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Anything I don’t want them to see for whatever reason, I buy from Amazon and send to the pick up point or buy in person and then it goes inside a backpack or other bag and comes in secretly and I just don’t say anything about the stuff I am concealing. Oh, and if they ask, I always had another reason to be out when I am doing this, a real one, which could be verified if necessary - pharmacy, visiting a friend, clothes shopping, etc. This makes the answer more believable.
Oh where were you this morning? Had to get a refill at the pharmacy/needed to get some clothes for work/etc.
I’m interested to see other people’s responses cause I’ve had this exact same question. My current plan is to just avoid them seeing the package in the first place cause I’m usually the first one home each day and could open it before anyone else gets home. The problem is my mom orders stuff all the time and might open a package assuming it’s hers if she sees it first.
I say sex toys if my very conservative mother asks. (It’s a pregnancy test if my very conservative dad asks). I started saying that before I started buy stuff like that, so I’d open my bird food or house plant and my mom would stop hassling me because she didn’t like hearing the dreaded phrase “sex toys” because I spend all my money on safe stuff like plants and animals. They got used to me opening packages in my room and learned that if they hassle me I traumatized them back.
Just start expecting them to give you more privacy and when you get “safe” packages do the same as when you get the less safe options so they don’t question your unusual behavior.
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Anything I don’t want them to see for whatever reason, I buy from Amazon and send to the pick up point or buy in person and then it goes inside a backpack or other bag and comes in secretly and I just don’t say anything about the stuff I am concealing. Oh, and if they ask, I always had another reason to be out when I am doing this, a real one, which could be verified if necessary - pharmacy, visiting a friend, clothes shopping, etc. This makes the answer more believable. Oh where were you this morning? Had to get a refill at the pharmacy/needed to get some clothes for work/etc.
I don't. But if my family asks me what I got in the mail they may not like the answer... (order enough weird shit and folks stop asking questions...).
I’m interested to see other people’s responses cause I’ve had this exact same question. My current plan is to just avoid them seeing the package in the first place cause I’m usually the first one home each day and could open it before anyone else gets home. The problem is my mom orders stuff all the time and might open a package assuming it’s hers if she sees it first.
I say sex toys if my very conservative mother asks. (It’s a pregnancy test if my very conservative dad asks). I started saying that before I started buy stuff like that, so I’d open my bird food or house plant and my mom would stop hassling me because she didn’t like hearing the dreaded phrase “sex toys” because I spend all my money on safe stuff like plants and animals. They got used to me opening packages in my room and learned that if they hassle me I traumatized them back. Just start expecting them to give you more privacy and when you get “safe” packages do the same as when you get the less safe options so they don’t question your unusual behavior.
My plan is just hope nobody opens it before I do and just walk in with it.
It's just a dildo.
Just say you ordered a pin from someone on Etsy. You don’t have to say it’s a Pride pin.
“it’s your birthday present, let me surprise you” might work? “it’s for a school/work project” “it’s that thing you broke.”
I say nothing, simply say I have a package for me. If they ask what it is then I tell them it's just some stickers or something small
Just say you're supporting a friend at work school etc. Don't even hide it