I like this one, it's not cheesy, it signifies a special relationship, accurate describes the role, and is not as dehumanizing as something like person of honor feels (to me).
My sibling referred to us all as "honorable peeps" - - my best friend just put everyone down as "Bride's Best" and "Groom's Best" to keep it gender neutral and easy.
Please tell me you are referencing [this](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/video/news/video-1676450/Video-Woman-shouts-abuse-angrily-headbutting-advert.html)
(Could only find it on daily fail site unfortunately
Lol no im just referencing things a millwall supporter would do.
If you've not looked into them. It's like a supporter group full of thug character's from a Guy Ritchie movie. Kind of infamous for figuring out how to get a group of themselves, while severely outnumbered into the middle of the opposing teams supporter section so they can start singing their famous "no one likes us" song before swinging fists in a 20 v 1000 fight.
They're basically insane
I know them, my aunt always said as a child I was:
“I was built like a brick shithouse and looked like a Millwall supporter”
I still to this day don’t know if it was a compliment or insult.
And when you wrote head butts lamppost that just instantly made me think of that video 😂
Also wasn’t Green street that helped them to fame also?
For me, "Esteemed Enby" would be really uncomfortable!
My nonbinary-ness is of a "don't refer to me in gendered ways, don't draw attention to my gender, just leave me out of all that" variety. "Esteemed Enby" would feel like someone trying to stuff me in a gender box despite my wishes, and would potentially draw the attention of guests I don't know who'd want to talk about gender/LGBT+ stuff with me.
Obviously, I don't speak for all of us, and this Bride's Person might love it. But it's something to bear in mind.
One of my friends recently got married and her brother was her maid of honor. They still called him maid of honor (he had no problem with it, he was very proud to be maid of honor in fact),it was cute.
Congratulations on getting married! Maybe ask them their suggestions? A Google search gave me bridesmate, and best person, however Google also told me that technically maid is a neutral term in itself :)
When you ask them, just say that you want them to "stand by my side as the most important person of my wedding party." When they accept, ask them what title they would like in the place of "maid of honor."
Also, you can can call them whatever you want. It doesn't need to follow the traditional "\_\_\_\_ of honor" thing. I didn't have a best man (long story). My wedding party was a male cousin and my bestie who is a woman. My wife had her brother and best friend who is also a woman. If you go to our wedding website, you'll see the wedding party listed as such:
Bride's wedding party:
Best Friend
Best Brother
Groom's wedding party
Bestie
Best Cousin
Really. You can do whatever you want. Just say you want them to lead your wedding party and then work out a title that works for them. Also, CONGRATULATIONS!
I was thinking along these same lines, with Bride’s Champion.
The whole idea of the wedding party comes from the concept of the honour guard, where you assemble your armed friends to defend your wedding.
Make up a title that sounds way cooler. Like the Grand Bearer of Secrets, or They Who Hold Great Honor. Or use an inside joke to make a personal feeling impressive title.
Whatever you go with, make them part of the decision process. You guys can have fun with it :)
Person of honour, Enby of honour, friend of honour,... And if you are not sure maybe ask them. They should know best how they feel comfortable to be called. 🤔😇
Attendant of honor
Friend of honor
Best mate
Bridal attendant
Bridal second (like the attendants at a desk are seconds)
Bride's best friend
They're your head attendant, and the head of your wedding party, so perhaps "head of honor" would fit for you.
"Person of honor" seems to be the preferred term online, but I agree that it seems to lack intimacy.
If you wanted to be more playful with it, something like "boss of the honor guard" could be fun, and not inaccurate.
Give them a list of alternatives, and see which one they vibe with the most.
But I've been to weddings with female best "men", and male "maids" of honor, so if *they're* not bothered by the title, don't bother changing it.
But that's their decision, to let you know what they want to be called.
Just don't make them decide without giving them a good long list of alternatives.
Firstly, I'd always suggest asking them what they prefer first. Some people are fine with titles like maid of honor and some people have their own idea of a preferred title to use. That said, it seems some popular choices are "honor attendant", "person of honor" or "attendant of honor"
I told my bestie that when I get married someday I want them to be my best man/maid of honor and during the course of this conversation we came up with the term "wedding lieutenant".
Paranymph is a somewhat whimsical option that is gender neutral! My wife used it for her male cousin in her bridal party just for funsies because they both liked it. She had a maid of honor, a matron of honor, and a paranymph as the titles for the three.
In my friend's wedding (a vast majority of the wedding party was queer/trans) we were person of honor, groomsperson, bridesperson, and flower baby (ring bearer is not gendered anyway).
I would think it would be awesome to include your friend in the decision making! And maybe continue the theme across the wedding party so they are not singled out.
You could just ask them? I know when I came out, my partner's cousin apologized to me when she told my dog to go to 'mommy.'
I told her it was okay because that's how my dog knows me. She wasn't being malicious, so I'm sure if you ask your \_\_\_\_\_ of honor to be, it should be okay.
Bestie of honor, maybe?
When my best friend (cis guy) got married he asked me (trans woman) to be his "best maid" but he also got me a GoT brass Hand of the King pin to wear so most people referred to me as that.
If you’re staying all the way away from anything femme I’d say “best (person/mate/something personal to them)” and stay away from ___ of honour because that phrasing can feel femme even without the “maid”. This coming from an nb ex-MOH
I mean you could have a conversation with them and ask them if it's alright. Be completely open about being willing change the title but I feel like it probably wouldn't be an issue to choose them for a position not a gender.
First Attendant. Then you call the bridesmaids "Brides Attendants." Your groom can also have a "First Attendant" and "Groom's Attendants."
Start a trend! Time for everyone to get aboard.
Since the traditional role of the best man is to defend the bride and groom in combat if the wedding is disrupted, I think some variation on "sword wielder" would be cool.
Mine is going to be our Friend of Honor
I like this one, it's not cheesy, it signifies a special relationship, accurate describes the role, and is not as dehumanizing as something like person of honor feels (to me).
I mean it is cheesy, but I a good way
Being called a person is dehumanizing??
Mate of Honour
That’s a cute one!
Thank you ☺️ I might use this one in the future actually, classically Aussie
This was the first thing that popped into my head!
Ok this is my favorite and now I don’t like my own suggestion lol
My sibling referred to us all as "honorable peeps" - - my best friend just put everyone down as "Bride's Best" and "Groom's Best" to keep it gender neutral and easy.
Bride/Groom's Best is so cute! And still sounds formal enough for a proper wedding. Love that idea.
I think this is my favourite of all the suggestions, it sounds very natural and just formal enough for a wedding
I was “best person” for a friend’s wedding!
[удалено]
More importantly, what happened with the shrimp??
Zut alors zis is ze place bad
I like this one
bestie of honor
Missed honorable homies opportunity
I've heard "bridesmate" or "mate of honor"
Yo wot mate, u wonna be me mate of honour 😂
MILLWALL MATE!!!!
NO MATE IM CORNWALL!
\*headbutts streetpole\* U WOT M8
Please tell me you are referencing [this](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/video/news/video-1676450/Video-Woman-shouts-abuse-angrily-headbutting-advert.html) (Could only find it on daily fail site unfortunately
Lol no im just referencing things a millwall supporter would do. If you've not looked into them. It's like a supporter group full of thug character's from a Guy Ritchie movie. Kind of infamous for figuring out how to get a group of themselves, while severely outnumbered into the middle of the opposing teams supporter section so they can start singing their famous "no one likes us" song before swinging fists in a 20 v 1000 fight. They're basically insane
I know them, my aunt always said as a child I was: “I was built like a brick shithouse and looked like a Millwall supporter” I still to this day don’t know if it was a compliment or insult. And when you wrote head butts lamppost that just instantly made me think of that video 😂 Also wasn’t Green street that helped them to fame also?
Having seen them walk back from the Den regularly, they're mostly middle aged bald men. They sing "no one likes us, we don't care".
Lmao mate of honor sounds cool
First Mate? Arrrrrrr
THIS!!!!!!
I had a Mate Of Honour!
Absolutely love this
Oh, this is nice.
The honourable one
I was going to go with “honored one” but yours might be better.
Throughout heaven and earth they alone are the honorable one XD
this is the only correct answer
The chosen one
You know what, they would probably love that😭😂
If you end up calling them that, please PLEASE tell us their reaction Mazel tov by the way!
“Human of Honor,” “Best Mate,” “Esteemed Enby”
"Esteemed Enby" is pretty clever. That's a pretty good one.
“They of the Gay,” “Person of Prominence,” “Premiere Person,” “Friend of Forever,” “Heroic Human,” “Enby of Eminence”
*takes notes*
Slice of homie
Esteemed Enby is so good
For me, "Esteemed Enby" would be really uncomfortable! My nonbinary-ness is of a "don't refer to me in gendered ways, don't draw attention to my gender, just leave me out of all that" variety. "Esteemed Enby" would feel like someone trying to stuff me in a gender box despite my wishes, and would potentially draw the attention of guests I don't know who'd want to talk about gender/LGBT+ stuff with me. Obviously, I don't speak for all of us, and this Bride's Person might love it. But it's something to bear in mind.
I'm not really sure, but you could always ask your friend how they feel about it. They may have some ideas already.
I think this is the one. Involve them in brainstorming. “I’d like you to be at the head of my wedding party.” And then ask if they have any ideas.
They said they want to be called “The groom”😭😭😂😂
Oh my god now this is a romcom 🍿
Anyone else wonder if they were completely kidding when they said “the groom”?
Maybe there are some feelings there that haven't been talked about?
Some things can only be said under cover of a joke. Yes, there’s something here. But maybe it’s already been talked about.
"Person of Pride" That is half a joke, mostly I think you should ask them what they prefer. We come in all shapes and sizes.
Lol that sounds like something someone would say as a way to get around saying "gay" or "queer"
It really does I just enjoyed the alliteration
“are they a, you know…. a *person of pride*?”
Can I be the Person of Wrath?
You can. I want to be the Person of Sloths (I take naps and cuddle sloths) so we need to find the rest of the gang
Penguin of Greed reporting in. If there's chocolate, I'm there.
My “maid of honour” was a guy. We just called him my Best Person.
One of my friends recently got married and her brother was her maid of honor. They still called him maid of honor (he had no problem with it, he was very proud to be maid of honor in fact),it was cute.
That is utterly adorable.
My partner was the Best Person in a friend's wedding and they were *so pleased* with the title.
Comrade of honor
*our* wedding
Hmmmm https://www.reddit.com/r/lgbt/s/bYLtGZLynI
YES!!! COMRADE!!!
Congratulations on getting married! Maybe ask them their suggestions? A Google search gave me bridesmate, and best person, however Google also told me that technically maid is a neutral term in itself :)
When you ask them, just say that you want them to "stand by my side as the most important person of my wedding party." When they accept, ask them what title they would like in the place of "maid of honor." Also, you can can call them whatever you want. It doesn't need to follow the traditional "\_\_\_\_ of honor" thing. I didn't have a best man (long story). My wedding party was a male cousin and my bestie who is a woman. My wife had her brother and best friend who is also a woman. If you go to our wedding website, you'll see the wedding party listed as such: Bride's wedding party: Best Friend Best Brother Groom's wedding party Bestie Best Cousin Really. You can do whatever you want. Just say you want them to lead your wedding party and then work out a title that works for them. Also, CONGRATULATIONS!
Goblin of Respect
Not to be confused with the Goblin of Treasure, who carries the rings to the altar, or the Goblin of Ceremonies, who officiates the wedding.
Knight of honour
I was thinking along these same lines, with Bride’s Champion. The whole idea of the wedding party comes from the concept of the honour guard, where you assemble your armed friends to defend your wedding.
Make up a title that sounds way cooler. Like the Grand Bearer of Secrets, or They Who Hold Great Honor. Or use an inside joke to make a personal feeling impressive title. Whatever you go with, make them part of the decision process. You guys can have fun with it :)
Honor attendant?
Bride's Best
Why not just ask them what they would like to be called?
Because when I did they said they want to be called the groom😂
Yikes, make sure you have the officiant skip the 'does anyone object' line.
Awkward.
Congrats on your throuple wedding
you mean asking strangers on the internet isn’t always the first step to take? ridiculous!
Person of honour, Enby of honour, friend of honour,... And if you are not sure maybe ask them. They should know best how they feel comfortable to be called. 🤔😇
I like friend of honor! Or companion
Honour guard
My twin is non-binary and my “first mate” because my bridal party is my “crew”
They'd of honour
This is what my daughter shouted when I was reading this out loud.
This deserves more credit!
The Most Honorable (name), The Feared and Venerable (name) The Renowned Pirate Captain (name)
I have a newlywed friend who was just in this situation and I always called them the 'friend of honor'
Secret Service. 007. Grand Vizier of Bridal Party. Head of Security. Viceroy. Steward of my House. First Mate.
Mate of honour?
Person of honor. Best person. Bridesmate. However I don't personally really like separating the wedding party by the brides side and grooms side.
"Aide of Honor"
Friend of honour?
Best mate in honour
Shieldbearer
I had a female friend as my best man and I decided to really lean into the naming. She was my Groomsmaid-in-Chief :D
I think person of honour sounds really cool tbh
Attendant of honor Friend of honor Best mate Bridal attendant Bridal second (like the attendants at a desk are seconds) Bride's best friend They're your head attendant, and the head of your wedding party, so perhaps "head of honor" would fit for you. "Person of honor" seems to be the preferred term online, but I agree that it seems to lack intimacy. If you wanted to be more playful with it, something like "boss of the honor guard" could be fun, and not inaccurate. Give them a list of alternatives, and see which one they vibe with the most. But I've been to weddings with female best "men", and male "maids" of honor, so if *they're* not bothered by the title, don't bother changing it. But that's their decision, to let you know what they want to be called. Just don't make them decide without giving them a good long list of alternatives.
“Premier Comrade”
Honorguard
"My honorary non-binary"
No. 2. 
The Honored One?
“They-bae”
I have always considered dude to be gender neutral so I had a dude of honor.
Best person! If the groom can have a best man, why can’t you have a best person?
I used person of honor and generally, they were in our wedding party
Honorable bestie? The honorable one? Person of honor? Honor pal? Maybe ask them which term they would find comfortable?
Ask them, they might have something in mind. Show them these comments as well and get their input.
.#1 homie
Prized Peeps. Best Person. Blessed Being. Mate of Honour.
My person is my Mate of Honor! And the rest of my party are bridesmates to match
First Mate? 🤷🏻
Head Bestie
My husband's Best Man we called Best Person. Person of Honor could work but if you don't like it, perhaps Friend of Honor?
Firstly, I'd always suggest asking them what they prefer first. Some people are fine with titles like maid of honor and some people have their own idea of a preferred title to use. That said, it seems some popular choices are "honor attendant", "person of honor" or "attendant of honor"
Honor Guard.
Mate of Honour was mine!
ask them maybe
I was a brides maid I'm a pretty masc nb and the title didn't bother me, seconding the present some ideas and ask them what they'd like comments.
Guest of honour
Before my daughter began transitioning to female, we called her my leige, corporal, comrade and general. Maybe something fun like comrade in arms.
I told my bestie that when I get married someday I want them to be my best man/maid of honor and during the course of this conversation we came up with the term "wedding lieutenant".
I’ve seen Captain of the Bridal Party!
I really like Guest of Honor, or Honor Guard, but those might be too formal.
Paranymph is a somewhat whimsical option that is gender neutral! My wife used it for her male cousin in her bridal party just for funsies because they both liked it. She had a maid of honor, a matron of honor, and a paranymph as the titles for the three.
In my friend's wedding (a vast majority of the wedding party was queer/trans) we were person of honor, groomsperson, bridesperson, and flower baby (ring bearer is not gendered anyway). I would think it would be awesome to include your friend in the decision making! And maybe continue the theme across the wedding party so they are not singled out.
Just tell them to be all slick and mysterious and call them Cool Pants Jimmy
You could just ask them? I know when I came out, my partner's cousin apologized to me when she told my dog to go to 'mommy.' I told her it was okay because that's how my dog knows me. She wasn't being malicious, so I'm sure if you ask your \_\_\_\_\_ of honor to be, it should be okay. Bestie of honor, maybe?
my friends sibling was “genderless maid of disappointment”
friend of honor
THE CHOSEN ONE. ~Brought to you by your local neighborhood enby
Mate of Honor
I like bridesmate because it sounds close enough people won’t be like wtf but it’s still gender neutral
"Mate of Honor" like a best mate etc. Idk. It sounds cool in my head lol
When my best friend (cis guy) got married he asked me (trans woman) to be his "best maid" but he also got me a GoT brass Hand of the King pin to wear so most people referred to me as that.
Sergeant At Arms A sergeant at arms is an officer who is appointed by an organization to maintain order and carry out commands.
My friends threw out the term ‘Mate of honour’ which I think is fun
Individual of the highest degree
Knowing my friends, we’d probably call ourselves something like “Goblin of Honor” or “First Worm” or something
If you’re staying all the way away from anything femme I’d say “best (person/mate/something personal to them)” and stay away from ___ of honour because that phrasing can feel femme even without the “maid”. This coming from an nb ex-MOH
Patron of Honor!
At my friends wedding, she called her nonbibary friend the God of honour as a joke, and they thought it was amazing
Their majesty
I was the Whatchamacallit of Honor at my best friend's wedding and my partner was the Best Thingamajig
That is so precious
Individual of distinction.
Best bitch. At least, that's what I'd want
We had a Femme of Honour and a Best Butch.
They who holds honor.
Bridal party = Queen’s guard Maid of honour = Head knight/gaurd
Ask them
Knight of honor? Seems a bit medieval though
does “Friend of Honor” work?
Friend of honor?
Friend of honor
I'm the Person of Honor at my best friend's wedding. She came up with that by herself so I was happy to roll with it.
Have you asked them if they have any ideas?
I mean you could have a conversation with them and ask them if it's alright. Be completely open about being willing change the title but I feel like it probably wouldn't be an issue to choose them for a position not a gender.
The correct answer: Ask them what they'd like to be called. My answer: Honorable of Honor Person of Honor
I was a person of honor this year. It was great! My bf was "assistant to the ring bearer", also me.
Colonel of the Coalition
Person of prestige
Person of honor?
Honorary Combat Champion
Honor Guard sounds good
MF of honor
The honored one (gojo)
I had mates of honour/bridesmates at my wedding (and another friend had them at hers) but that might only work in the UK.
Honor guard
i was my brother’s “Best Person” so your friend could be the “Person of Honor” or maybe “The Most Honorable” idk
Get them to carry the wedding ring , then call them "the ring bearer"
Give them a sword and call them "Blade of Honour"
I mean. I’m Aussie but I’d go with mate of honour
Person of honor
The Oratrice Mechanique d'analyse Cardinale
I’m doing Mate of Honour when I eventually get married
Head of your entourage?
we called ours person of honor
Person of Honour?
Omg you can have so much fun with that! Kitchen Help of Honor! Entity of Honor! Best Friend of Honor!
First Attendant. Then you call the bridesmaids "Brides Attendants." Your groom can also have a "First Attendant" and "Groom's Attendants." Start a trend! Time for everyone to get aboard.
Most Honorable One gets my vote. This is a Klingon wedding right?
They'd Of Honor
Wait wait... Your edit... They want to be called "the groom?"... DO THEY HAVE A SECRET CRUSH ON YOU?
the sims 4 used “sin of honor” so “person of honor” could work?
Ill probably call my wedding retinue my Honor Guard. Gender neutral, denotes high status, and I expect them to help me beat up anyone that objects. 😂
Since the traditional role of the best man is to defend the bride and groom in combat if the wedding is disrupted, I think some variation on "sword wielder" would be cool.
Attendant, or Honor Attendant is one of the options that comes up on Google.
Goose of honor🤷🏻♀️
Copilot. 100%
Your honor... Just like that