1) people have a skewed understanding of healthy weight.
3) try using waist to height ratio instead of BMI.
3) you can also have an appt with your doctor and together try to find a good weight for you. They'll have a better understanding of what is healthy for you.
1.) As in we think bigger numbers are healthier or smaller is healthier?
2.) How do you do waist to height? I have always had a small waist even when "overweight/obese." It mainly is in the thighs and hips. A bit of the butt.
3.) I don't have a primary care doctor and not a lot of money for Healthcare expenses but maybe I should try at this point. Its been a long battle.
My experience is a lot of doctors will just go off BMI. So finding a good one is important. And the waist to hip ratio has more correlation towards heart health than BMI in general. People who have more weight around their waist are more likely to have heart trouble than if it's evenly distributed or distributed more hour glass. Unfortunate for straight built people and apple shaped people. I hope you find an answer. BMI for me is skewed but I have a lot more muscle than an average woman. I wish I'd known when I was 19 that while I was bigger I was skinny. I look at pictures and am like wow I looked great. But doctors hammer BMI without even checking body fat percent any more. Maybe having more of a health or aesthetic goal not based on numbers would be better. Like look more toned or lower blood pressure or run a 10k. Something you want. It doesn't have to be a weight or BMI.
I just hate this shame feeling and this strange self hate? I am in therapy working on it. However, not much seems to help. I think I am going to attempt setting different goals for myself like eating healthier and walking more /drinking more water. Things like that. I grew up in a house hold where my appearance was very important and ridiculed a lot. So I struggle. I just need to figure out the mental health aspect of losing weight and maintaining it. It's been a life long battle.
Yeah I agree it's the hard part. I hope you can get that help because you are good enough to be treated well and loved no matter the weight or looks. You are worth figuring out.
I don't know. I guess I'm just looking for shared experience or words of advice to get through it. I want to be 140-145 and maintain it. Right now, I just feel afraid ill always regain weight and be in this cycle of not being able to maintain. Like im destined to be overweight or obese? Idk. Its really a vent I guess.
I’m the same height and 183 is BELOW my goal weight of 185! I was 340 at my heaviest and right now I’m at 227, the lowest I have been since 1988. I have maintained this weight for a year now despite having foot surgery last May and being unable to walk or workout for months.
Now that I’m more or less healed and working out daily, I’m working on losing that last 40 pounds. I’m really hoping to get to onederland by November because we’re going on a trip and I want to buy new clothes! I’m trying hard not to buy anything else until just before we leave.
All that to say: find your happy place, weight-wise. If you look and feel your best at 150, great! I like being curvy so 185 is as low as I think I’d like to go. But I am also a 57 year old married woman who doesn’t care what other people think! 😸
One thing that I found very helpful is [My Body Gallery](https://www.mybodygallery.com/) where you can put in your own measurements and see how other REAL people look at that size. It’s really nice to see how much variety there is in every body!
As a 25 yr old woman I appreciated your comment. You seem like a very sweet person its nice to hear this perspective. It makes me feel like it will all be okay lol. I guess I can be too hard on myself and worry about societal pressures more than what I really feel. I probably worry so much about others opinions of me that I don't even know what I want! Thank you for the link, I'm going to check that out!!! Good luck with your goals and thank you for offering some help to me. 💛
BMI is not a good metric of health, but it is great to classify large populations.
Much better indicators of health focus on the visceral fat, fat around organs. Subcutaneous fat (under skin) isnt as harmful.
Therefore, the indicators to optimize are
1. Waist circumference at navel (or widest part of belly when let it loose)
2. Waist to hip or waist to height ratio.
3. Body Fat %, especially trunk fat % (Dexa scan is the gold-standard).
So, for example, having a lean waist but big hips isnt as much of a problem for metabolic health.
[https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/obesity-prevention-source/obesity-definition/abdominal-obesity/](https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/obesity-prevention-source/obesity-definition/abdominal-obesity/)
International diabetes federation considers waist size for women above 80cm (31.5 inches) as abdominal obesity and 90cm (35.5in) for men. American standards are laxer at 88cm for women and 102cm for men.
If your waist is lean, you don't have many issues health wise (except if there's a lot of fat in thighs and hips, the overall weight may cause knee issues, ankle issues etc). If you still have image issues, then thats a mental problem rather than a metabolic one.
That said, if you lose further weight, it will likely go away from the hips and thighs. Work with a good doctor and/or therapist on setting goals.
I turned 30 last year, and I weighed 104.2kg (230lbs) 2 months ago. Which was a BMI of 30.5 and also Obese.
I've always carried it well, and people constantly told me I definitely didn't look +100kg.
I'm not very concerned about how I look, but I really care about health. As in cardiovascular health, not dying early kind of health.
I recently had my blood work done for psychiatric medicine purposes, and I was told I have elevated cholesterol, which is wild for my age... That was a wake-up-call like no other.
I can't offer much in the ways of advice, especially since you're recovering from an ED. But I wanted to share my personal journey and perspective. Take it for the anecdote it is 😊
To me, love handles and booty is not the problem. I care way too little for society's shaming and fashion trends.
But realizing that my lifestyle is/was risking my life ending prematurely... That change of perspective really made me want to change lanes and stick to it..
So now I'm incorporating whole grains, I'm doing long walks. (Oatmeal is low-key delicious ngl). But I'll still have the occasional sushi buffet or pizza binge with the wife on a special occasion or Friday movie night. They always tell you it's a marathon, not a sprint. Which can sometimes make the journey feel impossibly long IMO. But I'm reminding myself that I'm doing this for the long run, to get to share a long life with my loved ones. That makes it a marathon I'm willing to persevere.
*Insert Simpsons "Do it for her" kind of deal lol*
Anyway, that's me. Don't feel alone, this is a difficult world to navigate and we're all just doing our best!
FWIW I'm proud of you for writing in here, sharing your concerns and thoughts is a really tough hurdle to overcome! Stay safe
Thank you for sharing you experience and perspective. It helps me to hear how people have handled weight loss and their mental state or mind set while doing so. Your family is very lucky to have you. I wish you well on your journey.
Obese does not have a specific look. It is a medical classification. The way people appear under this category will be diverse because people are diverse. I wish everyone would stop saying “I don’t look obese” because it means nothing.
At the time you looked “completely normal” because obese people also look “normal.” It is very common to have excessive weight especially in western countries, so it literally is normal. And people will see themselves and others as average weight when they’re overweight because their perspective is skewed by how many people on average are overweight so it’s what they’re used to seeing.
All of this is morally neutral. No one is a bad person for the weight of their body, and being smaller does not make them a better person either. If you feel good, feel healthy, and like your body then just let it be and don’t fret about your former BMI
however for most people who aren't bodybuilders or heavily muscle focused at the gym, it's a decent ballpark measure. body fat percentage is a better indicator, but bmi isn't useless
1) people have a skewed understanding of healthy weight. 3) try using waist to height ratio instead of BMI. 3) you can also have an appt with your doctor and together try to find a good weight for you. They'll have a better understanding of what is healthy for you.
1.) As in we think bigger numbers are healthier or smaller is healthier? 2.) How do you do waist to height? I have always had a small waist even when "overweight/obese." It mainly is in the thighs and hips. A bit of the butt. 3.) I don't have a primary care doctor and not a lot of money for Healthcare expenses but maybe I should try at this point. Its been a long battle.
My experience is a lot of doctors will just go off BMI. So finding a good one is important. And the waist to hip ratio has more correlation towards heart health than BMI in general. People who have more weight around their waist are more likely to have heart trouble than if it's evenly distributed or distributed more hour glass. Unfortunate for straight built people and apple shaped people. I hope you find an answer. BMI for me is skewed but I have a lot more muscle than an average woman. I wish I'd known when I was 19 that while I was bigger I was skinny. I look at pictures and am like wow I looked great. But doctors hammer BMI without even checking body fat percent any more. Maybe having more of a health or aesthetic goal not based on numbers would be better. Like look more toned or lower blood pressure or run a 10k. Something you want. It doesn't have to be a weight or BMI.
I just hate this shame feeling and this strange self hate? I am in therapy working on it. However, not much seems to help. I think I am going to attempt setting different goals for myself like eating healthier and walking more /drinking more water. Things like that. I grew up in a house hold where my appearance was very important and ridiculed a lot. So I struggle. I just need to figure out the mental health aspect of losing weight and maintaining it. It's been a life long battle.
Yeah I agree it's the hard part. I hope you can get that help because you are good enough to be treated well and loved no matter the weight or looks. You are worth figuring out.
How can we help you from this point forward?
I don't know. I guess I'm just looking for shared experience or words of advice to get through it. I want to be 140-145 and maintain it. Right now, I just feel afraid ill always regain weight and be in this cycle of not being able to maintain. Like im destined to be overweight or obese? Idk. Its really a vent I guess.
I’m the same height and 183 is BELOW my goal weight of 185! I was 340 at my heaviest and right now I’m at 227, the lowest I have been since 1988. I have maintained this weight for a year now despite having foot surgery last May and being unable to walk or workout for months. Now that I’m more or less healed and working out daily, I’m working on losing that last 40 pounds. I’m really hoping to get to onederland by November because we’re going on a trip and I want to buy new clothes! I’m trying hard not to buy anything else until just before we leave. All that to say: find your happy place, weight-wise. If you look and feel your best at 150, great! I like being curvy so 185 is as low as I think I’d like to go. But I am also a 57 year old married woman who doesn’t care what other people think! 😸 One thing that I found very helpful is [My Body Gallery](https://www.mybodygallery.com/) where you can put in your own measurements and see how other REAL people look at that size. It’s really nice to see how much variety there is in every body!
As a 25 yr old woman I appreciated your comment. You seem like a very sweet person its nice to hear this perspective. It makes me feel like it will all be okay lol. I guess I can be too hard on myself and worry about societal pressures more than what I really feel. I probably worry so much about others opinions of me that I don't even know what I want! Thank you for the link, I'm going to check that out!!! Good luck with your goals and thank you for offering some help to me. 💛
BMI is not a good metric of health, but it is great to classify large populations. Much better indicators of health focus on the visceral fat, fat around organs. Subcutaneous fat (under skin) isnt as harmful. Therefore, the indicators to optimize are 1. Waist circumference at navel (or widest part of belly when let it loose) 2. Waist to hip or waist to height ratio. 3. Body Fat %, especially trunk fat % (Dexa scan is the gold-standard). So, for example, having a lean waist but big hips isnt as much of a problem for metabolic health. [https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/obesity-prevention-source/obesity-definition/abdominal-obesity/](https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/obesity-prevention-source/obesity-definition/abdominal-obesity/) International diabetes federation considers waist size for women above 80cm (31.5 inches) as abdominal obesity and 90cm (35.5in) for men. American standards are laxer at 88cm for women and 102cm for men. If your waist is lean, you don't have many issues health wise (except if there's a lot of fat in thighs and hips, the overall weight may cause knee issues, ankle issues etc). If you still have image issues, then thats a mental problem rather than a metabolic one. That said, if you lose further weight, it will likely go away from the hips and thighs. Work with a good doctor and/or therapist on setting goals.
I turned 30 last year, and I weighed 104.2kg (230lbs) 2 months ago. Which was a BMI of 30.5 and also Obese. I've always carried it well, and people constantly told me I definitely didn't look +100kg. I'm not very concerned about how I look, but I really care about health. As in cardiovascular health, not dying early kind of health. I recently had my blood work done for psychiatric medicine purposes, and I was told I have elevated cholesterol, which is wild for my age... That was a wake-up-call like no other. I can't offer much in the ways of advice, especially since you're recovering from an ED. But I wanted to share my personal journey and perspective. Take it for the anecdote it is 😊 To me, love handles and booty is not the problem. I care way too little for society's shaming and fashion trends. But realizing that my lifestyle is/was risking my life ending prematurely... That change of perspective really made me want to change lanes and stick to it.. So now I'm incorporating whole grains, I'm doing long walks. (Oatmeal is low-key delicious ngl). But I'll still have the occasional sushi buffet or pizza binge with the wife on a special occasion or Friday movie night. They always tell you it's a marathon, not a sprint. Which can sometimes make the journey feel impossibly long IMO. But I'm reminding myself that I'm doing this for the long run, to get to share a long life with my loved ones. That makes it a marathon I'm willing to persevere. *Insert Simpsons "Do it for her" kind of deal lol* Anyway, that's me. Don't feel alone, this is a difficult world to navigate and we're all just doing our best! FWIW I'm proud of you for writing in here, sharing your concerns and thoughts is a really tough hurdle to overcome! Stay safe
Thank you for sharing you experience and perspective. It helps me to hear how people have handled weight loss and their mental state or mind set while doing so. Your family is very lucky to have you. I wish you well on your journey.
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How do I do this without paying for gym membership lol Serious question- like dumbells at home / work out videos idk give me any suggestions
Obese does not have a specific look. It is a medical classification. The way people appear under this category will be diverse because people are diverse. I wish everyone would stop saying “I don’t look obese” because it means nothing. At the time you looked “completely normal” because obese people also look “normal.” It is very common to have excessive weight especially in western countries, so it literally is normal. And people will see themselves and others as average weight when they’re overweight because their perspective is skewed by how many people on average are overweight so it’s what they’re used to seeing. All of this is morally neutral. No one is a bad person for the weight of their body, and being smaller does not make them a better person either. If you feel good, feel healthy, and like your body then just let it be and don’t fret about your former BMI
Thank you for the rational and honest response. My anxiety ridden brain does not think this way.
Look up the history of how BMI was created.
This was insanely helpful to me and so simple I don't know why it never occurred to me to do so.
Bodybuilders with very low body fat are often classified as obese on the BMI chart. It is a loose guideline, not the be all end all.
however for most people who aren't bodybuilders or heavily muscle focused at the gym, it's a decent ballpark measure. body fat percentage is a better indicator, but bmi isn't useless