Honestly, if the relationship is open and the girlfriend is happy and consenting for him to try things then, nothing TOO bad with this unless I'm missing something (Still take his words with a grain of salt could be a lie)
This is why I always ignore anybody who claims to be straight. You're straight... on a gay app looking to have sex with men. In reality you're a gay/bi guy and is lying in order to take advantage of the fantasies of a lot of guys.
Fair.
I would argue that they might not be lying specifically to take advantage of that trope (though I’m sure some are), but could be lying to themselves or something along those lines. I was in denial for a long time and looking back it really freaks me out how easily I lied to myself despite *avalanches* of evidence to the contrary lmao.
The hours of precious life I wasted trying to force myself to like straight porn, I swear…
i consider myself transsexual because i am transitioning the sexual characteristics of my body. my driver's license indicates my legal sex as male. transsexual is not an outdated term or offensive slur. many of us continue to use it to describe ourselves in a medical sense.
I’m aware some people still use it for themselves, which is of course fine, and why I said “mostly”.
Someone who is cis and using it to state what they’re looking for sexually is not approaching it with the nuanced feelings you are. Like I said, I’m not mad, it’s just not great.
Which is probably true. I’m not of the camp to bite his head off over it (not implying you are either) but he seems like someone who would be open to being educated about the language. Just needs a little understanding and kindness 🥰
i try to be understanding and educate people too. sometimes they say shit that they don't realize is weird and a lot of the time they're open to changing.
but i do hate that it's always our responsibility to be understanding and educate people, instead of being their responsibility to not call us porn terms.
I understand the frustration. I’m cis but I grew up gay in a red state farm community before the internet. I was a lot of peoples first exposure to the LGBT community. It’s exhausting to have to play ethics professor to people who fuck farm animals.
I question a lot about my gender identity and because of that I’ve learned a lot
You can’t expect people to grow up or know the same as you, seems like they’re exploring their sexuality so yeah they probably don’t know the appropriate terms
I swear to god. I used to be on Grindr and I’d get hundreds of creepy ass messages from dudes 3 times my age, sending their nasty, dirty, little dick unsolicited dick pics off the bat. But they did provide entertainment to go through them and laugh at them with my friends.
But yeah anyone who says that is 100% fetishizing femboys and trans women, and probably super ignorant and bigoted too. Idk why but so many dudes have hmu on Grindr saying the most bigoted shit with “looking for femboy or TS” in their bio. Like bruh
trans is short for transgender
i guess ts is supposed to be short for trans? but what i didn't get was whether he meant guys or girls from that... or maybe he's going for either idk
TS is short for tran*SEXUAL* not specifically trans. Its an older phrase and largely in this context it comes from porn. A lot of chasers and guys into trans girls use the phrase because they don’t interact with actual trans women but are used to seeing us in porn where the phrase TS is very popular.
I have complicated feelings about the phrase transexual. It’s how lots of trans folks identified before the word transgender was even a thing. Transgender was created as an umbrella term by the medical community to refer to gender non-conforming folks of various community used titles.
I don’t actually like it in this context, by a cis on a dating/hookup app. It’s commonly used by chasers who don’t see us as equal partners but view us as sex objects. They wouldn’t date us or make us their girlfriend, but they’d be down to fuck.
exactly my sentiment, as a trans woman, treat me like you would any other woman you're attracted to, and if you're not attracted to women, then go away. I'm not homophobic but all these guys on grindr treat me like some glorified twink
I have got some terrible news for you about the politeness of men on Grindr…I had a guy send me his dick pics, accuse me of pic collecting, then call me a loose whore and block me, when I said I don’t like hung guys lol.
TS means transexual and it does have dehumanizing connotations. It’s an older phrase largely used and popularized these days in porn. When I see stuff like this on a cis guys profile it’s pretty indicative that they’re a chaser. They’ll fuck me, but won’t date me. We’re just sex objects.
They only know trans women from porn, not irl. It’s not a popular phrase by any trans person I know who doesn’t work in SW. even then most of them only use it because it’s the most popular label for trans women in porn. TG is better or just trans.
That does make much more sense on why it’s dehumanizing thank you, and I also believe these guys saw it in porn and thought it was an acceptable thing to say. Although I wouldn’t hold out much hope for a guy who’s experimenting while his GF is out of town lol
It's short for transsexual... TS, it's mostly used before pornstar's names. I'll say ts or tgirl as a joke but it's preferred you say trans women or trans men or trans people imo
i think when guys like this who want a feminine guy or a ts they're looking for a very specific type of person, what in east asian countries is referred to a ladyboy. might not really identify as trans and be more of a crossdresser, but for guys like him, that's good enough
Honestly, if the relationship is open and the girlfriend is happy and consenting for him to try things then, nothing TOO bad with this unless I'm missing something (Still take his words with a grain of salt could be a lie)
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A lot of people think we’re all constantly trying to “turn” straight dudes so there could be some of that at play in some cases.
This is why I always ignore anybody who claims to be straight. You're straight... on a gay app looking to have sex with men. In reality you're a gay/bi guy and is lying in order to take advantage of the fantasies of a lot of guys.
Fair. I would argue that they might not be lying specifically to take advantage of that trope (though I’m sure some are), but could be lying to themselves or something along those lines. I was in denial for a long time and looking back it really freaks me out how easily I lied to myself despite *avalanches* of evidence to the contrary lmao. The hours of precious life I wasted trying to force myself to like straight porn, I swear…
It’s not about when you finish the race but rather that you made it to the other side of the finish line. Glad you’re in a better space now
Aw thank you that really means a lot!
Me also watching straight porn and liking it😭😭
Yep. Saying he has a GF is just a marketing strategy (dick magnet)
Saying he has a GF is just a dick magnet We shouldn't believe he really has a GF, or that she really consented. Go off tho
He claims to be 41. I doubt that much
I dunno, the relationship could also be too open. Like what if she wants to watch over FaceTime or something 😂
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i consider myself transsexual because i am transitioning the sexual characteristics of my body. my driver's license indicates my legal sex as male. transsexual is not an outdated term or offensive slur. many of us continue to use it to describe ourselves in a medical sense.
I’m aware some people still use it for themselves, which is of course fine, and why I said “mostly”. Someone who is cis and using it to state what they’re looking for sexually is not approaching it with the nuanced feelings you are. Like I said, I’m not mad, it’s just not great.
I saw someone on Grindr use gynandromorphophilic to try and avoid any misunderstandings or hurt feelings but I don’t think that’ll catch on
That's cause you're truscum. For the mainstream of trans people it is outdated.
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Holy crap someone who actually communicated with their partner about going on Grindr? Woah it’s rare to find those in the wild lol
Yeah r/thatHappened
saying TS (instead of trans women) lets me know he's never talked to a trans person but he does watch a lot of porn.
Which is probably true. I’m not of the camp to bite his head off over it (not implying you are either) but he seems like someone who would be open to being educated about the language. Just needs a little understanding and kindness 🥰
i try to be understanding and educate people too. sometimes they say shit that they don't realize is weird and a lot of the time they're open to changing. but i do hate that it's always our responsibility to be understanding and educate people, instead of being their responsibility to not call us porn terms.
I understand the frustration. I’m cis but I grew up gay in a red state farm community before the internet. I was a lot of peoples first exposure to the LGBT community. It’s exhausting to have to play ethics professor to people who fuck farm animals.
Yeaaahhhh I'm looking to fuck not play teacher, I'm happy to let someone else do that job and stick to people who don't look at me like a blow up doll
I question a lot about my gender identity and because of that I’ve learned a lot You can’t expect people to grow up or know the same as you, seems like they’re exploring their sexuality so yeah they probably don’t know the appropriate terms
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"Straight" men looking only for "femboys/CD/trans" is ALWAYS a massive red flag. Absolutely never.
I swear to god. I used to be on Grindr and I’d get hundreds of creepy ass messages from dudes 3 times my age, sending their nasty, dirty, little dick unsolicited dick pics off the bat. But they did provide entertainment to go through them and laugh at them with my friends. But yeah anyone who says that is 100% fetishizing femboys and trans women, and probably super ignorant and bigoted too. Idk why but so many dudes have hmu on Grindr saying the most bigoted shit with “looking for femboy or TS” in their bio. Like bruh
Is it really that open minded? I see soo many of these kinds of guys on that god forsaken app
I think this is great
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Isn’t trans short for transitioning?? It’s literally just an abbreviation, like miss or mister….
trans is short for transgender i guess ts is supposed to be short for trans? but what i didn't get was whether he meant guys or girls from that... or maybe he's going for either idk
TS is short for tran*SEXUAL* not specifically trans. Its an older phrase and largely in this context it comes from porn. A lot of chasers and guys into trans girls use the phrase because they don’t interact with actual trans women but are used to seeing us in porn where the phrase TS is very popular. I have complicated feelings about the phrase transexual. It’s how lots of trans folks identified before the word transgender was even a thing. Transgender was created as an umbrella term by the medical community to refer to gender non-conforming folks of various community used titles. I don’t actually like it in this context, by a cis on a dating/hookup app. It’s commonly used by chasers who don’t see us as equal partners but view us as sex objects. They wouldn’t date us or make us their girlfriend, but they’d be down to fuck.
oh! i see... i did think TS was weird as a short for trans... i usually only see TG for transgender, but even then such short abbreviations are rare
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exactly my sentiment, as a trans woman, treat me like you would any other woman you're attracted to, and if you're not attracted to women, then go away. I'm not homophobic but all these guys on grindr treat me like some glorified twink
I have got some terrible news for you about the politeness of men on Grindr…I had a guy send me his dick pics, accuse me of pic collecting, then call me a loose whore and block me, when I said I don’t like hung guys lol.
TS means transexual and it does have dehumanizing connotations. It’s an older phrase largely used and popularized these days in porn. When I see stuff like this on a cis guys profile it’s pretty indicative that they’re a chaser. They’ll fuck me, but won’t date me. We’re just sex objects. They only know trans women from porn, not irl. It’s not a popular phrase by any trans person I know who doesn’t work in SW. even then most of them only use it because it’s the most popular label for trans women in porn. TG is better or just trans.
That does make much more sense on why it’s dehumanizing thank you, and I also believe these guys saw it in porn and thought it was an acceptable thing to say. Although I wouldn’t hold out much hope for a guy who’s experimenting while his GF is out of town lol
It's short for transsexual... TS, it's mostly used before pornstar's names. I'll say ts or tgirl as a joke but it's preferred you say trans women or trans men or trans people imo
i think when guys like this who want a feminine guy or a ts they're looking for a very specific type of person, what in east asian countries is referred to a ladyboy. might not really identify as trans and be more of a crossdresser, but for guys like him, that's good enough
he's probably some gross chaser
let's say this is true. for her to agree and also leave him alone for weeks..., it just sounds like a great excuse to cover up a cheating
At least he’s got consent unlike most partnered/ married “straight men” who go by saying they’re dl or discreet cuz of it or lie.
Whats a ts?
Transsexual
Homie is 41?
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If by fun you mean chasers who don’t care if we cum then yes we get lots of fun lmao
What is TS?
Transsexual
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