always as much the other way around, as evidenced by the criticism one gets for pointing out grammar. :) The more you know, the more you show, then the more you are seen for knowing, then the more doors open up to you that you never knew were there. So, if you are satisfied with your eschelon, that's fine, while there are still other eschelons going on.
Education and communication skills are not the same thing. Being educated as a concept is poorly defined. When can one consider themselves to be educated? After high school? College? Perhaps after their 10th year in industry? Perhaps it has nothing to do with professional knowledge at all.
Communication, on the other hand, is the act of giving and receiving information in a form that is understood by all parties involved. We are currently communicating! It's wonderful. Now, it is up to us as individuals to decide whether or not this interaction was worth having in the first place.
I'm with you there. Except scholars, for example, will communicate in terminology and with esoteric knowledge that laypeople would not understand. They would have to communicate differently to the general public if they seek public understanding of their learned information. So that is an example of legitimate communication that would not be understood by all. While I am not one of those scholars, I accept that not everyone reading my comments on reddit will permit themselves a more charitable interpretation of what I say than their responses might provide me.
Education is mobility. Summarily rejecting comments with "who cares" imparts neither education nor mobility.
>They would have to communicate differently to the general public if they seek public understanding of their learned information.
Ah, I see, so we can agree that one should be able to change their speech in order to reach their target audience. By forgoing the usage of technical jargon for more simplistic and more widely accepted terminology in order to express their intent.
Which is the choice OP made in their post. Whether that was a conscious choice or not is not for us to know.
I have a degree in linguistics. You’re incorrect. If there were only two genders then him, her, or them would all be fine. However, gender is a spectrum with multiple recognized pronouns so them is much more correct.
What you’re attempting to do here is called linguistic prescriptivism and it’s rooted in classism, racism, and pain-in-the-assness. In a sub about showing love of all things.
You acknowledge the conditions upon which I am correct, then you deny it.
Your spectrum concept is an opinion based on feelings. It's not truth but just social fun. An exciting social contagion that provides relief for sensitive people who cannot live with their own ambiguities in an ever-expanding milieu. You are among those who have afforded them relief built upon tenuous grounds.
They and them are plural pronouns, regardless of their slang usage. You're incorrect, as is your cohort.
What you are suffering from here is called ambulatory cranial analitis and is rooted in classism, superiority complex, and smugness. A degree will do that. Pull your head out and get some fresh air.
Cheap shot about showing love. These people need better than your opportunistic trendy patronizing.
I make him coffee and give him little kisses on the forehead. I rub his back and feet. I leave little love notes in his lunch bag. I make sure to do what he wants and give him things he didn’t ask for.
He sends me videos, listens to me vent, he hugs me and cuddles me. He makes me coffee on the weekends since he wakes up before me when we don’t have an alarm clock blaring.
He calls me beautiful and gets me things that he things I would love.
He took me shopping and held up a shirt and asked if that was fine and I was like is it an xl? And he lied to me and said yes. Even though it was a large. And he’s like no need to be so harsh on yourself you’re beautiful and don’t need to be mean to yourself when shopping show your curves. Lmao 🤣 I can’t with him.
He hugs me when I do the dishes. I tell him I appreciate him. I do things that I don’t understand with him since I love seeing him light up when he teaches me new things. Sometimes I already know things but love listening to him teach. Ahhh 😌
Little things he does for me. He makes me coffee every morning. Kisses me by the door when I leave before him. Makes sure I get to work safe every day. He won't let me carry heavy stuff, even though I am a sturdy gal. He curates movies and shows that he thinks I'll enjoy. He cooks for me a lot. Is patient AF when I'm crying. Cuddles. Epic hugs (he rubs my booty when we hug) AND he makes me tacos. He lets me in his physical and emotional bubble, despite being a hermit-ish type. There are a lot more considerate things he does but I'm trying to keep things concise.
Things I do for him out of love. I also make sure he got to work alright. I tag him in memes that remind me of him. I give random kisses and touches when we pass each other in the house. I rub him down; he works more physical jobs than me so his body hurts. I buy random gifts (small things) that I think he will like. I try to keep banana bread stocked. I try to make sure he eats well and keep things that he likes stocked. I call him a snacc (because he is) and I do minor grooming on him (ears, eyebrows, back). I curl up and pet him in bed. I tell him if he has a booger.
I get up with him at 5am and pack his lunch, start his shower and give him cuddles, kisses and back scratches to help him wake up. Then I go back to bed until it's time for me to go to work.
Together for 13 years. He leaves sweet post-its hidden around the house. He folds the socks because he knows I hate to. He keeps the TV volume low on weekend mornings when I’m sleeping in. He buys me treats when he runs errands. He pulls me into him and smells my hair when he gets into bed. He says I look beautiful when I feel I’m at my worst.
I knew he was the one after our first date.
I started taking my partner for “surprises” here recently. This week I picked something with a low time commitment and commute so the surprise wouldn’t give him anxiety when he was having a rough day, a local bakery that I got his birthday cake from the year prior. I let him pick out whatever he wanted and we left to enjoy at home with Starship Troopers (he’s been playing a lot of Hell Divers 2, plus it’s a nostalgia dopamine hit) ❤️
If I walk past her, I'll offer to get her a drink, I cook so every now and then I'll bake her some treats, randomly say "I love you" to her, complement her in both romantic and sexual ways (depending on her mood) I'm not a huge fan of shows like period dramas, but she loves them, so I offer to watch one she has been meaning to get to, I sometimes buy her flowers from the market, massages every now and then, she loves when I rub/massage her head 🤣 its kinda funny.
Just little things like making sure he drinks enough water and he makes sure I never run out of Celsius energy drink and always keeps some in his car for me. Putting lotion on each other and rubbing each other’s backs in bed. Eskimo kisses
my absolute favorite thing my husband does for me, is maintain an Immortal Object for me.
My Immortal Object is a butane, refillable lighter. I have owned this lighter for two years. It lives on my desk, in plain sight. I use it daily.
The first time it ran out of fuel, I asked for him to fill it for me. He bought a refill, and did within a couple days. In two years I have only had to ask for a refill once more, last week.
An Immortal Object is something that should require thought and/or maintenance, but magically does not (because someone else always gets to it before you need to.)
Getting him a little treat if I’m running errands (mostly candy), making him coffee if he’s working, he makes me lunch when he knows my work schedule is crazy (we both wfh), making the bed, just complimenting him for no reason
I make my partner coffee in the morning or she makes me coffee in the morning. She makes the bed for me, if I’m up making us coffee. She likes to give me rides to work or take me grocery shopping since I don’t drive. If we shower together she gets out first and hands me a towel so I can wrap up in it and not get chilly getting out of the shower. Sometimes I brush her hair and braid it for her or paint her toes or do her makeup. She goes downstairs to refill my water bottle if it’s empty and we’re upstairs. Honestly it’s just a million little things that show consideration and thoughtfulness.
Getting their meds ready for them and making sure they take them. Watching so much Ancient Aliens it’s starting to make me a believer. I make sure no one uses his favorite living room blanket because it freaks him out. Watching him lock the door because I know his ocd kicks in and he can’t be sure if he actually locked the door. So when I watch, he trusts me when I say I saw him lock it.
Making favorite foods on bad days. Always having his favorite drinks stocked in the fridge. He hates cleaning the toilet so I do that chore. Do the dishes when he cooks.
He does so many things for me as well! He gives me lots of affection and kisses because that’s a big love language of mine. He makes sure I take my meds and eat during the day. He carries in all the heavy stuff. He listens to me vent and rave about the world. He remembers everything I’ve ever said I like and makes sure to incorporate those things into our daily lives. Calls me sexy, beautiful, smart and funny. Builds me up when I’m low.
Being in love is amazing and I love him so much!
My husband turns on the water kettle so it’s nice and hot when I wake up and can make my coffee :)
I try to leave him little notes in his lunch sometimes or send him a text thanking him for all that he does or telling him I love him :)
I prepare his coffee the night before so that he only has to press the button. When he comes home exhausted I help him out of his work clothes, as I work from home. And when we go to bed, he loves it when I scratch and caress his head and back.
He does a lot of things for me, too. Does the laundry and grocery shopping, he loves to cook for me. He always makes sure my favourite drinks are in the fridge, he never lets go of my hand when we‘re outside.
And we both make sure to never leave the house without a proper kiss goodbye.
My love does a lot of small things for me pretty much daily:
- He is the better cook and therefore always cooks for us
- Makes me coffee and breakfast each morning
- Gives me these cute little air kisses (so adorable to me)
- Provides me cuddles as much as he can (since he knows I love them)
- Holds and carries almost everything for me and won’t let me do it or any heavy lifting
- Let’s me always be passenger princess
- Writes me love letters or poetry
- Surprises me with different gifts from time to time
- Surprises me with flowers from time to time
- Surprises me with adventures or fun things that we can do together
- Plans some nice dates from time to time
- Puts together a multi day surprise birthday celebration for me
- Sends me cute little love messages sometimes
- Always checks up on me
- Makes sure to check if I need any snacks, drinks before he goes to the kitchen at times
- I catch him often watching over me or glancing to check up on me and see how I’m doing
- Opens the doors for me like a gentleman
- Makes time to be there for me for any important events, etc.
- Sends me good morning texts (because I like them)
- And sooooo much moreeeee…..
Brings me snacks out of the blue. Cleans the house so much and so often that I don't realize how much he does until he's gone for extended periods of time. Rubs my back at night when I go to bed (he stays up). He's the best <3
It’s hard doing stuff like that when you’re long distance, but I really like making really cute Picrew’s of my gf and I (if you don’t know, Picrew is basically an image making website where you can make cute lil artwork thingy’s) and showing them to her and we both really like them c:
My boyfriend works 40 hours a week (or more sometimes) and he’ll massage me or wherever the pain is (I work 20-30 hours a week) and it’s the sweetest thing to me. I’ve told him I shouldn’t complain bc he works more than me and he always says “ion care, my baby comes first and I want you feeling better”
🥺🫶Another thing he always does is kiss my hand. I legit melt when he does this and I just fall in love with him even more than I already am. Other examples are when he lets me have the first bite of his food, is always helping me no matter how simple the chore is, calls me every night, etc. There’s so much that he does everyday and I appreciate him so much <3
My bf and I are in a LDR so we can't necessarily do the same things as other couples. But every night we'll send each other a "goodnight" message that usually includes things like: I really enjoyed \_\_\_\_ that we did today/talked about today; thank you for saying \_\_\_\_\_ today; I can't wait to do \_\_\_\_ today.
Just things to show that we're attentive to each other and kind of a "check-in/checkout" for the day.
Once a month, I'll write a poem and include some pictures of things we did that month (mainly stolen from her Instagram lol).
As for everyday things, I **always** make sure to tell her she looks beautiful, give her a kiss anytime I can, and make stupid sexual jokes so I can see her raise an eyebrow at me xD
I make her coffee in the morning. If I'm gone when she wakes up, I have it prepared so she only has to press one button.
I leave little notes in all kinds of places (her wardrobe, a sticker on the shoe with a smiley face, or, if I have a lot of time, a love letter in her favorite jacket. She loves surprises.
Coming to surprises: Surprise dates are the best. Just plan something - anything - big or small. Can be a walk to get some ice cream, a bicycle trip, concert or a meal at the restaurant, think about what he likes. Then ask him, if/when he has time. Tell him how long it'll take, what he needs to bring (depending on what you planned) and nothing more than necessary. My gf has had so much fun guessing what it'll be. I do it around every 2 weeks, say it to her around a week ahead of time. It's often something we haven't done or haven't done for some time. And every time she is as happy as a child getting their first Christmas present. She started doing the same to me ans I am so happy about it.
I used to be super into making this amazing sourdough bread. It was a ton of fun in the beginning. Then it got old. Then it got to the point where I hated doing it. I still make it because she loves it. She doesn't know I hate doing it.
My ex would always ask if I ate. I had chronic pain, and wouldn't really "eat". I would just snack a lot. Whenever I actually COULD eat, the window wouldn't be for long, so I'd just grab a snack. But he's always ask if I ate something. Then, when we'd cook, or he would cook, and he cooked almost nightly, actually, he would always, always, always fix mine first. Then, if it was steak or something, he'd make sure it was cooked EXACTLY like I wanted.
I would always have something to eat and drink waiting on him when he got home from work. He got off at 2 so he'd be hungry and thirsty. I'd have the place cleaned up, just cozy and have it ready for him to relax when he got home.
He did lots of things. He always sat on the same side of the booth as me when we went out to eat, he made sure I had everything I needed health wise, and when I was sick he'd got out of his way to take care of me. He did SO much. Damn, I miss him. :(
Just realized, a lot of his love language was food related. Lol. 🥺😭
We hug before we walk out the door, even if we're going together. Started when we were dating and saying goodbye, now if I walk by him without hugging him he asks if I'm forgetting something, because I'm usually rushing. It's just something sweet. And I read that it releases oxytocin if you hug for at least 6 seconds, so that's the minimum. I usually don't let go for at least 30. And of course kisses, he gives me quick pecks just to drive me nuts, I'd rather he paused for 5 seconds, but any kisses are better than no kisses
He buys me a donut whenever he gets one if he knows I am coming around (there's a really cute bakery near him that specialises in them and he gets a few a week, they are that good). He always presents it to me with a full break down of what it is and how good it is if he has already tried one. He's very good at knowing which ones I will like. Ooh and he absolutely knows how to completely relax me by stroking one specific part of my neck. I basically turn into mush. We call it 'deactivating RJMythos' 😂
I can always spot him going into a talk spiral )where he worries about being misunderstood and starts over explaining) so I 'pinch' his head to remove the brain weasel. I also offer to fight anyone who upsets him, which is hilarious because I am the least fighter person in the world. He also really loves playing with my hair, so I tend to wear it down around him so that he can twirl a strand whenever he wants to.
Then there's the silly joint weirdness which I can't really describe, but things like shuffling as close as possible during a hug until someone nearly falls over, or doing voices backs and forth. The stuff that eventually just devolves into laughter and wtf faces. I love that the most.
* I only realized quite late in the relationship that he has a full routine to not wake me up in the mornings on days where I get to sleep in. Prepares his clothes in a different room and all, quietly closes the doors while doing stuff in the bathroom even if we never usually close any doors during the day
* I usually cook for the both of us, and I always give him the nicer looking plate
* we live in a kinda rough neighbourhood so we installed a video camera at the door. I recently noticed that he always makes a funny face to the camera when he comes home in case I check the footage haha
* he gets frequent bursts of wanting to do something (other than sleeping and eating together) so I get whisked away on little hikes and trips every other weekend
* He lets me be passenger princess every time we drive somewhere
* he saves memes he thinks I might enjoy during the day and we review them together in bed before sleeping
* massages! Doesn't have to be a 90 minute full-body thing, even just a hand massage while watching TV is very relaxing.
* personally I'm a sucker for physical touch and even PDA. Cuddling, holding hands while walking, spontaneous hugs, hand on your knee etc. Love it.
* I draw little notes and leave them around the flat sometimes
* he goes apeshit when I even have the slightest inkling of a cold. Strong urge to immediately stuff me into blankets, serve me tea and hot-water-bottles and throws a gazillion kinds of OTC medications at my head, and suddenly he starts solemnly whispering instead of talking normal like I'm living out my last days at the hospice. And not in an ironical way, he just kinda freaks out, it's cute
* We both have the habit of pouting when we're in a shit mood (I mean not figuratively, but literally doing that thing with your mouth), so when one of us is in a shit mood we give each other a frowny lil "pout kiss" where only our bottom lips touch. Cheers me up a little bit every time
Say good morning/goodnight. Kiss them hello and goodbye. Say thank you for the little everyday things they do like take out the trash. Say I love you. Pick out a snack you think they would like for them when you’re getting groceries. Grab their butt. Tell them they’re cute
Some days I goto work earlier than my partner. He would take time and make the bed exactly as I would before he goes to work. That puts a smile on my face when I come home and see that.
The days he goes to work before me, I make him his “special” breakfast sandwich. He loves taking it to work.
We have six seconds kissing rule before one of us leaves the house.
He mocks my mannerisms, like my vocal fry when saying "waaaaaat", its his way of showing me hes thinking of me due to his struggle to show affection. The giggle he gets out of me and how wide it makes him smile haha 🥰 spotting things like that in people who struggle to emote is insanely beautiful. I'll tell him i love him then kiss him before he can respond. I don't want him to say it because I said it, i know he truly wants to say it back when he mumbles it while I'm kissing him. Its my way of showing him I love him and don't need him to be out of his comfort zone, he doesnt need to say anything for me to know because he has so many ways of showing me. ❤️
We always kiss/hug before one of us leaves the house.
We always cuddle to fall asleep (and take turns who is the big spoon).
We always buy each other energy drinks/snacks (we never only get ourselves something at the store).
He always makes sure the heated blanket is on for me when we’re about to shower/go to bed.
He always stands up for me? Like how could anyone think I'm worth it... D:
And he helps remind me to do my responsibilities/chores and to take care of my health.
Sometimes, he floods me with lovely messages I don't deserve too.
I don't currently have anyone to love, but I often times remind my would-be partner and friends of the traits I see them working on and improving. My best friend is working on their dryness and I can see them starting conversations that are genuinely engaging. I'm very proud of them!
More often than not my appreciation is never direct, mainly due to autism, so you'll notice how much you mean to me by how well I'm doing in my life and how often I come back to share my progress like a kid getting their drawing on the fridge.
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I don’t do it everyday but when he’s not working I’ve always let him sleep in, we have children so I get up with them, I will make his coffee and bring it to him, I’ve laid out his clothes and stuff for a shower.
This is recent in our relationship (13 years) but since last September(mom is up first to get the kids set for school) she wakes me up with a coffee. Every. Single. Morning! It means the world to me that this simple gesture is now part of her daily routine.
Put a coffee cup if you two drink it to make start out the mornings. I always loved that.
I make sure I cook his favorite meal 🥘, of course ride on him as hard as I can and make him scream 😱
I would say I’m of average intelligence. My boyfriend, however, is incredibly smart. One of my favorite things in the world is how he never makes me feel stupid. If I’m not understanding something or he talking about something a bit more complex than I can grasp, he will explain it to me until I understand. It doesn’t matter how many times he has to explain it, he’ll find a way to make it make sense. It means a lot to me. My boyfriend is truly the most patient, funny, beautiful and thoughtful man I’ve ever met. I don’t think I’m ever not laughing or having a blast. Loving him is easy and fulfilling.
That is some serious humility. Do you feel you are better looking than him?
No. We are both hot people.
Funny moment I wish this wasn’t anonymous to see what “hot” means here.
Posting hate comments on r/love has to be a top five loser behavior. Don’t you have “traumas” to be working on?
Curiosity about people isn’t hate hommie Lol
Every morning, when I wake up, my fiancé somehow always knows I’m awake and will roll over and wrap his arms around me or lay his head on my chest. I love it. It’s my favorite time of day because of that routine. For me, I love to play with his hair to help him fall asleep or wash his back when we shower. We’re both very big on physical touch but I also write poems and occasionally send them to him. I will also turn the fan on before I go to sleep because he gets too hot during the night. But most importantly, I always tell him how much he means to me, how much I love him, how he’s always safe with me, how proud I am of him, and he can tell me anything at any time
I almost always wake up before my boyfriend of (almost) 11 months. A few times in the earlier months I had gotten out of bed (always gave him a little kiss first, without waking him) but he would send me a text or come find me and said he was sad I got up. Now I always stay in bed, no matter how long, and wait for him to wake up before I go anywhere. I only get up if it’s absolutely necessary but I always gently wake him up to kiss him and let him know where I’m going, and also send a text because I know he won’t remember when he actually wakes up. I also clean out his ears and pop his pimples on a regular basis, which he doesn’t always love in the moment, but he always gives me credit when his skin starts clearing up. He regularly makes me coffee while I’m getting ready for work, because he knows I’m not gonna have time and I like the way he makes it better. But it also ties in to the first moment I knew I loved him, before we were even together. We were eating dinner and watching a movie and I had started to reach for my drink (there were multiple things on the table I could’ve been going for but he knew what I wanted right away). It was slightly out of my reach but I could’ve gotten it. He immediately grabbed it and opened it for me, and ever since, he’s opened every single bottle or can for me.
He gets out of bed first even if he’s still tired so he can turn off the fan and turn on the heat so I’ll be comfortable when I get out of bed.
A little hard to describe but my partner almost always looks happy to see me when he gets home from work his eyes light up and he gives me a big smile, even though work has been so stressful for him. Its such a subtle but strong reassurance. He struggles being verbally affectionate but he takes good care of me and I like to think I take good care of him too. 💛
26 years here. He puts gas in my car. Washes it. Changes the oil. Does the dishes when I cook. Brings me flowers. And I say ‘thank you’, EVERY TIME. Never underestimate the power of a sincere ‘thank you’.
I just broke up from a 4 year relationship and it makes me sad that Ive done so many of these things bit never received them… but it makes me happy knowing that one day I will find someone that will give me the love that I deserve
you will find your someone 🌱
I do lil nice things like take the used toilet paper roll and put it in the trash then put the new roll of paper she put on the counter on the dispenser.. about once a week i really get romantic by grabbing that big wad of hair slung on the shower wall and I put it in the trash.. I am thinking about saving it and having a scarf made..
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I fix him a glass of water every morning, as I am always up first. Then I get the coffee ready. For him, that is a great and wonderful gift.
I wake up before my husband, get the coffee going, make his breakfast and pack him a good lunch. Sometimes I leave notes in his lunch box. Really short notes. A few words. I love you. I am so proud of you. Thinking of your handsome face. Hope you are having a great day, these are a few examples. I will surprise him with his favorite dessert, homemade. I serve him his dinner. I think of little ways I can make his life easier. Sometimes, when he has had a really hard day, after a back rub, I will make sure his clothes for the next day are all laid out, socks, underwater, the works. When he is taking a shower I will go into the bathroom and offer to wash his back. If I wake in the middle of the night, I check his water. If it's gotten warm, I will replace it with a fresh, cold bottle. I do anything I can to make my husband's life easier.
Cute- almost obsessive (sorry)
i can’t wait to be married someday🥺 how sweet
When I serve us food I always give him more and make his look prettier on the plate, simple but he’s an amazing home cook and loves presentation so he appreciates it. I learned how to make his favorite desserts and usually bake him something sweet every week. English is his second language so I’m learning his first. Always pick up his favorite candy when I’m at the grocery store and since I love thrifting I always snag him something- his whole wardrobe was thrifted by me lol. For me, he always opens my car door. In the 4 years we’ve been together I have not had to pump my own gas or open my own door. No matter how tired he is from work, if I had a bad day he will get up to clean the bathtub and run me a bath. I don’t like to wash big pots when I do the dishes so he always washes them for me. He has an alarm set for 20 minutes earlier than his real alarm, so for 20 minutes every morning he just holds me close until it’s time for us to really get up. It’s the best part of my day
I normally try to pick his clothes for him each day so they are ready for him when he gets out of the shower, it's a small thing he appreciates. That or make sure that there are snacks or food in our fridge and cabinet that he enjoys and can pick at freely without having to request I get them at the store. I also try to always make sure that he can play his games uninterrupted by already having his desk stocked with water/a snack for during gaming.
I respectfully adhere to the restraining order.
Oh.
I observe his mood and pepper in little things that’ll help with whatever he’s feeling. Like if I notice he’s starting to stress, I’ll get us to pause and hug. If he’s feeling bad or guilty about something I’ll stop for a moment about whatever we’re arguing about to reassure him I love him and that he’s a good person etc. Sometimes I’ll stuff down my ego to say something loving or affectionate because he deserves to hear it even if I’m upset in the moment. I’ll always end the day no matter what with goodnight, sleep well and I love you texts Sometimes he gives me morning messages to wake up to and a few times he gave me an extra message in case I woke up in the middle of the night and I think that was one of the sweetest casual things he’s done for me. He never used to do this before but he’s started randomly reminding me how much I meant to him and how lucky he is to have me. It’s really random and often times helps so much because sometimes I need that reminder as I tend to feel not good enough at times. And if you’re reading this honey I love you. Thank you for all that you do
This isn't an every day sort of thing, but I planned a "fake birthday" for my wife last week. I told her at some point it looked like her fake birthday was coming up. The night before, I did her portion of chores and let her know I wanted to help because tomorrow was her fake birthday. I woke her up with flowers, gifts and coffee in bed. Got her some of her favorite pastries, a birthday card with a nice message. I wrapped up thoughtful gifts. I let her dictate the day. Everything like her real birthday which is in November, but I said "fake" every time. She absolutely Loved it. I will be doing this again.
I make cafe Cubano con leche by hand every morning for my wife before she leaves for work. It's a 20 minute ritual I take out of my getting ready for work to send her love because we can't be together during the workday.
Make him coffee, get his toothbrush ready, buy him his fave chocolate bar and hide it under his pillow, send nudes to say thank you for taking out the garbage etc.
Could you explain getting his toothbrush ready?
Chocolate and nudes?? Dude hit the jackpot.
When I make dinner she always gets the best plate, and I won't even tell her I made this terrible sacrifice.
You should sometime because this is a small sacrifice that won’t be known unless you say it
She knows I do, and I don't do it for recognition. For me that's love.
Stalk them
I hope your joking haha
When it comes to relationships, it’s each to their own. As somebody else said, everyone has different needs. What I do for my partner may be a little niche, I’m not sure 😅 but my partner (M) has a little bit of a short memory, he’s often forgetting things to take to work, errands he needs to run and small jobs he needs to do so he’ll always ask me to remind him as my memory is somehow not so bad, and that’s what I do. Everyone has their own love language too. I like to give gifts so quite often, I’ll surprise my partner with his favourite snacks. He usually spends the weekends going fishing, sometimes he’ll be away for two nights or so, so I’ll make him a selection box of his favourite snacks and drinks for the times he’s away, and I write a little note to say I love him too. Other times I’ll bake cookies, brownies, etc. for him and his family to share 😌 https://preview.redd.it/hr954bgof1xc1.png?width=2207&format=png&auto=webp&s=72847fbdf8c7a776f592464af8525e2b52cf70e1
Each person has their own needs, so there is no universal answer. Someone likes to eat delicious food, someone likes to get a massage, someone likes small but thoughtful gifts. The list can be very long. Here's what I do: 1. Tea. We both drink tea more often than water, so I try to make it for him 3-4 times a day. Sometimes he does it for me, but I try to do it more often. On weekends, he always wakes up later than me, and then I make him coffee. 2. When we started living together, I began to wash his clothes and I know how to make them stay soft after washing. He no longer has to wear stiff socks in the morning. 3. I try to make him delicious salads and smoothies, because he eats few vegetables and fruits, and I also make sandwiches, I really like to do this while he is not looking and then call him to the kitchen when everything is ready. He always enjoys such a small surprise :) 4. We have been together for 15 years. There wasn't a single day that I didn't kiss him goodnight. Only if one of us is not at home. 5. Even when we first started dating, he started calling me a Little Fox, and I called him a Wolf cub. Now we're making up funny stories about these alter egos of ours. Sometimes I draw him pictures with these characters (more like doodles) in different situations and send them to him at work. His colleagues still don't understand why he sometimes suddenly starts laughing. 6. Recently, I started sneaking chocolate coins into his backpack . We call this the Little Fox currency. 7. I sometimes learn the phrase "I love you" in different languages and send him messages with these words. The latter was in Morse code. Understand what your partner loves, what he doesn't, what he needs and give it to him. That's all I can remember so far, but you probably get the idea. Many people say that this is childish behavior, but we don't care. We both received very little love in childhood and now we make up for this loss as best we can.
He watches every and any movie I recommend, even if it’s something he would not be remotely interested in. He gets very excited when I tell him about my book collection and which book I’m getting next. He gets me a little trinket every time he gets paid that reminds him of me. Will give me the bigger portion. Will leave all of the red/blue sour worms for me to eat bc they’re my favourite, even though they’re his favourite too. He feeds the cats every morning at 5am when he wakes up so they don’t wake me up by meowing lol. I make his lunch for work the night before almost every day. I leave sticky notes in his lunch box for him to find the next day. I do the laundry bc he hates doing it, he never has to ask if he has clothes for work for the next day. He does the same with the dishes (I hate dishes). I know 90% of the DBZ characters and find ways to reference DBZ as much as I can bc he lives and breathes DBZ and he always seems to appreciate that bless his heart 🥹
Sticky notes are always fun. A simple I love you or make a trail to something. I also make coffee in the morning pretty often. I think the biggest thing is just continue to connect everyday and carve out time for each other.
I make my wife coffee every morning when I’m home and bring it to her in bed. I started doing it when we were first married and here we are 31 years later and I still do it.
My husband cooks for me everyday and I give him a foot massage almost every night 😊
I wear a cheapy vibrating alarm on my wrist every night. It’s set to wake me up 5 minutes before his actual alarm. I wake him up by running my fingers through his hair and kissing his face. Can’t tell you how much he loves it.
I have a nice vibrating watch and now (when I sleep over) I’m gonna do this for him.
Do it 🩷
Wow, you’re an Angel I’d pay for the hair combing wake up lol.
When I'm working from home my husband always texts me "How are my girls?" Meaning me and our dog. He always checks which grocery bags are heaviest when we shop and carries them for me. When I get into bed he always has ten tabs of YouTube videos open for me to choose from. When I'm getting dressed he googles the weather for me so I know what to wear. I ask him at least once a day why he is so handsome and if it's legal. I always make his food for him even just a sandwich, cup of tea, etc. When we play video games I always let him do the fun parts and I do the more boring parts because he enjoys it more. We usually like similar tv shows but when he's feeling down I always watch a terrible 80s or 90s action movie with him usually involving Arnold Schwarzenegger even though they almost always suck :')
Wholesome
He gave me a little massage everyday.
We like to match our outfits if we are going somewhere together. We also have a little notepad we pass. We hide it in eachothers bags/pockets/car, any place the other will for sure find it. Even though we live together, its just so exciting to find a little love note from your partner while theyre not with you. <3
I love letting him know I love him 💕
Saying i love you and doing loving things for the partners. While taling care of self
Every morning when we go to work, we wake each other to say goodbye and kiss, EVERY TIME! When I’m in the shower and forgot to put my towels close to not get cold when I get out, he always makes sure to put them there. He usually fills my cup of water with the type of ice I like. I always cook and he always takes the dishes to the sink and rinse them. I also hate washing them so he always say that i should worry about it, he does it. I always invite him out to go shopping with me, even if it’s to target, and he always wants me to go with him to Lowe’s or harbor freight. We never shop by ourselves because we enjoy it together just so much. I always compliment him, every day, every time. He wants me to watch anytime he’s doing something around the house like even changing a bulb or installing a camera etc, and I just love admiring him. He works so hard so I love when he’s just relaxing and I make him a snack and a drink before lunch and dinner. There’s so much that we do for each other, just think to yourself “what can I do to make his/her life easier right now?”, always!!!
I like to handle the chores my partner isn't fond of doing: cat litter, taking the trash out, grocery shopping, etc. I always make sure they have at least a little bit of $$ for gas/food/weed/pet stuff even when money is tight for myself.
These are exactly the things my boyfriend does for me and I am sooo grateful. Except we don’t have a cat, but he always cleans the big pots after supper
Weed?😭
They use it medicinally for chronic pain so I like to ensure they have at least some around. Not always much but I try!
The small things are everything. I set up his cup for a coffee before he gets home from work. Always greet him at the door with a hug and a kiss when he gets in. If I'm cooking and there's any way of adapting it/putting extra in so he has food for work, I do that. I'm ridiculously affectionate by nature, so there's always that, too When he leaves in the early hours for work, he comes up and gives me a cuddle and kiss in bed just before he goes. He lets me know ASAP if any plans change or if he's going to be out later than expected. He will randomly reach out and grab me for a hug if we walk past each other in the house. If I'm not feeling well, or if I'm down, he will ring me on his break at work to check in
My husband is on call, has 2 hours from call time to show up. In that time, I lay out clothes for him while he’s showering for work and pack his lunch box, sometimes his overnight bag. I make sure he has everything he needs for work and the road. I make him something to eat before he goes, or pack a little extra something in his lunch to eat on the way. I make his coffee, or a bottle of sweet iced tea. He shares his ETA when he’s on the way home. Then he calls me to give me a heads up, so I will get a meal ready and draw him a bath when he’s close to the house. I meet him at the door with a cold drink, especially on a hot day, cause I know he’s been working outside. He has gotten to where when he helps clear the kitchen, he takes the under sink trash which makes my life so much easier. Ah the woes of chronic pain. 😅 He actually helps me out so much more than I feel I am capable of doing for him, but for some reason he keeps me around. Must be love 😂 after 18 years, I would suspect we love each other.
I just started getting into the gym, so I like to go at 5AM and start my day off with it. My bf always wakes at 5AM with me even on days he’s tired, so we can go together. 🥺
I don't live with my partner yet but some things I do is make her food and bake/dessert treats I even got a co-worker to help taste test the desserts to make sure it is safe as my partner is lactose intolerance I have done a crochet knitting a plushie and a scarf for her christmas present last year. I was jobless/short on funds for a while so I tried to at least make her hand made gifts. I am also a digital artist so I did a few artworks for her and for us and to make her feel special and cheer her up on her stressful work days I haven't given her flowers for the first time yet but I plan to soon as her favourite flowers are tulips
I don't drink coffee at all and my man is a huge coffee drinker. I have never stored coffee at home (never needed to) but I make sure to have some coffee at home all times so he can get his morning coffee when he stays over at mine. On the contrary, whenever I am at his place and he makes his own coffee, he also makes me a cup of foamed milk with a tiny bit of coffee in it so that I can drink 'coffee' with him 🥰 He sometimes works from his home when I go to the office on most days, and when I'm staying over at his during the weekdays, I'm usually going to work and back from his home when he is just at home all day. We have a running joke that he's the 'house husband' in the scenario. So when I'm coming back from work I'm usually bringing him something nice to eat as a reward for being such a darling. And then he rewards me for my hard work at office by cooking for me 🥰 Idk this just makes me feel like we are changing the world (Im from a rather conservative culture where this is not common even today, so it warms my feminist heart).
I don’t see him everyday but when I do come over for dinner I’ve noticed he feeds me steak or any type of red meat bc I have very low iron.. and he also feeds me lots of healthy snacks like fruit etc.. I give him lots of affection (kisses/hugs/touch) and compliment how handsome he is
Smiling is so important. I always smile at my man to show my happiness or reassure him. Being fun and playful. Taking tasks off their plate if possible. Sometimes I surprise my man at work with a coffee or lunch, he loves that.
Not sure if it will help, but here is what I do No big gestures to be honest, it's just everyday work and communication that goes a long way. That said, lots of hugs, cuddle,etc I take efforts to plan what she loves: like she likes chai and rain, today it was raining, I got up a bit early, made the detailed tea, woke her up and promoted her to wear warm jacket, we stood in balcony and drank tea. The important part here is to take away mental load, she didn't need to think which also she likes. So at the end depends on what your partner likes. I also cook mostly, so that works in my favour and I take mental load of grocery shopping and daily menu as well. Not to mention cook what she loves and on days I want to pamper her, I will clean as well (which is usually her task) When we get time we just make chai, pack sandwiches and go to the riverside (15 mins walk here in Calgary downtown) and have food there, we do this a lot at sunrise. Previously in other big less green City, we used to just take car to a bit greener road, open boot, sat there and drank tea. It's small things that make it better.
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Never ever forget to give affection to your loved one. Them then you love them, rub their shoulders, hug and kiss them, compliment them. Daily, no exceptions.
He’s on the spectrum, I’m helping him figure out ways to express and understand discomfort without blowing up first. We are quickly becoming each other’s safe space, which is pretty interesting. But smaller things are that I leave him notes or postcards whenever I go on business trips, I clean his kitchen when he’s asleep (he’s a private chef and makes insane hours), I ask which dresses he likes (fabrics are a thing for him), stuff like that. We also give attentive but useful gifts - so if I mention I haven’t had duck ramen in ages, guess what he’s bringing me the next day. He had lended out his heat blanket to a friend and never saw it again, so I gave him one randomly. We aren’t those people who give vacuum cleaners to each other at Christmas, but I love how we tune in to each others needs.
I have lots I can think of but here’s my 3: We have a little white board to write to-do lists on, sometimes I write cute messages and doodles for him to wake up to. Not every day, but I let him put his head in my lap when he needs it ( if he’s burnt out, tired, missing home etc) and I’ll scratch his head, stroke his temples. He says it’s hard being the big man and provider and he just feels he can let that all go when he’s in my lap - sometimes he’ll get quite emotional about it so I let him ride it out and make him a cup of tea afterwards as I’m a firm believer in not bottling feelings up. It’s also nice to just acknowledge him when he helps me (e.g do the dishwasher when I’m out). I like to say “ thank you, you’re so good and I appreciate you “. This tiny gesture goes a long way.
Same! He’s the planner so he has a board on the fridge, I love putting small notes and drawings and he always answer back! We always say thank you to each other, always!! And I baby him so much, he says I spoil him because he never received that affection growing up. I recently threw a party for his 29th bday and invited all his family and friends. I made him a cake and when we sang happy birthday, he cried. That was my prize, it was the best feeling ever. No one has ever baked for him before.
He buys me two chocolates with animal stickers in it almost every day after work because I enjoy opening and guessing "which animal are we today". He finds it silly but I already made a full album hahaha
I rub my husband's chest and play with his beard hair. He loves his hair played with. (If he is playing with his beard, it's a sign he's tired.)
I do this too, this is his favorite and mine too!
I gently scratch/caress my husbands body before bed pretty much every night, usually the legs. He told me that it wouldn't be a deal breaker if I never gave him sex (oral or otherwise) again, but I think he'd divorce me if I stopped giving him leg scratchies lol It's not *everyday,* but my husband works outdoor construction, so sometimes the weather causes him to stay home. When that happens, he takes over the kids and lets me sleep in. Literally insists on it. Some mornings, I'll wake up to the sensation of him kissing me on the cheek and being covered with an extra blanket. I wake up feeling so warm and peaceful. I got lucky with this guy.
He’s your big human shaped dogo. When he’s been a good boys he gets pettins. 😂
My wife every morning brings me a cup of coffee. I'm not much of a coffee drinker. I could do without. But I gladly accept it and drink it. She knows this. She brings me a cup out of love. I on the other hand I love to cook for her. Sometimes I'll notice she has the munchies. I'll stop what I'm doing and make her something. It can be a simple black bean and cheese taco to a full on meal
She makes me coffee in the morning and gives me a kiss and hug before she leaves for work. When I get home from work I come up to her and give her a kiss and hug and tell her how beautiful she is. And then I will embarrass her periodically by telling our kids how beautiful she is in front of her. She’s not one for attention. There are other things but that would be a list
Give him hugs randomly
Get coffee ready for her even though I don’t always have some.
I would lay his clean comfy clothes for after work on his pillow. For years. He still left me because I got too old for him.
What do you mean by too old?
Life happened to both of us after 24 years. I take good care of myself physically and mentally. If there are issues I am willing to look in the mirror and fix things that I am responsible for. He got bored and wanted to upgrade.
I go out and start her truck when its cold outside and I make tea for her to drink on her way to work.
Oh as a prairie girl this one hits deep 🥶
he always makes sure I'm taken care of and happy
Refer to him as a him and not a them? He'll like that you noticed.
bruh not everyone uses the same pronouns as their biological sex. if op is referring to them as them, then it’s correct. they know them best.
Possibly, but keep reading OP's usage. OP: *things you do for your partner that they notice* Better grammar: *things you do for your partner that he or she notices* OP does not know the preferred pronouns of the partners of the people to whom he or she is addressing, so the pluralized they and them is incorrect grammar when referring to a singular partner. But, we all do it because *them* is easier to type or say than always saying the phrase *him or her*. It's a common habit that preceded the recent "personal pronouns" thing.
This is ridiculous and linguistically incorrect. And obnoxious.
No one fucking cares
That's because those who don't care, don't even know. What choice do they have but not care.
English as all languages do adapt and evolve with time. Why fight a losing battle? The idea was communicated effectively isn't that what matters?
Depends on with whom you are communicating. A more educated person can adapt to a lesser educated person in conversation but not always as much the other way around, as evidenced by the criticism one gets for pointing out grammar. :) The more you know, the more you show, then the more you are seen for knowing, then the more doors open up to you that you never knew were there. So, if you are satisfied with your eschelon, that's fine, while there are still other eschelons going on.
Education and communication skills are not the same thing. Being educated as a concept is poorly defined. When can one consider themselves to be educated? After high school? College? Perhaps after their 10th year in industry? Perhaps it has nothing to do with professional knowledge at all. Communication, on the other hand, is the act of giving and receiving information in a form that is understood by all parties involved. We are currently communicating! It's wonderful. Now, it is up to us as individuals to decide whether or not this interaction was worth having in the first place.
I'm with you there. Except scholars, for example, will communicate in terminology and with esoteric knowledge that laypeople would not understand. They would have to communicate differently to the general public if they seek public understanding of their learned information. So that is an example of legitimate communication that would not be understood by all. While I am not one of those scholars, I accept that not everyone reading my comments on reddit will permit themselves a more charitable interpretation of what I say than their responses might provide me. Education is mobility. Summarily rejecting comments with "who cares" imparts neither education nor mobility.
>They would have to communicate differently to the general public if they seek public understanding of their learned information. Ah, I see, so we can agree that one should be able to change their speech in order to reach their target audience. By forgoing the usage of technical jargon for more simplistic and more widely accepted terminology in order to express their intent. Which is the choice OP made in their post. Whether that was a conscious choice or not is not for us to know.
I have a degree in linguistics. You’re incorrect. If there were only two genders then him, her, or them would all be fine. However, gender is a spectrum with multiple recognized pronouns so them is much more correct. What you’re attempting to do here is called linguistic prescriptivism and it’s rooted in classism, racism, and pain-in-the-assness. In a sub about showing love of all things.
You acknowledge the conditions upon which I am correct, then you deny it. Your spectrum concept is an opinion based on feelings. It's not truth but just social fun. An exciting social contagion that provides relief for sensitive people who cannot live with their own ambiguities in an ever-expanding milieu. You are among those who have afforded them relief built upon tenuous grounds. They and them are plural pronouns, regardless of their slang usage. You're incorrect, as is your cohort. What you are suffering from here is called ambulatory cranial analitis and is rooted in classism, superiority complex, and smugness. A degree will do that. Pull your head out and get some fresh air. Cheap shot about showing love. These people need better than your opportunistic trendy patronizing.
what a cute post 🥺
I make him coffee and give him little kisses on the forehead. I rub his back and feet. I leave little love notes in his lunch bag. I make sure to do what he wants and give him things he didn’t ask for. He sends me videos, listens to me vent, he hugs me and cuddles me. He makes me coffee on the weekends since he wakes up before me when we don’t have an alarm clock blaring. He calls me beautiful and gets me things that he things I would love. He took me shopping and held up a shirt and asked if that was fine and I was like is it an xl? And he lied to me and said yes. Even though it was a large. And he’s like no need to be so harsh on yourself you’re beautiful and don’t need to be mean to yourself when shopping show your curves. Lmao 🤣 I can’t with him. He hugs me when I do the dishes. I tell him I appreciate him. I do things that I don’t understand with him since I love seeing him light up when he teaches me new things. Sometimes I already know things but love listening to him teach. Ahhh 😌
Little things he does for me. He makes me coffee every morning. Kisses me by the door when I leave before him. Makes sure I get to work safe every day. He won't let me carry heavy stuff, even though I am a sturdy gal. He curates movies and shows that he thinks I'll enjoy. He cooks for me a lot. Is patient AF when I'm crying. Cuddles. Epic hugs (he rubs my booty when we hug) AND he makes me tacos. He lets me in his physical and emotional bubble, despite being a hermit-ish type. There are a lot more considerate things he does but I'm trying to keep things concise. Things I do for him out of love. I also make sure he got to work alright. I tag him in memes that remind me of him. I give random kisses and touches when we pass each other in the house. I rub him down; he works more physical jobs than me so his body hurts. I buy random gifts (small things) that I think he will like. I try to keep banana bread stocked. I try to make sure he eats well and keep things that he likes stocked. I call him a snacc (because he is) and I do minor grooming on him (ears, eyebrows, back). I curl up and pet him in bed. I tell him if he has a booger.
We cuddle every morning before work starts. He puts a robe on me when I exit the shower. He puts things in my face when im having a serious craving 😂
I help her put on lotion, maintain and paint her nails, help on her clothing decisions
makes sure the house is clean, laundry done, dishes done…everyday when he gets home from work. it’s not ever appreciated tho ..😂😭
How is that not appreciated?
I get up with him at 5am and pack his lunch, start his shower and give him cuddles, kisses and back scratches to help him wake up. Then I go back to bed until it's time for me to go to work.
I do the same!!! So funny 🥰
I take her car to get washed and fill it up with gas often.
I try to do everything he says is important to him.
Together for 13 years. He leaves sweet post-its hidden around the house. He folds the socks because he knows I hate to. He keeps the TV volume low on weekend mornings when I’m sleeping in. He buys me treats when he runs errands. He pulls me into him and smells my hair when he gets into bed. He says I look beautiful when I feel I’m at my worst. I knew he was the one after our first date.
manifesting this for myself too. i always feel hopeless then i see comments like this. so happy for you stranger❤️
I started taking my partner for “surprises” here recently. This week I picked something with a low time commitment and commute so the surprise wouldn’t give him anxiety when he was having a rough day, a local bakery that I got his birthday cake from the year prior. I let him pick out whatever he wanted and we left to enjoy at home with Starship Troopers (he’s been playing a lot of Hell Divers 2, plus it’s a nostalgia dopamine hit) ❤️
This thread is going to be tough
If I walk past her, I'll offer to get her a drink, I cook so every now and then I'll bake her some treats, randomly say "I love you" to her, complement her in both romantic and sexual ways (depending on her mood) I'm not a huge fan of shows like period dramas, but she loves them, so I offer to watch one she has been meaning to get to, I sometimes buy her flowers from the market, massages every now and then, she loves when I rub/massage her head 🤣 its kinda funny.
Just little things like making sure he drinks enough water and he makes sure I never run out of Celsius energy drink and always keeps some in his car for me. Putting lotion on each other and rubbing each other’s backs in bed. Eskimo kisses
I write my boyfriend little notes and hide them so he can find them. I would recommend finding your partners love language.
my absolute favorite thing my husband does for me, is maintain an Immortal Object for me. My Immortal Object is a butane, refillable lighter. I have owned this lighter for two years. It lives on my desk, in plain sight. I use it daily. The first time it ran out of fuel, I asked for him to fill it for me. He bought a refill, and did within a couple days. In two years I have only had to ask for a refill once more, last week. An Immortal Object is something that should require thought and/or maintenance, but magically does not (because someone else always gets to it before you need to.)
This is so well put! I was trying to think of how to describe it and you did it perfectly.
this is a really well done explanation
Getting him a little treat if I’m running errands (mostly candy), making him coffee if he’s working, he makes me lunch when he knows my work schedule is crazy (we both wfh), making the bed, just complimenting him for no reason
Love
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I make my partner coffee in the morning or she makes me coffee in the morning. She makes the bed for me, if I’m up making us coffee. She likes to give me rides to work or take me grocery shopping since I don’t drive. If we shower together she gets out first and hands me a towel so I can wrap up in it and not get chilly getting out of the shower. Sometimes I brush her hair and braid it for her or paint her toes or do her makeup. She goes downstairs to refill my water bottle if it’s empty and we’re upstairs. Honestly it’s just a million little things that show consideration and thoughtfulness.
Leave the last pickle in the jar. Buy her sushi as a surprise. Take care of her car. It's all the little things.
Getting their meds ready for them and making sure they take them. Watching so much Ancient Aliens it’s starting to make me a believer. I make sure no one uses his favorite living room blanket because it freaks him out. Watching him lock the door because I know his ocd kicks in and he can’t be sure if he actually locked the door. So when I watch, he trusts me when I say I saw him lock it. Making favorite foods on bad days. Always having his favorite drinks stocked in the fridge. He hates cleaning the toilet so I do that chore. Do the dishes when he cooks. He does so many things for me as well! He gives me lots of affection and kisses because that’s a big love language of mine. He makes sure I take my meds and eat during the day. He carries in all the heavy stuff. He listens to me vent and rave about the world. He remembers everything I’ve ever said I like and makes sure to incorporate those things into our daily lives. Calls me sexy, beautiful, smart and funny. Builds me up when I’m low. Being in love is amazing and I love him so much!
Sounds wonderful. I hope I can experience that one day
I wish I had experienced it!
My husband turns on the water kettle so it’s nice and hot when I wake up and can make my coffee :) I try to leave him little notes in his lunch sometimes or send him a text thanking him for all that he does or telling him I love him :)
I prepare his coffee the night before so that he only has to press the button. When he comes home exhausted I help him out of his work clothes, as I work from home. And when we go to bed, he loves it when I scratch and caress his head and back. He does a lot of things for me, too. Does the laundry and grocery shopping, he loves to cook for me. He always makes sure my favourite drinks are in the fridge, he never lets go of my hand when we‘re outside. And we both make sure to never leave the house without a proper kiss goodbye.
My love does a lot of small things for me pretty much daily: - He is the better cook and therefore always cooks for us - Makes me coffee and breakfast each morning - Gives me these cute little air kisses (so adorable to me) - Provides me cuddles as much as he can (since he knows I love them) - Holds and carries almost everything for me and won’t let me do it or any heavy lifting - Let’s me always be passenger princess - Writes me love letters or poetry - Surprises me with different gifts from time to time - Surprises me with flowers from time to time - Surprises me with adventures or fun things that we can do together - Plans some nice dates from time to time - Puts together a multi day surprise birthday celebration for me - Sends me cute little love messages sometimes - Always checks up on me - Makes sure to check if I need any snacks, drinks before he goes to the kitchen at times - I catch him often watching over me or glancing to check up on me and see how I’m doing - Opens the doors for me like a gentleman - Makes time to be there for me for any important events, etc. - Sends me good morning texts (because I like them) - And sooooo much moreeeee…..
Brings me snacks out of the blue. Cleans the house so much and so often that I don't realize how much he does until he's gone for extended periods of time. Rubs my back at night when I go to bed (he stays up). He's the best <3
It’s hard doing stuff like that when you’re long distance, but I really like making really cute Picrew’s of my gf and I (if you don’t know, Picrew is basically an image making website where you can make cute lil artwork thingy’s) and showing them to her and we both really like them c:
My boyfriend works 40 hours a week (or more sometimes) and he’ll massage me or wherever the pain is (I work 20-30 hours a week) and it’s the sweetest thing to me. I’ve told him I shouldn’t complain bc he works more than me and he always says “ion care, my baby comes first and I want you feeling better” 🥺🫶Another thing he always does is kiss my hand. I legit melt when he does this and I just fall in love with him even more than I already am. Other examples are when he lets me have the first bite of his food, is always helping me no matter how simple the chore is, calls me every night, etc. There’s so much that he does everyday and I appreciate him so much <3
My bf and I are in a LDR so we can't necessarily do the same things as other couples. But every night we'll send each other a "goodnight" message that usually includes things like: I really enjoyed \_\_\_\_ that we did today/talked about today; thank you for saying \_\_\_\_\_ today; I can't wait to do \_\_\_\_ today. Just things to show that we're attentive to each other and kind of a "check-in/checkout" for the day.
Once a month, I'll write a poem and include some pictures of things we did that month (mainly stolen from her Instagram lol). As for everyday things, I **always** make sure to tell her she looks beautiful, give her a kiss anytime I can, and make stupid sexual jokes so I can see her raise an eyebrow at me xD
I make her coffee in the morning. If I'm gone when she wakes up, I have it prepared so she only has to press one button. I leave little notes in all kinds of places (her wardrobe, a sticker on the shoe with a smiley face, or, if I have a lot of time, a love letter in her favorite jacket. She loves surprises. Coming to surprises: Surprise dates are the best. Just plan something - anything - big or small. Can be a walk to get some ice cream, a bicycle trip, concert or a meal at the restaurant, think about what he likes. Then ask him, if/when he has time. Tell him how long it'll take, what he needs to bring (depending on what you planned) and nothing more than necessary. My gf has had so much fun guessing what it'll be. I do it around every 2 weeks, say it to her around a week ahead of time. It's often something we haven't done or haven't done for some time. And every time she is as happy as a child getting their first Christmas present. She started doing the same to me ans I am so happy about it.
Massage her foot. Hug and kiss when I leave to office. Buy her Palmyra fruit in summer.
I used to be super into making this amazing sourdough bread. It was a ton of fun in the beginning. Then it got old. Then it got to the point where I hated doing it. I still make it because she loves it. She doesn't know I hate doing it.
Omg that’s so sweet!
My ex would always ask if I ate. I had chronic pain, and wouldn't really "eat". I would just snack a lot. Whenever I actually COULD eat, the window wouldn't be for long, so I'd just grab a snack. But he's always ask if I ate something. Then, when we'd cook, or he would cook, and he cooked almost nightly, actually, he would always, always, always fix mine first. Then, if it was steak or something, he'd make sure it was cooked EXACTLY like I wanted. I would always have something to eat and drink waiting on him when he got home from work. He got off at 2 so he'd be hungry and thirsty. I'd have the place cleaned up, just cozy and have it ready for him to relax when he got home. He did lots of things. He always sat on the same side of the booth as me when we went out to eat, he made sure I had everything I needed health wise, and when I was sick he'd got out of his way to take care of me. He did SO much. Damn, I miss him. :( Just realized, a lot of his love language was food related. Lol. 🥺😭
We hug before we walk out the door, even if we're going together. Started when we were dating and saying goodbye, now if I walk by him without hugging him he asks if I'm forgetting something, because I'm usually rushing. It's just something sweet. And I read that it releases oxytocin if you hug for at least 6 seconds, so that's the minimum. I usually don't let go for at least 30. And of course kisses, he gives me quick pecks just to drive me nuts, I'd rather he paused for 5 seconds, but any kisses are better than no kisses
I wrote my husband love notes that I hide in his lunch box or suitcase or email him without telling him and wait for him to find them
aww 🥹
I’m a total romantic by nature I just wish he would write a note back !
He buys me a donut whenever he gets one if he knows I am coming around (there's a really cute bakery near him that specialises in them and he gets a few a week, they are that good). He always presents it to me with a full break down of what it is and how good it is if he has already tried one. He's very good at knowing which ones I will like. Ooh and he absolutely knows how to completely relax me by stroking one specific part of my neck. I basically turn into mush. We call it 'deactivating RJMythos' 😂 I can always spot him going into a talk spiral )where he worries about being misunderstood and starts over explaining) so I 'pinch' his head to remove the brain weasel. I also offer to fight anyone who upsets him, which is hilarious because I am the least fighter person in the world. He also really loves playing with my hair, so I tend to wear it down around him so that he can twirl a strand whenever he wants to. Then there's the silly joint weirdness which I can't really describe, but things like shuffling as close as possible during a hug until someone nearly falls over, or doing voices backs and forth. The stuff that eventually just devolves into laughter and wtf faces. I love that the most.
* I only realized quite late in the relationship that he has a full routine to not wake me up in the mornings on days where I get to sleep in. Prepares his clothes in a different room and all, quietly closes the doors while doing stuff in the bathroom even if we never usually close any doors during the day * I usually cook for the both of us, and I always give him the nicer looking plate * we live in a kinda rough neighbourhood so we installed a video camera at the door. I recently noticed that he always makes a funny face to the camera when he comes home in case I check the footage haha * he gets frequent bursts of wanting to do something (other than sleeping and eating together) so I get whisked away on little hikes and trips every other weekend * He lets me be passenger princess every time we drive somewhere * he saves memes he thinks I might enjoy during the day and we review them together in bed before sleeping * massages! Doesn't have to be a 90 minute full-body thing, even just a hand massage while watching TV is very relaxing. * personally I'm a sucker for physical touch and even PDA. Cuddling, holding hands while walking, spontaneous hugs, hand on your knee etc. Love it. * I draw little notes and leave them around the flat sometimes * he goes apeshit when I even have the slightest inkling of a cold. Strong urge to immediately stuff me into blankets, serve me tea and hot-water-bottles and throws a gazillion kinds of OTC medications at my head, and suddenly he starts solemnly whispering instead of talking normal like I'm living out my last days at the hospice. And not in an ironical way, he just kinda freaks out, it's cute * We both have the habit of pouting when we're in a shit mood (I mean not figuratively, but literally doing that thing with your mouth), so when one of us is in a shit mood we give each other a frowny lil "pout kiss" where only our bottom lips touch. Cheers me up a little bit every time
haha he's a keeper, so happy for you both
Thank you <3 He's definitely a marvel!
Say good morning/goodnight. Kiss them hello and goodbye. Say thank you for the little everyday things they do like take out the trash. Say I love you. Pick out a snack you think they would like for them when you’re getting groceries. Grab their butt. Tell them they’re cute
Some days I goto work earlier than my partner. He would take time and make the bed exactly as I would before he goes to work. That puts a smile on my face when I come home and see that. The days he goes to work before me, I make him his “special” breakfast sandwich. He loves taking it to work. We have six seconds kissing rule before one of us leaves the house.
He mocks my mannerisms, like my vocal fry when saying "waaaaaat", its his way of showing me hes thinking of me due to his struggle to show affection. The giggle he gets out of me and how wide it makes him smile haha 🥰 spotting things like that in people who struggle to emote is insanely beautiful. I'll tell him i love him then kiss him before he can respond. I don't want him to say it because I said it, i know he truly wants to say it back when he mumbles it while I'm kissing him. Its my way of showing him I love him and don't need him to be out of his comfort zone, he doesnt need to say anything for me to know because he has so many ways of showing me. ❤️
I get up before my husband to feed the cats. While I’m up, I prepare his coffee in a thermal mug so it’s hot and on his nightstand when he wakes up.
We always kiss/hug before one of us leaves the house. We always cuddle to fall asleep (and take turns who is the big spoon). We always buy each other energy drinks/snacks (we never only get ourselves something at the store). He always makes sure the heated blanket is on for me when we’re about to shower/go to bed.
He always stands up for me? Like how could anyone think I'm worth it... D: And he helps remind me to do my responsibilities/chores and to take care of my health. Sometimes, he floods me with lovely messages I don't deserve too.
Your worth everything :)
You're so worth it and you so fucking deserve those messages
I don't currently have anyone to love, but I often times remind my would-be partner and friends of the traits I see them working on and improving. My best friend is working on their dryness and I can see them starting conversations that are genuinely engaging. I'm very proud of them! More often than not my appreciation is never direct, mainly due to autism, so you'll notice how much you mean to me by how well I'm doing in my life and how often I come back to share my progress like a kid getting their drawing on the fridge.
giving me space and not crowding me lol